Little flowers on the earth are mostly considered commonplace by
people,notwithstanding their overall perfection. What prevents people
from grasping the creation miracles in these flowersis the familiarity
broughtabout by seeing them everywhere and every day. Therefore,
flowers that grow in a totally different place, under totally
different conditions and in totally different sizes will be assessed
without the 'glasses of familiarity' and thus help us grasp the
existence of God.
Amazon water lilies that grow in the sticky mud covering the bottom of
the Amazon River are interesting enough to remove the 'glasses of
familiarity' from people, because they continue their lives not in the
waypeople are accustomed to and witness everyday,but with a very
differentstruggle.
These plants start to grow in the mud at the bottom of the Amazon
River, and then reach out towards the river surface. Their goal is to
reach the sunlight whichis vital to their existence.When they finally
reach the water's surface, they stop growing and develop thorny, round
buds. The buds develop into gigantic leaves witha reach of 2 meters in
as short a time as a couple of hours. 'Knowing' that the more they
cover the river surface with abundant leaves, the more will they be
able tomake use of sunlight, these water lilies make ample use of
daylight to perform photosynthesis. They 'know' that otherwise they
will not be able to survive at the bottom of the river due to the
scarcity of light. It is certainly quite inspiring for a plant to
employ such an 'intelligent' tactic.
However, sunlight alone does not suffice for the Amazon water lilies.
They also need oxygen equally, yet it is obvious that this oxygen does
not exist in the muddy ground in which their roots are located. This
is why water lilies stretch out stems developing from their roots
upwards towards the water surface where their leaves float. Sometimes
these stems grow as tall as 11 meters; they are tied to the leaves and
function as oxygen-carriers between the leaves and the root.
How can a bud in its initial stages in life in the depths of a river
know that it needs oxygen and sunlight to survive, that it would not
be able to live in their absence, and that everything it needs is
present on the water surface? A being recentlyintroduced to life is
aware neither of the factthat this water has an ending point, nor of
the existence of the sun or oxygen.
Therefore, if the whole event is assessed from the standpoint of
evolutionists, these plants should long before have been defeated by
environmental conditions and become extinct. Nevertheless, water
lilies are still present today in all theirperfection.
The unbelievable life struggle of water lilies continues well after
theyreach light and oxygen on the water surface, where they curl the
brims of their huge leaves upward to prevent them from sinking.
They can continue their lives with all these precautions, yet they
also know that these arenot enough for their reproduction. They needa
living being that will carry their pollen to another water lily, and
this living being is a beetle (coleopterans) which has been created
with a special weakness for white color. They prefer these white
waterlilies out of all the attractive flowers of the Amazon River.
When Amazon water lilies are visited by creatures which will continue
their species, they close all their leaves, imprison them, and offer
them ample pollen. They let them free after keeping them for one
night, and then change their color so that they do not bringthe same
pollen back to them. The once pure white, glorious water lilies will
now go on adorning the Amazon river in pink.
Could such flawless and finely calculated plans be the work of a bud
unaware of everything? Of course not. They are the work of the wisdom
of God, Who created all things. All the details summarized here show
that plants, like all other living beings in the universe, came into
existence already furnished with the most convenient systems, and this
was thanks to their Creator.
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Fathwa, - First night dua is evil?
Question:
I do not understand why (question ID 538) the dua to be recited on the
first night only speaks of the evil in women. Evil is in men too. Men
are not perfect. Both are Allah's creation. I thinkmany women would
object to such an insult. Being called evilon your wedding night. That
is not romantic or nice. The dua should at least be mutual celebrating
thegood in both men and women and the evil in both men and women.
Women are not evil. If they were God would not have created them for
men to enjoy life with, to carry offspring, made responsible for the
upbringing and care ofchildren.
What is the Islamic basis for such a dua? I would like to have exact
references to either hadith or Qur'an.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Praise be to Allah.
May Allah's peace and blessings shower upon our beloved Messenger.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you in good health and spirits.
This dua comes from the Sunna of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and
give him peace.
Before judging these words according to our modern sensibilities, it
is worthwhile to consider the context. Most of the ahadith, or
sayings, of the Prophet were uttered in the presence of men. Hence,
the invocation appears to address the male gender.However, the Arabic
language has a grammatical principle that an address to the male
gender implicitly includes the female gender, in other words, the
implication of the wording is general to both genders.
For practical purposes, any dua which refers to women in a specific
way can also be inverted to refer to men. Thus, it is perfectly
permissible andacceptable for a woman to make a similar dua about her
husband, "O Allah I ask you for the good in him and the good with
which you have created him, and I seek refuge in you from the evil in
him and the evil with which you havecreated him."
This hadith is not saying that only women are evil. Unlike early
Christianity for example, Islam never taught that women were the root
of all evil and the cause of man's fall from Paradise.
This hadith is certainly not meant as an insult. All human beings,
with the exception of the Prophets, peace be upon them, are
susceptible to the whisperings of the Devil and have the capacity for
evil. Both husband and wife woulddo well to follow this Sunna and pray
for the good in each other and seek Allah's refuge from each other's
evil.
Another thing to consider is the style of the language. Seeking refuge
from the woman's evil does not mean that she is evil. Instead, this
invocation refers to her possibility for evil. This possibility
resides in both men and women.
Allah Most High employs this style of language in the Qur'an when He
says,"Say: I seek refuge with the Lord of the Dawn, from the evil of
that which He created... [Al-Falaq, 113:1-2]
This is a prayer that Muslims are encouraged to recite everyday,
especially before going to sleep. We ask Allah to indeed protect us
from the evil of created things. This is hardly limited to one gender!
Another famous supplication from the Qur'an is the following:
"And those who, when they are reminded of therevelations of their
Lord, fall not deaf and blind thereat. And those who pray, "Our Lord!
Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be thecomfort of our eyes,
and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." [Al-Furqan, 25:73-74]
Supplicating Allah Most High for pious spouses and offspring, as well
as seeking His protection from the harm of impious spouses and
offspring has a basis in both the Qur'an and Sunna.
By all means, if it makes you more comfortable, go ahead and recite a
dua that is inclusive of both genders.
However, it is crucial to realize that the Prophet, peace be upon him,
uttered this hadith in language the people of his time understood and
could relate to. In our context, there is nothing wrong with making
this dua more inclusive, while remaining loyal to the spirit of the
Sunna ofthe Beloved, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace._______________________________________________It's actually a
very nice answer that goes on to tell husbands not to pushtheir new
wives to have sex, and instead get to know them and make them feel at
ease. There'snothing here to suggest that women are evil.
I pray this was helpful
And Allah knows best.
I do not understand why (question ID 538) the dua to be recited on the
first night only speaks of the evil in women. Evil is in men too. Men
are not perfect. Both are Allah's creation. I thinkmany women would
object to such an insult. Being called evilon your wedding night. That
is not romantic or nice. The dua should at least be mutual celebrating
thegood in both men and women and the evil in both men and women.
Women are not evil. If they were God would not have created them for
men to enjoy life with, to carry offspring, made responsible for the
upbringing and care ofchildren.
What is the Islamic basis for such a dua? I would like to have exact
references to either hadith or Qur'an.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Praise be to Allah.
May Allah's peace and blessings shower upon our beloved Messenger.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you in good health and spirits.
This dua comes from the Sunna of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and
give him peace.
Before judging these words according to our modern sensibilities, it
is worthwhile to consider the context. Most of the ahadith, or
sayings, of the Prophet were uttered in the presence of men. Hence,
the invocation appears to address the male gender.However, the Arabic
language has a grammatical principle that an address to the male
gender implicitly includes the female gender, in other words, the
implication of the wording is general to both genders.
For practical purposes, any dua which refers to women in a specific
way can also be inverted to refer to men. Thus, it is perfectly
permissible andacceptable for a woman to make a similar dua about her
husband, "O Allah I ask you for the good in him and the good with
which you have created him, and I seek refuge in you from the evil in
him and the evil with which you havecreated him."
This hadith is not saying that only women are evil. Unlike early
Christianity for example, Islam never taught that women were the root
of all evil and the cause of man's fall from Paradise.
This hadith is certainly not meant as an insult. All human beings,
with the exception of the Prophets, peace be upon them, are
susceptible to the whisperings of the Devil and have the capacity for
evil. Both husband and wife woulddo well to follow this Sunna and pray
for the good in each other and seek Allah's refuge from each other's
evil.
Another thing to consider is the style of the language. Seeking refuge
from the woman's evil does not mean that she is evil. Instead, this
invocation refers to her possibility for evil. This possibility
resides in both men and women.
Allah Most High employs this style of language in the Qur'an when He
says,"Say: I seek refuge with the Lord of the Dawn, from the evil of
that which He created... [Al-Falaq, 113:1-2]
This is a prayer that Muslims are encouraged to recite everyday,
especially before going to sleep. We ask Allah to indeed protect us
from the evil of created things. This is hardly limited to one gender!
Another famous supplication from the Qur'an is the following:
"And those who, when they are reminded of therevelations of their
Lord, fall not deaf and blind thereat. And those who pray, "Our Lord!
Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be thecomfort of our eyes,
and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." [Al-Furqan, 25:73-74]
Supplicating Allah Most High for pious spouses and offspring, as well
as seeking His protection from the harm of impious spouses and
offspring has a basis in both the Qur'an and Sunna.
By all means, if it makes you more comfortable, go ahead and recite a
dua that is inclusive of both genders.
However, it is crucial to realize that the Prophet, peace be upon him,
uttered this hadith in language the people of his time understood and
could relate to. In our context, there is nothing wrong with making
this dua more inclusive, while remaining loyal to the spirit of the
Sunna ofthe Beloved, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace._______________________________________________It's actually a
very nice answer that goes on to tell husbands not to pushtheir new
wives to have sex, and instead get to know them and make them feel at
ease. There'snothing here to suggest that women are evil.
I pray this was helpful
And Allah knows best.
Fathwa, - I am impatient and awaiting to perform umrah.
Question:
I am currently a 19-year old girl, and compared to many people still
very young.For 2 years now I have been waiting to go to Saudi Arabia
and wanting to perform umrah.
But I have not been able to. I was born a Muslim and a follow Islam
from my own heart. However, I am currently a practicing Muslim and
have been praying namaz everyday for 2 years now. I started wearingthe
hijaab 1 year ago.
I have not had a great upbringing and I have not always been perfect.
However, eachand everyday when I make duaa, I pray I go to do umrah. I
am nowfinancially stable, and Ihave not committed any sins and I
believe I am the best I can be at this moment of this life as a
Muslim.
A question that approaches my mind is I ask to be called to Makkah but
have not yet been. Many keep saying you will be called when it is your
time, but I have never wanted anything more. I was meant to come with
someone but he won't take me as he only wants to take his own wife and
child.
Every time I think about umrah I start crying. I had my hopes up and
thought I would go this Ramadan. I currently have no mehram and so no
plans.
I don't know what to do, because I keep getting upset and thinking if
I am being a good Muslim why is my duaa to come to Makkah not being
fulfilled. I do not know if I am being selfish and asking for this.
ButI do not know what to do or who to talk to. I find it hard to talk
to family members aboutthis, as I don't think anyone understands me.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah. May Allah's peace and blessings bestow upon our
beloved Prophet, his family, and companions.
Dear Sister,
I pray this finds you in good health and spirits.
I completely sympathize with your desire to visit the House of Allah.
My advice to you about dua is to remember the following:
Dua or supplication is a very powerful means of communicating your
needs and desires to Allah Most High. Don't despair that your
prayershaven't been answered. We cannot guarantee the outcome of our
prayers. Rather, we pray sincerely, take the necessary steps to
achieve our goals, and leave the rest to Allah.
If He has decreed that you will visit His House, then nothing can
prevent you from going. Likewise, if He has decreed that you will
notmake umrah, no earthly power can change this.
One of the most important aspects of iman is being contented with
Allah's qadr, or divine decree. If you are not able to make umrah,
then you will not be heldresponsible. It's important to have the
intention to do umrah because, as the Prophet (peace be upon him)
said, "Actions are according to intentions."
As a young woman, you have to consider the practical aspects of
traveling. The general consensus of the four Sunni schools of law is
that it is impermissible for a woman to undertake a long journey
without a husband or mahram. TheShafi'i and Maliki Schoolsdo allow a
special dispensation for a woman who performs anobligatory hajj (her
first hajj) with a group of upright people.
Umrah is not obligatory for Hanafis, but is an emphasized Sunna. If I
may suggest, it may be better to focus your energies on Hajj. A lot of
people put off Hajj, thinking they'll make it when they're older. The
only problem is they've accumulated so much debt by that time that
they still can't go!
Don't lose hope. You're still young. Focus your energies on
establishing your deen, learning about your religion, and bringing
your life into accord with what the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave
us. Allah willing, this will open up the doors of tawfiq, or true
success.
Allah Most High hears your prayers. He responds in many different ways.
I am currently a 19-year old girl, and compared to many people still
very young.For 2 years now I have been waiting to go to Saudi Arabia
and wanting to perform umrah.
But I have not been able to. I was born a Muslim and a follow Islam
from my own heart. However, I am currently a practicing Muslim and
have been praying namaz everyday for 2 years now. I started wearingthe
hijaab 1 year ago.
I have not had a great upbringing and I have not always been perfect.
However, eachand everyday when I make duaa, I pray I go to do umrah. I
am nowfinancially stable, and Ihave not committed any sins and I
believe I am the best I can be at this moment of this life as a
Muslim.
A question that approaches my mind is I ask to be called to Makkah but
have not yet been. Many keep saying you will be called when it is your
time, but I have never wanted anything more. I was meant to come with
someone but he won't take me as he only wants to take his own wife and
child.
Every time I think about umrah I start crying. I had my hopes up and
thought I would go this Ramadan. I currently have no mehram and so no
plans.
I don't know what to do, because I keep getting upset and thinking if
I am being a good Muslim why is my duaa to come to Makkah not being
fulfilled. I do not know if I am being selfish and asking for this.
ButI do not know what to do or who to talk to. I find it hard to talk
to family members aboutthis, as I don't think anyone understands me.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah. May Allah's peace and blessings bestow upon our
beloved Prophet, his family, and companions.
Dear Sister,
I pray this finds you in good health and spirits.
I completely sympathize with your desire to visit the House of Allah.
My advice to you about dua is to remember the following:
Dua or supplication is a very powerful means of communicating your
needs and desires to Allah Most High. Don't despair that your
prayershaven't been answered. We cannot guarantee the outcome of our
prayers. Rather, we pray sincerely, take the necessary steps to
achieve our goals, and leave the rest to Allah.
If He has decreed that you will visit His House, then nothing can
prevent you from going. Likewise, if He has decreed that you will
notmake umrah, no earthly power can change this.
One of the most important aspects of iman is being contented with
Allah's qadr, or divine decree. If you are not able to make umrah,
then you will not be heldresponsible. It's important to have the
intention to do umrah because, as the Prophet (peace be upon him)
said, "Actions are according to intentions."
As a young woman, you have to consider the practical aspects of
traveling. The general consensus of the four Sunni schools of law is
that it is impermissible for a woman to undertake a long journey
without a husband or mahram. TheShafi'i and Maliki Schoolsdo allow a
special dispensation for a woman who performs anobligatory hajj (her
first hajj) with a group of upright people.
Umrah is not obligatory for Hanafis, but is an emphasized Sunna. If I
may suggest, it may be better to focus your energies on Hajj. A lot of
people put off Hajj, thinking they'll make it when they're older. The
only problem is they've accumulated so much debt by that time that
they still can't go!
Don't lose hope. You're still young. Focus your energies on
establishing your deen, learning about your religion, and bringing
your life into accord with what the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave
us. Allah willing, this will open up the doors of tawfiq, or true
success.
Allah Most High hears your prayers. He responds in many different ways.
Fathwa, - Married but liking another man
Question:
i am in need of serioushelp!!! i have been married for about 10 months
now. our marriage is good, and he is a good man, and ilove him with
all my heart. i do care for himmuch. though this maybe, i am really
liking another man! i do not know what is going on, at first i didn't,
but then after some thingsi started liking him. we have talked about
it because we both know what is going on. he knows i am married, (also
non-muslim) but he said he likes me and can't help his feelings. he
says he don't expectanything from me, andwouldn't step into anything
unless i will as well. he says- if all stays as is and nothinggoes
further and we choose to go seperate ways he will still think of me
because we still see each other from time to time considering our
work. astagfurlillah- i want to rid of my feelings for him, and rid of
all of this. but then it is like i do not want to rid of them. it is
like- i do not want to hurt myself and my islam and my husband and his
islam our marriagebut i want to indulge in this. not sex, me or him is
meaning- but talking to each other more. i know that what leads to sin
is sin, so if i would indulge merely in talking- this is helping the
situation not against it- and can lead to dangerous grounds. i do not
wantto be in dangerous grounds!!!!!! YA ALLAH-I do not want tobe in
dangerous grounds!!! but i am liking him soo much. i already know
anywho-that me and him would not work out cause he not even muslim.
but it seems for me in my liking him i am looking this over.
maybe he has more things than my husband that is havingme to be
attracted to him as this. sincere dua is needed but i feel distant
from Allah!Things r starting to cloud my head a little bit, although,
i do know what is right, and it is Allah who is keeping me strong.
what can i do?
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah.
May the peace and blessings of Allah showerupon our beloved Messenger,
his family, companions, and those who follow them.
Dear Sister,
I will not mince any words.
Stop talking to this man IMMEDIATELY if you care about Allah, your
Akhira, and your husband.
This is nothing but Satan trying to lead you astray.He vowed that he
would come at us from every direction. Didn't Allah Most High warn us
in the Qur'an of Satan's promise that, "'I will mislead them, and I
will create in them false desires; I will order them to slit the ears
of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by Allah.' Whoever,
forsaking Allah, takes satan for a friend, hath of a surety suffered a
loss that is manifest. Satan makes them promises, and creates in them
false desires; but satan's promises are nothing butdeception. They
(his dupes) will have their dwelling in Hell, and from it they will
find no way of escape." [Al-Nisa, 4:119-121]
Allah Most High also warns us time and time again, "Verily Satan is an
enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy. He onlyinvites his adherents,
that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire." [Fatir, 35:6]
Dear sister, please leave this man alone! Make it emphatically clear
that you will not talk to him any longer. You made a serious error
talking to him in the first place. Repent to Allah from this,seek
refuge in Allah fromSatan the accursed, and immerse yourself in
constant istighfar (seeking forgiveness) and dhikrullah (remembrance
of Allah.)
There is a reason why Islam places severe limitations on interactions
with the opposite sex. This is particularly important for married
people. Oncewe enter into this relationship before Allah Most High, we
are giving our word of honor that we will not violate the trust Allah
has given us inthe person of our spouse. Consider the impact this will
have on your marriage. Will your husband ever trust you again? Will he
ever love you again? Are you reallywilling to risk your marriage for a
foolish fantasy? These thoughts alone should deter you from pursuing
this illicit relationship any further.
You need to take all possible means to stay away from this man,
including stopping all contact, and even getting a transfer if needbe.
You also need to rekindleyour relationship with your husband. This
person has come between you two, just asSatan promises to come between
husband and wife. You need to consider why you fell in love with your
husband in the first place. Why did you choose him to beyour life
partner in your journey to Allah? Take every opportunity to connect
with your husband. All your energies should be devoted toward
nurturing your marriage.It's only 10 months old! Please give it a
chance.
I believe that with much earnest supplication and prayer, your heart
will incline toward your husband and all desire for this illicit
relationshipwill be removed, Allah willing.
I strongly urge you to seek the counsel of a qualified scholar who can
further advise you.
May Allah Most High bring you and your husband together for Hissake,
bless and protect you both, and keep you on the Straight Path.
i am in need of serioushelp!!! i have been married for about 10 months
now. our marriage is good, and he is a good man, and ilove him with
all my heart. i do care for himmuch. though this maybe, i am really
liking another man! i do not know what is going on, at first i didn't,
but then after some thingsi started liking him. we have talked about
it because we both know what is going on. he knows i am married, (also
non-muslim) but he said he likes me and can't help his feelings. he
says he don't expectanything from me, andwouldn't step into anything
unless i will as well. he says- if all stays as is and nothinggoes
further and we choose to go seperate ways he will still think of me
because we still see each other from time to time considering our
work. astagfurlillah- i want to rid of my feelings for him, and rid of
all of this. but then it is like i do not want to rid of them. it is
like- i do not want to hurt myself and my islam and my husband and his
islam our marriagebut i want to indulge in this. not sex, me or him is
meaning- but talking to each other more. i know that what leads to sin
is sin, so if i would indulge merely in talking- this is helping the
situation not against it- and can lead to dangerous grounds. i do not
wantto be in dangerous grounds!!!!!! YA ALLAH-I do not want tobe in
dangerous grounds!!! but i am liking him soo much. i already know
anywho-that me and him would not work out cause he not even muslim.
but it seems for me in my liking him i am looking this over.
maybe he has more things than my husband that is havingme to be
attracted to him as this. sincere dua is needed but i feel distant
from Allah!Things r starting to cloud my head a little bit, although,
i do know what is right, and it is Allah who is keeping me strong.
what can i do?
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Praise be to Allah.
May the peace and blessings of Allah showerupon our beloved Messenger,
his family, companions, and those who follow them.
Dear Sister,
I will not mince any words.
Stop talking to this man IMMEDIATELY if you care about Allah, your
Akhira, and your husband.
This is nothing but Satan trying to lead you astray.He vowed that he
would come at us from every direction. Didn't Allah Most High warn us
in the Qur'an of Satan's promise that, "'I will mislead them, and I
will create in them false desires; I will order them to slit the ears
of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by Allah.' Whoever,
forsaking Allah, takes satan for a friend, hath of a surety suffered a
loss that is manifest. Satan makes them promises, and creates in them
false desires; but satan's promises are nothing butdeception. They
(his dupes) will have their dwelling in Hell, and from it they will
find no way of escape." [Al-Nisa, 4:119-121]
Allah Most High also warns us time and time again, "Verily Satan is an
enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy. He onlyinvites his adherents,
that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire." [Fatir, 35:6]
Dear sister, please leave this man alone! Make it emphatically clear
that you will not talk to him any longer. You made a serious error
talking to him in the first place. Repent to Allah from this,seek
refuge in Allah fromSatan the accursed, and immerse yourself in
constant istighfar (seeking forgiveness) and dhikrullah (remembrance
of Allah.)
There is a reason why Islam places severe limitations on interactions
with the opposite sex. This is particularly important for married
people. Oncewe enter into this relationship before Allah Most High, we
are giving our word of honor that we will not violate the trust Allah
has given us inthe person of our spouse. Consider the impact this will
have on your marriage. Will your husband ever trust you again? Will he
ever love you again? Are you reallywilling to risk your marriage for a
foolish fantasy? These thoughts alone should deter you from pursuing
this illicit relationship any further.
You need to take all possible means to stay away from this man,
including stopping all contact, and even getting a transfer if needbe.
You also need to rekindleyour relationship with your husband. This
person has come between you two, just asSatan promises to come between
husband and wife. You need to consider why you fell in love with your
husband in the first place. Why did you choose him to beyour life
partner in your journey to Allah? Take every opportunity to connect
with your husband. All your energies should be devoted toward
nurturing your marriage.It's only 10 months old! Please give it a
chance.
I believe that with much earnest supplication and prayer, your heart
will incline toward your husband and all desire for this illicit
relationshipwill be removed, Allah willing.
I strongly urge you to seek the counsel of a qualified scholar who can
further advise you.
May Allah Most High bring you and your husband together for Hissake,
bless and protect you both, and keep you on the Straight Path.
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