Fathwa, - * Speaking Good is Better than Keeping Silent

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Aslamualykum warahmatulahi wabarakatuhu. This may be an unsuall question but its been bothering me for a while. I am a girl who doesnt really like to talk all day, I only talk if I have something to say and people say I am queit. I recently got married, and I am worried about meeting my husbands family because I have to speak to them but I am really shy. Is that normal? Isnt it compulsery to entertain guests and speak to them?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is good for a Muslim to keep quiet except if he/she was to speak good as this is one of the signs of faith. Abu Hurayrahnarrated that the Prophetsaid: “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, he should say what is good or keep quiet.” ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
As regards comparing saying what is good and keeping silent, As-Saffaareenisaid in his book “Ghithaa’ Al-Albaab”: “What is predominant is that speaking is better as it is for acquisition )of what is good(, and keeping quiet is for abstaining )from what is evil(, because a speaker achieves more than what a silent person achieves, this is because the best that happens for a person who keeps silent is being safe, and this is achieved by the one who says good in addition to getting the reward of saying good.”
Also, it was reported from Ibn Rajab )Al-Hanbali(that some people discussed in the presence of Al-Ahnaf Ibn Qays which is better: speaking or keeping quiet? Al-Ahnaf said: “Speaking is better because the excellence of keeping quiet benefits only the person who keeps quiet while good speech benefits those who listen to it.”
Moreover, it was reported that a man said to ‘Umar Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez: “A person who keeps quiet while having knowledge is like a person who speaks while having knowledge.” Thereupon, ‘Umar Ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez said: “I hope that on the Day of Judgment the one who speaks with knowledge will be better than the other one ]who keeps quiet[ because the first benefits the people while the latter benefits himself only.”
Hence, speaking good is required and praised, and among speaking good is one’s speaking to keep sociable with his guests and to have good relations with his in-laws and the like. Therefore, a Muslim should not restrict himself to what is less than what makes him sociable with people and removes the lack of communication between him and them even in an artificial manner.
As regards your question whether or not this matter )your shyness( is normal, then the answer is that it can be normal and it might not be normal. In case you fear that this matter may not be normal, then you may consult some trustworthy psychologists.
Allah Knows best.










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Fathwa, - * Asking Allah to Hasten One’s Punishment in thisLife

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Asalam Alaikum. I wouuld like to know whether it is halal or haram to ask Allah )swt( to be punished in this life )on earth( rather than the hereafter )judgement day(. In addition, by punishment i mean whether you can ask Allah to make you suffer through a certain diease or etc. Thi question has been lingering in my mind for a couple of years and i would like to know your opinion.
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All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
The Prophetforbade us to supplicate with what you mentioned in the question. Anasnarrated that the Prophetvisited a person from amongst the Muslims who had grown feeble like a chicken )because of his illness(. The Prophetasked him: “Did you supplicate for anything or beg Allaah about that?” He said: “Yes. I used to utter )these words(: “O Allaah inflict upon me the punishment in this world that you would punish me with in the Hereafter.” Thereupon the Prophetsaid: “Glory be to Allah, you have neither the power nor forbearance to take upon yourself )the burden of His Punishment(. Why did you not say instead: “O Allah, ‘Our Lord, give us in this world ]that which is[ good and in the Hereafter ]that which is[ good and protect us from the punishment of the Fire.’” He said: “Then the Prophetsupplicated for him and Allah cured him.” ]Muslim, Ahmad and At-Tirmithi[
An-Nawawisaid in his commentary on this Hadeeth reported by Muslim: “This Hadeeth is evidence that it is prohibited to ask that one's punishment be hastened…”
Besides, a person's supplicating to Allah to inflict him/her with a disease is contrary to the order of the Prophetof seeking refuge in Allah from the difficulties of hardships as he said: “Take refuge with Allah from the difficulties of hardships, from the acquisition of wretchedness, and ill-fate, and the taunts of enemies.”
Therefore, dear sister, you should avoid supplicating for hastening the punishment )for your sins(, and instead supplicate Allah for good health as His Mercy encompasses your sins and the sins of all the creation.
Allah Knows best.

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Commentary on Hadeeth, - Dought & clear, - * The meaning of theword Anwaat

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In the hadeeth of Abu Waaqid al-Laythi (may Allaah be pleased with him) it says: “We went out with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to Hunayn and we were new in Islam. The mushrikeen had a tree to which they would go and spend time (to seek blessings) and they used to hang their weapons on it, it was called Dhat Anwaat…” What is the meaning of the word Anwaat?.
Praise be to Allaah.
This hadeeth was narrated by Imam Ahmad (2139) and by al-Tirmidhi (2180), who said it is hasan saheeh. It was also narrated by Ibn Abi Aasim inal-Sunnah. Al-Manaawi said: its isnaad is saheeh. And it was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inRiyaadh al-Sunnah, no. 76.
These words were narrated in the hadeeth of Abu Waaqid al-Laythi (may Allaah be pleased with him): They went out from Makkah with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to Hunayn. The kuffaar had a tree to which they would go and spend time (to seek blessings) and they used to hang their weapons on it, and it was called Dhaat Anwaat. We passed by a large green tree and we said: ‘O Messenger of Allaah, make for us a dhaat anwaat.’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘By the One in Whose hand is my soul, you have said the same as the people of Moosa said: make for us a god as they have gods. Verily you are a people who know not. These are ways that you will certainly follow as did those who came before you, step by step.’
According to a report narrated by Ibn Abi ‘Aasim inKitaab al-Sunnah: And we were new in Islam (at that time).
With regard to the words Dhaat Anwaat:Anwaatis the plural of the wordnawt, which refers to anything that is hung up. Dhaat Anwaat is the tree on which these things were hung. Ibn al-Atheer said inal-Nihaayah: This is the name of a specific tree that belonged to the mushrikeen, on which they used to hang their weapons and to which they would go and spend time (to seek blessings). They asked him to make something like that for them, and he forbade them to do that.
With regard to the phrase, “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, you have said the same as the people of Moosa said: make for us a god as they have gods. Verily you are a people who know not”: Here the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) likened what they had said to the words of the Children of Israel when they passed by some people who were worshipping their idols. They asked Moosa (peace be upon him) to make for them a god that they could worship as those people had a god.
With regard to the phrase “These are ways that you will certainly follow as did those who came before you”: i.e., this is the way of the nations who came before you. What is meant here is the way of the people who follow whims and desires and innovations that they introduced based on their own ideas after their Prophets were gone, and they changed their religion.
According to the hadeeth of Abu Sa’eed that was narrated by al-Bukhaari: “You will follow the ways of those who came before you, handspan by handspan, cubit by cubit, until even if they entered the hole of a lizard you will follow them.” We said: “O Messenger of Allaah, (do you mean) the Jews and the Christians?” He said: “Who else?”
Al-Nawawi said: This is a manifest miracle of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), for what he foretold indeed came to pass.
From this hadeeth we learn the following:
1- To beware of shirk (associating others with Allaah) and that a person may think that something is good and will bring him closer to Allaah, when it is as far removed as it can be from the mercy of his Lord and will bring him closer to His wrath.
2- Seeking blessings from trees and rocks and being attached to them are all acts of shirk which have happened in this ummah. Whoever falls into these things is following the path of the Jews and Christians and forsaking the path of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
3- What counts is meanings, not words. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) likened what they said to what the Children of Israel said, even though they were not blatantly asking for a god instead of Allaah.
4- It is forbidden to imitate the people of the Jaahiliyyah and the people of the Book in things that are unique to them and in their acts of worship.
5- It shows that when a person has moved away from falsehood to which he was accustomed, there is no guarantee that something of those old traditions will not be left in his heart, because the Sahaabah who asked him for that had only been Muslims for a few days, as they became Muslim on the day of the conquest of Makkah, then the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) took them out on the campaign of Hunayn. This incident took place on the way to Hunayn.
SeeFath al-Majeed bi Sharh Kitaab al-Tawheed, 139-147; andal-Qawl al-Mufeedby Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen.
We would remind the questioner that Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Wahhaab (may Allaah have mercy on him) quoted this hadeeth in his blessed bookKitaab al-Tawheed, in the chapter onSeeking blessings from trees, rocks, etc. We advise him to read this, along with the commentary, especially the two commentaries referred to above, as he will learn a great deal from it. And Allaah is the Source of strength.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M