Fathwa, - Umra Acceptance and Husband's Dua Against It

Question:
I went to umrah with my husband a few weeks ago, and subhanallah it
was such an amazing experience. A few days before we arrived home me
and my husband had an argument, in the heat of the moment he said i
hope your umrah does not get accepted. i could not believe what he
said, he apologised straight away, and said he did not mean it, but my
fear is what if what he said gets accepted by Allah, what do i do. i
still haven't forgiven my husband as i am so hurt, it really felt as
if he divorced me. please help me by answering my question. salam
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
Dear Sister,
Assalamu alaikum,
I pray this finds you well.
Your husband's words have no effect. What matters is that you
performed your Umrah in accordance with the Sunna, following all the
proper manners entailed therein. If your intention was for Allah
Ta'ala, then you should think well of Allah Most High and trust Him to
reward you for this act of devotion.
What your husband said was hurtful and it's good that he apologized.
You should move on, but perhaps consider why you had an argument at
such a time and what you can do in the future to prevent it from
reoccurring.
Wasalaam

Fathwa, - insecure

Question:
I have recently married my husband, I can't control the way I feel.
I'm always feeling threatened by other women around. I also feel very
insecure and jealous. It's really affecting our relationship. I just
feel so insecure. I know he loves me very much. I just can't stop the
way I'm feeling. He feels I don't have faith in him and trust him. I
really need to know how to control the way I feel. It's making me so
paranoid. I love him deeply and I am always scared of losing him.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
Dear Sister,
Assalamu alaikum,
I pray this message finds you well.
Have you examined what may be underlying these feelings? What are you
doing with your time, besides worrying about these other women? Do you
have any causes you're passionate about? What projects are you working
on? What goals have you set for yourself?
How much time do you make for yourself? Do you take the time to
beautify yourself for your husband?
How do you view yourself and your achievements?
Obviously, your husband married you because he found something
attractive in you. Alhamdulillah, he loves you, so this, in itself,
should be reassuring. Is he practicing? If he observes the proper adab
with these women, then you should not worry.
Instead, you should focus on setting--and meeting--your own personal,
intellectual, spiritual, and marital goals.
The only person you should be comparing yourself with is yourself.
Stop worrying about these other women. Assess where you are now and
where you'd like to be. Then work towards that. It might be useful to
read the life stories of the Prophet's wives and the female
Companions, may Allah be pleased with them. If we devoted a fraction
of our time to emulating their examples, then we' d have so much to
focus on that is good and positive. Focus on what's good and positive
for you and your husband and leave this suspicion alone. Seek refuge
in Allah from shaytan. Give your husband the trust he deserves. After
all, doesn't he trust you?
And Allah knows best.

Contemporary sodomy - I

The grave and evil act of sodomy has various names in the Arabic
language, some of which mean:
· The act of the people of Loot.
· Sodomy.
· Homosexuality.
· Entering a person from the rear.
· Same-sex relationships.
This evil act has become widespread in the west and is being practised
by vast numbers of people. The west approves of this evil act, and has
introduced new laws in its favour of same-sex marriage.
In the year 1967, the British government introduced a law which stated
that it was no longer a crime for people of the same sex to have
sexual intercourse if they have reached the age of puberty. The result
of this was that this evil act became widespread, as did many
diseases. It is still considered a crime in that country for people of
the same sex to have a sexual relationship if at least one of them
have not yet reached the age of puberty, although this is something
that the homosexuals are pressuring that government to change.
InEurope, same sex marriage is becoming widespread with official
recognition and approval, and many governments authorize same-sex
marriages.Amsterdamwitnessed the first official same-sex marriage in
the world with a party that was attended by the ministers of the Dutch
government and other celebrities, in addition to being broadcast live
on television.
OnSunday 4thMarch 2001, it was announced inHollandthat three male and
one female couple immediately married after the announcement of a new
law that permitted same-sex marriage. Moreover, the Dutch government
gives the same rights to married couples of the same sex as it does to
those of the opposite sex, such as government financial assistance,
lower taxes, the right to adopt and the requirement of a court order
in order to divorce.
Officials inAmsterdamexpect the number of married couples to increase
by ten thousand couples annually, which represents ten percent )10%(
of the number of heterosexual marriages.
InDenmark, same sex marriages began in the year 1989, makingDenmarkthe
first country in the world to officially recognize same-sex marriages.
Also,NorwayandSwedenallow homosexuals to officially register their
relationships. In addition to this, the German government very
recently passed a new law to permit such marriages officially,
although it does not allow the couples to adopt children or be
entitled to pay less tax. This law also permits non-German citizens
who are living inGermanyto have such marriages.
In February 2000, the Canadian government granted homosexuals who live
together the same rights that normal couples have, although it did not
allow them to officially get married.
Homosexual Conception?
A British doctor studied the possibility of making this possible.
After finding a female volunteer who offered her womb, and having
extracted semen from both men concerned, the doctor discontinued the
experiment, due to coming to the conclusion that modern science has
not yet reached the level of being able to cause the man's sperm to
act as the female's ovum and thus facilitate the conception of a
child.
InIsrael, homosexuals constitute twelve percent )12%( of the Jewish
population; they are demanding that their government gives them more
rights, the most important of which is to officially recognise their
marriages. They are also demanding that the government pass laws that
give them assistance regarding inheritance, paid marriage-leave, and
so on.
Homosexuality has become something quite acceptable in the Israeli
community. The Haaretz Newspaper of14thApril 2000, contained an
article quoting a man who planned to get married to his boyfriend as
saying: "Homosexuals enjoy a much better status now from a legal
perspective; as a matter of fact, this is one of the best countries
)in this regard( in the world. We have the same rights as )the
homosexuals in(DenmarkandHolland, as there is no law that prohibits
same sex-marriage, nor is there any law prohibiting sodomy. On the
contrary, we have a law here that demands that we have equal work
opportunities."
The first punishment from Allaah:
Aids:Aids was discovered in 1981 when a number of homosexual men who
practiced sodomy in places such asLos AngelesandNew Yorkcontracted a
strange type of bacterial chest infection which is known as
Pneumosytis Carinii. Some of them also contracted a rare form of
cancer named Kaposis Sarcoma.
Scientists at that time could offer no explanation of how this rare
disease had appeared so suddenly; but in 1984, they were able to
recognize the cause and attributed it to the damage of the main cells
in the immune system due to a new virus, and this is where the name
AIDS )Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome( came from. In 1986, the
virus that causes this disease was named HIV.
This disease coincides, exactly, with the saying of the Prophetwhere
'Abdullaah bin 'Umarreported that: "The Prophetapproached us once and
said:"It is never that immorality )i.e. adultery, fornication and
sodomy( prevails in a people to the extent that they do it openly,
except that there will appear in them diseases that were unknown to
their predecessors."" ]Al-Haakim[
This disease has spread in a rapid and terrifying manner, to the point
that the number of deaths that it has caused in the United States
alone up until January of the year 2000 was 438,795 people, while
worldwide, the number of newly infected and HIV positive people at the
end of each year reaches thirty six million )36,000,000( people.
Ninety five percent )95%( of these contracted it due to practicing
sodomy, while the others did so via other means, such as infected drug
syringes. Research has proved that sixty two percent )62%( of these
cases were caused by bisexual men.
Los Angeleshas the fourth highest number of infected patients in
theUnited States, and it has been stated there that bisexual men
hinder the process of putting an end to this disease.
Before the world had an opportunity to wake up from the effect of the
shock caused by AIDS, a new homosexual disease appeared on the
horizon. This disease is even more powerful and viscous than AIDS. Dr.
Kenneth Moore MD stated that AIDS is considered insignificant in
comparison to this new disease, and he gave it the name 'The Love
Virus.'
The symptoms of this disease are that the infected person begins, six
months after being infected, to develop blisters and ulcers, from
which the patient continues to bleed until he dies. Dr. Moore has
stated that it is not easy for the body to be infected with this
virus, but once it does, modern science stands helpless in the face of
it.
This virus lays dormant in the person's body for six months and is
then activated by him having sexual intercourse again. Unlike other
diseases resulting from sexual intercourse that can only be
transmitted through the blood, bodily fluids, or sexual intercourse,
this disease can be transmitted in different ways. It can even afflict
those who have never had sexual intercourse. Dr. Moore has stated that
it appears that it is transmitted through the air and can enter a
person's lungs via his breathing mechanism.
The above were but some of the many harmful effects of sodomy. How can
any sane man, after reading this, give in to his perverted desires and
lusts, and pay such a terrible price as a consequence?

Contemporary sodomy –II

Real life stories:
We have received many questions from Muslims who live in the west in
this regard; the following are two examples:
· I live inCanada. My sister has a bisexual boyfriend and does
not see any problem in this; she even goes with him to a gay
nightclub. She also believes that we should accept this type of person
in our community. What should I do?
· I discovered that my forty year old husband has been, for the
past two years, sleeping with a boy who comes to our house
occasionally, although he does not know that I have found out. He is a
person who performs his prayers and confirms that he is sexually
satisfied by me. What should I do?
Dear brothers!This is a married man who is committing this wicked sin!
How perverted can a person get? How heedless can a person become?
Indeed he is cursed by Allaah as the Prophetsaid:"Allaah has cursed
the one who commits the act of the people of Loot )i.e.
sodomy(."]Ahmad[
The Islaamic ruling on sodomy:
The consensus of the Companionshas been recorded in this regard that
the one who commits this sin must be executed. However, there are
variant views from them on how to execute the perpetrator. Some of
them ruled that it should be by beheading him with a sword, others
ruled that it be by stoning to death, while a third group held the
opinion that it should be by burning to death. There is another group
that has ruled that it should be done by taking the perpetrator of
this evil crime to the highest point in the area he resides, and then
hurling him off from there, head down, while being stoned as he falls
and after he hits the ground, until he dies; this was the opinion of
Abu Bakrand 'Ali. There is also a view that such people should be
executed by placing them in a house that is then demolished with them
inside it.
The Prophetsaid:"Kill the one who does it )i.e., sodomy( and the one
to whom it is done."]At-Tirmithi & Others[ Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd, may
Allaah preserve him, said: "There is no indication in the narration of
the person being single or married, and thus it covers all people."
How are such sinners to be dealt with?
The one who commits this grave sin must repent before death strikes
him, as he would otherwise be subject to the wrath and curse of
Allaah, as well as the loss of both, this life and the Hereafter.
He must be advised and reminded that Allaah is watching him and that
Satan is keen to misguide him. He should remember that one day he may
become a father who would despise anyone attacking his children in
this way.
Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyimsaid:"Sodomy brings nothing but regret, sorrow and
diseases that are almost impossible to survive. It also makes one's
countenance dark and gloomy, and causes the light of guidance to
vanish from his heart. It )i.e., sodomy( becomes so evident on his
face that people would recognize this as soon as they see him. The one
who commits this sin will never survive the punishment that will
follow unless Allaah has predestined for him to repent. It results in
the blessings of Allaah upon him vanishing and being replaced by
curses and hardships. It also makes him more daring in committing more
evil and shameful deeds, and thus causes his humiliation."
Modern science has proved that this act has a very negative effect on
those who do it, such as damaging the nervous system, the brain, and
the sexual organs, as well as causing liver infections, which is in
addition to AIDS.
How does a person repent from this sin?
· Sincere repentance and remaining steadfast upon it.
· Supplicating to Allaah for assistance.
· Frequently asking forgiveness from Allaah.
· Continual mentioning of Allaah.
· Increasing in acts of worship and obedience.
· Optional prayers, as Allaah Says )what means(:"…Indeed,
prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing…"]Quran 29: 45[
· Keeping righteous company.
Whenever the slave sincerely repents to Allaah and continues
supplicating to Him for forgiveness, Allaah will certainly protect and
preserve him. Imaam Ibn Taymeeyyahwas asked whether the one who
repents from this act must inform others, his reply was:"If he truly
repents, Allaah will forgive him without him having to publicize his
act."
Allaah Says )what means(:"And those who do not invoke with Allaah
another deity or kill the soul which Allaah has forbidden ]to be
killed[, except by right, and do not commit unlawful sexual
intercourse. And whoever should do that will meet a penalty.
Multiplied for him is the punishment on the Day of Resurrection, and
he will abide therein humiliated – Except for those who repent,
believe, and do righteous work. For them Allaah will replace their
evil deeds with good. And ever is Allaah Forgiving and Merciful. And
he who repents and does righteousness does indeed turn to Allaah with
]accepted[ repentance."]Quran 25: 68-71[.
Additionally, one may get married after sincerely repenting in order
to protect himself from sinning further.