For children, - Responsibility and Reward Story

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Two sons work for their father on the family's farm. The younger brother had for some years been given more responsibility and reward, and one day the older brother asks his father to explain why?
The father says, "First, go to the Kelly's Farm and see if they have any Geese for sale - we need to add to our stock." The older son soon returns with the answer, "Yes they have five Geese, which they are ready to sell to us."
The father then says, "Good, please ask them the price."
The older son returns with the answer, "Each Geese cost us $10."
The father says, "Good, now ask if they can deliver the Geese tomorrow."
And duly the older son returns with the answer, "Yes, they can deliver the Geese by tomorrow."
The father asks the older son to wait and listen, and then calls his younger son from a nearby field, "Go to the Davidson's Farm and see if they have any Geese for sale - we need to add to our stock."
The younger son soon returns with the answer, "Yes, they have five Geese for $10 each, or ten Geese for $8 each; and they can deliver them tomorrow - I asked them to deliver the five unless they heard otherwise from us in the next hour. And I agreed that if we want the extra five geese we could buy them at $6 each."
The father turned to the older son, who nodded his head in appreciation. He now realized why his younger brother was given more responsibility and reward.
A lot of times we face the question why someone is so successful and someone is not. Some people call it luck, some people call it being in the right place at the right time and some people call it influence, however the truth is performance with full responsibility and full potential. These two aspects are constantly observed by all and this is what ultimately leads to success of any individual.
Responsibility is taking care of your duties. Responsibility is answering for your actions. Responsibility is accountability. Responsibility is trustworthiness.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * Her period becamelonger becauseof the IUD

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During Ramadaan, my wife went and had an IUD (“the coil”) inserted after her period finished, and her period became longer, so she did not fast for eleven days. After that it was proven that for four of those days the blood was not menses but irregular bleeding. What is the ruling on those days? Is there any expiation to be offered? What is it?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
If the period becomes longer because of the IUD and the bleeding follows on from the period, then it is all menses, such as if her period is usually seven days but increased to eleven days.
But if the bleeding stopped after the seven days, and she was certain that she had become pure, then she bled for four more days that was different from her usual menstrual bleeding, and that was because of the IUD, then these four days are not regarded as menses, rather they are istihaadah (irregular vaginal bleeding).
Similarly, if it is proven medically that the blood was irregular bleeding and not menses, then it is istihaadah.
Secondly:
If a woman does not fast when she sees blood because she thinks that it is menstrual bleeding, then it becomes clear to her that it was istihaadah, she does not have to do anything apart from making up the days that she did not fast.
Conclusion: If it is proven that these days were not menstrual bleeding, then she does not have to do anything apart from making up those days.
And Allaah knows best.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * She does ghusl after her menses then she sees a brownish discharge

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I am a woman who has continuous yellowish discharge. And I am of those who do not have a sign of tuhr (purity of menstruation). And I do not know how to make sure of my tuhr in that case. My period is seven days (obvious blood for 7 days). After this I find brownish and yellowish discharge. My question is: If the brownish discharge disappears and the yellowish remains, shall I consider it menstruation or my normal yellowish continuous discharge? As sometimes the brownish discharge disappears for a day and the yellowish one remains, so I make ghusl and pray, then the brownish comes out again sometimes once a day. This puts me in great confusion. Shall I repeat ghusl or not?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The ongoing discharge that comes out of woman is taahir (pure) according to the most correct of the two scholarly opinions, but it invalidates wudoo’ and the woman who has this problem must deal with it like urinary incontinence, so she should do wudoo’ for each prayer and pray whatever she wants of obligatory and naafil prayers. You will find more details on that in the answer to question no. 50404.
Secondly:
A woman may know that her period has ended by one of two signs:
1 – Emission of the white discharge.
2 – Complete dryness, such that if she inserts a piece of cotton it comes out clean with no trace of blood or yellowish or brownish discharge on it.
al-Baaji said inal-Muntaqa: The usual sign of tuhr (end of the period) is two things: the white discharge or dryness, which is when a woman inserts a piece of cotton or cloth into her vagina and it comes out dry with no trace of blood on it. Women’s usual patterns with regard to that vary; some of them see the white discharge and some see the dryness. End quote.
Thirdly:
If the yellowish or brownish discharge comes immediately after the period then it is part of the menses. If it comes after the tuhr has been established, then no attention should be paid to it.
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in hisSaheeh: Chapter of the coming and going of menses; the women used to send to ‘Aa’ishah vessels containing pieces of cloth on which there were yellowish marks and she would say: Do not be hasty until you see the white discharge, meaning thereby the end of the menses (tuhr).
The colour of menstrual blood usually changes towards the end of the period, and becomes lighter in colour, and it may be followed by a yellowish or brownish discharge. The report of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) indicates this, and indicates that the yellowish discharge that is connected to the period is regarded as menses.
The basic principle is that you should regard this yellowish discharge as part of the period, not spotting, so long as you have not ascertained that the period is over, especially as you see the brownish discharge after doing ghusl. This makes it more likely that it is menses.
But if the end of the period is ascertained by seeing the white discharge or complete dryness, then you should not pay any attention to the yellowish and brownish discharge in that case. This is what is indicated by the words of Umm ‘Atiyah (may Allaah be pleased with her): We used not to regard the brownish and yellowish discharge after the tuhr (end of the period) as being of any significance. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (320) and Abu Dawood (307).
And Allaah knows best.

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Acts of Worship, - Dought & clear, - * Should he focus on purifying his heart or on doing naafil acts?

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Which is more important – dealing with feelings and thoughts that Allaah dislikes, such as destructive envy, hatred, arrogance, showing off, thinking highly of one's deeds, hard-heartedness, etc., which form the evil that resides in the heart, or focusing on doing outward naafil deeds such as prayer, fasting and other acts of worship and fulfilling vows even though those other things are present in the heart? Please advise us, may Allaah reward you with good.
Praise be to Allaah.
Some of the acts mentioned are obligatory, and those which are obligatory should be given precedence, as Allaah says according to the hadeeth qudsi narrated from His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “My slave does not draw near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined on him.” Then He says: “And My slave continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him.” Outward physical acts are not valid and acceptable unless they are accompanied by appropriate actions of the heart, because the heart is like the king and the physical faculties are like his troops. If the king is evil his troops will also be evil. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “In the body there is a piece of flesh: if it is sound the whole body will be sound and if it is corrupt then the whole body will be corrupt.” Similarly the (hidden) actions of the heart inevitably affect the (visible) physical actions. So precedence must be given to that which is more obligatory, whether it is called inward or outward. Perhaps things that are called inward may be more obligatory, such as refraining from destructive envy and arrogance, for that is more essential than observing naafil fasts. Or acts that are described as outward or physical may be better, such as qiyaam al-layl (praying at night), which is better than simply giving up some thoughts that may cross one's mind such as (non-destructive) jealousy, etc. Inward and outward deeds support one another, and prayer keeps one from doing evil actions and generates fear of Allaah, and has other important effects. It (prayer) is the best of good deeds and charity. And Allaah knows best.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him),Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 6/381
So there is no separation between correcting what is inward and correcting what is outward or physical.
The outward acts of worship which a person performs with his physical faculties – if he does them for the sake of Allaah – will undoubtedly have an effect on his inward nature.
For example, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Shall I not tell you of something that will take away the evil of the heart? Fasting three days of each month.” (Narrated by al-Nasaa’i, 2386; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Nasaa’i, 2249). The evil of the heart refers to rancour, hatred and destructive envy.
One of the most important remedies for diseases of the heart is to study and ponder the texts which include warnings to the one who leaves these diseases to fester in his heart, such as the hadeeth in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No one will enter Paradise who has an atom’s-weight of arrogance in his heart.” (Narrated by Muslim, 91).
And the hadeeth according to which Hell will say, “My share is the arrogant.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4850; Muslim, 2846)
And the hadeeth: “On the Day of Resurrection the arrogant will be gathered like ants in the form of men.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2492; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2025).
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The disease of the nations who came before you has started to spread among you: destructive envy and hatred. These are the shavers. I do not mean that they shave hair but they shave away religious commitment. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you of something which if you do it, you will love one another. Spread (the greeting of) salaam amongst yourselves.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2510; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi, 2038).
Whoever ponders with true insight such warnings about the diseases of the heart will undoubtedly strive to cleanse his heart thereof, and will seek help in doing so by doing outward physical acts, praying to his Lord to cleanse his heart of hatred, destructive envy, rancour and so on, as Allaah says, describing the prayer of the believers:
“and put not in our hearts any hatred against those who have believed”
[al-Hashr 59:10 – interpretation of the meaning]
And Allaah knows best. May Allaah send blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad.

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