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Monday, July 9, 2012

doctors and nurses wearing a white coat over their clothes

Iam a medical student.Alhamdulillah i wear niqab iwear a knee long
loose overall (white coat)which is a part of our college uniformand
wear a full length abayawhen going to market or some other place
besides college .Is it necessary to wear abayaa in the presenceof knee
long coat? .
Praise be to Allaah.
We have previously explained the main conditions with regard to
women's clothing. Please see the answer to question no. 6991 .
There is nothing wrong withwhat you mentioned of wearing a long, loose
white coat over your own clothes.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: What is required
of female doctors and others such as nurses and workers is to
fearAllaah and wear modest clothing which will not show the shape of
their limbs or 'awrahs, rather it should be moderate clothingthat is
neither too loose nor too tight, and that will cover them properly in
the mannerrequired by sharee'ah and will prevent the causes of fitnah.
End quote from Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (9/427).
And Allaah knows best.
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How will my broken heart heal again?

Q
Salaam brothers and sisters,
I recently went through a divorce and going throughpain.
I know there are many people whom have broken hearts whether through a
separation, divorce or lost someone inlife.
I was wondering if people can give tips how to overcome the pain,
hurt, sleepless nights, worry and unhappiness.
We are all Muslims and weshould try to help each other.
May Allah bless everyone whom reply
Jazak Allah
Help Me.
- help_me
~
A
As Salamualaikum,
Sister, you're right. Everyone has some or the other pain. Allah tests
us all. We need to have patience and keep our trust in Him. I advise
you the same.
I'll insha Allah mention some duas which will insha Allah help you
alleviate the grief you are going through.
1. In al-Saheehayn it was
reported from Ibn 'Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when he felt distressed:
"La ilaaha ill-Allaah al-'Azeem ul-Haleem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb
il-'arsh il-'azeem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb is-samawaati wa Rabb
il-ard wa Rabb il-'arsh il-kareem
(there is no god except Allaah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there
is no god except Allaah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne;there is no god
except Allaah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the
noble Throne)."
2. And it was reported from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that
theProphet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say,
when something upset him:
"Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom, bi
Rahmatika astagheeth
(O Ever-Living One, O Everlasting One, by Your mercy I seek help)."
3. It was reported from 'Abd-Allaah ibn Mas'ood that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says:
'Allaahumma innee 'abduka
wabnu (you say wabnatu instead of wabnu) 'abdika wabnu (you say
wabnatu) amatika, naasiyati bi yadika,
maadin fiyya hukmuka, 'adlun fiyya qadaa'uka, as'aluka bi kulli ismin
huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw
'allamtahu ahadan min
khalqika aw ista'tharta bihi fi
'ilm il-ghaybi 'andak an taj'ala al-Qur'aana rabee' qalbi wa noor
sadri wa jalaa'a huzni wa dhahaabahammi
(O Allaah, I am Your slave, son (you say daughter) of Your slave, son
(you say daughter) daughter of Your female slave, my forelock is in
Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Yourdecree
over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You
named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of
Your creation, or You havepreserved in the knowledge of the unseen
with You, that You make the Qur'aan the life of my heart and the light
of my breast, and a departure formy sorrow and a release for my
anxiety)'
- but Allaah will take awayhis sorrow and grief, and give him in their
stead joy."
I pray that Allah eases the situation for you and givesyou strength to
deal them.
Aameen
Wassalamualaikum
EDITOR

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Unfolding a rose

A young, new ustadh (teacher) was walking with an older, more seasoned
ustadh (teacher) in the garden one day. Feeling a bit insecure about
what Allah had for him to do, he was asking the older ustadh for some
advice. The older ustadh walked up to a rosebush and handed the young
ustadh a rosebud and told him to open it without tearing off any
petals. The young ustadh looked in disbelief at the older ustadh and
was trying to figure out what a rosebud could possibly have to do with
his wanting to know the will of Allah for his life and ministry.
But because of his great respect for the older ustadh, he proceeded to
try to unfold the rose, while keeping every petal intact... It wasn't
long before he realized how impossible this was to do. Noticing the
younger ustadh's inability to unfoldthe rosebud without tearing it,
the older ustadhbegan to recite the following poem...
It is only a tiny rosebud,
A flower of Allah's design;
But I cannot unfold the petals
With these clumsy hands of mine.
The secret of unfolding flowers
Is not known to such as I.
ALLAH opens this flower sosweetly,
Then in my hands they die.
If I cannot unfold a rosebud,
This flower of Allah's design,
Then how can I have the wisdom
To unfold this life of mine?
So I'll trust in Allah for leading
Each moment of my day.
I will look to Allah for His guidance
Each step of the way.
The pathway that lies before me,
Only Allah knows.
I'll trust Him to unfold the moments,
Just as He unfolds the rose.

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Sometimes they'll love you. Sometimes they'll hate

The people will come and go.
Sometimes they'll love you.
Sometimes they'll hate you. This tide
was never meant to be still. Step away
from time to time. And know that
only a heart fixed on the unmoving
spot can ride the waves of this ever-
changing, ever-fading life. That spot is your concern for your faith.
* written by fathima sara/

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Am I committing sin by chatting with a Christian guy who wants to become Muslim and marry me?

Salam alaykum, dear brothers and sisters!
I have to hear your opinion about my case. I am 20 years old and very
devoted Muslima, alhamdulillah. I pray 5 times a day and fast Ramadan,
wear hijab, don't and never had a boyfriend and practice Islam in
every segment in my life. I even avoid to talk to boys. Because I know
it is haram and to save my chastity.
Anyway, 2 months ago, onthe internet, I met a guy who is not Muslim.
Probably, I wouldn't be talking to him if he didn't tell me that he
respects Islam even more than his religion (Christianity). Therefore;
following the obligation of us Muslims, I have tried to present him
Islam the best I can. Meanwhile, he started asking me questions about
myself, my hobbies, my views to life, to other religions, love,
marriage. I answered him to these questions according to beliefs of my
faith. we chatted every day; and he told me that he started to like
me very much and even considering to convert to Islam because of me.
He told me that he never met a girl like me and thatit is amazing how
Islam is similar to Christianity. The interesting fact about him that
somehow he lives likea Muslim, he doesn't eat pork, doesn't drink
Alcohol, didn't have sex before marriage. He says every day that, I
miss him. I chat with him for 2 months.
My question are;
1. Should I continue to chat with him in order to convert him to Islam
(I don't intend anything bad like dating, relationship)?
2. He fell in love with me, Idon't know what to answer him?
3. Did I commit sin because I have been chatting with him all this time?
4. He wants to meet me inpersonal, is it haram for me to meet him
regardingthe fact that still he did not convert to Islam?
Please answer, what should I do in this situation because sometimes I
feel that I have started to like him too. May Allah reward you all!
Jaci.
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The Quran amazes a sailor

"(The unbelievers' state) is like a vast deep ocean, overwhelmed with
waves,one over the other, and above it is a cloud of darkness upon
darkness, one above another; if a man stretches out his hand, he can
hardly see it; For anyone to whom Allahgives no light, there is no
light." Al Quran, Surah An-Noor ( 24:40)
Gary Miller in his book,"The Amazing Quran" stated the following
story:A Muslim gave a copy of the Holy Quran to a man who was a
merchant marine. This man knew nothing about the history of Islam.
When he finishedreading the Holy Quran, heasked his Muslim
friend:"This man Muhammad RasulAllah (SAW), was he asailor? When he
was told that Muhammad RasulAllah (SAW) lived in adesert and probably
did not even see an ocean during his whole life, he embraced Islam on
the spot. He acknowledged that this description of theHoly Quran could
only be described by one who hadactually seen sea storms many times,
whereas Muhammad RasulAllah (SAW) never witnessed this phenomenon.

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Upon Her Return

There was a young man inDamascus who planned toleave his country to
study. His mother was very caring and supportive of him. She raised
him alone through toil and hardship. And, at last, she felt that after
all the hard work--she was proud of her son as any mother would.
"Ah! The joys of motherhood!" she said to herself. The pleasure of
staring at this little man, who once held onto her dress begging to be
carried and to be tightly clenched by her arms. She recalled the days
when he was small and helpless, and yet there he was--embarking on a
journey to be the man he was raised to be.
The young man's flight was scheduled to leave early in the morning,
thus his mother prepared food and all that was needed for this long
trip. Her acts of kindness and loyalty displayed his mother endearing
love for him. Hisexcitement as a young man, and her hopefulness as a
proud mother, is something we can all relate to.
That morning, she heard over the news that there was a storm headed
their way. Out of fear that her son might die on this journey, she
decided not to wake him. Instead she left early for the market hoping
to surprise him with his favorite food laterthat morning.
Upon her return, she calledout his name in anticipation and
excitement--for she had a few more days with him before he would
continue on with this journey. But to no avail, there was no response
from him. Allah had taken his soul away and he died in his sleep that
morning. Story obtained from Al Qaseem Newspaper.
Allah Ta'ala says: Say (to them): 'Verily, the death from which you
flee will surely meet you, then you will be sent back to (Allah),the
All-Knower of the unseen and the seen, and He will tell you what you
used to do.' Al Quran [62:8]

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Being a true believer

Salih ibne Mismar (ra) narrates: Rasulullah (SAW) asked Harith ibne
Malik (RA): How are you, O Haright ibne Malik? He replied: By the
grace of Allah, I am a Mu'min (in a state of Imam). Rasulullah (SAW)
asked: A true Mu'min? He replied: A true Mu'min. Raslulullah (SAW)
said: For every truth, thereis a reality. So what is the reality of
the truth of that (which you claim)? He replied, I have turned myself
away from the world, and passed my nights awake (in worship) and
passed my days in thirst (fasting). It is as if I am seeing the Arsh
(Throne) of my Rabb (Sustainer) when it shall be brought, and it is as
though I am seeing the people of Paradise visitingone another therein,
and itis as if I am hearing the howling of the people of the Fire! At
that Rasulullah(SAW) said: (Harith is such)A Mu'min whose heart has
been enlightened. Source: Musannaf Abdur Razzaq.
May Allah give us the ability to bring such faith into ourselves also.

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Should my brother marry the girl he made pregnant?

I need an advice, my brother impregnated a non-Muslim girl. At first
we were open to the idea of marriage between them, but the problem is,
we cannot take the girl's attitude. She causes a lot of drama in my
brother's life and even to us.
She makes scandalous posts on networking sites, she lacks decency in
the situation. And usually she causes trouble to people who are linked
to my brother's life like his own friends and co-workers and when you
confront her she has no remorse to what she did.
There have also been times when she utters unbearable word about my
family and my religion.She is known to have a bad reputation; she's
the cause of most fights.
So we decided to cancel the wedding, since it will only cause more
problemsand we are pretty sure they will not live a harmonious life
together.
Now here's where the problem arises: since the child is considered
illegitimate, and accordingto the law the mother has the only right to
the custody of a child, we are afraid that the baby will turn out a
non Muslim believer, since obviously, she's the one whose goingto rear
the child. We reallywanted the baby to be a Muslim.
Now her family will not allow us to have share custody of the baby
unlessmy brother will marry her,what should we do?
Do we need to let them marry for the baby's sake even though we know
first hand that she will create more trouble and problems?
Please help me.
~Misha

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The smart thing to do

Here is another story about Sultan Mahmud of Afghanistan and his
servant, Ayyaz. Sultan Mahmud wouldrespect Ayyaz for his wisdomeven
though he was a servant. This made the ministers and other people of
high positions very jealousof Ayyaz. They talked wrong against him and
started a rumour that Ayyaz was nothing but a fool. The king came to
know of this and he decided to prove to them who were the real fools.
An announcement was made to all the people that the King will
distribute his belongingson a particular date. Whatever a person touch
will become his on that day. When the day came, many people appeared
by the king's palace. The king made his announcement again thata
person can have whatever he touches. The door was opened and everyone
ran to touch whatever was of valuein the palace. Some touched jewelery
of gold while others touched fancy furnitures, etc. But Ayyaz wasjust
standing by the king and was not touching anything. People thought
that Ayyaz was crazy as he wasn't takingadvantage of this great event.
Now, Ayyaz asked the king if the announcement hemade was certain. The
king said "Yes, whatever you touch is yours." Immediately, Ayyaz
placed his right hand on the king's head and the left hand on his
shoulder. He then shouted, "Listen everyone. I was waiting for this
moment to aquire the most expensive thing. All of you took whatever
the king possessed, but you forgot about the owner of all these, which
is the king himself. I hereby declare that my hands are on the king,
so the king is mine. You cannot remove one thing from this palace
because I am the owner of all these now." After hearing this from
Ayyaz, everyone realized that actually, Ayyaz is the only smart one
and everyoneelse was in error.
Today people are only running after the creations but, very few are
running towards the Creator Himself. If Allah, the King of all kings,
becomes our Friend then what else do we need?
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A farmer and stones

A farmer in Bangladesh was preparing his land for planting crops. As
he dug through the soil the equipments kept getting stuck in one
place. Out of curiosity he decided to check out what was in there. He
dug the ground and discovered a big box. The farmer quickly openedthe
box to see what was in it but to his disappointment, there were only
black stones inside the box. He decided to throw those stones at the
birds when they come to eat the crops at the time for harvesting.
Eventually, a day came when the crops were ready and the birds come to
eat them. So, he startedthrowing the stones at thebirds from where
ever they showed up. One day a man was walking by thefield who sells
precious stones such as pearls, diamonds, rubies etc. Two stones
happened to fall right in front of him when the farmer threw them at
the birds. The man brought the stones to the farmer and asked if he
was willing to sell them tohim for $5,000 each. The farmer thought
that the man was joking so he replied, "No." Then the man offered
$50,000 for each stone and explained that they were precious jewels.
Now the farmer started crying saying that he had only 1 or 2 stones
left and the rest were thrown away.
This story is mentioned in the book "20 Reminders" by Muhammad Abu Yusuf.
In fact, every second of our time is very valuable. Today, we are just
throwing them away here and there. But on the Day of Judgement, we
will realize how valuable they were but it will be too late. Now is
the chance to use our time properly.

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Shall I stay with my husband or listen to my family and leave him?
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Salaam,
I am very confused on what I shall do. I got married 10 months ago
tomy boyfriend, both our families were against it as I fell pregnant
before I gotmarried. After I terminatedmy pregnancy, I forced myfamily
to get me married to my husband, he left his family to marry me and my
family broke all ties with me.
My mother and one of my sisters kept in touch with me a few months
after to see if I was okay. Mine andmy husbands relationship had been
going well, apartfrom his anger issue. We started to have heated
arguments a few months after we got married but I did not tell anyone.
My husband has to go abroad every 6 months regarding his visa. This
time he is going in July and does not want to leave me home alone and
says he was worried about me.
So, he texted my sister to ask her if my mum could keep me for 6 days
till he is away and as my family still dont trust him and think he
only married me for my visa said no. He then had a heated argument
with my sister and brother, after the argument he came home and said
he is throwing me out of the house because my family doesn'tcare about
me and nor does he. After he walked out, I was really upset andtook
lots antibiotics tablets. My husband rushed me to the hospital to make
sure I was okay.
He said he was sorry for the way he spoke to me and treated me and
said he was worried and that was the cause for his behaving like that.
He alsosaid to me I am not allowed to meet my family or even speak to
them anymore. (My husbands family have started to meet him and he
works with them in their business, and is also at home with them
duringthe day.)
My family contacted me the next day and and my mum was asking me to
leave my husband and shewill support me always. She said to me that he
is only with me for the visa and as soon as he gets thepassport he
will leave me. My sister contacted me and told me to do the same
thing.
Now, I am very confused on what to do? My husband has refused to letme
go to university, I'm not allowed to meet my friends. He goes out with
his family to parties but I'm not allowed to go as his family haven't
announced our wedding, they are waiting for his sister to get married
as she is older than him.
I know my family don't want me to be with him because they don't like
him and don't trust him, but I know he loves me, he cares for me so
much. IfI leave him, I gain my family back but if I choose him then I
lose my family again. He said to me we will make it work, but I'm not
sure. I don't know what I want? or don't know what to do?
Please help me, what is right islamically.
Raihaanaa. Thanks

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I’m planning second marriage to a woman in need. How do I address thesecular government issues?

Q:-> Dear Sheikh and scholars of Islam, I hope you can help me with my
situationas I have reached a dead end and would like to seek the
advice of people of knowledge. May Allah reward you.
I am currently married andwould like to marry a second wife Insha
Allah. I am an American who lives and works in Singapore and my future
second wifeis from Indonesia.
The problem is the following: I am planning to make the marriage
official in Indonesia, but the Indonesian government requires a
document from my embassy called 'No objection to marriage'. This
document cannot be issued by my country because polygamy is illegal in
the US. So this means that I cannot make a civil marriage and my
marriage will not be recognized by any government offices (neither in
Indonesia nor in the US).
I have then thought aboutmaking a traditional marriage with the future
wife, her father (wali), andtwo witnesses under the auspices of an
Imam followed by a Walimah to publicize the marriage. The problem with
this is that if we have children, they will have several difficulties
because they will not be issued documents, will not have an official
father (on paper) and other problems.
I feel sad for this situation as this woman I am planning to marry is
reallyin need. She is a widow with 2 orphaned daughters who are 10
and2 years old. I feel our secular governments are making haram what
Allah has made Halal and are making the lives of Muslims very
difficult. Can you please advise on whatto do? I have prayed Istikhara
several times andmy feeling is positive towards marriage but I still
have these issues which have to do with thefuture of our offspring.
Please take note that I am seeking a second wife because my wife
cannot have children. Please advise your brother.
Jazakum Allah Khair
Wassalamu Aleikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh
-sloumabs
A:-> I just want to start by saying, we are neither shaykhs nor
scholars. We are just laypeople trying to advise others as best as
possible insha'Allah, basedon our own personal experiences and limited
knowledge of Islam.
Unfortunately, I don't havethe extensive knowledge about the governing
countries you've mentioned to give any meaningful feedback about the
situation you are considering. From my heart, what I can tell you is
this: if you really believethat Allah is guiding you inthis direction,
then follow His guidance and trust Himto work out the details. In my
experience, when we follow Allah, even when situations seem
hopelesslycomplicated from our cognitive understanding, He has a way
of making everything work together for those involved. If it were me,
I would go forward with an Islamic Nikkah and take the next steps and
days one at a time, and work on each issue that may arise as it comes.
I can say, if your current wife (who I am presumingis also an American
citizen)already knows and consents to your intentions, maybe she would
be willing to give you a civil divorce (remaining married to
youIslamically) to help make the path clearer for you with the second
marriage. Then, possibly you can help your second wife attain US
citizenship, which would help the concerns you noted about possible
future children. However, if you haven't told your current wife about
what's going on or if she is not in cooperationwith you about this,
I'd say you have a bigger problem on your hands altogether.

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A Muslim man is the father of my new born baby, who nowignores us

I am a Native American/Mexican woman,I've lived in North Americamy
whole life. I met a Muslim man from Afghanistan and we started seeing
each other and fell in love. I will call him "Fred". I have never met
Fred's family and he has never met mine.
Four Months into our relationship I became pregnant. I was happy,
butnervous and scared because we hadn't been together very long and I
wasn't sure how Fred would react. At first Fred seemed happy and then
one day he came to me and told me that he didn't want the baby and
said that I would have to choose between him or the baby. It hurt to
hear Fred say this or to even think of getting rid of the baby.
I'm not religious but I consider myself to be a spiritual person and
do not believe in abortion. I decided that abortion wasn't an option
and continued on with my pregnancy. We continued to see each other and
the discussion of my pregnancy rarely came up and when it did most of
the time Fred would be defencive and not want totalk about it.
While we were together Fred told me that he would be kicked out of
hishome if he told his family. As far as I know Fred still never told
them about thebaby and I feel that I have lied to them even though we
don't know each other.There were times when Fred would express
happiness and interest in my pregnancy and it would make me so happy.I
thought that his negativity was just fear and that he would embrace
our child after he was born.
I now have a beautiful baby boy who is almost a year old and he's the
joy of my life. Unfortunately Fred stopped seeing me shortly before I
gave birth and has never met our son. I have tried to contactFred
several times in attempt to have him involved in our son's life. The
few times we spoke he said that he would come see our son, but the
last time I attempted to speak with Fred he hung up on me without even
saying hello and has ignored my calls since.
We never really discussed our religious beliefs while we were together
and I don't have much knowledge about Islam other than what I have
recently researched online.According to my research pre-maritial sex
is frowned upon and having a child before marriage is not allowed. My
child would be considered a "Haram Baby" and he would not be accepted
as part of Fred's family because he was born out of wed-lock.
In my heart I believe that Fred wanted to have this child with me but
has been restricted by his beliefs. I know that he is a good man and
he truly loved me. I am still in lovewith him and hope that someday
we might be a family. I'm filled with sadness because my son doesn't
have a father.
I'm hurt because I have been left to deal with this alone without
explanation. I have done everything for my son andeveryday is a
struggle mentally, emotionally and physically.
I have been considering filing for child support, butI don't want
cause any confrontation with Fred orhis family. I'm not interested in
money, but I don't think that I should have to take on all of this
responsibility by myself. I was hoping he would eventually come around
but it's been about a five months since the last timewe talked.
I'm searching for an understanding as to why he hasn't taken
responsibility for his son and if there will ever be a possibility of
him being in our son's life??
I'm curious what might happen if I approach his family with this
situation and what it would mean for Fred??
I'm also curious if Fred is never going to be involved in our sons
life, what can I do to teach ourson about his culture??
I don't wish to offend anyone so please correct me if I'm wrong about
theinformation I've researched.
- Janet


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Some one says

"Move in the direction thatyou want for yourself, andfocus on where
you want to be, while you make a real plan to get there (faith and
works go together)... And leave, leave, leave, those fairweather
friends alone. To grow, we've gotta let some folks go! Keep on moving,
don't stop... focus on what you want to see happen, and MAKE IT
HAPPEN. With GOD it's possible."

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The Miraculous Goat

Once there lived a very pious elderly lady named Fiddah. She was kind
and generous and always remembered Allah (SWT). One day Shaikh
Abu-ar-Rabie (RA) went to her village. He had been told that she had a
goat that gave both milk and honey.He bought a new bowl and went to
see the goat. When he got there, he was shown the goat and he milked
it. Sure enough, sweet white milk came gushing out. Shaikh
Abu-ar-Rabie (RA) drank tohis fill and then he asked they got the
goat. She narrated to him an amazing story.
She said, "There was a time when we were very poor and had nothing but
a she-goat. When Eid-ul-Adha came around, my husband suggested that we
sacrifice the goat and have a feast. The she-goat was our only means
of sustenance so I reminded my husband that Allah hasnot made it
necessary for us to sacrifice an animal under such circumstances.
Therefore, we spared the goat till the next Eid-ul-Adha. As chance
would have it, we had a guest onthat very same day. Since Allah has
commanded us to entertain our guests, I asked my husband if he would
now slaughter the animal and I would cook its meat for our guests.
Myhusband took the goat outside behind a wall, lest the children
should cry on seeing it killed. A little while later another goat
appeared bearing an exactresemblance to our own. By Allah! This was a
blessing. A miraculous she-goat that yields both milk and honey was
sent down to us as recompensefor feeding our guests."
Lady Fiddah often reminded her children thatthe goat feeds on what
grows in their hearts. "So long as your hearts continue to be noble
and un-tarnished by evil, its milk will remain good andsweet, but as
soon as yourhearts become false, its milk will also turn bad. Guard
your hearts against evil and Allah SWT will make everything beneficial
for you."

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Prayer

May Allah bless you, me and everyone of us with true Guidance, May
Allah Increase our knowledge to strengthen our Iman. May Allah Help us
to live this world as a test with patience. To attain the reward of
Jannahtul firdaus.

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