Islam Goes Hand In Hand With Art And Beauty

One of the main indicators of a society's level of development and
well-being is without doubt its level of art, beauty and quality.
Islam attaches great importance to art. The exceedingly fine
examples of Islamic art that have left many traces in such fields as
architecture and literature are one of the clearest indicators of
this.
Although the first things that come to mind when art is mentioned are
branches such as painting and music, believers are not limited to
these and apply art and beauty in all areas of their lives, to the
very greatest extent possible. High quality manifests itself in the
lives of believers when cleanliness, one of the most important
characteristics of Qur'anic morality, is combined with art and
beauty.
Beauty and Art in Clothing and External Appearance
Believers are people who strive to represent God's faith at every
moment and in all respects. They therefore pay great attention to
external appearance.
Some people make the mistake of interpreting taking care of one's
clothes and external appearance as tending toward the life of this
world or seeking the approval of other people. Yet through the
quality, cleanliness and attention they take over their external
appearance, as with their behavior, believers actually invite people
to the beauty and nobility of Islamic moral values. Our Prophet
(saas) also says in hadiths that there is no pride involved in
dressing well:
"God is beautiful and loves beauty; dressing well is not pride,
pride lies in rejecting the truth and in despising people." (Kütüb-i
Sitte, [The Six Books] Translation and Commentary by Dr. Ibrahim
Canan, vol. 7, Akçağ Press, Ankara, p. 208)
Our Prophet Muhammed (saas) always wore the best and most elegant
clothes possible under all circumstances, and always recommended
this to the Companions. Hazrat Hassan (pbuh), the grandson of the
Prophet (saas), described the Messenger of God's (saas) view
regarding dress as follows:
"Our Prophet (saas) commanded us to wear the best clothes we had
and to use the finest scents we could find." (Bukhari, at-Tarih
al-Kabir, I, 382, no:1222)
Taking care over one's clothing is an explicit command of God's in
the Qur'an. Surat al-Muddaththir says:
Purify your clothes. Shun all filth. (Surat al-Muddaththir, 4-5)
The faith requires that clothing be clean and well-maintained. Since
our Prophet (saas) attached great importance to cleanliness, he
also regarded maintaining the hair and beard, one's external
appearance, as very important. Some sources report that he used to
carry combs, mirrors, a mishwak, toothpicks, scissors and kohl. (Ali
al-Qari, Jam'ul-Wasail fi Sharh ash- Shamail, Istanbul, p. 96-97)
Art and Beauty in Living Quarters
Believers seek the maximum of God's approval at all times. They
strive with all their might to raise their moral values to those of
paradise, of people beloved of God. They also try to keep their
living quarters as close as possible to the descriptions of
paradise. Believers make their homes attractive by keeping them
clean and light and not overfilled with unnecessary objects. They
try to choose harmonious accessories, to decorate their homes with
flowers or pictures, and even if they cannot renew their household
possessions, they at least move them around from time to time to give
an impression of variety.
It is a grave error to imagine that there is no need to bother with
home maintenance, or that it is a waste of time. The fact that the
Qur'an discusses the beauty of the Prophet Solomon's (pbuh) palace
is a sign of the importance of the subject. The beauty of the palace
and the effective nature of the message it conveyed to the queen of
Sheba are described as follows in Surat al-Naml:
She was told: 'Enter the courtyard,' but when she saw it she supposed
it to be a pool and bared her legs. He said, 'It is a courtyard
paved with glass.' She said, 'My Lord, I have wronged myself but I
have submitted with Solomon to the Lord of all the worlds.' (Surat
an-Naml, 44)
The Atrophication in Societies Devoid of Art
Societies devoid of art and beauty, with lives deprived of quality,
have great deficiencies. The members of such societies lack wide
horizons and are always backward in all areas. Some examples of the
atrophication caused by living without art are as follows:
They lose the ability to be considerate
Living devoid of art and beauty kills all the delicacy of the human
soul. The lack of care such a person takes in his daily life and
personal grooming can also be seen in his speech and behavior. The
crude and inappropriate language that such people use toward their
families, friends and even while shopping, etc. immediately
attracts notice.
This behavior, the exact opposite of the conception of quality in
Islam, may also have a damaging effect on people's hearts warming to
Islam. Allah reveals in the Qur'an that shaytan seeks to divide
believers and commands them to take great care over their speech.
Surat al-Isra' says:
Say to My slaves that they should only say the best. Satan wants to
stir up trouble between them. Shaytan is an outright enemy to man.
(Surat al-Isra', 53)
As a result of the pains they take over their external appearance
and their living spaces, believers acquire the ability to think very
considerately. Paying attention to details and being careful over
such matters makes it easier for believers to see the details in
all subjects and to think considerately. In this way, they do not
choose their words carelessly when they speak, but take great pains
with the language they use. As cited in the verse above, this is a
very important matter that strengthens the bonds of brotherhood
between believers.
They are unable to witness the art and beauty in nature
The sensitivity toward artistic structures around them to a large
extent atrophies in people who do not strive to ensure that art
predominates in their lives. One negative consequence of this is
that a child, a lovely flower or a cute kitten produces no pleasant
effect in the souls of such people. They are unable to feel in their
souls the excitement of seeing the artistry of God manifested in
such entities.
Yet someone who takes care over his clothing, who notes that a
flower is created to be elegant, who notes the beauty of hair, who
sees that a cat's fur is always shiny and who decorates his own
home well, will doubtlessly better appreciate the harmony of color
in a sunset he witnesses, because he is more sensitive to the
sensations caused by such delights. Believers know that every
beautiful thing they see is a manifestation of the beauty of God and
that beauty gives them a sense of ease in their hearts. Better
appreciation of beauty leads them to remember God and give thanks to
Him more.
They do not take proper care over religious observances
Art and beauty are of great importance in services made for the
faith. The main aim of a Muslim is to struggle against atheism. As
everyone knows, atheism assumed a supposed scientific guise with the
theory of evolution; it is therefore very important for Muslims to
be punctilious and take pains over all details in their struggles
against atheism because the basic aim in such activities is to show
the fact of creation to people who have been misled by the
scientific- seeming lies of Darwinism. The attractive and esthetic
appearance of and careful labor in any work (be it a web site, a
book or a documentary), will increase people's desire to examine it
closer and thus, by God's leave, enhance its impact.
In contrast, it is immediately apparent that a piece of work done
in a careless, slapdash manner could lead to undesired
consequences, such as destroying the potential impact of the work in
question.
It is obvious that people who have lived far removed from art and
beauty in their daily lives will also be weak when it comes to doing
affective work on behalf of the faith. These people, who are
careless even over their own personal appearance, will inevitably
miss many important details in those activities they undertake.
Some people even fail to see how the real danger against which
Muslims need to direct their attentions is the Darwinist-materialist
system. While aware of the danger of atheism, they may fall into the
error of merely criticizing other Muslims rather than working
effectively against that threat themselves.
Muslims, however, are people who strive to render as much service
as possible - and at all times - to God's religion and who seek to
earn the greatest extent of His approval. They are careful to avoid
being the kind of people described in the words "Among the people
there is one who worships God right on the edge" (Surat al-Hajj,
11) from Surat al-Hajj. The Qur'an reveals how Muslims compete with
one another on the path of God:
They have faith in God and the Last Day, and enjoin the right and
forbid the wrong, and compete in doing good. They are among the
righteous. (Surat al-'Imran, 114)
They cause a dislike in hearts of those people who are unacquainted
with Islam
Islam is a faith that harbors all that is beautiful, noble and high
quality. A Muslim is the most honest, virtuous and high quality
person you can imagine. The true Islam revealed in the Qur'an is
something to be envied by everyone.
However, a lifestyle devoid of art and beauty, an arid lifestyle
supposedly representing Islam leads to a false prejudice as to the
nature of Islam in the hearts of those who are unacquainted with it.
This is one of the main reasons why many people today tend toward
atheism. This will no doubt rebound on the heads of those who do not
strive to achieve the quality required by Islam, and who live in an
ill-kempt fashion and devoid of cleanliness, misinterpreting the
faith in a shallow manner. (Allah knows the truth.)
As described in the story of the Prophet Solomon (pbuh) in the
Qur'an, Muslims must adopt art and beauty as an effective means of
preaching the word. Fully complying with the Qur'an on this matter
will be instrumental in Islam spreading rapidly across the world.
In preaching the word to the queen of Sheba, the Prophet Solomon
(pbuh) had her own throne brought in and he welcomed her in his
palace. The artwork and decoration in the palace had a huge impact
on the queen of Sheba and was instrumental in her coming to have
faith. The considerate behavior and the use he made of art can be
seen at every stage while he communicated the word. This method of
preaching revealed in the Qur'an is one that all Muslims should
apply.
Conclusion
Everything said here shows what damage an arid lifestyle devoid of
art does to Muslims. All Muslims must strive to achieve a high level
of art, beauty and quality, things which occupy such an important
place in Islam.
Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) whose coming in the End Times - the final age
before the Day of Judgment - is foretold in the hadiths, will
rejuvenate Islam with his conception of art and quality and, by God's
will, will cause it to reign across the world. Every Muslim who
sincerely and passionately loves Hazrat Mahdi (pbuh) and sincerely
wishes to be his follower must work to improve himself in this
important sphere.

The Intelligent Defense Operatives in the Blood: Complement Molecules

There is a system inside the body almost identical to social life
among human beings. The only difference is that the heroes of the
social life on the outside are human beings, while those in the body
are cells. Nonetheless, the methods employed, the tactics used and
the precautions taken are highly similar. Like conscious human
beings, cells also have similar abilities to defend themselves,
behave intelligently and take precautions. One major example of
this takes place among the defense cells.
White blood cells, of which there are many different types, are
programmed to fight against everything that might harm us from the
moment we begin to breathe. The absence of even the smallest part of
this flawless mechanism of ours could mean that we could die from a
simple illness.
In addition to this perfect mechanism in our bodies, we also have
defense operatives who are active even if we do not fall ill. From
our birth to our death, these defense operatives are programmed to
attack "every cell" in the body. This is really astonishing;
although they exist to defend the body they regard all the cells
that comprise that body as hostile. The system they comprise is
known as the "complement system."
The Intelligent Methods Employed by Complement Cells
Complement molecules consist of more than 20 different proteins.
They are produced in the liver, from where they pass into the
circulatory system. Under normal conditions, these cells move
ineffectively and haphazardly through the bloodstream. When
stimulated, however, they suddenly decide to destroy all the cells
they see. This stimulus spreads through the entire system in the
body through one single complement cell channel. Once stimulated,
they make no distinction between friend or foe in the body. They
therefore also try to bind to the body's own cells and destroy
them. But the body does not let its cells be killed because the
cells of the body are remarkably intelligent and possess the ability
to protect themselves. They literally "recognize" complement cells
the moment they see them. As soon as complement cells touch cells
belonging to the body, the body's own cells neutralize them. In this
way, the body is not struck down by its own troops; it does not
succumb to "friendly fire". However, foreign organisms that have
entered the body are inevitably attacked by these defense operatives
they never expected to meet.
→ Complement Cells Prevent Aggressor Cells Doing Harm by Opening a
Hole in the Aggressor Cell Membrane: When one of the complement
molecules binds to a foreign organism, it changes shape. This is
followed by the first protein possessed by the complement molecule
binding to the bacterium. The other proteins of the complement
system then bind to the bacterium one by one, and the complement
hunters thus surround the invading bacterium. The final component
of the complement system is responsible for attacking the cell
membrane. This intelligent molecule opens a hole in the cell
membrane, the only means of defense for the unprotected bacterium.
Following this attack, the bacterium absorbs water and explodes.
Sometimes, complement molecules use a different technique. They cover
the enemy with a fine membrane, thus identifying it for other
cells to consume it.
As seen in this example, there is a glorious intelligence in every
part of the human body. That intelligence lies in every organism that
protects and defends and keeps the body alive. It is essential for
the cells of the body to recognize complement aggressors; otherwise
a single attack might well cost a person their life. These powerful
guards need to be on the alert at all times.
Are You Aware of the Presence of this Immaculate Complement System
in the Human Body?
Apart from a few scientists who specialize in the subject, the
number of people familiar with the mechanism in question is quite
limited. Nonetheless, every human being without exception is
equipped with this flawless system. This system is at work at every
moment because our Lord God creates them and gives them knowledge
of defense and attack in the body. God inspires them with the
knowledge of whom to fight. God determines their duties. The
flawlessness they possess is a blessing on them from God and you are
protected, and in the way that God wishes, against invaders in your
body. This perfect system we are describing, with all its details,
is just one of the works of our Almighty Lord.
The war in the body may not always end in victory. If bacteria that
are more able than complement molecules enter the body, these can
compromise the entire functioning of these molecules. The mutual
display of intelligence that arises in such situations is truly
astonishing. For example, pneumococcus bacteria that causes
pulmonary infections recognize the warrior molecules coming to
attack them before they even enter the body. It is our Almighty Lord
Who identifies these molecules to them, Who created them, Who
monitors that at every moment and keeps them under His control.
Bacteria entering the body in order to infect it are covered in a
slippery membrane that makes it impossible for the complement
molecules to recognize them. In this way, the complement molecules
are unable to identify these bacteria as uninvited and harmful
guests.
After this you might imagine that bacteria can move around in the
body as they wish. The fact is, however, that foreign objects that
escape one trap in the human body with its perfect system will
encounter another major obstacle. Giant macrophages tear open the
skipper sheath that prevents bacteria from being recognized and
neutralize them by trapping them with their long arms. When they
choose not to do this, they release a special identifier that marks
the bacteria. Once the bacteria are marked, complement molecules
and other cells recognize and destroy them.
These things all show that the bacterium entering the body - and
the molecules that fight it within the body - are both the work of
God. Bacteria are clearly aware of the kind of danger they will
encounter. And the body's cells have ready precautions made against
a bacterium that may enter the body before they ever become
acquainted with it. This is of course one of the examples created in
our bodies to show that God, the Lord and absolute ruler of the
universe, creates all things. This fact is noted as follows in
verses:
" Say: 'I seek refuge with the Lord of mankind, the King of mankind,
the God of mankind,) (Surat an-Nas, 1-3 )
"They will say, 'Our Lord, our miserable destiny overpowered us. We
were misguided people'." (Surat al-Mu'minun, 116)
Complement molecules are an example of perfection, created with all
their characteristics and all of whose components function in
coordination. They are therefore important proofs of creation. We
are once again looking at the flawlessness in God's creation.
Godreveals the fact of creation as follows in one verse:
" This is God's creation. Show me then what those besides Him have
created! The wrongdoers are clearly misguided." (Surah Luqman, 11 )
How Does the AIDS Virus Compromise the Defense Mechanism?
AIDS, a lethal disease to which no cure has thus been found, is
another important example of how aggressor and defender are both
the works of a single Creator. The HIV virus responsible for the
disease enters the body with a tactic specially planned against the
body's defense mechanism; it knows what it will be fighting before
it ever enters the body. For that reason, the moment it enters the
body, instead of infiltrating into any cell like other viruses do,
it enters inside the 'Messenger T cell,' which is responsible for
destroying foreign objects in the body and reporting it to other
defense elements. It compromises the cell and does not let it send
a message of danger. An immune system whose elements have been
compromised cannot function as it did before. As a result, the body
becomes unable to fight off even the simplest viruses. Because of
the destructive cumulative effects of the HIV virus on the immune
system, even a flu virus can prove fatal.

How The Hormone Thyroxin Renews Cells

· By what stages is thyroxin released?
· What disease does insufficient thyroxin production lead to?
· How is the level of production of the hormone thyroxin determined?
· Why is the collaboration between this hormone and growth
hormone important?
The cells of the eyes that enable you to read this paper need glucose
for nourishment. A system that calculates the amount of sugar in
your blood and keeps that level stable has therefore been installed
in your body. The number of times your heart needs to beat a
minute, the level of calcium stored in your bones, the amount of
blood your kidneys filter in a minute and thousands of other similar
details are calculated and organized by means of the planning and a
communications network among the cells. This chemical
communication system that ensures 100 trillion cells work together
in harmony is known as the hormone system. The system contains a
number of working hormones. One of these is the hormone thyroxin.
The tissues that comprise the human body are constantly being
renewed. In order for this to happen, 200 million cells are born in
the body every minute and replace dead cells. The supervision of
this immaculate system has been entrusted, at the desire of
Almighty God, to this hormone called thyroxin. This supervises the
body, determines cells whose life span has been completed and
issues commands to the relevant units for new production to take
place. In other words, the renewal of the body depends on the
activity of this hormone.
The Miraculous Characteristics of the Hormone Thyroxin
To grasp the importance of the hormone thyroxin, all you need do is
look in the mirror. There is a proportion right from birth in
everyone's mouth, nose, eyes, face and body. You are indebted to the
hormone thyroxin, created by Almighty God with flawless functioning,
for this proportion. If thyroxin molecules had not visited your
cells one by one many years ago when that body was still developing
and told them how to divide, then the organs of our body would be
completely disproportional and this could even lead to mental
retardation.
Indeed, mental retardation appears as a result of the disease known
as cretinism, caused by insufficient production of the hormone
thyroxin immediately after birth. At the end of the developmental
process, people who suffer from this disease have disproportionate
bodies, generally having short legs and large heads. Thyroxin
deficiency also causes dwarfism.
How Is the Hormone Thyroxin Released?
A system with advanced technology and planning has been created to
regulate the amount of thyroxin secreted and the timing. Release of
the hormone thyroxin takes place as the result of a chain of
commands. Pieces of flesh consisting of combinations of unconscious
cells have a highly disciplined and regular hierarchy among
themselves.
When thyroxin is needed, the hypothalamus, the seat of the hormonal
system, sends a command (TRH – Thyrotropin Releasing Hormone) to the
pituitary gland, the hormonal system's orchestral conductor. The
pituitary gland that receives the command realizes that the thyroid
gland has to go into action. It immediately sends a command (TSH –
Thyroid Stimulating Hormone) to the thyroid. The final link in the
chain of commands is that the thyroid gland immediately produces
thyroxin in the light of that instruction and distributes it
throughout the body by way of the blood stream.
Millions of processes are taking place in your body as you read
this. Through these processes, calculations are made regarding
what cells in which part of your body need, and what they need to
do. Steps are taken to meet the cells' needs, and the cells are
told, one by one, what they must do. Thanks to the flawless
communication system inside your body, its 100 trillion cells meet
all your needs without your ever being aware of it. This flawless
communication takes place thanks to your hormones. Thyroxin is one
of the many hormones in your body.
The Sensitive Level of Thyroxin Production
The level of thyroxin secreted is determined thanks to a special
system created by God with enormous artistry. This system consists
of two separate measurement and feedback mechanisms. Both of these
mechanisms are examples of a matchless engineering.
When the level of thyroxin in the blood rises above normal,
thyroxin establishes a very interesting effect on the pituitary
gland and sometimes directly on the hypothalamus: it reduces the
sensitivity of the pituitary gland to TRH. A little reflection here
will reveal a marvel here because the task of TRH is to stimulate the
pituitary gland and arrange for a command (TSH) to be sent to the
thyroid gland. This command represents the second link in the chain
set up for production of thyroxin.
The system has been created in such detail that the rising thyroxin
takes a highly intelligent precaution to ensure that over-production
does not take place and interrupts the chain of command established
for its own manufacture. In this way, when the level of thyroxin in
the blood rises above normal, thyroxin automatically slows down
its own manufacture.
There is also a second system that determines the level of thyroxin
production. Rising thyroxin affects the cells of the hypothalamus,
and these cells reduce TRH production. The production of TSH
secreted from the pituitary gland therefore declines and thyroxin
production slows down.
Are You Aware of the Miraculous Processes Taking Place in Your Body
Moment by Moment?
Together with the nervous system, the hormone system establishes
co-ordination of the body's cells. If we compare the nervous system
to messages sent over the internet, then the hormone system
resembles messages sent by letter; slower, but effective over a
longer period of time.
Examination of these systems that manage the body reveals a major
truth of which people are unaware. Some people think that they
manage and direct their own lives. When asked, "How much control do
you have over your own body?" these people will reply, "Total
control." Yet, that answer conflicts with the scientific facts
because people can only control a very small part of their bodies,
and even then, only partially. For example, they can use their
bodies to walk or talk, or they can make things by using their
hands. However, thousands of chemical and physical events in the
depths of the body take place independently of a person's knowledge
and will. Someone who thinks he is in charge of his own body is
therefore making a grave error. In one verse God says:
" Say: 'Have you thought about your partner gods, those you call
upon besides God? Show me what they have created of the earth; or do
they have a partnership in the heavens?' Have We given them a Book
whose Clear Signs they follow? No indeed! The wrongdoers promise
each other nothing but delusion. " (Surat al-Fatir, 40)
Thyroxin and Growth Hormone at Work
Thyroxin does not act alone during the growth stage in children but
together with growth hormone. Growth hormone is a molecule that
tells the child's cells to grow and multiply during the
developmental stage. In addition, this hormone also determines the
number and amount of cell divisions. However, there is another very
important detail in addition to determining the amount and number;
the rate of cell division. Thyroxin enters the equation at this
stage and affects the speed of cell division during childhood. In
this way, the individual completes his or her healthy development.
The people you see in daily life, your school friends, people
walking on the streets, your work colleagues, your family; all
these people owe the shape of their bodies to two tiny molecules
created in a perfect manner by Almighty God – growth hormone and
thyroxin. These hormones have been released at just the right time
and in just the right quantities; they have commanded trillions of
cells and have told all these cells how much and at what rate to
multiply, the result being the perfectly shaped human body.
The level of production of these molecules in human beings has been
very carefully adjusted in every person's body – neither too much,
nor too little. What would happen if there were serious variations
in the production of these hormones from person to person? In that
event, there would be serious variations in people's appearances.
Billions of people would be two and a half or three meters tall,
and billions of others just one meter or less. Each one would have
disproportionate bodies and organs and almost all would suffer from
profound mental retardation. Billions of people would die while
they were still in adolescence.
Conclusion: "… Everything has its measure with Him." (Surat ar-Ra'd, 8)
A person's physical appearance and characteristics come about
through two tiny molecules – immaculately created by God – growth
hormone and thyroxin. If thyroxin did not calculate the number of
diminishing cells or produced more or less than were needed, the
result would be turmoil in the body. Since cells could not be
renewed sufficiently, premature aging would occur in one's physical
appearance and organs would become unable to function.
Overproduction would mean that organs would grow in an uncontrolled
manner, tumors would occur, and this would quickly lead to death.
However, by creating these two miraculous hormones, our Almighty
Lord has created His servants in a flawless manner:
" He created the heavens and the Earth with truth and formed you,
giving you the best of forms. And He is your final destination ."
(Surat al-Taghabun, 3)
The Perfect Equivalence Between Cells and Hormones
Hormones are generally described as a signal group planned and
coded to regulate the interior of the human body. These signals
stimulate cells in different organs and tissues. A hormone goes
unrecognized in the different tissues it passes through until it
reaches the target cell. A question comes to mind at this point;
how does the cell identify its own hormone?
The cells targeted by hormones have an antenna or receptor on their
surface. This receptor is programmed with knowledge of the hormone
that binds to it. In this way, the hormone sent out never binds to a
wrong receptor, and no wrong organ or tissue is ever stimulated.
(Eldra Pearl Solomon, Introduction to Human Anatomy and Physiology,
p. 132)
When the hormone molecule attaches to the receptor on the cell
surface, a cascade of reactions takes place inside the cell. As a
result of these reactions, the cell does what it is commanded to do.
This happens as follows: For example, if the instruction sent
commands the cell to produce a specific protein, then various
enzymes in the cell go into action. These enzymes go to the DNA,
the cell's data bank, find the information for the relevant protein
and copy it. The production of the protein in question thus begins.
The components of the system work just like the links in a chain.
Failure of any of the chains to do its job will cause the chain to
break; in other words, it will compromise the entire system. Such
an interruption will be very dangerous for the body, and can
sometimes even end in death.
Thyroxin molecules released into the blood stream by the thyroid
gland bind to a transport molecule created specifically for this
purpose and thus travel through the blood stream, and they cannot
discharge their function so long as they are attached to this
molecule. Only four out of 10,000 thyroxin molecules are free in the
bloodstream. It is thus only four out of every 10,000 thyroxin
molecules that affects the rate of cellular metabolism. There is no
doubt that this is proof that God reigns over all the worlds,
whether we can see them or not, that he enfolds all things and that
he determines the numbers of all things on Earth:
" ...He [God] encompasses what is in their hands and has counted
the exact number of everything." (Surat al-Jinn, 28)
"To God belong the Most Beautiful Names, so call on Him by them and
abandon those who desecrate His Names. They will be repaid for what
they did." (Surat al-A'raf. 180)

Story, - Does love always die?

I don't even know where to start... I have been thinking for a long
time before I decided to put it in writing, but I am tired of carrying
this load and I'd like to share it with you :)
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and 8 months... A
long time, I know :) In the beginning, just like every start of a
relationship, it was like a fairy tale... Crazy in love, wild and
happy. You know how it is, right?
Only that in the past year and few months, everything turned upside
down. He went abroad for a few months. When he came back, he came to
live with me. I work and study at the same and it's sometimes really
hard for me, but I think I am managing somehow :)
The thing is that he isn't helping me with anything. When he comes
back from work, he sits on his computer and starts playing games till
midnight.
I am the one who's cleaning, cooking, tidying up, washing and putting
thins in order... In the beginning, it didn't bother me. I thought, he
wasn't used to this kind of life just yet. I was really enjoying
taking care of him. But he is taking it too far!!!
I don't think that he is even realizing how tired I feel sometimes and
that I need a little help. We have discussed it many times and every
time he says that he is going to change, that he is going to pay more
attention to me and that he is going to start helping me, but...?
Nothing is ever changing. I am sick of it! Things aren't going well
and I can feel it. He says he loves me, but he is in no way showing
that he treasures me. We are fighting almost every day and he has
become increasingly stubborn. He blames me for everything!
I am not sure if it is my dynamic lifestyle or the arguing that we do,
but I think our love is dead!!!Or at least as far as I'm concerned. I
am just tired of fighting for the lost spark in our relationship.
Yes, I think I don't love him anymore and it is killing me to say
this, because I remember how things used to be... So, the thing that I
keep asking myself is, does a moment always come in which the love
just dies? Or is this just not the right person for me?
Does such thing as true love even exist; the kind that makes you happy
every day and makes you feel alive?