Fathwa - Black Magic, Bad Duas, and Marriage

Question:
i had a friend who wasinvolved in certain things i never believedlike
going to some lady for taweez and when she would come from that lady
she will burn them in a particular manner i was even hiding this from
my parents as she was staying at my home and did burnt some of them at
my home after my parentsgoing to sleep.she wasin love with some guy
who didn't had any relations with her once when i told her that she is
being stupid she got upset and yelled at me and said i was jealous
fromher boy friend whom i never even saw ever...we end up on these
basis ..well after six months when i got married i once chattedwith
her and told her about my supply in medicine which she answered that
"you deserved this and evenworst and its the start you will see you
will never be happy'i was like OK as i was least pushed and i believed
in my ALLAH i took it very easy ,but now after 3 years i again
received an e mail from her in which she had a bad dua may be its just
a coincidence but the moment i got my step 1 usmle result in which i
failed i recievd her 2 consecuctive mails that was kind of scary for
me ...after i got married so far i dont have child doc told me i have
severe endometriosis which is rare at my age ...and i am into bad
things like masturbation . i do pray quite regularlythough but soon
after it i feel the urge and meand my husband are sofar in financial
crisis whatever we want to do get ruined i still dont blame anything
but my luck but yesterday i was talkingto a friend and she toldme that
i can check about whats going on as there are educated scholars on
this site so am putting everything in front of you to tell me whats
this all about i am just worried about all the potentials she had
andshe was a really selfishgirl and she cursed me so i am scared she
used to bring some taweez for her mother which she was burning when
she wasat my home i am just scared and would like to know what she was
doing and what affectsit can cause and is my current situation related
to anything with her intentions what should i do...waiting for your
advice
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you in better health and iman.
Unfortunately, black magic is very real and it sounds as if this
person may have tried to perform some type of magic against you.
Alhamdulillah, there are ways to deal with this sort of thing. The
best thing you can do is seek Allah's protection from shaitan.
Ask Allah's forgiveness for your sins. Recite the Qur'an often,
especially the powerful Refuging Verses in the last two surahs. And be
constant in your remembrance of Allah.
Please refer to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari's article,
"Protection from Black Magic."
If this person is still harassing you, why don'tyou block her email
address? Don't let her think that she has any control over your life,
because she really doesn't. She can make allthe bad duas she wants;
only Allah Most High is in control of your affairs. Ask Allah to give
you the best of this world and the best of the hereafter and to save
you from thepunishment of the fire.
It really sounds like you're dealing with some jealousy issues here.
If that's the case, seek refuge in Allah fromthis person's envy and
move on with your life.
Don't think for a momentthat your endometriosis is related to this
person'sactions. Many women suffer from endometriosis, but
alhamdulillah, there are ways to cope with this condition and lead a
fulfilling life.
For more information on endometriosis, please visit www.endometriosis.org.
Finally, you mentioned a problem with masturbation. Since you are
married, you definitely want to look into this issue. Masturbation is
harmful, especially in a marriage, because it is the husband's duty to
satisfy his wife, and vice versa. If you feel that you are not being
sexually satisfied, then you need to discuss this with your husband in
an open, loving manner. Resortingto masturbation will onlycause you
more frustration in the long run.
Last but not least, please try to consult a local scholar for more assistance.
And Allah knows best.

Story - I am really confused! Please, ...

Everything started when Ileast expected and what happened was
something that I could never imagine happening to me!
I was at a company party!Dancing, laughing, alcohol and right now,
everything seems pretty fuzzy. I don't remember everything, but I
remember enough to have occasional images coming up in my ming that
are making me blush.
... Images full of passion and in which I strongly desire a certain
man. I am positive that if he were here and if it were to be the right
time, we wouldn't have possibly stopped by just with kissing or
touching!!!
I have been married for ayear and a half, but the man from that other
night was not my husband, but a colleague of mine. I can't stop
thinking about that! I am trying to figure out why it happened and I
keep getting to answers that are not giving me any peace!
I am assuming that everything is due to the fact that I have only
beenwith one man my entire life; my wonderful, lovingand serene
husband; the only man that I want to be the father of my children!
We have been together for 8 years and I am 25 years old. Maybe this is
the reason why; that I aminexperienced, I don't really know! All I
know is that I don't want to hurt him, but I can't be possibly be sure
that I would be able to refrain myself from doing anything...
I want to stop! But I can't!Everyday I spend a lot of time with my
colleague and I am getting more and more attracted to him! After what
happened, we "agreed" that what happened there the other night
willremain there. But every time I look at him, I get all those
passionate images in my head and I just can't stop myself...
I can see it in his eyes that he wants me too, I have no doubts about
that! I think it's a matter of time for what happened the other night
to happen again, but this time, without having the alcohol as the good
excuse that it is!
How do I make myself stop?
How do I make myself stop wanting him and how do I bring back the
passion in my relationship with my husband???
I don't want to continue falling asleep next to my husband and to keep
thinking about someone else!

Story - Dilemma. Heart broken

Heartbroken seems to be something common in my life. Hi dear readers,
I would like to share a story of mine which everything started when I
was in my school age. Had this sweet cute love for 5 years when
everything ended up because he cheated on me. An express love story to
start my life huh? I proceeded my life until I got into college. I
found someone who's really kind and sincere to me. He did really cared
bout me and helped almost everything when I just started my college
life. Hewas 4 years older than me and we really had great time. But my
life didn't get that easy whenI suddenly fell in love with this guy,A.
Yes, its my fault but I never felt such a deep love with anyone like
A. As for result, I left the guy who's older than me and I went with
A. Our life was like the most happiest couple ever had. We really know
eachother well, we even had the same family background which kinda
complicated. its like when I'm with him, its like I'm in the other
world which there's no one else but us. Happily ever after feeling. I
soon realised that life couldn't be more easier when I really had my
karma.
A told me that he wantedto take his time because of his studies and
wantedto enjoy his life cz he didn't want to regret it later on(which
I thought was bullshit). He just left me and without any news of him,
sooner I found that he did went out with some girls. My heart was
totally crushed and I was kinda insane for like a month. Come and go
is want the life is, a guy which I never met eventhough we were in the
same programmme for 3 years,suddenly wishes to be friend with me. We
became friends and he started to confess his feelings towards me.
Ifelt kinda guilty to give a straight no. So I did accept to be his gf
but forthe time being I told him that I didn't had those kinda feeling
towards him cz I was too afraid tolove someone again.
With no second guess, heaccepted and we proceed our relationship for
almost a year. After a chat and some memories,I started to had those
feelings towards my bf. The problem is now, my current bf did
something which really made me dissapointed. From what he did to me,
as if like I'msomeone with no dignity.Not just enough with those
problems, suddenlyguy A came back to me and asking me forgiveness. A
told me that he was too dumb and too ego to realize everything he did
was wrong.
Now I'm in dilemma. I do love my bf, but I really loved A so much.
Yeah forsure my bf has a totally different family background which I
was really comfort with their ways for accepting me and he do love me.
But with A was different, it was just love. I could onlygive love as
my reason for wanting him. I alwaysthought that if I really do love my
bf that much, I wouldn't be this hard to choose between both of them.
Means that my loveis not that much for my bf as my love for A??
Currently I couldn't choose either one of them. I'm afraid that I
would regret someday and I really don't wanna break any of their
hearts.I told both of them that I just want to be friends with them.
Just like me and my other friends. To ease this story, A is my ex
which he left me but I really do love him with all my heart. He is
kinda flirting type with other woman. My bf is kind andinnocent guy
who just made me dissapointed and make me feel like no dignity. Now
the point is I know that I should choose my bf rather than A. But my
love towards A is making me hard to decide. I really don't wanna
regret and love someonelse while I'm married with another guy. I just
couldn't decidewho I should give the second chance. One who left me,
one who made me felt like I'm such a cheap girl. I'm totally in
dilemma. Any advice would be really a help forme. For sure a divorce
after marriage is a no for me because my previous life from a divorced
family.
Please. Help.

'Replace capitalism with Islamic system’

Board members of the Al Quds)Jerusalem( International Institution
including Attallah)second from left(, Mishal )fourth from left( and
Qaradawi )third from right
Doha-based Islamic scholar Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi has urged Muslim
countries to take advantage of the global financial crisis and build a
new fiscal system which is compatible with Islamic principles.
"We have our own economic philosophy and system which others do not
have. The collapse of the capitalist system, which is based on usury
and securities rather than commodities in markets, shows us that it is
undergoing a crisis and that our integrated Islamic philosophy, if
properly understood and applied,can replace the Western capitalism,"
he said.
"We have all the means of power.We have an abundance of economic and
human resources. If we know how to make the best use of the
opportunity, Muslim countries can build a newsystem among themselves,"
he said.
Qaradawi who was speaking at the opening of the sixth annual meeting
of the Al Quds)Jerusalem( International Institution which got under
way in Doha yesterday, also urged the Palestinian Hamas and Fatah
movement to be "united" for achieving the hope of wresting the control
of Jerusalem from theIsraelis.
"I call on both our brother Khalid Mishal )the head of Hamas( and our
friend Abu Mazin )the Palestinian president( to meet and seek
reconciliation so that they can achieve our hopes. It is not true that
Israel is invincible. We are able to conquer and we will do."
The scholar also warned against what he called "Israel's ongoing
excavations under the Al Aqsa Mosque."
Mishal, the Damascus-based chief of Hamas Political Bureau, raised
doubts about the possibility of reaching any settlement with Israel
via negotiation.
"What should be very clear is thatregaining control of Al Quds and the
any other usurped Palestinianrights would be impossible through
negotiation. Even for thePalestinians refugees' right to return,
Israel does not want evento admit the moral responsibility of
deporting them," he said.
Mishal also blamed both the US and Israel for the "division between
the Palestinian factions"saying that the US and Israel were putting
obstacles in the way of any possible settlement between the
Palestinians.
"It is America which undermined the Makkah peace deal. But now both
America and Israel are embroiled in their internal problems," he said,
while observing that the Hamas movement delegate, who is currently in
Cairo, has a reconciliation formula to form a government of national
unity.
The three-day meeting will seek to garner support for the protection
of Jerusalem and its holy sites against what they call "Israeli
attempts to Judaise the city and its holy cities."
The meeting brought together some 300 personalities from different
countries as well as NGOs which convened in Doha to discuss ways to
protect and conserve the heritage of Jerusalem.