Fathwa - Beware of whispers about your fasting

Question
Assalam Aleikom .pleasehelp me it is very important.i am fasting and
also Ramadan is very close and i shall have this problem in Ramadan
even more since i'll be fasting everyday.Please explain if i sneeze ,i
have to spit out what i sneeze?i am constantly having colds plus i
have alergies for some types offlowers.when fasting i can not take my
medicine.but if im on thestreet how to spit it out?or in school while
having courses?.Is there any report from the Prophet sallahu aleihi
wasallam or sahaba for that?if i rinse my mouth in woodoo i have to
spit all the water i know but iread on this site that the saliva
remaining on the lips invalidates the fast if i lick my lips.why is
that?subhanallah what shall i do?whenever i spitthere is a fraction of
remaining saliva on the lips cause its liquid.i always have to wipe it
off to not accidentally lick my lips?what if i wipe it off with
parfumed hankerchieves? Or perfumed toilet paper?the perfume from this
could remain on the lips.if it enters the mouth it invalidates the
fast?did the Prophet sallallahu aleihi wasallan or sahabado things
like this in wiping off the remainingsaliva?if saliva from outside the
mouth can not enter the mouth,theni can not kiss my husbandduring
Ramadan?why does it seem all this so difficult for me?if i ask someone
they laugh in my face that i exagerate.but pelase help cause i read
the fatwa about the saliva here on this fatwa website and it was not
clear..Please subhanallah help me!!Please!Barak Allahu feek
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
MuhammadisHis slave and Messenger.
First of all, dear questioner, you should know that your problem lies
in whispers, as it appears from your question that you suffer from
them. The best treatment for such whispers is to repel them and not
take heed to them.
As long as the saliva is inside the mouth, it does not invalidate
fasting if one swallows it because there is much hardship inavoiding
it. Moreover, you are not required to spit it out whether you are at
home or outside. Also, to avoid swallowingthe saliva if it comes out
of the lips is something very easy; rather, to not deliberately
swallow it is difficult and hard.
In addition, it was neither reported from the Prophet, nor his
Companions, may Allaah be pleased with them, that they used to wipe
off their lips while fasting out of fear of swallowing the saliva that
was on them. Therefore, this is an aberrant and dispraised
exaggeration and it is due to whispers that you should avoid.
Besides, wiping the lips with scented tissues doesnot invalidate
fasting as this is not eating nor drinking and it is not likeeating or
drinking. In addition, it does not invalidate the fast even ifthe
perfume enters your mouth as long as you do not swallow it. Since
fasting is not invalidated by putting water in the mouth when rinsing,
how can fasting be invalidated by putting something on the lips?
On the other hand, fasting does not become void by kissing but this is
disliked for a fasting person. The Fiqh Encyclopedia reads: "It is
disliked for a fasting person to kiss his wife if he is not safe from
committing something that invalidates the fast, like ejaculation and
intercourse. It is reportedthat'Abdullaah Ibn 'Umarsaid: "We were with
the Prophet,and a young man came and said:"O Prophet of Allaah, may I
kiss my wifewhile fasting?" The Prophetsaid: ''No." Then an old man
came and asked: "O Prophet of Allaah, may I kiss my wifewhile
fasting?" The Prophetsaid: "Yes." So,we began to look at one another.
Then, the Prophetsaid: ''I know why you are looking at each other. An
old man can control himself."Also,if someone is not safe from
committing what invalidates his fast, he probably would have sexual
intercourse, and his fasting would be rendered null. This is the view
of the Hanafi, Shaafi'i and Hanbali Schools of jurisprudence. It is
disliked to kiss one's wife if it is for the purpose of enjoying
oneself, but if there is no purpose of enjoyment, then it is not
disliked. Forexample, if the kissing is for bidding her good bye, or
as an act of mercy, then it is not disliked. Likewise, if one is safe
from committing something that would invalidate his fast, then itis
permissible for him to kiss (his wife) according to the view of the
majority of the scholars,as it was reported that'Aa'ishahnarrated
thatthe Prophetused to kiss and hug while fasting. Nonetheless, the
Maaliki School of jurisprudence, said:"Kissing is disliked for a
fasting person if it isfor the purpose of enjoyment provided that he
knows that he is safe from ejaculating or emitting Mathi, but if he
does not know that he is safe from this, then it is forbidden.
However, the juristsagreed that even if kissing is with desire, it
does not break the fast as long as this does not lead to ejaculation.
But if one kisses and ejaculates, then his fast is invalidated
according to the agreement of the four Schools of jurisprudence."
In case one discharges Mathi and not sperm by kissing, then his
fasting isnot invalidated according to the view weadopt here in
Islamweb. ImaamAn-Nawawisaid:"If one kisses a woman [i.e. his wife]
with desire and he discharges Mathi but not sperm, then this does
notinvalidate his fast according to our School of jurisprudence
without any difference of opinion. This is what Ibn Al-Munthir quoted
from Al-Hasan Al-Basri, Ash-Sha'bi, Al-Awzaa'i, Abu Haneefah and Abu
Thawr, and he said: "And this is my view." However, Maalik and Ahmad
are of the view that it breaks the fast, but our evidence is that itis
a discharge that does not necessitate Ghusl (ritual bath), so it is
like urine."
Allaah Knows best.