Fathwa, - Wants to take birth control shots before getting married

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Is it a sin if a woman takes birth control shorts before she gets married without informing her fiancé who may want to have a child soon after marriage
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
After investigation, we have not come across any statement made by the Muslims juristson this issue. However, it appears that if this birth control method will prevent having children after marriage, then you should inform your fiancé about it. This is because having children is among the objectives of marriage, and delaying it by the wish of either spouse should not be except by the consent of the other spouse.
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Fathwa, - When Using a Loop Is Permissible, Placing It by a Female Physician Is alsoPermissible

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Question
I am female gynecologist and I know that one of the theories upon which the loop functions is that it prevents the fertilized egg from sticking to the wall of the womb. So, is it permissible for me to place it for women in cases where it is needed, knowing that it is one of the least harmful methods of contraception?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
It is permissible for a woman to use the loop and if her husband is not a physician and qualified to place it, it is permissible for a female physician to assume this task. That is because it is prohibited for a woman to see this part of another woman's ‘Awrah )private parts( except for necessity, which must only be to the required extent.
Allaah Knows best.






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Youth, - Self-Help and Recovery

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Acknowledge what is wrong
Acknowledging a problem is the first step towards finding a solution or a cure for it. Sometimes a bad habit is like a black mark on one's face, it is apparent to everybody except oneself.
Assess yourself: How often do you catch yourself using abusive words? Are there particular times when you use bad language more than others )for example if you are with friends, when you are angry with someone or frustrated over something(. Has anyone ever pointed out or taken offense at the language you use?
If you are honest with yourself and not in self-denial, you will soon realize if you have a bad language habit or not. If you do, acknowledge that it is a sin for you to abuse the gift of speech given to you by Allaah in a manner that is unbecoming for a Muslim. Muslims are seen as representative of their faith, and to use foul language even as a joke or to keep up with the crowd that you hang out with, will lead to the conclusion that Muslims swear -- even if you are just one person.
If you don't use bad language but have friends or family members who do, try to make them aware of their habit in a gentle manner.
Accept responsibility and repent
It may sound strange to repent for the use of a few stray words uttered in jest, but think about what the Quran Says )what means(:}Have we not made for him a pair of eyes? A tongue, and a pair of lips? And guided him towards the two paths )of success({]Quran 90:8-10[
Allaah the Exalted has informed us that we are responsible for whatever we say and do, and we will be asked about how we used the faculties that He gave us on the Day of Judgment. We will be rewarded if we use our organs and faculties in the best way and for the sake of Allaah. We will be penalized if we abuse them and use them to do wrong actions which are displeasing to Allaah.
We have to remember that on the Day of Judgment, our physical organs will stand as witnesses for and against us. Allaah Says )what means(:}On the Day their tongues, their hands, and their feet will bear witness against them as to their actions.{]Quran 24:24[
If we truly believe in the words of the Quran and in the Day of Judgment, we would not hesitate to repent now -- while there is time -- from all our sins and shortcomings, in order to avoid eternal punishment and humiliation.
Discourage others
Muslims have an enormous responsibility to enjoin good and forbid evil in all circumstances and in all its forms -- especially if the evil is a common failing which has the potential to spread to others. People seen as being active and practicing in the community have a great responsibility to show their disapproval of bad language and not let it pass if it happens in their presence. If Muslims allow foul language in their homes and communities to pass unnoticed, it is almost the equivalent of giving it their tacit approval, so that it slowly spreads and becomes socially acceptable. On the authority ofAbu Sa`eed, may Allaah be pleased with him, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said,"Whoever sees something evil should change it with his hand )i.e. physically(. If he cannot, then with his tongue )verbally(; and if he cannot do even that, then in his heart )by detesting it(. That is the weakest degree of faith."]Muslim[
Also on the authority ofIbn Mas`ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam,said,"There was not a single Prophet among those who were sent before me who did not have apostles and companions and followed his way and obeyed his commands. But afterwards other generations came whose words belied their deeds, and whose deeds were not in accordance with what they commanded others to do. Whoever struggles against them with his hand is a believer. Whoever struggles against them with his tongue is a believer. And whoever struggles against them with his heart is a believer. But when none of these things are done, then not a single mustard's seed weight of faith is present."]Muslim[





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Youth, - Bad Language: A Destructive Habit

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There’s a disconcerting new trend among young Muslims: they are increasingly becoming compulsive users of bad language. A section of our youth feels that using wrong grammar or imitating aggressive ‘ghetto’ or ‘gangsta’ speech and talking in a tough manner with others makes them sound “cool”.
Almost everyone has heard young people jokingly trade insults with each other and come up with witty, sarcastic ‘putdowns’ to get the last word in a conversation. It seems as if a conversation is a verbal duel, whose aim is to leave the opponent feeling wounded and humiliated. This is only one aspect of the widespread use of bad language.
The other aspect, which is much more worrying, is the common use of abusive and obscene words in everyday conversations. Ugly words and expressions, that just a couple of years ago, were considered rude in polite company are cropping up regularly in youngsters' conversations, regardless of who they are talking to: it could be their friends and family, or strangers and co-workers.
Young people, who spend a good part of their day online, have coined a whole lexicon of impolite words which they consider humorous. These words are used in text messages and online conversations, on social networking sites and online forums, and out of force of habit even in real life conversations. And a lot of young Muslims have adopted this crude vocabulary without any second thoughts or feelings of guilt.
Reasons
How do our youth get into the habit of using abusive language and why do they use it?
One reason why youngsters are fond of using crude language is to fit in with the majority and appear smart and worldly-wise, especially in the West or in Westernized countries. Profanity is so common in films and TV programs, it doesn’t raise eyebrows anymore. Earlier, a lot of abusive language in movies used to get censored or ‘bleeped’ out on TV, but it seems that these days the tolerance level has gone up on the part of the authorities and the audience. Even though films are still graded for viewing and TV programs still silence bad language, yet it is easy to make out -- and in the case of young people -- pick up what is being said.
Most often, it is the lead characters who are portrayed using bad language. This makes young people feel it is smart and glamorous to use bad language in the course of their conversation. It is no coincidence that some of the first words learners of English as a second language pick up from watching movies or TV or listening to popular music are swear words.
These days, the use of abusive language is a problem with children as young as three and four, who pick up the words from listening to adults speaking in front of them, or from TV or radio programs that parents leave on, even when the children are within earshot. Young people are impressionable and very easily influenced by their peers and by messages in the media. They assume that it is acceptable to use bad language, because everyone around them is doing it.
Another reason why youngsters may be tempted to use abusive language is to show their "rebellion" to society and to show they don't wish to conform to their parents' cultural and religious values. Sometimes, young people use abusive language for its shock value, in order to attract attention or because they feel frustrated and to release the anger and stress within them.
Whatever the reason, using bad language can never be justified. Yet, if you point out a young person’s use of abusive language and swear words, they almost always brush it off as a minor issue, or they may justify it by saying nowadays nobody considers such language rude anymore, or they may say “Everyone is doing it, so what’s the big deal if I do it too?”
It isa major problem if a Muslim uses bad language because in doing so, they are deliberately choosing to go against the example and injunctions of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam.
Abdullaah ibn 'Amr, may Allaah be pleased with him, mentioned that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, was neither a Faahish nor a Mutafahish )person who uses bad language(. He also narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said:“The best among you are those who have the best manners and character.”
Trying to downplay a wrong action by justifying it or belittling it is a sin in itself. Someone who has got into the habitual use of bad language will only start recovering if they first acknowledge that they are committing a sin, and then take steps to avoid repeating it.





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