'' Our Lord ! grant us good in this world and good in the hereafter and save us from the torment of the Fire '' [Ameen]
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{in Arab} :->
Rabbanaa aatinaa fid-dunyaa hasanatan wafil aakhirati hasanatan waqinaa 'athaaban-naar/-
(Surah Al-Baqarah ,verse 201)
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years older than me. The problem is that from the first day, we have
not got on at all. I have thought of divorce, but I have three
children. I was not religious before, but now – praise be to Allah – I
never miss any prayer and I am raising my sons in Islam. Even though
we are living in Belgium, praise be to Allah my children speak Arabic
well. The problem is that my husband never prays, not even in Ramadan,
and he has never entered a mosque in his life, and he always reviles
Islam. By Allah, I am fed up with this life, but if I get divorced I
will be forced to go out to work and take off my hijab. I have not let
him be intimate with me for two months, since I read your fatwa on
this website. Now we are living in one house, but it is as if he is
not here; we do not speak and we do not sleep in the same room.
Praise be to Allah.
If your husband reviles Islam and does not pray, then it is not
permissible for you to stay married to him, because the one who
reviles Islam is a disbeliever according to scholarly consensus, and
the one who does not pray out of laziness is also a disbeliever,
according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions.
If the marriage contract was done at a time when the husband was not
praying or when he was reviling Islam, then the marriage was never
valid in the first place.
If the status of disbelief came after the marriage contract, and the
husband continued in his disbelief until your 'iddah ended, then you
are completely separated from him, and you are not permissible for him
except with a new marriage contract, on condition that he repent and
come back to Islam.
Based on that, it is not permissible for you to let him be intimate
with you or to be alone with you; rather he is a non-mahram to you.
Complete separation does not depend on him issuing a divorce (talaaq);
you are not permissible for him whether he issues a divorce or not.
Now you have two options:
1.To live with your children in the same house that this husband is
living in, on condition that you be separated completely from him and
that there be no risk of intimacy occurring, and that you tell him
that you are not permissible for him, and that intimacy with him when
he is still behaving this way is haraam;
2.To become completely independent and to look for work and
accommodation. Undoubtedly this is better and safer for you; perhaps
when you look you will find permissible work where you will not be
forced to take off your hijab.
If the problem is a choice between taking off the hijab and staying
with this husband who is not permissible for you, and there is the
fear that you may commit forbidden actions with him, then taking off
the hijab is less serious, but we hope that you will not be forced to
choose one of these two options and that Allah will bless your husband
by enabling him to repent and mend his ways, or that you will find a
job where you do not have to take off your hijab. There are many ways
of earning a living, such as teaching children in your house or their
house, or working as a seamstress or typist or translator, or working
in an Islamic centre, even if you have to move to another city, or you
could go back to a Muslim country.
Keep asking Allah may He be exalted, and beseeching Him, and do a lot
of righteous deeds.
We ask Allah to grant you relief and to take away your worry and
distress, and to protect you and your children.
And Allah knows best.
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