Story - It hurts….

Hi, friends.
I thought that I had overcome this. I believed that I got it over and
I was going to continue forward. But there are moments when pain
clutches me and I miss him…. Our relationship lasted quite long
considering the fact that we were married. We loved each other
withoutmaking promises. We knew that if we had changed our relations,
magic would have disappeared. The thought of divorcing my husband and
marrying him has never crossed mymind. We are grown up people with
realistic outlook after all.
The time that I spent withhim was very precious to me because this
wasn't a trivial adultery story. It was love – tender and passionate,
filled with trust and laughter, a bright harbour where wefound shelter
from daily problems… I loved him very much in the knowledge that I
love myhusband more (yes, It's possible to love two men at the same
time) Finally, I decided that I was getting too irresponsible and I
was not that type ofperson. We tried to part from each other for
months. I went away andthen came back again, allburning with passion.
Months went by while I was gathering strength to leave him forever. I
obtained my wish.
We are not seeing each other anymore. But I misshim…
How can you forget something that was so important to you? I lost a
part of myself. I know this was the right decision.
I'm happy with my husband I would replace him under no circumstances.
But how can I stop the pain of thinking about the other man. He ran
into my soul as a prickle…
If my jumbled story has made any sense to somebody – please leave a
comment. I think I'm not looking for a piece ofadvice because I've
tried almost everything. My only hope is in the courseof time. Still,
I want to hear a word from an outsider. The truth is out there….

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Friday Prayers - Speaking during the interval when the imaam falls silent between the two khutbahs

Is it permissible to speak during the interval when the imaam falls
silent between the two khutbahs at Jumu'ah (Friday) prayer? Is it
permissible to make a gesture by pointing to one's lips with one's
forefinger in order to remind a person that he should not speak during
the khutbah?
Praise be to Allaah. It is permissible to speak during the interval
when the imaam falls silent between the two khutbahs, if there is a
need to do so. It is OK to gesture to one who speaks whilst the imaam
is preaching, to tell him to be quiet, just as it is also permissible
to gesture during the prayer if there is a need to do so. May Allaah
helpus all.
Majmoo' Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi'ah li Samaahat al-Shaykh
al-'Allaamah 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn 'Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have
mercy on him), part12, p. 337

Friday Prayers - Employees whose work means that they have to continue working at the time of Jumu’ah

Some sensitive jobs require the constant presence of an employee,
including at the times of obligatory prayers and Jumu'ah (Friday)
prayers. Should these employees leave their work and go and pray, or
should they stay on the job?
Praise be to Allaah.
The basic principle is that Jumu'ah prayer is obligatory upon
individuals, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"O you who believe (Muslims)! When the call is proclaimed for the
Salaah (prayer) on Friday (Jumu'ah prayer), come to the remembrance of
Allaah [Jumu'ah religious talk (Khutbah) and Salaah (prayer)] and
leave off business (and every other thing). That is better for you if
you did but know!"
[al-Jumu'ah 62:9]
And Imam Ahmad narrated from Ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with
him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said
concerning some peoplewho were failing to attend Jumu'ah prayers: "I
had thought to tell a man to lead the people in prayer, then I would
burn down the houses of men who fail to attend Jumu'ah
prayers."(Ahmad, 1/402; Muslim, 1/452). Muslim narrated from Abu
Hurayrah and Ibn 'Umar (may Allaah bepleased with them) that they
heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) say from the minbar: "There are people who should stop neglecting
Jumu'ah,or else Allaah will put a seal on their hearts, thenthey will
surely be among the negligent." And there is consensus among the
scholars on this point (that Jumu'ah is obligatory). But if a person
for whom Jumu'ah is obligatory has a legitimate shar'i excuse – such
as one who is directly responsible for a matter of national security
and protecting the interests of the ummah, and he is required to do
that job at the time of Jumu'ah, such as those who are incharge of
security, traffic, wireless and telephone communications, etc, those
whose shift happens to be at the time of the second call toJumu'ah
prayers or the time of a prayer in congregation – then such people are
excused for not praying Jumu'ah or prayers in congregation, because of
the general meaning of the verse (interpretation of the meaning):
"So keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him as much as you can"
[al-Taghaabun 64:16]
And the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "Whatever I forbid you to do, avoid it, and whatever I
command you to do, do as much ofit as you can." Moreover,such a person
has no lessan excuse than one who is excused because he fears for his
life or his wealth etc., who the scholars have said is excused for not
praying Jumu'ah or prayers in congregation so long as the reason is
present. But the obligation to pray Zuhr still stands, and he must
pray it on time; whenever he can pray in congregation he is obliged to
do that, as is the case with all the five daily obligatory prayers.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah li'l-Buhooth wa'l-Ifta', 8/189