Fathwa, - * Speaking Good is Better than Keeping Silent

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Aslamualykum warahmatulahi wabarakatuhu. This may be an unsuall question but its been bothering me for a while. I am a girl who doesnt really like to talk all day, I only talk if I have something to say and people say I am queit. I recently got married, and I am worried about meeting my husbands family because I have to speak to them but I am really shy. Is that normal? Isnt it compulsery to entertain guests and speak to them?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is good for a Muslim to keep quiet except if he/she was to speak good as this is one of the signs of faith. Abu Hurayrahnarrated that the Prophetsaid: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, he should say what is good or keep quiet.” ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
As regards comparing saying what is good and keeping silent, As-Saffaareenisaid in his book “Ghithaa’ Al-Albaab”: “What is predominant is that speaking is better as it is for acquisition )of what is good(, and keeping quiet is for abstaining )from what is evil(, because a speaker achieves more than what a silent person achieves, this is because the best that happens for a person who keeps silent is being safe, and this is achieved by the one who says good in addition to getting the reward of saying good.”
Also, it was reported from Ibn Rajab )Al-Hanbali(that some people discussed in the presence of Al-Ahnaf Ibn Qays which is better: speaking or keeping quiet? Al-Ahnaf said: “Speaking is better because the excellence of keeping quiet benefits only the person who keeps quiet while good speech benefits those who listen to it.”
Moreover, it was reported that a man said to ‘Umar Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez: “A person who keeps quiet while having knowledge is like a person who speaks while having knowledge.” Thereupon, ‘Umar Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez said: “I hope that on the Day of Judgment the one who speaks with knowledge will be better than the other one ]who keeps quiet[ because the first benefits the people while the latter benefits himself only.”
Hence, speaking good is required and praised, and among speaking good is one’s speaking to keep sociable with his guests and to have good relations with his in-laws and the like. Therefore, a Muslim should not restrict himself to what is less than what makes him sociable with people and removes the lack of communication between him and them even in an artificial manner.
As regards your question whether or not this matter )your shyness( is normal, then the answer is that it can be normal and it might not be normal. In case you fear that this matter may not be normal, then you may consult some trustworthy psychologists.
Allah Knows best.










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Fathwa, - * Asking Allah to Hasten One’s Punishment in thisLife

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Asalam Alaikum. I wouuld like to know whether it is halal or haram to ask Allah )swt( to be punished in this life )on earth( rather than the hereafter )judgement day(. In addition, by punishment i mean whether you can ask Allah to make you suffer through a certain diease or etc. Thi question has been lingering in my mind for a couple of years and i would like to know your opinion.
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All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
The Prophetforbade us to supplicate with what you mentioned in the question. Anasnarrated that the Prophetvisited a person from amongst the Muslims who had grown feeble like a chicken )because of his illness(. The Prophetasked him: “Did you supplicate for anything or beg Allaah about that?” He said: “Yes. I used to utter )these words(: “O Allaah inflict upon me the punishment in this world that you would punish me with in the Hereafter.” Thereupon the Prophetsaid: “Glory be to Allah, you have neither the power nor forbearance to take upon yourself )the burden of His Punishment(. Why did you not say instead: “O Allah, ‘Our Lord, give us in this world ]that which is[ good and in the Hereafter ]that which is[ good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.’” He said: “Then the Prophetsupplicated for him and Allah cured him.” ]Muslim, Ahmad and At-Tirmithi[
An-Nawawisaid in his commentary on this Hadeeth reported by Muslim: “This Hadeeth is evidence that it is prohibited to ask that one's punishment be hastened…”
Besides, a person's supplicating to Allah to inflict him/her with a disease is contrary to the order of the Prophetof seeking refuge in Allah from the difficulties of hardships as he said: “Take refuge with Allah from the difficulties of hardships, from the acquisition of wretchedness, and ill-fate, and the taunts of enemies.”
Therefore, dear sister, you should avoid supplicating for hastening the punishment )for your sins(, and instead supplicate Allah for good health as His Mercy encompasses your sins and the sins of all the creation.
Allah Knows best.

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