How to interact with your wife

The man interaction with his wife
Allah جل وعلا has obligated upon the man similar to that which He has
obligated upon the woman. Allah جل وعلا said:
وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ
عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ [البقرة:228
"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living
expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards
obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree
(of responsibility) over them[al-Baqarah 2:228]
Allah جل وعلا has made the rights of the man primary, but He has
giventhe woman rights just has He has given the manrights. Allah جل
وعلا said in this verse:
"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living
expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards
obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
The Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ gave many advices
concerning the women.
There are some people who marry and they do not learn the regulations
concerning social interactions with the wife. How should he talk to
her? How should he request from her? What are the obligations that the
wife must perform?
On the contrary, he only interacts with her based upon his sheer
desires. He treats her according to his wishes and sometimes based
upon his manhood and based upon his strength. And hedoes not do that
which isIslamic binding upon him. He does not learn the legislated
regulationsconcerning social interaction and dealing with the wife.
And how beautiful is the statement of Ibn Abbass رضي الله عنهما
concerning this verse! Hesaid concerning the statement of Allah جل
وعلا:
"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living
expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards
obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
He said: 'Verily I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife
such that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her
rights that she requests from me.
And also he used to orderwith beautification; meaning the man
beautifying himself for his wife.
He said:
"And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living
expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards
obedience and respect) to what is reasonable.
Therefore if the man requests that his wife beautify herself for him,
and that she remove any foul odor and that she is beautified when with
him; then likewise it is obligatory upon him to interact with her with
that which Allah جل وعلا has made obligatory.
Look at the condition of the Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
with his wives when they request maintenance from him. He said to them
kind gentle words that preoccupied for a period of time until Allah جل
وعلا reveal verses concerning this in SoorahAl Ahzab.
In many instances the man's interaction with his wife is according to
desires and according to the desires of manhood.
But some of the people are diligent upon interacting with their family
according to the appropriate legislation, and this is what is
obligatory so this is what we wanted to point out because this is a
type of interaction that many people are void of.
On the other extreme as it relates to interacting with the wives, some
people believe that good interaction is to give his wife free rein.
And he fulfills every desire that the woman has without looking to see
if that which she requested is permissible or impermissible, and
without looking to see if it is something she has a right to do or
not. It is something that will be good for her or is it something that
will not be good for her? Is there a benefit for her it that or not?
(The men) are negligent in this affair to the extentthat the women
conduct themselves freeing like they are the men.
No doubt that these are two images on opposite sides of the spectrum.
*.The one who is harsh and cruel
*.The one who gives his wife free rein and it is as though his wife
has become the man.
And the resolution for that, rather the balance and the guidelines are
for the person to strive tobe with his wife according to the
guidelines of the legislation.
Allah جل وعلا ordered that the women should be given their rights;
likewise He ordered that the man should be given their rights. And the
Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِوَسَلَّمَ, from the final advices he gave
during his life, was advice concerning the rights of the women.
During his sermon on theday of Arafat, during his tremendous sermon
which he bided farewell to the people he said:'Be kind to the women
because verily they are inyour trust.'Meaning like captives
But this does not mean that he leaves the affairs up to her to do
however she wants, and it does not mean that the personis negligent
concerning the commands of Allah; rather he should be in accordance
with that which Allah جل وعلا wants.
The man requests things from his wife but it is befitting that his
interactions with his wifebe in accordance with the statement of Ibn
Abbass رضي الله عنهما.
He said I do not like to demand all of my rights from my wife such
that it will become obligatory upon me to give her all of her rights
that she requests from me.
On the other hand, there is the interaction of the wife with her
husband. Allah has given the man adegree over the woman. He said:
But men have a degree (of responsibility) over them [al-Baqarah 2:228]
Allah جل وعلا gave man a preference based upon him providing
maintenance. Thus He gave him preference in that which is specific to
the man; thus man is the one responsible for providing maintenance and
he is responsible for commanding the good and forbidding the wrong.
And it is upon the wife toobey the husband in that which is obedience
to Allah, she should obey him in that which is correct and she should
not disobey him.
Such that no one he hates should enter his home and she should
notleave his home unless he is in agreement. And if the wife preserves
the husband's rights upon her then she has performed her obligations.
And it appears in an authentic narration: "If the woman prays her
fivedaily prayers, and fast (the month of Ramadan) and obey her
husband, then it will be said to her,'enter paradise from any door you
choose.'"
And there is no doubt theit is a requirement for the woman to obey her
husband and it is an obligation upon her as it relates to her
interaction with her husband that she is obedient and pleased and she
should be the one who concedesand yields. And she should not make the
manthe one who submits to her, and the one who is submissive to her,
because in this action there is corruption.
And the judges have spoken about the affair of the husband obeying his
wife and what occurs when some of the women rule their husbands. The
end result is that the woman is not content with her husband, the one
who obeys her, and has some good interactions with her; rather she
makes him obey her in everything that she desires. Thus the end result
is that she hates him, because the woman by her nature needs someone
who will take care of her. So if the man takes responsibility for her
and interacts with her according to the commands of Allah جل وعلا then
both of them will have a good result.

The Nikah Has Many Benefits And Is A Protection From Fornication

TheNikahis from the ways of Allah with regardto his creation, between
the children of Adam, male and female.
With it there are great benefits, from them: chastity of the two
spouses, one to the other; to fulfill what is required from the
husband towards his wife; the husband taking care of his wife; and
protecting her. From it is also the fulfilling of the desires of both
sexes and from it is having children.There are many benefits
fromNikah…
The most important thingis that it keeps you chastefrom adultery, from
fornication and the loss of lineage, and from the corruption of moral
uprightness. There is the protection of one's health.
As for adultery and fornication then their end place is in epidemics
and in lethal illnesses, as is well-known.
وَلَا تَقْرَبُوا الزِّنَا إِنَّهُ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَسَاءَ سَبِيلًا ٣٢
And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is
aFahishah[i.e. anything that transgresses its limits(a great sin)],
and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him).
[Surah Al-'Isrā':32]
With it there is the loss oflineage, the spread of illnesses, the loss
of modesty and chastity. With it there are great harms; fornication,
we seek refuge with Allah, what an evil way. The harms of fornication
are not limited.
WithNikah, there is a protection from fornication and from its harms,
and all praises aredue to Allah.Nikahproduces offspring. As
forfornication then it is a loss. The offspring from fornication have
no father and no lineage, and we seek refuge with Allah. Lost… This is
from the disadvantages of fornication.
He (Allah) didn't say don'tfornicate, he said don't come close to it,
'don't come near to it', i.e. stay away from the means that lead to
fornication. Such as: looking, the seclusion with a man, thetraveling
of the woman by herself, her showing off her beauty. These are means
that lead to fallinginto fornication. Allah hasnot allowed them, he
hasprohibited them.
If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place.
If there is leniency in these means then fornication will take place,
because the desires are present. Desires are present between men and
women. If they sat together and mixed then fornication is
close.Shaytaanis present, if a man secluded himself with a woman,
thenshaytaanis the third one amongst them.
They say you have bad thoughts and that you are pessimists. We are not
pessimists, this is the reality. This is the reality and if these
means that Allah has prohibited are violated, then fornicationwill
occur, no doubt.
Even the righteous man, the religious one, there isa danger upon him
from the woman. Especially if she was beautiful and he secluded
himself with heror traveled with her or she joined him at work. Or if
she sat with him in the classroom, or in an exam, or in meetings. Or
if she sat with him on thetelevision, or on the radio, as his
colleague, i.e. a presenter next to him, and she is beautified and he
is a youth. Far is Allah from allimperfections. Do you bring petrol
next to fire? Petrol is by itself and the fire is by itself. You bring
her next to him! This is like that; no it is worse than petrol and
fire.
Desires… we seek refuge with Allah, desires are strong. So for this
reason Allah (the Exalted, Most High), has placed barriersthat prevent
falling in to fornication. If they are preserved, fornication is
lessened or cut-off. If they are lost, then fornication will occur
without a doubt. No matter what, even if theyare religious or modest,
the children of Adam are not saved from fornication except by the
means that prevent it.

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Birds That Deactivate Poison: Macaws

When a person is infected with poison, his only recourse is to take a
drug to counter the effects of the poison or to remove the poison from
his body through medical intervention. Otherwise, a person who lacks
specialized knowledge about poisons will be unable to cure himself
through using a plant or some other kind of counteractive substance.

Yet, some creatures innately have this knowledge that most people must
learn through education. Certain animals, which do not possess minds
to be educated, any intelligence and, in short, any consciousness at
all, can cure themselves very easily. The striking feature about the
methods animals use to cure themselves is that they know what to do
very well and have determined what is good for each particular
illness. Is it reallythe animals themselves who have determined these
things? How have animals come to possess such knowledge? Evolutionists
claim that most animal behavior such as this is instinctive. However,
they cannot explain the origin of these behaviors or how they
originally came to exist.

First of all, it is not possible for creatures to learn these
behaviors over time. An animal that is poisoned, for example, will die
right away. In this case, it is not possible for it to imagine how it
might remove the factor that caused it to be poisoned. Besides, we
should by no means forget that animals lack the consciousness capable
of thinking up such a solution.

Let us see, by giving an example, how animals display conscious
behavior while curing themselves. Macaws, which are akind of parrot,
are found in the tropical regions of Central and South America. One of
the most striking feature of these creatures, besides their truly
dazzling colors, is that they feed on poisonous seeds. These birds,who
can break even very tough shells with their hooked beaks, are experts
on the subject of poisonous seeds. This is a somewhat surprising
situation because, when the bird eats a poisonous seed, normally it
should suffer harm. Yet, amazingly, this does not happen. Immediately
after the bird eats the poisonous seeds, itflies directly towards a
rocky place and begins to gnaw and swallow the clayey rock pieces
there. The reason for this behavior is that the clayey rock pieces
absorb the toxins in the seeds, and so neutralize the effects of the
poison. In this way, the birds can digest the seeds without
experiencing any harm.

It is certainly impossible for macaws to know on their own how to
neutralize or counteract the poison found in the seeds they eat. It is
evident that such conscious behaviors in creatures do not originate
from themselves, and that their origin cannot be sought in some other
force or factor that exists in nature either. An invisible power
controls the behavior of all creatures and, in other words, inspires
them with what to do. This matchless power belongs to Allah. Allah,
Who is the ownerof a superior knowledge, is the Preserver of all
things.

WHY IS METAMORPHOSIS NOT EVIDENCE OF EVOLUTION?

SOME creatures undergo physicalchanges to allow them to survive and
adapt to different natural conditions at different times. This process
is known as metamorphosis. People with insufficient knowledge of
biology and evolutionist claims also sometimes try to portray the
process as evidence for the theory of evolution. Those sources which
cite metamorphosis as "an example of evolution" are superficial,
narrow-based works of propaganda which seek to mislead those who do
not possess sufficient information on the subject, juvenile
evolutionists, or a few ignorant Darwinist biology teachers.
Scientists who are considered experts on evolution, and who thus know
more about the dilemmas and contradictions inherent in the theory,
hesitate to even refer to this ridiculous claim. That is because they
knowhow senseless it is…
Some creatures that undergo metamorphosis: the frog, the butterfly,
the bee, the mosquito.Butterflies, flies, and bees are some of the
best-known creatures that undergo metamorphosis. Frogs, which start
life in water and then live on land, are another example. This has
nothing to do with evolution, because the theory tries to account for
the differentiation between living things in terms of chance
mutations. Metamorphosis, however, bears no similarity at all to that
claim, being a pre-planned process which has nothing to do with
mutation or chance. It is not chance that brings metamorphosis about,
but genetic data which are built-in in the creature from the moment it
is born. The frog, for example, possesses the genetic information to
allow it to live onland while it is still living underwater. Even
while still a larva, the mosquito possesses the genetic information
regarding its pupa and adult states. The same thing applies to all
creatures that undergo metamorphosis.
Metamorphosis is evidence for creationPeople who try to portray
metamorphosis as "evidence of evolution" know nothing about biology
and the theory of evolution. Metamorphosis is a "planned change"
encoded inside genetic information, and bears no similarity to
evolution, which means "coincidental change." Metamorphosis is an
example of "irreducible complexity," and is evidence that disproves
evolution.
Recent scientific research into metamorphosis has shown that it is a
complex process controlled by different genes. As regards the
metamorphosis of the frog, for instance, the relevant processes in the
tail alone are controlled by more than a dozen genes. This means that
this process comes about thanks to several components working
together. This is a biological process that bears thefeature of
"irreducible complexity," which shows that metamorphosis is proof of
creation.
Prof. Michael Behe"Irreducible complexity" is a concept that has been
given its place in the scientific literature by Professor Michael
Behe, a biochemist who is known for his research proving the
invalidity of the theory of evolution. What it means is that complex
organs and systems function by the working together of all the
component parts that make them up, and that if even the smallest part
ceases to function,so will the whole organ or system. It is impossible
for such complex structures to have emerged by chance, with tiny
changes over time, as the theoryof evolution maintains. That is what
happens in metamorphosis. The process of metamorphosis happens through
exceedingly sensitive balances and timings in hormones which are in
turn affected by different genes. The creature will pay for even the
tiniest error with its life. It is impossible to believe that such
acomplex process could have come about by chance and by stages. Since
even a tiny error will cost the animal its life, it is impossible to
speak in terms of a "trial and error mechanism," or natural selection,
as evolutionists maintain. No creature can hang around for millions of
years waiting for its missing components to come about by chance.
Bearing this fact in mind, it is also apparent that the subject
constitutes no evidence at all forevolution, as some people who are
ill-informed about metamorphosis assume it to do.On the contrary, when
the complexity of the process and the systems that control it are
taken into consideration, animals which undergo metamorphosis can be
seen to be clear evidence for creation.