Marital Life, - 'Eed: A Time for Joy between Spouses

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:-> On the morning of the day of'Eed,mosques echo with the sounds ofTakbeer)the words'Allaahu Akbar'(,Tahleel)the words'Laa ilaaha illaa Allaah'(and tears flow expressing grief over the departure of the beloved month ofRamadan, the month of blessings, patience, generosity and bounties. Allaah The Almightygives us the gift of'Eed, which are days of happiness and joy thatenvelopall members of the family including the spouses. On that day, the souls of the spouses become purified and their hearts act as one, in accord with each other. Thus, we feel the spirit of happiness hovering over their house and the fragrance of love, cordiality, tolerance and fun is felt everywhere. This is the only way to actualize the meaning of'Eedin the true sense of the word. However, for some people,'Eedmay spark quarrels, particularly in the morning, due to the limited time and distracted minds when preparing to go out. Such quarrels fill the souls with anger, which transforms'Eedfrom a source of happiness into an occasion for fights. In this case, the result would be that the spouses would go to visit their relatives with angry faces and depressed souls. The happiness of'Eedhovers over the happy house: -The spouses should thank Allaah The Almighty for His blessings and bounty:}Say, "In the Bounty of Allaah and in His Mercy - in that let them rejoice; it is better than what they accumulate."{]Quran 10:58[ -They should repeatTakbeerand praise Allaah The Almighty on the days of'Eedas the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, urged us to do so. -They should ask Allaah The Almighty sincerely to accept their fasting, night prayer and all their sincere deeds and to lengthen their lives to witnessRamadanmany times. -They should ask Allaah The Almighty to join them both in His Paradise, the home of His Mercy. -They should overlook trivial issues and things that upset them. Allaah The Almighty legislated'Eedto be an occasion for joy and fun rather than sadness and quarreling. Preparations for a happier'Eed: Dear sister, here are some tips to have a happier'Eed: -Organize all that your family will need when going out two days before the day of'Eed. Prepare the clothes of your husband and children and all the items you will need and keep them in a suitable and easily accessible place. -Tidy your house before'Eedto save the time that you will spend in doing so before going out on the'Eedday. -You and your husband should sleep as early as possible on the night of'Eedto wake up early, active and in good spirits. -After theFajr)dawn( prayer, do not forget to makeIstighfaar)seek forgiveness( and recite the supplications of the morning, in addition to sayingTakbeerandTahleel.Raise your voice until all the members of your family hear you and feel the happy atmosphere of'Eed. -Keep some dates for your husband and children to eat before going out to attend the'Eedprayer as the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam,used to do. You should also prepare a dish of sweets and milk )or tea according to your preference(. Preparations on the morning of'Eed: -Wake your husband and children up early to perform theFajrprayer, then head to the place of'Eedprayer while makingTakbeerto attend the'Eedprayer and listen to theKhutbah)sermon(. -Spouses should visit their family and relatives and spend time with them. -Prepare some greeting cards that express your happiness and gratitude to your husband for his generosity and for helping you in doing good deeds. -Try to spend the second day of'Eedwith your husband and children by going on a picnic away from noise and people. You could prepare some surprise gifts, hold competitions and cook grilled food outdoors. -Make yourself and your husband happy so that you find its influence on your actions and behavior. Overlook all that might anger you, and remind yourself and your husband, whenever you see the ghost of anger approaching, that this is'Eedand that you should be happy and change your life for the better.

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