Why Are We So Divided?

WHY ARE WE SO DIVIDED?
... Because of Shirk, innovations and leaving the Sunnah
All Praise is for Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) Lord of all the
creation and May His peace and Blessings be upon is last Prophet
Muhammad (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) and upon the Prophet's
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) family and upon the companions and on
all those who follow the path of guidance until the last day.
We saw in last weeks issue that without doubt the Muslim Ummah is in
adivided and fragmented state and that this division is prohibited in
Islaam. Rather Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has enjoined upon us to
hold onto the rope of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala), which we
established is the Qur'aanand the Sunnah as understood by the
Companions. But how didwe reach this state in the first place, what
causes disunity?
Shirk - Associating partners in worship with Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala)
Without doubt one of themajor causes for people splitting up the
religion and leaving holding on to the rope of Allaah (subhaanahu wa
ta'aala) is shirk. This is the grave sin of ascribing partners with
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) in worship. Today throughout the world
there are numerous examples of shirk amongst the Ummah, such as those
who call upon the dead in the grave. Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala)
says:
"And invoke not besides Allaah anything that will neither profit you
nor hurt you, but if (in case) you did so, you shall certainly be one
of the Dhalimoon (polytheists and wrong-doers)." [Surah Yoonus 10:106]
Verily Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has created us to worshipHim
alone, as He (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
"And I (Allaah) created not the jinn and mankindexcept that they
should worship Me (Alone)." [Surah adh-Dhaariyaat 51:56]
So the one who gives worship to other than Allaah (subhaanahu wa
ta'aala) has he not committed the most severe sin. Allaah (subhaanahu
wa ta'aala) says:
"Verily! Allaah forgives not (the sin of) setting uppartners (in
worship) with Him, but He forgiveswhom He wills sins other than that."
[Surah an-Nisaa 4:116]
It is reported that Ibn Masood (radhi-Allaahu 'anhu) asked the
Prophet(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam):
"Which is the Greatest sin?" The Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa
sallam) said: "That you set up a rival for Allaah, While He is the one
who created you." [Bukhaaree]
O noble reader it will not be hidden from you that throughout the
world Muslims are stooped in such practices of calling upon the dead
saint in the grave, asking him to remove their difficulty whether it
be Abdul Qaadir al Jeelanee or al Badawee or other peoplewho's graves
have been made places of worship. How can unity be achieved amongst
the Muslims when some Muslims cannot unify their worship for Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala) alone? O noble reader consider the following,
how many Muslims:
Wear Amulets and charms, despite the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa
sallam) saying:
"Whoever wears an amulet has committed shirk." [Ahmad]
Read astrology in magazines or go to fortune tellers, despite the
Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) saying:
"Whoever goes to a fortune-teller and asks him something and believes
in his words, willhave his prayers rejected for forty days." [Muslim]
So while all these non-Islaamic beliefs and practices are present
amongst the Muslims how can unity take place? Is not our first
obligation to give da'wah to those Muslims who are stooped in
thesepractices? Thereby callingto tawheed as all 124,000Prophets from
Aadam (alayhi-salam) to the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)
did. They all began their call to the people with Tawheed -
worshipping Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) alone.
Having incorrect beliefs
Another major reason fordisunity is the wide range of beliefs
prevalent amongst the Muslims. Despite us having the same Qur'aan and
the same Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), Muslims still
havedifferent beliefs. Why is this? If we all are referring back to
the Qur'aan and the Sunnah in every matter then whythe differences.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
"(And) if you differ in anything amongst yourselves, refer it to
Allaah and His Messenger (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), if you
believe in Allaah and in the Last Day. That is better and more
suitable for final determination." [Surah an-Nisaa 4:59]
So verily O noble reader, imagine if every Muslim acted upon this ayah
- would there be any differences then? NO , except maybe in the issues
of fiqh, such as the prayer. But our beliefs and methodology would be
one, so why is this notthe case? It is because many Muslims today do
not refer every issue backto Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) and His
Messenger (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), ratherthey ask their local
Imaam or their parents or refer it back to their madhab.
Know O noble reader thatthe first thing that all the Prophets called
to was the rectification of the beliefs, before calling to the
Islaamic state or to Jihaad, the first thing was purifying the beliefs
of the Muslim. So how can we have unity while there are Muslims who
believe:
That Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) is everywhere, despite Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala) saying:
"They fear their Lord Who is above them, and they do what they are
commanded." [Surah an-Nahl 16:50]
That the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) was not human and was
made from light,despite Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) saying:
"Say (O Muhammad sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam): 'I am only a human
being like you. It is revealed to me that your Ilaah (God worthy of
being worshipped) is One Ilaah (God)." [Surah Fussilat 41:6]
That the saying of an Imaam should be acted upon over the hadeeth,
despite Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) saying:
"And let those who oppose the Messenger's (Muhammad sal-Allaahu
'alayhe wa sallam) commandment (i.e. his Sunnah) beware, lest some
Fitnah (trials i.e. shirk) should befall them or a painful torment be
inflicted on them." [Surah an-Noor 24:63]
That Imaan does not increase or decrease, despite the Prophet
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) saying:
"Imaan has seventy odd or sixty odd branches. The most virtuous of
them is the statement, 'There is none worthy of worship except
Allaah', and the slightest of them is to remove something harmful from
the road. And hayaa is a branch of Imaan." [Bukhaaree and Muslim]
Bid'ah - Innovations in the religion
Another cause for disunity and not holding fast to the rope of Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala) is the occurrence of innovations in this
Ummah.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has informed us in the Qur'aan that He
has completed this religion of Islaam for us as He (subhaanahu wa
ta'aala) says:
"This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favour
upon you, and have chosen for you Islaam as your religion." [Surah
al-Maa'idah, 5:3]
Since the religion is complete how can it be that we need to add
newthings and ways of worship to Islaam? Whatever was not part ofthe
religion at the time of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)
cannot be accepted as a part of the religion now. The Prophet
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) has warned us against adding new
things to thereligion when he (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
"Whoever Innovates in this affair of ours that which is not from it
will have it rejected." [Muslim]
The people who propose unity at all costs have a saying that 'An
innovation that unites us is better than a Sunnah which divides'.
SubhanAllaah look at such a statement O noble reader, innovations are
grave and serious and a cause for entering the fire as he (sal-Allaahu
'alayhe wa sallam) said:
"... and every innovation is misguidance and all misguidance is in the
Hellfire." [Reported by an-Nasaa'ee (1/224)]
So if someone said to youlook there is a fire over there, lets all
hold hands and unify and then go in to it, you would think they were
crazy! So how can we come together upon something as dangerous as
innovations, such as the innovations of mystics, who practice all
kinds of weird and innovated invocations, which at times involve
switching off the lights or chanting one of Allaah's name so that
after some time what they are chanting isunrecognizable as a name of
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala).Or the innovations of those who take
their scholars as 'spiritual leaders' giving their allegiance to them
and 'selling' themselves to these 'scholars' obeying everything they
say. How O noble reader can unity occur amongst all the Muslims as
long as these practices, which have nothing to do with Islaam, keep
occurring?
Blind following and Partisanship
This is one of the most evil of occurrences today and a major cause
for disunity. Muslims are following their madhahab or their scholars
over and above the Sunnah of the Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa
sallam) despite Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) saying:
"And whosoever opposesthe Messenger (Muhammad sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa
sallam) after the right path has been shown clearly to him, andfollows
other than the believers' way, We shall keep him in the path he has
chosen, and burn himin Hell - what an evil destination!" [Surah
an-Nisaa 4:115]
When you tell Muslims that 'you should do this because it says so in
the Qur'aan and the Sunnah',they reply 'well that's notwhat it says in
my madhab' or 'that's not what my Shaykh says'. SubhanAllaah, O noble
reader why did Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) send us His final
Messenger (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) if it was not to teach us
the religion of Islaam.
Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
"But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O
Muhammad sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) judge in all disputes between
them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and
accept (them) with full submission." [Surah an-Nisaa 4:65]
No Muslim will openly sayI am disobeying the Prophet (sal-Allaahu
'alayhe wa sallam), but how many of us ask for the proof on issues of
beliefs and practices and look to see what is the truth.
Another problem is the setting up of groups and parties with members,
then being loyal only to that party, believing in the beliefs and aims
of that party - not questioning it. Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has
warned against this:
"And be not of Al-Mushrikoon (polytheists). Of those who split their
religion, and became sects, each group rejoicing in that which is with
it." [Surah ar-Room 30:31-32]
Setting up groups is a cause for disunity and spreads hatred amongst
the Muslims so that a Muslim from one group will not give salaam to a
Muslim from another group just because they belong to different
groups. Or a group from one masjid will not like Muslims from another
masjid to come and pray in their mosque. All this stems from
partisanship and it divides the Ummah. Unity will not occur whilst
Muslims are in this state rather unity will occur when an end isput to
partisanship (hizbiyyah) and Muslims love each other because they are
all have the same aims, beliefs and practices.
The Means for Revival
Having looked at the reason why we are so divided, the question now
arises as to what themeans for reviving this Ummah are. Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has given us the means for the revival of this
Ummah, when He (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
"Verily! Allaah will not change the condition of a people until they
change what is within themselves." [Surah ar-Ra'd 13:11]
The Prophet (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) also said:
"When you involve yourselves in interest bearing business
transactions, and you hold on to the tails of cows, and you are
pleased with agriculture (i.e. the land) and you abandon making Jihaad
in the Cause of Allaah, Allaah will send humiliation down upon you. He
will not remove itfrom you until you returnback to your Religion."
[Abu Dawood and al-Bayhaqee]
So this humiliation that Muslims are under will not be removed from us
until we return back to the religion of Islaam. So what is the
religion of Islaam if not Tawheed, having the correct Aqeedah,
worshipping Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) correctly? So should we not
start our revival with these issues.
So just as the condition of the Arabs during the Days of Ignorance
(Jaahiliyyah) was not rectified except by the coming of their Prophet
Muhammad (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) with revelation from the
heavens, which aided them in this world and which will save them in
the next, then know O noble reader the foundation that the Islaamic
revival must be built upon in this time, is nothing else but the
return to the Qur'aan andthe Sunnah, as implemented by the noble
companions.
We know from the Book of Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) and the Sunnah
of His Messenger (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) that the way towards
realising this revival is only one way, and it is the way which Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala) has mentioned inHis (subhaanahu wa ta'aala)
saying:
"And verily, this is My Straight Path, so follow it, and follow not
(other) paths, for they will separate you away from His Path." [Surah
al-An'aam 6:153]
The Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) explained this
to his Companions. Thus, one day he (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)
drew a straight line for them on the ground and then drew short lines
on the sides of it. Then, while his(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)
noble finger moved up and down the straight line, he (sal-Allaahu
'alayhe wa sallam) recited the aforementioned verse. Then he
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) pointed to the lines that were drawn
on the sides of the straight line and said:
"This is the Path of Allaah and these are the (other) paths. At the
top of each of these (other) ways, there is a devil calling towards
it." [Authentic hadeeth, graded in Dhilaal-ul-Jannah fee Takhreej-is
Sunnah(16-17)]
Furthermore, Allaah (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
"And whosoever opposesthe Messenger (Muhammad sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa
sallam) after the right path has been shown clearly to him, andfollows
other than the believers' way, We shall keep him in the path he has
chosen, and burn himin Hell - what an evil destination!" [Surah
an-Nisaa 4:115]
In this ayah there is profound and extensive wisdom, for Allaah
(subhaanahu wa ta'aala),has connected the "the believers' way" to what
the Messenger (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) came with. The Messenger
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) has (also) indicated this pointin the
hadeeth about the splitting up of the Ummah into sects. When he
(sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) was asked concerning the saved sect,
he (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) responded: "That which (adheres to
what) I and my companions are upontoday."
What then is the wisdom behind Allaah's mentioning of "the believers'
way" in this ayah? And what is the significance in the Messenger of
Allaah's (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) linking of his companions to
himself in the previous hadeeth?
The answer is: These noble Companions (radhi-Allaahu 'anhum) were the
ones who received the two revelations (i.e. the Qur'aan and Sunnah)
from the Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), having
that explained to them by him (sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)
directly, without there being any intermediary. They best knew how to
implement the Sunnah, so after knowing this O noble reader can any
Islaamic revival take place when the way of the Companions
(radhi-Allaahu 'anhum) is abandoned and not adhered to, rather No it
can not. For us to revive Islaam and bring unity to the Muslims we
must adopt the way and example of the Noble Companions (radhi-Allaahu
'anhum).
Imaam Maalik (rahima-hullaah) said:
"The latter part of this Ummah will not be rectified except by that
which rectified its formerpart." [ash-Shifaa of Qaadee 'Iyyaadh,
(2/676)]
So it will be clear to the reader that the only way to revive the
Ummah is toreturn every affair of the Muslim back to the Qur'aan and
the Sunnah as understood and implemented by the best generation, the
Companions (radhi-Allaahu 'anhum). To believe as they believed, to
worship as they worshipped, to look like them, to give da'wah in the
way they gave it. Then only will we be united and have a true Islaamic
revival.
So dear noble brothers and sisters your Lord (subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says....
"Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be
affected by Allaah's Reminder (this Qur'aan), and that which has been
revealed of the truth." [Surah al-Hadeed 57:16]

Free Hidayah

Bismillahir-Rahma-nir-Raheem
"The true believers are those who believe in Allah and His Messenger
and, afterward, doubt not, but strive with their wealth and their
lives for the cause of Allah. Such are the sincere."
We call ourselves believers--Muslims. Our parents are Muslims, our
grandparents are Muslims, our ancestorsembraced Islam, the adhan was
called out in our ears, we believe in Allah, but is that what really
makes us Muslims? The word"Islam" means to submit; submission to the
will of Allah, as the above ayah summarizes. A Muslim is one who
submits to Allah in His obedience. A true Muslim is one who submits
fully to Allah in obeying Him and striving for His pleasure in all
circumstances, situations, misfortunes, or good times during one's
journey through life. A Muslim is not one who has a Muslim name or one
who was born intoIslam or one who simple recited shahadah.
"It is not righteousnessto turn your faces to the east or the west,
but righteous is he who believes in Allah and the Last Day and the
angels and the books and the messengers; who spend of their wealth for
love of Him to the kinsfolk and the orphans and the needyand the
wayfarer and for those who ask and who free slaves; who observe proper
worship and pay the poor due (zakah/charity) and fulfill promises when
they make one and who are patient in times of tribulation and
adversity and times of stress. Such are the sincere. Such are the
God-fearing." (Suratul Baqarah 2:177)
We, who accepted Islam as our faith, havereceived free hidayah, free
iman, free belief, the right to follow our religion the way it
wasprescribed to us by Allah, without any interruptions or hindrances
by anyone or anything. We live in what they call a "free country."
Then why is it so hard for us to live by Islam? Why is it so hard for
us to worship Allah? Why is it so hardfor us to obey Him when we have
full knowledge of the Truth? Full knowledge of the consequences? The
truth is that Islam is not a hard religion, but we make it hard for
ourselves.
"Allah desires for you, ease. He desires not hardship for you."
(Suratul Baqarah 2:185)
The main aim of a Muslim is to attain Paradise. And we can only attain
Paradise byobeying the Creator, the Almighty, through the words of the
Holy Qur'an and the Sunnah of His final Messenger, Muhammad
(sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam). Without obedience to Allah and His
Messenger, without Allah's pleasure, we will be what Allah callslosers
on the Day of Judgement.
"Who make mischief on the earth: those are they who are the losers."
(Suratul Baqarah 2:27)
"Nay, but whosoever has done evil and his sins surround him, such are
rightful owners of the fire. They will abide therein." (Suratul
Baqarah 2:81)
We are coming to a very sad day, a day thatthe Prophet (sallallahu
alaiyhi wa sallam) warned us would come when the world would come to
an end. He said, "It will be the end of this world whenthere remains
not a single soul to hymn thename of Allah and it is only by the holy
name of Allah that the system of this universeis running." Though,
there are some devout Muslims, who spend every moment of their lives
in Allah's remembrance and worship and in striving for His pleasure,
there are more of us who have forgotten Allah, the Almighty,
All-Powerful.
Unlike a lot of Muslims,we have been given the freedom of religionin
this non-Muslim country. Canada, for example, is also a non-Muslim
country, but in that country Muslims don't have thefreedom that we
have here, in America. In Canada, Muslim girls get kicked out of
school for wearing hijab, a scarf on their head! Of course, that is
discrimination and it's also totally unfair. One piece of cloth, for
somereason, offends the Canadians. Another example is the country of
Turkey. Even though Turkey is known to be a Muslim country, it also
does not allow Muslim women to wear hijab. In America,though this is a
Satanist country, it is different. We see doctors in hijab and
managers praying in their officers and no non-Muslim can stop them.
Though this is quite unusual because most of us have forgotten our
main purpose of existence.
The Sahaba (radiyallahu anhu) endured such unimaginable hardships by
the non-Muslims just to follow Islam and live Islam and teach Islam,
but they never even had one thought of renouncing Islam so that they
could be freed of the physical torments, for they knew the torments of
Allah were far worse.
Every Muslim probably knows of one of the most closest companions of
the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam), a black Abyssinian slave
called Bilal (radiyallahu anhu). He was the slave of Ummayah bin
Khalaf, the worst enemy of Islam. Therefore, Bilal'sconversion was
naturally not liked by Ummayah. This staunch enemy of Islam used to
make Bilal lie down on the burning sand of Makkah, one of the cities
of the hottest countries in the world, during midday. A massive rock
would beplaced on his chest andhe would be told by the enemies of
Allah:"Renounce Islam! Or swelter and die!" Even under these harsh
afflictions, Bilal endured the pain by saying, "Ahad! Ahad!" (i.e. The
One (Allah)! The One (Allah)!) Imagine that! This made the torturers
even more motivated and provoked to torture the servant of Allah. At
night, Bilal (radiyallahu anhu) would be whipped andwith the cuts thus
receive from the whipping, lying on the burning sand of Makkah was
even more painful, but his love and devotion to Allah was such that no
amount of pain could shake his faith. And, Alhumdulillah, he was
rewarded for his patience by receiving the blessing of, not only being
freed, but as being the first and only adhan caller for the Prophet
(sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam). He was to remain with the Prophet
(sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallam) at all times to call out the adhan.
Life is obviously not perfect. We will definitely stumble across times
of stress and panic, fear and disappointment, trials and hardships.
And these come in to our lives by the will of Allah to test our faith
and our devotion.
"We shall most certainly try you with fear and hunger and with the
loss of goods or lives or the fruits of your toil. But give (O
Muhammad) encouragement to those who patiently persevere." (Suratul
Baqarah 2:155)
Difficulties and hardships are not uncommon in this world to the
people of Allah. These are bound to come. The Prophet (sallallahu
alaiyhi wa sallam) said, "The worst trials in this world are reserved
for the Prophet (alaiyhimus-salam), then for those who are next to
them and then for those who are best of the rest." We must remember
that everything happens by the will of Allah, whether good or bad and
everything has a purpose, a reason, an aim, though we may not
understand it. We, as Allah's servants, must stay patient and firm in
our belief, our iman, and we must devote ourselves to Allah, so that
we may be successful.
"Who say when a misfortune strikes them: Lo! We are Allah's and lo!
Unto Him we are returning."(Suratul Baqarah 2:156)
"Or do you think you will enter the Garden without such trials as came
to those who passed away before you? They encounteredsuffering and
adversityand were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and
those who were with him cried: When will the help of Allah come?"
(Suratul Baqarah 2:214)
Our biggest trial is living in this country, a country filled with
arrogant, satanically-influenced non-Muslims. They strive to take the
believers off the path of Paradise and on to the path of Hell, which
is where they are headed.
"Hatred is revealed by the utterance of their mouths, but that
whichtheir breasts hide is greater. We have madeplain for you the
revelations, if you will understand." (Suratul Ali Imran 3:18)
"They utter with their mouths a thing which is not in their hearts.
Allah is Best Aware of what they hide." (Suratul Ali Imran 3:167)
But we keep supporting the disbelievers at the costof our own
religion, at the cost of our own souls! Allah's words are:
"Those who purchase disbelief at the price offaith, harm not Allah
atall, but their's will be a painful doom." (Suratul Ali Imran 3:177)
On the one hand, we must realize our mistakes and the fact that,
living in this country, we have falleninto the trap of Shaytaan, the
modern, un-Islamic world. We must make the effort to strengthen our
imanand we must make the effort to please Allah, not the kuffar. If we
displease Allah, whatever punishmentswe receive, either in this world
or the next, is exactly what we deserve. On the other hand, we must
realize that even though we are living in a non-Muslim country, there
is nothing to stop us from practicingIslam, the deen of Allah. We must
refrain from all things that areforbidden by Allah and undesirable in
His sight. Allah loves thosewho after committing sins, turns to Him in
repentance and amends, meaning, theydon't commit the samesins again.
We should remember our examples, the Prophet (sallallahu alaiyhi wa
sallam) and his companions (radiyallahu anhu), on how to live our
lives astrue Muslims. And we have to realize that there is a God
watching over our every move, Who hearsour every thought, Who knows
ALL that we do, whether hiddenor open, intentional or unintentional,
sinful orrewardful. He is the Supreme Being and none is worthy of
worship except Him, the True, the Almighty, the Owner, as well as the
Creator of all that isin the heavens and all that is in the earth.
Allah gives us proof of His sovereignty through miraculous signs all
over the world. For example, in Germany, there is an area in which
brancheshave grown from the soil of the earth and these branches spell
out: 'There is no god, but Allah' in Arabic and, through it, many
Germans have embraced Islam, but we shouldn't need these signs to
persuade us to keep our duty to Allah, to obey Him, which is the only
way we will be successful in the next world, which is yet to come.
May Allah give us towfique to sacrifice our worldly desires for His
pleasure so that wemay be successful. May He include us among the
muttaqeen. May Heguide us and show us the Straight Path and may He
protect us fromthe evil influences of the jinn and mankind. May Allah
guard us from the fire prepared for the hypocrites and disbelievers.
Ameen. Alhumdulillahi Rabbil Alameen.

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Her husband treats her kindly but he does not give her her shar‘i right to intimacy; what should she do?.

Im married 4 years ago and we have two children. We have a nice
marriage with no fighting and Islaam comes first.
But I feel that everything comes from my side, I lurn my children
everything, also Islaam, my husband is always working, may Allaah
bless him for taking care of us.
But now for 3 years he do't wanna be intimate with me, only 2 times
maby and then I was pregnant.
Because of my 2 pregnancys I became weight and that's why hesaid and
he sheated on me , I forgave him, and we had after a much better
marriage but without intimacy, I always have to help him with oral sex
but I really need also intimacy, I allready lost a lot of weight , I
always makes myself beautiful for him, Iknow I'm beautiful, I do
everything for Allaah andfor him and for my children, he says there is
no better or beautiful wife than me, but he dont touch me, I tried
everything. He say that it is not me but he is tyred from job. My
feelings start also to become less, he had a long beard, now it is so
short, I always talk about Islaam with him, he say that he is so proud
of me. But he hurted me so much times trough are marriage, we also
still dont live together and it's killing me. It 's so long story,
ghair insha Allaah.
I want love and intimacy, i wanna feel beautiful and loved and ...He
is a good man, like he is sweet and calme and give me everythinh what
I need, but the most important I don't have with him
What must I do, and do you have an advice for him?
If I have to give you moreinformation, I will do that.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
There is no doubt that what you mention is verydifficult for a young
woman. A woman may be able to do without herhusband spending on heror
providing her with accommodation, clothingor other material needs. She
may be able to do without all of that, by spending from her own wealth
or her family's wealth or whatever… Butshe has no way to maintain her
chastity andfulfil her physical desire except her husband, or by means
that Allah has forbidden – Allah forbid that she should think of that
or be tested in that way.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked
about a man who stayed away from his wife for a month or two months
and did not have intercourse with her; wasthere any sin on him or not?
Could the husband be asked to do that?
He replied:
The husband is obliged to have intercourse with his wife on a
reasonable basis, which is one of the most important rights that she
has over him; it is more important than feeding her. It was said that
what is obligatory with regard to intercourse is once every four
months, or according to her need and his ability, just as he should
feed her according to her need and his ability. And the latter is the
more correct opinion.
Majmoo' al-Fataawa, 32/271
Muslim narrated in his Saheeh (1006) from Abu Dharr (may Allah be
pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: "…the intimacy of one of you (with his wife)
is a charity." They said: O Messenger of Allaah, if one of us fulfils
his desire, will he be rewarded for that? He said: "Do you not see
thatif he did it in a haraam manner, there would be a burden of sin on
him for that? Similarly, if he does it in a halaal manner, he will be
rewarded for it."
In that case, what the wise husband must do is take care of his wife
in that regard and give it priority over everything else, so that he
may keep her chaste, conceal her and meet her needs as much as he can,
even if he does not have an urgent need for that and even if he had to
do it only for her, for the sake of meeting his wife's needs. In that
there will be reward for both of them, in sha Allah, and a means of
help so that they attain spiritual and worldly wellbeing.
Secondly:
There is no doubt that what you mentioned about your husband's
situation and that havinggone on for a long time without him
satisfying your needs but doing his duty towards you, is something odd
and needs to be dealt with.
If the matter is as you say, that you have not fallen short in your
dutiestowards your husband ofadorning yourself for him, endearing
yourself to him and being prepared to meet your husband's needs, then
we think that you, along with your husband, should look at two things:
1. Make sure that there is no medical problem that is preventing
your husband from doing that,whether it is a psychological problem,
asoften happens, or a physical problem. We think that the possibility
of this is not very strong, because of what you mentioned about your
husband doing that with you, even if it is not frequent, and even his
falling into that which is haraam, even though he is married to you!
2. Make sure that you close all avenues to your husband fulfilling
his desire, except with his wife. It is natural that if your husband
has got used to other ways that are haraam, such as masturbation, or
immoralrelationships – Allah forbid – or ways that are permissible,
such as fulfilling his desire with his wife without having
intercourse, then it is natural that this will weaken his desire to
have intercourse with hiswife. If he has got used to these ways,
perhaps that means is that he is able to do without his wife
altogether, no matter how beautiful sheis or what she does for him.
In that case, we advise you to give up all ways that may lead to that.
What you mention about oral sex is one of the causes of the problem
and is not a solution to it.So fulfil your husband's needs in all
permissible ways and adorn yourself for him, and ensure that
fulfilling desires is done by means of
some shared action that will fulfil the rights of both parties and
allow each to fulfil the duties that Allah has enjoined towards the
other.
That also involves makingsure that your husband does not repeat the
haraam action that he admitted to you and that he has repented from
that action. Try to keep him away from that as much as possible, even
if that is by changing the environment and the place where you live,
if you are able to do that.
If you do that and make the effort, but your husband does not change,
and he continuesto fail to fulfil your rights and keep you chaste by
means of that which Allah has permitted, there is no doubt that
thesuffering in that case is something that carries weight in
sharee'ah. So ifyou cannot put up with your husband any more and you
fear that you may fall into haraam or think of it, then you can ask
for separation from your husband. Perhaps if he sees that the matter
is serious, he will mend his ways, and if he goes ahead and divorces
you, perhaps Allah will replacehim with someone who is better than him
and grant you someone who will keep you chaste. Allah, may He be
exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"But if they separate (by divorce), Allah will provide abundance for
everyone of them from His Bounty. And Allah is Ever All-Sufficient for
His creatures need, All-Wise."
[an-Nisa' 4:130].
But as you know, this should be the last resort.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Causing harm to the wife by not having intercourse is grounds for
annulment in all cases, whether the husband did that intentionally or
otherwise, and whether he was able to do it or not; it is like
maintenance, and even more important. End quote.
Al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 5/481-482
We ask Allah to set thingsstraight between you and your husband, and
to endear him to you andyou to him, and to