Advice for Husband

Discussion between the spouses increases the love between them and
strengthens the bond between them; it also helps to reach the right
decision in matters of married life and household and family affairs.❤
When starting a discussion between you and your wife , open your heart
and mind to what she has to say, and listen attentively. Then you can
either accept what she says and thank her, or reject it gently whilst
also thanking her. ❤
Do not forget that she is your life partner and the one who is helping
you to raise your children and organise your household. So it is not
appropriate to close the doors of discussion to her. ❤
You should not be too proud of your opinion and or feel that you do
not need to discuss with her and hear her opinion. ❤
Do not neglect the words of your Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace
of Allah be upon him): ❤ "The best of you is the one who is best to
his wife." ❤
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi, 3895; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Jaami', 3314.
Over and above that, do not forget the words of Allah (interpretation
of the meaning):
❤ "And live with them honourably" [an-Nisa' 4:19] ❤.
Husbands who do not admit their mistakes and do not acknowledge
thattheir wives could be rightis the very essence of arrogance, as the
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) defined it . It was
narrated from 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (may Allah be pleased with him)
thatthe Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
❤ "No one will enter Paradise who has an atom's weight of arrogance in
his heart." ❤
It is not the attribute of the wise and mature manto insist when he is
in thewrong that his wife should be the one to apologise. Rather he is
the one who should hasten to admit his mistake, apologise for it and
ask his wife to forgive him. And her dutyis to apologize to her
husband if she is the one who is in the wrong. It is in this way that
married life takes a correct courseand lasting love and compassion are
strengthened between the spouses. Abu'd-Darda'(may Allah be pleased
with him) said to his wife:
❤"If you see me angry, tryto calm me down, and if Isee you angry I
shall try to calm you down, otherwise we cannot livetogether." ❤
❤ We ask Allah to guide all married couples to that which He loves and
is pleased with, and to bring them together in the best of ways.❤
Ameen!

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Distance from Bad Death

The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "He who
desires that his life be prolonged, his Rizq be expanded and he be
distanced from a bad death, should be afraid of Allah and should take
care of his relatives." [Musnad Ahmed]
Two things (fearing Allah and taking care of relatives) result in
three benefits:
1. A longer life,
2. Greater Rizq,
3. A good death.
Rizq is usually taken to mean livelihood but it is inclusive of much
more. Itincludes all that Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) bestows on one of
his creatures. Thus, in a person's Rizq is their wealth, their
children, their natural abilities such as intelligence, etc.
Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) is Al-Ghani. Al-Ghani means "The Rich One":
Hewho does not depend foranything on anyone, He is entirely
self-sufficient. In fact, He is the means ofenrichment of all others.
Whichever human being does good, does so for his/her own benefit. If
everyone on earth were to become fully consciousof Allah's rights,
obey Himand thus do good, it would not increase His kingdom. And if
all human beings were to become disobedient to Him, that too would
only be their own loss and it would not decrease His kingdom or harm
Him in the least. Despite Allah's independence of His creation, He is
not unmindful of them and it does not prevent Him from being merciful
towards us.

Earliest Return for Silah Rehmi

The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: "Of all
good deeds, the earliest return one gets is on Silah Rehmi (caring for
relatives); to the point that even if the members of a bad and
disobedient family (rebellious to Allah) practice Silah Rehmi their
wealth is increased. A person who practices Silah Rehmi never has any
member ofhis clan become dependent." [Saheeh Ibn Hibban]
Some people think that Silah Rehmi (taking care of relatives) can only
be done with money. This is a defective understanding. Silah Rehmi is
the effort one undertakes to bring any good and to prevent anything
bad from reaching your near and distant relatives.
Silah Rehmi is rewarded even if done by a Kaafir or Munaafiq. Of
course, their reward is limited to returns in this world only, for
they have no share in the Hereafter.

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Is it permissible to offer a sacrifice in gratitude to Allaah for a specific blessing?

Is it permissible for a person who has bought a car or a house to
offer a sacrifice in gratitude to Allaah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The blessings that Allaah bestows upon people are many, and His bounty
and generosity towards them are vast. Ablessing can only be responded
to by giving thanks and appreciating it. Allaah, may He be glorified
and exalted, has enjoined giving thanks to Him, for He is Appreciative
and loves those who give thanks.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"So eat of the lawful andgood food which Allaah has provided for you.
And be grateful for the Graces of Allaah, if it is He Whom you
worship"
[al-Nahl 16:144]
"seek your provision from Allaah (Alone), and worship Him (Alone), and
be grateful to Him. To Him (Alone) you will be brought back"
[al-'Ankaboot 29:17]
Part of being grateful to Allaah is seeking to drawcloser to Him by
means of different kinds of acts of worship and to endear oneself to
Him bymeans of good deeds such as prayer, zakaah, fasting and so on.
Another part of being grateful to Allaah is giving thanks to Him by
means of sacrifice rituals, which means offering a sacrifice for the
sake of Allaah.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in
his commentary on the verse "Therefore turn in prayer to your Lord and
sacrifice (to Him only)" [al-Kawthar 108:2]:
What is meant is that prayer and sacrifice are the best of the things
by means of which one maydraw closer to Allaah, and the usage of the
word fa (translated here as "therefore") points to the reason, i.e.,
doing that – prayer and sacrifice – in gratitude for that which Allaah
hasgiven him of al-Kawthar (a river in Paradise) and much goodness. So
he should give thanks to the One Who has blessedhim and worship Him,
and the two greatest types of worship are these two acts of worship;
indeed, prayer is the ultimate act of worship. It is as if He is
saying to him: We have given you al-Kawthar and a great deal of
goodness, and We have blessed you with that because you have been
doing these two acts of worship in gratitude for Our blessing to you;
these are the reasons why We have bestowed these blessings upon you,
so do these two things for Us, for prayer and sacrifice are surrounded
by blessings that come before them and after them. The best financial
act of worship is sacrifice and the best physical act of worship
isprayer, and the benefits that a slave of Allaah may gain from prayer
cannot be compared to any other type of worship, as is known bythose
whose hearts are alive and those of high aspirations. Adding to it the
benefits of offering sacrifice, which is a sign of devotion to Allaah
and thinking positively of Him, and having strong certainty and faith
about that which isin the hand of Allaah is something wonderful, if
that is accompanied by faith and sincerity. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) obeyed the command of his Lord and
prayed and sacrificed a great deal toHim; he even sacrificed
sixty-three camels with his own hand during theFarewell Pilgrimage,
andhe used to offer sacrifices on the Eids andat other times. End
quote.
Majmoo' al-Fataawa 916/532).
If Allaah bestows a great blessing upon a person –and all His blessing
are great – then it is mustahabb for him to give thanks to Allaah for
it by showing kindness to people, so he should offer a sacrifice and
make food and invite hisbrothers and friends, and give charity to
thosewho are in need.
It says in al-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah (26/180-181):
It is mustahabb to give thanks anew when new blessings come, by
speaking words of praise. Gratitude for thatmay also be expressed by
doing acts of worship, which includes offering a sacrifice or inviting
people to a meal. The fuqaha' have mentioned the kinds of meals that
may be offered when blessing are renewed, such as thewakeerah which is
madefor a new home, or naqee'ah which is made on the return of an
absent loved one, and hidhaaq which is done when a child completes a
reading of the Qur'aan.
The view of the Hanbalis,the more correct view among the Shaafa'is, is
that these meals are mustahabb.
Ibn Qudaamah said: These invitations – otherthan the wedding feast
(waleemah) and 'aqeeqah – are something good, but they are like
invitations that are given for no reason; if the person who does them
intends thereby to give thanks to Allaah for His blessing and to feed
his brothers and offer food, then he will have the reward for that in
sha Allaah. End quote.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
If one of my children does well in school, is it permissible for me to
offer a sacrifice to celebrate his success, and to give thanks to
Allaah?
He replied:
There is nothing wrong with making food (waleemah) if the children or
one of them succeeds, and inviting one's loved ones and his child's
friends, to celebrate Allaah's blessing and to encourage the child.
Endquote.
Liqaa'aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (no. 161, question no. 1).
Secondly:
It is essential to beware of some beliefs which many people hold, and
say that in order to protect the new house or car it is essential to
offer a sacrifice and sprinkle it with the blood of the
slaughteredanimal, or that evil spirits will not keep away from you
unless you do that, otherwise the blessing will soon dissipate. hese
are jaahili beliefs which do not come from someone who believes in
Allaah ashis Lord Who possesses all powers to bring benefit or cause
harm, inWhose hand is the creation and the commandment, and knows that
it is not permissible to do acts of worship unless they are done for
the sake of Allaah.
The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked about the belief
held by many people, that offering a sacrifice on the threshold of the
new house before entering it is one of the most important means of
warding off the evil eye, and making the house blessed, and avoiding
calamities and undesirable events.
They replied:
If this custom – i.e., offering a sacrifice on the threshold of the
newhouse – is done in order to placate the jinn and ward off
calamities and undesirable events, thenit is a haraam custom, and is
in fact shirk. This is what seems to be the case with offering the
sacrifice before enteringthe house, and doing it on the threshold in
particular.
But if the intention is to honour one's new neighbours and get to know
them, and to give thanks to Allaah for the blessing of a new home, and
to honour one's relatives and friends on this occasion, and to show
them the house, then this is good and theone who does it is to be
praised for his action. But that is only usually done after the people
have moved into the house, and not before, and the animal or animals
should not be slaughtered on the threshold of the house or in the
entryway to thehouse. End quote.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah (1/214)
See also the answer to question no. 26952 , which quotes two fatwas
from Shaykh 'Abdal-'Azeez ibn Baaz and Shaykh al-'Uthaymeen concerning
the same topic.
And Allaah knows best.