Dought & Clear, - He said to his wife, “I am sorry that I am a Muslim”; has he apostatised by doing that and what is the ruling on his marriage?.

I am a muslim by birth and I recently got married to a girl who had
reverted to Islam. i am from india and manymuslims here are very
backward in their practices etc.. She was continously asking me
questions about my relatives and why muslims are so backward etc.. I
lost my temper and I am ashamed to say that in my anger I told her
that Iwas sorry that I was a muslim. I immediately realised my mistake
but Isaid what I said. I am terribly ashamed of myself for saying such
a thing. Does this make mea apostate (kafir). I am a muslim and i
truly believe in islam in all its glory. I am ashamed and sorry for
what I said. Am i a kafir. Do i have to say the shahadah again? Is my
nikah nullified as sheis still a muslim. Do i have to do the nikah
again. Please answer at the earliest. I am really sorry for beingsuch
a bad muslim.
Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
The Muslims are not backward; rather the one who is backward is the
one who worships idols, cows and rats. The one who is backward is the
one who does not worship Allah, the One, the Almighty, and worships
his own whimsand desires, thus turningfrom a human being whom Allah
has honoured to an animal who follows his whims and desires and his
evil inclinations.
The history of Islam and the Muslims is a glorious history, filled
with great events that stand out in the history of all of mankind. The
one who studies the history of themiddle ages and the dark ages that
non-Muslims lived through will become certain that the origin ofthese
human civilisations, noble principles, refined manners and attitudes,
and beneficial sciences, all came from Islam and its people.
What any Muslim who hears anyone attacking Islam or the Muslims in
general must do is respond to him and explain to him that the mistakes
of some Muslims should not be the basis for passing judgement against
the religion of Allah and its followers, who include noble leaders,
honourable and righteous people, and courageous commanders and troops.
The people of India in particular have no right to speak of
backwardness until they kill the rat that they worship instead of
Allah,and they slaughter the cow that they call upon instead of Allah,
and they reject their numerous idolatrous religions and begin to
worship Allah, the One, the Almighty.
Secondly:
You should not have been embarrassed aboutbelonging to your religion
and you should not have felt sorry for being a Muslim; rather you
should be proud of it and praise Allah for this blessing that Allah
has bestowed upon you and with which He has favoured you, unlike
millions of people around you who disbelieve in Him and worship things
other than Him.
Thirdly:
The one who mocks the religion of Allah, or despises it, or makes fun
of its laws, or disavows the Muslims out of resentment towards their
religion, has gone beyond the pale of Islam, whether he said that in
earnest or in jest, because Allah, may He beexalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"If you ask them (about this), they declare: 'We were only talking
idly and joking.' Say: 'Was it at Allah, and His Ayat (proofs,
evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His
Messenger (SAW) that you were mocking?'
Make no excuse; you have disbelieved after you had believed. If We
pardon some of you, We will punish others amongst you because they
were Mujrimoon (disbelievers, polytheists,sinners, criminals, etc.)"
[at-Tawbah 9:65-66].
See also the answer to question no. 175838
Fourthly:
Your words to your wife,"I am sorry that I am a Muslim" may be
interpreted in two ways:
1.
That you said that out of resentment and hatred towards the religion
of Allah and rejecting it, in the sense that you wished that you had
been born and lived as anon-Muslim. This is apostasy from Islam, so
ifthis is what you meant by what you said, then you became an apostate
thereby, so you have to repent sincerely, ask for forgiveness and
regret it, and you have to enterthe faith anew by reciting the
shahaadatayn (twin declaration of faith).
With regard to your wife, if you uttered these words before
consummating the marriage with her, then the marriage was annulled
with immediate effect. If it was after consummation, if Allah enabled
you to repent before the end of the 'iddah, then she is still your
wife and the marriage remains valid. If your repentance and return to
Islam came after the end of the 'iddah, then the marriage was annulled
from the time the apostasy occurred.
For more information onthe impact of apostasy on marriage before and
after consummation, please see the answer toquestion no. 134339 .
2.
That you said that out of resentment towards some of the Muslims you
saw around you who were doing objectionable things andcommitting acts
of embarrassing foolishness; they were not people who adhere to the
teachings, rulings and etiquette of their religion and they were not
striving to live their lives in a way that wouldbenefit them or
others, so you wanted to express your resentmenttowards these people
and the embarrassment you felt at belonging to the same group as
them,out of resentment towards them and their objectionable deeds,
situation and attitude, not out of resentment towards their religion.
Ifthis is what you meant, then you did not become a kaafir thereby and
your wife did not become irrevocably separated from you. But you have
to ask Allah for forgiveness for these words and not say such things
again, because it is obviously wrong and because it implies hatredof
Muslims and resentment towards them in general, which is unfair and
unjust.
Ibn Baaz (may Allah havemercy on him) was asked:
Is making fun of the religion by mocking beards and shortening of the
thobe regarded askufr?
He replied:
That depends; if his intention is to make fun of the religion itself,
then it is apostasy, as Allah, may He be exalted,says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"Say: 'Was it at Allah, andHis Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses,
lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) and His Messenger (SAW) that you
were mocking?'
Make no excuse; you have disbelieved after you had believed."
[at-Tawbah 9:65-66].
But if he was making funof a particular individualfor other reasons
havingto do with the beard or shortening of the thobe, meaning that he
is strict,making fun of other matters concerning which this person is
strict but is careless about other matters even though he knows that
they are part of the religion, but it was not his intention to make
fun of the religion itself, and he only intended to make fun of that
person,then it is not apostasy. End quote.
Majmoo' Fataawa Ibn Baaz, 28/365.
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