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Sunday, October 20, 2013

Fathwa, - In love with non-Muslim married woman�

Question:
I am in love with a non-Muslim married girl. I guess its one sided
from me. I just care about her. Is it ok for me to wish and pray for
her to get together in other life? I wish and pray for her all the
time. I guess only Allah knows how much I love her. Can I wish to be
with her in real life after death? If I do good things and Allah
Blesses me with (heaven) can I ask for her in Heaven to be with me?
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, the Inspirer of Truth.
Dear brother, let us put a few things into perspective.
For one, you should not have let this love develop. It is not
permissible for Muslim men to have casual social relationships with
members of the opposite sex. It is normally through such interactions
that unlawful relationships and sentiments are fostered and then
difficult to overcome. Islam puts a stop to these from the beginning.
The other problem is that she is already married. Hence, marriage to
her does not even seem an option for you. It is bad enough to be in
such an infatuation with a non-married girl but it is far more serious
when this kind of attachment is with a married woman.
You must stop seeing her at once, either by changing or dropping out
completely of the class, if this is taking place at school; or
transferring to another office or finding another job, if this is at
work. All types of contact: telephone, email, etc. must cease
immediately, even if it be without explanation, since unnecessarily
prolonging it can only be detrimental. If you continue to be in close
proximity to her, then this will be extremely difficult to end.
Pray to Allah to deliver you from such a dangerous infatuation in
which you torture yourself unnecessarily. Du'as work wonders. You must
also sincerely pray to Allah for forgiveness for allowing such an
infatuation to develop.
Actively look to get married with a pious Muslim woman. This way you
will be able to fulfill the natural craving and desire of your soul
and replace this woman with a woman you are married to.
Insha Allah, if you are able to follow through with these steps, then
God-willing, you can overcome this problem.
Please do not see this as an insurmountable problem, something that
you have to take with you to the grave, even if it currently seems
like it. Remember, this can only continue if you fuel it by
communication, thoughts, and proximity to her.
The Prophet Muhammad (upon him be blessings and peace) said, "The
hearts are in the fingers of the Merciful One, He turns them as He
wishes." [Muslim and Ahmad]
Hence, nothing is difficult upon Allah. He is in control of all
things. But we must pray for His assistance.
And He knows best.

Fathwa, - Basic Fiqh of Looking at the Opposite Sex

Question:
What is the popular position in regards to looking at the non-awrat
parts of a woman (face and the hands)? (i.e. if I look at a
[non-mahram] woman's face more than once)
Answer:
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
1. In the Hanafi school, it is permitted (though disliked without
need) for a man to look towards the face or hands of a woman, and for
a woman to look towards the non-nakedness of a man, if there is no
fear of desire or physical inclining.
2. If one looks out of physical desire or inclining, or fears this,
then it is unlawful to look.
3. The exception is in cases when it is unavoidable, such as for
witnesses in court or to look at someone one is intending to marry
when there is hope of the marriage taking place, but only if one's
intention is to fulfill one's objective, even with desire, not to
fulfill one's desires.
4. The definition of 'desire' is: any physical inclination of the heart.
5. It is not a condition that it be strong physical desire, or that it
be accompanied by sexual thoughts or physical arousal.
6. Lack of desire is that one looks towards them as one would towards
one's child or towards a beautiful tree.
[Source: al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya (5.329-330); Ibn Abidin/Haskafi, Radd
al-Muhtar `ala al-Durr al-Mukhtar (bab shurut al-salat )]
وعن جرير بن عبد الله قال : { سألت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم عن نظر
الفجأة ؟ فقال : اصرف بصرك } رواهما أحمد ومسلم وأبو داود والترمذي ) وعن
بريدة قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لعلي { يا علي لا تتبع
النظرة النظرة فإنما لك الأولى وليست لك الآخرة } رواه أحمد وأبو داود
والترمذيقال الإمام علاء الدين الحصكفي (رحمه الله تعالى) في الدر
المختار: ( ولا يجوز النظر إليه بشهوة كوجه أمرد ) فإنه يحرم النظر إلى
وجهها ووجه الأمرد إذا شك في الشهوة , أما بدونها فيباح قال الإمام ابن
عابدين (رحمه الله تعالى): ( قوله ولا يجوز النظر إليه بشهوة ) أي إلا
لحاجة كقاض أو شاهد بحكم أو يشهد عليها لا لتحمل الشهادة , وكخاطب يريد
نكاحها فينظر ولو عن شهوة بنية السنة لا قضاء الشهوة , وكذا مريد شرائها
أو مداواتها إلى موضع المرض بقدر الضرورة كما سيأتي في الحظر , والتقييد
بالشهوة يفيد جوازه بدونها , لكن سيأتي في الحظر تقييده بالضرورة وظاهره
الكراهة بلا حاجة داعية . قال في التتارخانية : وفي شرح الكرخي النظر إلى
وجه الأجنبية الحرة ليس بحرام , ولكنه يكره لغير حاجة . ا هـ . ( قوله
بشهوة ) لم أر تفسيرها هنا , والمذكور في المصاهرة أنه فيمن ينتشر
بالانتشار أو زيادته إن كان موجودا , وفي المرأة والفاني بميل القلب .
والذي تفيده عبارة مسكين في الحظر أنها ميل القلب مطلقا , ولعله الأنسب
هنا . ا هـ . ط . قلت : يؤيده ما في القول المعتبر في بيان النظر لسيدي
عبد الغني بيان الشهوة التي هي مناط الحرمة أن يتحرك قلب الإنسان ويميل
بطبعه إلى اللذة , وربما انتشرت آلته إن كثر ذلك الميلان ; وعدم الشهوة
أن لا يتحرك قلبه إلى شيء من ذلك بمنزلة من نظر إلى ابنه الصبيح الوجه
وابنته الحسناء ا هـ وسيأتي تمام الكلام على ذلك في كتاب الحظر والإباحة
. ... في الفتاوى الهنديّة: (5/329-330) وأما النظر إلى الأجنبيات فنقول
: يجوز النظر إلى مواضع الزينة الظاهرة منهن وذلك الوجه والكف في ظاهر
الرواية , كذا في الذخيرة . وإن غلب على ظنه أنه يشتهي فهو حرام , كذا في
الينابيع . النظر إلى وجه الأجنبية إذا لم يكن عن شهوة ليس بحرام لكنه
مكروه , كذا في السراجية . وروى الحسن عن أبي حنيفة - رحمه الله تعالى -
يجوز النظر إلى قدمها أيضا , وفي رواية أخرى عنه قال لا يجوز النظر إلى
قدمها . وفي جامع البرامكة عن أبي يوسف - رحمه الله تعالى أنه يجوز النظر
إلى ذراعيها أيضا عند الغسل والطبخ قيل : وكذلك يباح النظر إلى ثناياها
وذلك كله إذا لم يكن النظر عن شهوة , كذا في المحيط . وكذلك يباح النظر
إذا شك في الاشتهاء , كذا في الكافي . قيل : وكذلك يباح النظر إلى ساقها
إذا لم يكن النظر عن شهوة , فإن كان يعلم أنه لو نظر يشتهي أو كان أكبر
رأيه ذلك فليجتنب بجهده , كذا في الذخيرة . والأصح أن كل عضو لا يجوز
النظر إليه قبل الانفصال لا يجوز بعده كشعر رأسها وقلامة رجلها وشعر
عانتها , كذا في الزاهدي . ولا يحل له أن يمس وجهها , ولا كفها , وإن كان
يأمن الشهوة وهذا إذا كانت شابة تشتهى , فإن كانت لا تشتهى لا بأس
بمصافحتها ومس يدها , كذا في الذخيرة . وكذلك إذا كان شيخا يأمن على نفسه
وعليها فلا بأس بأن يصافحها , وإن كان لا يأمن على نفسه أو عليها فليجتنب
, ثم إن محمدا - رحمه الله تعالى - أباح المس للرجل إذا كانت المرأة
عجوزا ولم يشترط كون الرجل بحال لا يجامع مثله , وفيما إذا كان الماس هي
المرأة قال إذا كانا كبيرين لا يجامع مثله ولا يجامع مثلها فلا بأس
بالمصافحة فتأمل عند الفتوى , كذا في المحيط . ولا بأس بأن يعانق العجوز
من وراء الثياب إلا أن تكون ثيابها تصف ما تحتها , كذا في الغياثية . فإن
كان على المرأة ثياب فلا بأس بأن يتأمل جسدها ; لأن نظره إلى ثيابها لا
إلى جسدها فهو كما لو كانت في بيت فنظر إلى جداره هذا إذا لم تكن ثيابها
ملتزقة بها بحيث تصف ما تحتها كالقباء التركية , ولم تكن رقيقة بحيث تصف
ما تحتها , فإن كانت بخلاف ذلك ينبغي له أن يغض بصره ; لأن هذا الثوب من
حيث إنه لا يسترها بمنزلة شبكة عليها . هذا إذا كانت في حد الشهوة , فإن
كانت صغيرة لا يشتهى مثلها فلا بأس بالنظر إليها ومن مسها ; لأنه ليس
لبدنها حكم العورة , ولا في النظر والمس معنى خوف الفتنة , ثم النظر إلى
الحرة الأجنبية قد يصير مرخصا عند الضرورة , كذا في المحيط . والكافرة
كالمسلمة وروي لا بأس بالنظر إلى شعر الكافرة , كذا في الغياثية . يجوز
للقاضي إذا أراد أن يحكم عليها وللشاهد إذا أراد أن يشهد عليها أن ينظر
إلى وجهها وإن خاف أن يشتهي ولكن ينبغي أن يقصد به أداء الشهادة أو الحكم
عليها لا قضاء الشهوة وأما النظر لتحمل الشهادة إذا اشتهى قيل : يباح كما
في النظر عند الأداء والأصح أنه لا يباح في السراج الوهاج .

Fathwa, - Counsel regarding relations with a girl...

Question:
I have started to feel that I love a girl. Actually I usually talk to
her and find her very pleasing and I'm very comfortable with her. But
I have never gone out with a girl before and know that it is haram to
do so and still I'm not going out with this girl but only casually
meets her. The problem is that the girl had a boyfriend in the past -
I mean she went out with a boy and had done many haram acts but not
sexual intercourse. I don't know whether she is a good match for me
since she has been so long with her ex and did so many shameful acts
like kissing and many others. What do I do. if the girl isn't
appropriate for me islamically I'm ready to forget her but its just
that I like her very much.
Answer:
Wa alaik as Salam
Islamically from the legal point of view, there is no harm in marrying
the girl mentioned in your question no matter what she did in the
past. The decision is yours. If you really love her and will not use
her past to haunt you or her or damage the relation in any manner,
then you should go ahead and marry her.
If you think her past will haunt you or may lead you to dislike her in
the future, then it is not recommended for you to marry her.
If you do decide to marry her, then you must do so as soon as possible
as it is not permissible to meet her in privacy without a legal
marriage.
And only Allah Almighty knows best.

Our On Going Test

Nothing on earth is created in vain, but rather with wisdom.
Understanding this fact depends on the wisdom of people themselves.
One whose faith and consequently whose wisdom and prudence increase,
will happen to grasp this reasoning much better in time. One of the
most important precepts is that we are beingtested throughoutour whole
lives. Allah tests our sincerity and our faith on different occasions.
He may give favours to test whether we are grateful to Him or not. He
may create difficulties, for us, to reveal whether we behave with
patience or not:
"Every soul shall have a taste of death: and We test you by evil and
by good by way of trial. To Us you will be returned." ( Surat
al-Anbiya, 21:35)
Ways to Test
We are to be tested in various ways. This is explained in the Qur'an
in the verse below:
"Be sure we shall test you with fear and hunger, someloss in goods or
lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who
patiently persevere." ( Surat al-Baqara, 2:155)
Our lives have indeed been planned with the mystery of our being
tested. First of all, we are being tested in our physical beings. The
Qur'an states that
"Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try
him: So We gave him (the gifts of) hearing and sight." ( Surat
al-Insan, 76:2).
Consequently, everything we hear and see is actually apart of the
test. In all kinds of situations, we will be tested to see whether we
behave in accordance with the Qur'an or with our own vain desires.
Allah tests thesteadfastnessof the believers with variousdifficulties.
One of the most important of these is theoppression of the believersby
the unbelievers. All these misdeeds, like verbal attacks, mocking,
physical oppression and even torture and murder attempts, are only a
means of trial for the believers. In one of the verses; it is said:
"You shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in
your personal selves; and you shall certainly hear much that will
grieve you, from those who received the Book before you and from those
who worship many gods. But if you persevere patiently, and guard
against evil, then that will be a determining factor in all affairs."
( Surat Aal-e- Imran, 3:186)
Special kind of Test
The most important point to comprehend is that all of these
deprivations and misadventures are created by Allah as aspecial kind
of test. One who does not understand this will become very
superficial. The Qur'an cites a pertinent tale of certain Jews.
"Ask them concerning the town standing close by the sea; when they
transgressed in the matter of the Sabbath. For on the day of their
Sabbath, their fish did come to them, openly holding up their heads,
but on the day they had no Sabbath, they came not: thus did We made a
trial for them, for they were given to transgression." ( Surat
al-A'raf, 7:163)
Only the individual who has wisdom can realize that he isbeing tested,
and can succeed in these tests by again using his wisdom. Therefore, a
believer should not forget that he is being tested throughout his
life. These tests cannot be passed or the heaven cannot be attained
simply by saying 'I believe'.
"Do men think that they will be left alone on saying 'We believe', and
that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah
will certainly know those who are true from those who are false." (
Surat al-Ankaboot, 29:2-3)
And in another verse Allah says:
"Did you think that you would enter Heaven without Allah testing those
of you who fought hard (in His Cause) and remained steadfast?" ( Surat
Aal-e-Imran, 3:142)

No Monasticism in Islam

The stand of Islam is, on the one hand, prohibits fornication and
adultery, and blocks all ways leading to them. On the other hand,
Islam calls people toward marriage,
prohibitingrenunciationandcastration. (Renunciation means remaining
celibate and renouncing worldly activity for the sake of devoting
oneself to the worship of God. Castration denotes suppressing sexual
desire by removing the testicles.)
As long as he possesses the means to marry, the Muslim isnot
permittedto refrain from marriage on the grounds that he has dedicated
himself to the service or the worship of Allah and to a life
ofmonasticismand renunciation of the world.
The Prophet (peace be on him) noted a tendency toward monasticism
among some of his Companions. Declaring this to be a deviation from
the straight path of Islam and a rejection of his sunnah (recommended
practice), he thereby rid Islam's conceptual framework of such a
Christian notion.
Abu Qulabah narrated
"Some of the Companions of the Prophet (peace be on him) decided
torelinquishthe world,forsaketheir wives, and become likemonks. The
Prophet (peace be on him) told them with asperity, People before
youperishedbecause of theirasceticism; they made excessive demands on
themselves until Allah broughthardshipson them: you can still see a
few of them remaining inmonasteries and temples. Thenworship Allahand
do not associate anything with Him, perform the Hajj and the 'Umrah,
be righteous, and all affairs will be set right for you." (Reported by
'Abdur Razzaq, Ibn Jarir, and Ibn al-Mundhir).
Abu Qulabah said the following verse was revealed concerning them:
"O you who believe! Do not make haram the good of things which Allah
has made halal for you, and do not transgress; indeed, Allah does not
like transgressors." ( Surah 5: Verse 87)
Mujahid narrated, "Some people, including 'Uthman ibn Maz'un and
'Abdullah ibn 'Umar, intended to renounce their wives, castrate
themselves, and wear coarse clothing. Then the above verse and the
verse following it were revealed." (Reported by Ibn Jarir in his
Tafsir.)
It is reported by Al-Bukhari and others thatthree people cameto the
Prophet's wives and asked how the Prophet (peace be on him) conducted
his worship. When they were told about it, they seemed to consider it
but little, saying, "What a difference there is between us and the
Messenger of Allah (peace be on him), whose past and future sins have
been forgiven him by Allah!"
One of them said, "As for me, I willalways prayduring the night."
The other said, "I will have nothing to do with women and will never marry."
When the Prophet (peace be on him) heard about this, he explained to
them theirerror and deviation from the straightpath, saying, I am the
one who fears Allah the most among you, yetI fast and I break my fast,
I pray and I sleep, and I marry women. He who turns away from my
sunnah has nothing to do with me.
S'ad ibn Abi Waqqas said, Allah's Messenger (peace be on him) objected
to 'Uthman ibn Maz'un living in celibacy. If he had given him
permission (to do so), we (others) would have had ourselves castrated.
(Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.)
Addressing the young men of all times, the Prophet (peace be on him)
said, 'Young men, those of you who can support a wifeshould marry, for
itkeeps you from looking at womenand preserves your chastity.'
(Reported by al-Bukhari.)
From this statement some scholars have inferred thatmarriage is
obligatoryfor the Muslim who is able to support a wife and that the
avoidance of it is not permissible, while other scholars add the
furthercondition for its obligatorinessthat he should be afraid of
falling into sin.
In fact, it is not befitting that a Muslim should refrain from
marriage out of fear of poverty or of not being able to meet his
obligations. He should make every possible attempt to find employment,
seeking help from Allah, for He has promised to help those who marry
in order to protect their chastity and purity.
Says Allah Ta'ala:
"And marry those among you who are single and the virtuous ones among
your slaves, male or female. If they are in poverty, Allah will enrich
them out of His bounty".... ( Surah 24: Verse 32)
And the Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) said,
"There arethreewho have a right to the help of Allah: the one
whomarries outof the desire to live a chaste life, theslavewhose
master has agreed to his buying his freedom when he wishes to pay the
sum, and the one whofightsin the cause of Allah." (Reported by Ahmad,
al-Nisai, al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, and al-Hakim).

Mutual Rights of Husband and Wife

The significance of marriage and the aims and advantages that are
associated with it are self-evident. Peace of mind and a happy life
are greatly dependent on the mutual relationship that develops between
husband and wife.
The main objects of marriage are that both parties enjoy the pleasures
of life with purity, (which can only be possible through wedlock) and
that the continuity of the human race be, and is, maintained with
dignity. These objects can be realized best when the relations between
husband and wife are good and there is love, sympathy and good
understanding between them.
Themain purpose of the Prophet's teachings, regarding the rights and
duties of marriage, is that the marriage proves to be a source of joy
and satisfaction to both husband and wife, that their hearts remain
united and that the aims of the marriage be attained in the best
possible manner.
According to the Prophet's teachings, the wife should regard her
husband over and above everyone else and she should remain faithful to
him. She should leave nothing to be desired with regards to devotion
and earnestness and should believe that, for her. the happiness of
both worlds lies in his good pleasure. The husband, on his part, ought
to consider his wife as a blessing of Allah and he should give her.
ungrudgingly, his love, hold her in high esteem and look after her
needs and comforts to the best of his ability. If she makes a mistake,
he should over look it and try to correct her with tact and patience.
Obedience And Loyalty To The Husband
*.Aisha (ra) says that the Prophet (saw) said "The greatest claim on a
woman is that of her husband and the greatest claim on a man is that
of his mother".
*.In the marriage agreement it is necessary that the husband has the
position of leadership. Man has been declared the head of the family
in the Islamic Shari'ah and great responsibilities have been assigned
to him. The Quran says 'Men are the protectors and maintainers of
women".
*.As for the women, the commandment is that they obey the husband as
the head of the household and fulfill the domestic duties. Regarding
them, the Quran says "The righteous women are obedient and protect
(the husband's interest) in his absence, as Allah has protected them."
*.If the wife fails to submit to her husband, and instead of serving
him devotedly, she adopts an attitude of defiance and stubbornness,
then it will be disastrous for both and they will be losers in this
world and the hereafter.
*.The Prophet (saw), therefore, stressed upon the wives to be loyal
and faithful to their husbands and to seek their pleasure, -(A great
reward has been promised for this, in the hereafter.)
*.It is related by Anas (ra) that the Prophet (saw) said "if a woman
offers five times daily prayer, keeps the fasts of Ramadan, guards her
honor and obeys her husband, then she will enter Paradise by whichever
gate she pleases."
*.Here, loyalty and obedience to the husband has been mentioned along
with the Salah and Fast. It denotes that, in the Shariah, submission
to the husband is as important as the principal duties of Islam.
*.The Prophet (saw) has said "A woman who dies in the state that her
husband is pleased with her, shall go to Paradise."
It should be noted here, that, if a man is displeased with his wife,
without any fault of hers, she will be innocent in the sight of Allah
and the responsibility for annoyance shall rest with the husband.
Advice On Kind Treatment To The Wife
Abu Hurairah (R.A.) relates that the Prophet (saw) advised, "O people.
Follow my advice concerning the kind treatment of wives. (I order you
to treat your wives with kindness and love). The woman has been
created from the rib, and the rib is curved, by nature, and the
greatest curve is in its upper part. If you try to straighten the
curved rib by force, it will break, and if you leave it alone, it will
remain curved forever. So follow my advice and treat your wives kindly
and well."
*.If a man dislikes his wife for some reason, he should not adopt an
attitude of hatred towards her, and start thinking in terms of
divorce, but he should look for the good qualities in her, and learn
to admire her because of them.
*.The Prophet (saw) has said, "No believing man hates his believing
wife. If there is a bad quality in her, there will also be a good
quality."
This is the claim of Faith on a believing husband and the privilege of
a believing wife.
*.Addressing the Muslims, the Prophet (saw) said "The best of you are
those who are best to their wives."
*.It is related by Aisha (ra) that the Prophet (saw) said, "Good among
you are those who are good to their wives; and I, on my part, am very
good to my wives."
This shows that there is a special goodness in treating one's wife
well. To make the advice more effective, the Prophet added that he
himself was good and considerate to his wives.

Marriage versus fornication

'The Big Chill?', a specially researched Time magazine cover story
dated February 16 1987, startled the world with horrifying details of
a new disease – AIDS. Since AIDS is infectious and fatal, it has
produced a new breed of untouchables from whom both men and women flee
in fear of their very lives. Publicity on the subject has created such
a scare that barbershops in western countries often display signboards
bearing the unlikely legend: "No Shaves Here."
Government officials have described such a reaction as 'AIDS
hysteria.' Barbers, however, maintain that even the AIDS victims'
perspiration, or drops of blood from tiny cuts made during shaving,
can transmit the virus and that it is, therefore, necessary to keep
away from them.
After making detailed investigations, Time's team of experts confirmed
that the prime cause of this deadly disease is promiscuity.
Since it is transmitted mainly by homosexuals, it has come to be known
as the "Gay Disease." This disease spreads so rapidly that its
explosion in the world of today has been geometric. Chilled by the
fatality of AIDS, one of its victims exclaimed: "What will happen in
this world, if we have to die when we make love? AIDS is the century's
evil."
Promiscuity, euphemistically referred to as 'free love' in the western
world, has brought down a curse upon humanity. It was estimated that
by 1991, two hundred and seventy thousand )270,000( people would have
contracted this disease in the U.S., and that doctors would find it
impossible to treat such a large number of patients. The situation
would be completely beyond control. The government has started an
anti-AIDS campaign whose slogan is: 'Love carefully.' This same
advice, differently worded, would read: 'Love within the bonds of
marriage. Stop loving outside it.'
In the modern age, one of the great influences towards socially
'legitimising' promiscuity was D.H. Lawrence's novel, Lady Chatterly's
Lover, first published in 1928. At the time of publication, this work
was considered obscene and almost immediately banned. Then, with a
gradual change of moral climate, permission was given to republish it
in 1959. Many young people in America were deeply affected by this
novel and, with a whole spate of similar literature having followed
it, promiscuity began to be the rule rather than the exception. Now,
once again, there is a public outcry to ban Lady Chatterly's Lover and
other such works.
Such a complete about-face has been caused by the devastating effects
of AIDS. It has forced the west to re-think the whole question of free
sex – a development which seems little short of miraculous. Swingers
of all persuasions may sooner or later be faced with the reality of a
new era of sexual caution and restraint.
People had been delighted at having discovered the key to unlimited
enjoyment in freeing themselves from the curbs of religion, for,
according to divine law, a sexual relationship between a man and a
woman was permitted only within the bonds of marriage. But now the
realities of nature are finally forcing man to forsake the path of
free love and follow the path of sexual restraint. It has taken the
fatalities of the final quarter of the twentieth century to convince
people that divine law and 'the law of nature' are one. Too late, it
has dawned on "free lovers" that promiscuity could be a killer. Time's
cartoon, showing a man and a woman encircled by a deadly snake,
epitomises one of today's major human dilemmas.
It was not without good reason that the Quran, Allaah's Book,
commanded that sexual relationships should be confined within the
bonds of marriage; it states what means:"…]Lawful in marriage[ are
chaste women from among the believers and chaste women from among
those who were given the Scripture before you, when you have given
them their due compensation, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual
intercourse or taking ]secret[ lovers…"]Quran: 5:5[
This has been interpreted by Quranic commentators as a clear
injunction to establish sexual relations only through marriage, and
that there should be no extra-marital relationships. The Quran states
what means:"…And those who guard their private parts, except from
their wives or those their right hands possess, - for indeed, they are
not top be blamed – But whoever seeks beyond that, then they are the
transgressors."]Quran: 70:29-31[
Experiments have shown that this is the only right and natural way.
Marital relationships and fornication are not just matters of approval
or disapproval by religious authorities, but matters of life and
death. The married state is a blessing for human society; any other is
a curse; Allaah says what means:"And of His signs is that He created
for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them;
and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are
signs for a people who give thought."]Quran: 30:21[
Islamic doctrines and traditions which succeeded in institutionalising
a solid system of sexual behaviour, arranging and shaping a unique
Muslim perception of sexual relationships, has also shielded the
Muslim world from being easy prey to AIDS. Yet, arguing that the
Muslim world is largely AIDS free or that the epidemic has little
presence among Muslims is a mere fantasy, a fantasy that could lead to
disaster.
Most Arab and Muslim countries fall into the gap of the impoverished
half of the world, a reality that is known to be a producer of many
grievous phenomena, besides people's failure to guarantee a suitable
home and nutritious food. Poverty in many parts of the world lays the
foundation for extremely dangerous social illnesses such as
prostitution, drug addiction and others. Such problems constitute a
golden opportunity for AIDS to strike.
It is significant that the new education plan released by the U.S.
government stresses sexual abstinence as a preventive measure. This
public exhortation to observe the rules of old-fashioned morality is a
clear indication of the superiority of divine law over man-made law.
A believer in Divine Law, who errs by entering into an illicit sexual
relationship, and contracting AIDS in the process, will be considered
to have deviated from the principles of divine law. However, one who
belongs to western civilisation and contracts such a disease as the
result of promiscuity will be said to have shown the error of the
principle of western civilisation itself. The former case proves the
error of man while the latter case proves the error of the principle
of an entire civilisation.

Divorce in Islam

Marriage, as prescribed by Allaah, is the lawful union of a man and
woman based on mutual consent. Ideally, the purpose of marriage is to
foster a state of tranquillity, love and compassion in Islam, but this
is not always the case. Islam discourages divorce but, unlike some
religions, does make provisions for divorce by either party.
Allaah provides general guidelines for the process of divorce with
emphasis on both parties upholding the values of justice and kindness
in formalising the end to their marriage )see ]Quran 2: 224-237[ for
general guidelines regarding divorce(.
Allaah encourages the husband and wife to appoint arbitrators as the
first step to aid in reconciliation in the process of divorce. If the
reconciliation step fails, both the man and woman are guaranteed the
right to divorce as established in the Quran, but the difference lies
in the procedure for each one. When a divorce is initiated by the man,
it is known as Talaaq.
The pronouncement by the husband may be verbal or written, but once
made, there is to be a waiting period of three months )'Iddah( during
which there can be no sexual relations, even though the two are living
under the same roof.
The waiting period helps to prevent hasty terminations due to anger
and allows both parties time to reconsider as well as to see if the
wife is pregnant. If the wife is pregnant, the waiting period is
lengthened until she delivers. At any point during this time, the
husband and wife are free to resume their conjugal relationship,
thereby ending the divorce process.During this waiting period, the
husband remains financially responsible for the support of his wife.
The divorce initiated by the wife is known as Khul' )if the husband is
not at fault( and requires that the wife return her dowry to end the
marriage because she is the 'contract-breaker'. In the instance of
Talaaq, where the husband is the 'contract-breaker', he must pay the
dowry in full in cases where all or part of it was deferred, or allow
the wife to keep all of it if she has already been given it in full.
In the case that the husband is at fault and the woman is interested
in divorce, she can petition a judge for divorce, with cause. She
would be required to offer proof that her husband had not fulfilled
his marital responsibilities. If the woman had specified certain
conditions that are Islamically accepted in her marriage contract,
which were not met by the husband, she could obtain a conditional
divorce.
The controversy regarding the seeming inequity in divorce lies in the
idea that men seem to have absolute power in obtaining a divorce. The
interpretation of scholars in the past has been that if the man
initiates the divorce, then the reconciliation step for appointing an
arbiter from both sides is omitted. This understanding diverges from
the Quranic injunction. Any difference in powers between the husband
and his wife with regard to divorce can be extracted from the
following verse )which means(:}...And due to them ]i.e., the wives[ is
similar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable.
But the men have a degree over them ]in responsibility and authority[.
And Allaah is Exalted in Might and Wise.{]Quran: 2:228[
In the following verse, according to existing interpretations, Allaah
gives the reason for the small difference in the verse )which
means(:}Men are in charge of women by ]right of[ what ]qualities[
Allaah has given one over the other and what they spend ]in support[
from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding
in ]the husband's[ absence what Allaah would have them guard.{]Quran:
4:34[
Thus, it is clear that there is a 'degree' of difference with regards
to the rights of men and women in divorce, and that the greater right
that men were given is due to their being the leaders and financial
supporters of the household. This, however, does not mean that women
are inferior to men or that they are second-class human beings.
Many of the laws regarding divorce in some Muslim countries are based
upon Quranic references on the subject. As with all human laws, they
must adapt to dynamic circumstances. Issues pertaining to custody have
become controversial. For example, Allaah in the Quran advises the
husband and wife to consult each other in a fair manner regarding
their children's future after divorce, as this verse states )which
means(:}…If they both desire weaning through mutual consent from both
of them and consultation, there is no blame upon either of
them.{]Quran: 2:233[
Some jurists stipulate that custody of the child is awarded to the
mother if the child is under a certain age and to the father if the
child is older. There is no Quranic evidence of age being a
determinant for custody. Similarly with regard to the issue of
alimony, in the Quran the ex-husband's financial obligation to his
ex-wife is mandated, but a specific formula for the amount of support
is missing; Allaah Says )what means(:}And for divorced women is
maintenance according to what is acceptable – a duty on the
righteous.{]Quran 2:241[ This is open for negotiation between parties
and should be in accordance with the husband's financial ability.
There has been much distortion and propagation of misunderstanding
about a woman's rights related to marriage and divorce. Only with
self-education and awareness of the Quranic text are men and women
able to learn the truth that Allaah has prescribed and understand the
scholarly interpretations in order that the spirit of justice is
realised. Allaah Says )what means(:}And when you divorce women and
they fulfil their term ]of their 'Iddah[, either keep them according
to reasonable terms or release them according to reasonable terms, and
do not keep them, intending harm, to transgress ]against them[. And
whoever does that has certainly wronged himself. And do not take the
verses of Allaah in jest. And remember the favour of Allaah upon you
and what has been revealed to you of the Book ]i.e., the Quran[ and
wisdom ]i.e., the Prophet's Sunnah[ by which He instructs you. And
fear Allaah and know that Allaah is Knowing of all things.{]Quran
2:231[

Artificial Insemination

Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And Allaah has made for you
from yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and
grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in
falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allaah they disbelieve?
{]Quran 16:72[. Allaah The Exalted also Says )what means(:}He gives to
whom He wills female ]children[, and He gives to whom He wills males.
Or He makes them ]both[ males and females, and He renders whom He
wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent. {]Quran 42: 49-50[.
In addition, the Prophetsaid:"Marry women who are loving and very
prolific, so I will outnumber all other nations through you."]Abu
Daawood and An Nasaa'i[
Continuous reproduction is of a great importance in the life of man in
order for him to preserve his existence and perform his mission of
constructing the earth. Nevertheless, one of the spouses – or both -
may suffer infertility which deprives them from having righteous
offspring.
Science discovered artificial insemination as a means to treat
infertility in the husband or wife and in the case of a delay in
pregnancy in a number of cases, including:
- The blockage of the fallopian tubes extended to the two sides of the
uterus or the absence thereof.
- The presence of antibodies in the secretions of the cervix and vagina.
- Low sperm count in men.
Forms of Artificial insemination:
There are various forms of artificial insemination. However, they are
divided into: permissible according to the restrictions set forth by
Islam or impermissible for contradicting the principles of the Islamic
Sharee'ah. These forms can be presented as follows:
The Permissible Forms Include:
- Taking the sperm specimen from the husband and injecting it into the
uterus of his wife by way of internal fertilization.
- Taking two samples; one from the semen of the husband and the other
from the ovum of the wife. They are fertilized externally in a test
tube. Then, the embryo is implemented in the uterus of the wife, the
owner of the ovum.
Impermissible forms Include:
- Inserting the semen of a certain male, who is known to the doctor
but unknown to the married couple, into the uterus of a woman. This is
after having taken her consent and the consent of her husband provided
that the donor shall not know to whom his semen will be given.
- Collecting the semen of many men and donating them to the sperm
bank. Then, it is used to fertilize the woman who requests
fertilization.
- External fertilization in a test tube between the sperm of a man and
an ovum of a woman who is not his wife and this man and woman are
referred to as donors. Then the embryo is implemented in the womb of
another married woman who desires to give birth. This applies in cases
of barren wives as a result of problems in the ovaries but a healthy
uterus as well as in case of barren husbands.
Regulations of Artificial Insemination:
Jurists have set forth a number of regulations that protect the
individuals, the family and society, such as:
- Taking extremely intense precautions in assuring that the ovum is
not confused with other fertilized ova.
- The husband or someone he trusts shall attend the process of
insemination from the point of taking the sperm and the egg until
inserting them into the woman's uterus.
- Recording the data of the process in full in order to avoid any
circumstances that may lead to intermixing of lineages.
- Affirmation of the professional and ethical integrity of the
physicians and medical staff who perform the process of insemination.
The issue, from the very beginning, should be enveloped by faith in
fate and divine decree as Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}He
gives to whom He wills female ]children[, and He gives to whom He
wills males. Or He makes them ]both[ males and females, and He renders
whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.{]Quran 42:
49-50[.

Dought & clear, - Ruling on jihaad.

Is jihaad considered to be fard 'ayn [obligatory on all individuals]
now, when the rights of Muslims have been violated by foreign
invasions and in other ways? What is the ruling on those who are not
engaged in jihaad, who cannot do anything, but if they were called
upon they would respond and fight in jihaad for the sake of Allaah,
but they are prevented by the current circumstances of the ummah, such
as the lack of rule according to sharee'ah? Please respond, with
evidence (daleel).
Praise be to Allaah.
Jihaad to make the word of Allaah supreme, to protect the religion of
Islam, to enable spreading the faith and to protect the things it
holds sacred, is an obligation upon everyone who is able to do it. But
this necessitates organizing and sending armies, lest it result in
chaos leading to bad consequences. So initiating it is one of the
tasks of the Muslim ruler, and the 'ulamaa' should encourage it. If
jihaad begins and the Muslims are mobilized, then everyone who is able
should answer the call, sincerely for the sake of Allaah, hoping for
truth to prevail and to protect Islam. Whoever holds back from that
when the call has been made, with no valid excuse, is a sinner.
And Allaah is the source of strength. May Allaah bless our Prophet
Muhammad and his family and companions, and grant them peace.
Fataawaa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah, 12/12

Dought & clear, - Should one who joins the prayer late recite the opening du‘aa’?

The opening du'aa' (du'aa' al-istiftaah) should come at the beginning
of the prayer. If I join the congregation at the beginning of the
second rak'ah, for example, should I recite it or have I missed the
time for it? In other words, should the opening du'aa' be recited only
in the first rak'ah, and after that should it not be recited? Or is it
that whenever the worshipper starts his prayer, he should say it even
if he did not say it in the first rak'ah?
Praise be to Allah.
The opening du'aa' is Sunnah according to the majority of scholars,
and whenever the worshipper catches up with his imam in the first or
second rak'ah, he should recite the opening du'aa', so long as he is
not worried that the imam will bow (too soon). But if he is worried
that the imam will bow, then he should recite al-Faatihah only,
because reciting it is obligatory.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If one who joins the
prayer late starts to pray, then the imam says Ameen immediately after
he has started to pray, then he should say Ameen and then recite the
opening du'aa', because the saying ameen is brief. If the one who
joins the prayer late catches up with the imam in the final tashahhud,
he should say takbeer and sit down, then if the imam says the salaam
as soon as he has sat down, then he should stand up (to make up what
he has missed of the prayer) and not say the opening du'aa', because
he has missed the place for it.
End quote fromal-Majmoo', 3/275
He also said: If he catches up with him when he is still standing, and
he knows that he will be able to recite the opening du'aa' and seek
refuge with Allah and recite al-Faatihah, then he must do so. This was
stated by ash-Shaafa'i inal-Umm, and also by our companions. … If he
knows that he will only be able to recite part of the opening du'aa'
and seek refuge with Allah and recite al-Faatihah, and he will not be
able to do all of it, he should do what he is able to do. This was
stated inal-Umm.
End quote fromal-Majmoo', 3/276
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
If the latecomer joins the prayer when the imam is reaching the end of
his recitation, before bowing, should he start his prayer with the
opening du'aa', or should he join the imam and remain silent?
He replied:
If the latecomer arrives when the imam is bowing, he should bow with
him, and not recite the opening du'aa' or recite any Qur'an; rather he
should say takbeer and bow. But if he comes when the imam is still
standing and there is plenty of time, then he should recite the
opening du'aa' and al-Faatihah. This is what is prescribed for him: to
recite the opening du'aa' and then al-Faatihah, even in the prayers in
which the imam recites out loud. If there is a pause where the imam
falls silent, he should recite it at that time; otherwise he should
recite it to himself, then after that he should listen attentively to
the imam. But if he comes late, when the imam is bowing, then he
should say takbeer and bow, and the requirement to recite al-Faatihah
is waived in this case, because he is excused.
End quote fromMajmoo' al-Fataawa, 30/150
And Allah knows best.

Dought & clear, - He wanted to help a woman become Muslim, then they committed zina and she got pregnant, then she insisted on leaving him, and cut off ties with him

I would like to ask you a question which is killing myself - I tried
to help a women for reverting Islam though before she didnt had any
religion and she agreed to marry with me but in the meantime we had
sex without marriage and aftersometime she broke with me and Allah swt
knows why she did that.
After that I repented a lot..May Allah forgive my sins and I tried to
pray istekhara and during this period she gave the news that she is
pregnant... which I told her that this is the sign for our marriage
but she didnt believe it. Instead of that she got upset and angry as
she became pregnant. Later she told me that she will abort the baby
and we didnt marry.
Now its been 6 months she is carrying the baby and wants to deliever
the child and In this meantime I have send several times of marriage
proposal but she didnt accept. I want my child back as well as her but
she is not agreeing.
What shall I do to get my child back and and I know even we marry now
the child will be illlegitmate. There fore I would like to know what
shall I do as I wana take the responsibility of the child and her and
if its legal to do so... will i lose the child? If child born does he
will have my name and am i legal to take care?
Kindly reply my answer at the earliest.
Praise be to Allah.
We believe that everyone who reads this question must learn from it
and convey that lesson to people, so that they may protect themselves
and their societies from such errors, and understand how doing things
the wrong way must inevitably lead to wrong outcomes, even if the aim
was noble. The aim is not sufficient to make actions right; rather the
action must also be free of any element of evil or corruption, as Ibn
al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: We seek refuge with Allah
from starting any action without basin it on knowledge and reason.
Talbees Iblees, p. 277
Similarly, we read what is mentioned in the question with a great deal
of sorrow. How the nafs (self) that is inclined towards evil could
take advantage of a girl who is interested in Islam, seeking guidance
and to learn about the Qur'an, and make her fall into the pit of
desire and forbidden pleasure, so that her search for guidance turned
into an occasion for resentment, anger and aversion, and showed her
the darkness of sin instead of the light of guidance. No light will be
left in the heart of the sinner; rather he will be stuck in the mire
of his sin, and what has tainted his heart of evil can hardly be
washed away except after sincere repentance, a great deal of praying
for forgiveness, and turning to Allah, may He be exalted, with
humility and humbling oneself before Him, in the hope that He may
pardon and forgive, and help him to come back to obedience to his
Lord, so that he may move beyond this dark stage in which the sin
began by forming a relationship with a non-mahram woman and ended with
zina.
See also fatwa no. 11195
Now that you have knocked at the door of repentance and have turned to
Allah, may He be exalted, you must understand some shar'i rulings
which are very important in your case; we will list them for you
below:
Firstly:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to marry a woman of any other
religion apart from the people of the Book, namely Jews and Christians
and those whom the scholars included under the same heading. As for a
woman who does not follow any religion at all, not even in name only
or on official papers, it is not permissible to marry her. Allah, may
He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe
(worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better
than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases
you"
[al-Baqarah 2:221].
No exception is mentioned except in the case of the people of the
Book, because of the general meanings of the word mushrikaat (fem. pl.
of the word mushrik, meaning one who associate others with Allah).
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to all disbelievers apart from the people of the Book,
such as those who worship whatever they see fit of idols, rocks, trees
and animals, there is no difference of scholarly opinion that it is
haraam to marry their women or eat meat slaughtered by them.
End quote fromal-Mughni, 7/131
This has been discussed previously in fatwa no. 2851
Secondly:
Attributing the child who is born as a result of zina (with a woman
who is not married) to the zaani is also a problematic matter. The
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "If (the
child) is from a free woman with whom he cohabited, he is not to be
attributed (to the zaani) and cannot inherit from him." Narrated by
Abu Dawood inas-Sunan, 2265; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh
Abi Dawood.
We have previously discussed this issue in more detail in fatwa no.
33591and 175523.
Thirdly:
With regard to m of the child, there is nothing wrong with you
spending on the child who was born as a result of zina if you want to
do so, provided that this is done from a distance, by sending the
money through a bank account for example, without being in contact
with that woman or meeting her, so that the sin will not be repeated
and so that the Shaytaan will not cause temptation between you.
Fourthly:
It is not permissible for you to carry on trying to convince her to
marry. She has been put off and has been faced with distress because
of that sin. Similarly, it is not permissible to use the fact that you
prayed istikhaarah and that she became pregnant as proof that this
marriage is something good. We think that this is a kind of getting
carried away in temptation and is an attempt to confuse that woman.
The marriage that is prescribed by Allah, may He be exalted, and is
liked by Him is not something for which pregnancy that results from
haraam actions can be interpreted as a sign in its favour; rather it
begins with obedience to Allah, may He be glorified, and adherence to
His laws and commands.
Our advice to you is to stop attempting to convince her; rather you
must stop trying to communicate with her in any way, because there is
no way that you can marry her if it becomes clear that she is neither
a Jew nor a Christian. Even if it becomes clear that she is a follower
of one of these two religions, there is no way that you can marry her
because she has refused and is convinced that marriage would fail
after it has been spoiled by zina.
We ask Allah to forgive us and you, and to grant us all well being.
And Allah knows best.

Man's ultimate responsibility is to God and his highest goal is the pleasure of his Creator.

From an Islamic perspective, the purpose of human life is to worship
God, by leading this worldly life in harmony with the Divine Will, and
thereby achieve peace in this world, and everlasting success in the
life of the hereafter. Muslims look to Noble Qur'an and the Traditions
of Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) as their moral guides. Muslims believe
that true happiness occurs when you are God-conscious and submissive
to God's will. Freedom is freedom from human desires and man-made
ideals. Through prayer and fasting, self-discipline and self-control
become a focus of many Muslims. This also is a foundation for human
dignity.
Almighty Allah (SWT) sums up righteousness in verse 177 of Surat Al
Baqarah as follows:
"It is not righteousness that you turn your faces towards the East and
the West, but righteousness is this that one should believe in Allah
and the last day and the angels and the Book and the prophets, and
give away wealth out of love for Him to the near of kin and the
orphans and the needy and the wayfarer and the beggars and for (the
emancipation of) the captives, and keep up prayer and pay the
poor-rate; and the performers of their promise when they make a
promise, and the patient in distress and affliction and in time of
conflicts - these are they who are true (to themselves) and these are
they who guard (against evil)." (Noble Qur'an, 2:177)
This verse teaches us that righteousness and piety is based before all
else on a true and sincere faith. The key to virtue and good conduct
is a strong relation with God, who sees all, at all times and
everywhere. He knows the secrets of the hearts and the intentions
behind all actions. Therefore, Islam enjoins moral behavior in all
circumstances; God is aware of each one when no one else is. It may be
possible to deceive the world, but it's not possible to deceive the
Creator. The love and continuous awareness of God and the Day of
Judgment enables man to be moral in conduct and sincere in intentions,
with devotion and dedication:
"Indeed, the most honorable among you in the sight of God is the most
pious." (Noble Qur'an, 49:13)
The guiding principle for the behavior of a Muslim is what Noble
Qur'an refers to as virtuous deeds. This term covers all deeds, not
just the outward acts of worship.
Some of the most primary character traits expected of a Muslim are
piety, humility and a profound sense of accountability to God. A
Muslim is expected to be humble before God and with other people.
Islam also enjoins upon every Muslim to exercise control of their
passions and desires. Gratitude in prosperity, patience in adversity,
and the courage to uphold the truth, even when inconvenient to
oneself, are just some of the qualities that every Muslim is
encouraged to cultivate.
Islam warns against vanity and excessive attachment to the ephemeral
pleasures of this world. While it is easy to allow the material world
to fill our hearts, Islam calls upon human beings to keep God in their
hearts and to use the material world in moderation and in accordance
with God's guidance. The Glorious Qur'an says:
"The Day whereon neither wealth nor sons will avail, but only he (will
prosper) that brings to Allah a sound heart." ( Noble Qur'an:
26:88-89)
Charityis one of the most commendable acts in Islam. In fact, Zakah,
the annual charity that is obligatory on every Muslim who has accrued
wealth above a certain level.

Morality and Ethics in Islam: Islamic Culture in Muslim Society(Moral Stories)

The word "morality" comes from the Latin word moralitas meaning
"manner, noble character and proper behavior". Morality generally
refers to a code of conduct, that an individual, group or society hold
as authoritative, in distinguishing right from wrong. Immorality is
the active opposition to morality, while amorality is not admitting of
moral distinctions or judgments; neither moral nor immoral or lacking
moral sensibility; not caring about right and wrong.
Ethics, also known as moral philosophy, is a branch of philosophy that
addresses questions about morality that is, concepts such as good and
evil, right and wrong, virtue and vice, justice, etc. Ethics in Islam
or True Islamic code of ethics provides basic concepts which gives
humanity a strong platform on which they can lay their lives according
to the teaching of Noble Qur'an and Prophet's Sunnah.
Islam as a comprehensive way of life encompasses a complete moral
system that is an important aspect of its world-view. We live in an
age where good and evil are often looked at as relative concepts.
Islam however, holds that moral positions are not relative and
instead, defines a universal standard by which actions may be deemed
moral or immoral.
A major goal of Islam is to provide mankind with a practical and
realistic system of life based on good by which he can conduct his
life. It calls upon mankind not only to practice virtue but to
establish it and to eradicate all that is harmful. It seeks the
supremacy of one's conscience in all matters, so that what is harmful
cannot gain the upper hand in either an individual or a society. Those
who respond to this call are known as Muslims, which literally means
those who have submitted to God (Allah). The sole object of the
resulting community of Muslims ( Muslim Ummah) is the undertaking of
an organized effort to establish what is good and to fight and
eradicate what is evil and harmful.
Morality is one of the fundamental sources of a nation's strength,
just as immorality is one of the main causes of a nation's decline.
Hence, Morality is one of the cornerstones of Islam. Morality in Islam
has established some universal fundamental rights for humanity as a
whole, which are to be observed in all circumstances. Islam's moral
system is striking in that it not only defines morality, but also
guides the human race in how to achieve it, at both an individual as
well as a collective level. Thus, everything that leads to the welfare
of the individual and the society is morally good in Islam, and
whatever is harmful is morally bad.
Given its importance in a healthy society, Islam supports morality and
matters that lead to it and stands in the way of corruption and
matters that lead to it. The Islamic moral principles therefore,
appeal naturally to the human intellect, while elevating the pursuit
of morality to the level of worship. This is because Islam holds every
action that is done with the goal of attaining of God's pleasure to be
worship. The Guardian and Judge of all deeds is God Himself.
The concept of morality in Islam centers around certain basic beliefs
and principles. Among these are the following: (1) God is the Creator
and Sustainer of the Universe and Source of all goodness, truth and
beauty. (2) Man is a responsible, dignified and honorable agent of his
Creator. (3) God has put everything in the heavens and the earth in
the service of mankind. (4) By His Mercy and Wisdom, God does not
expect the impossible from man or hold him accountable for anything
beyond his power. Nor does God forbid man to enjoy the good things of
life. (5) Moderation, practicality and balance are the guarantees of
high integrity and sound morality. (6) All things are permissible in
principle except what is singled out as obligatory, which must be
observed, and what is singled out as forbidden, which must be avoided.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Dua, - To Expel the devil from the house (or preventing him from entering)

Translation
The messenger of Allah (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) said: "The devil flees from the house where suratAl-Baqarais
recited".
Surah Al-Baqarah Chapter 2
Note: Some scholars had mentioned that there is no problem in playing
it from a recorder or the likes, but overall its better to recite it.
(To be recited in Arabic)
Sources: Muslim No# 780 At-Tirmidhi No# 2877

Dua to ward off the deception of obstinate devils

أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللهِ التَّامَّاتِ الَّتِي لَا يُجَاوِزُهُنَّ
بَرٌّ وَلَا فَاجِرٌ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ ، وَبَرَأَ ، وَذَرَأَ ،
وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا يَنْزِلُ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا يَعْرُجُ
فِيهَا ، وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا ذَرَأَ فِي الأَرْضِ وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا
يَخْرُجُ مِنْهَا ،
وَمِنْ شَرِّ فِتَنِ اللَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ ، وَمِنْ شَرِّ كُلِّ
طَارِقٍ إِلَّا طَارِقًا يَطْرُقُ بِخَيْرٍ ، يَا رَحْمَنُ
Translation
I seek refuge with Allah's perfect words which no righteous or
unrighteous person can transgress, from all the evil that He has
created, made and originated.
(I seek refuge) from the evil that descends from the sky and the evil
that rises up to it. and (I seek refuge) from the evil that is spread
on Earth and the evil that springs from it.
And I seek refuge from the evil of the tribulations of night and day,
and the evil of one who visits at night except the one who brings
good, O Merciful One.
Transliteration
a‛oodhu bi kalimaat-illaahit-taammaat-illatee laa yujaawizuhunna
barrun wa laa faajirun min sharri maa khalaqa, wa bara'a , wa dhara'a,
wa min sharri maa yanzilu minas-samaa'i wa min sharri maa ya‛ruju
feehaa, wa min sharri maa dhara'a fil-arḍi wa min sharri maa yakhruju
minhaa,
wa min sharri fitanil-layli wan-nahaari, wa min sharri kulli ṭaariqin
illaa ṭaariqan yaṭruqu bikhayrin, yaa raḥman
Sources: Ahmad No# 15461 with an authentic chain and Ibn As-Sunni
#637. See Al-Silsilah Al-Sahihah No# 2995

Dua, - Dua when afraid of people

اللَّهُمَّ اكْفِنِيهِمْ بِمَا شِئْتَ
Translation
O Allah, protect me from them as You wish.
Transliteration
allaahummak-fineehim bi maa shi'ta
Sources: Ibn Hibban No# 6281

Fathwa, - Sitting arrangements in a party

Question:
We are going to have a dinner party at our house where some family
members and a friend's family will be coming. Obviously, it is
important that mixing between men and women be kept at a minimum. But
I have a question regarding how this should be done, given that none
of the guests wear hijab or pay much attention avoiding free-mixing.
If we have men downstairs, women upstairs, and then have men come
upstairs to get food (and then return downstairs to eat it), would the
hosts be sinful by having an opportunity for men to look at women and
vice-versa while the men come up to get food? The men will be getting
food from the kitchen, while the women will be sitting in an adjacent
family room (which is not walled off). Also, given that the guests do
not observe any hijab, how far should we go in forcing segregation?
Would the above situation in which men and women sit separately for
most of the time be OK? The men and women guests normally converse
with each other, so would the hosts be sinful if this occurs during
the gathering?
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious Most Merciful.
The setup of having Men downstairs and the Women upstairs sounds like
a fair setup. The problem that you are mentioning in this setup can
probably be overcome by having women who are mahram (wife, sister,
mother. etc.) of the men transporting the food to pass the food to
them in the hallway or something similar to this.
The responsibility of the host is to take as many reasonable measures
to observe the laws of Allah in his boundaries and facilitate them.
The setup you have mentioned seems to be fulfilling this criteria to a
certain degree if the above problem can be somehow overcome. It is
very difficult to ensure that no prohibited interaction take place at
all, since such socialization may take place outside while the guests
are leaving.
The Prophet of Allah (upon him be peace) said, "O People, you will
never be able to [completely] observe all that you have been
commanded. However, either hit the mark or be close [saddidu aw
qaribu] (Bukhari, Muslim).
Hence, you are commended greatly for your attempts at observing the
obligations and prohibitions of Allah. May Allah accept your
endeavors.

Fathwa, - Can you speak to girls who are not related to you e.g. in college?

Question:
Can you speak to girls who are not related to you e.g. in college?
Answer:
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, �I
have not left behind a trial more challenging for men than women.�
[Bukhari and Muslim]
One may speak to someone of the opposite sex when there is a need, to
the extent of the need, in an upright and restrained manner. This is
the guidance of the Beloved of Allah (Allah bless him and give him
peace).
Beyond this, it would be blameworthy and sometimes even sinful.

Fathwa, - Is it permissible for a man to marry his wife's stepmother?

Question:
Is it permissible for a man to marry his wife's stepmother? Man A is
married to Woman B, whose father has four wives, one of whom (Woman C)
is 3 years older than Woman B. Woman B's father (i.e. Woman C's
husband) dies, and Man A marries Woman B's stepmother, i.e. Woman C.
Is this permissible?
Answer:
The nature of Shariah is such that it intends to eradicate anything
that may lead to the breaking of ties and disputes. In many
injunctions of Shariah, we see that the main cause behind the
prohibition of a certain act is the possibility of disputes and
arguments arising. Many laws of commerce and trade are based on this
very principle.
Due to this, it was prohibited for a man to combine two or more women
in his marriage (i.e. at the same time) who are closely related to
each other. Co-wives normally and naturally become jealous of each
other and not everything is hunky-dory between them, thus the idea
behind the prevention of combining two relatives in marriage is to
prevent the breaking of ties between relatives and closely related
people.
The great Hanafi jurist (faqih), Imam Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on
him) explains:
"...Combining them (closely related women) in marriage is unlawful
(haram) due to the reason that it will normally lead to the breaking
of ties between the co-wives who are related. And the evidence for
this is the Hadith recorded by al-Tabrani that the Messenger of Allah
(Allah bless him & give him peace) said: "If you do that (m: i.e.
combine two related women in marriage), you will be breaking ties" and
more details is mentioned in Fath al-Qadir." (Radd al-Muhtar, 3/36)
Thus, the Qur'an prohibited the combining of two sisters in marriage.
Allah Most High states:
"Prohibited to you (for marriage) are......two sisters in wedlock at
one and the same time." (Surah al-Nisa, 23)
Similarly, Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) narrates
that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
"A woman and her paternal aunt must not be combined in marriage,
neither a woman and her maternal aunt." (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4820)
Based on the above, the Hanafi jurists (fuqaha) have laid down a
principle with regards to the prohibition of combining two women in
marriage which is that, it is not permissible to combine two women who
are such that, if one of them were a man, it would not be permissible
for her to marry the other.
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
"The principle (asl) is that it will not be permissible to combine two
women (in marriage) who are such that if one of them was presumed to
be a man, from any side, then it would not be permissible for them to
marry each other." (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 1/277)
Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states:
"It is unlawful to combine two women (in marriage) who are such that
if one of them was presumed to be a man, it would not be permissible
for him (her) to marry the other." (See: Radd al-Muhtar ala al-Durr,
3/38)
The meaning of the above two texts is that, Allah Most High has
mentioned the list of people whom it is unlawful for one to marry,
such as one's sister, mother, daughter, aunt, niece, mother in-law,
wife's daughter, etc. Thus, if one intends to combine two women in
marriage, one must look at whether, if one of them was assumed to be a
man, it would be permissible for her (him) to marry the other? If not,
then it would be unlawful to combine them in marriage. This assumption
must be from both sides, as mentioned in the text of al-Fatawa
al-Hindiyya, where it stated "from any side".
For example, there are two sisters, and a person wants to combine them
in marriage. Now, if we presume any one of them to be a man, marriage
would be unlawful between them. The reason being is that if any one of
them was presumed to be a man, he will be the brother of the other,
and marriage with one's sister is unlawful. This will be the case
regardless of whom we presume to be a man, i.e. from both sides.
Having understood the above, we come to the question of marrying one's
stepmother in-law. To combine a woman and her real mother (i.e. real
mother in-law) in marriage is without doubt unlawful, for if any one
of them were to be a man, marriage would not be lawful between them.
Let's say the mother was a man. In this situation it will be unlawful
for a father to marry his own daughter. Suppose we considered the
daughter to be a man, even in this case, it is unlawful for a son to
marry his mother. Thus, to have a daughter and her (real mother) in
marriage at the same time is unlawful.
However, the case with combing a woman and her step-mother is not the
same, in that this is permissible. The reason here is that, if we
presumed the daughter to be a man, then indeed it will not be
permissible for a man to marry his step-mother. However, in the vice
versa situation, meaning if we presumed the mother to be a man, it
will be allowed for him to marry the girl. The women will not be
considered to be a step father marrying his daughter, rather a strange
(ajnabi) man marrying a girl, for we presumed her to be man, thus she
cannot be the wife of her husband (I hope this is understandable!).
Thus, the Hanafi Fuqaha have permitted the marriage to a woman and her
stepdaughter at the same time. It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
"It will be permissible to combine (in marriage) a woman and her
husband's daughter (m: from another wife), because if the women (m:
mother) was presumed to be a man, it would be permissible for him to
marry the girl. However, in the vice versa situation, it would not be
allowed." (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 1/277)
Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states:
"It is permissible to combine (in marriage) a woman and her husband's
daughter (m: i.e. a girl and her stepmother)."
Imam Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) explains the above by stating:
"...Because if the woman (mother) was presumed to be a man, he will be
marrying the husband's daughter, and she (the daughter) will be
considered to be a daughter of a strange man (m: meaning, she cannot
be classed as a man and also have a husband at the same time, thus one
will have to say that her relationship with the girl is that of a
stranger." (Radd al-Muhtar, 3/39)
In conclusion, it is permitted for a man to combine a woman and her
stepmother in marriage at the same time, or in other words, a woman
and her stepdaughter. Thus, marriage with a stepmother in-Law is
perfectly permissible whether separately or with keeping her
stepdaughter in the marriage.
And Allah knows best.

Kindness to Daughters

Even now daughters are considered an unwanted burden in some societies
and instead ofrejoicing, anatmosphere of grief and disappointmentis
produced in the family at their birth. This is the position, today,
but in the pre-Islamic times the daughters were positively considered
a shame and disgrace among the Arabs, so much so that even the right
to live was denied to them. Many a hard-hearted parent used to
strangle his daughter to death, with his own hands, when she was born,
or bury her alive.
The Qur'an says:
"When news is brought to one of them, of thebirth of a female, his
facedarkensand he is filled with inward grief. He hides himself with
shame, from the people, because of the bad news he has had. (Asking
himself): shall he keep it in contempt or bury in the dust.Ah: What an
evil choice they decide."
Abdullah ibn Abbas (ra) reports that the Prophet (saw) said
"Whoever becomes the father of a girl, he shouldneither hurt her nor
treat her with contemptnor show preference over her to his
sonsinkindnessandaffection. (Both boys and girls should be treated
alike.) Allah willgrant him Paradisein return forkind treatment
towards the daughter."
It is narrated that a very poor woman, with two daughters, came to
Ayesha's (ra) place to beg. By chance, Aisha (ra) had only one date
with her, at that time, which she gave to the woman. The woman broke
the date into two parts and gave one part each to the girls. She did
not eat anything of it herself. When after some time, the Prophet
(saw) came, Aisha (ra) related the incident to him, upon which he
remarked:
"The believing man or woman upon whom there is the responsibility of
daughters and he or she discharges it well andtreats them with
affection, the daughters will become a means offreedom, for him or
her, in thehereafter."
It is related by Anas (ra) that the Prophet (PBUH) said
"The believer who bears the responsibility of two daughters and
supports them till they attain puberty,he and Iwill beclose to one
anotherlike this on the Day of Judgment."
Anas (ra), adds that the Prophet (saw) showed, by joining the fingers
of his hand, that as the fingers were close to one another, in the
same way will the believer be close to him on the Day of Judgment.
Abu Saeed Khudri (ra) relates that the Prophet (saw) said "Whoever
bears the responsibility of three daughters or sisters or even of two
daughters or sisters, and bears it well, and looks after their
training and welfare properly, and then, gets them married, Allah will
reward him with Paradise."
In these Ahadith, the Prophet (saw) has not only stated thatkind
treatment was the natural rightorclaim of the daughters, but, also
that thebelievers who fulfilledthe obligation towards them in a good
and proper manner would berewarded with Paradisein the hereafter. He,
further, gives the joyful tidings that such a man will be close to
him, on the Day of Judgment, as the fingers of a hand are, when joined
together.

For Whom Fasting is Mandatory?

Mandatory
The obligation of fasting is mandatory on a person who has fulfilled
these requirements: He or she must be aMuslim,sane, must have
reachedpuberty, must behealthy, and not in astate of travel; and for
women, they must be in a state of purity (clean from menstruation and
post childbirth bleeding). If a person fulfills the above
prerequisites, fasting becomes valid and mandatory.
Inferring from this definition, if one of these conditions is missing,
the fast will be invalid. Indeed, it may be better to analyze each
category of the definition.
Not Mandatory
Non-Muslim (Kafir)
Fasting isnot obligatory on a non-Muslimbecause he is not commanded to
fast and even if he decides to fast and follows all the regulations,
it will not be accepted by Allah (SWT). If he or she wants to fast the
Islamic fast, he has to declare the Kalimahfirst, and only then will
the fast be accepted. Similarly, the non-Muslim (Kafir) is not
obligated to perform any Islamic duties. If he converts to Islam
during the month of Ramadan, for instance, in the middle of the month,
it becomes incumbent upon him to fast the remaining days. There will
be no making up the days he missed before becoming Muslim.Allah (SWT)
states:
"Say to the unbelievers, if they desist from unbelief, their past
would be forgiven of them..."( Al-Qur'an 8:38)
If one converts to Islam during the daytime in Ramadan, say 10:00 a.m.
in the morning, he or she should observe the rest of the day in
fasting. That is, from 10:00 a.m. until sunset, he should not break
his fast.
Insane (Majnun)
Theinsane or retarded person is not obligatedto keep his fast because
he is deprived of sanity, a key component on which religious duties
depend. In a hadith related by Ali Bin Abi Talib (raa), the Messenger
of Allah (PBUH) said:
"The Pen that records the deeds has been lifted from three people; the
insane person, until he recovers; the sleeping person, until he wakes
up; and the minor, until he dreams (i.e., has wet dreams.)" (Ahmed)
This hadith indicates the fast of the insane person, for instance, is
not valid because he cannot comprehend the worship, and he
cannotmeaningfully declare intention (niyyah), without which the acts
are invalid. If he has mental relapses whereby he is healthy, and then
on occasion is sick, the fast is mandatory upon him during the days
and times he is healthy but not when he is unhealthy.
If he intends to fast in the morning, and he falls ill during this
time, his fast is good as if he fainted as a result of illness,
because he knows that he may experience an attack at certain times. If
he gets well during the daytime in Ramadan, he should observe the fast
the rest of the day because he is obligated to fast. However, he does
not have to make up the day because his case is like that of
unbeliever who becomes Muslim time or a minor he reached puberty
during the day.
Minor (Sabiyy)
Similarly, theminor person is not obligated to observefast (Sawm),
because of the previous hadith related by Ali bin Abi Talib, "... And
the minor until he dreams." However, it is imperative that the parents
or the guardians of the juveniles or adolescents encourage and urge
them to fast so they will get used to it. It will be vital training
for them in their worship, because they will not have any chance for
training as soon as they reach puberty.
In a hadith reported by Rubayyiah Bint Mau'awwidh (raa), the Prophet
(saas) sent a messenger to the village of Ansar on the morning of
Ashura to inform them:
"Whoever wakes in fasting should continue his fasting, whoever wakes
up without fasting should complete his day in fasting. So we used to
fast, let our young children fast, and go to the Masjid with them.
When one of the children cried for food, we would make toys from wool
and give them to the children until it was time to break the fast."
(Bukhari and Muslim)
This hadith indicates thattraining minor boys and girls is highly
recommendedearly in life, from about seven years of age for the
spiritual, educational, and cultural upbringing of Muslim youth. It is
the most powerful symbol of our religion.
Puberty - Boys
Puberty is known in Islamic law asal-bulugh, orTamyeez, (coming of age
as a man and woman). There are three signs of puberty (bulugh):
1.Discharging semen as a result of wet dreams, known
asinzaalul-manyyi. Allah (SWT) states: "But when the children among
you come of age, let them also ask for permission, as do those senior
to them in age..."(Al-Qur'an, 24-59)
In a hadith, the Messenger of Allah (saas) said: "Friday bath
(ghuslul-Jum'ah) is mandatory upon anyone who has experienced a wet
dream." (Bukhari/Muslim) The point in this hadith is that Islamic
obligations are not incumbent on anyone until they reach the age
ofbulugh.
2.Appearance of hair around the pubic area is another sign of puberty.
If a person sees that even without wet dreams, he or she has attained
puberty. This may happen at the age of thirteen or fourteen, and
parents should inform girls and boys about these signs.
3.Reaching 15 years of age: When the person reaches 15, he or she is a
man or a woman, and anything that is obligatory on a man or woman is
obligatory on him or her from that time on.
In a hadith reported by Abdullah Bin Umar (raa), he said:
"My parents brought me to the Messenger of Allah on the eve of
theUhudCampaign and I was fourteen years old, so the Prophet (saas)
did not enlist me in fighting." But a year later in the Campaign of
Al-Khandaqq, I was fifteen, so this time the Prophet (saas) enlisted
me in combat." (Muslim)
This hadith indicates theage of 15 is the legal age for a Muslim boy
or girlto be responsible for his or her religion as well as worldly
responsibilities. Some of us who reside in the western world, seem to
think adulthood depends on State laws. In some states it is 18, while
in others it is 19, or 21, and so on. This is a very serious mistake,
as the juvenile will reach puberty (bulugh) and adulthood, but go on
without observing his or her Islamic duties, such as Salat, fasting,
or being restrained from that which is prohibited.
Puberty - Girls
Girls reach puberty and adulthood when they experience the above three
signs. However, they have a fourth sign, that is, menstruation (hayd).
Whenever a girl experiences it, she is a woman even if she is 12 years
old. At that time, theQalam, the pen of responsibilities, begins to
flow and to record the deeds of the servant, good or bad. It is
interesting that in the western world the case is the reverse. You
see, when ajuvenile reaches the age of puberty in Al-Islam he or she
should be careful about anything he or she does or says. On the
contrary, in the West when the person comes of age, he or she is
allowed to do things which are detrimental to his or her well being.
Indeed, if puberty is attained during the days of Ramadan, say at
midday, and the young person is fasting, he or she should continue his
or her fasting and there will be no obligation on him or her to make
up the fast. If he was not fasting, it is incumbent upon him to
observe the rest of the day in fasting, because he has become an adult
upon whom Islamic rites are obligatory. Girls in menstruation can't
observe half day, nor should they make that half day up.

Cleanliness and Beautification in Islam

Before directing its attention to the questions of adornment and good
appearance, Islam addressed itself in considerable depth to the
question of cleanliness, for cleanliness is the essence of good
appearance and the beauty of every adornment.
It is reported that the Prophet (peace be on him) said:
"Cleanse yourself, for Islam is cleanliness."(Reported by Ibn Hayyan.)
"Cleanliness invites toward faith, and faith leads its possessor to
the Garden.(Reported by al-Tabarani.)"
The Prophet (peace be on him) placed a great emphasis on keeping the
body, clothing, houses, and streets clean, and he laid special stress
on cleaning the teeth, hands, and hair.
This emphasis on cleanliness is not to be wondered at in a religion
which makes cleanliness the key to its principle form of
worship,salat,for the Muslim'ssalat isnot acceptable unless his body,
clothing, and the place where he performs hissalatare all clean. In
addition to this requirement' there are the obligatory types of
cleansing, either of the entire body in the form ofghusl(total
washing), or of those parts of the body which are exposed to dirt, in
the form ofwudu(ablution forsalat).
The desert environment of Arabia and the nomadic life of its people
were not very conducive to cleanliness and refinement, and most of
them neglected these aspects. The Prophet (peace be on him), with his
lively instruction and to-the-point admonition, gradually led them out
of their uncouth habits and taught them refinement and civil manners.
Once a man approached the Prophet (peace be on him) with his hair and
beard disheveled. The Prophet (peace be on him) made some gestures as
if asking the man to comb his hair. He did so, and when he returned
the Prophet (peace be on him) said to him,
"Is not this better than that one should come with disheveled hair,
looking like a devil?"(Reported by Malik inAl-Muwatta.)
On another occasion the Prophet (peace be on him) saw a man with
unkept hair and remarked,
"Does he have nothing with which to comb his hair?"(Reported by Abu Daoud.)
Upon seeing another man with dirty clothes he remarked,
"Cannot he find anything with which to wash his clothes?"(Reported by
Abu Daoud.)
A man came to the Prophet (peace be on him) wearing cheap-looking
garments. "Do you have property?" the Prophet (peace be on him) asked
him. "Yes," the man replied. "What kind of property?" asked the
Prophet (peace be on him). "Allah has given me all kinds of wealth,"
he said. The Prophet (peace be on him) then said to him, "Since Allah
has given you wealth, let Him see the effects of His favor and bounty
upon you.'' (Reported by al-Nisai.)
The Prophet insisted that people come to general gatherings, such as
the Friday and the 'Eid prayers, nicely dressed and well-groomed. He
said,If you can afford it, it is befitting that you wear garments
other than your working clothes to Friday prayer.(Reported by Abu
Daoud.)