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Saturday, December 29, 2012

The essential pillars of marital life

Marital happiness is a dream that all husbands and wives have had
sincethe beginning of time and many spouses are still trying to
fulfill this dream through all possible means. Nevertheless, being
awayfrom the true teachings of Islam and sound prophetic guidance has
led them to confusion between the different means: Western and
Eastern. However, when one returns to the Sunnah of the Prophet he
will inevitably reach his goal. Allaah The Almighty has granted
success to one of the callers to Allaah to compile the pillars of the
marital life, which are:
First: good intention:
This means that the spouses should begin their marital life with a
sincere intention to obtain the pleasure of Allaah The Almighty. This
would be displayed in the following matters:
1 – Maintaining ones' chastity, guarding the private parts against
committing sin, lowering the gaze and fulfilling each spouse's
responsibility towards the other.
2 – Establishing the Muslim home in concordance with the methodology
of Allaah The Almighty.
3 – Producing righteous offspring who affirm thatthere is nothing
worthy of worship except Allaah and who worship Him as He should be
worshipped.
Second: Cooperation withone another in obeying Allaah The Almighty.
Third: Establishing a Muslim home and family.
Fourth: Building the marital relationship on love, mercy and kind association.
Before talking about marital happiness, there is a set of rules that a
wife should comprehend and be fully aware of:
First: a human being has three levels:
This is specific to mental and cognitive aspects.
Second: a woman must distinguish between two things:
This is specific to instinctsand desires (the abdomen and sexual organs).
2 - Good association (affection and mercy), and this also has its components.
Satisfying the husband's needs according to his age as well as his
economic status are components of stability. The woman should knowthe
man's needs and the manner in which he thinks.
A righteous woman can achieve her husband's essential needs in terms
of security and efficiency,as stated in Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
This includes the basic needs:
Through maintaining his wealth and honor, in addition to patience,
chastity, and so on.
Through satisfying basic needs, sexual desires etc.
He is looking for a lovingwife and a friend. Add-ons:
Third, a pious woman never asks until she gives:
Such a woman gives first and then asks. A Bedouin woman offered her
daughter the following advice on her wedding day, "Be an earth for him
and he will be your sky; be a bondmaid for him and he will be your
slave."
This is an indispensable introduction that should be known before
discussing marital happiness and its components in detail.
Sufficiency:
Security:
3 - The lower level:
1 – The stability of the home, and this has its components.
2 – The middle level:
1 - The highest level:
This is specific to feelings and emotions (heart and sentiment).
Fifth: Forgiveness and pardoning.
Sixth: Calmness at times of anger.

Obligatory and optional aspects of ablution

In Islam, ablution, or Wudhoo', is to wash one's face, hands, arms,
head and feet with water. Allaah, the Most High, Says (what means): "O
you who have believed! When you rise to [perform] prayer, wash your
faces and yourforearms to the elbows and wipe over your heads and wash
your feet to the ankles..." [Quran 5:6]
Abu Hurayrah narrated that he Prophet said: "Allaah does not accept
the prayer of one who nullified his ablution until he performs it
again." [Al-Bukhaari, Muslim, AbuDaawood and At-Tirmithi]
There is a consensus among the Muslim scholars that ablution is part
of Islamic law. Therefore, it is a recognised fact of the religion.
There are many reports describing the manner inwhich the Prophet
performed ablution, and the following is one of them. Humraan, the
freedslave of 'Uthmaan bin 'Affaan narrated that 'Uthmaan once asked
for a tumbler of water in order to perform ablution; when it was
brought to him, he poured water from it over his hands and washed them
thrice, and then put his right hand inthe water container and rinsed
his mouth and washed his nose by putting water in it and then blowing
it out. Then, he washed his face thrice and then his forearms up to
the elbows thrice; then, he passed his wet hands over his head and
then washed each foot thrice. After that, 'Uthmaan said: "I saw the
Prophet perform ablution like this of mine, and he then said: "If
anyone performs ablution like that of mineand offers a two-Rak'ah
(units) prayer during which he does not think of anything else (not
related to the present prayer) then his past sins will be forgiven."
[Al-Bukhaari]
There are matters scholars did not differ regarding their obligation,
and other matters which they agreeto the fact that they are
recommended matters if neglected, one's ablutionwould still be valid.
On the other hand there are matters over which the scholars have
different opinions. In this article we will highlight the three
categories.
Obligatory Acts of Ablution:
In light of the above-mentioned verse, ablution should have certain
components which, if not fulfilled, make one's ablution void. These
are:
(i) Washing the face: This involves using the hands to pour or run
water from the top of the forehead to the bottom of the jaws, and from
one ear to the other.
(ii) Washing the arms to the elbows: The elbows must be washed, for
the Prophet did so.
(iii) Wiping the head: This means to wipe one's head with wet hands.
The apparent meaning ofthe Quranic words (which mean): "… and wipe
over your heads…" [Quran 5:6] does not imply that all of the head
needs to be wiped yet the way of the prophet is what confirms this
fact. Three different wayswere recorded of how he would wipe his head:
(a) Wiping all of his head:'Abdullaah Ibn Zayd reported that the
Prophet would wipe his entire head with his hands. He would start with
the front of his head, then move to the back, and then return his
hands to the front. [Ibn Maajah, Abu Daawood and others']
(b) Wiping over the turban only: Bilaal reported that the Prophet
said: "Wipe over your shoes and head covering." [Ahmad].It should be
noted that the condition for wiping over the turban and socks is that
prior ablution was performed before putting them on. Many Prophetic
narrations have been related on this topic by Imaams Al-Bukhaari,
Muslim and others .
(c) Wiping over the front portion of the scalp and the turban:
Al-MugheerahIbn Shu'bah stated: "The Messenger of Allaah performed
ablution and wiped over the frontportion of his scalp, his turban and
his socks." [Muslim]
There is, however, no strong Prophetic narration that clearly states
that he wiped over part of his head, even though the verse [Quran:
5:6] apparently implies it. It is also not sufficient just to wipe
over locks of hair that proceed from the head or along the sides of
the head.
(iv) Washing the feet andthe heels: This has been confirmed in
narrations from the Prophet concerning his actions and statements. Ibn
'Umar said warning against not properly and entirely washing the feet:
"(Once), the Prophet lagged behind us on one of our journeys. He
caught up with us after we had delayed the afternoon prayer. We
started to make ablution and were (only) wiping over our feet (and not
washing them) when he said: "Woe to these heels! Save them from the
Hell-fire" repeating it twice or thrice." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]
Optional Aspects:
The following acts are not obligatory, yet, once done, are rewarded
for since they constitute the way the Prophet used to perform
ablution:
1. Brushing the teeth with a tooth-stick (Miswaak).
2. Passing wet fingers through the beard.
3. Passing the fingers of both hands against each other, and also
passing them through the toes.
4. Washing each limb three times.
Controversial issues:
There are certain issues pertaining to ablution which are
controversial among Muslim scholars; some classify them as obligatory,
while others classify them as optional. Such issues are:
1. Intention: This is the desire to do the action and to please Allaah
by following His command. It is purely an act of the heart, for the
tongue (verbal pronouncement and so on) has nothing todo with it.
2. Reciting the 'Basmalah' (saying: 'Bismillaah, i.e. 'In the name
of Allaah).
3. Rinsing the mouth.
4. Sniffing water into the nose and blowing it out.
5. Following the prescribed sequence.
6. Washing each part without pause, to ensure that no part dries
up before the next step.
7. Wiping the two ears (inside and outside).

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Sacrifices - , Condition of saying Bismillaah in order for meat to be halaal.

What is the ruling on saying Bismillaah over the sacrifice, especially
ifthe slaughterman does not pray?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Meat slaughtered by onewho does not pray is nothalaal, whether he says
the name of Allaah over it or not. See question no. 70278 .
With regard to saying Bismillah when slaughtering meat, the fuqaha'
differed concerning that and there are three points ofview:
1 – That it is mustahabb only, which is the view of al-Shaafa'i.
2 – That it is a condition of the meat being halaal,but if a person
forgets it by mistake it is still permissible. This is the view of the
Hanafis, Maalikis and Hanbalis.
3 – That it is essential and cannot be waived under any circumstances,
whether it is omitted by mistake or deliberately or out of ignorance.
This is the view of the Zaahiris and was narrated from Maalik and
Ahmad, and it was the view of some of the salaf; it was also the view
favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah. Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may
Allaah have mercy on him) said:It is the correct view.
He also said: They quoted as evidence the general meaning of the verse
in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Eat not (O believers) of that (meat) on which Allaah's Name has not
been pronounced (at thetime of the slaughtering of the animal)"
[al-An'aam 6:121]
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"If the blood flows and the name of Allaah is mentioned, then eat."
Soin order for the meat to be halaal, it is essential that the name of
Allaah be mentioned. It is well known that if the condition is not
met, the thing is invalid, so if the name of Allaah is not mentioned,
the meat is not halaal, as with any other condition. Hence ifa person
prays but he forgot to do wudoo', he has to repeat the
prayer.Similarly if he prays not realizing that he had broken his
wudoo' because he thought that breaking wind does not invalidate
wudoo', or that eating camel meat does not invalidate wudoo', for
example, then he must repeat it, because the thing is not valid
without the conditions being met. Soif he slaughtered it but the blood
did not flow, by mistake or out of ignorance, then it is not halaal,
and the same applies if he does not mention the name of Allaah,
because it is mentioned in the same hadeeth. End quote fromal-Sharh
al-Mumti' (6/358).
See also: al-'Inaayah Sharh al-Hidaayah (9/489); al-Fawaakih
al-Dawaani (1/382); and al-Majmoo' (8/387).
Based on this, he should not slaughter sacrifices or anything else
unless he is one of those who pray regularly, and it is essential that
he mentions the name of Allaah when slaughtering and says Bismillaah
(in the name of Allaah).
It is also mustahabb to say takbeer, so he should say: Bismillaah, wa
Allaahu akbar (In the name of Allaah and Allaah is Most Great).
Al-Bukhaari (5558) and Muslim (1966) narrated that Anas (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) sacrificed two horned black and white rams. I
saw him placing his foot on their sides, and he said the name of
Allaah and he said takbeer, then he slaughtered them with his own
hand.
And Allaah knows best.

Sacrifices - , Slaughtering the sacrifice is better than giving its price in charity.

My brother and I each have a house and on Eid in sha Allaah we want to
slaughter one ram and give the other in charity without actually
slaughtering it. Do we have to slaughter the two rams or not?.
Praise be to Allaah.
What is prescribed in your case is for you to slaughter the two
sacrifices. It is not acceptable for you to share in one sacrifice,
because you stated that you live separately from your brother. We have
listed the conditions for sharing sacrifices in the answer to question
no. 96741 .
There we mentioned thedifference of scholarly opinion concerning the
ruling on sacrifices, and stated that it is a confirmed Sunnah (Sunnah
mu'akkadah) according to the majority and it is obligatory according
to a few fuqaha'.
The scholars stated that slaughtering the sacrifice is better than
giving its price in charity. Based on that, you can offer the
sacrifice and give the meat in charity, or you can delegate someone to
sacrifice it on your behalf in countries or regions where there is a
great deal of need.
It says in Mataalib Ooli al-Nuha (2/473): Slaughtering the sacrifice
or the 'aqeeqahis better than giving its price in charity. This
wasstated by Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him). The same
applies to the hadiy (sacrifice offered during Hajj). The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) slaughtered his sacrifice
and hadiy, as did the caliphs who came after him. If giving the price
in charity was better they would not have failed to do that. End
quote.
And Allaah knows best.

Sacrifices - , The age that the animal should have reached for hadiy and udhiyah.

Is there a specific age forthe hadiy and it is not permissible to
slaughter an animal younger than that? What is the meaning of the
words ofAllah (interpretation of the meaning): "sacrifice a Hady
(animal, i.e. a sheep, a cow, or a camel) such as you can afford"
[al-Baqarah 2:196]?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The shar'i evidence indicates that what is acceptable in the case
ofsheep is that which has reached the age of six months; in the case
of goats it is that which hasreached the age of one year; in the case
of cattleit is that which has reached the age of two years; and in the
case of camels it is that which has reached the age of five years.
Anything younger than that is not acceptable as a hadiy or udhiyah.
This is what is meant by "a Hady such as you can afford," because the
texts from the Qur'aan and Sunnah explain one another.
And Allah is the source ofstrength; may Allah send blessings and peace
upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and Companions. End quote.
Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn 'Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz,Shaykh 'Abd al-Razzaaq
'Afeefi, Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh 'Abd-Allaah ibn
Qa'ood
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah, 11/376

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70 MAJOR SINS IN ISLAM

01. Associating anything with ALLAH
02. Murder
03. Practising magic
04. Not Praying
05. Not paying Zakat
06. Not fasting on a Day of Ramadan without excuse
07. Not performing Hajj, while being able to do so
08. Disrespect to parents
09. Abandoning relatives
10. Fornication and Adultery
11. Homosexuality (sodomy)
12. Interest (Riba)
13. Wrongfully consuming the property of an orphan
14. Lying about Allah and His Messenger(sala allahualayhe wa salam)
15. Running away from the battlefield
16. A leader deceiving hispeople and being unjust to them
17. Pride and arrogance
18. Bearing false witness
19. Drinking Khamr (wine)
20. Gambling
21. Slandering chaste women
22. Stealing from the spoils of war
23. Stealing
24. Highway Robbery
25. Taking false oath
26. Oppression
27. Illegal gain
28. Consuming wealth acquired
unlawfully
29. Committing suicide
30. Frequent lying
31. Judging unjustly
32. Giving and Accepting bribes
33. Woman imitating man and man imitating woman
34. Being cuckold
35. Marrying a divorced woman in order to make her lawful for the husband
36. Not protecting oneself from urine
37. Showing-off
38. Learning knowledge of the religion for the sake of this world and
concealing that knowledge
39. Betrayal of trust
40. Recounting favours
41. Denying Allah's Decree
42. Listening to people's private conversations / eavesdropping
43. Carrying tales
44. Cursing
45. Breaking contracts
46. Believing in fortune-tellers and astrologers
47. A woman's bad conduct towards her husband
48. Making statues and pictures
49. Lamenting, wailing, tearing the clothing, and doing other things
of thissort when an affliction befalls
50. Treating others unjustly
51. Overbearing conduct toward the wife, the servant, the weak, and animals
52. Offending one's neighbour
53. Offending and abusing Muslims
54. Offending people andhaving an arrogant attitude toward them
55. Trailing one's garment in pride
56. Men wearing silk and gold
57. A slave running away from his master
58. Slaughtering an animal which has been dedicated to anyone other than ALLAH
59. To knowingly ascribe one's paternity to a father other than one's own
60. Arguing and disputing violently
61. Withholding excess water
62. Giving short weight or measure
63. Feeling insecure from ALLAH's Plan
64. Offending ALLAH's righteous friends
65. Not praying in congregation but praying alone without anexcuse
66. Persistently missing Friday Prayers without any excuse
67. Usurping the rights ofthe heir through bequests
68. Deceiving and plotting evil
69. Spying for the enemy of the Muslims
70. Cursing or insulting any of the Companions ofALLAH's Messenger
(Sala allahu alayhe wa salam)
May Allah (swt) Help us abstaining from falling into Major Sins —

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Should he respond to non-Muslims when they wish him a Happy New Year?.

Is it permissible for me to say to non-Muslims “And the same to you” when they wish me a Happy New Year or say Best Wishes?. Praise be to Allaah. It is not permissible to greet or congratulate the kuffaar on the occasion of Christmas, New Year or any of their other holidays, and it is not permissible to respond to them when they greet us on those occasions, because they are not festivals that are prescribed in our religion, and returning their greeting is an affirmation and approval of them. The Muslim should be proud of his religion and its rulings, and he should be keen to call others and convey to them the religion of Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted. Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about the ruling on greeting the kuffaar on the occasion of Christmas and how we should respond when they greet us on this occasion. Is it permissible to go to the parties that they hold onthis occasion? Is a person sinning if he does any of the things mentioned without intending to, and he only does it to be nice, or because of or shyness or embarrassment or other reasons? Is it permissible to imitate them in that? He replied: Greeting the kuffaar on the occasion of Christmas or any of their other religious holidays is haraam according to scholarly consensus, as was stated by Ibn al-Qayyim in his book Ahkaam Ahl al-Dhimmah,where he says: "Congratulating the kuffaar on the rituals that belong only to themis haraam by consensus, as is congratulating them on their festivals and fasts by saying ‘A happy festival to you’ or ‘May you enjoy your festival,’ and so on. If theone who says this has been saved from kufr, it is still forbidden. It is likecongratulating someonefor prostrating to the cross, or even worse than that. It is as great a sin as congratulating someone for drinking wine, or murdering someone, or having illicit sexual relations, and so on. Many of thosewho have no respect for their religion fall into this error; they do not realize the offensivenessof their actions. Whoever congratulates aperson for his disobedience or bid’ah or kufr exposes himself to the wrath and anger of Allaah." End quote. Congratulating the kuffaar on their religious festivals is haraam to the extent described by Ibn al-Qayyim because it implies that one accepts or approves of their rituals of kufr, even if one would not accept those things for oneself. But the Muslim should not accept the rituals of kufr or congratulate anyone else for them, because Allaah does not accept any of that at all, as He says (interpretation of the meaning): "If you disbelieve, then verily, Allaah is not in need of you, He likes notdisbelief for His slaves. And if you are grateful (by being believers), He is pleased therewith for you. . [al-Zumar 39:7] ". . . This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islaam as your religion . . [al-Maa’idah 5:3] So congratulating them is forbidden, whether they are one’s colleagues at work or otherwise. If they greet us on the occasion of their festivals, we should not respond, because these are not our festivals, andbecause they are not festivals which are acceptable to Allaah. These festivals are innovations in their religions, and even those which may have been prescribed formerly have been abrogated by the religion of Islaam, with which Allaah sent Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to the whole of mankind. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "Whoever seeks a religion other than Islaam, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers." [Aal ‘Imraan 3:85] It is haraam for a Muslim to accept invitations on such occasions, because this is worse than congratulating them as it implies taking part in their celebrations. Similarly, Muslims are forbidden to imitate the kuffaar by having parties on such occasions, or exchanging gifts, or giving out sweets or food, or taking time off work, etc., because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:"Whoever imitates a people is one of them." Shaykh al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyah said in his book Iqtidaa’ al-Siraat al-Mustaqeem Mukhaalifat Ashaab al-Jaheem: "Imitating them in some of their festivals implies that oneis pleased with their false beliefs and practices, and gives them the hope that they may have the opportunity to humiliateand mislead the weak End quote from Majmoo’Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 3/44. And Allaah knows best.

Advice to a sister who is going to get married.

Please advise me. I am a girl who is going to get married, and I want some advice. How should I start my new life in a way that will please Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, and so that Allah will bless this marriage?. Praise be to Allaah. We ask Allah to make you steadfast and to cause your marriage to go ahead in a manner that He loves and is pleased with. Our advice to you is to fear Allah in secret and openly, and strive to please Him, may He be exalted, avoid that which incurs His wrath, turn to Him, put your trust in Him, seek His help, and seek His pleasure by pleasing your husband. Imam Ahmad (18524) narrated from al-Husayn ibn Mihsan that a paternal aunt of his came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) concerning some need of hers, and when her need was met, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do you have a husband?” She said: Yes. He said: “How are you with him?” She said:I do not fall short in serving him and pleasing him, except that which is beyond me. He said: “Watch howyou are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell.” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘, 1509 So start your life with your husband by hastening to obey him, and responding to his requests and needs so long as that does not involve any disobedience towards Allah, may He be exalted. Let cooperation in obeying Allah be one of the aims of your marriage. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up atnight and prays, and he wakes up his wife, and ifshe refuses (to get up) he sprinkles water in herface. And may Allah havemercy on a woman who gets up at night and prays, and she wakes up her husband, and if he refuses (to get up) she sprinkles water in his face.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 1308; classed assaheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood Pay attention to the way you dress and adorn yourself; always appear in front of him inthe best way he likes to see you, and you should not stop smiling when you are in his sight. Let cleanliness be your concern; do not let him see the house except in a tidy and clean state, and do not let him smell anything but pleasant fragrances. You should also pay attention to what kinds of food he likes. The man usually comes homefrom work exhausted and he likes to find joy and happiness in his home that will compensate him for his tiredness and exhaustion. That can only be achieved with good management on the part of a righteous woman, who welcomes him warmly and show that she is happy to see him. If he gets angry someday, then hasten to please him, even if you think that you were not in the wrong. Thus you will deserve to be one ofthe women of Paradise. See what he likes and doit, and see what he dislikes and avoid it, so long as that is in accordance with the laws and religion of Allah. Do not argue and debatewith him too much, because that is blameworthy and that does not lead to anything good. If you see him committing a sin, then object to it in a kind andgentle manner, with wise words and reminding him of Allah. If he annoys or harms you, bear it with patience and do not hasten to complain to any of your family members or relatives, because disclosing the secrets of the household and talking about problems to others are things that will upset thehusband and provoke conflict. Pay attention to his parents and sisters, for this comes under the heading of kindness thatbrings a woman closer to her husband. We will conclude with a reminder of the words of the Prophet (blessingsand peace of Allah be upon him): “If a woman prays her five (daily prayers), fasts her month(Ramadan), guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: Enter Paradise through whichever of the gates of Paradise you wish.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad, 1664, from‘Abd ar-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf (may Allah be pleased with her); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘, 660. We ask Allah to bless youboth and bring you together in goodness.

Signs of Qiyamah - , A List of the Major Signs

Auf bin Malik (R.A.) says: Icame to Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi
Wasallam) while he was in his skin tent during the Tabuk expedition.
Hesaid to me, "Count six things before the adventof Qiyamah:
*. My death
*. The conquest of Jerusalem
*. Mass deaths amongst you people, just as when sheep die in large
numbers during an epidemic
*. Abundance of wealth to such an extent that if a person were to be
given a hundred Dinarshe will still not be satisfied
*. General anarchy and bloodshed, that no Arab household will bespared
from it
*. Then a life of peace as a result of a peace agreement between you
and the Banil Asfaar (Romans) which they will break and attack you
with a forceconsisting of eighty flags and under each flag will be an
army of twelve thousand men."
(Bukhari).

Signs of Qiyamah - , The Minor Signs of the Last Day

Qiyamah will come when...
Hadhrat Abu Musa Ash'ari (R.A.) narrates that Rasulallah (Sallallahu
Alayhii Wassallam) said,"Qiyamah will come...
*. When it will be regarded as a shame toact on Quranic injunctions.
*. When untrustworthy people will be regarded as trustworthy and the
trustworthy will be regarded as untrustworthy.
*. When it will be hot in winter.
*. When the length of days is stretched, i.e. a journey of a few days
is covered in a matter of hours.
*. When orators and lecturers lie openly.
*. When people dispute over petty issues.
*. When women with children come displeased on account of them bearing
offspring, and barren women remain happy on account of having no
responsibility of offspring.
*. When oppression, jealousy, and greed become the order of the day.
*. When people blatantly follow their passions and whims.
*. When lies prevail over the truth.
*. When violence, bloodshed and anarchy become common.
*. When immorality overtakes shamelessness and is perpetrated publicly.
*. When legislation matters pertaining to Deen is handed over tothe
worst elements of the Ummat, and if people accept them and are
satisfied with their findings, then such persons will not smell the
fragrance of Jannat.
*. When the offspring become a cause of grief and anger (for their parents).
The following is part of alengthy Hadith narrated by Hadhrat Abdullah
Ibn Mas'ood (R.A.) when he inquired from Rasulallah(Sallallahu Alayhi
Wassallam) about the Signs of Qiyamah.
*. Music and musical instruments will be found in every home.
*. People will indulge in homosexuality.
*. There will be an abundance of illegitimate children.
*. There will be an abundance of critics, tale-carriers, back- biters
and taunters in society.
*. People will establish ties with strangers andsever relations with
their near and dear ones.
*. Hypocrites will be in control of the affairs ofthe community and
evil, immoral people will be at the helm of business establishments.
*. The Masjid will be decorated, but the hearts of the people will be
devoid of guidance.
*. The courtyards of Masjids will be built beautifully and high
mimbars (pulpits) will be erected.
*. Gangsters and evil people will prevail.
*. Various wines will be consumed excessively.
Auf bin Malik (R.A.) says: Icame to Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi
Wasallam) while he was in his skin tent during the Tabuk expedition.
Hesaid to me, "Count six things before the adventof Qiyamah:
1 My death
2 The conquest of Jerusalem
3 Mass deaths amongst you people, just as whensheep die in large
numbers during an epidemic
4 Abundance of wealth to such an extent that if a person were to be
given a hundred Dinars he will still not be satisfied
5 General anarchy and bloodshed, that no Arab household will be spared from it
6 Then a life of peace as a result of a peace agreement between youand
the Banil Asfaar
(Romans) which they will break and attack you with a force consisting
of eighty flagsand under each flag will be an army of twelve thousand
men." (Hadith: Sahih Bukhari).
IRAQ and SYRIA
Abu Nadhrah says: "We were sitting in the company of Jabir bin
Abdullah (R.A.) when he said: 'Soon the people ofIRAQ will neither
receive any food (grain) nor anymoney.'" We asked,"Why would such a
thinghappen?" He replied,"Because of the non-Arabs." (i.e they
willprevent food from goinginto Iraq, in the form of"sanctions" to
this day.) He then said: "Soon the people of Shaam (SYRIA) will
neither receive any money nor grain." We asked as to why this would
happen. He replied: "Because of the Romans (christians)."
CONCEITED PEOPLE:
Hadhrat Abbas (R.A) narrates that Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alayhi
Wassallam) has said,"Islam will spread far and wide, across the seas.
Horses will cross the land and seas in the cause of Jihaad. Then a
time will come wherein a group of people will emerge which recites the
Quraan. They will claim,
'We have recited the Quraan and is there anyone who understands the
Quraan better than us? There is NO ONE more proficient than us in the
study of the Quraan.'
Then Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam) asked the Sahaba, "Do
you see any good in their claims?" The Sahaba replied,"No". Rasulallah
(Sallallahu Alayhi Wassallam) said, "But these conceited claimants
will be from my Ummah and will be the fuel of the Fire."

Friday, December 28, 2012

Spiritual Retreat [Event]

Spiritual Retreat 2012
The Spiritual Retreat programme is an attemptto offer the community a
'retreat' during the festive period. It is aimedto enlighten us in
regards to our spiritual needs and the manner in which we can nurture
and strengthen our spirituality so that we can establish a connection
with Allah سبحانه و تعالى.
Alhumdulillah. we have a great opportunity to sit in the company of
the pious and benefit from their insight and talks.
May Allah سبحانه و تعالى grant us all the ability to strengthen our
Imaan and better ourselves for the future. Aameen.
You can listen live to the programme on jamemasjid.co.uk or tunein on
the local receiver frequency 454.700
[Note: Any readers listening to the programme can share their thoughts
and possibly share some of the lessons learnt from the event and email
it or post it in the comments. Insha Allah it will be beneficial for
all the readers]

Nikah or Nothing !

Love doesn't come before marriage. Allah swt has clearly stated"And
among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among
yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has put
loveand mercy between your hearts: Verily in that are signs for those
who reflect." (Quran 30:21) First comes marriage then comes love.

Hafiz Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali and Sufism

Below is the first part of the fifth chapter of the incomplete yet
ongoing translation of Shaykh 'Abd al-Hafiz's Mawqif A'immat
al-Harakat al-Salafiyyah min al-Tasawwuf wa al-Sufiyyah . In this
chapter, the author, a student and khalifah of Shaykh al-Hadith
Mawlana Muhammad Zakariyya al-Kandhalawi, produces a series of
excerpts from the writings of Imam Hafiz Abu al-Faraj 'Abd al-Rahman
ibn Shihab Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali that demonstrate the positive manner
by which the shaykh regarded Sufism and the Sufis. All of the excerpts
in this section are from Hafiz Ibn Rajab'sAl-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat
al-Hanabilah . [ 1 ]
The majority of Hafiz Ibn Rajab's books are full of mention of the
Sufi shaykhs , and their wordsand condition. We shall suffice here
with several quotations from his excellent book Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat
al-Hanabilah . All of those who he mentions and who we shall mention
are Hanbalipredecessors, or from those to whom the shaykhs of the
Salafi movement attribute themselves. By this, the purpose will be
achieved in the best way, insha-Allah , and it is He Most High upon
Whom trust is placed.
1. Hafiz Ibn Rajab mentions in Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat al-Hanabilah
(part 1, p. 211) in the biography of Imam Abu Muhammad 'Abdullah
ibn'Ali al-Baghdadi:
Hafiz al-Diya al-Maqdisi said: Abu al-Fadl 'Abd al-Wahid ibn Sultan
informed us in Baghdad, that Muhammad al-Muqriinformed us that he
(Imam Abu Muhammad 'Abdullah ibn 'Ali al-Baghdadi) gave them ijazah
and recited the following poem to himself:
The abandoning of affectation ( takalluf ) in Tasawwuf is necessary ( wajib ),
What is impossible for there to exist is affectation among the fuqara , [ 2 ]
They are a people, when darkness spreads you seethem,
Prostrating in the way the reciters [of the Quran] prostrate,
Their wajd – due to various causes — has a place,
But it is that fame can enter the limbs [on account of the wajd thus
leading to spiritual ruin],
They do not raise their voices loudly in respect to that (i.e. the wajd ),
They remain aloof from places of desire,
They continuously fast uninterruptedly,
This is so in difficulty, if itcomes, and at times of ease,
You see them among people when they come,
Like bright stars in the dark,
Their wishes prove to be true and their intentions are mighty,
Their stations are lofty, stationed on the star of Orion,
They have been faithful to the Lord in reality and in intention,
And they keep in mind the rights of Allah throughout [the day and night],
Dancing is a defect according to them in their covenant,
And so is also the qadib [ 3 ] without any obscuring [of the matter],
These are the distinguishing features of the pious and those who have passed,
From among the masters of asceticism and 'ulama ,
So when you see someone contrary to their actions,
Then judge him to be in the thick of deviation.
2. Hafiz Ibn Rajab mentions in Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat al-Hanabilah
(part 1, p. 306):
'Uthman ibn Marzuq ibn Humayd ibn Salamah al-Qurashi, the jurist and
ascetic, Abu 'Amr, the resident of the lands of Egypt. He remained in
thecompany of Sharaf al-Islam 'Abd al-Wahhab ibn al-Hanbali in
Damascus and mastered fiqh . He made Egypt his home and remained there
till he died. He issued fatwas there, taught, debated and spoke
regarding the Knowing of Allah ( ma'arif ) and spiritual realities (
haqa'iq ). The spiritual training of the murids in Egypt was his
responsibility and a largenumber of pious individuals attribute
themselves to him. The shaykhs praised him and he gained complete
acceptance from the eliteand the lay masses. Many people benefitted
from his company.
He would exalt Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir. [ 4 ] It is said:That he joined
him along with Abu Madyan in the plain of 'Arafat and that Shaykh 'Abd
al-Qadir gave them both the mantle ( khirqah ), and that they heard
from hima portion of his narrated hadiths.
He heard hadith and narrated them. Abu al-Thana Mahmud ibn 'Abdullah
ibn Matruh al-Misri al-Hanbali and Abu al-Thana Hamd ibn Maysarah ibn
Ahmad ibn Musa ibn Ghana'im al-Ghudrani al-Hanbali al-Misri al-Kamikhi
— who were both pious individuals — heard hadith from him. The
firstwas a reciter of the Quran, he pronounced the Quran beautifully.
The second was a man who carried out a lot of dhikr and tasbih ;
al-Mundhiri has narrated from him and he recited the Quran from the
first.
As to Shaykh Abu 'Amr, heperformed many miraclesand was a man of many
spiritual states ( hal ), lofty stations ( maqam ) and excellent
speech according to the way of the people of Tariqah. Among that is
his saying: "The way to Knowing Him ( ma'rifah ) and His qualities (
sifat ) lies in contemplation ( fikr ) andpondering over His commands
and verses. There is no way for thoseof intellect to recognise his
actual being. If godly wisdom was to reach its end within the limit of
the intellect, and if it were that godly power were to be confined to
[people's] understandingof knowledge, then this would be limiting
[His] wisdom and a defect in [His] power. However, the secrets of the
Eternal are veiled from minds in the way that the majesties of the All
Mighty are veiled from eyes. Surely, the meaningof the attribute of
Allah ( wasf ) returns to the attribute, the intellect is blind from
perceiving Him ( idrak ) and the King's home is in the kingdom. The
creation reaches His likeness and the quest becomes pressed for His
figure: 'And the voices will turn low in awe for the Rahman. So, you
will hear not but whispering.' (20:108)…"
Among his speech there is … "the attributes of theknower of Allah (
'arif ) include fear ( khashyah )and awe ( haybah ). Be warned of
imitating the people of hal before perfecting the path and setting
feet firm for it shall break you. The proof of your confusion is your
remaining in the company of the confusedand the proof of your being in
a state alienation from everything apart from Allah ( wahshah )is your
being intimate with those who feel alienated…"
It has been narrated fromShaykh Abu Ishaq Ibrahim ibn Muzaybil
al-Darir, the faqih , the Shafi'i, the ascetic — mayAllah Most High
have mercy on him — that he said: "Shaykh Abu 'Amr ibn Marzuq was from
among the awtad of Egypt. His mention was widespread and many miracles
appeared from him. The Nile greatly increased in depth one year and it
was close thatEgypt would be flooded and it had taken over land until
it was close that the time to sow seeds would pass. People came to
Shaykh Abu 'Amr ibn Marzuq and made a hue because of this. He went to
the bank of the Nile and performed wudu in it. At that moment it
decreased by two cubits ( dhira' ) and came off the land until it
became clearand the people were ableto sow the next day."
He said: "Some years, the Nile did not rise at all anda major portion
of time to till the land had passed; prices increased and destruction
was feared. The people came to Shaykh Abu 'Amr ibn Marzuq and made a
hue, so he went to the bank ofthe Nile, performed wudu in it using a
jug that was with his attendant. The Nile rose that very day.
Itsincrease continued until it reached its limit. Allah sent with it
many benefits and He placed blessings ( barakah ) in the people's
harvests thatyear."
I read the writings of Shaykh Nasih al-Din 'Abd al-Rahman ibn Najm ibn
al-Hanbali, who said: "I visited Shaykh 'Uthman ibn Marzuq in Egypt,
whosaid that Asad al-Din Shirkuh [ 5 ] will come to these lands and go
back, he shall not gain anything. He shall then return and go back and
shall not take this country. Then he shall return and — I don't know
if it was the third or the fourth — take control of Egypt. It happened
as he mentioned. I asked him: 'My master, where did you get this
from?' He said: 'I swear by Allah oh my son, I don't know the unseen.
I have a habit of seeing the Prophet of Allah (may Allah bless himand
grant him peace). I see him in some gatherings and he tells me.' I
said: It is possible he means in a dream…"
Shaykh Taqi al-Din Ibn Taymiyyah — may Allah Most High have mercy on
him – said: "And over there are groups which attribute themselves to
Shaykh Abu 'Amr ibn Marzuq and they say suchthings that are contrary
to that on which Shaykh Abu 'Amr is on. This shaykh would attribute
himself to the madhhab of Imam Ahmad and was from the companions of
Shaykh 'Abd al-Wahhab ibn Shaykh Abu al-Faraj, whereas these groups
attribute themselves to the madhhab of al-Shafi'i and speak such words
that are contrary to the madhhab of al-Shafi'i andAhmad, rather
contrary to all of the imams of the Muslims and their shaykh Shaykh
Abu 'Amr.
As to this Shaykh Abu 'Amr, he is a shaykh from the shaykhs of the
peopleof knowledge and religion; his example is like theirs…
3. Hafiz Ibn Rajab mentions in Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat al-Hanabilah
(part 1, p. 290):
'Abd al-Qadir ibn Abu Salih ibn 'Abdullah ibn Janki Dost ibn Abu
'Abdullah ibn 'Abdullah al-Jili, the ascetic, the shaykh of the era,
the exemplar of the knowers ( 'arifs ) of Allah, the sultan of the
shaykhs , themaster of the people of Tariqah in his age, the reviver
of the faith, Abu Muhammad, the man of many spiritual stations ( maqam
), miracles, sciences, inner knowledge and famous spiritual conditions
( hal ).
Some people mention hislineage reaches 'Ali ibn Abu Talib (may Allah
be pleased with him)… he was born in the year 470 ah or 471 ah in
Kilan and came to Baghdad in his youth. He heard hadiths there from
Abu Ghalib ibn al-Baqillani, Ja'far al-Sarraj, Abu Bakr ibn Sawsan,
Ibn Bayan, Abu Talib ibn Yusuf, Ibn Khushaysh and Ubayy al-Narsi. He
gained proficiency in fiqh from Qadi Abu Sa'd al-Makhrimi and Abu
al-Khattab al-Kaludhani. It is said that he also studied under 'Ala
ibn 'Aqil and Qadi Abu al-Husayn, and gained expertise in the madhhab
, the differences within it, and its principles etc. He studied
literature under Abu Zakariyya al-Tabrayzi. He remained in the company
of Shaykh Hammad al-Dabbas the ascetic andlectured at the madrasah of
his Shaykh al-Makharrimi. He remained there till he died and was
buried there.
Ibn al-Jawzi said: "This madrasah was very quaint and was handed over
to 'Abd al-Qadir whowould lecture people. He became well known for his
asceticism. He had a good manner of behaviour and would remain silent.
The madrasah became small on account of the great number of people. He
used to sit close to the city wall, leaning on the ribat [ 6 ] and
many peoplewould visit him at his gathering. The madrasah was improved
and expanded, and the general masses rallied together in building it.
He remained at his madrasah , teaching and preaching until he died."
Ibn al-Sam'ani mentioned him: "He was the imam of the Hanbalis and
their shaykh during his age; he was a jurist, pious, devout, one who
would give much in charity, a person of widespread mention, a person
who was constantly in thought and someone who wouldweep very quickly.
I wrote [knowledge] from him. He used to live close to the Bab al-Azaj
in the madrasah that they built for him…"
I say: Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir appeared to the people and sat to lecture
after 520 ah. He received widespread acceptance from people. They
firmly believed in his religiosity and piety, and benefited from him,
his words and advice. The Ahl al-Sunnahtriumphed with his appearance.
His life, sayings, miracles and kashf became famous. Kings would be in
awe ofhim, what must have been the state of their subjects.
Shaykh Muwaffaq al-Din, the author of al-Mughni , said: "I have never
heard so many miracles being narrated about anyone more than what has
beennarrated regarding Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir. I have seen none being
exalted on account of thereligion more than him."
Shaykh 'Izz al-Din ibn 'Abd al-Salam, the shaykh of the Shafi'is,
said: "The miracles of none of the shaykhs have been narrated with
such widespread agreement ( tawatur ) save those of Shaykh 'Abd
al-Qadir, for indeed his miracles have been narrated with tawatur ."
… and I have also read the writings of Ibn al-Hanbali that his
maternal uncle Abu al-Hasan ibn Naja, the orator ( wa'iz ), met Shaykh
'Abd al-Qadir. He narrated from him that he said: "On the day of 'IdI
went to the musalla early and went to the place where Shaykh 'Abd
al-Qadir used to offer his prayer." He said: "Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir
came and with him was a large group of people. People were kissing his
hand and he performed two units of prayer before the 'Id prayer. So I
said tomyself, what is this prayer? It is from the Sunnah that no
supererogatory prayers are offered before it. When he had made the
salam [at the end of his prayer], he turned to me and said: 'There is
a reason for it.'"
… Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir, may Allah Most High havemercy on him, has
excellent words in regards to Tawhid, the attributes of Allah ( sifat
),destiny ( qadr ) and in relation to the sciences of ma'rifah which
is in agreement to the Sunnah. He authored Al-Ghunyah li Talibi Tariq
al-Haqq , which is famous, and Futuh al-Ghayb . His students gathered
much of his advices which were delivered in his gatherings. He adhered
firmly to the Sunnah in the issue of the attributesof Allah and
destiny etc and was profound in refuting those who opposed it…
I have also narrated fromthe writings of Sayf ibn al-Majd al-Hafiz: "I
heard the shaykh , the ascetic, 'Ali ibn Salman al-Baghdadi, who is
popularly known as al-Khabbaz (the Bread Maker), at his ribat in the
western part of Baghdad narrate from Shaykh 'Abdal-Qadir al-Jili — how
remarkable was he, he was a man of such kashf and miracles that have
not been narrated from anyone of his time — that he said: 'There will
not be a wali of Allah Most High, save that his beliefs will be that
of Ahmad, may Allah be pleased with him…'"
Ibn al-Najjar said: "I heard Abu Muhammad al-Akhfash say, 'I used to
enter on Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir in the middle of winter when it was
severely cold. He would be dressed in a single tunic and on his head
would be a cap. Sweat would come out of his body and around him would
be someone who would fan him as if it is in the height of heat."
… Ibn al-Jawzi said: "Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir died on a Saturday night,8
Rabi' al-Akhir — and some have said it was the9 th — 561 ah After the
maghrib prayer. He was buried immediately at the madrasah and was
ninety years old."
I heard that he would sayat the time of his death: "With ease, with
ease." He would then say: "Peace be upon you also, peace be upon you
also ( wa 'alaykum al-salam ). I am coming to you, I am coming to
you."
4. Hafiz Ibn Rajab mentions in Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat al-Hanabilah
(part 1, p. 384):
Sa'd ibn 'Uthman ibn Marzuq ibn Humayd ibn Salamah al-Qurashi,
al-Misri by birth and al-Baghdadi in terms of residence, the jurist,
the ascetic, Abu al-Khayr, the son of Shaykh Abu 'Amr who was
mentioned before… He learned fiqh in the madhhab in Baghdad under Abu
al-Fath ibn al-Manniy andwould fervently attend his lectures. He heard
[hadith] from Abu Muhammad ibn al-Khashshab and others. He gained
widespread acceptance from the eliteand general public. He was god
fearing, an ascetic and one who worshipped a lot.
I have read the writings of Nasih al-Din ibn al-Hanbali regarding
him:"He was preoccupied in memorising the book Al-Wajhayn wa
al-Riwayatayn , which was authored by Qadi Abu Ya'la. He was in
relation to asceticism, piety, cleanliness and abstinence in food at a
level which would renderunable many of those who strove hard in
worship. He would walk with his head lowered gathering paper which had
been written on until he had gathered much. Using a helper he would
take it to the river bank and take responsibility in washing them and
then letting them flow with the water. If he asked anyone for a need,
he would give them some due even if it was lighting a lamp for him… A
person in Baghdad sawthe Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him
peace) in a dream, and he was saying: 'If it wasn't for Shaykh Sa'd,
then punishment would befall you.' Shaykh Sa'd then came for Friday
prayers and he had no knowledge of this dream.The people busied
themselves with him, taking blessings from him. They crowded round him
and pushed him several times. It wereas if a caller was calling out in
the hearts of people and the shaykh was, meanwhile, saying: 'I seek
Allah's refuge fromtribulation. What's happened to me and what's
happened to the people?' This continued until the people left him and
he was able to save himself from them."
Al-Qadisi said: "He was one of the ascetics, the abdals and awtads . [
7 ] A person to whom people would travel and whoever is devoted to
Allah then people turn to them. He would fast during the day and
standduring the night. He came to Baghdad and stayed at Shaykh 'Abd
al-Qadir's ribat . He wouldnever accept anything from anyone. He would
never call at the door of any of the kings. Every year, he would be
given something from his property in Egypt that would suffice him the
entire year. My father told me: 'I used to often visit him and so I
came tohim one day when it occurred to me that I have been visiting
him for some time and that he has never taken an oath to me and never
presented me with anything. I had hardly finished thinking this when
he said to me: "Oh Ahmad, I swear by Allah that I am not happy for you
to eat my food, for it is the food of the wretched." I was then
overcome with immense ecstasy ( wajd ). He then went inside to bring
me something from his provisions. So I thought to myself: "If he
brings me left over bread then people will disapprove." He then
quickly said frominside: "Oh Shaykh Ahmad, but two pieces ofbread." My
astonishment and awe increased. Shaykh Sa'd was someone who would cry
a lot and someone who was of immense humility.'"
Ibn al-Najjar said: "He was a pious slave, and famous for worship,
striving hard ( mujahadah ), piety, austerity, sufficing with little
and being chaste. He would live very rough,dress coarsely and would
often stay aloof from people. He was extremelycautious in
cleanliness…"
It was said that when his shaykh , Ibn al-Manni, was about to pass
away, he willed that Shaykh Sa'd prays over him. It has already been
mentioned that he prayed over him that dayand that the people crowded
round him to gain barakah from him until it was close that he might
die.
Al-Mundhiri said: "He died on 6 Rabi' al-Akhir, 592 ah, in prostration
during prayer. He was buried the next day…" Ibn al-Najjar said that he
recited the following verse in the prayer in which he died: " So, in
case he (the dying person) is from among those blessed with nearness,
then (for him) there is comfort and fragrance and garden of bliss."
(56:88-89)
5. Hafiz Ibn Rajab mentions in Al-Dhayl 'ala Tabaqat al-Hanabilah
(part 2, p. 36) in the biography of Shaykh AbuMuhammad 'Abdullah
ibnAbu al-Faraj al-Jubba'i al-Tarabulusi al-Shami:
Shaykh Abu Muhammad heard hadith in Baghdad from Ibn Nasir al-Hafiz,
al-Urmawi, Ibn al-Tallayah, Sa'id ibn al-Banna, Da'wan ibn 'Ali
al-Jubbi, Abu 'Ali Hamd ibn Shatil al-Qadi and Abu al-Mu'ammar
al-Ansari et al. He heard hadith in Isfahan from Abu al-Khayr
al-Baghban,Mas'ud al-Thaqafi et al. He gained expertise in fiqh in
Baghdad under Abu Hakim al-Nahrawani.He also took from him that
portion of Sharh al-Hidayah that he wrote.He also remained in the
company of Shaykh 'Abd al-Qadir al-Jili for a period of time; this is
where he inclined to asceticism, piety, goodness and solitude, and
benefited from him. He used to narrate much regarding his spiritual
states ( hal ) and miracles.

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Duas - ,

1. For pain of the eye
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Prophet (SAW)'s Prayers
For pain of the eye
Read this and blow on the ailing eye:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ اللَّهُمَّ أَذْهِبْ حَرَّهَا وَبَرْدَهَا وَوَصَبَهَا
"I take the name of Allah and blow, O Allah removeits heat, cold and
sicknessThen say by the will of Allah". (Hisn from Nisai etc)
For eye pain
اللَّهُمَّ مَتِّعْنِي بِبَصَرِي وَاجْعَلْهُ الْوَارِثَ مِنِّي
وَأَرِنِي فِي الْعَدُوِّ ثَأْرِي وَانْصُرْنِي عَلَى مَنْ ظَلَمَنِي
"O Allah grant me benefit from my eyesight and keep it (maintain it)
till my death and give me power over my enemies and give me aid
against those who oppress me".
(Hisn)
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2. For kidney stone or uninary problems
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Prophet (SAW)'s Prayers
For kidney stone or urination problems
Blow on the one who hasstopped urinating or has stone ailment or any
other difficulty:
رَبُّنَا اللَّهُ الَّذِي فِي السَّمَاءِ تَقَدَّسَ اسْمُكَ أَمْرُكَ فِي
السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِكَمَا رَحْمَتُكَ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا
حَوْبَنَا وَخَطَايَانَا أَنْتَ رَبُّ الطَّيِّبِينَ فَأَنْزِلْ شِفَاءً
مِنْ شِفَائِكَ وَرَحْمَةً مِنْ رَحْمَتِكَ عَلَى هَذَا الْوَجَعِ
"Our Lord is Allah who is in the skies (worthy of worship). Your name
is Pure. Your authority is prevalent in the sky and earth, just as
Your Mercy is in the sky thus lower it on earth as well and forgive
our sins and errors. You are the Lord of the pure ones thus descend
upon this pain a cure (relief) from Your reliefs/cures and descenda
Mercy from amongest Your Mercies on this pain.
If somone is smitten by a poisonous animal then read Surah Fatiha 7
timesand blow on the animal"
(Hisn from Tirmidhi)
If somone is not mentally stable then read Surah Fatiha blow on that person.
(Abu Dawood and Nisani)
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3. When fever or pain increases
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Prophet (SAW)'s Prayers
When fever or pain increases
If fever rise or pain increases:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الْكَبِيرِ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ الْعَظِيمِ مِنْ شَرِّ
كُلِّ عَرَقٍ نَعَّارٍ وَمِنْ شَرِّ حَرِّ النَّارِ
"I seek relief taking Allah's great blessed name from all the evils
ofpulling (pulsating) nervesand from the evils of the hot fire".
(Tirmidhi)
It is prohibited to speak ill of fever. When Umme Sahabia (R.A.) spoke
ill of fever then Prophet Mohammad (SAW) said,"do not abuse fever for
itremoves the sins of man like the furnace removes the rust from the
iron".
(Mishkat)
[28.12.2012-fri]
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Fwd: Does our personality affect our level of attractiveness

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From: "M.Farouk Radwan" <farouk@2knowmyself.com>
Date: Fri, 28 Dec 2012 10:24:24 -0500
Subject: Does our personality affect our level of attractiveness
To: "M. NajimudeeN. Bsc-INDIA" <aydnajimudeen@gmail.com>

Hi M. NajimudeeN. Bsc-INDIA,

How are you today??

Studies have shown that attractiveness perception changes when we get
to know a person better.

Do you remember how your perception of attractiveness of people
changed during high school or college days? I am sure you found some
people attractive after spending more time with them even though you
didn't find them attractive during your first encounter with them.

A study has shown that people start to see others differently when
they discover some of their personality traits. (see also
Attractiveness perception psychology)

When was the last time you saw a movie where the hero wasn't that
attractive? do you remember how you felt like when you first saw that
movie hero? now try to recall your feelings towards him at the end of
the movie and you will discover that you have changed your opinion
about his attractiveness completely. (see also Why do we find people
attractive)

If watching a person do good things for 2 hours can change the
attractiveness perception then what can a six month friendship with a
person do?

Certainly if during that period the person displayed desirable traits
then he will appear much more physically attractive!

Attractiveness standards and exceptions

We all have certain standards that we use to asses people's
attractiveness but when we spend time with someone with desirable
traits we start to sacrifice some of these standards.

Its as if our subconscious minds replace some of the physical traits
of that person with some of his good personality traits.

It was also found that people could change their attractiveness
perception few seconds after a person starts talking! Sometimes the
first impression a person forms of another gets changed as soon as the
the later opens his mouth. (see First impression psychology)

Another study has found that a simple action such as a friendly smile
can affect the attractiveness perception of people. If a smile does so
then what can a good trait such as kindness do??

You still have a good chance

You don't have to look like movie heroes to leave a good impression
because just as you saw people can see you differently based on your
actions and behaviour.

While these facts are applicable to both men and women it was found
that a woman is more likely to change her perception of attractiveness
of a man after he displays great personality traits.

In my previous article attractiveness perception psychology i said
that physcial looks is only one item in the attraction puzzle. The
more you know about this attraction puzzle the more you will be able
to take advantage of such facts and the more attractive you will
appear to be.

Can't wait till the next lesson?

here are some related articles from 2knowmyself:

· How your experience database affects your perception of attractiveness

· Why extra attention can attract some people and not others

· Do people get attracted to those who are as physically
attractive as them?

· Why do some people like certain facial features

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Praised Manners - , Dought and clear - , Allah said to Moosa: “O Moosa, I did not grantthat to Myself so how could I grant it yo you?”.

Moosa (peace be upon him) said when conversing with his Lord: "O Lord,
protect mefrom people's tongues (speech)" He said: "O Moosa, you are
asking for something that I did not (even) grant for Myself.".
Praise be to Allaah.
We could not find this report with any reliable isnaad, and we did not
find it in the books of Sunnah and reports. Rather we saw it in
somebooks of raqaa'iq (heart softening reports) and exhortation,
without mentioning any isnaad or reliable source.
Ibn Muflih al-Maqdisi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Moosa (blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 'O Lord, the people are
saying things about me that are not true.' And Allah revealed to him:
'O Moosa, I have not granted that to Myself, so how could I grant it
to you?'" End quote.
Al-Adaab al-Shar'iyyah, 1/7-8; there is a similar report in Qoot
al-Quloob by Abu Taalib al-Makki, 2/309; Siraaj al-Mulook by Abu Bakr
al-Tartooshi (229).
Although we cannot prove it because we could not find any isnaad for
it, there does not appear to be anything wrong with its meaning,
because Allah did not decree -- in any of the universal natural laws
that He decreed -- that none of His creationwould overstep the mark
towards Him or that any human could ever deal with their Lordin a way
that is not befitting to His Majesty and Might; rather He has told us
of people who fell short in that regard and did not estimate Him with
an estimation due to Him, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"They (the Jews, Qurayshpagans, idolaters) did not estimate Allaah
with an estimation due to Him when they said: 'Nothing did Allaah send
down to any human being (by Revelation).' Say (O Muhammad صلىالله عليه
وسلم): "Whothen sent down the Book which Moosa (Moses) brought, a
light and a guidance to mankind which you (the Jews) have made into
(separate) paper sheets, disclosing (some of it) and concealing
(much). And you (believers in Allaah and His MessengerMuhammad صلى
الله عليه وسلم) were taught (through the Qur'aan) that which neither
you nor your fathers knew." Say: "Allaah (sent it down)." Then leave
them to play in their vain discussions"
[al-An'aam 6:91]
"They have not estimated Allaah His Rightful Estimate. Verily, Allaah
is All-Strong, All-Mighty"
[al-Hajj 22:74]
"They made not a just estimate of Allaah such as is due to Him. And on
the Day of Resurrection the whole of the earth will be grasped by His
Hand and the heavens will be rolled up in His Right Hand. Glorified be
He, and High be He above all that they associate as partners with
Him!"
[al-Zumar 39:67].
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "No one
is more patient in bearing offensive things that he hears than Allaah,
may He be glorified and exalted; others are associated with Him, a son
is attributed to Him, but Hestill grants them health and provision."
Narratedby al-Bukhaari (7378) and Muslim (2804).
What we learn from thatis that the criticism of the envious and the
slander of those with ulterior motives is not a reason for a Muslim to
be discouraged from trying hard to succeed and progress, or to weaken
his resolve or cause him to become frustrated. He should always
remember that Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, the Angels, the
Messengers and the Prophets were never safe from slander and harm.
And Allah knows best.

Praised Manners - , Dought and clear - , Is feeling proud of one’s religion a kind of blameworthy pride?.

Is there anything wrong with a person feeling proud of his religion or
feeling proud of a person who does something good? Because we know
that pride in the heart is something bad.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
With regard to feeling proud of one's religion and of belonging to it,
this is something that is prescribed in Islam and is a righteous deed.
A story from one of the battles illustrates this point: Abu Sufyaan,
the leader of Quraysh, expressed pride in his religion and the
religionof his people – as he hadnot yet entered Islam. The Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) answered his boast with an
expressionof the Muslim's pride in his religion and his affirmation of
the Oneness of the Lord of the Worlds.
Al-Bukhaari narrated in his Saheeh (3039) from the hadeeth of al-Bara'
ibn 'Aazib (may Allah be pleased with him) that after the battle Abu
Sufyaan ibn Harb startedcomposing rajz verse and saying: "Rise in
honour, Hubal; rise in honour Hubal."
The Prophet blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Why don't
you answer him?"
They said: "O Messenger of Allah, what should wesay?"
He said: "Say: Allah is Most High and Most Glorious."
Abu Sufyaan said: We have al-'Uzza and you have no 'Uzza."
The Prophet blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Why
don''t you answer him?"
They said: "O Messenger of Allah, what should wesay?"
He said: "Say: Allah is ourSupporter and you have no supporter!"
Allah, may He be exalted,has taught His slaves thattrue pride and
perfect honour can only be achieved by obeying Allah. Allah, may He be
exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Whosoever desires honour, power and glory then to Allaah belong all
honour, power and glory [and one can get honour, power and glory only
by obeying and worshipping Allaah (Alone)]. To Him ascend (all) the
goodly words, and the righteous deeds exalt it (i.e. the goodly words
are not accepted by Allaah unless and until they are followed by good
deeds), but those who plot evils, theirs will be severe torment. And
the plotting of such will perish"
[Faatir 35:10].
i.e., and whoever would like to be honoured in this world and the
Hereafter, let him adhere to obedience to Allah, then he will attain
what he wants, because Allah is the Sovereign of this world and the
Hereafter, and all honour, power and glory belong to Him, as He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Those who take disbelievers for Awliyaa' (protectors or helpers or
friends) instead of believers, do they seek honour, power and glory
with them? Verily, then to Allaah belongs all honour, power and glory"
[al-Nisa' 4:139]
"And let not their speechgrieve you (O Muhammad r), for all power and
honour belong to Allaah"
[Yoonus 10:65]
"But honour, power and glory belong to Allaah, and to His Messenger
(Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم), and to thebelievers, but the hypocrites
know not"
[al-Munaafiqoon 63:8].
Mujaahid said: "Whosoever desires honour, power and glory" [al-Faatir
35:10] by worshipping idols, "then to Allaah belong all honour, power
and glory.
Qataadah said: "Whosoever desires honour, power and glory then to
Allaah belong all honour, power and glory" i.e., lethim seek honour,
powerand glory by obeying Allah, may He be glorified and exalted.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 6/536
Secondly:
With regard to a person feeling proud of himself,if it is because he
is religiously committed, righteous and pious, then it is good, but if
it isbecause of anything else, such as lineage, ancestry, wealth,
position or status amongpeople, then this is an act of Jaahiliyyah and
is not permissible.
Muslim (1550) narrated from Abu Maalik al-Ash'ari (may Allah be
pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) said: "There are four matters of Jaahiliyyah in my ummah
that they will not give up: pride in one's forefathers, slandering
lineages, seeking rain by the stars and wailing (for the dead)."
Muslim (5109) also narrated from 'Iyaad ibnHimaar al-Mujaasha'i (may
Allah be pleased with that) that the Messenger of Allah (sa) said one
day in his khutbah: "Allah has revealed to me that you should be
humble so that no one will boast to anyone else and no one will
transgress against anyone else."
Al-Majd Ibn Tamiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Allah has
forbidden on the lips of His Prophet two types of mistreatment of
people: pride and transgression against them and scorn.
Fayd al-Qadeer, 2/217
The guideline with regard to this issue is: whatever is a source of
pride and honour because of religion is part of the religion and is
praiseworthy; any source of pride other than that is blameworthy.
But feeling proud because of doing acts of obedience and worship means
feeling happy that one has been enabled to do that and feeling proud
of belonging to people who do that, and praising Allah for saving him
from shirk and its people, and from sin andits path.
As for looking down on the slaves of Allah and feeling that one is
abovethem because of acts of obedience that one has done, this is the
worst type of pride and arrogance, and the one who is like this is on
the brink of disaster and there is a danger that hisdeeds will be
thrown back at him.
And Allah knows best.

Praised Manners - , Dought and clear - , Is it permissible to write in her resume that she has experience that she did not acquire in the manner required?.

I have teaching experience at home, teaching my own brothers, cousins
and now my children. Is it permitted for me to disclose this as
institutional experience or otherwise as teachingexperience while
appling for a teaching job in a school?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The Muslim should speakthe truth and seek to be honest. Allah, may He
be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"O you who believe! FearAllaah, and be with those who are true (in
words and deeds)"
[al-Tawbah 9:119].
Al-Bukhaari (6094) and Muslim (2607) narrated that Ibn Mas'ood (may
Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messengerof Allah (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: "I enjoin you to be truthful, for
truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to
Paradise. A man may continue to tell the truthand endeavour to be
truthful until he is recorded with Allaah as a speaker of truth. And
beware of lying, for lying leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to
Hell.A man may continue to tell lies and endeavour to tell lies, until
he is recorded with Allaah as a liar."
al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
The scholars said: What this means is that truthfulness leads to
righteous deeds that arefree of everything blameworthy. Al-birr
(righteousness) is a general word that includes all kinds of good
deeds. But lying leads to wickedness, which is drifting away from
righteousness or, itwas said, indulging in sin.
The scholars said: This is encouragement to endeavour to be truthful,
which means seeking it and paying attention to it. (And it is
encouragement) to beware of lying and taking the matter lightly,for if
one takes the matter lightly he will do a great deal of it and become
known for that. So if a person tells the truth all the time and it
becomes second nature to him, Allah will record him as a speaker of
truth. On the other hand,if he tells lies all the timeand it becomes
second nature to him, Allah will record him as a liar. End quote.
Mentioning your teaching at home as if it were teaching in an
educational institution isundoubtedly a kind of lying. Rather you have
totell the truth and tell them that you taught privately at home.
Remember that if you tell the truth and fear Allah, Allah will provide
for you from sources youcould not imagine. Allah,may He be exalted,
says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a
way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine"
[al-Talaaq 65:2-3].
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Mufti Ismail Menk's writtings

Each human is gifted in a special way. Some, in more than one way.

Recognizing the gift or talent within ourselves to begin with is
extremely important.

Never allow yourself to think even for a split moment that you are
totally useless.

It is equally important to recognize, appreciate and develop these
gifts in our children, students, colleagues, employees etc.

It is wrong to give others the feeling that they are useless!
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The fruits of spending school holidays constructively will only be
appreciated later in life.

During such periods we must set a goal, try to accomplish a task,
learn something new or earn some pocket money etc.

Travelling to a carefully selected destination is also a reasonable option.

There should be no room for laziness.

A true holiday is where we have simply changed the nature of activity
to refresh ourselves but not abandon all activity.

Those who feel that the days should be spent lazing around or being a
couch potato watching television, playing games, sleeping all day and
partying all night have not only wasted valuable time but will
definitely regret at some stage.
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Whilst we pray that all those who have written end of year exams do
well, we remind ourselves that life itself is one big examination.

Failing end of year exams is minor compared to failing the exam of
life. One can be repeated, the other never.

Strange how we struggle&strive more to pass the annual exam, than we
sometimes do to pass life's exam.

Strange how we cry&weep, pray&lose sleep asking for success in annual
exams more than life's exam.

May the Almighty grant us success in both exams with the ultimate
prize being meeting HIM in Paradise. Aameen/

Story - , Moons Peak [FINISHED]- Mating Ritual (chapter 21)

A/N: I haven't had the chance to go over this, soit maybe a little
choppy. Forgive me? :)
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"THERE HAS TO be anotherway?" I looked up at him with hopeful eyes,
and begged him to say there was.
Satchel just sat there with an impassive look on his face. We'd been
talking for hours now, still in front of the dying flames flickering
from the hearth. My wound still stung every time I moved, and I'd been
told because it was a silver bullet, it would take longer to heal.
"There isn't…" Satchel said in a flat tone. He wasavoiding eye contact
I noticed. I bit my lips again.
"But…there has to be a loophole...somewhere right?"
He looked at me with an apologetic look on his face, and then finally
shook his head...again. I groaned for the tenth time, thinking that
maybe if I'd rephrase my question, he'd give me a different answer.
But every time I mentioned a new possibility, he'd just shake his
head. Moreover, the finality in it shook me with fear.
"The fact that he's already marked you with his scent, he can state a
claim over you. In werewolf lore? That means you belong to him. I'm
technically overstepping my boundaries by keeping you here." God! I've
never been in so much denial as I was right now.
Surely, there was some kind of way that a wolf could take away his
bonding scent right? Break the bond or something…however impossible
that may sound, my optimism hung in there.
"What about human lore?He kidnapped me, how isthat allowed? He should
be put away…reported topolice even." My voice was an octave too high,
and almost near hysterical.
I was beginning to hate the way Satchel kept shaking his head, but I
couldn't help but think it was kinda hot since the loose strands of
his hair will fall out of his pony tail. Light green eyes drained. He
sighed.
"We're far from being human, Willy. In our world, werewolves take
their mating seriously. Once we claim a mate, we're bound by honor,
love and protection. Males' being the more dominant species - they
mark their mate to ward off others. If someone threatens that bond…our
territorial instincts kick in, and there's no way around it unless
blood is spilled." I tsked.
"Well, then lets hope it's his." I regretted the words instantly. "-I
didn'tmean that." I said hastily. He just sighed, shuffling under me
to try and sit up.
"He marked you before he took you. In his eyes, I'd be considered the
kidnapper. Since, you're not…you don't belong to me." I rubbed my eyes
as exhaustion settled in.
"But Sheeba said the mating ritual would only be permanent if I was
marked in wolf form. Shesaid that would finalize the mating. There's a
loophole right there." I was thankful when he didn't automatically
shake his head to say no, but then frowned when recognition settled on
hisfeatures as I mention Sheeba.
"Sheeba? You met her…?"I nodded.
"She was the only one that helped me out there." I frowned. "You know
her?" He reluctantly nodded.
"Both of our fathers usedto work at the old milk factory down Mills
Drive. When you left, her father started bringing her around to keep
me entertained. My dad thought I could do with the company, and that
he'd had enough of my moping around. Sheeba was a good distraction,
until she developed a little crush on me…" Oh. There was the
silent…but there's more hanging in the air.
"You guys ever dated?" I regretted the words instantly. I mean, it's
not like I had the right to even ask.
"For a while. It didn't go so well." I nodded, mentally stabbing the
green-eyed monster inside of me down. I had to remind myself that it
was past tense, and that I'd been long gone out ofhis life that I
didn't have the right to feel jealous...but the mere thought of
Satchel being with another girl – especially one as beautiful as
Sheeba - made my jealousy boil. I masked it, and mentally shoved it
down a hole.
"That's…cool." I said lamely. What else could I say really? It's not
like I didn't have a boyfriend to go along with my life I'd made in
New York. As soon as the thought summoned to the surface, I felt sorry
for what happened to Peter. Regardless of the fact that he cheated on
me, and never treated me as if I mattered, still no one deserved to
die like that. I think Satchel refused to bring that incident up, and
I wasn't going to force him into it either.
I wasn't sure if it was my place to pry, but I had theurge to want to
ask him about his relationship with Sheeba. Satchel smirked.
"Are you jealous?" He teased. Surprise hit my face, and I shook my
head indignantly. I scoffed.
"Pfft…no!" I rolled my eyes. His eyes roamed my face, and grinned cheerfully.
"Yeah, I think you are." He crooned. I shook my head, fully in denial now.
"Why would I be jealous?" My tone was a little high pitched, and a
light blush heated my cheeks. He chuckled, and it lit up his face.
"Because you think my eyes are 'oh so amazing."He drawled. I groaned
and hit him playfully in the arm as he recited what I'd told him under
the willow tree. This made him laugh, and I was trying my hardest not
to join in.
"Shut up. I didn't say 'oh so amazing' I just said…oh whatever." I
giggled and we just sat there laughing it up. Aretha came in to check
on us, and see if we needed anything.
"You kids up for ice cream?" Satchel raised his eyebrow.
"Mama, we're not kids anymore." Aretha smiled.
"Oh, excuse me Mr. Man." She mocked, and handedus each a bowl of
ice-cream. "-but you're never too old to eat ice-cream." I nodded in
agreement. I hadn't had this stuff in ages.
"Your moms right, though I'm not so sure you've grown out of that kid
phase yet, Satchel." Aretha laughed and disappeared out of the room.
We sat there in silence, eating ice cream for the next couple of
minutes, so I felt the need to strikeup a conversation.
"So, you and Sheeba huh..." He barked out a laugh.
"I knew you hadn't let that go." He teased. I shrugged spooning
moreice-cream in my mouth.
"Okay, so I'm a little jealous. Sue me." He chuckled.
"Not much to tell really. In fact, it only lasted as long as two
weeks." Oh. Feeling a little guilty because I was silently cheering.
"What happened." I tried to sound nonchalant.
He shrugged.
"Turns out she was tryingto lure me into the pack…her brothers pack."I
stopped eating, and raised my eyebrows in question, before Satchel
answered.
"Trench and Cairo are herolder brothers. She's also Cairo's twin."
"Wow! Really?" He nodded "When Trench formed The Pack; they were
searching for Pure-Breeds to strengthen their bloodline. When they
couldn't have me, they just took in strays for numbers." I frowned.
"But Sheeba seems so calm. She's really beautiful and good natured.
How does one like her, have Cairo as a twin brother?" He set ourbowls
down on the coffee table.
"It's all part of the façade.She's good at what she does. " I though
back to how Sheeba treated me, and for the company. I had a hard time
picturingher Cairo's twin. I frowned.
"Why do they want you in their pack so bad…aside from the Pure-breed
thing?" He took a while to answer, and then finally he cleared his
throat.
"Because I'm a Pure-breed, there's a ninety nine point nine percent
chance that my child would be one too. Regardless of who bears my
child, they'll be a werewolf. They sent Sheeba here in hopes that I
would claim her as my mate…but I'd already set my eyes on someone
else." He pointedly looked at me with his startling eyes. I bit my
lips, trying to ignore the way my heart fluttered under his gaze.
"God! This just gets worstdoesn't it?" I sighed, resting my head back
on his chest and studied the ceiling. My thoughts reeling about what
I'd been through lately, and I was rather getting a little sleepy. I
felt the gentle strokes of Satchel's hands in my hair, and it soothed
my like some kind of lullaby.
"You know, it's kind of funny…I used to dream up what kind of life I
would've had if I'd stayedhere and lived my life as a country girl.
What kind of life I was missing if I'd never lived with Grams."But
never had I thought that my life could be like this: A human by day, a
werewolf by night. And to tell you the truth? I wish I stayed and
learnedall of this earlier…I mean regardless of what I've been through
since coming here, I think I'd have a better life here than I would in
the superficial world I had in New York."
"I had the same dream." He murmured in my ear. Iturned a little so I
could see him better.
"I'm sorry I left."
"So am I."
Satchel and I must've fallen asleep, because I woke up in the middle
ofthe night, and the flames had completely died down so that a few
embers lit up the ashes.
Waking up in Satchel's arms was something close to what pure ecstasy
was like, but watching him, sleep made me see him in a new light. His
worried frown had disappeared, save for his long eyelashes that
flirted with his angular cheekbones. His hair loose teasing his face,
while the steady breathing coming from his perfect pouted lips made it
all the more mesmerizing.
He seemed vulnerable somehow…like a sleeping jaguar with no care in
the world. I didn'twant to move for fear of waking him up. He'd been
through a lot, and his exhaustion had finallytaken its toll. I
couldn't say the same about me though, after all, I'd just found out I
may have to live the rest of my life as someone else's mate.
Why didn't you claim me?I thought, as I let my eyesroam Satchel's face.
I would've said yes. I sighed and kissed him lightly on his chin, and
I shifted my legs so that I could get up. I really needed to use the
bathroom. After successfully getting up without waking him, I tiptoed
to the bathroom ignoring the pain in my side. I was still in his
oversized shirt, and I smiled, pulling the collar up to my nose and
inhaled his scent. His aftershave skimmed my nose, and the faint scent
of pure Satchel meddled in between. He smelt like nature.
I used the bathroom, andlooked myself in the mirror. I hadn't seen
myself in almost a month.My honey colored eyes seemed haunted now, and
the worry lines on my forehead more prominent. Even my re-growths
started making an appearance atthe roots of my hair.
Ugh! I look disgusting. I had to remind myself to dye my hair back to
its natural color. If I even, get the chance. Because blond with
brunette re-growths were plainly unattractive.
I decided to have a shower, reluctantly having to part with Satchel's
shirt, and as soon as I stepped under the seductive heat, my wounds
stung all over.
I hissed from the pain. The wound I'd gotten from the bullet flushed
my abdomen with pink and it stung badly. Even the angry red claw
markson my shoulder still tingled where Cairo had marked it.
My feet were the same, achy and visible calluses. I ended up sitting
down because I was so exhausted to stand, letting the surge beat down
on my back as my thoughts consumed me.
I was remembering whenTrench and the pack had taken me, and marked me
with his scent, holding me between his teeth as he took what wasn't
given to him.
I wasn't his, I didn't belong to him, I would never ever claim him as
amate. It was wrong in every sense of the word, and he should pay for
holding me captive for those frightening two weeks.
Those two weeks felt liketwo years at the time. I thought I would
never get away from them. At the time, I feared for my life. I
shuddered and I rested my chin on my knees, hugging them close to me.
My tears mingled with the droplets of water, as I sat there in mere
shock.
I'd held it all in, for Satchel's case because I didn't want him to
worry, and I finally let it all go in the privacy of this small
bathroom.
I must have sat there for hours, because I was vaguely aware of the
water turning off, and a towel wrapping around me. I looked up out of
blurry eyes to see Aretha Heins.
"Come on, child. Let's get you dressed." I reluctantly found my feet,
and followed her as she wheeled to her room.
She clicked the door shut,and wheeled over to her dresser, rummaging
through it, pulling out various of items for me tochoose from, so that
her bed was strewn with different colored clothes.
"I kept all my clothes from when I was your age. You'll bound to find
something that fits." I smiled at her for the kindgesture.
"Thank you, Mrs. Heins." She waved a hand.
"Don't be silly, call me Aunt Retha. Oh and I got something for you."
She opened her top drawer and pulled out a box of hair dye with a
model in front with brunette hair.
"-It's actually a color mousse to strip your hair from any harsh
products such as dye. Figured you'd want to show off your natural
beauty." I gave her a genuine smile.
"This is…where did you get this?" She smiled.
"I have my sources."
"Thank you. You shouldn't have." She rubbed my back.
"Happy belated birthday, Willow." She exited the room, leaving me to
the likes of her clothes, and privacy. I used the connecting bathroom,
as I lathered the mousse into my hair. Sure enough, when I washed it
out, the blonde color ofmy hair washed down the drain leaving my
hairin a brunette wavy mess.
I looked in the mirror to study my face. I looked different, younger
like I was five years old again. My face looked paler, andmy eyes
looked a little tawny.
My cheekbones more dominant, even my chin seemed a little sharper. I
left my hair out to dry, as I shrugged on a white summer dress, since
the rest of the clothes seemed to look a little too over the wear and
tear expiry mark. This dress however seemed like it hadn't seen enough
summer days.
A rapping sounded at thedoor, and I turned around to see Derryn waltz
in the room with a huge smile. Her reddish brown curls bounced around,
as her green eyes beamed up at me. She looked like she'd justwoken up.
"Willy!" She ran toward me and hugged me. Nearly taking me down to the
floor. I tried my hardest not to wince, butthe pain was still there.
"You're back! You're back! I knew you would come back!" She burrowed
her head into my stomach, and I smiled,stroking her curls out of her
face. .
"Nice to see you too Derryn." She pulled back and her smile only got wider.
"You're a wolf now! I can smell it!" I reluctantly nodded. I sat down
on the edge of the bed, and she burrowed right next to me.
"Mommy said I have to wait for my seventeenth birthday for my time,
but I can't wait that long. I want to be a wolf now." My eyes lit up
in surprise.
"You're a carrier too?" She nodded.
"Daddy said I'm red wolf. He's seen it happen to me…same with Satchel
being Black Wolf. Daddy even envisioned his own death."
She talked about wolves, and death like it was the most natural thing
in the world. Sometimes I forgot she was a seven-year-old girl. I
loved her like my own little sister.
"You wanna know a secret?" She whispered, leaning in to me for my ears only.
"I love secrets." I said, matching her whisper. She smiled.
"Daddy said Satchel with fall in love with Snow white. He was never
wrong." I frowned.
"As in the fairytale girl, Snow white?" She shrugged, with a
devioussmile on her face.
"Maybe." She said lightly, as she tugged me by that arm, steering me
out of the room.