Fathwa, - He did not tell his wife that he had a fertility problem

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I have been married for past 6 years and we have no kids due to medical reasons. We are staying abroad in gulf from the time of marriage. Also, due to medical reasons the relationship is reduced. We have undergone lot of medical treatment for having kids but the result was negative. Prior to my marriage i was undergoing treatment with the doctor, the biggest blunder we did was not informing about the treatment to my wife and her parents. My wife was working before but now she is at home and feels very lonely and misses having kids. Kindly advise what should be done since my wife is very depressed & unhappy and i feel like i have cheated her.
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Being sterile is not considered among the defects the give the other party the right to invalidate the marriage contract; it is for this reason that the majority of the juristsare of the view that it is not an obligation )upon the husband( to inform the wife about it.
Hence, we advise you to continue seeking medical treatment. You and your wife should not give up hope; rather, you should supplicate Allaah as much as possible as He answers the supplication of people in distress. It is Allaah Who blessed the ProphetIbraaheem)Abraham(withIsmaa’eel)Ishmael( andIshaaq)Ishaq( while he was an old man, and He blessedZakariyya)Zachariah( withYahia)John( and He amended his wife for him and she became fertile after having been barren; may Allaah exalt the mention of all the Prophets and Messengers.
Indeed, the matter of having children is in the hands of Allaah; Allaah Says )what means(: }To Allaah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what He wills. He gives to whom He wills female ]children[ and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them ]both[ males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.{]Quran 42:49-50[
Also, we advise both of you to seek the forgiveness of Allaah as much as possible as this is a means of having children; Allaah Says about the ProphetNooh]Noah[ )what means(: }And said, Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver. He will send ]rain from[ the sky upon you in ]continuing[ showers. And give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers.{]Quran 71:10-12[
On the other hand, it is permissible for you to look for a means to have children by artificial insemination as this is permissible provided some Islamic conditions are met as clarified in various Fatwas.
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Fathwa, - Diseases that may affect marital life should be disclosed before concluding the marriage contract

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I have a disease that affects the liver that is transmitted through blood, sex or childbirth. I caught it due to lack of antisepsis at birth. This disease usually appears between forty and sixty years of age, and once it appears, the affected person dies some days later. As yet, no remedy has been found but there is a vaccine against it. At present, I am 23 years old. I have a job and would like to marry. My question is: could I vaccinate the woman whom I would like to marry without telling her about the reality of my disease? If your Fatwa is in the negative, then, I would not be accepted. Is it lawful to spend my entire life without marriage? Is this not a violation of the rules of a sound innate disposition? I am content with the fate that Allaah The Almighty has decreed for me. What should I do to restrain my sexual desire and not fall into sin?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
A faithful believer must accept the fate that Allaah The Almighty decrees for him, and should do so patiently while hoping for the reward from Allaah The Almighty, keeping in mind that there is wisdom known only by Allaah The Almighty that lies behind whatever diseases and trials he is exposed to, and that they are a means to raise his rank and blot out his sins.
Undoubtedly, the disease that has affected you is a kind of trial, and perhaps Allaah The Almighty would cure you of it by virtue of your obedience and piety, and prayer to Him to cure you and restore you to health, since nothing but supplication can avert fate, as confirmed in the noble Prophetic Hadeeth )narration(.
As for your intention to marry and your question whether or not to tell your would-be wife about this disease, let us say that if it is certain that you are affected by that disease, due to your confidence in the validity of analyses and tests, on the basis of their variety and multiple sources, we are of the view that you should tell the woman whom you would like to marry about this. This is necessary so that she is fully aware of the matter, especially since you are going to vaccinate her against the disease, and you must have her permission before you give her the vaccine. Furthermore, after marriage, the symptoms of the disease might appear, which would put the family life to risk, for by then the woman would perceive to what extent she has been deceived and cheated.
No doubt, you would never accept to be treated as such by your wife. If you marry a woman and after marriage you detect that she is suffering from such a disease and that she has hidden this fact from you, of a surety, your impression would be that you have been cheated and deceived. It is narrated in a Prophetic Hadeeth: "None of you has believed until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself." ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
We advise you to endeavor to treat yourself, and do your best to search for a remedy, and have confidence in Allaah The Almighty, seek refuge in Him, and treat yourself with the things which He made curative like the water of Zamzam, honey, black seed and other such things. Many sick persons whose disease was hopeless took refuge in that, with reliance on and confidence in Allaah The Almighty, and they fully recovered.
If you intend to marry, it may be that Allaah The Almighty would place in your way a righteous woman who accepts to marry you regardless of your disease.
We ask Allaah to cure you, restore you to health, and make your affairs easy.
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Fathwa, - Marrying a woman who lost her virginity when raped

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I am a young Muslim man. I met a girl whom I intend to marry. She told me that she was deflowered after being raped by her uncle. This matter made me change my mind concerning marrying her. What do you advise?
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
If you are sure of the truthfulness of this girl, then, it is permissible for you to marry her. Moreover, if you marry her, you will be preserving her honor. She told you what had happened, which indicates her truthfulness especially that she named her uncle as the perpetrator. It is most unlikely to accuse her uncle if she is a liar. If she was lying, she was more likely to claim that she was raped by any other man or to tell you that she lost her virginity due to a jump or a fall, and so on. In general, you are more knowledgeable regarding the condition of the girl, her truthfulness and circumstances.
We would like to bring to your attention that is it impermissible for a man and a woman to have a relationship before marriage.
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Welcome to Islam, - The message of the messengers

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| Allaah, the All Wise, All Knowing, All Merciful and Just, created this Universe in order to test and examine His obedient slaves and reward them, and to punish the disobedient. He Says )what means(:"We did not create the heavens and the earth and that between them in play. We did not create them except in truth, but most of them do not know."]Quran 44: 38-39[
Allaah also made clear the main goal for the creation of mankind, Saying )what means(:"I did not create the Jinn and Mankind except for My worship"]Quran 51: 56[
Allaah, the Exalted, did not leave His slaves to rely upon their intellect and inclination to guide them to the correct way; rather He sent them Messengers as bringers of good tidings and warners. He sent the revealed Books with them to be a reference in those matters wherein they disagreed, so that no excuse would remain for the people and the proof would be established against them. Thus, after sending the Messengers, there would be no further excuse for people before Allaah.
Indeed, their mission covered every good and banished every evil. They brought to humankind everything needed for their well being and happiness in this world and the Hereafter. There is nothing good, which they did not inform the people about and nothing evil that they did not warn the people against.
‘Abdullaah bin `Amr bin Al-`Aas, may Allaah be pleased with him, said that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:"There was never a Prophet before me except that it was a duty upon him that he should guide his nation to every good that he knew and warn them against every evil that he knew…"]Muslim[
Indeed, calling to Allaah was the mission of the Messengers in order to bring the people out from darkness into light. There are many basic principles upon which their calls were based, which were the starting point for calling to Allaah. These fundamental principles are:
1. Tawheed )Monotheism(
2. Prophethood
3. The Hereafter
Every book revealed by Allaah gave great importance to these points. The most important and sublime of these three principles and the most fundamental of them all is Tawheed )Oneness( of Allaah.
Allaah Says )which means(:"And We certainly sent into every nation a Messenger, )saying(: 'Worship Allaah and avoid Taaghoot )false objects of worship(.' "]Quran 16: 36[
Allaah has informed us about some of the Prophets, may Allaah exalt their mention, and how they faced their people. We see that all of them proceeded upon the universal way laid down by Allaah and followed the methodology Allaah established for all of them. Not a single one of them is at variance with it, Allaah Says )which means(:"And We had certainly sent Nooh to his people, )saying(: 'Indeed, I am to you a clear warner, that you not worship except Allaah. Indeed, I fear for you the punishment of a painful Day.'"]Quran 11: 25-26[
The noblest of all Prophets and the last of them, Muhammad bin ‘Abdullaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, )who was sent with the greatest, most complete and comprehensive message(, began with what all the Prophets, may Allaah exalt their mention, started their Da’wah )call( -- calling to the 'Aqeedah )creed( of Tawheed )Oneness of Allaah(, and calling for all worship to be made purely and sincerely for Allaah alone. Allaah's Messenger, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, started with the principle: 'Witness that none has the right to be worshipped except Allaah.'
Allaah Says )what means(:"Say, )O Muhammad(: 'O mankind, indeed I am the Messenger of Allaah to you all, )from him( to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. There is no deity except Him; He gives life and causes death.' So believe in Allaah and His Messenger, the unlettered Prophet, who believes in Allaah and His words, and follow him that you may be guided."]Quran 7: 158[
The verses in this regard are many, what we quote here is just one example. With regard to the Sunnah )traditions and approved actions of Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam(, there are many clear indications that Allaah's Messenger began his call to Islam with Tawheed.
1.`Amr bin Abasah As-Sulami, may Allaah be pleased with him, said:"During the times of ignorance … I heard of a man in Makkah who received revelation. So I set upon my riding beast and came to him. At that time he was in hiding, due to the oppression of his people. So I behaved in a way that enabled me to gain access to him in Makkah. I said to him: "Who are you?" He replied: "I am a Prophet.' So I said: "And what is a Prophet?' He said: 'Allaah has sent me as a Messenger.' So I said: 'And what is it that He has sent you with?' He said: 'I have been sent to order the joining of ties of relationship, to break the idols, so that Allaah is worshipped Alone and nothing at all is associated in worship along with Him."]Muslim[
2.At the time of the peace of Hudaibiyyah, Hiraql )Heraclius( asked Abu Sufyaan some questions about Allaah's Messenger, among which he asked:"What does he )Muhammad( command you?" Abu Sufyaan replied: "He says, 'Worship Allaah Alone and do not worship anything else along with Him, and abandon what your fathers say. He also orders prayers, charity, and the joining of the ties of relationship.'"]Al-Bukhaari[
Consequently, the Prophets, may Allaah exalt their mention, did not come to bring about the downfall of one State to replace it with another. They did not seek sovereignty, nor did they organize political parties for this reason. Rather, they came for the guidance of humankind, to save it from misguidance and Shirk )polytheism(, and to take them out of darkness into light.
In this regard Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, gave an example about himself. He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:"The similitude of me and the message with which Allaah has sent me, is like a man who came to some people and said: ‘I have seen the enemy forces with my own eyes and I am a mere warner )to you(. So, save yourselves, save yourselves!’ A group of his people obeyed him and went out at night, slowly and steadily and was safe; while another group belied him and stayed in their place until the morning when the army destroyed them. Such is the similitude of those who obey me and follow what I have brought )i.e., Message( and of those who disobey me and belie the Truth which I have brought."]Al-Bukhaari, Muslim and others[
The Message of the Messengers, by the Mercy of Allaah, revives and enlightens the believer’s soul. This enlightenment is the revelation of Allaah, which leads mankind from the darkness of Shirk )polytheism( and ignorance to the Light of Truth and Islam:"Allaah is the ally of those who believe. He brings them out from darkness into the light."]Quran 2: 257[
The Messenger and the Message are evidence against the disbelievers
Allaah sent His Messengers and His Books so that there can be no excuse for mankind on the Day of Judgment. The Quran says )what means(:")we sent( Messengers as bringers of good tidings and warners so that mankind will have no argument against Allaah after Messengers."]Quran 4: 165[
The Message of Allaah deals with the rights of Allaah on His bondsmen, the rights of man on His Creator, The Oneness of Allaah and its influence on the creation, knowledge, admonition, the wisdom behind the creation, righteousness, mutual interactions, refutation of incorrect beliefs and deviations, lawful and unlawful, migration and Jihaad. In totality, it is the complete code for righteous living, which results in delight, pleasure and harmony in this life and the Hereafter. |