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Sunday, October 20, 2013

Story, - My Love Story

I was a person who was totally against a relationship. But all of a
sudden something happened to me….
It all started in the year 2010….I know him as my college senior….I
have met him during the Orphanage visits which we students organize in
college (he was in his pre-final yr, I in second yr)…. The very first
time I met him kindled my feelings… Is this called "Love at first
sight"????... After that day, almost for a year we never talked with
each other nor texted (Both of us didn't share our contacts even in
FB)…But whenever we crossed each other in college we exchanged our
Hi's and Bye's with a smile . All his friends were my friends in FB
but he was not…
Then on the 4th week of Jan 2011, I saw his name and his profile
picture on the 'People You May Know' column in FB… I clicked on 'Add
Friend' :p…. Immediately my request was accepted and his chat message
saying "Hi…" popped out...I also replied "hi...". Then we had a normal
and a formal conversation that would happen between a junior and a
senior… The very next day he asked for my contact number in FB... I
usually hesitate to share my number on FB that too with guys... But I
dunno why, my fingers started typing my number and before even I could
realize it, it pressed ENTER… I never regretted for it thou…
Immediately after that I got a message in my mobile saying "This is
XXX"… We stopped chatting in FB and our conversation continued on
mobile….Fortunately I had to cross his bus stop while going to
college… As soon as I get into the bus I will text him and he makes
sure that he meets me and follows my bus in his bike… I will tell him
the exact place where am seated and he tries and drives to make sure
that am not going out of his sight…  We used to text daily and I
dunno what we had to talk or text. May be those were the sweet
nothings that brought us close to each other. This continued for two
weeks and the most awaited college cultural came up… All were in
festive mood… We both started talking in college whenever possible… We
both had few common friends and hence it was not a big deal for us to
talk without any hesitation or fear…. We had a 2-day college fest… and
on the first day it got late for the programs to get over… and
unfortunately (actually fortunately…!!!!!) all my friends who used to
accompany me left early and I was alone at 10pm in the night… As he
had a dance rehearsal for his program on the next day, he was in a
dance school. As soon as I got into the bus I texted him and he
replied back… he asked about my whereabouts and I told him. He asked
me if anyone was there with me. I said "No, am going alone and my dad
will pick me up from my bus stop"… And he replied, "This is the last
time you will be going alone…. Reach home safely and text me". I felt
something fishy :P. I smiled and replied "Okie..". Then I reached home
I texted him.. I waited for him till he finished his practice and
reached home, just to say GOODNIGHT… Then came the second day of
culturals… I was roaming with my friends and he was busy with his
programs... Then the long awaited program of this guy came up in the
evening… My eyes didn't take any other sight other than him… I tried
hard to keep my eyes on him being seated at the last few rows and
people dancing in front of us… As soon as he finished his dance he
came down and stood behind the place where both of our friends were
sitting…. His friends already having known that something is happening
between us, called him and offered him a place near them. And this
time I could see him without any difficulty. Our eyes conveyed the
things that are to be conveyed. Then at the end of the day, I met him
at our college entrance and just like that was talking for few
minutes. After that he made sure that I got into the bus and he
followed my bus in his bike till my stop and he went back. As he was
tired I didn't disturb him much and we both slept early that night.
The next day he had some competitive exam in the afternoon. He told me
his dad was not happy with his preparations and he wanted to revise
few things in the morning. I told him to concentrate and study and
text me after he finished his exam. In the noon I texted him, wishing
him all the best and I slept off. Evening when I woke up I expected a
message from his mobile but there was none. I texted him and waited
for his reply for sometime. No reply again. I called him from my dad's
mobile (That was our first telephonic conversation), as you all would
know, during college days we hardly have balance in our mobiles :p.
When he picked up, I heard some noise and I found that his friends
were around and I got a bit irritated cos I have been expecting his
message for a long time. I started shouting at him even before he
could say anything. I shouted for more than two mins (It was too much
for the first call even though he gets a multiple amounts of it
nowadays :p). After I finished, he started in low voice, "You know
what happened? I met with a small accident. (before I could say
something) Nothing happened to me, am fine. My bike got damaged. I
have left it in a mechanic shop and waiting in my friend's house. I
will reach home and text you." . I was dumbstruck and I said "Ok. Come
safely" and kept the call. I dunno why, but I started crying. I waited
for his call or message and I couldn't do anything from here. As soon
as he reached home he texted me. I asked if everything was fine and
asked his pardon for shouting. He said that it was fine and we then
had some normal conversations. The next day was 'February 14'. That
day he came to college little late than the normal timings and I met
him during the first break hour and asked if he was fine. I saw him
limping when he was walking. I asked if it was paining and he said it
was fine and there was a slight swelling in his knee. I told him not
to walk or strain too much and take rest. And at the end of the day we
both bid bye to each other and we left to our homes. As soon as I
reached home I switched on my system and logged into FB. Usually, I
will sign in only in the late evening. But that day it was too early
to be on FB. (I know he would log in as soon he reaches home). Before
he said anything, I started saying "Hi..." and obviously, I got a
reply. We started the conversation in a normal way and it went on. He
asked me if I had got any proposals on that day. I denied and I
bounced back that question to him again. My heart was praying
sincerely to get a NOO from him and God saved me . Then I was pulling
his leg with few girls in college. At that time, I got a forward in my
mobile from my friend. The forward was "I would like to accept you as
my ____. ". And the options were "a. boyfriend. b.girlfriend, c. close
friend, d. brother/sister, e. lover ,etc etc and the last one was Life
Partner". My heart was instructing me to forward that message only to
him and I sincerely obeyed it. (Our chat on FB was continuing). For
the first time I didn't get any reply. I forwarded it the second time.
This time, I got a reply on chat asking "What should I reply".
I said "Whatever u feel like".
He said "Whatever??".
I said "Yeah... ".
He said "U won't mistake me uh??".
I said "I won't… and u know about me very well."
He said "Okay.. for example, if I say Life Partner.. what would u say"
(The most cleverest way of proposing a girl!!)(I appreciated him at
heart as he didn't choose girlfriend/lover :p)
I said " See, no this example and all..say it frankly whatever it may be.."
He said "yes..I want you to be my life partner"
… My heart was craving for that only!!!. But still I didn't accept it
immediately. I asked him to text me and I went to bed with my mobile,
just to make sure that no one sees me blushing . I got a message from
him saying "What do you say? Sorry if I had hurt you…I thought of
saying it in college itself but something was stopping me from telling
you. But now I couldn't resist myself from telling this to you. I need
you .I love you . Whatever is your decision I will abide by that". I
said "See, you are not just a friend for me. You are someone more than
that. I frankly say, I can't accept you as a brother as my classmates
do. But choosing you as my life partner in such a short span of time
is making me think about it….. but I agree I like you. I dunno whether
it's love or not". Then he took a step back and said "Its ok, don't
confuse yourself. If you are confident about it, please let me know.
If not we will try to be as friends". That moment shook my heart and I
wanted to hold a grip of him. I said "No, am confident of it. But
worried about our parents and castes". He said "I will take care of
everything and you just be with me. To be happy, to have a life beyond
this, I need you . I love you". It was time for dinner and we both had
to pause our chat and went to have our dinner. I didn't feel like
eating. I filled my stomach and sat with my mob again. Unfortunately,
I got a call from some a person and I had to listen to his stupid
talks and scoldings because of someone else. If it was before I would
told about that to any of my friends first. But this time without
hesitating I called him and started crying and explained him about the
previous call. He convinced me. Supported me. I felt secured with his
talks and I felt a sigh of relief. He understood my situation and
didn't talk a word about our pre-dinner chat. Then we both slept. In
the next day morning, as soon as I woke up I took my mob and said
those 3 words which would have been expected by my guy for the past 6
hours. I found this guy very caring and adjustable. He knows very well
to manage me as I am uncontrollable. He never restricts me from doing
anything. He always held me in his hands and takes care of me like a
kid. He supports me in everything I do. He corrects me if I do
anything wrong and he makes sure that nothing affects me because of
it. He says that am his lucky charm as he got his job after I came
into his life :p. (Applause!!). He hardly gets annoyed with my silly
questions and actions. But I take up the charge of everything :P. I
accept that I will make him bang his head like anything at times and
even then he makes sure that nothing takes more than an hour to bring
us back together. And so many other things about him for which I
really don't have the patience to write. I will continue this write up
as soon as we both get married.
Thanks for reading

Fathwa, - In love with non-Muslim married woman�

Question:
I am in love with a non-Muslim married girl. I guess its one sided
from me. I just care about her. Is it ok for me to wish and pray for
her to get together in other life? I wish and pray for her all the
time. I guess only Allah knows how much I love her. Can I wish to be
with her in real life after death? If I do good things and Allah
Blesses me with (heaven) can I ask for her in Heaven to be with me?
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, the Inspirer of Truth.
Dear brother, let us put a few things into perspective.
For one, you should not have let this love develop. It is not
permissible for Muslim men to have casual social relationships with
members of the opposite sex. It is normally through such interactions
that unlawful relationships and sentiments are fostered and then
difficult to overcome. Islam puts a stop to these from the beginning.
The other problem is that she is already married. Hence, marriage to
her does not even seem an option for you. It is bad enough to be in
such an infatuation with a non-married girl but it is far more serious
when this kind of attachment is with a married woman.
You must stop seeing her at once, either by changing or dropping out
completely of the class, if this is taking place at school; or
transferring to another office or finding another job, if this is at
work. All types of contact: telephone, email, etc. must cease
immediately, even if it be without explanation, since unnecessarily
prolonging it can only be detrimental. If you continue to be in close
proximity to her, then this will be extremely difficult to end.
Pray to Allah to deliver you from such a dangerous infatuation in
which you torture yourself unnecessarily. Du'as work wonders. You must
also sincerely pray to Allah for forgiveness for allowing such an
infatuation to develop.
Actively look to get married with a pious Muslim woman. This way you
will be able to fulfill the natural craving and desire of your soul
and replace this woman with a woman you are married to.
Insha Allah, if you are able to follow through with these steps, then
God-willing, you can overcome this problem.
Please do not see this as an insurmountable problem, something that
you have to take with you to the grave, even if it currently seems
like it. Remember, this can only continue if you fuel it by
communication, thoughts, and proximity to her.
The Prophet Muhammad (upon him be blessings and peace) said, "The
hearts are in the fingers of the Merciful One, He turns them as He
wishes." [Muslim and Ahmad]
Hence, nothing is difficult upon Allah. He is in control of all
things. But we must pray for His assistance.
And He knows best.

Fathwa, - Basic Fiqh of Looking at the Opposite Sex

Question:
What is the popular position in regards to looking at the non-awrat
parts of a woman (face and the hands)? (i.e. if I look at a
[non-mahram] woman's face more than once)
Answer:
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
1. In the Hanafi school, it is permitted (though disliked without
need) for a man to look towards the face or hands of a woman, and for
a woman to look towards the non-nakedness of a man, if there is no
fear of desire or physical inclining.
2. If one looks out of physical desire or inclining, or fears this,
then it is unlawful to look.
3. The exception is in cases when it is unavoidable, such as for
witnesses in court or to look at someone one is intending to marry
when there is hope of the marriage taking place, but only if one's
intention is to fulfill one's objective, even with desire, not to
fulfill one's desires.
4. The definition of 'desire' is: any physical inclination of the heart.
5. It is not a condition that it be strong physical desire, or that it
be accompanied by sexual thoughts or physical arousal.
6. Lack of desire is that one looks towards them as one would towards
one's child or towards a beautiful tree.
[Source: al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya (5.329-330); Ibn Abidin/Haskafi, Radd
al-Muhtar `ala al-Durr al-Mukhtar (bab shurut al-salat )]
وعن جرير بن عبد الله قال : { سألت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عن نظر
الفجأة ؟ فقال : اصرف بصرك } رواهما أحمد ومسلم وأبو داود والترمذي ) وعن
بريدة قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لعلي { يا علي لا تتبع
النظرة النظرة فإنما لك الأولى وليست لك الآخرة } رواه أحمد وأبو داود
والترمذيقال الإمام علاء الدين الحصكفي (رحمه الله تعالى) في الدر
المختار: ( ولا يجوز النظر إليه بشهوة كوجه أمرد ) فإنه يحرم النظر إلى
وجهها ووجه الأمرد إذا شك في الشهوة , أما بدونها فيباح قال الإمام ابن
عابدين (رحمه الله تعالى): ( قوله ولا يجوز النظر إليه بشهوة ) أي إلا
لحاجة كقاض أو شاهد بحكم أو يشهد عليها لا لتحمل الشهادة , وكخاطب يريد
نكاحها فينظر ولو عن شهوة بنية السنة لا قضاء الشهوة , وكذا مريد شرائها
أو مداواتها إلى موضع المرض بقدر الضرورة كما سيأتي في الحظر , والتقييد
بالشهوة يفيد جوازه بدونها , لكن سيأتي في الحظر تقييده بالضرورة وظاهره
الكراهة بلا حاجة داعية . قال في التتارخانية : وفي شرح الكرخي النظر إلى
وجه الأجنبية الحرة ليس بحرام , ولكنه يكره لغير حاجة . ا هـ . ( قوله
بشهوة ) لم أر تفسيرها هنا , والمذكور في المصاهرة أنه فيمن ينتشر
بالانتشار أو زيادته إن كان موجودا , وفي المرأة والفاني بميل القلب .
والذي تفيده عبارة مسكين في الحظر أنها ميل القلب مطلقا , ولعله الأنسب
هنا . ا هـ . ط . قلت : يؤيده ما في القول المعتبر في بيان النظر لسيدي
عبد الغني بيان الشهوة التي هي مناط الحرمة أن يتحرك قلب الإنسان ويميل
بطبعه إلى اللذة , وربما انتشرت آلته إن كثر ذلك الميلان ; وعدم الشهوة
أن لا يتحرك قلبه إلى شيء من ذلك بمنزلة من نظر إلى ابنه الصبيح الوجه
وابنته الحسناء ا هـ وسيأتي تمام الكلام على ذلك في كتاب الحظر والإباحة
. ... في الفتاوى الهنديّة: (5/329-330) وأما النظر إلى الأجنبيات فنقول
: يجوز النظر إلى مواضع الزينة الظاهرة منهن وذلك الوجه والكف في ظاهر
الرواية , كذا في الذخيرة . وإن غلب على ظنه أنه يشتهي فهو حرام , كذا في
الينابيع . النظر إلى وجه الأجنبية إذا لم يكن عن شهوة ليس بحرام لكنه
مكروه , كذا في السراجية . وروى الحسن عن أبي حنيفة - رحمه الله تعالى -
يجوز النظر إلى قدمها أيضا , وفي رواية أخرى عنه قال لا يجوز النظر إلى
قدمها . وفي جامع البرامكة عن أبي يوسف - رحمه الله تعالى أنه يجوز النظر
إلى ذراعيها أيضا عند الغسل والطبخ قيل : وكذلك يباح النظر إلى ثناياها
وذلك كله إذا لم يكن النظر عن شهوة , كذا في المحيط . وكذلك يباح النظر
إذا شك في الاشتهاء , كذا في الكافي . قيل : وكذلك يباح النظر إلى ساقها
إذا لم يكن النظر عن شهوة , فإن كان يعلم أنه لو نظر يشتهي أو كان أكبر
رأيه ذلك فليجتنب بجهده , كذا في الذخيرة . والأصح أن كل عضو لا يجوز
النظر إليه قبل الانفصال لا يجوز بعده كشعر رأسها وقلامة رجلها وشعر
عانتها , كذا في الزاهدي . ولا يحل له أن يمس وجهها , ولا كفها , وإن كان
يأمن الشهوة وهذا إذا كانت شابة تشتهى , فإن كانت لا تشتهى لا بأس
بمصافحتها ومس يدها , كذا في الذخيرة . وكذلك إذا كان شيخا يأمن على نفسه
وعليها فلا بأس بأن يصافحها , وإن كان لا يأمن على نفسه أو عليها فليجتنب
, ثم إن محمدا - رحمه الله تعالى - أباح المس للرجل إذا كانت المرأة
عجوزا ولم يشترط كون الرجل بحال لا يجامع مثله , وفيما إذا كان الماس هي
المرأة قال إذا كانا كبيرين لا يجامع مثله ولا يجامع مثلها فلا بأس
بالمصافحة فتأمل عند الفتوى , كذا في المحيط . ولا بأس بأن يعانق العجوز
من وراء الثياب إلا أن تكون ثيابها تصف ما تحتها , كذا في الغياثية . فإن
كان على المرأة ثياب فلا بأس بأن يتأمل جسدها ; لأن نظره إلى ثيابها لا
إلى جسدها فهو كما لو كانت في بيت فنظر إلى جداره هذا إذا لم تكن ثيابها
ملتزقة بها بحيث تصف ما تحتها كالقباء التركية , ولم تكن رقيقة بحيث تصف
ما تحتها , فإن كانت بخلاف ذلك ينبغي له أن يغض بصره ; لأن هذا الثوب من
حيث إنه لا يسترها بمنزلة شبكة عليها . هذا إذا كانت في حد الشهوة , فإن
كانت صغيرة لا يشتهى مثلها فلا بأس بالنظر إليها ومن مسها ; لأنه ليس
لبدنها حكم العورة , ولا في النظر والمس معنى خوف الفتنة , ثم النظر إلى
الحرة الأجنبية قد يصير مرخصا عند الضرورة , كذا في المحيط . والكافرة
كالمسلمة وروي لا بأس بالنظر إلى شعر الكافرة , كذا في الغياثية . يجوز
للقاضي إذا أراد أن يحكم عليها وللشاهد إذا أراد أن يشهد عليها أن ينظر
إلى وجهها وإن خاف أن يشتهي ولكن ينبغي أن يقصد به أداء الشهادة أو الحكم
عليها لا قضاء الشهوة وأما النظر لتحمل الشهادة إذا اشتهى قيل : يباح كما
في النظر عند الأداء والأصح أنه لا يباح في السراج الوهاج .

Fathwa, - Counsel regarding relations with a girl...

Question:
I have started to feel that I love a girl. Actually I usually talk to
her and find her very pleasing and I'm very comfortable with her. But
I have never gone out with a girl before and know that it is haram to
do so and still I'm not going out with this girl but only casually
meets her. The problem is that the girl had a boyfriend in the past -
I mean she went out with a boy and had done many haram acts but not
sexual intercourse. I don't know whether she is a good match for me
since she has been so long with her ex and did so many shameful acts
like kissing and many others. What do I do. if the girl isn't
appropriate for me islamically I'm ready to forget her but its just
that I like her very much.
Answer:
Wa alaik as Salam
Islamically from the legal point of view, there is no harm in marrying
the girl mentioned in your question no matter what she did in the
past. The decision is yours. If you really love her and will not use
her past to haunt you or her or damage the relation in any manner,
then you should go ahead and marry her.
If you think her past will haunt you or may lead you to dislike her in
the future, then it is not recommended for you to marry her.
If you do decide to marry her, then you must do so as soon as possible
as it is not permissible to meet her in privacy without a legal
marriage.
And only Allah Almighty knows best.