The smart thing to do

Here is another story about Sultan Mahmud of Afghanistan and his
servant, Ayyaz. Sultan Mahmud wouldrespect Ayyaz for his wisdomeven
though he was a servant. This made the ministers and other people of
high positions very jealousof Ayyaz. They talked wrong against him and
started a rumour that Ayyaz was nothing but a fool. The king came to
know of this and he decided to prove to them who were the real fools.
An announcement was made to all the people that the King will
distribute his belongingson a particular date. Whatever a person touch
will become his on that day. When the day came, many people appeared
by the king's palace. The king made his announcement again thata
person can have whatever he touches. The door was opened and everyone
ran to touch whatever was of valuein the palace. Some touched jewelery
of gold while others touched fancy furnitures, etc. But Ayyaz wasjust
standing by the king and was not touching anything. People thought
that Ayyaz was crazy as he wasn't takingadvantage of this great event.
Now, Ayyaz asked the king if the announcement hemade was certain. The
king said "Yes, whatever you touch is yours." Immediately, Ayyaz
placed his right hand on the king's head and the left hand on his
shoulder. He then shouted, "Listen everyone. I was waiting for this
moment to aquire the most expensive thing. All of you took whatever
the king possessed, but you forgot about the owner of all these, which
is the king himself. I hereby declare that my hands are on the king,
so the king is mine. You cannot remove one thing from this palace
because I am the owner of all these now." After hearing this from
Ayyaz, everyone realized that actually, Ayyaz is the only smart one
and everyoneelse was in error.
Today people are only running after the creations but, very few are
running towards the Creator Himself. If Allah, the King of all kings,
becomes our Friend then what else do we need?
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A farmer and stones

A farmer in Bangladesh was preparing his land for planting crops. As
he dug through the soil the equipments kept getting stuck in one
place. Out of curiosity he decided to check out what was in there. He
dug the ground and discovered a big box. The farmer quickly openedthe
box to see what was in it but to his disappointment, there were only
black stones inside the box. He decided to throw those stones at the
birds when they come to eat the crops at the time for harvesting.
Eventually, a day came when the crops were ready and the birds come to
eat them. So, he startedthrowing the stones at thebirds from where
ever they showed up. One day a man was walking by thefield who sells
precious stones such as pearls, diamonds, rubies etc. Two stones
happened to fall right in front of him when the farmer threw them at
the birds. The man brought the stones to the farmer and asked if he
was willing to sell them tohim for $5,000 each. The farmer thought
that the man was joking so he replied, "No." Then the man offered
$50,000 for each stone and explained that they were precious jewels.
Now the farmer started crying saying that he had only 1 or 2 stones
left and the rest were thrown away.
This story is mentioned in the book "20 Reminders" by Muhammad Abu Yusuf.
In fact, every second of our time is very valuable. Today, we are just
throwing them away here and there. But on the Day of Judgement, we
will realize how valuable they were but it will be too late. Now is
the chance to use our time properly.

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Shall I stay with my husband or listen to my family and leave him?
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Salaam,
I am very confused on what I shall do. I got married 10 months ago
tomy boyfriend, both our families were against it as I fell pregnant
before I gotmarried. After I terminatedmy pregnancy, I forced myfamily
to get me married to my husband, he left his family to marry me and my
family broke all ties with me.
My mother and one of my sisters kept in touch with me a few months
after to see if I was okay. Mine andmy husbands relationship had been
going well, apartfrom his anger issue. We started to have heated
arguments a few months after we got married but I did not tell anyone.
My husband has to go abroad every 6 months regarding his visa. This
time he is going in July and does not want to leave me home alone and
says he was worried about me.
So, he texted my sister to ask her if my mum could keep me for 6 days
till he is away and as my family still dont trust him and think he
only married me for my visa said no. He then had a heated argument
with my sister and brother, after the argument he came home and said
he is throwing me out of the house because my family doesn'tcare about
me and nor does he. After he walked out, I was really upset andtook
lots antibiotics tablets. My husband rushed me to the hospital to make
sure I was okay.
He said he was sorry for the way he spoke to me and treated me and
said he was worried and that was the cause for his behaving like that.
He alsosaid to me I am not allowed to meet my family or even speak to
them anymore. (My husbands family have started to meet him and he
works with them in their business, and is also at home with them
duringthe day.)
My family contacted me the next day and and my mum was asking me to
leave my husband and shewill support me always. She said to me that he
is only with me for the visa and as soon as he gets thepassport he
will leave me. My sister contacted me and told me to do the same
thing.
Now, I am very confused on what to do? My husband has refused to letme
go to university, I'm not allowed to meet my friends. He goes out with
his family to parties but I'm not allowed to go as his family haven't
announced our wedding, they are waiting for his sister to get married
as she is older than him.
I know my family don't want me to be with him because they don't like
him and don't trust him, but I know he loves me, he cares for me so
much. IfI leave him, I gain my family back but if I choose him then I
lose my family again. He said to me we will make it work, but I'm not
sure. I don't know what I want? or don't know what to do?
Please help me, what is right islamically.
Raihaanaa. Thanks

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I’m planning second marriage to a woman in need. How do I address thesecular government issues?

Q:-> Dear Sheikh and scholars of Islam, I hope you can help me with my
situationas I have reached a dead end and would like to seek the
advice of people of knowledge. May Allah reward you.
I am currently married andwould like to marry a second wife Insha
Allah. I am an American who lives and works in Singapore and my future
second wifeis from Indonesia.
The problem is the following: I am planning to make the marriage
official in Indonesia, but the Indonesian government requires a
document from my embassy called 'No objection to marriage'. This
document cannot be issued by my country because polygamy is illegal in
the US. So this means that I cannot make a civil marriage and my
marriage will not be recognized by any government offices (neither in
Indonesia nor in the US).
I have then thought aboutmaking a traditional marriage with the future
wife, her father (wali), andtwo witnesses under the auspices of an
Imam followed by a Walimah to publicize the marriage. The problem with
this is that if we have children, they will have several difficulties
because they will not be issued documents, will not have an official
father (on paper) and other problems.
I feel sad for this situation as this woman I am planning to marry is
reallyin need. She is a widow with 2 orphaned daughters who are 10
and2 years old. I feel our secular governments are making haram what
Allah has made Halal and are making the lives of Muslims very
difficult. Can you please advise on whatto do? I have prayed Istikhara
several times andmy feeling is positive towards marriage but I still
have these issues which have to do with thefuture of our offspring.
Please take note that I am seeking a second wife because my wife
cannot have children. Please advise your brother.
Jazakum Allah Khair
Wassalamu Aleikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh
-sloumabs
A:-> I just want to start by saying, we are neither shaykhs nor
scholars. We are just laypeople trying to advise others as best as
possible insha'Allah, basedon our own personal experiences and limited
knowledge of Islam.
Unfortunately, I don't havethe extensive knowledge about the governing
countries you've mentioned to give any meaningful feedback about the
situation you are considering. From my heart, what I can tell you is
this: if you really believethat Allah is guiding you inthis direction,
then follow His guidance and trust Himto work out the details. In my
experience, when we follow Allah, even when situations seem
hopelesslycomplicated from our cognitive understanding, He has a way
of making everything work together for those involved. If it were me,
I would go forward with an Islamic Nikkah and take the next steps and
days one at a time, and work on each issue that may arise as it comes.
I can say, if your current wife (who I am presumingis also an American
citizen)already knows and consents to your intentions, maybe she would
be willing to give you a civil divorce (remaining married to
youIslamically) to help make the path clearer for you with the second
marriage. Then, possibly you can help your second wife attain US
citizenship, which would help the concerns you noted about possible
future children. However, if you haven't told your current wife about
what's going on or if she is not in cooperationwith you about this,
I'd say you have a bigger problem on your hands altogether.

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