I'm trying to find the answer to this question and it's really hard
for me, believe me!
I truly love my husband with whom we've been married for 8 years, the
first 3 of which we spent living separately in different countries.
Now we are already together. In the beginning everything was perfect
and I even feared sharingthis with others because people say "it's too
good to last".
So, I've noticed recently that when we are in a company with
handsomemen my husband is constantly around me and he is very kind and
affectionate to me. I find this normal and I'm quite pleased with it.
I considerthis the right attitude to a wife. I like showing my
feelings towards him in front of people and I'm very happy when they
notice it. The problem is that when we are in a company with
attractive women he changes abruptly – he stops touching me at all,
even keeps a distance, or if I show in some way or another that he is
my beloved husband he is unpleasantly surprised and stands as if
frozen, while his attitude to the other women is more than friendly.
There have been cases when he has spoken to a woman for about 10-15
minutes and haven't even looked at me meanwhile. (to say nothing of
including me in the conversation!). Sometimes I hesitated on leaving
the place in orderto see if he will notice myabsence. I think this
will probably last at least an hour or until he sees some handsome guy
around.
Whenever he meets a woman he will greet her with a hug, in which I
find nothing bad, but after that he will study her from head to toe
while talking to her. Another issue is that when a woman calls him on
the phone he becomes so enthusiastic that you may think this is the
happiest day in his life. However when I call him he gets so awfully
indifferent. And this happens when I'm tellinghim his favorite team
haswon an important game.
After this description of the situation (not mentioning many other
similar cases and the bad thing is unpleasant memories get more and
more) I'm asking you to help me see if I'm too jealous.
I will appreciate this a lotbecause right now I'm onthe verge of a divorce.
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Khawaja Qutabud-Din Bakhtiar Kaki (R.A) - Sufism Biographies
One of the most distinguished sufi in the Chishtia Order, he was the
chief of Chishti saintsin Delhi. He was born in Ush then an important
commercial town. Qutabud Din was an infant when his fateh Kamalud Din
Ahmad Musa died, and his noblemother became totally responsible for
the upbringing of her orphan son. Learning half the Quran by heart
under Aba Hafs, he committed be memory the remaining 15 parts after he
had settled in Delhi. As he grew in years. Qutabud Din Bakhtiar became
increasingly devoted to Ibadaat and meditation. His mother arranged
his marriage, left for Baghdad where he become murid of Hazrat Khawaja
Moinud Din Chishti. After his pir's departure from Baghdad, Qutabuddin
Bakhtiar also left the place, traveled throught was patron saint of
Multan with whom Qutabuddin Bakhtiar had cordial relations. During
Qutab Sahib's stay in Multan, the city was designed by the Mongol
hordes. Nashiruddin Qabacha then rule of Multan sought Khawaja
Qutabuddin's help against the enemy. Giving him an arrow, theKhawaja
told him to shoot the arrow blindly into the enemy's camp. Qabacha
obeyed, and the following day the Mongol army retreated. He did not
accede to Qabacha's request for hispermanent stay in Multan and
sometime after 1221 C.E., Khawaja Qutubuddin left Multan for Dehli.
Khawaja Qutabpromoted and established the Chishtia silsila with zeal,
energy and endeavour in Delhi and its surrounding areas where eminent
ulema and prestigious divines had settled after migration front the
areas devastated by the Mongols.
Sultan Shamsuddin Altitmush offered high office of Shaikhal Islam to
Khawaja Qutabuddin, which he refused to accept. On his recommendation
Najmuddin Sughra was given the post of Shailhul Islam. After some time
Najmuddin became jealous of Khawaja Sahibs' popularity among the
masses and used the latter's practice of gaining spiritual ecstasy
through samaa as a pretext to incite the Capital's Ulema against
Khawaja Qutab. KhawajaMoinuddin Chishti got scent of Jajmuddin
mischief and rushed to Dehli to investigate into the confrontation,
Najamuddin Sughra did not call on Khawaja Moinuddin as was
traditional. Khawaja Moinuddin as was traditional. Khawaja Moinuddin
called at Najmuddin's house and upbraided him for this rudeness and
misdemeanor. He asked Khawaja Qutab besides hundreds of common people
were so upset at the Qutab departure from Delhi that the was followed,
and the dust on the road where he had passed was collected by rumeous
devotees as a relic. Khawaja Moinuddin wasso moved at such a
spontaneous love and high respect for his murid that the urged him to
return back to Delhi.
The murids were constantly advised by Qutab Sahib to devote energies
for social welfare works and assistthe needy in a selfless way. Once
Baba Fariduddin sought his advice regarding the writing of amulets
(Taweez) for people's benefit. The Qutab replied that the fulfillment
of desires belonged to no-one; the Taweez inscribed with Allah's
Attributes could be written and given to the soliciting persons.
The Shamsi Hauz in Delhi, surviving to this day, is a monumental relic
of Khawaja Qutab's sanctity and super natural power. Potable water was
in short supply in the newly founded capital which was a matte of
great concern to the Sultan. The Holy Prophet (S.A.W) appeared in
dream to both the Khawaja and the Sultan indicating a particular spot
upon which was imprinted thehoop-mark of the Prophet's horse seen in
the dream. A tank was dug up at that site and lo the water gushed out
from underground source. It was named as Hauz-I-Shamsi. Khawaja became
known as 'Kaki' as he lived on miraculously received breads alone. The
demise fo Hadrat Qutab Kaki was an event of great significance to the
Sufis. The Khawaja graced with his presencethe Mehfil-I-Samaa at eh
Khnaqah of Shaikh Ali Sijzi. When the Qawwal recited the following
verse, the Khawaja was seized with ecstasy;
"The martyrs of the dagger of tasleem (surrender to Allah's will)
Each moment get a new life form the Unseen World."
He was rushed home in state of trance. Regaining consciousness, the
Khawaja desired the verse to be repeated each time he regained
consciousness which always occurred at the time of obligatory prayers.
He then lapsed back into an ecstatic state. On the fifth night, 14
Rabiul Awwal 633 A.H.(27th Novemeber 1235 C.E.) he departed to his
heavenly abode. He lies buried in Mehroli (near the Qutab Minar), a
suburb of present day Delhi.
chief of Chishti saintsin Delhi. He was born in Ush then an important
commercial town. Qutabud Din was an infant when his fateh Kamalud Din
Ahmad Musa died, and his noblemother became totally responsible for
the upbringing of her orphan son. Learning half the Quran by heart
under Aba Hafs, he committed be memory the remaining 15 parts after he
had settled in Delhi. As he grew in years. Qutabud Din Bakhtiar became
increasingly devoted to Ibadaat and meditation. His mother arranged
his marriage, left for Baghdad where he become murid of Hazrat Khawaja
Moinud Din Chishti. After his pir's departure from Baghdad, Qutabuddin
Bakhtiar also left the place, traveled throught was patron saint of
Multan with whom Qutabuddin Bakhtiar had cordial relations. During
Qutab Sahib's stay in Multan, the city was designed by the Mongol
hordes. Nashiruddin Qabacha then rule of Multan sought Khawaja
Qutabuddin's help against the enemy. Giving him an arrow, theKhawaja
told him to shoot the arrow blindly into the enemy's camp. Qabacha
obeyed, and the following day the Mongol army retreated. He did not
accede to Qabacha's request for hispermanent stay in Multan and
sometime after 1221 C.E., Khawaja Qutubuddin left Multan for Dehli.
Khawaja Qutabpromoted and established the Chishtia silsila with zeal,
energy and endeavour in Delhi and its surrounding areas where eminent
ulema and prestigious divines had settled after migration front the
areas devastated by the Mongols.
Sultan Shamsuddin Altitmush offered high office of Shaikhal Islam to
Khawaja Qutabuddin, which he refused to accept. On his recommendation
Najmuddin Sughra was given the post of Shailhul Islam. After some time
Najmuddin became jealous of Khawaja Sahibs' popularity among the
masses and used the latter's practice of gaining spiritual ecstasy
through samaa as a pretext to incite the Capital's Ulema against
Khawaja Qutab. KhawajaMoinuddin Chishti got scent of Jajmuddin
mischief and rushed to Dehli to investigate into the confrontation,
Najamuddin Sughra did not call on Khawaja Moinuddin as was
traditional. Khawaja Moinuddin as was traditional. Khawaja Moinuddin
called at Najmuddin's house and upbraided him for this rudeness and
misdemeanor. He asked Khawaja Qutab besides hundreds of common people
were so upset at the Qutab departure from Delhi that the was followed,
and the dust on the road where he had passed was collected by rumeous
devotees as a relic. Khawaja Moinuddin wasso moved at such a
spontaneous love and high respect for his murid that the urged him to
return back to Delhi.
The murids were constantly advised by Qutab Sahib to devote energies
for social welfare works and assistthe needy in a selfless way. Once
Baba Fariduddin sought his advice regarding the writing of amulets
(Taweez) for people's benefit. The Qutab replied that the fulfillment
of desires belonged to no-one; the Taweez inscribed with Allah's
Attributes could be written and given to the soliciting persons.
The Shamsi Hauz in Delhi, surviving to this day, is a monumental relic
of Khawaja Qutab's sanctity and super natural power. Potable water was
in short supply in the newly founded capital which was a matte of
great concern to the Sultan. The Holy Prophet (S.A.W) appeared in
dream to both the Khawaja and the Sultan indicating a particular spot
upon which was imprinted thehoop-mark of the Prophet's horse seen in
the dream. A tank was dug up at that site and lo the water gushed out
from underground source. It was named as Hauz-I-Shamsi. Khawaja became
known as 'Kaki' as he lived on miraculously received breads alone. The
demise fo Hadrat Qutab Kaki was an event of great significance to the
Sufis. The Khawaja graced with his presencethe Mehfil-I-Samaa at eh
Khnaqah of Shaikh Ali Sijzi. When the Qawwal recited the following
verse, the Khawaja was seized with ecstasy;
"The martyrs of the dagger of tasleem (surrender to Allah's will)
Each moment get a new life form the Unseen World."
He was rushed home in state of trance. Regaining consciousness, the
Khawaja desired the verse to be repeated each time he regained
consciousness which always occurred at the time of obligatory prayers.
He then lapsed back into an ecstatic state. On the fifth night, 14
Rabiul Awwal 633 A.H.(27th Novemeber 1235 C.E.) he departed to his
heavenly abode. He lies buried in Mehroli (near the Qutab Minar), a
suburb of present day Delhi.
Ikrimah ibn Abi Jahl - Biographies of the Companions (Sahabah)
He was at the end of the third decade of his life on the day the
Prophet made public his call to guidance and truth. He was held in
high regard by the Quraysh, being wealthy and of noble lineage. Some
others like him, Saud ibn Abi Waqqas, Musab ibn Umayr and other sons
of noble families in Makkah had become Muslims. He too might have
followed their example were it not for his father. His father,
AbuJahl, was the foremost proponent of Shirk and one of the greatest
tyrants of Makkah. Through torture, he sorely tested the faith of the
early believers but they remained steadfast. He used every stratagem
to make them waver but they continued to affirm the truth.
Ikrimah found himself defendingthe leadership and authority of his
father as he pitted himself against the Prophet. His animosity towards
the Prophet, his persecution of his followers and his attempts to
block the progress of Islam and the Muslims won the admiration of his
father.
At Badr, Abu Jahl led the Makkan polytheists in the battle against the
Muslims. He swore by al-Laatand al-Uzza that he would not return to
Makkah unless he crushed Muhammad. At Badr he sacrificed three camels
to these goddesses. He drank wine and had the music of singing girls
to spur the Quraysh on to fight.
Abu Jahl was among the first to fall in the battle. His son Ikrimahsaw
him as spears pierced his body and heard him let out his last cry of
agony. Ikrimah returned to Makkah leaving behind the corpse of the
Quraysh chieftain, his father. He wanted to bury him in Makkah but the
crushing defeat they suffered made this impossible.
From that day, the fire of hatred burned even more fiercely in the
heart of Ikrimah. Others whose fathers were killed at Badr, also
became more hostile to Muhammad and his followers. This eventually led
to the Battle of Uhud.
At Uhud Ikrimah was accompanied by his wife, Umm Hakim. She and other
women stood behind the battle lines beating their drums, urging the
Quraysh on to battle and upbraiding any horseman who felt inclined to
flee.
Leading the right flank of the Quraysh was Khalid ibn Walid. On the
left was Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. The Quraysh inflicted heavy losses on
the Muslims and felt that they had avenged themselves for the defeat
at Badr. This was not, however, theend of the state of conflict.
At the battle of the Ditch, the Quraysh mushrikun besieged Madinah. It
was a long siege. The resources and the patience of the mushrikun were
wearing out. Ikrimah, feeling the strain of the siege, saw a place
where the ditch, dug by the Muslims, was relatively narrow. With a
gigantic effort, he managed to cross. A small group of Quraysh
followed him. It was a foolhardyundertaking. One of them was
immediately killed and it was only by turning on his heels that
Ikrimah managed to save himself.
Nine years after his hijrah, the Prophet returned with thousands of
his companions to Makkah. The Quraysh saw them approaching and decided
to leave the way open for them because they knew that the Prophet had
given instructions to his commanders not to open hostilities. Ikrimah
and some others however went against the consensus of the Quraysh and
attempted to block the progress of the Muslim forces. Khalid ibn
al-Walid, now a Muslim, met and defeated them in a small engagement
during which some of Ikrimah's men were killed and others who could
fled. Among those who escaped was Ikrimah himself.
Any standing or influence that Ikrimah may have had was now completely
destroyed. The Prophet, peace be upon him, entered Makkah and gave a
general pardon and amnesty to all Quraysh who entered the sacred
mosque, or who stayed in their houses or who went to the house of Abu
Sufyan, the paramount Quraysh leader. However he refused to grant
amnesty to a few individuals whom he named. He gave ordersthat they
should be killed even ifthey were found under the covering of the
Kabah. At the top of this list was Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. When Ikrimah
learnt ofthis, he slipped out of Makkah in disguise and headed for the
Yemen.
Umm Hakim, Ikrimah's wife, then went to the camp of the Prophet. With
her was Hind bint Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyan and the mother of
Muawiyah, and about ten other women who wanted to pledge allegiance to
the Prophet. At the camp, were two of his wives, hisdaughter Fatimah
and some women of the Abdulmuttalib clan. Hind was the one who spoke.
She was veiled and ashamed of what she had done to Hamzah, the
Prophet's uncle, at the battle of Uhud.
"O Messenger of God," she said,"Praise be to God Who has mademanifest
the religion He has chosen for Himself. I beseech you out of the bonds
of kinship to treat me well. I am now a believing woman who affirms
the Truth of your mission." She then unveiled herself and said:
"I am Hind, the daughter of Utbah, O Messenger of God. "
"Welcome to you," replied the Prophet, peace be on him.
"By God, O Prophet" continued Hind, "there was not a house on earth
that I wanted to destroy more than your house. Now, there is no house
on earth that Iso dearly wish to honor and raise in glory than yours."
Umm Hakim then got up and professed her faith in Islam and said: "O
Messenger of God, Ikrimah has fled from you to theYemen out of fear
that you would kill him. Grant him security and God will grant you
security."
"He is secure," promised the Prophet. Umm Hakim set out immediately in
search of Ikrimah. Accompanying her was a Greek slave. When they had
gone quite far on the way, he tried to seduce her but she managed to
put him off until she came to a settlement of Arabs. She sought their
help against him. They tied him up and kept him. Umm Hakim continued
on her way until she finally found Ikrimah on the coast of the Red Sea
in the region of Tihamah. He was negotiating transport with a Muslim
seaman who was saying to him:
"Be pure and sincere and I will transport you."
"How can I be pure?" asked Ikrimah.
"Say, I testify that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is
the Messenger of Allah."
"I have fled from this very thing," said Ikrimah.
At this point, Umm Haklm came up to Ikrimah and said:
"O cousin, I have come to you from the most generous of men,the most
righteous of men, the best of men... from Muhammad ibn Abdullah. I
have asked him for an amnesty for you. This he has granted. So do not
destroy yourself. "
"Have you spoken to him?"
"Yes, I have spoken to him and he has granted you amnesty," she
assured him and he returned with her. She told him about the attempt
of their Greekslave to dishonor her and Ikrimah went directly to the
Arab settlement where he lay bound and killed him.
At one of their resting places on their way back, Ikrimah wanted to
sleep with his wife but she vehemently refused and said:
"I am a Muslimah and you are a Mushrik."
Ikrimah was totally taken aback and said, "Living without you and
without your sleeping with me is an impossible situation." As Ikrimah
approached Makkah, the Prophet, peace be upon him,told his companions:
"Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl shall come to you asa believer and a muhajir (a
refugee). Do not insult his father. Insulting the dead causesgrief to
the living and does not reach the dead."
Ikrimah and his wife came up to where the Prophet was sitting. The
Prophet got up and greeted him enthusiastically.
"Muhammad," said Ikrimah,"Umm Hakim has told me that you have granted
me an amnesty."
"That's right," said the Prophet,"You are safe."
"To what do you invite?" asked Ikrimah.
"I invite you to testify that there is no god but Allah and that I
amthe servant of Allah and His messenger, to establish Prayer and pay
the Zakat and carry out all the other obligations of Islam."
"By God," responded Ikrimah,"You have only called to what is true and
you have only commanded that which is good.You lived among us before
the start of your mission and then you were the most trustworthy of us
in speech and the most righteous of us." Stretching forth his hands he
said, "I testifythat there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is
His servant and His messenger." TheProphet then instructed him to say,
"I call on God and those present here to witness that I am a Muslim
who is a Mujahid and a Muhajir". This Ikrimah repeated and then said:
"I ask you to ask God for forgiveness for me for all the hostility I
directed against you and for whatever insults I expressed in your
presence or absence." The Prophet replied with the prayer:
"O Lord, forgive him for all the hostility he directed against me and
from all the expeditions he mounted wishing to put out Your light.
Forgive him for whatever he has said or done in my presence or absence
to dishonor me."
Ikrimahs face beamed with happiness.
"By God, O messenger of Allah, I promise that whatever I have spent
obstructing the way of God, I shall spend twice as muchin His path and
whatever battles I have fought against God's way I shall fight twice
as much in His way."
From that day on, Ikrimah was committed to the mission of Islam as
brave horseman in the field of battle and as a steadfast worship per
who would spend much time in mosques rending the book of God. Often he
wouldplace the mushaf on his face andsay, "The Book of my Lord, the
words of my Lord" and he wouldcry from the fear of God.
Ikrimah remained true to his pledge to the Prophet. Whateverbattles
the Muslims engaged in thereafter, he participated in them and he was
always in the vanguard of the army. At the battle of Yarmuk he plunged
into the attack as a thirsty person after cold water on a blistering
hot day. In one encounter in which the Muslims were under heavy
attack, Ikrimah penetrated deep into the ranks of the Byzantine.
Khalid ibn al-Walid rushed up to him and said, "Don't, Ikrimah. Your
death will be a severe blowto the Muslims."
"Let us carry on, Khalid," said Ikrimah, now at the peak of
motivation. "You had the privilege of being with the Messenger of God
before this. Asfor myself and my father, we were among his bitterest
enemies. Leave me now to atonefor what I have done in the past.I
fought the Prophet on many occasions. Shall I now flee from the
Byzantines? This shall never be." Then calling out to the Muslims, he
shouted, "Who shallpledge to fight until death?"
Four hundred Muslims including al-Harith ibn Hisham and Ayyash ibn Abi
Rabiah responded to his call. They plunged into the battleand fought
heroically without the leadership of Khalid ibn al-Walid. Their daring
attack paved the way for a decisive Muslim victory.
When the battle was over, the bodies of three wounded mujahideen lay
sprawled on the battleground, among them Al-Harith ibn Hisham, Ayyash
ibn Abi Rabiah and Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. Al-Harith called for water
todrink. As it was brought to him, Ayyash looked at him and Harith
said:
"Give it to Ayyash." By the time they got to Ayyash, he had just
breathed his last. When they returned to al-Harith and Ikrimaha, they
found that they too had passed away.
The companions prayed that God may be pleased with them all and grant
them refreshment from the spring of Kawthar in Paradise, a refreshment
after which there is thirst no more.
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Prophet made public his call to guidance and truth. He was held in
high regard by the Quraysh, being wealthy and of noble lineage. Some
others like him, Saud ibn Abi Waqqas, Musab ibn Umayr and other sons
of noble families in Makkah had become Muslims. He too might have
followed their example were it not for his father. His father,
AbuJahl, was the foremost proponent of Shirk and one of the greatest
tyrants of Makkah. Through torture, he sorely tested the faith of the
early believers but they remained steadfast. He used every stratagem
to make them waver but they continued to affirm the truth.
Ikrimah found himself defendingthe leadership and authority of his
father as he pitted himself against the Prophet. His animosity towards
the Prophet, his persecution of his followers and his attempts to
block the progress of Islam and the Muslims won the admiration of his
father.
At Badr, Abu Jahl led the Makkan polytheists in the battle against the
Muslims. He swore by al-Laatand al-Uzza that he would not return to
Makkah unless he crushed Muhammad. At Badr he sacrificed three camels
to these goddesses. He drank wine and had the music of singing girls
to spur the Quraysh on to fight.
Abu Jahl was among the first to fall in the battle. His son Ikrimahsaw
him as spears pierced his body and heard him let out his last cry of
agony. Ikrimah returned to Makkah leaving behind the corpse of the
Quraysh chieftain, his father. He wanted to bury him in Makkah but the
crushing defeat they suffered made this impossible.
From that day, the fire of hatred burned even more fiercely in the
heart of Ikrimah. Others whose fathers were killed at Badr, also
became more hostile to Muhammad and his followers. This eventually led
to the Battle of Uhud.
At Uhud Ikrimah was accompanied by his wife, Umm Hakim. She and other
women stood behind the battle lines beating their drums, urging the
Quraysh on to battle and upbraiding any horseman who felt inclined to
flee.
Leading the right flank of the Quraysh was Khalid ibn Walid. On the
left was Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. The Quraysh inflicted heavy losses on
the Muslims and felt that they had avenged themselves for the defeat
at Badr. This was not, however, theend of the state of conflict.
At the battle of the Ditch, the Quraysh mushrikun besieged Madinah. It
was a long siege. The resources and the patience of the mushrikun were
wearing out. Ikrimah, feeling the strain of the siege, saw a place
where the ditch, dug by the Muslims, was relatively narrow. With a
gigantic effort, he managed to cross. A small group of Quraysh
followed him. It was a foolhardyundertaking. One of them was
immediately killed and it was only by turning on his heels that
Ikrimah managed to save himself.
Nine years after his hijrah, the Prophet returned with thousands of
his companions to Makkah. The Quraysh saw them approaching and decided
to leave the way open for them because they knew that the Prophet had
given instructions to his commanders not to open hostilities. Ikrimah
and some others however went against the consensus of the Quraysh and
attempted to block the progress of the Muslim forces. Khalid ibn
al-Walid, now a Muslim, met and defeated them in a small engagement
during which some of Ikrimah's men were killed and others who could
fled. Among those who escaped was Ikrimah himself.
Any standing or influence that Ikrimah may have had was now completely
destroyed. The Prophet, peace be upon him, entered Makkah and gave a
general pardon and amnesty to all Quraysh who entered the sacred
mosque, or who stayed in their houses or who went to the house of Abu
Sufyan, the paramount Quraysh leader. However he refused to grant
amnesty to a few individuals whom he named. He gave ordersthat they
should be killed even ifthey were found under the covering of the
Kabah. At the top of this list was Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. When Ikrimah
learnt ofthis, he slipped out of Makkah in disguise and headed for the
Yemen.
Umm Hakim, Ikrimah's wife, then went to the camp of the Prophet. With
her was Hind bint Utbah, the wife of Abu Sufyan and the mother of
Muawiyah, and about ten other women who wanted to pledge allegiance to
the Prophet. At the camp, were two of his wives, hisdaughter Fatimah
and some women of the Abdulmuttalib clan. Hind was the one who spoke.
She was veiled and ashamed of what she had done to Hamzah, the
Prophet's uncle, at the battle of Uhud.
"O Messenger of God," she said,"Praise be to God Who has mademanifest
the religion He has chosen for Himself. I beseech you out of the bonds
of kinship to treat me well. I am now a believing woman who affirms
the Truth of your mission." She then unveiled herself and said:
"I am Hind, the daughter of Utbah, O Messenger of God. "
"Welcome to you," replied the Prophet, peace be on him.
"By God, O Prophet" continued Hind, "there was not a house on earth
that I wanted to destroy more than your house. Now, there is no house
on earth that Iso dearly wish to honor and raise in glory than yours."
Umm Hakim then got up and professed her faith in Islam and said: "O
Messenger of God, Ikrimah has fled from you to theYemen out of fear
that you would kill him. Grant him security and God will grant you
security."
"He is secure," promised the Prophet. Umm Hakim set out immediately in
search of Ikrimah. Accompanying her was a Greek slave. When they had
gone quite far on the way, he tried to seduce her but she managed to
put him off until she came to a settlement of Arabs. She sought their
help against him. They tied him up and kept him. Umm Hakim continued
on her way until she finally found Ikrimah on the coast of the Red Sea
in the region of Tihamah. He was negotiating transport with a Muslim
seaman who was saying to him:
"Be pure and sincere and I will transport you."
"How can I be pure?" asked Ikrimah.
"Say, I testify that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is
the Messenger of Allah."
"I have fled from this very thing," said Ikrimah.
At this point, Umm Haklm came up to Ikrimah and said:
"O cousin, I have come to you from the most generous of men,the most
righteous of men, the best of men... from Muhammad ibn Abdullah. I
have asked him for an amnesty for you. This he has granted. So do not
destroy yourself. "
"Have you spoken to him?"
"Yes, I have spoken to him and he has granted you amnesty," she
assured him and he returned with her. She told him about the attempt
of their Greekslave to dishonor her and Ikrimah went directly to the
Arab settlement where he lay bound and killed him.
At one of their resting places on their way back, Ikrimah wanted to
sleep with his wife but she vehemently refused and said:
"I am a Muslimah and you are a Mushrik."
Ikrimah was totally taken aback and said, "Living without you and
without your sleeping with me is an impossible situation." As Ikrimah
approached Makkah, the Prophet, peace be upon him,told his companions:
"Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl shall come to you asa believer and a muhajir (a
refugee). Do not insult his father. Insulting the dead causesgrief to
the living and does not reach the dead."
Ikrimah and his wife came up to where the Prophet was sitting. The
Prophet got up and greeted him enthusiastically.
"Muhammad," said Ikrimah,"Umm Hakim has told me that you have granted
me an amnesty."
"That's right," said the Prophet,"You are safe."
"To what do you invite?" asked Ikrimah.
"I invite you to testify that there is no god but Allah and that I
amthe servant of Allah and His messenger, to establish Prayer and pay
the Zakat and carry out all the other obligations of Islam."
"By God," responded Ikrimah,"You have only called to what is true and
you have only commanded that which is good.You lived among us before
the start of your mission and then you were the most trustworthy of us
in speech and the most righteous of us." Stretching forth his hands he
said, "I testifythat there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is
His servant and His messenger." TheProphet then instructed him to say,
"I call on God and those present here to witness that I am a Muslim
who is a Mujahid and a Muhajir". This Ikrimah repeated and then said:
"I ask you to ask God for forgiveness for me for all the hostility I
directed against you and for whatever insults I expressed in your
presence or absence." The Prophet replied with the prayer:
"O Lord, forgive him for all the hostility he directed against me and
from all the expeditions he mounted wishing to put out Your light.
Forgive him for whatever he has said or done in my presence or absence
to dishonor me."
Ikrimahs face beamed with happiness.
"By God, O messenger of Allah, I promise that whatever I have spent
obstructing the way of God, I shall spend twice as muchin His path and
whatever battles I have fought against God's way I shall fight twice
as much in His way."
From that day on, Ikrimah was committed to the mission of Islam as
brave horseman in the field of battle and as a steadfast worship per
who would spend much time in mosques rending the book of God. Often he
wouldplace the mushaf on his face andsay, "The Book of my Lord, the
words of my Lord" and he wouldcry from the fear of God.
Ikrimah remained true to his pledge to the Prophet. Whateverbattles
the Muslims engaged in thereafter, he participated in them and he was
always in the vanguard of the army. At the battle of Yarmuk he plunged
into the attack as a thirsty person after cold water on a blistering
hot day. In one encounter in which the Muslims were under heavy
attack, Ikrimah penetrated deep into the ranks of the Byzantine.
Khalid ibn al-Walid rushed up to him and said, "Don't, Ikrimah. Your
death will be a severe blowto the Muslims."
"Let us carry on, Khalid," said Ikrimah, now at the peak of
motivation. "You had the privilege of being with the Messenger of God
before this. Asfor myself and my father, we were among his bitterest
enemies. Leave me now to atonefor what I have done in the past.I
fought the Prophet on many occasions. Shall I now flee from the
Byzantines? This shall never be." Then calling out to the Muslims, he
shouted, "Who shallpledge to fight until death?"
Four hundred Muslims including al-Harith ibn Hisham and Ayyash ibn Abi
Rabiah responded to his call. They plunged into the battleand fought
heroically without the leadership of Khalid ibn al-Walid. Their daring
attack paved the way for a decisive Muslim victory.
When the battle was over, the bodies of three wounded mujahideen lay
sprawled on the battleground, among them Al-Harith ibn Hisham, Ayyash
ibn Abi Rabiah and Ikrimah ibn Abu Jahl. Al-Harith called for water
todrink. As it was brought to him, Ayyash looked at him and Harith
said:
"Give it to Ayyash." By the time they got to Ayyash, he had just
breathed his last. When they returned to al-Harith and Ikrimaha, they
found that they too had passed away.
The companions prayed that God may be pleased with them all and grant
them refreshment from the spring of Kawthar in Paradise, a refreshment
after which there is thirst no more.
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Is it permissible to give salaams to someone who is praying?
Is it permissible for a Muslim to give salaams to a Muslim when he is
praying or he is making dhikr or du'aa'?
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly, it is prescribed for a Muslim to initiate the greeting of
salaam to his Muslim brother when he is praying, but the one who is
praying should not return the salaams whilst praying, except by making
a gesture in a manner thatwill maintain the validityof his prayer,
because it was narrated that Ibn 'Umar (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said:
"I asked Bilaal, How did the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) return their salaam when they greeted him
whilst he was praying? He said, With a gesture of his hand."
(Narrated by Ahmad, 6/12; Abu Dawood, 1/569, no. 927; al-Tirmidhi,
2/204, no. 368; al-Bayhaqi, 2/262; also narrated by the five).
It was also narrated from him that Suhayb (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: "I passed by the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) whilst he waspraying. I greeted him with salaam
and he responded with a gesture." And he said: I am not sure whether
he said "a gesture with his fingers". (Narrated by the five, apart
from Ibn Maajah. Al-Tirmidhi said: both hadeeths are saheeh in my
view).
It was reported that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her)
said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
forbidding usto pray two rak'ahs after'Asr, then I saw him praying
them when he prayed 'Asr. She said, he entered and there were some
women from Bani Haraam, from among theAnsaar, with me. He started to
pray them [these two rak'ahs after 'Asr], so I sent a young girl to
him, and I told her, 'Stand beside him and say to him, Umm Salamah is
saying to you,O Messenger of Allaah, I heard you forbidding us to do
these two rak'ahs and now I see you praying them. If he makes a
gesture with hishand then leave him andgo back.' So the young girl did
that and he made a gesture with his hand, so she left him andwent
back. When he finished praying, he said: 'O daughter of Abu Umayyah,
you asked about the two rak'ahs after 'Asr. Some people from Banu 'Abd
al-Qays came to me and kept mefrom doing the two rak'ahs after Zuhr,
and that is what these were.'" (Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim).
These ahaadeeth indicate that it is prescribed to say salaams to a
person whilst he is praying, and that he should respond to the
greeting with a gesture, because this is what the Prophet (peaceand
blessings of Allaah be upon him) approved of initiating the salaam,
and he returned the greeting with a gesture only.
Secondly, it is prescribed for the Muslim to initiate the greeting to
one who is engaged in making dhikr or du'aa', because it was reported
that Abu Waaqid al-Laythi (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
"Whilst the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was
sitting in the mosque and there were some people with him, three
people came in. Two of them came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) and one went away. When they came up
to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him), they greeted him with salaam. One of them found a space in the
circle and sat down, and the other sat down behind him. The third one
turned and went away. When the Messenger (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) had finished (his talk), he said: 'Shall I tell
you about these three people? One of them turned to Allaah so Allaah
accepted him; the second felt shy so Allaah will feel shy (to punish
him); and the third turned away so Allaah turned away from him."
(Narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta', 2/960; Ahmad, 5/219; al-Bukhaari,
1/24, 122; Muslim, 4/1713, no. 2176; al-Tirmidhi, 5/73, no. 2724; Abu
Ya'laa, 3/33, no. 1445).
And in al-Saheehayn it is narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be
pleased with him) that a Bedouin entered the mosque and prayed, but he
did not do the rukoo' and sujood properly. Then he came and greeted
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with salaam.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) returned his
greeting then said, "Go back and pray, for you have not prayed."
And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah bless our Prophet
Muhammad and his family and companions, and grant them peace.
Al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah li'l-Buhooth al-'ilmiyyah wa'l-Iftaa', 7/36
praying or he is making dhikr or du'aa'?
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly, it is prescribed for a Muslim to initiate the greeting of
salaam to his Muslim brother when he is praying, but the one who is
praying should not return the salaams whilst praying, except by making
a gesture in a manner thatwill maintain the validityof his prayer,
because it was narrated that Ibn 'Umar (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said:
"I asked Bilaal, How did the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) return their salaam when they greeted him
whilst he was praying? He said, With a gesture of his hand."
(Narrated by Ahmad, 6/12; Abu Dawood, 1/569, no. 927; al-Tirmidhi,
2/204, no. 368; al-Bayhaqi, 2/262; also narrated by the five).
It was also narrated from him that Suhayb (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: "I passed by the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) whilst he waspraying. I greeted him with salaam
and he responded with a gesture." And he said: I am not sure whether
he said "a gesture with his fingers". (Narrated by the five, apart
from Ibn Maajah. Al-Tirmidhi said: both hadeeths are saheeh in my
view).
It was reported that Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her)
said: I heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
forbidding usto pray two rak'ahs after'Asr, then I saw him praying
them when he prayed 'Asr. She said, he entered and there were some
women from Bani Haraam, from among theAnsaar, with me. He started to
pray them [these two rak'ahs after 'Asr], so I sent a young girl to
him, and I told her, 'Stand beside him and say to him, Umm Salamah is
saying to you,O Messenger of Allaah, I heard you forbidding us to do
these two rak'ahs and now I see you praying them. If he makes a
gesture with hishand then leave him andgo back.' So the young girl did
that and he made a gesture with his hand, so she left him andwent
back. When he finished praying, he said: 'O daughter of Abu Umayyah,
you asked about the two rak'ahs after 'Asr. Some people from Banu 'Abd
al-Qays came to me and kept mefrom doing the two rak'ahs after Zuhr,
and that is what these were.'" (Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim).
These ahaadeeth indicate that it is prescribed to say salaams to a
person whilst he is praying, and that he should respond to the
greeting with a gesture, because this is what the Prophet (peaceand
blessings of Allaah be upon him) approved of initiating the salaam,
and he returned the greeting with a gesture only.
Secondly, it is prescribed for the Muslim to initiate the greeting to
one who is engaged in making dhikr or du'aa', because it was reported
that Abu Waaqid al-Laythi (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
"Whilst the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was
sitting in the mosque and there were some people with him, three
people came in. Two of them came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) and one went away. When they came up
to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him), they greeted him with salaam. One of them found a space in the
circle and sat down, and the other sat down behind him. The third one
turned and went away. When the Messenger (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) had finished (his talk), he said: 'Shall I tell
you about these three people? One of them turned to Allaah so Allaah
accepted him; the second felt shy so Allaah will feel shy (to punish
him); and the third turned away so Allaah turned away from him."
(Narrated by Maalik in al-Muwatta', 2/960; Ahmad, 5/219; al-Bukhaari,
1/24, 122; Muslim, 4/1713, no. 2176; al-Tirmidhi, 5/73, no. 2724; Abu
Ya'laa, 3/33, no. 1445).
And in al-Saheehayn it is narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be
pleased with him) that a Bedouin entered the mosque and prayed, but he
did not do the rukoo' and sujood properly. Then he came and greeted
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with salaam.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) returned his
greeting then said, "Go back and pray, for you have not prayed."
And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah bless our Prophet
Muhammad and his family and companions, and grant them peace.
Al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah li'l-Buhooth al-'ilmiyyah wa'l-Iftaa', 7/36
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