True stories - Desperate in love

Hi, I am here today to share with you my story, Ihave been searching
for love since I was a kid, I am now 29 years and I was not good in
relationship, I am now onmy bed writing to you and crying, feeling
defeated and angry, wishi can do something to hurt the one i loved
just to make him feel what i feel now.
I met this guy last year, and he touched my heart very deeply. I was
afraid to go on with him because i do not want to be hurt again.
He kept telling me that i wont regret my life with him, we had so much
fun and truly loved each other, we had the best year together. He was
afraid to leave him, because he kept telling me how much he loves me.
One day he told me that he had a chance to leave the country for a job
and he will be away for a long time, he told me to wait for him,
because he loves me and he will never love anyone but me.
We said goodbye i told him that i love him and illbe waiting for him
to getmarried and to live happily ever after.
after one month he changed, he send me a pic of him on viber and i was
shocked that also sent it to another girl sheused to work with him. I
have asked him y he sent it, he told me by mistake in that time i felt
that he is cheating on me and all the promises he made to me was a big
lie, we had a fight, we did not contact for almost 12 days, I sent him
and told him if this is a break up, he text me back and told me that
he wants to be alone and wants to focus more in his new work and we
can be just friends, when i got this i was angry and sad, i do not
know what to do, I still in shock i wish i can chim again and tell him
how much i really love him and i can forget the old days we have
spend.
I wish him back because ineed him so much.
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Who has more right to her son – her or her husband whom she suspects of witchcraft? What are the signs of thepractitioner of witchcraft?

My son is nearly 11 years old. He has become very aggressive; he does
not respect me and shouts atme. Sometimes even he uses his hands
without any justifications, after his father gave him a computer as a
gift. His father deals by sihr, I do not know if he is sahir himself
or not, Allah alone knows. He wants to take my son from me (as we are
divorced).
How can I protect my son and myself? What can I do so that my son
returns to how he was before? How can I know the reality of his
father? In the case that I make sure he is a sahir and wants to harm
me and my son, am I permitted to not let him see our son if he wanted
to?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Islam enjoins parents to take care of their children and raise them
well. Children will grow up on what they hear, read and see in their
home, on the streets andin school, and whatever faults happen in their
upbringing are because of faults in one or all of these aspects.
What has happened with your son, of his badattitude towards you, may
because of what he has seen and heard at home of the problems between
you and your husband, which led to divorce, or it may be because of
the influence of what he has seen and read on the computer, or it may
be the result ofwitchcraft done against him by his father in order to
take him from you. Any of these things is possible, or it may be all
of these reasons combined that has lead to this bad behaviour of your
son towards you.
Whatever the case, you have to set things straight by looking for the
causes that have led to these problems, so that you can deal with the
matter by dealing with the cause. If it is because of your problems
with his father, then you must make him understand the reality of the
situation and what happened [?} between you, in a way that is
appropriate to his age and level of understanding. If the cause is
what he hears, watches and sees on the computer then you must keep an
eye on whatever he is looking at, and it is essential to teach him to
make good use of the computer. If he does not respond, then you can
forbid him to use it altogether. If the cause is his father doing
witchcraft on him,then you can start to remedy it by using
shar'iruqyahs from the Qur'aan and saheeh dhikrs of the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him). There is no reason why you
shouldn't take him to someone whose religious commitment you trust, to
treat him in the shar'i manner for such cases.
Secondly:
You can find out whether his father is really doing sihr (witchcraft)
by finding out how he treats othersor what he really says to those who
visit him and consult him.
Some of the scholars have mentioned the signs of the saahir
(practitioner of witchcraft) by means of which anyone can discern the
saahir from those who are good andrighteous. These signs are:
1. He asks the sick person for his mother's name, and some
personal possession of the one for whom treatment is sought, such as
his hair or clothing.
2. He mumbles words that have no meaning and that the listener
cannot understand. The muttering may be calls to the jinn or devils to
come and serve him.
3. Another sign is that the saahir does not attend Jumu'ah prayer
or the five daily prayers in the mosque.
4. He is dishevelled and smells bad, and he likes being in the
dark and on his own.
5. He gives the sick person an amulet ("hijab") containing some
mumbo-jumbo, squares or numbers.
To find out the truth, he should have all or some of the
characteristics. Thus you will know the truth about him. It should be
noted that you may be exaggerating in suspecting him of witchcraft.
You have to be fair in judging him, and fear Allaah before making
accusations and claims of which he is innocent.
But so long as you have separated from him, we do not think that you
should concern yourself too much with your ex-husband and whether he
is a saahir ornot; rather what you should do is focus on how to
protect yourself and your son, and how to fulfil your duty of raising
this boy.
Thirdly:
With regard to custody of the child, it is known that the purpose of
custody is to protect andtake care of the child. Hence a person's
right tocustody is waived if he isimmoral or corrupt, or if he
neglects him, or if he travels a great deal, which would harm the
child's interests.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him):
It should be noted that there is no text which gives precedence to
either parent in general terms, or chooses one of the parents in all
cases. The scholars are unanimously agreed that neither of them is
specified in all cases, rather when there is transgression of the
limits or neglect, precedence is not to be given to the one who will
be like that (i.e., the parent who will transgress the limits or be
neglectful) over the one who is just and good and will do what
isrequired.
Majmoo' al-Fataawa (34/132).
It should be noted that the period of custody extends until the child
reaches the age of discernment and independence, i.e., custody lasts
until the child is able to discern and is independent of his guardian,
in the sense that he can eat and drink by himself, and clean himself
after going to the toilet by himself, and so on.
As he has reached the age of 11, he should be given the choice of
living with his father or with you, so long as the choice is made by
him freely, without any pressure or compulsion, and so long as the
reason for his choice is not that he will never betold to pray or obey
Allaah, or to do anythingthat is in his religious or worldly
interests, because his choice in this case would be harmful to him.
Many children care only about choosing the one who will spoil them the
most or give them the toys and games that they want, so in that case
he should not be allowed tohave what he wants.
If it is proven that his father is engaging in witchcraft, then it is
not permissible for him to take his son, rather he should be withheld
fromhim until he repents sincerely to Allaah.
If it is not proven that the father is engaging inwitchcraft, then the
parents should cooperate in raising their son, and pay attention to
what is in his best interests, so thattheir conflict will not be a
cause of the children failing and being lost.
See also the answers to questions no. 8189 and 20705 and 21516 .
We ask Allaah to set all your affairs straight and to guide your son
to thatwhich our Lord loves and is pleased with, and to set his father
straight and protect his religious commitment.
And Allaah knows best.

She went to a fortunate teller to find out who the thief was and he accused her brother

A box was stolen from my sister and her husband and children in which
there was a lot of money. My sister's husband was broken-hearted and
the people told him about a Shaykh who was said to be able to relieve
distress and find lost items by Allaah'sLeave. He (that Shaykh) asked
about me, with a cigarette in his hand, and he said to me: I saw you
last night, your name is So and so, and you are the thief. This is my
work and my source of income, and I will get 25 percent of the stolen
goods. Tell me and admitthat you are the only thief that everyone is
looking for. There was a lengthy discussion between me and him, and I
swore by Allaah that I was innocent of what he said, and Allaah is
witness to what I said. Please advise me, may Allaah reward you,
please relieve me of the wrong and claims that are surrounding me. I
am afraid of turmoil among my relatives because injustice leads to a
lot of bas consequences.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The one who claims to know where stolen things are and who the thieves
are by means of secret things that the people do not know is one of
two things: a fortune-teller to whom the devils come, or a liar who
makes the people think that he knows these things in order to consume
their wealth unlawfully.
Whatever the case, it is not permissible to go to these people and to
ask them or believe them, no matter how righteous they may appear to
be, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "Whoever goes to a fortune-teller and asks him about something,
his prayers will not accepted for forty days." Narrated by Muslim
(2230).
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever has
intercourse with a menstruating woman or with a woman in her back
passage, or goes to a fortune-teller and believes what he says, has
disbelieved in that which Allaah revealed toMuhammad (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him)." Narrated by Ahmad (9779), Abu
Dawood (3904), al-Tirmidhi (135) and IbnMaajah (936); classed as
saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah.
Al-Baghawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:The fortune-teller is
the one who claims to have knowledge of things by means of some
information from which he figures out where stolen things are or where
lost items are etc. Quoted in al-Zawaajir 'an Iqtiraaf al-Kabaa'ir
(2/178)
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The
fortune-teller: it was said that he is the soothsayer, who is the one
who foretells the future.
And it was said that it is a general term referring to soothsayers,
astrologers, geomancers and their ilk who claim to have knowledge of
the unseen by means of some knowledge and information that they use.
This is a more general meaning which is indicated by the derivation of
the word, as (the Arabic word) 'arraaf (meaning fortune-teller) is
derivedfrom the word ma'rifah (knowledge) so it applies to everyone
whodeals in these matters and claims to have knowledge of them. End
quote from al-Qawl al-Mufeed 'ala Kitaab al-Tawheed (2/48).
One of those who have repented from fortune-telling and soothsaying
said that he used to seekthe help of the jinn in order to find out
from them details of what was going on in the house of the one whose
property was stolen, andhis situation with his relatives and
neighbours, and his friends and enemies, and sometimes he wouldblame
someone who was under suspicion.
Even if we assume that the fortune-teller is able to point to the real
thief and bring the property back by means of his contact with the
jinn, it is not permissible to go to him and ask him anything, because
of theahaadeeth quoted above.
Secondly:
Some scholars are of the view that the one who claims to have
knowledge of stolen items or that the jinn tellhim about that is a
kaafir. Ibn Nujaym (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, discussing the
things that constitute kufr: Going to a soothsayer and believing him
when he says 'I know where stolen items are' or 'I speak on the basis
of what the jinn tell me'. End quote from al-Bahr al-Raa'iq (5/130).
As for his saying 'I speak on thebasis of what the jinn tell me' being
kufr, that is because the jinn, like humans, have no knowledge of the
unseen, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Then when We decreeddeath for him [Sulaymaan (Solomon)], nothing
informed them (jinn) of his death excepta little worm of the earth
which kept (slowly) gnawing away at his stick. So when he fell down,
the jinn saw clearly that if they had known the Unseen, they would not
have stayed in the humiliating torment"
[Saba' 34:14]
This was stated in the commentary on al-Bahr al-Raa'iq.
So asking a fortune-teller or soothsayer about anything is haraam, and
that includes asking him about lost or stolen items, or asking him
about a disease and the remedy for it.
The scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas were asked:
Sometimes we lose some money or goldin our house, and we believe that
it has been stolen, so we go to someone who is known as a mukhbir
('the one with the news'), and tell him about that, and he promises us
something good, and sometimes wefind the lost item, and sometimes we
don't. What is the ruling on ourgoing to these people?
They replied: It is not permissible for you to goto him because he is
a soothsayer, and it was narrated in a saheeh report that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade going to
soothsayers and their ilk,and asking them and believing them. End
quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah (1/410).
Thirdly:
The one who has gone to this fortune-teller andasked him something has
to repent to Allaah, may He be exalted, by regretting what he has
done, resolving not to do it again, and not accusing anyone of
stealing on the basis words of the fortune-teller and his helpers
among the jinn, becausethe jinn tell lies, and they may accuse someone
who is innocent so as to cause trouble among the Muslims. Repentance
in this case is required from the one who went to the fortune-teller
and asked him, and of the one who told him to do that, because both
have fallen into sin. Please seequestion no. 32863 for information on
repenting from asking and believing fortune-tellers.
The Muslim should turn to Allaah and ask Him to solve problems and
difficulties, for all things are in His Hand, may He be glorified, as
He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Is not He (better than your gods) Who responds to the distressed one,
when he calls on Him, and Who removes the evil, and makes you
inheritors of the earth, generations after generations? Is there any
ilâh (god) withAllaah? Little is that you remember!"
[al-Naml 27:62]
And Allaah knows best.
This applies to your sister and her husband, and also applies to you.
You should turn to Allaahand ask Him to relieve you of this accusation
and wrong.
We advise your sister and her husband, and anyone who has anything to
do with this matter, not to accuse anyone on the basis of the words of
a charlatan or fortune-teller, because accusing someone who is
innocent is a serious matter. The basic principle is that he is
innocent and free of guilt. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: "Whoever says of a believer something that is not
true, Allaah will cause him to dwell in themud of khabaal until he
stops saying that." Narrated by Abu Dawood 5129 from Ibn 'Umar (may
Allaah be pleased with him); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
Abi Dawood.
Mud of khabaal refers to mud and mire and what comes from the sweat
ofthe people of Hell.
May Allaah help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.
And Allaah knows best.

Waswaas (Satanic Whispers) About the Evil Eye

If a person admires something and mentionsAllaah, can he harm it by
the evil eye?
If someone is uncertain about that and this is causing a lot of
problems in his social life, and he is afraid to look at things and
people, knowing that hedoes not envy people (hasad) for the things
that they have, and he does not want to harm anyone, by Allaah, and he
reads Qur'aan and remembers Allaah all thetime.
I hope that you can help to relieve this distress from your Muslim
brother. May Allaah reward you with good.
Praise be to Allaah.
I ask Allaah to relieve your distress and take away your sorrow.
It should be noted that Islam does not bring anyhardship. Rather one
of the most important aims of sharee'ah (Islamic law)is to relieve
people of hardship.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Allaah does not want toplace you in difficulty"
[5:6]
It is not permissible for aMuslim to listen to the shaytaan and let
him fill his life with doubts, waswaas and paranoia, for if he does
that he will lose out in this world and will not gain anything in the
Hereafter. Such whispers(waswaas) are merely tricks of the accursed
Shaytaan who wants to cause grief for those who believe. And Allaah is
the best of protectors and the most merciful of those who show mercy.
What you must do is put a stop to all these whispers, and not pay any
attention to bad thoughts. It is sufficient for you to say the dhikr
(words of remembrance)that is prescribed in sharee'ah when you see
something good, and Allaah will protect it against the evil eye and
destructive envy (hasad).Remembrance of Allaah (dhikr) and the evil
eye or envy cannot coexist.
It was narrated from AbuUmaamah ibn Sahl ibn Haneef that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Why don't you
invoke blessings, for the evil eye is real."
Narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta'; classed as saheeh (authentic) by
al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah.
Al-Zarqaani said in Sharhal-Muwatta' (4/320): i.e., why don't you say,
Baarak Allaahu feek (May Allaah bless you), and that would cancel out
what is feared of theevil eye and take away its effects. End quote.
It was narrated from 'Abd-Allaah ibn 'Aamir ibn Rabee'ah from his
father (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "If one of you sees
in himself or his brother something that he likes, let him pray for
blessings, for the evil eyeis real."
Narrated by al-Haakim inal-Mustadrak. He said: This is a hadeeth whose
isnaad (chain of narrators) is saheeh, although they (al-Bukhaari and
Muslim)did not narrate it with any mention of invokingblessing. And
al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh al-Jaami.
It says in al-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah (13/31).
This indicates that the evil eye cannot cause any harm if the one
whomay harm with the evil eye invokes blessings. What is prescribed
for everyone who admires something is to invoke blessings, for if he
prays for blessings, the harm must inevitably be diverted. Invoking
blessings means to say: Tabaarak Allaah ahsan al-khaaliqeen,
Allaahummah baarik fihi(Blessed be Allaah the best of creators, O
Allaah bless it).
Al-Nawawi said: It is mustahabb (desirable) for the one who may harm
with the evil eye topray the blessing for the one who may be harmedand
say Allaahumma baarik wa laa tadurrahu (O Allaah bless and do not harm
him) and Ma sha Allaah laa quwwata illa Billaah (As Allaah wills,
there is no power except with Allaah). End quote.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said in Fath al-Baari (10/205):
The one who admires something should hasten to pray that the thing he
admires be blessed, and that will be a ruqyah (incantation) on his
part. End quote.
In Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah (1/547) it says:
The remedy for the one who may cause harm with the evil eye when he
sees something he admires is to remember Allaah and invoke blessing.
End quote.
Shaykh al-Fawzan said inal-Muntaqa (1/question no. 87):
If the one who may cause harm with the evil eye fears that he may harm
the thing he is looking at, then he should say: Allaahumma baarik
'alayhi (O Allaah, bless it). Similarly it is mustahabb for him to
say: Ma sha Allaah laa quwwata illa Billaah (As Allaah wills, there is
no power except with Allaah), because it was narrated from Hishaam ibn
'Urwah from his father that when he sawa thing that he liked or he
entered one of his gardens, he would say: Ma sha Allaah laa quwwata
illa Billaah (As Allaah wills, there is no power except with Allaah).
If the one who may cause harm with the evil eye always says this
dhikr, then he will ward off its harm, in sha Allaah.
It says in Fataawa al-Shaykh 'Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr (5):
The Muslim should not let doubts, illusions, suspicion and excessive
fear of the evil eye overwhelm him so much that he becomes afflicted
with psychological illness and the like. He should think positively of
Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, and understand that whatever
befalls him only happens by thewill of Allaah, may He be blessed and
exalted. So let him turn to Allaah, because He alone is able to ward
off harm and relieve distress. End quote.
If you see something that you like, then pray to Allaah for blessing,
and do not pay attentionto anything else. Allaah will protect it
because ofyour du'aa' (supplication), and will ward off all harm from
it. Do not let yourself keep on fearing it, for Allaah does not want
that for His slaves. Also keep striving to make yourself see the will
of Allaah in all things, for He has great wisdom in what He gives and
withholds, lowers and raises, and there is none to put back His
Judgement (cf. 13:41) and none can change HisWords (cf. 6:115).
Always remember – O slave of Allaah – that thisworld and everything in
it is too insignificant for people to envy one another and transgress
against one another for its sake, as al-Mutanabbi said:
What hearts desire is tooinsignificant for people to transgress
against one another or destroy one another in pursuit of it.
This is also indicated in the words of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him): "Why would one of you kill his
brother?" Narrated by Imam Maalik and Ahmad and others.
And Allaah knows best.

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