Story, - I found you back

Hey this iz me Nayma Islam I read in 10th standard now my story is not
really a story it's the reality of my life so my story starts somehow
like this...
When I was at class 5 I got admitted to a new school far away from my
home my school was behind airport our schools name is Baf Shaheen
school it's a popular school in bangladesh ...
I met him 1st at this school he was in inter 1st year that time he was
so charming n cute also goodlooking whenever I saw him I felt like I
wish I could hug him though it was a single crush n I thought as I was
a teenage grl I think thts y I'm having such dreams
Ok let me say about him he is good looking charming religious and a
very kind and honest man a man who can be believed through closed
eyes...
We went in same bus in school every day .. He never talked to any girl
he was kind of shy but 1day I thought let me take his phone number n
talk to him n ya I took his number and called him we talked for so
many hours I always told him everything of my life suddenly I started
sharing him evry single pain n happiness of my life don't know y bt
both of our feelings were changing it continued for so many months ...
Suddenly 1day I became so much sick that I couldn't go to school fr a
week also I couldn't meet him bt we talked in phone daily when I was
recovered than again we started meeting at school bt still we didn't
shared anything abt tht feeling
I always respected him as my elder bt my feelings was something else
though I wasn't enough aged to tell him abt tht
Suddenly the date was 1st April again at noon as usual I called him n
was talking abt different things suddenly he told me that he wants to
ask me something I said ok bt my heartbeat was suddenly stopped he
asked me tht I love him or not this single question changed my life he
was the 1st guy to ask me something like this I was totally shocked I
jst cut the phone n I was crying after tht almost 3years passed we
didn't saw each other n talked to each other
When I was at 8th standard I had my new phone I though y shouldn't I
talk to him simply I gave him a message he didn't replied to that
again I gv him a message this tym he replied n asked me who I was n I
told him to guess n yes he still didn't forgot me he knew that it was
me i was really shocked at ths tht still he remembers me
Than again we started to talk n ths tym nt as frnds we talked as
lovers because in this 3years he was still waiting fr me n I came back
to his life n now we are true lovers......

Fathwa, - Who has the religious and legal right to name an infant: the mother, father, or ...

Question:
Who has the religious and legal right to name an infant: the mother,
father, or someone else? Even if the wife really wants a specific name
and SHE is the one who carried for 9 months and SHE is the one who
will go through the pains of delivery while the husband does nothing
of the sort, can his choice override the mother's choice for her
child's name?
Answer:
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you and your family well.
From the ahadith of the Prophet, peace be upon him, one understands
that it is the duty of the parents to give the child a good and
respectable name. In answer to your question, it was pointed out to me
that the father has the ultimate say in naming the child based on his
role as amir of the family.
To prevent bad feelings, you and your husband might settle on a
compromise. Perhaps you can both decide on a name that is mutually
pleasing. Or you could pick your husband's choice as the child's first
name, and give him your choice as a middle name, or vice versa. Maybe
you can take turns, that is, your first child get's the name Dad
wants, the second gets Mom's choice, etc.
Ultimately, the father is the amir of the family, but a good amir is
the one who decides through mutual consultation. It is possible for
you to recognize your husband's role as the amir, while at the same
time, making your own wishes clear.
Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar:
Allah's Apostle said, "Surely! Everyone of you is a guardian and is
responsible for his charges: The Imam (ruler) of the people is a
guardian and is responsible for his subjects; a man is the guardian of
his family (household) and is responsible for his subjects; a woman is
the guardian of her husband's home and of his children and is
responsible for them; and the slave of a man is a guardian of his
master's property and is responsible for it. Surely, everyone of you
is a guardian and responsible for his charges."
[Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 89, Number 252]
Allah Most High speaks of mutual consultation, or shura, as one of the
qualities of the believers, "And those who answer the call of their
Lord and establish worship, and whose affairs are a matter of counsel,
and who spend of what We have bestowed on them." [As-Shura, 42:38]
I pray that Allah gives you a solution through mutual consultation
that is beneficial to all.
And Allah knows best.

Fathwa, - Hijab: problems can you help me

Question:
I was happy to find out your site because it's been 2 years that I
have a big problem. Indeed, two years ago I decided to wear the
hidjab. First, I have to explain you where I am from. I live in the
North of France, I am originally from Algeria and I am a Sunni muslim.
I'm 20 and I'm a student in university. When I left high school, I
began reading more and more about Islam, being regular about my
prayers, fearing Allah subhanu wata3ala and doing my best to get
closer to HIM. I made the decision to wear the hidjab. My parents
pray. They don't try to learn more science about Islam and they don't
read the Quran. My mother who is 59 doesn't wear al hidjab. When I
wanted to put the veil, they got furious, my father became
high-boiling, he had a fit of rage and there wasn't any dialogue
possible with him. He told me if you wear the veil you have to leave
my home. First, I ignored their remarks and I left the veil on my head
and then he took it off from my hair. I cried a lot, I keep on praying
Allah subhanu wata3ala every day during all the prayers. I study 30
minutes by train far from home. I come back to home every day. During
the last months, I began wearing it in the train just after leaving
home. I wear it during all the day but my parents don't know anything
about it. I want to know what should I do about that? Because I'm fed
up with having this double life. Anyway al hamdulilah, I put my trust
in Allah "Wa tawakal 3ala Allah wa kafa billahi wa kilah" Sourate al
ahzab
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
May Allah Ta'ala reward you for making this decision under very
challenging circumstances. Remember that when you take a step toward
Allah the Exalted, He reciprocates many times over.
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who
said that the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, said: Allah
the Almighty said:
I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of
Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to
Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention
of him in an assembly better than it. And if he draws near to Me an
arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to
Me walking, I go to him at speed.
Hadith Qudsi 15. It was related by al-Bukhari (also by Muslim,
at-Tirmidhi and Ibn-Majah).
Obedience to parents is not unconditional. Therefore, if our parents
ask us to do something that contravenes Sacred Law, then we are
obliged to disobey them.
Obedience to Allah Ta'ala, however, is unconditional. That is why we
are Muslims, that is, we fully surrender to Allah the Exalted. As a
Muslim woman, one of your religious responsibilities is to wear hijab.
This is something between you and your Lord, and your parents cannot
interfere.Please remain true to your convictions, but also remain a
good daughter to your parents by emphasizing your love and respect for
them. Try to respond positively when they raise objections.
I pray that Allah Ta'ala opens their hearts and brings them around.
And Allah knows best.

Fathwa, - Sleeping with newborn/child

Question:
I would like to know, according to Islam, what is the best way for
small children to sleep, from newborn to 2,3 years old. The culture
that i was raised into, a new born child used to sleep with parents,
on their bed, usually between them, or in a separate bed, with them in
the same room. I used to believe it's good for the child, to be close
to his parents while sleeping , and it gives him a sense of security.
I have been told, that it's unhealthy and dangerous for the child
(especially newborn) to sleep with parents, and it's against modesty
too. Can you please give the Islamic perspective for this situation.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you, your husband, and your new baby in good
health and spirits.
Thank you for your question. I don't know of any specific Islamic
injunction about co-sleeping. There is absolutely no problem with
having your baby in the bed with you. In fact, if you're
breastfeeding, which, according to Shaykh Muhammad ibn Adam
al-Kawthari,is a religious and moral responsibility toward your child,
then it makes a lot of sense to co-sleep.
If you're concerned about your baby being inadvertently harmed,
however, there are other options, such as attaching a bassinet to your
bed, or putting the baby's bed right next to yours.
If you want to keep your baby in the bed with you, then beware of
having too much soft bedding or pillows. And don't have your baby in a
position where he or she could fall between the mattress and the wall,
or fall out of the bed.
Please see the following article for more information about the pros
and cons of co-sleeping: Cosleeping and Your Baby.
As far as modesty is concerned, this is not an issue when your child
is a baby. Modesty only becomes an issue when your child is old enough
to understand the concept of covering one's private areas. This is
usually around the age of four or five, but, again, this depends on
your child.
The only thing that you might want to consider is that having a baby
in the bed, for obvious reasons, can put a damper on your intimate
life. However, you can deal with that by simply setting up a bed for
your baby in another room, so that Mommy and Daddy can have privacy
when they need it.
And Allah knows best.