The problem of lust )a dad-son dialogue( – III

Son:Dad,were there more things that help increase one's faith?
Dad:One has to remember that he will stand before Allaah on theDay of
Reckoning when all secretsare disclosed. Nothing will be hidden from
Him, and the mouths of the disbelievers will besealed and their limbs
will testify against them. Allaah Aays )what means(:"Until, when they
reach it, their hearing and their eyes and their skins will testify
againstthem of what they used to do."]Quran 41: 20[
Now, let me ask you if it is possible for a person todo wrong without
his limbs being present with him? Allaah answers this question in the
Noble Quran )what means(:"And you were not covering yourselves, lest
your hearing testify against you or your sight or your skins, but you
assumed that Allaah does not know much of what you do."]Quran 41: 22[
Son:Is there any thing else?
Dad:Yes, son, a believer has to remember what Allaah has in store on
the Day of Resurrection for those who obey His commandments and keep
away from what He has forbidden.
Son:You mean the maidens ofParadise?
Dad:Exactly! These are thechaste women of Paradise whom Allaah
describes in the Noble Quran )what means(:"Indeed, We have produced
the women of Paradise in a ]new[ creation, and made them virgins,
devoted ]to their husbands[ and of equal age, for the companions of
the right ]who are[."]Quran 56: 35-38[
The Prophetis reported to have described them saying:"The first group
)of people( who will enterParadisewill be)glittering( like a
full-moon. They will neither spit therein nor blow their noses nor
relieve nature. Their utensils therein will be ofgold and their combs
of gold and silver; in their censers the aloes wood will be used, and
their sweat will smell like musk. Everyone of them will have two
wives; the marrow of the bones of the wives' legs will be seen through
the flesh out of excessive beauty. They )i.e. the people ofParadise(
will neither have differences nor hatred amongst themselves; their
hearts will be as if one heart, and they will be glorifying Allaah in
the morning and in the afternoon."]Al-Bukhaari[
Son:What else, dad?
Dad:You have to turn to Allaah, following the example of the Prophet
Yoosuf )Joseph(whenthe woman whom he worked for tried to seduce him.
The Noble Quran gives an account of him, saying:"He said, "My Lord,
prison is more to my liking than that to which they invite me. And if
You do not avert from me their plan, I might incline toward them and
]thus[ be of theignorant'."]Quran 12: 33[
My son! Turn to your Lord, raise your hands with humbleness to Allaah
in supplication, and realize that Allaah will not turn away those who
ask Him.
Besides, you have to strengthen your will. You have to train yourself
to bridle uncontrollable desires; you must never surrender to them.
But you have to know that this requires a tremendous amount of
training, because you arestruggling against your vicious instincts,
which are amplified and supported by the accursed Satan.
Son:Is that all?
Dad:No, son, there remains an important issue that was always
highlighted by the Prophet.
Son:You mean marriage, don't you?
Dad:Of course, son, may Allaah grant you success in your life.
Marriage enables one to enjoy what Allaah has made lawful for him.
This will surely prevent him from indulging in forbidden pleasures. If
a person of your age cannot afford to get married, he has to observe
fast on those days which were favoured by the Prophetsuch as Mondays
and Thursdays, or whatever ismost convenient. Fasting,as you know,
infuses piety in the heart. Allaah Says )what means(:"O you who have
believed, decreed uponyou is fasting as it was decreed upon those
before you that you may become righteous."]Quran 2: 183[
Moreover, fasting strengthens the will and determination, and
qualifies you to defeat your vicious instincts.
Son:Dad, what about masturbation?
Dad:O my son, it is a filthy and blameworthy habit. Moreover, it is
forbidden according to the Noble Quran and the authentic Sunnah.
Allaah Says)what means(:"And those who guard their private parts.
Except from their wives or those their right hands possess, for
indeed, they are not to be blamed."]Quran 70: 29-30[
These two verses indicatethat true believers shouldguard their private
parts from illegal sexual activity. There are two permissible outlets
for satisfying sexual desire. These are one's wife and one's slave.
Therefore, noway besides these two is permissible.
Also, practicing this blameworthy habit adversely affects the health
and leads to health problems. Moreover, masturbation is a main cause
of psychological disturbances, like depression and anxiety.
Ejaculation of sperms dueto masturbation is usuallyfollowed by fits of
remorse, which develops later into a sense of indifference. What is
worse is that one may practice this habit in a place where he cannot
remove his ritual impurity by taking a shower, causing him to either
miss the prayers intheir appointed time, or perform them in a state of
ritual impurity; and in either case, he will be sinful.
Son:So dad, how can one quit this filthy habit?
Dad:In order to quit this habit, one has to practisea few things.
First, one should strengthen his belief in Allaah. Second, one should
lower his gaze and avoid thinking about lust. Third, one should avoid
being alone. Fourth, one shouldkeep himself busy with beneficial
activities such as reading, useful sports and the like.