The words insha'Allah and masha'Allah have a special place in the glorification of Allah

What is the special secret in the recitation of the words
"insha'Allah" and "masha'Allah"?
Why is it important to use the words "insha'Allah" and
"masha'Allah" whenever necessary?
What important statement has Mr. Adnan Oktar made on this subject?
Our Lord is infinitely merciful. He bestows matchless blessings on
people throughout their lives. In addition to physical blessings, He
also bestows spiritual ones: He forgives their mistakes, accepts
their repentance, protects them, conceals their sins, increases
their happiness and leads them to the true path. Allah ensures that
all things are favorable for believers, and He supports them in
various ways. The terms insha'Allah and masha'Allah that appear in
the Qur'an possess very broad and deep significance, and much
mercy.
Insha'Allah and Masha'Allah Are Two Very Important Terms That
Repeat the Name of Allah and Prevent Polytheism
True faith and unalloyed love involve absolute submission to Allah.
One is careful not to make even a momentary error. One knows that
polytheism may arise the moment one feels any loss of trust in Allah
or seeks any helpers other than Allah. For that reason, a believer
with unsullied faith turns to and trusts in Allah alone because he
knows that Allah reigns over all things, that His power is
unfettered, and that not a single leaf can fall unless He so wills
it. He is therefore aware that the only place to seek help for any
reason is Allah. He has adopted Him as his guide. He feels no need
to rely on anyone other than Allah, or to seek help from anyone
else or any other power because he knows that everything that
happens in the world does so by Allah's leave. So someone with true
faith acts with that awareness at every moment of his life.
Therefore, by the word "insha'Allah" he is reiterating that
everything happens by Allah's leave and is created by Him in
destiny. If someone says that he will do something and forgets to
say that Allah will create it, then that is polytheism. But if he
says, 'insha'Allah', 'I will do it by Allah's will, through Allah's
creating it in destiny,' then, by Allah's will, he avoids
polytheism and becoming someone who ascribes equals to Allah.
On the other hand, if a person says, "How lovely" when he sees
beauty, then he is ascribing a divine significance to it. But if he
uses the term "Masha'Allah," meaning "How finely Allah has created,"
then he is protected against polytheism. For that reason,
"insha'Allah" and "masha'Allah" are two very important terms that
eliminate polytheism in the End Times and that repeat the name of
Allah. All-Wise Allah reveals in Surat al-Kahf in the Qur'an that
these two expressions are the key to protection against polytheism
and praising Him:
"Never say about anything, ' I am doing that tomorrow,' without
adding 'If Allah wills. ' Remember your Lord when you forget, and
say, 'Hopefully my Lord will guide me to something closer to right
guidance than this'." (Surat al-Kahf, 23-24)
" He is, however, Allah, my Lord, and I will not associate anyone
with my Lord. Why, when you entered your garden, did you not say, "
It is as Allah wills, there is no strength but in Allah"? Though you
see me with less wealth and children than you possess," (Surat
al-Kahf, 38-39)
Mr. Adnan Oktar describes how the repetition of "Insha'Allah" and
"Masha'Allah" eliminates polytheism:
ADNAN OKTAR: Allah tells us to say "insha'Allah" when starting any
task or in reference to anything happening tomorrow. In other
words, "by Allah's leave," "by Allah's will." This is a recitation of
the name of Allah. Like "La ilaha illAllah," "subhanAllah," "Allah-u
akbar" or "alhamdulillah." It is a recitation of the name of Allah.
It is therefore propitious. Those who make much use of the words
"insha'Allah'" and "masha'Allah" will rule the world in the End
Times. That is a feature of the followers of Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh);
they are secret words. It is also a feature of the People of the
Cave. A feature of the End Times. When we see something, we say,
"Masha'Allah, how well Allah has created." We are thus protected
against polytheism. "Insha'Allah"means by Allah's leave, by Allah's
creation, with Allah's creation in destiny. Both are
anti-polytheistic terms. They are blows struck against polytheism.
Two words that demolish polytheism. Allah says in Surat an-Nur that
those who do not ascribe equals to Him will rule the world. Now if
I say, "I will do something tomorrow," if I say that in
forgetfulness of Allah, if I forget that Allah will create it, that
is polytheism. But if you say, "insha'Allah", "by Allah's leave,"
"by Allah's creation in destiny," then you are protected from
polytheism. You have not become a polytheist. And if you say, "How
lovely that is," then you are ascribing divine nature to it. But if
you say, "How finely Allah has created that," you are protected
against polytheism. "Insha'Allah" and "masha'Allah" are two
recitations of the name of Allah that will demolish polytheism in
the End Times. They smash the idols, insha'Allah ... (17 June 2010
Kahramanmaraş Aksu TV and Kaçkar TV)
The Terms Insha'Allah and Masha'Allah Are the Keys to the Global
Reign of Islam
The global reign of the moral values of the Qur'an is glad tidings
foretold in the Qur'an, revealed in the hadiths of our Prophet
(saas) and discussed in the works of Islamic scholars. Our Prophet
(saas) has reported that Allah will bring about the global reign of
Islam using Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) as His instrument. The coming of
Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) in the End Times, by Allah's leave, and
bringing about the global reign of the moral values of the Qur'an is
foretold thus in the hadiths of our Prophet (saas):
"EVEN IF BUT ONE DAY REMAINS UNTIL THE DAY OF RECKONING, ALLAH
WILL SEND AN INDIVIDUAL FROM MY AHL AL-BAYT (FROM MY LINE), AND HE
WILL FILL THE WORLD THAT IS NOW FULL OF OPPRESSION WITH JUSTICE
INSTEAD." (Sunan Abu Dawud, 5/92).
In another hadith, our Prophet (saas) reveals that Hazrat Mahdi
(pbuh) and his followers will make much use of the terms insha'Allah
and masha'Allah :
"WHEN ONE OF THEM WISHES TO DO ANYTHING, HE WILL SAY, 'INSHA'ALLAH'.
Our Prophet (saas) notes that those who use these two terms have a
deep love of Allah and a pure faith:
"THERE IS NO MORE VIRTUOUS OBEDIENCE FOR PEOPLE THAN TO SAY INSHA'ALLAH."
"SAYING INSHA'ALLAH AND MASHA'ALLAH VERY OFTEN COMES FROM THE BEAUTY
OF A PERSON'S FAITH." (İsmail Hakkı Bursevi, C.Sagir, 2-50)
Therefore, since Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) and his followers know that all
they do happens by Allah's leave they always use the term
"insha'Allah." They know that the success of what they do lies with
Allah. They therefore praise Allah and say, "masha'Allah." They
frequently recite these two expressions, since they are people who
have profound faith and properly know the names of Allah and fear
Him. By Allah's leave, the global reign of Islam will come about
through this behavior far removed from polytheism and their
passionate devotion to Allah.
Mr. Adnan Oktar describes how the recitation of insha'Allah and
masha'Allah is a sign of the followers of Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) and
that those who make that recitation will rule the world:
ADNAN OKTAR: The word masha'Allah refers to 1987 without the
gemination mark or 2016 with it. The word insha'Allah refers to 1997
without the gemination mark [the repeating of " a'A" in "insha'Allah
and masha'Allah] or 2027 with it; it refers to global dominion. The
more one says insha'Allah and masha'Allah , the more that global
reign progresses. There are a specific number of repetitions of
insha'Allah and masha'Allah for this. When that number is reached,
that reign will have come about, insha'Allah . So our brothers must
make wide use of insha'Allah and masha'Allah . Our Prophet (saas)
says, "A person says insha'Allah every time he speaks out of
perfection of faith." "Saying insha'Allah comes from perfect
faith," he says. "There is no more virtuous obedience for people
than to say insha'Allah," our Prophet (saas) says. Insha'Allah and
masha'Allah mean step by step progress toward Islam and Islamic
Union. Whenever you say it, you take another step. But there is a
limit referred to by Allah, and once that limit is reached, that is
it, insha'Allah . (20 March 2011 Kanal Avrupa and Çay TV)
ADNAN OKTAR: Insha'Allah and masha'Allah are like music to my ears.
To hear a person saying insha'Allah and masha'Allah is so nice.
Those who recite them will rule the world, insha'Allah. Those who
recite them in abundance will rule the world. Insha'Allah and
masha'Allah are a mark of the followers of Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh).
They are their sign, their seal. And since we are also followers of
Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh), insha'Allah and masha'Allah are a sign for us,
too. (20 August 2011 A9 TV)
The Two Worthy Individuals of the End Times, the prophet Jesus
(pbuh) and Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) Will Use Insha'Allah and Masha'Allah
Very Much.
The first letter of the name of the Prophet Jesus (pbuh) [Isa]
refers to the "i" of insha'Allah , and the "m" of Hazrat Mahdi
(pbuh) refers to masha'Allah . This is without doubt an immaculate
secret created by Almighty Allah. Because these worthy people will
be instrumental in the global reign of Islam in the End Times, and
in "insha'Allah" and "masha'Allah" being repeated by everyone.
One of these worthy individuals, the Prophet Jesus (pbuh) will
frequently recite the word "insha'Allah" in the miracles he performs.
This is revealed as follows in the Qur'an:
" as a Messenger to the tribe of Israel, saying: 'I have brought you
a Sign from your Lord. I will create the shape of a bird out of clay
for you and then breathe into it and it will be a bird by Allah's
permission . I will heal the blind and the leper, and bring the
dead to life, by Allah's permission . I will tell you what you eat
and what you store up in your homes. There is a Sign for you in
that if you are believers." (Surah Al 'Imran, 49)
Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) will praise the name of Allah in the face of
everything beautiful that he sees, all of which are manifestations of
Allah, and will frequently repeat the word "masha'Allah" out of his
deep faith in and love of Almighty Allah.
Mr. Adnan Oktar describes the secret behind the repetition of
"insha'Allah" and "masha'Allah":

Channels That Only Show Animals’ Savage Aspects Are Engaging in Darwinist Propaganda

Recently various TV channels with conservative reputations have, in
their documentary broadcasts, been giving an impression of a
savage and ruthless nature. Broadcasts just about every evening
insist on providing no images apart from those of animals hunting
one another. No information is provided about the glorious
structures inherent living things and their altruistic and
intelligent behavior.
Images of this kind being screened as documentaries are in fact a
form of Darwinist propaganda. In this way, without actually
referring to Darwinism or the theory of evolution, the message is
sent out that savagery, conflict and struggle, the very foundations of
Darwinist ideology, are "naturally present in nature." The aim is
to give people who watch these documentaries the impression of a
system among living things in which the strong invariably crush the
weak. Viewers familiarized with this idea are thus, in a way,
conditioned to believe in the worst deception in all history, the
theory of evolution. They become indoctrinated with the idea of the
strong crushing the weak and of weak species being eliminated,
which represents the essential and perverse foundation of the theory
of evolution. In short, THESE IMAGES OF SAVAGERY shown as
"documentaries" ARE IN FACT BLATANT DARWINIST PROPAGANDA .
The surprising thing is that the channels in question IN NO WAY
REFER TO THE EXTRAORDINARY CHARACTERISTICS OF THE SAME LIVING
THINGS OR THEIR ALTRUISTIC BEHAVIOR . It is of course quite true
that living things will hunt another for food, and some living
things have indeed been created in that way. But hunting is just
one out of thousands of a living thing's characteristics. Animals
possess such glorious attributes that it is truly breathtaking the
way in which these channels never mention them. They never discuss
such miraculous properties as the extraordinary precautions a herd
of elephants take to protect a baby, the way a crocodile carries
the young Caretta caretta turtles into the sea between its jaws, the
way that male and female cichlid fish take turns to ensure no harm
befalls their eggs and that they receive enough oxygen, or that
male penguins hold their eggs on their feet and stand without
moving for months during the winter without eating anything at all.
There is never any mention of the birds' ability to build their own
nests, the bees' ability to build honey combs with immaculate angles,
the dams constructed by beavers, termite nests that rise many
meters high or the glory in an insect that beats its wings 1,000
times a second.
Why Is It Important to Describe the Beautiful Features in the Living World?
Darwinism generally employs demagoguery and is disseminated using
cunning methods. Since it is a theory that has been utterly
demolished by all the scientific evidence, it avoids science and
uses demagogic techniques to further its propaganda. ( See
Darwinist Propaganda Techniques ) The way that documentaries about
savage behavior are shown on some conservative channels is a part
of this stratagem. The channels in question have, consciously or not,
fallen into this cunning trap, with which Darwinists seek to
influence the conservative community. People who are unaware that
the theory of evolution is a fraud that adopts chance as its false
god may therefore be negatively affected by this sly propaganda.
Reports about evolution are sometimes carried directly in the
conservative written press. Occasionally, part of this press will
realize its error and immediately retract such reports, while others
persist in this important error. The Darwinist dictatorship that
dominates the world reveals its influence here. The evolutionary
propaganda on some conservative TV channels as described above is
either the product of ignorance or else reveals the true scope of the
influence of the Darwinist system of indoctrination. But whatever
the reason may be, the channels in question need to realize the
scale of their error and to renounce such mistakes as quickly as
possible.
The living world is full of breathtaking and stunning
characteristics. Each one is powerful and beautiful enough to lead
a person to have faith in Allah and to appreciate His greatness.
Therefore, the best thing for these channels to do would be to show
these details that reveal the artistry of Allah. Otherwise, they
will be supporting a superstitious theory that has led to
bloodthirsty communist and fascist regimes whose ideologies have
inflicted horrific scourges, war, slaughter and mayhem on the
world, a pernicious ideology that is still the cause of savagery,
disorder and lovelessness, a nightmarish pseudo- philosophy that
represents the intellectual basis of all terrorist activities,
including those of the PKK and that foolishly seeks to deny the
existence of a Creator by adopting blind chance as its false god
(surely Allah is beyond that).
All those channels that only show the savage side of animals in
their documentaries need to realize the danger, be aware of the
error they have fallen into and take immediate precautionary
measures. They possess significant means by which they can be
instrumental in people coming to belief by telling them of the
signs leading to faith, and they must use these in the most
effective way for Allah's good pleasure.

Channels That Only Show Animals’ Savage Aspects Are Engaging in Darwinist Propaganda

Recently various TV channels with conservative reputations have, in
their documentary broadcasts, been giving an impression of a
savage and ruthless nature. Broadcasts just about every evening
insist on providing no images apart from those of animals hunting
one another. No information is provided about the glorious
structures inherent living things and their altruistic and
intelligent behavior.
Images of this kind being screened as documentaries are in fact a
form of Darwinist propaganda. In this way, without actually
referring to Darwinism or the theory of evolution, the message is
sent out that savagery, conflict and struggle, the very foundations of
Darwinist ideology, are "naturally present in nature." The aim is
to give people who watch these documentaries the impression of a
system among living things in which the strong invariably crush the
weak. Viewers familiarized with this idea are thus, in a way,
conditioned to believe in the worst deception in all history, the
theory of evolution. They become indoctrinated with the idea of the
strong crushing the weak and of weak species being eliminated,
which represents the essential and perverse foundation of the theory
of evolution. In short, THESE IMAGES OF SAVAGERY shown as
"documentaries" ARE IN FACT BLATANT DARWINIST PROPAGANDA .
The surprising thing is that the channels in question IN NO WAY
REFER TO THE EXTRAORDINARY CHARACTERISTICS OF THE SAME LIVING
THINGS OR THEIR ALTRUISTIC BEHAVIOR . It is of course quite true
that living things will hunt another for food, and some living
things have indeed been created in that way. But hunting is just
one out of thousands of a living thing's characteristics. Animals
possess such glorious attributes that it is truly breathtaking the
way in which these channels never mention them. They never discuss
such miraculous properties as the extraordinary precautions a herd
of elephants take to protect a baby, the way a crocodile carries
the young Caretta caretta turtles into the sea between its jaws, the
way that male and female cichlid fish take turns to ensure no harm
befalls their eggs and that they receive enough oxygen, or that
male penguins hold their eggs on their feet and stand without
moving for months during the winter without eating anything at all.
There is never any mention of the birds' ability to build their own
nests, the bees' ability to build honey combs with immaculate angles,
the dams constructed by beavers, termite nests that rise many
meters high or the glory in an insect that beats its wings 1,000
times a second.
Why Is It Important to Describe the Beautiful Features in the Living World?
Darwinism generally employs demagoguery and is disseminated using
cunning methods. Since it is a theory that has been utterly
demolished by all the scientific evidence, it avoids science and
uses demagogic techniques to further its propaganda. ( See
Darwinist Propaganda Techniques ) The way that documentaries about
savage behavior are shown on some conservative channels is a part
of this stratagem. The channels in question have, consciously or not,
fallen into this cunning trap, with which Darwinists seek to
influence the conservative community. People who are unaware that
the theory of evolution is a fraud that adopts chance as its false
god may therefore be negatively affected by this sly propaganda.
Reports about evolution are sometimes carried directly in the
conservative written press. Occasionally, part of this press will
realize its error and immediately retract such reports, while others
persist in this important error. The Darwinist dictatorship that
dominates the world reveals its influence here. The evolutionary
propaganda on some conservative TV channels as described above is
either the product of ignorance or else reveals the true scope of the
influence of the Darwinist system of indoctrination. But whatever
the reason may be, the channels in question need to realize the
scale of their error and to renounce such mistakes as quickly as
possible.
The living world is full of breathtaking and stunning
characteristics. Each one is powerful and beautiful enough to lead
a person to have faith in Allah and to appreciate His greatness.
Therefore, the best thing for these channels to do would be to show
these details that reveal the artistry of Allah. Otherwise, they
will be supporting a superstitious theory that has led to
bloodthirsty communist and fascist regimes whose ideologies have
inflicted horrific scourges, war, slaughter and mayhem on the
world, a pernicious ideology that is still the cause of savagery,
disorder and lovelessness, a nightmarish pseudo- philosophy that
represents the intellectual basis of all terrorist activities,
including those of the PKK and that foolishly seeks to deny the
existence of a Creator by adopting blind chance as its false god
(surely Allah is beyond that).
All those channels that only show the savage side of animals in
their documentaries need to realize the danger, be aware of the
error they have fallen into and take immediate precautionary
measures. They possess significant means by which they can be
instrumental in people coming to belief by telling them of the
signs leading to faith, and they must use these in the most
effective way for Allah's good pleasure.

Designs inspired by spider webs

How do spider webs prevent computers from overheating?
How is violin string made from spider web?
How do spider webs hold water?
Spider webs are truly a wonder of architecture and engineering, as
well as their qualities such as strength, flexibility and use
advantages.
It is known by virtually everyone that spiders use the silky threads
produced in their own bodies to set a web. However, the production
phases of this silk and its general characteristics are not so well-
known. This silk thread, which spiders produce and the diameter of
which is less than one millimeter, is five times stronger than
steel of the same thickness. Also it can flex four times its own
length.
Another striking characteristic of the silk is that it is very
lightweight. We can explain this with an example. The weight of a
silk thread that will circle the earth would weigh only 320 grams.
Scientists are resuming their research to technologically benefit
from these characteristics of the spider thread.
Spider Silk Prevents Computers From Overheating
Researchers have concluded that spider silk can conduct heat 800
times better than all other organic materials in the world. However,
whereas spider silk can conduct heat with a rate of 416 W/m-K
(watt/meter Kelvin), the same rate is 401 W/m-K in copper. Human
skin can conduct electricity by only 0.6 W/m-K. While spider silk is
ahead of copper, which is one of the materials that conduct heat
the best, when it is compared to silicone aluminum and pure iron,
it is again superior. This superiority of the spider silk only falls
behind when compared to silver and diamond.
The secret behind the conductivity of spider silk is the molecular
structure of the silk Allah created specially for these beings.
Spider silk is formed by a combination of hard, crystal pieces that
self-generate as well as dynamic and elastic pieces.
Scientists think that they can better understand its conductivity by
examining the spider silk's characteristics of creation. They note
that these organic materials can be used in computers, which are
made of substances that conduct heat by using this feature of the
web, and that spider silk can be used in many fields from
electronics to summer clothing.
The physical features of spiders and their behaviors clearly prove
that these beings were created by Allah. Allah, the Lord of all
worlds, reveals this truth to the people with the verse; " He said,
'The Lord of the East and the West and everything between them if
you used your intellect.' …" (Surat ash-Shu'ara', 28)
Violin String From Spider Web
When researchers who made a type of thread by spinning
approximately five thousand silk strings taken from 300 female "
Nephila macukala " spiders, which are known for their complex webs,
in the same direction, and then made violin strings by spinning
three of these threads in the opposite direction, and measuring th
pull force of the string, they found that the string can endure
less tension than the string traditionally made by using intestines
and more tension than modern nylon string covered with aluminum. In
addition, when violin strings made in this way are studied under a
scanning electron microscope, it was found that they are perfectly
round and since they fit together perfectly, a very nice and soft
resonance was obtained.
Spiders could not have learned to knitspin this web, which works
with perfect planning, on its own as a result of the so-called
evolutionary process. Spiders act with the command of Allah like all
other beings on earth. Almighty Allah reveals this with the verse;
" ... when everything in the heavens and earth, willingly or
unwillingly, submits to Him and to Him you will be returned? "
(Surah Al 'Imran , 83)
Spider Web Example in Covering Large Sites
Webs built by dew spiders are both aesthetic and amazing in terms of
engineering. These spiders build their webs on a horizontal plane
to appear like a sheet lying on grass. They use vertical grasses as
girders and ensure that the weight on the grass is evenly
distributed on this grass.
This method was reproduced by people in order to cover large sites.
The Munich Olympics Stadium and JeddahAirport, which are shown as
examples of today's modern architecture works, were built by
imitating the webs of these spider species. As in this example,
every being people take as an example, and every system they
possess are a verse (evidence) of Allah for people. This truth is
revealed in Surat al-Jathiyya as such:
And in your creation and all the creatures He has spread about there
are Signs for people with certainty . (Surat al-Jathiyya, 4)
Artificial Spider Webs That Hold Water
The capacity of spider web to hold water is very high. Researchers
have copied the characteristics of spider web, which hold water
drops effectively, and developed a synthetic thread that can be used
in holding the water in the atmosphere. Scientists who examined web
fibers of uloborus walckenaerius spiders under the microscope found
that the water particles that move along the fiber change the web's
structure when they intensify to form drops. In the study, it was
understood that the thread made by the substance secreted by this
spider forms four times thicker knots in sections that water
droplets gather.
Another less known characteristic of spider web is its capacity to
collect water from moist air. Scientists who are inspired by this
characteristic developed artificial fibers that copy the silk's
structure, and they pointed out the ability of these artificial
fibers to collect water. It is considered that these artificial
fibers can be used to collect water in the air or to filter
chemical products in industrial production.
Spider Web Will Inspire the Internet
In the research conducted on araneus diadematus , a common garden
spider that lives in Europe, using computer modeling, it was found
that spider webs react differently to different tension levels. As
it is known, spider web has a unique quality that softens when
needed and then turns back to its original hardness. In the
research, it was understood that spider web softens in mild wind
and does not show a disruption in general structure, and when a
stronger force is applied to a specific point, the web loses its
flexibility in this region of the web and breaks off. However, this
situation strengthens the general structure and wholeness of the
web even more. Research showed that when fibers in different
regions break, the web can carry three to twenty percent more
weight than it normally does.
Researchers think that with the deciphering of these secrets of the
spider web, complex networks like the Internet can be built in a
stronger way against disruptions in the future. New visual networks
that can be formed like this will not lose their mechanical quality,
despite enduring much damage, and no matter which part of the
system is attacked, the network will collapse only at a certain
point. Thus in many areas from electrical networks and the internet
to the textile industry, great leaps will be achieved based on the
spider web in future.
During the research conducted to uncover the chemistry of spider
threads, threads are taken from spiders with special machines. In
this way, 320 meters (almost three milligrams) of silk can be
gathered per animal. Another field that spider threads are used to
serve human beings is medicine. Pharmacologists at the University
of Wyoming in the USA are using the threads of a spider species
called " Nephile " in lieu of catgut in very sensitive operations
like tendon and joint operations.
With the acceptance of the superiority of created features, no
doubt, evolutionists have experienced a new disappointment and a
new sense of hopelessness. The invalidity of evolutionists'
unscientific claims that beings are in a state of development from
the simple to the more complex over time and that their
characteristics have formed by coincidence, were once again proved.
Allah, the Lord of all worlds, is the One Who creates flawless and
unique systems. Allah is the One Who creates all things flawlessly.
Those who do not want to accept this will live an unending regret in
the hereafter.
He Who created the seven heavens in layers.You will not find any
flaw in the creation of the All-Merciful. ऀ Look again – do you see
any gaps? Then look again and again. Your sight will return to you
dazzled and exhausted! Surat al-Mulk, 3-4)
Allah Created Spider Threads in the Best Shape For Its Purpose
It is generally not known that spiders use more than one thread type
while making their webs. However, spiders produce different threads
in their bodies for different purposes. When one thinks about the
life of spiders, it is immediately understood how important this
feature is, because the specialty of the thread the spider walks on
and the threads it used to catch its prey or to wrap it tightly
have to be different from one another. For example, if the thread a
spider walks on were adhesive like the thread it uses to catch the
prey, the spider would stick on the web and thus it would cause its
own death.
These silk threads have different qualities in terms of both
flexibility and strength, and they also have different qualities
for thickness and adhesiveness. For example, the hanging thread,
which plays a big role in the spider's life, has a flexible and
strong structure even though it is not adhesive. It can carry two
to three times the spider's weight easily. The spider, which also
carries its prey together, can move up and down safely thanks to
these ropes.
As it is seen, the spider needs to make very different threads and
moreover it must use these different threads in the right places.
Even the lack of one of these threads is potentially deadly for the
spider. None of the qualities spiders have could have emerged phase
by phase as the theory of evolution suggests. Sine the first spiders
on earth, all spiders have existed in their complete form. All of
these point to the evidences that they emerged all of a sudden and
that Allah created them. Allah shows us His infinite power and
matchless knowledge with the superior miracle of creation in
spiders. Allah reveals this truth in one verse:
Everything in the heavens and the earth glorifies Allah. He is the
Almighty, the All-Wise. The kingdom of the heavens and the earth
belongs to Him. ऀ He gives life and causes to die.He has power over
all things . (Surat al-Hadid, 1-2)

Fathwa, - Dangers of non-Muslim servants

Question
We have a non-Muslim servant and we found pictures of the children and
myself along with something that looks like a goat's horn in her room.
What do you think of this? Is it a kind of magic? Please advise.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His slave and Messenger.
Before answering the question, we must first discuss the issue of
having female servants in general in Muslim houses, let alone
disbelieving female servants. This phenomenon often results in much
corruption which reality bears witness to. This includes:
1- The oppression of children when their upbringing is left to
these maids. This is the most dangerous aspect as it causes the child
to lose his emotions towards his parents, especially his mother.
Consequently, a child loses affection which is the basic element in
directing and guiding children.
2- The existence of maids is a basic element in encouraging
mothers to go out to work, markets or visits, and this contradicts the
Sharee'ah goals which require that a woman stays in her home. Allaah
The Almighty Says )what means(: }And stay in your houses.{]Quran
33:33[
3- Laziness and inactivity of women, which results in many illnesses.
4- Leaving maids with adolescent sons in houses results in many
immoralities.
5- When the maid is a disbeliever the children are brought up on
subversive creeds and ideas that contradict the Muslim creed.
Therefore, the Sharee'ah criteria for having a maid has to be
followed. These criteria are as follows:
1- A maid has to be a Muslim.
2- She should be accompanied by her husband or a Mahram
)unmarriageable person(.
3- The Sharee'ah limitations should be observed. That is, there
should be no Khalwah )isolation( or intermixing between the two sexes,
nor should men have any dealings with them.
4- The children's upbringing should not be entrusted to these maids.
As for the question, it is not farfetched that this maid does whatever
harms Muslims as she is a disbeliever. Allaah The Almighty Says )what
means(: }They do not observe toward a believer any pact of kinship or
covenant of protection. And it is they who are the
transgressors.{]Quran 9:10[
They are neither restrained by kinship nor are prevented by a
covenant. So what do you think then if there is no covenant or kinship
in the first place? The surrounding proofs indicate that she might
have been trying to work a spell and this is indicated by the horn of
the goat. You should therefore dismiss her to be relieved from her
evil, but your suspicions about her should not encourage you to
oppress or upset her. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(: }And do
not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just;
that is nearer to righteousness.{]Quran 5:8[
Allaah Knows best.

Fathwa, - She hated her non-practicing husband and committed Zina with his cousin

Question
I want to introduce myself. I once asked a question here saying is it
ok to leave my husband temporary until he start practicing the sunah
correctly. U guys answer that It's ok if I'm sure that he will change
because of that. But Subhanallah, I did only for a few days because I
was disappointing my family according to them so I came back. I came
back also because I was newlywed so much in love with my husband I
couldnt see, the truth so I stayed with him. I stayed with him my
eeman declined so much, because of the environment and because of me
not studying no more any Islamic teaching. I became worst than him. I
felt that I'm a looser. And I started having lots of fight and yelling
with him, not necessarily his faults to start them but both of us and
some times me. We didn't have much intimacy most times, and often we
only argued and belittled each other. I was very sad and disconnected
to Islamic teaching too. It continued like that until his cousin a
male came to stay with us. I had my niqab on and my husband always
belittled me for that infront of him telling me even his cousin can't
see my face I'm abnormal living like that in society. I felt bad and I
did the most hideous crime. As I stay with my husband cousin I started
conversing with him laughing and joking with. He is so handsome and
very comfortable to me at that time because I felt I was worthless to
my husband. Once I was alone with him playing, I showed him my face.
He immediately felt for me so did I with. We started doing harram and
I completely hated my husband. It continued I regretted having this
hideous sin with this guy but I continued with him because that was
the only place I felt completely satisfied. Me and my husband is just
fighting and arguments. I stopped doing this harram with this guy and
I will never try to be with him alone. But still I don't enjoy staying
with husband but I have a child now . I afraid my family, son would
not forgive me. What should I do plz help advice n make dua.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is confirmed that the Prophetwas asked about the "male in-law", who
is the husband's brother or male relative and he said: ''The male
in-law is death itself." ]Bukhaari and Muslim[
This means that he is like death because of the afflictions and
calamities that happen due to being lenient in dealing with him and
because of him entering upon the wife as he is not like other
non-Mahram )marriageable( men because of his blood relation with the
husband.
What you mentioned about the sin that you committed with him is clear
evidence of this. Therefore, you should repent to Allaah from this
grave major sin by regretting it and being determined not to do it
again. So, you should not sit with that man nor talk to him, and you
should not be in a place where you may be in seclusion with him as a
way of preventing the means that lead to what is forbidden. For more
benefit, please refer to Fataawa 86527, 154373and 127911.
On the other hand, we advise you to try to rectify your husband by
supplicating Allaah for him and calling him to goodness and
righteousness and to get closer to Allaah and you should advise him to
befriend righteous people who would guide him to do good and keep him
away from evil. You should not despair of him becoming a righteous man
nor give up enjoining him to do good deeds and forbidding him from
doing evil deeds.
As far as you are concerned, you should keep company with righteous
and good women who would help you perform righteous deeds, guide you
to do good and help you in what you are doing.
As regards separating from your husband and asking him for divorce,
then we do not advise you to do so unless the marital relations
between you and him become impossible while he persists in his
dissoluteness and disobedience after advising him and admonishing him.
In which case, divorce should be the last solution in the same manner
that cauterization should be the final treatment )i.e. it is the last
to be opted for among all healing procedures(.
Allaah Knows best.

Fathwa, - Her husband forces her to live in the same house with his brother

Question
My question is my husband is forcing me to stay with his married
brother ,I had told him about the hadiths mentioning that "brother in
law is death" living together may cause many problems,but he doesnt
seems to listen,he says that I just have to maintain my Hijab thats
all.Wht can I do?since his wife is also a nonmehram to him that will
be a probs.As a muslim women I dont get my rights from my husband ,he
doesnt agrees to the rights of women in Islam.Please advise.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His slave and Messenger.
It is your right as a wife to get a separate accommodation where you
would be safe from any harm and where you would not be embarrassed.
Besides, it is not permissible for you to obey your husband in
dwelling with your brother-in-law in the same house whose amenities
are not separate, where his brother could see you )without Hijaab( or
be in seclusion with you, or where there is any other matter that
might lead to temptation.
Even if we presume that you can take the necessary measures to avoid
these prohibitions and always wear Hijaab, then this may cause much
hardship to you. So, your husband has no right to oblige you to live
in such a situation. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84608.
Based on this, it is permissible for the wife to ask for divorce as a
way of repelling harm off herself if her husband does not provide her
with an accommodation that is Islamically acceptable.
There is no doubt that your husband is also obliged to abide by the
Islamic conditions in dealing with the wife of his brother as she is a
non-Mahram to him. Therefore, we warn against being lenient in such
kind of dealings within one family as this is one of the major reasons
of corruption. The Hadeeth that is mentioned in the question which
reads'the male in-law is death itself'is the best evidence in this
regard. The text of the Hadeeth is as follows:Uqbah Ibn 'Aamernarrated
that the Prophetsaid: "Beware of entering upon women"; a man from the
Ansaar asked: 'O Messenger of Allaah, what do you say about the male
in-law )the woman's husband's male relative like his brother, uncle,
cousin, etc.(?' He replied: "He is death itself )i.e. his seclusion
with her is as serious and dangerous as death(." ]Bukhaari and Muslim[
For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 154373.
As regards what you mentioned about your husband that he does not
agree with the women's rights in Islam, then this needs more
clarification ]as we do not know exactly what you mean[

Physics by Muslims

The Holy Quran had awakened a spirit of enquiry among the Arabs which
was instrumental in their splendid achievements in the field of
science, and according to a western critic led them to realize that
"science could not be advanced by mere speculation; its only sure
progress lay in the practical interrogation of nature. The essential
characteristics of their method are experiment and observation. In
their writings on Mechanics, hydrostatics, optics, etc., thesolution
of the problemis always obtained by performing an experiment, or by an
instrumental observation.
It was this that made them theoriginator of chemistry, that led them
to the invention of all kinds ofapparatus for
distillation,sublimation, fusion and filtration; that in astronomy
caused them to appeal to divided instrument, as quadrant and
astrolabe; in chemistry to employ the balance the theory of which they
were perfectly familiar with; to construct tables of specific
gravities and astronomical tables, that produced their great
improvements ingeometryandtrigonometry.
TheMuslims developed Physicsto a high degree and produced such eminent
physicist asKindi, Jahiz, Banu Musa, Beruni, RaziandAbdur Rahman Ibn
Nasr.
Work of Muslim Physicists
Al-Kindi
Abu Yusuf Ibn Ishaq, known asal-Kindiwas born at Kufa in the middle of
the 9th century and flourished in Baghdad. He is the most dominating
and one of the greatest Muslim scholars of physics. Over and above
this, he was an astrologer, philosopher, alchemist, optician and
musical theorist. He wrote more than265 books, the majority of which
have been lost.
Most of his works which survived are in Latin having been translated
by Gerard of Cremona. Of these fifteen are onmeteorology, several on
specific weight, ontides, onopticsand onreflection of light, and eight
are on music. His optics influenced Roger Bacon. He wrote several
books on iron and steel to be used for weapons. He applied mathematics
not only to physics, but also to medicine.
He was therefore regarded by Cardon, a philosopher of the Renaissance,
"as one of the 12 subtlest minds." He thought that gold and silver
could only be obtained from mines and not through any other process.
He endeavored to ascertain the laws that govern thefall of bodies.
Razi
Razi investigated on the determination ofspecific gravityof means
ofhydrostatic balance, called by himMizan-al-Tabii. Most of his works
on physics, mathematics, astronomy and optics have perished. In
physics his writings deal with matter, space, time and motion. In his
opinion matter in the primitive state before the creation of the world
was composed of scattered atoms, which possessed extent. Mixed in
various proportions with the articles of void, these atoms produced
these elements which are five ih number namely earth, air, water, fire
and celestial element. Fire is created by striking iron on the stone.
Abu Rehan Beruni
Abu Rehan Beruni, was a versatile genius, who adorned the durbar
ofMahmud of Ghazni. His outstanding achievement in the realm of
physics was theaccurate determination of the weight of 18 stones. He
also discovered thatlight travels faster than sound. He has also
contributed immensely to geological knowledge by providing the correct
explanation of the formation of natural spring and artesian wells.
He suggested that the Indus valley was formerly an ancient basin
filled with alluvial soil. HisKitab al Jawahir(Book of Jewels) deals
with different types of gems and their specific gravity.
Khazini
Khazini, was a well known scientist of Islam, who explained the
greaterdensity of waterwhen nearer to the center of the earth. Roger
Bacon, who proved the same hypotheses afterwards based his proof on
the theories advanced by Khazini. His brilliant workMizanul
Hikmah(Balance of Knowledge) deals with gravity and containstables of
densities of many solids and liquids. It also contains "observation on
capillarity,uses of aerometerto measure densities and appreciate the
temperature of liquids, theory of the lever and the application of
balance to building."
Other notable Physicists
*.A voluminous unedited lapidary byBetuniis kept in manuscript form in
the Escorial Library. It deals with a large number of stones and
metals from the natural, commercial and medical point of view.
*.Barlu Musahas left behind him a work on balance, whileAl-Jahizused
hydrostatic balance to determine specific gravity.
*.An excellent treatise had been written byAl-Naziriregarding atmosphere.
*.Chapters on weights and measures' were written byIbn Jami and
Al-Attar.Abdur Rahman Ibn Nasrwrote an excellent treatise on weights
and measures for the use of Egyptian markets.

Imam Shafie

Early Life
Abu Abdullah Muhammad Bin Idris descends from theHashimi familyof
theQuraishtribe to whichProphet Mohammed (PBUH)belongs. He was born in
Gaza, Syria in767and became famous asImam Shafi-ee. He lost his father
early in life and was brought up by his mother in abject poverty in
the city of Mecca. He spent much time among the Bedouins and acquired
very great knowledge of Arabic poetry.
Life as Student
At the age of twenty, he went toMadinaand remained there as a student
of Imam Maliktill the later's death in796. He also came into contact
with other learned men from whom he acquired knowledge of the Holy
Qur'an and the Traditions of the Holy Prophet Muhammad. Imam Shafi-ee
possessed a very sharp memory and knew the whole ofImam Malik's
Muwattaby heart. In804he visited Syria and from there proceeded to
Egypt where he settled down. As a pupil of Imam Malik he was received
with great honor and respect by the Egyptians.
Teachings of Imam Shafi
In810he went to Baghdad and there he was surrounded by a large number
of students who were eager to acquire knowledge of the faith and
practice of Islam from him. TheShafi-ee school of lawemerged from
these students who practiced and propagated the views and rulings of
Imam Shafi-ee through their writings and preaching.
Imam Shafi-ee wrote several books, the most well-known of which is
calledKitab-al-Umm, which is a collection of writings and lectures of
the Imam. A number of his students have also collected his writings,
lectures and rulings in the form of books, or quoted him in their
books.Baghdad in IraqandCairo in Egyptwere the chief centers of Imam
Shafiee's activities. It is from these two cities that teachings of
the Shafi-ee school spread in the9th centuryof the Christian era.
During the time of Sultan Salahuddeen (Saladin), the Shafi-ee doctrine
was the most prominent in Egypt, and to this day theImam of the
Al-Azhar Masjidis always a Shafi-ee and the Shafi-ee Madhhab is
industriously studied along with that of the other three schools of
the Sunnis.
During his life Imam Shafi-ee also suffered from political intrigues.
For instance, after studying under Imam Malik in Madina he was sent to
fill an office in Yemen, where he was accused of political involvement
which resulted in his arrest. He was taken as prisoner to Harun
al-Rasheed. The Khalifa however found him innocent and the Imam was
honorably released.
Imam Shaafi-ee died in the year820 in Egypt.

Imam Maalik

Early Life
ABU ABDULLAH, Malik bin Anas, was born in Madina in the year715 AD.
His ancestral home was inYemen, but his grandfather settled in Madina
after embracing Islam. He received his education in Madina, which was
the mostimportantseat of Islamic learning, and where the immediate
descendants of the Companions of theHoly Prophetlived.
Imam Malik was highly attracted to the study of law, and devoted his
entire interest to the study ofFiqh. It is said that he sought out
overthree hundred Sahaba(those who saw the Companions of the Holy
Prophet). From them he acquired the knowledge of the Holy Prophet's
sayings, Hadith and the Holy Prophet's Deeds, Sunnah.
His work
Imam Malik studied Fiqh under the guidance of nearlyone hundred
learned Shaikhswho were residing in the city of the Prophet at the
time. Among Imam Malik's writings is the great work
entitledKitab-al-Muwatta, which is the earliest surviving book of
Islamic law and Hadith. It quotes Sayings as well as the practices
according to the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet as observed by Muslims in
Madina.
Although Imam Malik wrote many treatises dealing withreligion and
ethics, Kitab-al-Muwattais acknowledged as the most important among
his writings. It is said that Imam Malik had originally recordedten
thousand Ahadithin this book, but in a revised edition the Imam
reduced the number to onlyone hundred and seventy-two.
Dealing with people
Imam Malik was famous for hispiety and integrityand courageously stood
up, and was prepared to suffer, for his convictions. For example, when
the governor of Madina demanded and forced people to take the oath of
allegiance to Khalifa al-Mansour, Imam Malik issued a Fatwa that such
an oath was not binding, because it was given under duress. This
resulted in many people finding courage to express their opposition,
but the Imam was arrested, found guilty of defiance and publicly
flogged.
When al-Mansour, learnt of this outrage, heapologizedto the Imam and
dismissed the governor. Sometime later the Khalifa sent him three
thousand Dinars for his travelling expenses and invited him to come
and reside inBaghdad. Imam Malik refused the offer and indicated that
he preferred to continue his residence inMadinawhere the Holy Prophet
was buried.
When theKhalifa Haroun-al-Rasheedvisited Madina, when he came to
perform Hajj, he summoned Imam Malik to visit him and deliver a
lecture. The Imam politely refused to go to the ruler but invited him
to attend the class of students to whom he delivered regular lectures.
The Khalifa, accompanied by his two sons, accepted the invitation and
sat among the students to hear the Imam's lecture.
Imam Malik died in the year795 ADat Madina and is buried in the
famousAl-Baqie cemeteryin the city of the Prophet. Imam Malik's
followers and disciples developed aFiqh schoolbased on his books which
came to be known as theMaliki Madhhab. Malikis are mostly found in
North and West Africa, - Tunis, Algeria, Morocco and Egypt.

Women site, - Etiquettes of Supplicating- II

The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, used to invoke Allaah The
Exalted saying:"Allaahumma anta rabbi la ilaaha illa ant, khalaqtani
wa ana 'abduk, wa ana 'ala 'ahdika wa wa'dika mastata't, a'oothu bika
min sharri maa sana't, aboo'u laka bini'matika, wa aboo'u laka
bithanbi faghfir lee fa innahoo la yaghfiru ath-thunooba illa ant )O
Allaah, You are my Lord, there is none worthy of worship except You.
You Created me and I am Your slave; and I abide by Your Covenant and
Promise as best I can. I take refuge in You from the evil that I
committed and I am grateful to You for the blessing that You Conferred
on me. I acknowledge my sin, so forgive me, for verily none can
forgive sins except You(."]Al-Bukhaari[ The Prophet, sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, also said,"Allaahumma inni a'oothu bika min ash
shiqaaqi wan nifaaqi wa soo'u al akhlaaq )O Allaah, I seek refuge with
you from dissension, hypocrisy and bad morals."]An-Nasaa'i[
• Avoiding exaggeration in making an invocation rhyme: A Muslim should
not exaggerate in making a supplication rhyme because this is a state
of humility and submissiveness. Ibn 'Abbaas, May Allaah Be Pleased
with him, said, "Avoid rhymes in supplication for the Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and his Companions, May Allaah Be
Pleased with them, used to avoid it." ]Al-Bukhaari[
Some of the righteous people said, "Invoke Allaah The Exalted with a
humble and mild tongue, not one that is eloquent and quick."
• Invoking Allaah The Almighty for one's self and then for others.
Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}"Our Lord, Forgive us and our
brothers who preceded us in faith and Put not in our hearts ]any[
resentment toward those who have believed. Our Lord, indeed You are
Kind and Merciful."{]Quran 59:10[ The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, used to invoke Allaah The Almighty for himself first before
invoking Him for any other person. ]At-Tirmithi[
• Avoiding supplicating Allaah The Almighty against one's self,
family, wealth or children. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, said,"Do not supplicate Allaah against yourselves, your
children or your wealth."]Muslim[
• Supplicating Allaah The Exalted for fellow brothers in their
absence. The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
said,"The supplication of a Muslim for another Muslim in his absence
is accepted by Allaah. He has an appointed angel at his head and every
time he supplicates good for his brother, the angel would say: "Aameen
and for you the same."]Muslim[
• Invoking Allaah The Almighty for whoever does you a favor. The
Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said,"If a favor is performed
for someone and he says to the one who performed it, 'May Allaah
Reward you.' He would be rewarding him perfectly."]At-Tirmithi and
An-Nasaa'i[ The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also
said,"Whoever does you a favor, reward him for it. And if you cannot
find the means of doing so, then keep supplicating for him until you
think that you have rewarded him adequately."]Abu Daawood and
An-Nasaa'i[
• Asking righteous people for supplications. A Muslim should ask his
fellow brothers to supplicate Allaah The Almighty for him especially
the righteous people. It was narrated that 'Umar ibn Al-Khattaab, May
Allaah Be Pleased with him, said, "I asked the Prophet, sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, for permission to perform 'Umrah and he granted it
to me and said, 'O brother, remember us in your supplication and do
not forget us.' The words he said pleased me more than could all that
is in the life of this world." ]At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah[
• Avoiding supplicating Allaah The Almighty for a sin or the severance
of kinship. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"A
servant shall continue to have his supplications answered so long as
he does not supplicate for sins or the severance of kinship."]Muslim[
• Remembering Allaah The Exalted, obeying Him and performing good
deeds. Being conscious of Allaah The Exalted, diligent on performing
acts of worship, abandoning sins and evils and hastening to repentance
makes supplication more likely to be answered. Allaah The Almighty
Says )what means(:}"Indeed, Allaah only Accepts from the righteous
]who fear Him[.{]Quran 5:27[ It was narrated that Allaah The Almighty
said in the Qudsi Hadeeth,"Whoever keeps himself busy with the Quran
and remembering Me, I Will Give him the best of all those who ask of
Me."]At-Tirmithi[
• Being keen on having lawful sustenance. The Prophet, sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, said,"O people, Allaah Is Good and He Accepts only
that which is good. And Allaah Commanded the believers as He Commanded
the Messengers by saying )what means(:}"O messengers, eat from the
good foods and work righteousness. Indeed, I, of what you do, Am
Knowing.{"]Quran 23:51[ And He Says )what means(:}O you who have
believed, eat from the good things which We have provided for you and
be grateful to Allaah if it is ]indeed[ Him that you worship.{]Quran
2:172[He then mentioned )the case of( a man who has travelled a long
distance – unkempt and dusty – and raises his hands towards the
heavens and says: 'O Lord, O Lord, while his food, drink, clothing are
from unlawful means and he is fed with unlawful food. Then how could
his supplication be answered?"]Muslim[
Ibraaheem ibn Adham, May Allaah Have mercy upon him, was once asked,
"Why are our supplications to Allaah The Exalted not answered?" He
answered, "Because your hearts have died due to ten things."
"1- You know Allaah The Almighty but do not obey Him.
2- You know the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, but do not
follow his Sunnah )tradition(.
3- You recite the Quran but do not act upon it.
4- You enjoy the Blessings of Allaah The Exalted without giving thanks.
5- You know of Paradise but do not exert any effort to enter it.
6- You know of Hell but you do not exert any effort to escape it.
7- You know of Satan but do not oppose him.
8- You know of death but do not prepare for it.
9- You bury your dead but do not learn from their example.
10- And in your state of slumber, you focus your attention on the
shortcomings of others while neglecting your own."

Women site, - Contentment is Bliss

Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, traveled to
Makkah after he had become blind. Upon his arrival the people hastened
to him and kept on asking him to make supplication for them, and he
did, as Allaah always accepted his supplication. 'Abdullaah ibn
As-Saa'ib, may Allaah be pleased with him, said, "I came to him when I
was still a young boy and became acquainted with him, so he knew me
and said to me, 'Are you the one who recites the Quran for the people
of Makkah?' I replied, 'Yes.' Then I asked him, 'You supplicate to
Allaah for all the people, so why do you not supplicate to Allaah for
yourself so that He would cure you?' He smiled, and said, 'O son! The
decree of Allaah is better for me than my sight.'"
This is the satisfaction that the Companions, may Allaah be pleased
with them, adjusted themselves to, and the decree of Allaah The
Almighty became more beloved to them than their desires, and so they
loved nothing more than what Allaah the Almighty had decreed. 'Umar
ibn 'Abd Al-'Azeez, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said, "I do not
want anything except what Allaah The Almighty decrees." What confirms
the importance of this satisfaction is that the Prophet, sallallaahu
'alayhi wa sallam, would ask Allaah The Almighty to grant him
satisfaction with His decree, and it is well-known that the Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, only asked Allaah The Almighty for the
highest ranks. Satisfaction is sincerely giving precedence to all that
Allaah The Almighty has ordained, without being hesitant or objecting.
This is exactly what the righteous predecessors sought and strived
for. They were fully content in matters pertaining to their fate and
what Allaah The Almighty had inscribed in the Preserved Slate and
never desired anything contrary to what He had decreed for them.
However, as for matters of religion that pertain to His orders or
prohibitions, one must always progress and aspire to what is better.
The righteous predecessors, may Allaah be pleased with them, would
advise each other to be satisfied and get used to it as they knew its
high rank. 'Umar )Al-Faarooq(, may Allaah be pleased with him, wrote
to Abu Moosa Al-Ash'ari, may Allaah be pleased with him, saying, "All
that is good lies in satisfaction. If you are able to be satisfied,
please do so, otherwise, be patient." Luqmaan, may Allaah exalt his
mention, would advise his son, saying, "I advise you to be endowed
with certain characteristics that would bring you closer to Allaah The
Almighty and would keep you away from His dissatisfaction: to worship
Allaah The Almighty Alone without associating any other deity with
Him, and to be satisfied with His decree in anything that you like or
dislike." The one who adjusts himself to this would lead a good life
as distress and worries would not reach his heart. Indeed, how could
that be when Allaah The Almighty has become pleased with him, and he
with Allaah? Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Whoever does
righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer - We
will surely cause him to live a good life,{]Quran 16:97[ Some of the
righteous predecessors, may Allaah have mercy upon them, interpreted
"good life" as a life of satisfaction and contentment.
Once, 'Umar ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allaah be pleased with him, became
angry with his wife 'Aatikah, may Allaah be pleased with her, and said
to her, "By Allaah, I will upset you." She said, "Can you drive me
away from Islam after Allaah The Almighty has guided me to it?" He
replied, "No." She then said, "Then how can you upset me?" She meant
by that that she was satisfied with the decree of Allaah The Almighty,
and that nothing could have brought her distress except being driven
away from Islam, and there is no way 'Umar, may Allaah be pleased with
him, could ever have done that.
There are three conditions for being truly satisfied with Allaah The Almighty:
First: Being content at times of both blessings and afflictions alike,
as one believes that Allaah the Almighty chooses what is best for him.
This is what happened with some of the righteous predecessors, may
Allaah have mercy upon them, as they were patient and satisfied when
they were afflicted with hardship. When Sulaymaan ibn Al-Ghaazi, may
Allaah have mercy upon him, went to condole 'Umar ibn 'Abd Al-'Azeez,
may Allaah have mercy upon him, upon the death of his son, 'Abd
Al-Malik, 'Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, said to him, "I seek
Allaah's refuge from wanting something that is contrary to what He
likes, as this does not change the affliction and His good treatment
of me." It was narrated on the authority of Ibraaheem An-Nakhaa'i, may
Allaah have mercy upon him, that Umm Al-Aswad was paralyzed and her
daughter grieved, so she told her "Do not be sad. O Allaah, if this is
something good then please increase it."
Second: Abandoning disputes unless they are related to any of the
rights of Allaah The Almighty or His Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam. Having conflict with others for the sake of one's desires
drives satisfaction away, disturbs its purity and alters its
sweetness.
Third: Refraining from continually asking of people. Allaah The
Almighty Says )what means(:}An ignorant ]person[ would think them
self-sufficient because of their restraint, but you will know them by
their ]characteristic[ sign. They do not ask people persistently ]or
at all[. And whatever you spend of good - indeed, Allah is Knowing of
it.{]Quran 2:273[
Regarding this trait, Thawbaan, may Allaah be pleased with him,
narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Who
will guarantee me this trait so that I will guarantee him
Paradise?"Thawbaan said, "I." The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, replied:"Do not ask people for anything."After that, he never
asked anyone for anything, even if his whip fell while riding, he
would get off and pick it up himself without asking anyone to hand it
to him. ]Ahmad[
Satisfaction is the Peak of Faith
Abu Ad-Dardaa', may Allaah be pleased with him, said, "There are four
traits at the peak of faith: patience, satisfaction with destiny,
sincerity in reliance, and submission to Allaah The Almighty." Ibn
Al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said: "Satisfaction is one
of the deeds of the heart that is the equivalent of Jihaad, which is
one of the deeds of the limbs ]body[, for each one of them is the peak
of Faith."
Deprivation is in fact a Blessing from Allaah The Almighty
Sufyaan Ath-Thawri, may Allaah have mercy upon him, said that if
Allaah The Almighty deprives His servant of something, it is in fact a
blessing; when Allaah The Almighty deprives His slave, it is not
because He is miserly or unable to give, but because He chooses what
is best for His believing slave, and for a certain wisdom. Allaah The
Almighty never decrees anything bad for His believing slave, whether
that decree brings happiness or misery to the slave. Thus, even when
Allaah The Almighty deprives His believing slave, it is in fact a
blessing, and the affliction is for his well-being, even if it is in
the form of an affliction. Due to the ignorance of the slave and his
injustice, he considers that bliss is the only thing to give him
pleasure in the worldly life. If man was truly knowledgeable, he would
have considered all that Allaah The Almighty decreed as a blessing.
This was the state of the righteous predecessors, may Allaah have
mercy upon them. The slave will never find the sweetness of faith
except through this. The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
said:"Whoever is content with Allaah as a God, Islam as a religion and
Muhammad as a messenger, has certainly felt the sweetness of faith."
O Allaah! Make us satisfied with Your decree and bless our destiny so
that we would not wish to hasten something that You have delayed or
delay something that You have hastened.

Women site, - The Dilemma of Ill Thoughts

The disease of ill thoughts is one of the most fatal diseases that can
destroy individuals and communities. Once it becomes deep-rooted in
the soul of man, it destroys all ties of intimacy and affection and
incites hatred and resentment. Some people, whose hearts are morally
diseased, only look at others through dark glasses. For them, all
people are, by default, suspects, or even guilty.
There is no doubt that having ill thoughts about others contradicts
the teachings of the Noble Quran, the Sunnah and the guidance of the
righteous predecessors. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}O you
who have believed, avoid much ]negative[ assumption. Indeed, some
assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of
you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest
it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and
Merciful.{]Quran 49:12[
The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"Beware of ill
thoughts, for ill thoughts represent the worst of false speech. Do not
look for other's faults. Do not spy on one another."The Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, also taught Muslims how to think well
of others. A man came to him and said, "My wife has delivered a black
baby )and I suspect that he is not my child(." The Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, asked him:"Have you got camels?"The man
said, "Yes." The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, asked:"What
is their color?"The man said, "They are reddish )brown(." The Prophet,
sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, asked:"Are any of them grey?"He said,
"There are grey ones among them." The Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, asked:"From where do you think this color came to them?"The
man said, "It probably resulted from hereditary disposition." The
Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam said:"Similarly, this )your
child( might be a hereditary disposition."]Muslim and Al-Bukhaari,
with the wording of Muslim[
The righteous predecessors, may Allaah have mercy upon them, avoided
this evil quality. They, may Allaah have mercy upon them, would seek
excuses for Muslims to the extent that some of them would say, "I seek
seventy excuses for my brother's misdeed, then I say that he might
have an excuse that I do not know about." Why we do not follow the
example of the righteous predecessors, may Allaah have mercy upon
them, in this regard? Those who think ill of Muslims follow the
example of the man who said to the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, "This division is not based on justice and it was not intended
to win the pleasure of Allaah," when he was referring to some wealth
that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam had divided and
distributed.
Some scholars divided ill thoughts into two types, both of which are
from the grave major sins:
Ill thoughts about Allaah: This type is one of the most heinous crimes
and sins because it attributes to Allaah what is improper for His
generosity and benevolence.
Ill thoughts about Muslims: This type is also a grave major sin
because whoever judges his brother based on ill thoughts, the devil
will make him belittle his brother, deny his rights, slander him and
spy on him. Obviously, all of these things are forbidden destructive
acts. Some scholars have said, "If you see a person who always thinks
ill of people and seeks to expose their faults, you should know that
he is an evil person. The believer always seeks excuses for others
because he is good and righteous, whereas, the hypocrite searches for
the faults and defects of others given his evil nature."
Hence, dear Muslim, beware of ill thoughts. We advise you to
supplicate to Allaah to protect you from them. If you cannot dismiss
your ill thoughts, then the least you can do is to remain silent and
avoid speaking about them. If you manage to get rid of these ill
thoughts, then you would have escaped a grave danger. Otherwise,
perhaps you will not be saved.

Dought & clear, - His family are criticizing him for staying with them and not getting married; how should he deal with them?.

I treat my family well, but they are not treating me in the same way.
Sometimes they shame me because I still am unmarried and staying with
them. From my simple salary, 200 LE, I try to help at home. I am a
governmental clerk at education ministry. I wanted to study another
field, actually I did not want to work for the government, but I
listened to them. They were saying a lot of things about the
advantages of working for the government; such as stability and
pension, etc. I became a clerk. Now I cannot get married. I am 34
years old, I avoid being disobedient to my parents. But I have dignity
and I want to protect it when they say such things to me, especially
my mother when she says "you still are unmarried staying with us". How
shall I behave with them? I try to repress my anger a lot but until
when?!.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Your parents have great rights over you and are entitled to respect
and kind treatment, even if they mistreat you, and even if they try to
make you leave Islam and join the caravan of shirk – Allaah forbid.
This is a right that is guaranteed to them by Islam. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you
be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old
age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at
them but address them in terms of honour"
[al-Isra' 17:23]
"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with
Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but
behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who
turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your
return, and I shall tell you what you used to do"
[Luqmaan 31:15]
Remember this even though you think that your treating them kindly and
honouring them is destroying your "dignity". Remember this even though
you are saying "how long can I suppress my anger?"
You have to carry on putting up with your family's mistreatment of you
and you have to carry on honouring them and treating them kindly, even
if they mistreat you and hurt you.
Secondly:
What we advise you to do in practical terms is as follows:
1 – Be patient and seek reward with Allaah for the things you are
suffering from your family. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"And seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer) and truly, it is
extremely heavy and hard except for Al-Khaashi'oon [i.e. the true
believers in Allaah — those who obey Allaah with full submission, fear
much from His punishment, and believe in His Promise (Paradise) and in
His Warnings (Hell)]"
[al-Baqarah 2:45].
2 – Honour them and treat them kindly, and show kindness to them by
giving them gifts, taking care of them, and speaking nicely to them.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet(peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "Give one another gifts, so that you will
love one another." Narrated by al-Bukhaari inal-Adab al-Mufrad(594);
classed as hasan by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar inal-Talkhees al-Habeer(3/70)
and by al-Albaani inIrwa' al-Ghaleel(1601).
3 – Advise them and urge them to adhere to the rulings of sharee'ah
and good manners, with wisdom and beautiful preaching.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Invite (mankind, O Muhammadصلىالله عليه وسلم( to the way of your Lord
)i.e. Islam( with wisdom )i.e. with the Divine Revelation and the
Qur'aan( and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is
better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His path,
and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided"
[al-Nahl 16:125]
4 – Use a variety of da'wah methods, and do not stick to just one
method. Audio and video tapes and booklets may have an effect in
changing their behaviour.
5 – Seek the help of knowledgeable people and seeker of knowledge who
are held in high esteem by them, and ask them to visit you and speak
to them and advise them.
6 – Strive to seek a halaal income, which will enable you to get
married. You can look for another job, or travel to a Muslim country
to work there.
7 – Always pray that they will be guided.
We ask Allaah to enable you to do that which He loves and which
pleases Him, and to make things easy for you, and to guide your family
to righteousness and wisdom.
And Allaah is the source of strength.

Dought & clear, - What are the limits within which parents may interfere in their son’s marriage? Is he sinning if he goes against their wishes?.

I have got to know a girl who recently became Muslim (she was
Christian before) and we have agreed to get married, but my family are
strongly opposed to that.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We hope that you will pay attention to the things you have done that
go against sharee'ah, such as getting to know that girl who is a
stranger (non-mahram) to you, talking to her, making friends with her
and other shortcomings to which you have admitted. You should
understand that these sins mean that you must give them up, regret
doing them and resolve not to do them again, as well as praying a
great deal for forgiveness and doing righteous deeds.
With regard to your relationship with this girl, it is not permissible
for you to talk to her or see her, let alone make friends with her and
be alone with her. It is good that you and she have thought of
marriage, because it is the only legitimate shar'i way that you can be
together, so do your best to attain that; but if that is not possible
for you, then this relationship should be ended completely and perhaps
Allaah will compensate you with someone better than her and will
compensate her with someone better than you.
We have discussed the issue of correspondence between the sexes being
haraam in the answer to question no. 26890and 10221.
With regard to haraam infatuation and its effects, and marriage to the
one with whom one is infatuated, please see the answer to question no.
47405.
Secondly:
With regard to your family's objections to this marriage, you should
note that the parents' relationship to their son's marriage may take
several forms, such as the following;
1-
Not approving of any girl whom he chooses for himself as a wife.
2-
Not approving of a girl whom he chooses, but their objection is for
legitimate shar'i reasons, such as if she has a bad reputation, or she
is not Muslim – even though marriage to a Christian or Jewish woman is
basically permissible.
3-
Not approving of a girl whom he chooses, but it is not for any
legitimate shar'i reason, rather it is for personal or worldly
reasons, such as if she is not beautiful or is not from a good family,
and he is not infatuated with her and he does not fear any harm to
himself if he does not marry her.
4-
The same scenario as that mentioned above, but he is infatuated with
her, and fears fitnah for himself if he does not marry her.
5-
Forcing him to marry a girl whom they choose for him, even if she is
religiously committed and of good character.
It seems to us from the rulings on the scenarios mentioned above that
the son should obey his parents in the second and third cases, and
that it is definitely obligatory for him to do so in the second case.
In the second case the matter is clear and he has to obey them,
because he is going to do something that is bad for their son and may
also affect them.
In the third case it is permissible for him, but obeying them is
obligatory, and what is obligatory takes precedence over what is
permissible.
As for the first, fourth and fifth scenarios, it does not seem that he
is obliged to obey them, because choosing a wife is the son's right,
not the parents'; they may intervene in some cases but not in all.
Preventing him from marrying any girl he chooses, regardless of
whether she is religiously-committed or not, is pointless and he does
not have to obey them.
The same applies if he is infatuated with a woman and fears fitnah if
he does not marry her. In this case he does not have to obey them if
they tell him to leave her and not marry her, because that may lead to
evil and fitnah that Islam came to prevent.
It is definite that he should not obey them in the fifth case, which
is where they force him to marry a girl whom they have chosen. This is
not a matter in which he is obliged to obey them. Rather it is akin to
food and drink: he may choose whatever he wants to eat and drink, and
they have no right to control that.
Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The parents have no right to force their son to marry someone he does
not want. Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen (i.e., Ibn Taymiyah – may Allaah have
mercy on him) said: Neither of the parents has the right to force
their son to marry someone whom he does not want, and if he refuses
then he is not sinning by disobeying them, because no one has the
right to force him to eat food he finds off-putting when there is food
that he wants to eat, and marriage is like that and more so. Food that
one is forced to eat is unpleasant for a short while, but a forced
marriage lasts for a long time, and it harms a person and he cannot
leave it. End quote.
Al-Adaab al-Shar'iyyah(1/447)
Based on this, we say:
If that girl has embraced Islam and become a good Muslim, and you are
infatuated with her, and you fear fitnah if you leave her, then we
think that you should marry her, even if your mother does not agree.
That applies even more so if you fear that her religious commitment
may be affected if she has no one to look after her.
We advise you to try to convince your parents so that you can combine
two good things: obeying them and marrying the one with whom you are
infatuated. You can get married without your mother's knowledge, and
try to guide her and advise her, and say du'aa' for her and for your
father.
You should remember that because it is permissible for you to marry
whomever you want and you do not have to obey your parents (in this
matter), you should not fear their du'aa' against you or their being
angry with you, because that is a sinful du'aa' which Allaah will not
accept from them, in sha Allaah, unless you are wronging them and
transgressing against them. Because it is permissible for you to marry
without adhering to their wishes, you will not be sinning or doing
wrong.
See the answers to questions no. 82724and 84052.
See also 21831and 5512.
In those answers you will see more examples of that which we have
discussed above.
See also the answer to question no. 5053for a discussion on the rights
that your mother has over you, and your rights over your mother.
Thirdly:
You should remember that it is not permissible for you to marry this
girl without her having a wali (guardian). If she has a wali from
among her family who is Muslim, then he must agree to the marriage –
but a kaafir cannot be her guardian if she becomes Muslim. If there is
no Muslim among her guardians then a Muslim should act as her wali,
such as a shar'i judge (qaadi) or Mufti, or the imam of an Islamic
centre. Whatever the case, it is not permissible for her to get
married without a wali.
And Allaah knows best.

Dought & clear, - The mother’s rightsover her daughter are great but the husband’s rights over his wife are greater.

I have two situations that are related with which I ask two questions.
I hope I can be helped. The situation is as follows and I do not know
how to fix it. My mother is very demanding and fights with me all the
time about my husband who has been very good to me and my children and
her. She wants him to take her traveling and other things that involve
spending a lot of time with her and he does not wish to do due to his
demanding job as a doctor and because he feels that they will not get
along. She visits our home at least 4-5 months every year and makes me
take her out on a daily basis not even worrying that it makes me
neglect my home and children. She is also very busy trying to make her
own businesses so she fought with me about taking my brother or sister
to live with me (they are 16 and 18) and tells me it is my right and I
don't need to even have my husband's permission on the matter. She
also refuses to pay a loan that her and my father (who passed away 2
years ago) made me take when I was in college attending a university I
didn't even want to attend when I was 16 years old, this loan has
destroyed my name making it impossible for me to buy anything with my
name. She has done this to many people she owes money. On top of this,
before my father passed away, he had written all properties and money
in her name to make it easier to disperse to each of us (we are four
girls and one boy) rather than involving an outside party; after he
died, she said it is all in her name, and that she paid for a lot of
his businesses before they succeded so she will keep all the money as
her own until she dies. I even gave her about $100,000 (all the money
I have ever saved and worked for) because she pretended that she was
going to use it to pay off my dad's debts and she used it for a summer
house instead and denies I ever gave her a penny since I never told
anyone else because I wanted it between me, my mom and Allah swt even
though I know she has a lot of money of her own. My husband was tired
of this (and many more bad situations) and so he confronted her about
the least of these problems – the old school loan, that was taken over
6 years before we were even married and keeps on multiplying in debt
and on my name. He then continued to confront her about the many wrong
things that have happened and involved his family too. She got very
angry and didn't want to speak to either of us. Naturally, I wanted to
fulfill my obligations to my mother so I managed to get on good
speaking terms with her so I do not defy silaat al rahim. We speak
fine most of the time but after a couple weeks of that she will go
back to insulting my husband, telling me to defy him and disobey him
in order for him to apologize to her, and insulting me and my husband
with very hurtful and shameful words. This relationship is badly
affecting my marriage and my time at home and with my children. I
cannot think about anything else and my husband doesn't want to
apologize because he is right and feels my mom has not changed her bad
ways and will not even pay off the old loan. And at the same time it
is extremely difficult to communicate with her on a healthy level. We
live in two different countries (me in America and her in Egypt) and
she says if I love her and don't want to upset Allah swt that I will
bring my three kids and visit her, my husband does not want me to
leave him and she knows this and insists that I am being a bad muslim
and that Allah swt will punish me for disobeying my mother. I have
tried to advise her to fear Allah swt and she gets mad and says I
should obey her and be against my husband. My husband tells me to try
to keep good ties with her as much as I can, and is a very good
husband and father otherwise, Alhamdolilah we have a very happy
marriage and three healthy children. And so my questions are: 1. What
are my obligations to my mother in such an ugly situation, keeping in
mind that she continues to insult my husband in our phone calls (we
live in two different countries) and asks me to disobey and defy him
and cause problems in order for him to apologize to her. This
communication has left me emotionally drained, it is what I think
about most of my days and it wastes so much of time that I can use
with studying or caring for my home. What is the minimum in regards to
visiting and speaking to her so that Allah swt will not be angry with
me and at the same time I will fulfill my obligation to her and not
have to worry about her saying that Allah swt is upset. 2. Who is
responsible for this loan. Keeping in mind that I was forced to attend
this university, told to take a loan by mother and father, was only
16-18 years old and my husband was not told about this loan before
marriage. Also, my mother has more than enough money to pay it off.
Your help is deeply appreciated and greatly needed as soon as
possible.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The mother's status in sharee'ah cannot be denied. Allaah has enjoined
that her children should honour her, and He has forbidden them to
disobey her; He has ruled that the mother is the most entitled of
people to one's good company, as it says in the well-known hadeeth,
when a man said: O Messenger of Allaah, which of the people is most
deserving of my good companionship? He said: "Your mother, then your
mother, then your mother, then your father, then the next closest and
the next closest." Narrated by Muslim (2548).
This is the mother's right, and that is her status. It is not
permissible for her to consume her children's wealth unlawfully,
rather she must give each one his or her rights, and divide the estate
in accordance with the laws of Allaah. It is also not permissible for
the mother to incite her daughter against her husband and spoil the
good relationship between them. These actions of this mother are evil
deeds which are not acceptable in Islam, and they bring the threat of
sin and punishment.
Perhaps the greatest way in which you can honour your mother is by
deterring her from consuming haraam wealth and doing haraam things,
and stopping her from wronging people unlawfully, and remind her of
the sin involved in spoiling the relationship between husband and
wife, and the sin of gheebah (backbiting), reviling and insulting
others, and other haraam things that she is doing, such as tabarruj
(wanton display) and travelling without a mahram, if these are true in
her case.
With regard to your siblings who want your mother to live with you and
your husband, you are not obliged to do that according to sharee'ah,
rather it is the duty of your mother, and in this case the right
belongs to your husband: if he agrees to that, all well and good,
otherwise you are not obliged to do this, rather we do not advise your
husband to accept this situation, because they are not neglected or in
need of such a thing, they are not poor and in need of someone to
spend on them, and your mother is not unable to take care of their
affairs. Taking this responsibility from her is helping her to do the
things that she is doing that go against Islam, and to neglect her
duties, and pass on this burden to your husband, and put pressure on
you and your household with something that is not required of you in
the first place, let alone the unacceptable things that may result
from your sister living in the same house as a man who is not her
mahram (your husband). We do not advise you to accept this situation
under any circumstances.
Secondly:
The status and rights of the mother do not supersede the rights of the
husband, rather the husband's rights are greater and take precedence
over your mother's rights. Your obedience to him takes precedence over
your obedience to her, and the wise wife strives to please her husband
by doing what he wants so long as it is not contrary to sharee'ah, and
she strives to honour her mother in ways that do not go against her
husband's commands. If there is a conflict of interest, then she
should put her husband's commands and wishes first.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked
about a woman who got married, and was no longer under her parents'
care. Which is better – honouring her parents or obeying her husband?
He replied: When a woman gets married, her husband has more authority
over her than her parents, and obeying her husband is more obligatory
for her. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):"Therefore the
righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their
husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allaah orders them
to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husband's property)" [al-Nisa'
4:34]. And in a hadeeth the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: "This world is temporary conveniences and the best of
its comforts is a believing wife, who when you look at her she pleases
you and if you tell her to do something she obeys you, and if you are
away from her she protects you with regard to herself and your
wealth.". InSaheeh Abi Haatimit is narrated that Abu Hurayrah said:
The Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "If a woman offers her five (daily prayers) and fasts her month
and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter Paradise
from whichever of its gates she wants." In al-Tirmidhi it is narrated
that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger
of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Any woman
who dies when her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise."
This was narrated by al-Tirmidhi, who said it is a hasan hadeeth. It
was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet(peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) said: "If I were to order anyone to prostrate to
anyone, I would have ordered women to prostrate to their husbands."
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi who said it is a hasan hadeeth. It was also
narrated by Abu Dawood with the wording: "I would have ordered women
to prostrate to their husbands because of the rights that Allaah has
given them over them." Inal-Musnadit is narrated from Anas that the
Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "It is not
acceptable for any human to prostrate to another, but if it were
acceptable for any human to prostrate to another, I would have ordered
women to prostrate to their husbands, because of the greatness of the
rights they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if
there were sores from his feet to the top of his head flowing with
pus, then she licked them, she would not have given him all his
rights."
And he quoted ahaadeeth about the virtue of obeying the husband.
There are many ahaadeeth on this topic from the Prophet(peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him). Zayd ibn Thaabit said: The husband
is a sayyid (lord or master) in the Book of Allaah. Then he quoted the
verse (interpretation of the meaning):"They both found her lord (i.e.
her husband) at the door" [Yoosuf 12:25]. 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab said:
Marriage is slavery, so let one of you look to whom he is giving his
beloved daughter to be a slave to. In al-Tirmidhi and elsewhere it is
narrated that the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "I urge you to treat women well, for they are like prisoners
with you."
So the woman is like a slave of her husband, or like a prisoner; she
should not go out of his house without his permission, whether she is
told to do so by her father, her mother or anyone else, according to
scholarly consensus.
If a man wants to take her to another place, so long as he is doing
what is required of him, and observing the sacred limits of Allaah
with regard to her, and her father tells her not to obey him in that,
then she must obey her husband and not her father, because in that
case the parents are wrongdoers, and they have no right to tell her
not to obey someone like this husband, and she does not have the right
to obey her mother if she tells her to leave him or to cause trouble
to him so that he will divorce her, such as demanding more maintenance
and more clothing, and demanding (the deferred portion of) her mahr so
that he may divorce her. It is not permissible for her to obey either
of her parents by divorcing him if he fears Allaah with regard to her.
In the fourSunansandSaheeh Ibn Abi Haatimit is narrated that Thawbaan
said: The Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when there is
nothing wrong, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her."
According to another hadeeth: "The women who ask for khula' and the
women who make a wanton display of themselves are indeed hypocrites."
But if both or one of her parents tells her to do something that
involves obedience to Allaah, such as praying regularly, speaking the
truth and fulfilling trusts, and tells her not to squander or waste
her money, and other things that have been enjoined or forbidden by
Allaah and His Messenger, then she must obey them in that, even if the
command comes from someone other than her parents, so how about if it
comes from her parents?
If her husband tells her not to do something that is enjoined by
Allaah, and he tells her to do something that Allaah has forbidden,
then she should not obey him in that. The Prophet(peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "There is no obedience to any created
being if it involves disobedience towards the Creator." If a master
orders his slave to do something that involves disobedience towards
Allaah, it is not permissible for him to obey him by disobeying Him,
so how can a woman obey her husband or one of her parents by
committing sin? All goodness is in obeying Allaah and His Messenger,
and all evil is in disobeying Allaah and His Messenger. End
quote.Majmoo' al-Fataawa(32/261-264).
This is a strong answer based on knowledge, and it is sufficient to
explain what is meant, which is that it is not permissible for your
mother to spoil the relationship between you and your husband, and it
is not permissible for you to obey her in that, and your husband's
right to your obedience is greater than your mother's.
Thirdly:
Just as you are not obliged to take care of any of your siblings
because of your commitment of your husband and the requirement that he
should first agree to that, the same applies to your visiting your
mother with your children. This is not permissible except with the
consent of your husband, and you have done well to refuse your
mother's request. We affirm that this refusal is Islamically
acceptable, especially since you have no mahram to travel with you.
With regard to limiting the number of your mother's visits to you,
this is something that is also up to your husband, and you can work it
out with him. The husband has the right to prevent anyone who he
thinks is a trouble-maker from entering his house, even if they are
your family. As you are in agreement and you have a good relationship,
then the matter is simple. All you have to do is agree on a specific
number and time for her visits, and stipulate that to her. Your
husband has every right to do this; indeed we think that if he stops
her altogether he will be doing the right thing, but there is the hope
that if her visits are restricted to only a few, and do not affect
your family's happiness, then there is no reason why they should be
prevented, and there is nothing wrong with tolerating them.
Determining the limit is up to you and you should consult one another
and come to some agreement.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on
him) said: "And not allow into your houses anyone whom you dislike"
means, they (wives) should not allow anyone to enter the house if you
(the husband) do not want him or her to enter, even if it is her
mother or her father. It is not permissible for her to let her mother,
father, sister, brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, paternal aunt
or maternal aunt into her husband's house, if he objects to that.
Attention is drawn to this because some women – Allaah forbid – are
bad even to their daughters. If they see that the daughters are
settled and happy with their husbands, they become jealous – Allaah
forbid – even though they are mothers, and they try to spoil things
between the daughter and her husband. So the husband has the right to
stop such a mother from entering his house, and he has the right to
say to his wife: She should not enter my house. He has the right to
prevent her according to sharee'ah, and he has the right to prevent
his wife from going to see her, because she is namaamah (one who
spreads malicious gossip) and a troublemaker. The Prophet(peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "No spreader of malicious
gossip will enter Paradise." End quote.Sharh Riyaadh
al-Saaliheen(2/91, hadeeth no. 276),
Fourthly:
It seems that the sin of the riba-based loan that is mentioned in your
question is borne by you, because you were an adult and responsible
for your dealings. So try to get back what is rightfully yours from
your mother, and stop the mounting interest payments that result from
your delay in repaying it. Try not to pay back anything but the
original amount without the interest (riba). If you are not able to do
that, then there is no blame on you, but it is essential to repent
sincerely, because riba is a major sin.
We ask Allaah to guide your mother and to reconcile between you and
your husband.And Allaah knows best.