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Sunday, August 11, 2013

Muslims' position towards the Danish insulting cartoons

Question:
What is the solution to the Danish cartoon that was done in Europe?
How should a Sunni Muslim from the USA think about these heathens!
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Every Muslim should know that the defamation about the religion and
mocking the Prophetwhich happened along the centuries and which is
happeningnow is an affliction through which a Muslim should be
patient. The Prophetsaid:"How strange is the matter of a believer,
there is good in all his affairs, and this is only for the believer.
If something good happens to him and he is grateful, then this is good
for him, and if a calamity befalls him and he is patient, then this is
alsogood for him." ]Muslim[ The fact that people ridicule the
Prophetis not a new matter. Rather itis a very ancient matter that is
being renewed. The non-Muslims from the tribe of Quraysh insulted the
Prophetand theysaid that he was a poet, a magician and a mad man, and
they defamed him with other insults, but this did not harm the
Prophetand did not decrease his status. This ]what happened[ only
increases our firm belief in the Prophetand that he was truly a
Prophet, and it increases our love for him, and makes us abide by his
orders.
Our advice to our Muslim brothers during these grave events and
similar incidents in addition to what we already mentioned is the
following:
1- To control oneself and take it easy, and not
hasten and do any act which maybe of a negative effect for the
Muslims. Rather, one should exploit these events in a way to serve
this religion, as these bitterincidents could yield sweet fruits.Ibn
Al-Qayyimsaid: 'Calamities and problems are afflictions and )in
reality are( blessings.' Indeed these incidentsdraw the attention of
the neglectful Muslims and result in their return to Allaah, and it is
a way of renovating the religion in the hearts of the Muslims, in
addition to other benefits that could be achieved.
2- It is an obligation to repent to Allaah and avoid sins and acts
of disobedience. Allaah Says)what means(: }And whatever strikes you of
disaster, it is for what your hands have earned; but He pardons
much.{]Quran 42:30[. Moreover, the Prophetsaid: "If you trade with
Ribaa)usury and interest(, and stick to the tails of cows and are
pleased with the plantations ]are busy with this worldly life[, and
abandoned Jihaad )fighting in theCause of Allaah(, Allaah will put you
through a humiliation which He will not remove from you untilyou
return to your religion." ]AbuDaawood[
3- To ask the scholars about what to do and act according to their
advice, as a sign of acting according to the Saying of Allaah)which
means(: }And when there comes to them something ]i.e. information[
about ]public[ security or fear, they spread it around. But if they
had referred itback to the Messenger or to those of authority among
them, then the ones who ]can[ draw correct conclusions from it
wouldhave known about it.{ ]Quran 4:83[. Therefore, one should not act
]say or do anything[ except according to the advice of these scholars.
We would like to stress on the importance of boycotting the products
of the countries which published these cartoons, and undertaking other
means which could achieve religious benefits. In doing so, we have to
focus on the country which caused the spread of this evil, and we
should completely and totally boycott its
products, services and medicines until they taste the outcome of their
evil acts.
4- To unite: By uniting, the nation will become powerful, andwe
should be careful of divisions, as this weakens the nation. Allaah
Says )what means(: }And hold firmly to the rope of Allaah all together
and do not become divided.{]Quran 3:103[. Allaah Says)what means(:
}And obey Allaah and His Messenger, and do not dispute and ]thus[ lose
courage and ]then[ your strength would depart; and be patient. Indeed,
Allaah is with the patient.{]Quran 8:46[.
Finally, it should be noted that the above advice and directives are
required from the Muslims at all times, and that they]directives[ are
more confirmed when such events and incidents happen.
Allaah Knows best.

Evidence that Muhammadwas a Prophet

Question:
Prove that Muhammad is a true Prophet. What powers did God give him?
Please e-mail it as soonas possible.
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
The signs that prove the prophecy of Muhammadare numerous. Many books
have beenwritten to enumerate them and thoroughly discuss them. We
would like to mention some of these signs as reported by Muslim
scholars and which prove that Muhammadwas a real Prophet including:
- First, his good biography and high morals as well as the noble
qualities that distinguished him. He was known before becoming a
Prophet as a truthful and honest person, although the community where
he lived was a society of ignorance. This was, perhaps, the most
important sign of his prophecy. He was not known to have ever lied on
people. So, why should he lie on be half of the Lord by claiming that
he was a Prophet, if he was not a real Prophet?
- Second, the powers and triumphs Allaah gave him and thespread of the
religion he preached, as well as the triumph of this religion over all
existing religions in a short period of time. Had he been a liar,
Allaah would have humiliated and destroyed him as He did with those
before him who falsely claimed Prophethood.
- Third, the miracles Allaah gave him as supporting evidence were
beyond the ability of human beings andwere beyond range ofnatural
phenomena. The moon split for him, water gushed from his fingers, food
became more abundant in his hands, and similar phenomena were
authentically reported and happened in a way that could notbe denied.
- Fourth, the Prophetwas backed by the greatest miracle which is
theQuran. In fact,Quranwas a challenge and remains a challenge for
Arabs who were known to be good poets and eloquent speakers. Allaah
challenged them to write a singleSurah )chapter( that would be similar
to that ofQuran, but the Arabs were unable to do so. Indeed, the
challenge still endures, none of the Arabs throughout history - since
the revelation of theQuran- was ableto make anything that was even
similar to it. No doubt that theQuranhas been preserved intact until
it came to us. Groups of people memorized it including children,
adults, males and females. So generations brought theQuranto
generations until it reached us as it was revealed 14 centuries ago.
Hence, theQuranremains intact protected from distortion or alteration.
Nothing has been added to it, nor taken from it.Quranis full of
scientific facts that were verified only in these times of scientific
investigation. No doubt that Muhammad who was illiterate would not
have possessed this knowledge 14 centuries ago. Doesn't this prove the
authenticity of theQuranand thatit is the Word of the Creator of the
Universe who knows all its secrets?
- Fifth, the things from the unseen that he )the Prophet( informed us
about. Some of themoccurred during his life time. Others happened
later. Some of these things happened to the Prophets, may Allaah exalt
their mention, who preceded him and some are still to occur. He also
informed about the signs of The Day of Judgment, some of which had
already been seen such as widespread killings and genocide, adultery
and fornication and the consumption of the alcohol, outnumbering of
males by females and the increased number of earthquakes, and
afflictions,… etc.
- Sixth, the testimony of some of the people of the Book that he was a
true Prophet. Some of them believed in him like 'Abdullaah Ibn
Salaamwho was a Jew as well as Negus )king ofAbyssinia( who was a
Christian. Some of the people of the Book certified that he was a
Prophet from Allaah but refused to follow him like Huyayy Ibn Akhtab.
The above are some of the signs that prove his Prophethood and the
authenticity of his revelations. We would like the questioner to visit
some of the Islamic centers in her area, and hopefully, they will
guide her to some useful references in the matter.
Allaah Knows best.

Questions that the Jews posed to the Prophet

Question:
I heard that when Prophet Muhammadstarted preaching Islam, the Jews
were very upset and they wanted to test him to find out whether he was
a true Prophet, so they prepared 40 difficult questions and asked him.
Is this true, if yes,please, explain what are the 40 questions and
what were the answers given by the Prophet Muhammad?
Fatwa:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
No doubt that the Jews disbelieved in what Allaah revealed to our
Prophet Muhammadand hated it. They were envious of him - except a few
of them - because he was not one of them, i.e. did not descend from
the children ofIsrael.
Allaah Says )which means(:}And when there came to them a Book]i.e. the
Quran[ from Allaah confirming that which was with them - although
before they usedto pray for victory against those who disbelieved -
but ]then[ when there came to them that which they recognized, they
disbelieved in it; so the curse of Allaah will be upon the
disbelievers. How wretched is that for which they sold themselves -
that they would disbelieve in what Allaah has revealed through ]their[
outrage that Allaah would send down His favor upon whom He wills from
among His servants. So they returned having ]earned[ wrath upon wrath.
And for the disbelievers is a humiliating punishment.{]Quran 2:89-90[.
However, we do not know of any authentic Hadeethstating that they
prepared forty questions for the Prophetand asked him about them.
What is proved in the books of Imaans Al-Bukhaari and Ahmadas well as
otherauthentic sources is that they asked him seven questions.
Al-Bukhaarireported that Anasnarrated that when'Abdullaah Ibn
Salaamheard about the arrival of the Prophetto Madeenah, he came to
himand asked him about some things saying: "I will ask about three
things that none except a messenger knows: what is the first sign of
the Hour? What is the first meal that the dwellers ofParadiseeat?
Why is it that the child sometimes resembles his father and other
times his mother?" The Prophetsaid:"Jibreel )Gabriel( informed about
this earlier. Ibn Salaamsaid:"That is the Jews' enemy from theangels."
The Prophetsaid:"As for the first sign of the Hour, it is a fire that
gathers the peoplefrom the East and the West. As for the first meal
that the dwellers ofParadiseeat, it is a portion of the fish liver.
As for the child, if the water )i.e. sperm( of the man comes before
that of the woman, the child resembles his father and if the mother's
water comes first then the child resembles her. Thereupon, Ibn
Salaamsaid:"I bear witness that none has theright of being worshipped
but Allaah and that you are His messenger." Then Ibn Salaamsaid: "O
Prophet of Allaah, the Jews are people of falsehood.So ask them about
me before they realize that I have become Muslim. The Jews came and
the Prophetasked them: "How doyou grade 'Abdullaah Ibn Salaam within
your community." They said: "Our best and the son of ourbest."
Thereupon, the Prophetsaid: "What if 'Abdullaah Ibn Salaam becomes
Muslim?" They said: "May Allaah protect
him from that!" The Prophetthen repeated the same questions and the
Jews repeated the same answers. At that time, 'Abdullaah Ibn
Salaamcame out to them and said: 'I bear witness that none has the
right to be worshipped but Allaah and that Muhammad is His messenger.'
Thereupon, they )theJews( said: "He is our worst and the son of our
worst," and demeaned him. Ibn Salaamsaid: 'This is what I feared, O
Prophet of Allaah."
Ahmadreported that Ibn Abbaassaid:"A group of Jewscame one day to the
Prophetand said: 'O Abu Al-Qaasim, tell us some things that only true
messengers of Allaah know.' The Prophetsaid: "Ask me about whatever
you wish, but promise me by the Name of Allaah and by the covenant
Prophet Ya'qoobtook from his sons, that if I tell something that you
know, then you will follow me and become Muslims." They said:"That's
for you." Thereupon they said: "Tell us about the following four
things: tell us about the meal that Israel forbade himself before the
revelation of the Torahand tell us about the water)sperm( of the woman
and the water of the man how is the male child formed from that? And
tell us this illiterate Prophet during his sleep and who is his
guardian from the angels." The Prophetsaid: "Do you accept by the
covenant of Allaah that you will follow me if I inform you?" They
gave him as much covenant and promise as he wished. Then the
Prophetsaid: "I ask you by the One Who revealed the Torah to Moosaado
you know that Israel)Ya'qoob( fell badly sick and his sickness took a
long time, then he made a vow to Allaah that he would forbid on
himself the food he liked most if Allaah cures him, and the food he
liked most was camel meat and the drink was camel milk. They
said:"Yes." He said:
"O Allaah testify against them." Then hesaid: "I ask you by Allaah,
the One Who has no partners Who revealed the Torah to Moosaado you
know that the man's water is white and thick and that the woman's
water is yellow and thin. Any of the two waters gets above the other
gets the resemblance of the child in his sex and charactersby the will
of Allaah. If the water of the man gets over the woman it is a male
by the Will of Allaah and if the water of the woman gets above that of
the man then it is a female by the Will of Allaah.They said: 'By
Allaah what you said is true.' The Prophetsaid: "O Allaah testify
against them."
Then he said: "I ask you by the One Who revealed Torah to Moosaado you
know that the eyes of this illiterate Prophet sleep but his heart does
not." They said: 'By Allaah that is true.' He said: "O Allaah,
testify against them." They said: 'You, now tell us about your
guardian from the angels, we will stay with you or leave you according
to that.' Hesaid: "My guardian is Jibreel)Gabriel( and Allaah never
sent anyProphet but he was his guardian." The Jews said: 'So, wewill
separate from you. Had your guardian been another angel not Jibreel,
we would have followed you and believed in what you brought.'
The Prophetsaid: "But what prevents you from believing in him?" They
said: 'He is our enemy.' Then Allaah revealed thefollowing verses
)which means(:}Say, "Whoever is an enemy to Gabriel - it is ]none but[
he who has brought it ]i.e. the Quran[ down upon your heart, ]O
Muhammad[, by permission of Allaah,…{]Quran 2:97[. Allaah Says )which
means(:}And when aMessenger from Allaah came to them confirming that
which was with them, a party of those who had been given the Scripture
threw away the Book of Allaah behind their backs as if they did not
know.{]Quran 2:101[. Allaah Says )which means(:}So they returned
having ]earned[ wrath upon wrath{]Quran 2:90[.
Allaah Knows best.

Dought & clear - Ruling on zakaat al-fitr and how much is to be paid

Is the hadeeth "The fast of Ramadaan will not betaken up [to Allaah]
until zakaat al-fitr is paid" saheeh?
If the fasting Muslim is in need and does not possess the threshold
(nisaab) of zakaah, is he obliged to pay zakaat al-fitr because of the
soundness of this hadeeth or other saheehshar'i evidence that is
proven in the Sunnah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Sadaqat al-fitr is obligatory upon every Muslim who is
self-supporting, if he hasone saa' or more than heneeds of food for
himself and his family onthe day and night of Eid.
The basis for that is the report narrated from Ibn'Umar (may Allaah be
pleased with him) who said: "The Messenger of Allaah(peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoined zakaat al-fitr, a saa' of
dates, or a saa' of barley,upon all the Muslims, slave and free, male
and female, young and old, and he commanded that it be paid before the
people went out to pray." Agreed upon; this version was narrated by
al-Bukhaari.
And Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri narrated: "We used to pay zakaat al-fitrwhen
the Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was
alive, a saa' of food or a saa' of dates or a saa' of barley or a saa'
of raisins or a saa' of dried yoghurt." Agreed upon.
It is acceptable to give a saa' of the local staple food such as rice etc.
What is meant by a saa' here is the saa' of the Messenger of
Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), which is four times
the amount that may be held in the two hands of a man of average
build. If a person does not pay zakaat al-fitr, he is sinning, and he
has to make it up.
With regard to the hadeeth mentioned, we do not know whether it is
saheeh or not.
We ask Allaah to give you strength and to make our words and deeds and
yours righteous.
And Allaah is the Source if strength.

Dought & clear - On which day is i’tikaaf?

Is it permissible to observe i'tikaaf at any time other than the last
ten days of Ramadaan?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Yes, it is permissible to observe i'tikaaf at any time, but the best
is to do so during the last ten days of Ramadaan, following the
example of the Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) and his companions (may Allaah be pleased with them). Itwas
narrated that the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
also observedi'tikaaf during Shawwaal in some years.
And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and
peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and companions.

Dought & clear - Should zakaat al-fitr be given to one person, or distributed among several?

Is zakaat al-fitr for one person and cannot be distributed among several?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is permissible to give zakaat al-fitr on behalf of one person to
one person, and it is also permissible to distribute it among a number
of people.
And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Islam and Teamwork: Working Together Is Success

A team is a collection of people where each individual is a powerhouse
of talent, knowledge, expertise, skill and above all the right
attitude. The team is effective and powerful when it delivers the
quality and results. For this all individuals shouldmerge into the
team and add value. To add that value to the team, he / she should be
a team player.
A team player is one who has the right attitude andright direction to
work ina team. On the contrary, anon-team player is one who does not
share information, not being honest, not participative and above all
are those who do not extend cooperation. They do notbecome one with
the team. When team members do not come together with the team, the
focus of the team is lost and the results are not achieved.
A team player is one who takes up responsibilities that are outside
their role too. They do not feel that they have to perform tasks of
other team members during contingencies. The best part of being a team
player is, he / she never blames others and accepts their mistakes.
Apart from this a team player would also act as aguide to the juniors
who join the team.
However, being a good employee does not necessarily mean being a good
team player. Working in a team is the real challenge an individual
faces in the organisation. A team comprises of members from different
backgrounds who are together for a purpose.
When different individuals come together different values also come in
and there is enough scope for conflictto take place. The reasons for
conflict could be any one of the following reasons like not following
the instructions of the team leader, the team's efforts or
achievements not being recognised by the boss, blame game for the
mistakes that take place, individual achievements are not recognised
and being neglected, roles and responsibilities of the individuals not
defined clearly and difference of opinion or contradicting values of
any team member.
Strategic alliance
It is an art to exhibit the qualities of a good team player. A team
player is one who performs effectively and efficiently. Getting along
with everyone at work is considered as a skill. Being a team member or
a team leader per se is for the purpose of working together and
getting along till the objectives are achieved. It also means
friendship at work. Teams are made up of individuals that will, now
and then, differwith one another.
What makes a team aggressive in achieving the goals is the attitude to
take those differences and turn them into opportunities for
development rather than turn the teammates in opposition to one
another. We can call it as strategic alliance at the workplace for a
common objective.
Remember, to get help from someone we must have helped them before. It
is a give and take situation at work. Solet us put that as a forward
thinking action and lend the helping hand in our work place. Learning
to be nice to people around us does not cost at all. In particular, we
should not hesitate to ask for help from people who have rich
experience. Most of the time, we hesitate dueto being addressed as
ignorant or lacking knowledge.
We need to give and takefrom one another at workplace and be open and
receptive to new ideas. An employee can achieve his /her her best when
working in a team.Those of us who have worked in different teams
realise that working together closely as a team is difficult in
reality. All of us have had our share of difficult colleagues and
teams.
The guidelines
Team is above the individual in situations. As a team player we
mustremember to follow these guidelines.
*.Adapting to change
*.Not taking credit for the colleague's work
*.Learning to appreciate and recognising other members presence
*.Treating everyone with respect and dignity
*.Not involving the issuesthat are not significant to team's values
*.Meeting the targets or keeping the deadlines
*.Being a good communicator (special reference to listening skills)
*.Cooperating with others in the team
*.Sharing the information and knowledge that benefits all in a team
A team member enhanceshis / her value in the organisation by
demonstrating characteristics of committed players. Every individual
should understand that his / her work is an integral part of a larger
organisation and is binding on the company's overall performance.
Remember,if an employee is an unruly team player we cannot expect any
productivity from him / her in the team.
Conscience decision
Kevin Eikenberry has listed the traits that would help the individual
and team to have greater success. According to him effective team
members are: committed, focused on the team's objectives, supportive,
competent, collaborative, provide feedback, they are good
communicators, they value and build trust, they are proactive and
learners. It is only a conscience decision that brings in the team
player factor in every individual.
Even for a team to win a cricket match or a football match, we as
audience or spectators look at the strength of each player and the
coordination of activities in the game. It is the leadership and team
spirit which contributed for the success of the team. Let's recall the
old phrase "united we win, divided we fall" suites every team that has
to progress. Each and every team constitutes an organisation.
The end result of organisation depends on the performance of each employee.
"Coming together is a beginning; Staying together is progress; Working
together is success" said Henry Ford

Islam and Leadership, Islam and Teamwork, Islam and Consultation, Islam and Joint Planning

Islam encourages its followers to practice and develop the qualities
of leadership, Teamwork, Partnership, Consultation and Joint Planning.
Islamic Leadership meansa person or a group that will lead humanity
from the brink of destruction to the way of Allah (SWT) the Almighty.
Leadership in Islam is a trust (Amanah). It represents a psychological
contract between a leader and hisfollowers that he will try his best
to guide them, toprotect them and to treatthem fairly and with
justice. Hence, the focus of leadership in Islam is on doing good.
Every movement has a need for leadership and the importance of
leadership is like the engine of a train. The train doesn't move
anywhere without the engine moving. Only Islamic leadership can solve
the problems of humanity.
A successful leader is one who attains his ends in the best possible
manner,with the least inconvenience to the team, at the minimum cost,
in record time and with a high quality performance.
Whoever wants to be a leader should educate himself before educating
others. Before preaching to others he should first practice himself.
Whoever educates himself and improves his own morals is superior tothe
man who tries to teach and train others.

Saturday, August 10, 2013

Even in situations one would think in his own mind that there is no way out, there is always a way out for real believers

One of the mistakes people generally fall in is their descending into
desperation whenever they face even the slightest difficulty. Most
people, under such circumstances, instead of thinking "There is
definitely a way out that would correct this situation", they are
prone to believe that all the solution ways are exhausted by acting
with logics such as: "that's it", "there is nothing more to be
done," "this is as far as it goes", "we came to a deadlock", "this
matter is in a deadlock now".
Yet, no matter how difficult the circumstances are; no matter how
limited the means he has are; and no matter if he has done
everything that could have been done; he should believe that there
can always be a new way out, and never lose hope.
Allah has revealed in the Qur'an that a person who believes in Allah
would never lose hope in any matter as follows:
"My sons! Seek news of Yusuf and his brother. Do not despair of
solace from Allah. No one despairs of solace from Allah except for
people who are unbelievers. '" (Surah Yusuf: 87)
They said, 'We bring you good news of the truth, so do not be among
those who despair .' (Surat Al-Hijr: 55)
Consequently, no matter what the situation a Muslim faces is, he
should never give way to hopelessness, despair or negative thoughts
even indirectly. This is a command of Allah on Muslims.
Lower self, when facing such a situation, -almost like a reflex-
would lead one to instantly think about the most negative
possibilities that might happen. Almost everyone, ever since their
childhood –until they learn the morality of the Qur'an- approach
every incident with such a point of view. Since they do not think
about the falsity and the harm of this, they do not feel the need
to resist and change this reflex. This is the reason why the first
words that come out of their mouths are words like "alas!" and
"unfortunately".
And the pain that desperation, thinking with negative possibilities
and believing that there is no way out, would make people feel is
really severe. The state of mind of people, who feel this way, is
the reward Allah had created for them in this world as a result of
their living by a morality Allah does not approve.
Yet, living by the morality which is opposite to this one is really
easy. A person's knowing Allah Who has infinite wisdom, Who has
infinite justice, Who has infinite compassion and infinite grace,
Who is forgiving and Who possesses infinite creation power is
really a great blessing for him. Allah is mighty of creating
whatever He wills, whenever He wants. And in the Qur'an Allah says:
"If My servants ask you about Me, I am near. I answer the call of the
caller when he calls on Me. They should therefore respond to Me and
believe in Me so that hopefully they will be rightly guided" (Surat
al-Baqara: 186) In the Qur'an Allah had informed us that people can
ask whatever they want from Allah. Since a person could ask for
anything from Allah Who has the power to create whatever He wants,
whenever He wills, it is totally unreal for him to be living among
the possibilities such as: having exhausted all the ways out or
having no way out. That is because –by the will and help of Allah-
a person's way is always open in every matter. His knowing Allah's
might and compassion would always enable him to be hopeful about
every matter.
This morality is the one Allah commanded in the Qur'an. And carrying
out this command of Allah turns into a great blessing for people.
It is much more beautiful, reassuring and comfortable for people
to live by a hopeful morality, instead of pessimism. While, in the
contrary, a person would be continuously living restless, in a state
of fear with his mind occupied in negative suggestions; someone
abiding by the morality Allah demands, would live in peace,
tranquility and joy of expecting the help, mercy and the closeness
of Allah even under most difficult conditions.
And another point that should be thought about here is; while living
among blessings, plenty and safety, a person trusts in Allah and
lives in the awareness of the truth that all those come about
because of the infinite might of Allah; but when there is something
missing about those, he forgets how limitless and endless the might
of Allah is. Allah has informed us about the morality that people
in this situation would show in the Qur'an, as follows:
When We give people a taste of mercy, they rejoice in it, but when
something bad happens to them because of what they themselves have
done, they immediately lose all hope. (Surat Ar-Rum : 36)
Man never tires of praying for the good and if evil touches him, he
despairs and loses hope. (Surat Fussilat : 49)
Such a person cannot appreciate the fact that Allah Who had given
him blessings before, also have the Power to give –again and again
whenever He wants as much as He wills. He fails to think that all
the beauties he has in his life exist not because he himself had
found a way to attain them but because Allah had willed them to be so
and granted him that means through His Grace. Everything that he
possesses has been created from nothing. When difficulty and
troubles arise the situation is no different than that: Allah, Who
created everything from nothing, even if there is a situation in
which there seems to be a no way out, would again create the way
from nothing and would show him the way out.
Allah says in the Quran: "… But your Lord is a sufficient guide and
helper." ( Surat Al-Furqan: 31). The guidance of Allah for a man
is – by the leave of Allah- a great blessing with which he can solve
every matter. And moreover man does not have the power to find a
way out on his own anyway. Humans are weak creatures who have no
power for anything unless Allah wills the contrary. Man is in need
of Allah showing him the ways out, the solutions and rights.
Consequently what one should do is to trust in Allah very much, by
being very sincere towards Allah; to ask full of hope for His help
and to show all the effort that he is capable of showing by using
his mind and conscience in the best possible manner. However the
secret here is in wanting everything from Allah in hope and believing
that they can definitely come true. It is Allah Who creates the
result. And Allah is the One Who always creates the best for
Muslims both in this world and in the Hereafter.
Their sides eschew their beds as they call on their Lord in fear and
ardent hope . And they give of what We have provided for them.
(Surat Al-Sajda:16)
And when the two hosts came into sight of one another Musa's
companions said, 'We will surely be overtaken!'
He said, 'Never! My Lord is with me and He will guide me. '
So We revealed to Musa, 'Strike the sea with your staff.' And it
split in two, each part like a towering cliff.
And We brought the others right up to it.
We rescued Musa and all those who were with him. (Surat Ash-Shu'ara': 62-65)

The Prophet 'Isa (as) will follow the Mahdi and the Mahdi will serve as imam in the prayer (salat) to the Prophet' Isa (as)

Naim Abu Said narrated that the Messenger of Allah (saas) said:
Isa 'Ibn Maryam, will descend, and recite the daily prayer behind
Mahdi. (Al-Burhan fi `Alamat al-Mahdi, p. 78)
In Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shayba, Ibn Shirin narrated. He said:
The Mahdi is one of this community and will serve as imam to the
Prophet 'Isa (as). (Jalaladdin as-Suyuti, Al-Burhan fi Alamat
al-Mahdi Akhir al-Zaman, Al-Muttaqi al-Hindi, p. 79)
Naim ibn Hammad narrated from Abdullah ibn Amr. He said:
The Mahdi is the one whom 'Isa ibn Maryam (as) will perform the
daily prayer behind. (Jalaladdin as-Suyuti, Al-Burhan fi Alamat
al-Mahdi Akhir al-Zaman, Al-Muttaqi al-Hindi, p. 79)
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of
Allah (saas) observed: "What will be your state when the son of
Maryam descends amongst you and there is an Imam amongst you?"
(Sahih Muslim, Book 001, Number 0290)
Jabir ibn 'Abdullah reported: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (saas)
say: 'One section of my people will not cease fighting for the Truth
and will prevail till the Day of Resurrection. 'Isa son of Maryam
will then descend, and their (the Muslims') commander will invite
him to come and lead them in prayer, but he will say: No, some
amongst you are commanders over others (amongst you). This is an
honor from Allah for this Ummah.'" (Sahih Muslim, Book 001, Number
0293)
While their Imam is going forward to lead the people in the Salat
al-Subh (the morning prayer), 'Isa son of Maryam will descend. The
Imam will step back, to let 'Isa lead the people in prayer, but 'Isa
will place his hand between the man's shoulders and say, "Go
forward and lead the prayer, for the Iqamah was made for you." So
the Imam will lead the people in prayer… (Ibn Majah, Kitab al-Fitan,
Tradition No. 4077, 2: 1363)

Repentance is a blessing that gives relief to the heart

One of the most important characteristics that distinguishes
unbelievers from believers is that believers repent often as an act
of worship. As unbelievers consider themselves faultless and
sinless, they do not feel the need to repent. Believers, on the
other hand, do not want to commit any sins against Allah. However,
by their nature, people can sin temporarily by following their inner
selves. They can be lax in carrying out Allah's commands. But in
the end they regret and turn to Allah and ask for our Lord's
forgiveness.
Allah created people as very weak beings. People indulge in
negligence due to ignorance or unawareness; they can be mistaken
forgetting even the subjects they know best, they can think in a
wrong or mistaken way, take the wrong decisions, or act in an
unsound manner knowingly or unknowingly. This is because people
have a vicious enemy like satan who is trying to drag them into
rebellion and divert them from the true path by giving them
suggestions. The inner self also commands evil all the time. People
can earn the good pleasure of Allah to the extent that they can
protect themselves from these two negative Powers. His Highness
Master Bediuzzaman says, "In these times of distortion and misery
where this world has many captivating attributes, our basic action
point must be to dismiss evil and abandon sins". However no matter
what happens, Allah always guides people to make up for their
mistakes; this guidance is repentance.
It Is a Great Blessing That Our Lord is All-Merciful,
All-Compassionate and Kind and Protective to His Servants
Allah always gives people the opportunity to ask for forgiveness
and repent for their mistakes and sins. A person who sincerely
abandons his mistakes and repents to Allah can hope that Allah will
forgive him. Allah reveals in many verses of the Qur'an that He is
"Forgiving", "Merciful", the "Protector" and "Compassionate".
Allah's names of "At-Tawwab" meaning "The One Who Accepts
Repentance" and "Al-Gaffar" meaning "All-Forgiving" and "Ar-Rahman"
meaning "All-Merciful" manifest on all those who regret and repent.
In one verse Allah heralds His servants by saying, " Tell My
servants that I am the Ever-Forgiving, the Most Merciful." (Surat
al-Hijr, 49).
It is impossible to claim that a person has not made any mistakes
and been faultless and perfect throughout his entire life, because
people are created as beings capable of making mistakes. Our
Almighty Lord is the One Who is All-Forgiving and All-Merciful.
Therefore, believers have to take notice of their mistakes, which
they made knowingly or unknowingly by falling into negligence or
listening to their inner selves. They have to regret their mistakes
and direct themselves to the right path and turn to our Lord as soon
as possible and strive not to make that mistake again. Of course a
person has to be careful not to make mistakes and commit sins and
protect the boundaries of our Lord; but when he makes a mistake in
spite of this, it is a great characteristic of a believer to ask
forgiveness from Allah. Our Lord's names "The One Who Accepts
Repentance" (At-Tawwab), "All-Forgiving" (Al-Gaffar),
"All-Merciful" (Ar-Rahman) manifest on believers who regret their
mistakes, repent and turn to Allah.
Repenting Very Often Is an Important Believer Characteristic
Repenting frequently is a sign of the believer's humility and
awareness of his weakness in the face of Allah. It is a behavior
that pleases Allah. In return for this act of worship, Allah gives
relief to, lifts the burdens on and opens the minds of those who
repent often.
With Repentance Allah Wants People to Learn Lessons and Notice Their Mistakes
One of the wisdoms of repentance is that the believer experiences
real regret and turns to Allah without wasting any time and strives
not to repeat that mistake. Therefore, he repents in a true and
sincere manner. He repents and keeps his word that he will remain
on the right path until the end of his life. In the Qur'an, the
point of view of someone who sincerely repents is described in the
verse, " Allah only accepts the repentance of those who do evil in
ignorance and then quickly make repentance after doing it. Allah
turns towards such people. Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise..." (Surat
an-Nisa', 17) In another verse, Allah reveals how a believer should
behave, " Those who, when they act indecently or wrong themselves,
remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their bad actions (and who
can forgive bad actions except Allah?) and do not knowingly persist
in what they were doing." (Surah Al ' Imran Suresi, 135) .
Submitting to Allah right after making mistakes and not delaying
repentance is an important point. This is because as Master
Bediuzzaman describes, "(If mistakes) are not erased with repentance,
they turn into a poisonous snake that bites the heart. Once the
heart is stained it becomes open to further stains. So man falls into
a (corrupt) circle. Every sin brings a new one; not only this but
also it destroys the feelings of repentance and regret (jealousy).
In the end the secret behind the verse "Their hearts have rusted"
(Surat al-Mutaffifin, 14) becomes visible."
Of course, even if a person who experiences true regret carefully
strives not to repeat that mistake or sin, he can still fall into the
same mistake. This situation should not lead to this person losing
his self-confidence. For every person there is an opportunity to
repent and sincerely submit to Allah until death.
However a person should not be mistaken for the time he has been
given. He should not behave in a ways to abuse Allah's mercy,
forgivingness, grace. He should use the time Allah grants him and
find guidance by repentance and asking for forgiveness while there
is still time. This is because faith and repentance at the moment
of death may not be accepted in the sight of Allah. Therefore he
needs to behave like he will die any moment and strive to edify.
It should not be forgotten that a person can make small or big
mistakes throughout his life, but as long as he repents and submits
to Allah Who forgives and accepts repentance and turns evil into
good with a sincere heart, he can hope that his mistakes will be
forgiven. Allah always answers for repentance. Allah forgives his
mistakes and turns them into good and rewards his good deeds with
the best.

Our Prophet (pbuh) Announced the Good News of Jesus' Return

The Good News of the Golden Age
In many of his sayings, our Prophet (may God bless him and grant him
peace) draws attention to a period when Islam's morality will prevail,
when Prophet Jesus (pbuh) and the Mahdi will be on Earth, and the
Qur'an's moral values willprevail: The Golden Age. This period will be
very similar to the time of our Prophet (may God bless him and grant
him peace) and, since he usedthe characteristics of Paradise to depict
this period, it is called the Golden Age.
In the previous sections, we dealt with the suffering and hardship
that people will experience during the first phase of the End Times.
Just after these events, which are also the signs of Prophet Jesus'
(pbuh) coming, theGolden Age will come. This is great news for
everyone, for this period will be characterized by the abundance of
every type of goods and crops; the establishment of security, justice,
peace, and happiness; and the use of advanced technology for
humanity's comfort, ease,joy, and peace. No one will be in need, for
all goods and services will be available to meet their needs. Many
hadiths say that"weapons will be silenced," and thus herald a world
filled withpeace. In the Golden Age,enemy nations will become brothers
and sisters and re-establish peace, friendship, and love among their
leaders and peoples.
Technology will reach its peak, and people will receive its fullest
benefits. Medicine, agriculture, communication, transportation, and
industry will undergo remarkable development, and peoplewill
continuously witnessnew discoveries leading to further advances.
Overall, the pace of discovery will accelerate.
The arts will flourish, andthe broad horizons and deep thinking
granted by faith in God will advance all branches of art. Such a
spirit will enable people to produce glamorous works of music,
theater, and painting. According to one hadith, people will be so
content that they will spend their dayswith no idea as to how time
passes and how oneday turns into the next. They will pray to God to
prolong their lives in order to receive more benefits from these
graces. Another Prophetic hadith states:
… the younger ones wish they were grown-ups, while the adults wish
they were younger… The good become even more good, and the wicked ones
are treated well. (Al-Muttaqi al-Hindi, Al-Burhan fi `Alamat al-Mahdi
Akhir az-Zaman,p. 17)
Our Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) also gives the
following good news:
Unprecedented Abundance in the GoldenAge
There will be at the end of my people a khalifa who will apportion out
wealth, and he will not count it. (Olum-Kiyamet-Ahiret ve Ahirzaman
Alametleri [Death-Doomsday-Hereafter and the Signs of the End Times],
p. 433)
In the End Times there will be a khalifa [successor] who will
distribute wealth without even counting it.(Sahih Muslim)
The land will reveal the treasures within. (Ibn Hajar al-Haythami,
Al-Qawl al-Mukhtasar fi `Alamat al-Mahdi al-Muntazar, p. 45)
The land will turn like thesilver tray growing vegetation... (Sunan Ibn Majah)
The son of Mary [Jesus (pbuh)] will return and make the Antichrist
ineffective. Then you willlive for 40 years in prosperity. (Al-Muttaqi
al-Hindi, Al-Burhan fi `Alamat al-Mahdi Akhir az-Zaman, p. 90)
Everywhere food will cook in pots, unseen prosperity will dominate,and
material wealth will be disregarded. (Ibn Hajar al-Haythami, Al-Qawl
al-Mukhtasar fi `Alamat al-Mahdi al-Muntazar, p. 66)
The reason for Jesus [pbuh] to abandon charity is: There are no needy
poor people in want of charity left. (Sunan Ibn Majah, vol. 10,p. 339)
Even without the plough,the produce of wheat would multiply seven
hundred times, one mudd [a measure of wheat] becoming 700 mudd. (Jalal
ad-Din as-Suyuti)
Then the land will be toldto bring forth its fruit and restore its
blessing and, as a result thereof, there will grow [such a big]
pomegranate that a group of people [between 10 and 40 people] will be
able to eat it and seek shelter under its skin. Milk cows will give so
much milk that a whole party will be able to drink. And the milk given
by camels will be such [a large quantity]milk that the whole tribe
will be able to drink of it.And the sheep will give so much milk that
the whole family will be able to drink of that… (Sahih Muslim)
The High Cost of Living and Poverty Will End
... And wealth will be so abundant that no one will accept it. (Sahih Bukhari)
The Hour will not be established until wealth will be in abudance - so
abundant that a wealthy person will worry lest nobody accept his
Zakat, and whenever he will present it to someone, that person will
say, "I am not in need of it." (Sahih Bukhari)
Then will my Ummah be blessed, the number of animals will increase,
and the land will bear its fruits. (Ibn Hajar al-Haythami, Al-Qawl
al-Mukhtasar, p. 26)
Definitely possessions will be in abundance then, flowing like water.
Yet no one will [condescend] to take any(Mukhtasar Tazkirah
al-Qurtubi, p. 464.)

Our Prophet (pbuh) Announced the Good News of Jesus' Return

Our Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace)
Announced the Good News of Jesus' Return
By the One in Whose hand is my self, definitelythe son of Mary will
soon descend among you as a just judge. He will break the cross,
[annul the worship of the cross], kill the pig, [inform that eating
pork is forbidden], and abolish the jizya (a head tax on free
non-Muslims living under Muslim rule). (Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih
Muslim)
No Prophet shall come during the period between me and Jesus. And
Jesus shall descend. Recognize him when yousee him. He is a man of
medium height and of a ruddy, fair complexion. He will be dressed in
two pieces of a yellow garment. The hair on his head will appear as if
water is trickling out of it, although his hair would not be wet. He
willstruggle for the cause of Islam. And Jesus will make Dajjal (the
Antichrist) ineffective. He will live on this Earth for a period of
forty years, and at the end of this period he will pass away.The
Muslims will offer thefuneral prayers of Jesus. (Abu Dawud)
Certainly, the time of prayer will come and then Jesus (peace be upon
him), son of Mary, descend and will lead them in prayer. When theenemy
of God see him, he will (disappear) just assalt dissolves in water.
(Sahih Muslim)
The world will be placed beneath his feet … His eyes will see the
distancetoo … He will see the unbelievers' castles and villages…
(Muhammad ibn'Abd al-Rasul Barzanji, Al-Isha'ah li Ashrat as-Sa`ah, p.
244)
When their [believers'] Imam would come forward to lead them in
congregation in the morning, Prophet Jesus, son of Mary, (peace be
upon him) would descend upon them in the morning. Upon this, that Imam
would retreat walking backward, so that Prophet Jesus (peacebe upon
him) should come forward to lead people in prayer in congregation. But
he would place his hand in between his shoulders and say: "Come
forward and lead the prayer, for it has been established for you."
(Sunan Ibn Majah)
When the Dajjal faces him [Jesus], he [the Dajjal] will begin to
dissolve like salt in water.He [Jesus] will say to him:"I have to step
in; you cannot escape." So Jesus will make him ineffectivewith his
spear at the gateof Ludd. (Sunan Ibn Majah)
Then Prophet Jesus will come to a people whom God would protect from
Dajjal (anti-Christ). He would then wipe [the traces of hardship from]
their faces and tell them their ranks in Paradise. (Sunan Ibn Majah)

Evidence from the Hadith for Jesus' Second Coming

EVIDENCE FROM THE HADITH
The Prophet Mohammed (may God bless him and grant him peace) has
revealed many importantmatters about Jesus' return, as well as some
ofthe things that will happen before and after this event, in his
hadiths. All of this information is from the "Unseen," and was given
to him by God,as related in the following verse:
He [God] is the Knower of the Unseen, and does not divulge His Unseen
to anyone - except a Messenger with whom He is well pleased, and then
He posts sentinels before him and behind him. (Surat al-Jinn ,
72:26-27)
Our Lord also reveals thatHe sent knowledge to Prophet Mohammed (may
God bless him and grant him peace) in his dreams:
God has confirmed His Messenger's vision with truth: "You will enter
theSacred Mosque [Masjid al-Haram] in safety, God willing, shaving
your heads and cutting your hair without any fear." He knew what you
did not know and ordained, in place of this, an imminent victory.
(Surat al-Fath , 48:27)
God gives such knowledge to our Prophet (may God bless him and grant
him peace) in order to help and support both him as well as all of the
faithful believers who were with him.
Some of this revealed information deals with the signs of the End
Times. The most significant of these revelations concerns Jesus'
second coming. The hadiths about the End Times can be found in sahih
(accredited) hadith collections such asImam Nawawi'sRiyadh as-Salihin,
Imam Malik'sAl-Muwatta', Ibn Khuzayma'sSahih, Ibn Hibban'sSahih, Ibn
Ahmad Hanbal'sMusnad, and Abu Dawud al-Tayalisi's Musnad. From these
sources, we learn that the Prophet (may God bless him and grant him
peace) made many important revelations about Jesus, all of which are
consideredtawatur(reliable).
The Prophet (may God bless him and grant him peace) reveals in his
hadiths that religious morality will dominate the world; that peace,
justice, and prosperity will prevail; and that this will be achieved
by Jesus,who will unite the Christian and Islamic worlds. At present,
many societies are under the influence of anti-religious philosophies,
and the resulting models are obvious. Such problems as immorality,
drugs, terrorism, and famine demand that Christians and Muslims join
together to fight these problems on an intellectual level. The world's
current social structure makes an alliance between Islam and
Christianity inevitable. Considering Christianity's influence over the
West and its leaders, the influence that an alliance between Islam and
Christianity would have is clear enough for all to see.

Fathwa - Sex with slaves and women's rights

Question:
Sex with slaves and women's rights
Answer:
Wa `alaykum as-Salam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh:
The following is a response on the issues offemale slaves in Islam in
reply to two sets of questions.
THE FIRST SET OF QUESTIONS
I came across tafseer of the beginning verses of Surat-Al-Mu'minoon
(Al-Mawdudi), [The Yusuf Ali translation reads,"who abstain from sex,
except with those joined in the marriage bond [spouses], or (the
captives) whom their right hands possess,-for (in their case) they are
free of blame."] and I was kind of shocked and surprised that he
states itis permissible for a man to have sexual intercourse with
female slaves in his possession, in addition to his legal wives
(v.5-6).
Was. Slavery is unlawful (1) in the absence of the Caliph of the
Muslims AND(2) unless it results from captives following a lawful war.
Even so, there was always the alternative to {let the captives go
free, either with or without any ransom} (47:4). Furthermore, the
Ottoman Caliphate had declared - long before the US Abolition - that
it prohibited slavery in its realm.
Further preliminary remarks before addressing the questions:
It should be clear that Islam raised the status of slaves higher than
that offree men in un-Islamic societies even by modernstandards. The
author of _The House of Saud_, an American journalist, recounts how
the staff and management of the New York Waldorf-Astoria hotel were
horrified that King Faysalin an early US visit had not only allowed
his black servant into the state dining room but had seated him at his
very table - a "white-only" table in a "white-only" room! They had no
idea that even slaves in Islam had to be FED and CLOTHED with the same
food and clothing as their owner as the Prophet, upon him peace, had
stipulated in his "last pilgrimage" speech:
"And your slaves! see thatyou feed them such food as you eat
yourselves anddress them with what you yourself wear. And if they
commit a mistake which you are not inclined to forgive then sell them,
for they are the servants of Allah and are not to be tormented!"
In another hadith he said, upon him blessings and peace:
"Be kind to slaves as to your own children...and those that say their
prayers are your brethren."
A contemporary commentator said:
"The masters were obliged not to put slaves under hardship; slaves
were not to be tortured, abused or treated unjustly. They could marry
among themselves- with their master's permission - or with free men or
women! They could appear as witnesses and participate with free men in
all affairs. Many of them were appointed as governors, commanders of
army andadministrators. In the eyes of Islam, a pious slave has
precedence over an impious free man." Al-Tabataba'i, Tafsir
(16:338-358).
What ignorant times we live in, in which a nation that used a legally
- enforceable concept of"white-only" since its inception and then went
on to use it for two centuries, now crusades against Islam and the
rest of the world over self-proclaimed civilizational values.
Islam restored dignity to slaves and enhanced their social status both
by ancient and modern standards.
Islam made no distinction between a slave or a free man, all were
treated with equality. It was this fact that attracted non-Muslim
slaves to Islam in droves.
As someone said, it is sad to see that those who never cease to be
vociferous in their unjustcriticism of Islam remain blind to this
principle of equality when even in this age there are countries where
laws aremade that discriminate against the vast majority of population
to keep them in practical servitude.
As for the allegations of slavery made by the US and UK against
Islamic Sudan they are part of a joint missionary and government rogue
propaganda campaign against an Islamic government which has always
condemned and actively repressed instances of abuse in inter-tribal
warfare, while there has never been anything remotely near a
full-fledged slave trade, cf. the Sudan Foundation papers by David
Hoile posted in full: http://www.sufo.demon. co.uk/politics.htm
What follows concerns the Fiqhi rulings pertaining to the slave period
even if the present tense is used.
I'm far too ignorant to make judgments about the verse and that hukum
taken from it, so Iwanted to ask if you could explain the verse, if
that opinion is generally accepted and why. Do these verses refer
solely to men, or women Believers also?
These verses refer to the permissibility of a man for intercourse with
his unmarried female slaves without having to marry them. Such an
option was not available to women owners of male slaves nor to men
ownersof married female slaves.
Is it in order to fulfill his desires and avoid any unlawful fitna?
(this is hard for me to understand, seeing as how taqwa,
self-restraint, and other things are so emphasizedin Islam)
His and her desires, yes, but within certain parameters including
rights. This will be detailed insha Allah.
However, it seems that intercourse with slaves was probably
considereda method of contraceptive sexual enjoyment through coitus
interruptus (`azl), since the slave owner could practice `azl without
prior permissionfrom his slave mate whilehe could not do so with his
free wife without prior permission from her. And if the contraception
intended by this `azl failed and theslave woman still bore a child
from her master, her child was automatically freed and obtained a son
or daughter's rights including inheritance. In addition, the mother
herself could no longer be sold and was freed upon the owner's death.
From the slave's perspective, the above scenario could have formed an
accepted kindof lawful gamble from which she stood to gain much more
than to lose. This could be problematized with the claim that "the
cost of freedom is therefore rape" but such is just an inflammatory
rephrasingof the truism that the cost of a war captive's life is her
imprisonment; emancipation from which is a dramatically enhanced
possibility in the above scenario.
Consider some more the dynamic of manumission in Islam. It took the
French until the 1780's and 1790's through their"Revolution" and
"Terror"to finally decide that any slave that steps into French
territory automatically becomes free; but Islam had already said, 11
centuriesearlier: a free parent's newborn from a slave is free and
that newborn inherits from his or her free parent.
In addition, Islam gave all slaves the inalienable right to buy
themselves out, either on payment of an agreed sum or on completion of
service for an agreed period. The legal term for this is mukataba and
the slave party to such a written contract was called a mukatab or
mukataba.
{And those of your slaves that seek a writing (of emancipation), write
it for them if you are aware of any goodness in them, and bestow upon
them of the wealth of Allah that He has bestowed upon you} (24:33).
{Alms are only for the poor and the needy, and those who collect them,
and those whose hearts are to be reconciled, and to *free the captives
and the debtors,* and for the cause of Allah, and (for) the wayfarers;
a duty imposed by Allah. Allah is knower, Wise} (9:60).
{Righteous is he who believes in Allah and the Last Day and the angels
and the Scripture and the Prophets; and gives his wealth, for love of
Him, to kinsfolk and to orphans and the needy and the wayfarer and to
those who ask, and to setslaves free} (2:177).
Note that the above verses stipulate that when a slave wants
emancipation the masternot only has to agree to it but is also
directed to help the slave from his own wealth and from alms, which
includes the public treasury (bayt al-mal), the only provision being
the satisfaction that the slavewould live a respectable life after
earning his or her freedom!
In addition, if a non-Muslim slave accepted Islam before their
masters, they wouldbecome free automatically. If the slavebecame blind
or handicapped he would also become free.
In addition to these compulsory ways of emancipation, voluntary
emancipation of slaves was declared as the purest form of charity and
included providing the freedmen with sufficient means to earn their
livelihood respectably. Thus, Islam isthe first and only religionthat
has prescribed liberation of slaves as a virtue and a condition of
genuine faith.
How is intercourse permissible without a marriage contract binding them?
Because the contract in place is that of property which includes the
right to sexual enjoyment but excludes the abuses usedunder all other
historical forms of slavery such as mutilation, inhumane labor, or
killing as was the rule in Egyptian, Greek, and Roman times, and the
cruelest of all forms, unparalleled in human history, the United
States Transatlantic slave trade.(*)
(*) Incidentally, many scholars estimate that over 20 percent of
Africans brought in bondage to both American continents and the
Caribbean were Muslim.
If the man then later frees the slave-woman, and perhaps she has a
child, would the man need to marry her? Is he still liable for
child-support? Does he still raise his children as a father? Is the
man allowed to do this with slaves that are not Muslim? (if so, under
what conditions?) and isthis woman entitled to any inheritance from
him? I was under the impression that a person can only inherit by
eithermarriage or blood-ties. wouldn't she be considered
a"concubine"?
Yes, the word concubine literally means bed-mate and applies to any
female slave that shares the bed of her master. The man is liable to
support any child of his and whatever need of itsmother that is
related to that liability. He is not obliged to marry her but is
definitely held to the responsibilities of a father including
inheritability whether the mother is a Muslim ornot, her child being
Muslim. Nor is she entitled to any inheritance unless he decides to
marry her ANDshe is Muslim. Allah knows best.
THE SECOND SET OF QUESTIONS
1- Is slavery allowed in Islam?
See the very first answer in this reply.
If not then what is the concept about female slaves that the right
handpossesses? This phrase has been said in the quraan a few times.
Captives in a legitimate defensive war.
2- Why was sex with female slaves allowed?
There was no concept that it could or should not be.
If a man is married and he has a slave then why is he having sex with her?
Sex was part of the benefits to which the slave owner was entitled
within the framework of rights already described.
I read that the prophet (pbuh) had a male child from his slave
(Mariah). why should a married man have sex with a salve woman? Aren't
their limitations to sexualdesire?
Precisely, these limitations are those mentioned by the Qur'an.
Doesn't the slave have any rights?
Of course the slave has rights as we have alreadymentioned. In
addition, in Islam, the slave even has rights to bring his or her
owner before a law-court.
What happened to human rights in this whole scenario?
As we mentioned already, slavery and ransom were the alternatives to
killing in war, but the slaves had to be fed and clothed with the same
food and clothing as their owner, they could not be burdened with
inhumane tasks, they could buy their freedoms, sue for their rights,
and had other human rights that place Islamic ethics in the context of
slavery above anything comparable in the ancient and modern worlds.
And when the slave gets pregnant there why doesn't the man have to marry her?
She and her child do obtain other rights as already mentioned but this
is not one of them.
3- Why did the prophet (pbuh) have 11 wives when only 4 at one time
was allowed? [...] the rules set by Allah are equal for everyone,
right? So how was this possible?
Allah Most High set some rules only for the Prophet, upon him peace.
These are known as the Khasa'is al-Nabawiyya or"Exclusive Prophetic
characteristics."
Some of those fall in the category of wajib; othersin the mustahabb;
othersin the mubah; others in the makruh; and others in the haram.
An example of the Prophetic wajib is tahajjud or late night praying
for most of the night. This was obligatory for him but is Sunna for
the Umma.
An example of the Prophetic haram is the eating of onion and garlic
due to his intimatecommunication with the angel, while it is
mubah/makruh for the Umma.
Another example of the Prophetic haram is the acceptance of sadaqa,
while it is permitted for the Umma except true descendents of his.
Another example is that Prophets are forbidden to leave any
inheritance other than sadaqa while anything any Muslim leaves is
obligatorily inheritance.
An example of the Prophetic mubah is his having more than 4 wives
while it is haram for the Umma. Another example is that he could marry
any man's widow while it is haram for the entire Umma to marry any of
his widows after him because they are literally like our mothers,and
some said, because his life in the Barzakh is literal.
An example of the Prophetic mustahabb is to show that certain
inappropriate acts are permissible by being seen doing them at least
one in his life, such as urinating or drinking while standing up, both
of which are makruh for the Umma while they were acts of obedience for
him. Another examplewas to leave certain meritorious acts such as
congregational tarawih and i`tikaf to show they were not obligatory,
while they are Sunna for us.
Another example of the Prophetic mustahabb was fasting without
breaking fast for longer than one day and night while such is haram or
makruh for the Umma.
An example of the Prophetic makruh is to exert himself in learning the
Qur'an while it is wajib for the Umma, or to avail himself of the
niceties of this world while it is mubah for the Umma, or to eat types
of food exotic to his native Hijaz which is also mubah for us.
There are other things that only the Prophet, upon him peace, did such
as going into battle on a mule when no one had the courage to use a
mule but used either a horse or a camel. Or naming the objects in
hisproperty including his mirror and comb. Or his superlatively
eloquent speech and knowledge of all the Arab dialects. And many, many
other attributes.
Among the most famous books on the Prophetic Khasa'is are al-Suyuti's
al-Khasa'is al-Kubra and Qadi `Iyad's glorious masterpiece al-Shifa'.
4- It is said in the koran that when a man dies he can have up to 70
wives if he goes to heaven.
Where does it say this??
It says that he will have the wives in this life and HOORIAN. But for
women they are only allowed one husband. Why is this so?
We do not know with certainty that there will be such a restriction on
women even if the reverse would hardly be mentionable to a decent
woman. A woman in the traditional world would and does consider it a
horrible thing to say to her that "You can have all the men you want"!
The Qur'an would never use inappropriate language. However, the Qur'an
does mention thatfor the inhabitants of Paradise - male and female -
{There wait on them immortal youths} (56:17), {There serve them youths
of everlasting youth, whom,when you see them, you would take for
scattered pearls} (76:19).
If this does not make a believing woman happy then, as Imam al-Shafi`i
said to the one who is not moved by erotic poetry, "You have no
feelings." As for the believing men, as one of the Awliya said, some
of them will need ghusl justfor hearing the verse {Same-age
young-bosomed girls} (78:33). Asfor us hard-hearted analphabets we may
read it and read it without effect.
In this life we know that if a woman were allowed more than one
husband, then there would be problems with the identity of the father
if she should have a child. So this will create problems, and the
father of the child will not be known. But in the after life, there
will not be new births.
Correct.
So then why cant womenhave men in the after lifeeither?
It is not clear they cannot, short of an all-but-explicit orgiastic
promise if that is what one wants.
Aren't women supposed to have the same rights as men?
No. They have some rights men have, some rights men do not have, and
men have some rights women do not have.
In the koraan it says that men have a degree of power over women, ok
fine, but even in the after life its like this? Wont women ever have
the same freedom that men enjoy???? Wont theyever be able to have the
same privileges that menhave?? Are women the lower cast? Is this the
way it is? And women should just accept it????
The so-called "degree of power" verse you mentioned is not about power
but responsibility and accountability placed squarely on the shoulders
of men. The rest of the relevant questions have been answered insha
Allah, and
Allah knows best.

Fathwa - More Women than Men in Hell?

Question:
I recently received the following from someone who is earnestly
attempting to follow the deen, but did not know how to reply in this
regard. Your help would be greatly appreciated. May Allah shower you
all with his infinite graces for all your service to the ummah:
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"I came accross this Hadith and was very disheartened:
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and
that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful."It
was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungratefulto
Allah?) He replied,"They are ungrateful to their husbands and
areungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to
them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and
then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I
have never received any good from you." Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book
2, Number 28
Women tolerates injustices from their husbands during the entire
period of their lifetime. 99% of the wives are treated like servants.
However, Islam does not give women the right to complain, or to react
against the injustice oftheir husbands, or to show the same bad
attitude to the husband as he shows. If a woman does any ofthis, hell
fire is her destiny!!
Please comment."
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Dear Questioner,
I pray this message finds you in good health and iman.
Hadith literature is a rich and fascinating glimpse into the life of
the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace. One of the most
amazing aspects of this literature is the fact that many women shared
in the transmission and preservation of the Prophet's legacy.
After all, if it weren't for the Prophet's wives, may Allah be well
pleased with them, countless facets of the Prophet's life might have
been lost to future generations. For those who claim that women had no
stake in Islamic history, all I can say is look to the hadith and the
phenomenal contributions of women like Aisha, Hafsa, and Umm Salama,
may Allah be pleased with them.
You may wonder why I'msaying this. I'm saying this because you have to
approach the hadith with some understanding of its context. There is
an entire field of studies called Hadith Studies. Scholars, past and
present, have devoted their entire lives to memorizing, understanding,
classifying, authenticating, tracing, and commenting on the thousands
of traditions associated with the Prophet, Allah bless him and give
him peace.
Ordinary students like us have no business taking one hadith and
running to the races with it. If we're confused about a hadith, then
we should go to an expert and ask him or her what it means. We owe the
Messenger, who is the Beloved of Allah, something calledhusn al-dhann,
or the benefit of the doubt. If we see a hadith that looks strangeto
us, we put the best construction on the matter.
First, we should recognize that we may not have sufficient knowledge
of the Arabic language to come to any conclusion on the hadith.
Second, we need to understand that this is one hadith in
thousands.Look how many hadith there are thatspeak positively of
women, andremindmen to honor women. Foremost of these hadith are the
ones that deal with motherhood. For example:
Narrated Abu Huraira:
A man came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle! Who is
more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?" The
Prophet said, "Your mother." The man said."Who is next?" The Prophet
said, "Your mother." The man further said, "Who is next?" The Prophet
said,"Your mother." The man asked for the fourth time, "Who is next?"
The Prophet said, "Your father. "
[Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 73, Number 2]
Third, there are other hadith that indicate a plentitude of women in
Paradise. For example:
Muhammad reported that some (persons) stated with a sense of pride and
some discussed whether there would be more men in Paradise or more
women. It was upon thisthat Abu Huraira reported that Abu'l Qasim (the
Holy Prophet)(may peace be upon him) said: The (members) of the first
group to get into Paradise would have their faces as bright as full
moon during the night, and the next to this group would have their
faces as bright as the shining stars in the sky, and every person
would have two wives and the marrow of their shanks would glimmer
beneath the flesh and there would be none without a wife in Paradise.
[Muslim, Book 040, Number 6793]
It looks like this was a topic of debate even in the early days of
Islam. It's important to also keep in mind that the Qur'an frequently
mentions the presence ofhoor al-ain, or beautiful virgins, in
Paradise. The Qur'an says, "But those who attain to faith and do
righteous deeds We shallbring into gardens through which running
waters flow, therein to abide beyond the count of time; there shall
they have spouses pure: and [thus] We shall bring them unto happiness
abounding." [Al-Nisa, 4:57]
This verse is a very clear statement on the spiritual parity between
men and women. Both believing men and women are promised a peaceful
abode in Paradise with loving spouses.
Once again, there is no indication that women are excluded from
Paradise and its rewards.
Fourth, even if we take the hadith at its literal meaning, is it
really an issue? Since we're all supposed to be striving for Paradise
anyway, weshould welcome the hadith as advice on how not to act.
In other words, the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace,
mayhave seen certain behavior from the women of his community. Out of
love and concern, he warned them that these behaviors would lead to
Hell rather than Paradise. This hadith is telling us how serious
ingratitude is. And it's a warning to both sexes.
The scholars frequently explain that hadiths like these can apply to
both sexes. Of course, there are ungrateful husbands. That goes
without saying. And of course many women have suffered at their
husbands' hands.
However, this hadith is addressing situations where women are in
thewrong. We have to be honest. A lot of women do take their husbands
for granted. We should be grateful that the Prophet, Allah bless him
and give him peace, warned us of the consequences of such unbecoming
behavior.
Last but not least, this hadith is not saying that any woman who
complains is going to Hell. This hadith addresses a very specific
behavior. Women certainly have the right to voice their grievances.
Isn't there an entire chapter of the Qur'an called al-Mujadilah? This
surah is the 58th chapterin the Qur'an and it is devoted to the story
of awoman who came to theProphet, Allah bless him and give him peace,
and complained about her husband.
The Prophet did not tell this woman that she wasgoing to Hell.
Instead, helistened to her, and AllahMost High revealed verses
directly addressing this woman'ssituation and condemning the husband
for his unacceptable behavior.
I pray that Allah Most High helps your friend tofind peace in this
beautiful way of life thathas enriched and inspired the lives of
countless women.
And Allah knows best.

Fathwa - Black Magic, Bad Duas, and Marriage

Question:
i had a friend who wasinvolved in certain things i never believedlike
going to some lady for taweez and when she would come from that lady
she will burn them in a particular manner i was even hiding this from
my parents as she was staying at my home and did burnt some of them at
my home after my parentsgoing to sleep.she wasin love with some guy
who didn't had any relations with her once when i told her that she is
being stupid she got upset and yelled at me and said i was jealous
fromher boy friend whom i never even saw ever...we end up on these
basis ..well after six months when i got married i once chattedwith
her and told her about my supply in medicine which she answered that
"you deserved this and evenworst and its the start you will see you
will never be happy'i was like OK as i was least pushed and i believed
in my ALLAH i took it very easy ,but now after 3 years i again
received an e mail from her in which she had a bad dua may be its just
a coincidence but the moment i got my step 1 usmle result in which i
failed i recievd her 2 consecuctive mails that was kind of scary for
me ...after i got married so far i dont have child doc told me i have
severe endometriosis which is rare at my age ...and i am into bad
things like masturbation . i do pray quite regularlythough but soon
after it i feel the urge and meand my husband are sofar in financial
crisis whatever we want to do get ruined i still dont blame anything
but my luck but yesterday i was talkingto a friend and she toldme that
i can check about whats going on as there are educated scholars on
this site so am putting everything in front of you to tell me whats
this all about i am just worried about all the potentials she had
andshe was a really selfishgirl and she cursed me so i am scared she
used to bring some taweez for her mother which she was burning when
she wasat my home i am just scared and would like to know what she was
doing and what affectsit can cause and is my current situation related
to anything with her intentions what should i do...waiting for your
advice
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you in better health and iman.
Unfortunately, black magic is very real and it sounds as if this
person may have tried to perform some type of magic against you.
Alhamdulillah, there are ways to deal with this sort of thing. The
best thing you can do is seek Allah's protection from shaitan.
Ask Allah's forgiveness for your sins. Recite the Qur'an often,
especially the powerful Refuging Verses in the last two surahs. And be
constant in your remembrance of Allah.
Please refer to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari's article,
"Protection from Black Magic."
If this person is still harassing you, why don'tyou block her email
address? Don't let her think that she has any control over your life,
because she really doesn't. She can make allthe bad duas she wants;
only Allah Most High is in control of your affairs. Ask Allah to give
you the best of this world and the best of the hereafter and to save
you from thepunishment of the fire.
It really sounds like you're dealing with some jealousy issues here.
If that's the case, seek refuge in Allah fromthis person's envy and
move on with your life.
Don't think for a momentthat your endometriosis is related to this
person'sactions. Many women suffer from endometriosis, but
alhamdulillah, there are ways to cope with this condition and lead a
fulfilling life.
For more information on endometriosis, please visit www.endometriosis.org.
Finally, you mentioned a problem with masturbation. Since you are
married, you definitely want to look into this issue. Masturbation is
harmful, especially in a marriage, because it is the husband's duty to
satisfy his wife, and vice versa. If you feel that you are not being
sexually satisfied, then you need to discuss this with your husband in
an open, loving manner. Resortingto masturbation will onlycause you
more frustration in the long run.
Last but not least, please try to consult a local scholar for more assistance.
And Allah knows best.

Story - I am really confused! Please, ...

Everything started when Ileast expected and what happened was
something that I could never imagine happening to me!
I was at a company party!Dancing, laughing, alcohol and right now,
everything seems pretty fuzzy. I don't remember everything, but I
remember enough to have occasional images coming up in my ming that
are making me blush.
... Images full of passion and in which I strongly desire a certain
man. I am positive that if he were here and if it were to be the right
time, we wouldn't have possibly stopped by just with kissing or
touching!!!
I have been married for ayear and a half, but the man from that other
night was not my husband, but a colleague of mine. I can't stop
thinking about that! I am trying to figure out why it happened and I
keep getting to answers that are not giving me any peace!
I am assuming that everything is due to the fact that I have only
beenwith one man my entire life; my wonderful, lovingand serene
husband; the only man that I want to be the father of my children!
We have been together for 8 years and I am 25 years old. Maybe this is
the reason why; that I aminexperienced, I don't really know! All I
know is that I don't want to hurt him, but I can't be possibly be sure
that I would be able to refrain myself from doing anything...
I want to stop! But I can't!Everyday I spend a lot of time with my
colleague and I am getting more and more attracted to him! After what
happened, we "agreed" that what happened there the other night
willremain there. But every time I look at him, I get all those
passionate images in my head and I just can't stop myself...
I can see it in his eyes that he wants me too, I have no doubts about
that! I think it's a matter of time for what happened the other night
to happen again, but this time, without having the alcohol as the good
excuse that it is!
How do I make myself stop?
How do I make myself stop wanting him and how do I bring back the
passion in my relationship with my husband???
I don't want to continue falling asleep next to my husband and to keep
thinking about someone else!

Story - Dilemma. Heart broken

Heartbroken seems to be something common in my life. Hi dear readers,
I would like to share a story of mine which everything started when I
was in my school age. Had this sweet cute love for 5 years when
everything ended up because he cheated on me. An express love story to
start my life huh? I proceeded my life until I got into college. I
found someone who's really kind and sincere to me. He did really cared
bout me and helped almost everything when I just started my college
life. Hewas 4 years older than me and we really had great time. But my
life didn't get that easy whenI suddenly fell in love with this guy,A.
Yes, its my fault but I never felt such a deep love with anyone like
A. As for result, I left the guy who's older than me and I went with
A. Our life was like the most happiest couple ever had. We really know
eachother well, we even had the same family background which kinda
complicated. its like when I'm with him, its like I'm in the other
world which there's no one else but us. Happily ever after feeling. I
soon realised that life couldn't be more easier when I really had my
karma.
A told me that he wantedto take his time because of his studies and
wantedto enjoy his life cz he didn't want to regret it later on(which
I thought was bullshit). He just left me and without any news of him,
sooner I found that he did went out with some girls. My heart was
totally crushed and I was kinda insane for like a month. Come and go
is want the life is, a guy which I never met eventhough we were in the
same programmme for 3 years,suddenly wishes to be friend with me. We
became friends and he started to confess his feelings towards me.
Ifelt kinda guilty to give a straight no. So I did accept to be his gf
but forthe time being I told him that I didn't had those kinda feeling
towards him cz I was too afraid tolove someone again.
With no second guess, heaccepted and we proceed our relationship for
almost a year. After a chat and some memories,I started to had those
feelings towards my bf. The problem is now, my current bf did
something which really made me dissapointed. From what he did to me,
as if like I'msomeone with no dignity.Not just enough with those
problems, suddenlyguy A came back to me and asking me forgiveness. A
told me that he was too dumb and too ego to realize everything he did
was wrong.
Now I'm in dilemma. I do love my bf, but I really loved A so much.
Yeah forsure my bf has a totally different family background which I
was really comfort with their ways for accepting me and he do love me.
But with A was different, it was just love. I could onlygive love as
my reason for wanting him. I alwaysthought that if I really do love my
bf that much, I wouldn't be this hard to choose between both of them.
Means that my loveis not that much for my bf as my love for A??
Currently I couldn't choose either one of them. I'm afraid that I
would regret someday and I really don't wanna break any of their
hearts.I told both of them that I just want to be friends with them.
Just like me and my other friends. To ease this story, A is my ex
which he left me but I really do love him with all my heart. He is
kinda flirting type with other woman. My bf is kind andinnocent guy
who just made me dissapointed and make me feel like no dignity. Now
the point is I know that I should choose my bf rather than A. But my
love towards A is making me hard to decide. I really don't wanna
regret and love someonelse while I'm married with another guy. I just
couldn't decidewho I should give the second chance. One who left me,
one who made me felt like I'm such a cheap girl. I'm totally in
dilemma. Any advice would be really a help forme. For sure a divorce
after marriage is a no for me because my previous life from a divorced
family.
Please. Help.

'Replace capitalism with Islamic system’

Board members of the Al Quds)Jerusalem( International Institution
including Attallah)second from left(, Mishal )fourth from left( and
Qaradawi )third from right
Doha-based Islamic scholar Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi has urged Muslim
countries to take advantage of the global financial crisis and build a
new fiscal system which is compatible with Islamic principles.
"We have our own economic philosophy and system which others do not
have. The collapse of the capitalist system, which is based on usury
and securities rather than commodities in markets, shows us that it is
undergoing a crisis and that our integrated Islamic philosophy, if
properly understood and applied,can replace the Western capitalism,"
he said.
"We have all the means of power.We have an abundance of economic and
human resources. If we know how to make the best use of the
opportunity, Muslim countries can build a newsystem among themselves,"
he said.
Qaradawi who was speaking at the opening of the sixth annual meeting
of the Al Quds)Jerusalem( International Institution which got under
way in Doha yesterday, also urged the Palestinian Hamas and Fatah
movement to be "united" for achieving the hope of wresting the control
of Jerusalem from theIsraelis.
"I call on both our brother Khalid Mishal )the head of Hamas( and our
friend Abu Mazin )the Palestinian president( to meet and seek
reconciliation so that they can achieve our hopes. It is not true that
Israel is invincible. We are able to conquer and we will do."
The scholar also warned against what he called "Israel's ongoing
excavations under the Al Aqsa Mosque."
Mishal, the Damascus-based chief of Hamas Political Bureau, raised
doubts about the possibility of reaching any settlement with Israel
via negotiation.
"What should be very clear is thatregaining control of Al Quds and the
any other usurped Palestinianrights would be impossible through
negotiation. Even for thePalestinians refugees' right to return,
Israel does not want evento admit the moral responsibility of
deporting them," he said.
Mishal also blamed both the US and Israel for the "division between
the Palestinian factions"saying that the US and Israel were putting
obstacles in the way of any possible settlement between the
Palestinians.
"It is America which undermined the Makkah peace deal. But now both
America and Israel are embroiled in their internal problems," he said,
while observing that the Hamas movement delegate, who is currently in
Cairo, has a reconciliation formula to form a government of national
unity.
The three-day meeting will seek to garner support for the protection
of Jerusalem and its holy sites against what they call "Israeli
attempts to Judaise the city and its holy cities."
The meeting brought together some 300 personalities from different
countries as well as NGOs which convened in Doha to discuss ways to
protect and conserve the heritage of Jerusalem.