Some drops come out ofhim after urinating, but if he waits he may miss the prayer in congregation

My question is about madhiy (prostatic fluid). When it comes out, I do
ghusl, then I go to pray, but when I come back tothe washroom – please
excuse me – I find some remaining drops comingout with the urine, and
sometimes I stay in the washroom for more than half an hour to make
sure that all of it has come out. My question is: should I make sure
that it has come out completely, or should I do ghusl then go to pray?
Please note that sometimes I miss some of the prayers in the mosque
for this reason, and sometimes I remain uncertain, in thatI go to the
mosque and pray then come back and I am still not sure whether I was
in a state of purity, so I offer the prayer again at home.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
What comes out following urination is usually wadiy, which is athick,
white liquid that comes out in the form ofdrops. As for madhiy
(prostatic fluid), it is what comes out following provocation
ofdesire.
Both of them invalidate wudoo', but they do not necessitate ghusl.
When you say, "When it comes out I do ghusl", perhaps you mean that
you washit. As for ghusl (full ablution), you do not have to do it;
rather you have to do wudoo'.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said,explaining the difference
between madhiy and wadiy: As for madhiy, it is a sticky, thin, clear
fluid that is emitted with or without desire; it does not gush out in
spurts, and it is not followed by exhaustion; and one may not feel it
coming out. It happens to both men and women.
As for wadiy, it is a thick,darkish fluid that resembles maniy (semen)
in its thickness, but differs from it in colour, and it has no smell.
It comes out following urination, when one is constipated,or when
carrying something heavy, and it comes out in the form ofone or two
drops and the like. The scholars areunanimously agreed that it is not
required to do ghusl when madhiy and wadiy are emitted.
End quote from al-Majmoo', 2/160
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allah preserve him) was asked: At the end of
urination, I notice some seminal fluid (maniy) coming out, and I do
notknow whether I have to do ghusl every time I urinate, or what
should Ido? Because I am not sure whether it has the same effect as
intercourse?
He replied: This "maniy" that comes out after urination is wadiy,
which is well known (and is not actually maniy). As it comes out after
urination and comes out in a stream (as opposed to gushing out), it
does not necessitate ghusl. However it does invalidate wudoo', so the
penis should be washed after that, then one should do wudoo', but it
is not necessary to do ghusl. Ghusl is only required when maniy gushes
out in spurts accompanied by feelingsof pleasure, and is not required
otherwise. As gushing out in spurts forcefully is not like the
emission of urine, whichcomes out in a stream orin drops, it does not
matter if it comes out like that.
End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah, 1/226
Secondly:
When you have relieved yourself, you have to wait until you are
certain that the flow has stopped, then clean yourself and do wudoo'.
If that leads to you missing the prayer in congregation, there is no
blame on you. But you should get ready forthe prayer before the time
comes, so long as you know that you need a long time to relieve
yourself.
The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked: There is a man
who suffers from urinaryincontinence. He purifieshimself some time
after urinating, but if he wereto wait until the incontinence ends,
the time for the prayer in congregation would be over. What is the
ruling?
They replied: If he knows that the incontinence will end, it is not
permissible for him to pray when it is still affecting him, seeking
the virtue of praying in congregation.Rather he has to wait until it
ends, then he should clean himself after that, then do wudoo' and
offer his prayer, even if he misses the prayer in congregation.
However he should hasten to clean himself and do wudoo' once the time
for the prayer has begun, in the hope that he will be able to pray
incongregation. End quote.
Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa'imah, 5/408
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allah preserve him) said concerning the one
whois faced with that problem:
First of all you have to take precautions with regard to purification.
So do wudoo' half an hour or so before the time for prayer begins,
after you have urinated and the effects of urination have ceased, in
the hope that it will stop before the time for prayer comes.
Secondly, after urinatingyou have to wash your private part with cold
water that will stop urination and prevent drops coming out.
If these drops are the result of waswaas (whispers from the Shaytaan)
or something imaginary, then after cleaning yourself you should
sprinkle water onyour pants or thobe, so that the Shaytaan cannot make
you imagine, if you see dampness, that it is urine, because you will
know that it is water that you put on your garment.
End quote from Fataawa Islamiyyah, 1/196
Thirdly:
You should beware of waswasah (whispers from the Shaytaan), for it is
a disease and an evilthat can cause a person to worry and generate
doubt in his mind, making worship burdensome for him. So beware of
that. When you have relieved yourself, done wudoo' and prayed, do not
pay any attention to doubts, because the basic principle is that one
is pure and that prayers are valid.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked: When I
have finished wudoo' and am going topray, I feel a drop of urine
coming out of the penis; what should I do?
He replied:
The one who is affected with that should ignore it, as enjoined by the
leading scholars of the Muslims. He should not pay any attention to it
orgo and check whether anything came out or not. By Allah's leave, if
he seeks refuge with Allah from the accursed Shaytaan and ignores it,
it will go away. But if he is utterly certain about it, then it is
essential to wash whatever the urine has gotten onto, then repeat his
wudoo' because some people, if they feel coldness at the tip of the
penis, think that something has come out. But if you are certain, you
should do what I told you. What you have mentioned is not
incontinence, because it stops, whereas incontinence is ongoing. As
for this, it is one or two drops that come out after moving; this is
not incontinence because two drops comeout then it stops. In this case
you should wash yourself and do wudoo' again. You should always do
this, and be patient and seek rewardwith Allah.
End quote from Liqa' al-Baab al-Maftooh, 184/15
And Allah knows best.