The Distorted Image of Muslim Women

By Sister Naasira bint Ellison, a convert to Islam
Hudaa, Jamaica, New York
Since the height of the feminist movement in thelate 70's there has
been amagnifying glass placed over the status of Muslim women.
Unfortunately, the magnifying glass thathas been used is an unusual
one. Unusual in the sense that it is very selective about which items
it will magnify; other items it will distort to such a degree that
they will no longer look familiar. I remember once reading in an "in
depth" article about the lives of Muslim women. This article
"explained" that at any time a man can divorce his wife by simply
stating "I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you". This article
can lead anyone ignorantof the Islamic ruling regarding divorce to
believe that in less than five seconds the woman is left with no
husband and is left to care for herself (and possibly children) by any
means necessary. The question that immediately poppedup in my mind
was, "Did the author innocently write that out of sincere ignorance or
was it another of the many attempts to degrade the religion of Islam
and its followers (muslims)?" It may be my own paranoia, but I tend to
believe it was the latter of the two.
The truth of the matter is that Islam has the most humane and most
just system of divorce that exists. Firstly, many options are taken
and tried before coming to the decision of the divorce. If the man and
woman decide that they can no longer live together successfully as a
husband and wife, the husband (in most cases, not always) pronounces
the divorce by saying "I divorce you". At this point the waiting
period begins. The waiting period lasts for three menstrual cycles to
assure the woman is not pregnant. This period allows the couple time
to think about what they are doing and if this is what they really
want to do. There are no lawyers involved to antagonise an already
delicate situation.
In the case that it is realised, that the woman is pregnant, the
waiting period lasts the entire time she is pregnant. During the
waiting period (whether the woman is pregnant or not) the man is
obligatedto provide food, clothing and shelter to the woman as he did
before the divorce pronouncement. If the couple carries the divorce
through to the birth of the child and the woman suckles the baby, the
man is obligated to feed and clothe both his ex-wife for the time the
woman suckles (the maximum being two years). After this weaning, the
child will be provided for by the father until he/she is no longer in
need of support.
It is quite ironic that in such an "advanced society" as America,
thereare divorce cases in which women are being forced to pay alimony
to their ex-husbands. Can this and many other things we know about the
American system of divorce compare to the Islamic system of divorce?
I have also read stories wherein it is stated that women are forced to
marry men without their consent. This in no way resembles the marriage
system in Islam. In Islaam the woman marries the man of her choice.
She may even marry someonethat her mother and/or father objects to.
The point is that it is the woman who makes the final decision as to
whomshe will marry. Once the man and the woman decide that they are
interested in one anotherfor marriage, a dowry is decided upon. A
dowry isnot a brides price but, it is a gift from the groom to the
bride. They agree upon a gift that is affordable by the groom. In the
time of the Prophet (sas), often things such as livestock and money
were given. This is a wise decision in the event that a woman becomes
divorced or widowed, she has some financial security to fall back on
even if it is for a limited amount of time. Once the man and woman are
married, the man is required to clothe,feed, shelter and educateher
(or allow her to be educated) in the same manner as he does himself.
The last distorted image that I will cover is that of the Muslim
women's dress. The western influenced media portrays our dress to be
outdated and oppressive.Needless to say however, I differ with these
adjectives. Our dress codedoes not hinder us from doing anything
productive in our lives. Muslim women maintain a variety of jobs, non
of which are devalued nor hampered due to their dress code. And as for
thetiming of muslims women's dress during these contemporary times, it
seems most appropriate due to decreasing morals in the world today.
For those who say that Islamic dress is outdated, they speak from
great ignorance. The decreasing morality and trials of this time makes
Hijaab even more in need. More than ever before sex crimes are
rampant. Although this society tells women they can wear what they
wantto wear, anytime a rape occurs the woman is the one put on trial
an one ofthe first questions is,"What were you wearing?" This concept
seems as though it is a set up directed against the so called
contemporary woman. Also there is a direct correlation between the
respect a man has for a woman and the amount of her body her body she
displays flauntingly.
In conclusion, I hope this article helped to clear up some
distorted/misunderstood aspects of Islam and women. Women in Islam are
respected and held inhigh regard. We will never find success
and/orsolutions to our problemsuntil we realise that Allaah knows best
and that this disbelieving society will ruin itself.
Source: The True Religion