Bukhari 9:139, Narrated 'Aisha
Allah's Apostle said (to me)," You were shown to me twice in (my)
dream. Behold, a man was carrying you in a silken piece of cloth and
said tome, "She is your wife, so uncover her,' and behold, it was you.
I would then say (to myself), 'If this is from Allah, then it must
happen.' "
Examples of Revelationary Dreams amongst the companions
Some men amongst the companions of the Prophet were shown in their
dreams that the night of Qadr was in the last seven nights of Ramadan.
Allah's Apostle said, "It seems that all your dreams agree that (the
Night of Qadr) is in the last seven nights, andwhoever wants to
searchfor it (i.e. the Night of Qadr) should search in the last seven
(nights of Ramadan)." --Bukhari 3:232, Narrated Ibn 'Umar
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A dream from Allah, must happen
Dreams According to Quran and Sunnah
The dreams of the Prophets are Divine Inspirations.
Sahih Bukhari
Hadith - Bukhari 2:468, Narrated Samura bin Jundab
Whenever the Prophet finished the (morning) prayer, he would face us
and ask, " Who amongst you had a dream last night? " So if anyone had
seen a dream he would narrate it. The Prophet would say: " Ma
sha'a-llah "
Hadith - Bukhari 9:119, Narrated AbuHuraira
I heard Allah's Apostle saying, " Nothing is left of the prophetism
except Al-Mubashshirat." They asked, "What are Al-Mubashshirat?" He
replied, "The true good dreams (that conveys glad tidings). "
Hadith - Bukhari 9:168, Narrated Abu Salama
I used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard Abu Qatada
saying, "I too, used to see a dream which would make me sick till I
heard the Prophet saying, " A good dream is from Allah, so if anyone
of you saw a dream which he liked, he shouldnot tell it to anybody
except to the one whom he loves, and if he saw a dream which he
disliked,then he should seek refuge with Allah from itsevil and from
the evil of Satan, and spit three times (on his left) and should not
tell it to anybody, for it will not harm him. "
Hadith -Sahih Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 87, Number 115: Narrated Abu Qatada
The Prophet said, " A good dream thatcomes true is from Allah, and a
bad dream is from Satan, so if anyone of you sees a bad dream,
heshould seek refuge with Allah from Satan and should spit on the
left, for the bad dream will not harm him. "
Hadith - Muslim 5640, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah, r.a.
Allah's Messenger said: There came to him (the Prophet) a desert Arab
and said: I saw in a dream that I had been beheaded and I had been
following it (the severed head). Allah's Apostle reprimanded him
saying: Do not inform about the vain sporting of devil with you during
the night.
Hadith - Sahih Bukhari 9:144, Narrated Abu Huraira
Allah's Apostle said, " When the Day of Resurrection approaches, the
dreams of a believer will hardly fail to come true, and a dream of a
believer is one of forty-six parts of prophetism, and whatever belongs
to prothetism can never be false. " Muhammad bin Sirin said, "But I
say this."He said, "It used to be said, 'There are three types of
dreams: The reflection of one's thoughts and experiences one has
during wakefulness, what is suggested by Satan to frighten the
dreamer, or glad tidings from Allah. So, if someone has a dream which
he dislikes, he should not tell it to others, but get up and offer a
prayer." He added, "He (Abu Huraira) hated to see a Ghul (i.e., iron
collar around his neck in a dream) and people liked to see fetters (on
their feet in a dream). The fetters on the feet symbolizes one's
constant and firm adherence to religion." And Abu 'Abdullah
said,"Ghuls (iron collars) are used only for necks."
Hadith - Al-Muwatta 52.5
Yahya related to me fromMalik from Hisham ibn Urwa that his father
said about this ayat, "For them are glad tidings, in the life of the
present world, and in the Hereafter," (Sura 10 ayat 64), that it was
the good dream which the man who was salih saw or which was shown to
him.
The Noble Qur'an - Yunus 10:64
For them are glad tidings, in the life of the present world. (i.e.
righteous dream seen by the person himself or shown to others), and in
the Hereafter. No change can there be in the Words of Allâh, this is
indeed the supreme success.
Some examples of symbolism in the Prophet's or companion's dreams :
Symbol Description Source
Cow Symbolized the believers (who were martyred) on the Day of Uhud in
a dream of the Prophet Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
Dates, Fresh good in religion Abu Dawud, Narrated Anas ibn Malik
Garden with a pillar in the middle the garden of Islam Bukhari 9:142,
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Salam
Milk protruding out of nails or limbs after drinking it (Religious)
knowledge Bukhari 9:134, 135, Narrated Ibn 'Umar
Prophet Muhammad Whoever sees me in a dream then surely he has seen me
for Satan cannot impersonate me Bukhari 1:110, Narrated Abu Huraira
Shirts, covering various lengths on body on different people The
religion Bukhari 9:137, Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri
Spring, freshwater ...and he said, " That flowing spring symbolizes
his good deeds. " Bukhair 9:132, Narrated Az-Zuhri
Sword whose blade was broken the defeat which the Muslims suffered
from, the casualities, on the Day of Uhud Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
Sword becoming unbroken victory (conquest of Mecca) and gathering
together of Muslims Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
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Sahih Bukhari
Hadith - Bukhari 2:468, Narrated Samura bin Jundab
Whenever the Prophet finished the (morning) prayer, he would face us
and ask, " Who amongst you had a dream last night? " So if anyone had
seen a dream he would narrate it. The Prophet would say: " Ma
sha'a-llah "
Hadith - Bukhari 9:119, Narrated AbuHuraira
I heard Allah's Apostle saying, " Nothing is left of the prophetism
except Al-Mubashshirat." They asked, "What are Al-Mubashshirat?" He
replied, "The true good dreams (that conveys glad tidings). "
Hadith - Bukhari 9:168, Narrated Abu Salama
I used to see a dream which would make me sick till I heard Abu Qatada
saying, "I too, used to see a dream which would make me sick till I
heard the Prophet saying, " A good dream is from Allah, so if anyone
of you saw a dream which he liked, he shouldnot tell it to anybody
except to the one whom he loves, and if he saw a dream which he
disliked,then he should seek refuge with Allah from itsevil and from
the evil of Satan, and spit three times (on his left) and should not
tell it to anybody, for it will not harm him. "
Hadith -Sahih Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 87, Number 115: Narrated Abu Qatada
The Prophet said, " A good dream thatcomes true is from Allah, and a
bad dream is from Satan, so if anyone of you sees a bad dream,
heshould seek refuge with Allah from Satan and should spit on the
left, for the bad dream will not harm him. "
Hadith - Muslim 5640, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah, r.a.
Allah's Messenger said: There came to him (the Prophet) a desert Arab
and said: I saw in a dream that I had been beheaded and I had been
following it (the severed head). Allah's Apostle reprimanded him
saying: Do not inform about the vain sporting of devil with you during
the night.
Hadith - Sahih Bukhari 9:144, Narrated Abu Huraira
Allah's Apostle said, " When the Day of Resurrection approaches, the
dreams of a believer will hardly fail to come true, and a dream of a
believer is one of forty-six parts of prophetism, and whatever belongs
to prothetism can never be false. " Muhammad bin Sirin said, "But I
say this."He said, "It used to be said, 'There are three types of
dreams: The reflection of one's thoughts and experiences one has
during wakefulness, what is suggested by Satan to frighten the
dreamer, or glad tidings from Allah. So, if someone has a dream which
he dislikes, he should not tell it to others, but get up and offer a
prayer." He added, "He (Abu Huraira) hated to see a Ghul (i.e., iron
collar around his neck in a dream) and people liked to see fetters (on
their feet in a dream). The fetters on the feet symbolizes one's
constant and firm adherence to religion." And Abu 'Abdullah
said,"Ghuls (iron collars) are used only for necks."
Hadith - Al-Muwatta 52.5
Yahya related to me fromMalik from Hisham ibn Urwa that his father
said about this ayat, "For them are glad tidings, in the life of the
present world, and in the Hereafter," (Sura 10 ayat 64), that it was
the good dream which the man who was salih saw or which was shown to
him.
The Noble Qur'an - Yunus 10:64
For them are glad tidings, in the life of the present world. (i.e.
righteous dream seen by the person himself or shown to others), and in
the Hereafter. No change can there be in the Words of Allâh, this is
indeed the supreme success.
Some examples of symbolism in the Prophet's or companion's dreams :
Symbol Description Source
Cow Symbolized the believers (who were martyred) on the Day of Uhud in
a dream of the Prophet Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
Dates, Fresh good in religion Abu Dawud, Narrated Anas ibn Malik
Garden with a pillar in the middle the garden of Islam Bukhari 9:142,
Narrated 'Abdullah bin Salam
Milk protruding out of nails or limbs after drinking it (Religious)
knowledge Bukhari 9:134, 135, Narrated Ibn 'Umar
Prophet Muhammad Whoever sees me in a dream then surely he has seen me
for Satan cannot impersonate me Bukhari 1:110, Narrated Abu Huraira
Shirts, covering various lengths on body on different people The
religion Bukhari 9:137, Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri
Spring, freshwater ...and he said, " That flowing spring symbolizes
his good deeds. " Bukhair 9:132, Narrated Az-Zuhri
Sword whose blade was broken the defeat which the Muslims suffered
from, the casualities, on the Day of Uhud Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
Sword becoming unbroken victory (conquest of Mecca) and gathering
together of Muslims Bukhari 4:818, 5:407
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Mistakes made by people in ihraam
We are coming to Jeddah by plane. Is it permissible for us to delay
ihraam for Hajj until we reach Jeddah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Some of the mistakes made by some pilgrims with regard to ihraam
include the following:
-1-
Not entering ihraam from the meeqaat. Somepilgrims, especially
thosewho come by air, do not enter ihraam from the meeqaat and wait
until they arrive in Jeddah, even though they pass over the meeqaat.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) defined the
meeqaats and said: "They are for them (theirresidents) and whoever
comes to them who is not of their people."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1524; Muslim, 1181.
And it was narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari that when the people of Iraq
complained to 'Umar ibnal-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him),
saying that the meeqaat that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) had defined for the people of Najd
was out of their way, or was too far for them, he (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: "Look fora place that is in line with it on
your route." Narrated by al-Bukhaari,1531. This indicates that coming
in line with the meeqaat is like passing through it. So one who comes
in line with the meeqaat from above, in a plane, is like one who
passes through it, so he has to enter ihraam when he comes in line
with the meeqaat, and itis not permissible for him to pass the meeqaat
and enter ihraam when he lands in Jeddah.
The way to correct this mistake is to do ghusl in one's house or in
the airport, and to change inthe plane and put on theihraam garments
and take off one's regular clothes. Then when he comes in line with
the meeqaat he should enterihraam from there, and recite the talbiyah
for whatever he intends to do, 'Umrah or Hajj. It is not permissible
for him to delay that until he reaches Jeddah. If he does that then he
has done wrong and according to the majority of scholars he has to
offer a sacrifice which he should slaughter in Makkah anddistribute
the meat to the poor, because he hasomitted one of the obligatory
duties.
-2-
Some people think that it is essential to enter ihraam wearing shoes,
and that if a person is not wearing shoes whenhe enters ihraam, then
itis not permissible for him to put them on. This is a mistake because
it is not essential to wear shoes when entering ihraam. Ihraam may be
done without wearing shoes, and if a person enters ihraam without
wearing shoes, that doesnot mean that he cannotput them on afterwards.
He can put shoes on afterwards if he wasn't wearing them when he
entered ihraam – there is nothing wrong with that.
-3-
Some people think that it is essential to enter ihraam in the ihraam
garments and to keep them on until they exit ihraam, and that it is
notpermitted to change these clothes. This is a mistake, because the
muhrim (person in ihraam) is permitted to change his ihraam garments
with or without a reason, if he changes them for something that he is
permitted to wear during ihraam.
In this regard there is no difference between men and women. Anyone
who enters ihraam in ihraam garments and wants to change it may do so,
but sometimes he may have to change it, such as if it becomes
contaminated with some impurity (najaasah) that he cannot wash without
taking it off. And sometimes changing it may be preferable, such as if
it becomes very dirty, without there being any najaasah, so he should
change it for aclean ihraam garment.
Sometimes the matter may be one in which he has the choice: if he
wants he can change it and if he does not want he does not have to
change it. The point is that this notion is incorrect, namely the
pilgrim's belief that if heenters ihraam in a certain garment it is
not permissible for him to take if off until he has exited his ihraam.
-4-
Some people uncover their right shoulders andthrow the end of the
rida' (upper garment) over their left shoulders from the time they
enterihraam, i.e., from the moment they form the intention, so we see
many pilgrims – if not most of them – wearing their ihraam garments
inthis manner from the moment they enter ihraam until they exit
ihraam. This is a mistake,because this manner of wearing the ihraam is
only to be done during Tawaaf al-Qudoom (the tawaaf performed upon
arrival in Makkah), not during al-saa'ee and not before the tawaaf.
-5-
Some of them believe that it is obligatory to pray two rak'ahs when
entering ihraam. This is also a mistake; it is not obligatory to pray
two rak'ahs when entering ihraam. Rather the correct view on this
matter was that suggested by Abu'l-'Abbaas Shaykh al-Islam Ibn
Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him), who said that there is no
specific prayer to be offered when entering ihraam, because that was
not narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him).
If a person does ghusl and puts on the ihraam garments, then he
should enter ihraam without praying, unless it is the time of prayer,
such as if the time for anobligatory prayer has come or is
approaching, and he wants to stay at the meeqaat until he hasprayed.
In that case it is better for him to enter ihraam after praying. With
regard to intending to pray a specific prayer in ihraam, the most
correct opinion is that there is no specific prayer for entering
ihraam.And Allah knows best.
ihraam for Hajj until we reach Jeddah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Some of the mistakes made by some pilgrims with regard to ihraam
include the following:
-1-
Not entering ihraam from the meeqaat. Somepilgrims, especially
thosewho come by air, do not enter ihraam from the meeqaat and wait
until they arrive in Jeddah, even though they pass over the meeqaat.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) defined the
meeqaats and said: "They are for them (theirresidents) and whoever
comes to them who is not of their people."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1524; Muslim, 1181.
And it was narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari that when the people of Iraq
complained to 'Umar ibnal-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him),
saying that the meeqaat that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) had defined for the people of Najd
was out of their way, or was too far for them, he (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: "Look fora place that is in line with it on
your route." Narrated by al-Bukhaari,1531. This indicates that coming
in line with the meeqaat is like passing through it. So one who comes
in line with the meeqaat from above, in a plane, is like one who
passes through it, so he has to enter ihraam when he comes in line
with the meeqaat, and itis not permissible for him to pass the meeqaat
and enter ihraam when he lands in Jeddah.
The way to correct this mistake is to do ghusl in one's house or in
the airport, and to change inthe plane and put on theihraam garments
and take off one's regular clothes. Then when he comes in line with
the meeqaat he should enterihraam from there, and recite the talbiyah
for whatever he intends to do, 'Umrah or Hajj. It is not permissible
for him to delay that until he reaches Jeddah. If he does that then he
has done wrong and according to the majority of scholars he has to
offer a sacrifice which he should slaughter in Makkah anddistribute
the meat to the poor, because he hasomitted one of the obligatory
duties.
-2-
Some people think that it is essential to enter ihraam wearing shoes,
and that if a person is not wearing shoes whenhe enters ihraam, then
itis not permissible for him to put them on. This is a mistake because
it is not essential to wear shoes when entering ihraam. Ihraam may be
done without wearing shoes, and if a person enters ihraam without
wearing shoes, that doesnot mean that he cannotput them on afterwards.
He can put shoes on afterwards if he wasn't wearing them when he
entered ihraam – there is nothing wrong with that.
-3-
Some people think that it is essential to enter ihraam in the ihraam
garments and to keep them on until they exit ihraam, and that it is
notpermitted to change these clothes. This is a mistake, because the
muhrim (person in ihraam) is permitted to change his ihraam garments
with or without a reason, if he changes them for something that he is
permitted to wear during ihraam.
In this regard there is no difference between men and women. Anyone
who enters ihraam in ihraam garments and wants to change it may do so,
but sometimes he may have to change it, such as if it becomes
contaminated with some impurity (najaasah) that he cannot wash without
taking it off. And sometimes changing it may be preferable, such as if
it becomes very dirty, without there being any najaasah, so he should
change it for aclean ihraam garment.
Sometimes the matter may be one in which he has the choice: if he
wants he can change it and if he does not want he does not have to
change it. The point is that this notion is incorrect, namely the
pilgrim's belief that if heenters ihraam in a certain garment it is
not permissible for him to take if off until he has exited his ihraam.
-4-
Some people uncover their right shoulders andthrow the end of the
rida' (upper garment) over their left shoulders from the time they
enterihraam, i.e., from the moment they form the intention, so we see
many pilgrims – if not most of them – wearing their ihraam garments
inthis manner from the moment they enter ihraam until they exit
ihraam. This is a mistake,because this manner of wearing the ihraam is
only to be done during Tawaaf al-Qudoom (the tawaaf performed upon
arrival in Makkah), not during al-saa'ee and not before the tawaaf.
-5-
Some of them believe that it is obligatory to pray two rak'ahs when
entering ihraam. This is also a mistake; it is not obligatory to pray
two rak'ahs when entering ihraam. Rather the correct view on this
matter was that suggested by Abu'l-'Abbaas Shaykh al-Islam Ibn
Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him), who said that there is no
specific prayer to be offered when entering ihraam, because that was
not narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him).
If a person does ghusl and puts on the ihraam garments, then he
should enter ihraam without praying, unless it is the time of prayer,
such as if the time for anobligatory prayer has come or is
approaching, and he wants to stay at the meeqaat until he hasprayed.
In that case it is better for him to enter ihraam after praying. With
regard to intending to pray a specific prayer in ihraam, the most
correct opinion is that there is no specific prayer for entering
ihraam.And Allah knows best.
She says: “I hate my father so much because he is the reason for my suffering; am I to be blamed for hating him?”
I am a young woman, thirty years old. My problem is that I hate
myfather vehemently and I cannot even listen to anynews of him. My
father transgressed against my rights and the rights of my mother and
siblings. He left me when I was small, eight years old, and travelled
to another city where he married another woman and forgot that he had
two small daughters, me and my sister. We needed him to be with us but
he did not care about that. All he cared about was himself. He left me
and my mother and my sisterwith my married brothers, and their wives
were mean to us. They created troubles and my brothers believed them.
The matter went so far that my mother, my sister and I were kicked out
and went to live for a while in my married sister's house, and we went
through a lot of problems. I blame my father because he did not think
of us and he did not provide us with a peaceful life, and he left us
to our fate, to suffer harshness and injustice. After that, we moved
with my mother to the same city when my father lives. He has had
children from his other wife and he did not treat us fairly. We lived
in difficult circumstances and he did not spend on us; my poor mother
used to sell our used clothes in orderto provide food for us. We have
grown up and Istill do not see any care from my father. I hate him
very much and he does not even deserve tobe called a father. He hasnot
provided a decent life for me and my sister,and he does not care about
our future with regard us getting married and settling down. I have
become hardhearted because of the difficult circumstances I have gone
through. Now he has sold a house of his and given all the money to his
other wife and herchildren, and he did not remember us at all. I hate
him very much; am I to be blamed for hatinghim? What is the Islamic
ruling on that?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to recompense you for your calamity,
and to relieve you of your pain, and decree reward for you. And we ask
Him, may He be exalted, to guide your father, for he has acted very
badly indeed by deliberately neglecting his family whom Allah, may He
be exalted, commanded him to look after and take care of, especially
since those whom he neglected of his family are those who are weak.
Your father has also been unjust towards your mother by not giving her
her rightsof maintenance and not being fair between her and his other
wife. And he has been unjust in terms of giving, as he has given to
his children from his other wife but not to his children from his
first wife. All these things that your father has done are clearly
sins and neglect of the obligations that Allah, may He be exalted, has
enjoined upon him, so he deserves the warningunless he repents to his
Lord, gives up this wrongdoing, establishesequal treatment of his two
families, and sets straight what he has done wrong. If he does that,
he will find that his Lord will accept his repentance and show mercy.
Secondly:
Despite all the things that your father has done, his right to kind
treatment and obedience in that which is right and proper is
stillguaranteed, according to the shar'i texts. If Allah, may He be
exalted,has mentioned the rights of the mushrik father – and even the
one who calls his children to associate others with their Lord, may He
be glorified and exalted – to kind treatment and good companionship,
then theone who is less than himin terms of evildoing is more entitled
to that kind treatment and good companionship. Allah, may He be
exalted,says (interpretation of the meaning):
"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with
Me others that of which youhave no knowledge, then obey them not, but
behave with them in theworld kindly, and follow the path of him who
turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your
return, and Ishall tell you what you used to do"
[Luqmaan 31:15].
Although the father deserves to be warned (of divine punishment) for
his sin and neglect ofshar'i duties, disobedient children and those
who do not treat their parents kindlyare also warned about their
actions; it is not permissible to repay mistreatment with mistreatment
or wrongdoing with wrongdoing.
Thirdly:
Although children are not to be blamed for feelings of resentment
inthe heart towards the father who commits sin or is a disbeliever,
that does not contradict the duty to treat him kindly and obey him in
that which is right and proper. But you have to hold your tongue and
refrain from speaking badly to him, and also refrain from mistreating
him in practical terms.
As the issue was caused by your father's actions and you have gone
through so much pain and hardship, we advise you to seek reward with
Allah for what you have gone through. And we advise you to offer
du'aa' for your father, praying that he be guided and enabled to
repent and set things right, because he is in the greatest need of the
mercy and forgiveness of Allah, may He be exalted.
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myfather vehemently and I cannot even listen to anynews of him. My
father transgressed against my rights and the rights of my mother and
siblings. He left me when I was small, eight years old, and travelled
to another city where he married another woman and forgot that he had
two small daughters, me and my sister. We needed him to be with us but
he did not care about that. All he cared about was himself. He left me
and my mother and my sisterwith my married brothers, and their wives
were mean to us. They created troubles and my brothers believed them.
The matter went so far that my mother, my sister and I were kicked out
and went to live for a while in my married sister's house, and we went
through a lot of problems. I blame my father because he did not think
of us and he did not provide us with a peaceful life, and he left us
to our fate, to suffer harshness and injustice. After that, we moved
with my mother to the same city when my father lives. He has had
children from his other wife and he did not treat us fairly. We lived
in difficult circumstances and he did not spend on us; my poor mother
used to sell our used clothes in orderto provide food for us. We have
grown up and Istill do not see any care from my father. I hate him
very much and he does not even deserve tobe called a father. He hasnot
provided a decent life for me and my sister,and he does not care about
our future with regard us getting married and settling down. I have
become hardhearted because of the difficult circumstances I have gone
through. Now he has sold a house of his and given all the money to his
other wife and herchildren, and he did not remember us at all. I hate
him very much; am I to be blamed for hatinghim? What is the Islamic
ruling on that?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to recompense you for your calamity,
and to relieve you of your pain, and decree reward for you. And we ask
Him, may He be exalted, to guide your father, for he has acted very
badly indeed by deliberately neglecting his family whom Allah, may He
be exalted, commanded him to look after and take care of, especially
since those whom he neglected of his family are those who are weak.
Your father has also been unjust towards your mother by not giving her
her rightsof maintenance and not being fair between her and his other
wife. And he has been unjust in terms of giving, as he has given to
his children from his other wife but not to his children from his
first wife. All these things that your father has done are clearly
sins and neglect of the obligations that Allah, may He be exalted, has
enjoined upon him, so he deserves the warningunless he repents to his
Lord, gives up this wrongdoing, establishesequal treatment of his two
families, and sets straight what he has done wrong. If he does that,
he will find that his Lord will accept his repentance and show mercy.
Secondly:
Despite all the things that your father has done, his right to kind
treatment and obedience in that which is right and proper is
stillguaranteed, according to the shar'i texts. If Allah, may He be
exalted,has mentioned the rights of the mushrik father – and even the
one who calls his children to associate others with their Lord, may He
be glorified and exalted – to kind treatment and good companionship,
then theone who is less than himin terms of evildoing is more entitled
to that kind treatment and good companionship. Allah, may He be
exalted,says (interpretation of the meaning):
"But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with
Me others that of which youhave no knowledge, then obey them not, but
behave with them in theworld kindly, and follow the path of him who
turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your
return, and Ishall tell you what you used to do"
[Luqmaan 31:15].
Although the father deserves to be warned (of divine punishment) for
his sin and neglect ofshar'i duties, disobedient children and those
who do not treat their parents kindlyare also warned about their
actions; it is not permissible to repay mistreatment with mistreatment
or wrongdoing with wrongdoing.
Thirdly:
Although children are not to be blamed for feelings of resentment
inthe heart towards the father who commits sin or is a disbeliever,
that does not contradict the duty to treat him kindly and obey him in
that which is right and proper. But you have to hold your tongue and
refrain from speaking badly to him, and also refrain from mistreating
him in practical terms.
As the issue was caused by your father's actions and you have gone
through so much pain and hardship, we advise you to seek reward with
Allah for what you have gone through. And we advise you to offer
du'aa' for your father, praying that he be guided and enabled to
repent and set things right, because he is in the greatest need of the
mercy and forgiveness of Allah, may He be exalted.
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