Advise -

Although many Muslims may right now be in failingmarriages and on a
fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many
ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and
wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following
principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in
trouble or byMuslims who would like to avoid trouble in their
marriage.
Examples of negative relationship of Husband & Wife
Many Muslim husbands andwives treat each other like adversaries rather
than partners. The husband feelsthat he is the boss, and whatever he
says goes. Thewife feels that she must squeeze everything she canout
of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are
satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him
into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he
does not give them the lifestyle that theirfriends and families enjoy.
Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and
even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in
the family.
Do not be a Tyrant, Be Partners in the Decision Making Process, Never
be Emotionally, Be Careful of Your Words, Show Affection, Be Your
Spouse's Friend, Work Together in the House, Show Appreciation,
Communication is Important, Don't bring up past problems once they
have been solved, Live Simply, Give Your Spouse Time Alone, Admit Your
Mistakes, Have Meals Together, Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics,
Physical Relationship is Important, Be available to your mate
sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by
selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: " It is not
appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must
send a message of love beforehand."
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has
established for the good has been made a source of contention,
deception, trickery,tyrann y,humiliation,and abuse. Thisis not the way
marriage is supposed to be.
Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently inthe Holy Quran: '. .
. He created for you mates fromamong yourselves, that ye may dwell in
tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21).
DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

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Health:-/- Garlic's medicinal properties are well known;so go ahead and add it to your diet:

For centuries garlic has been used as a medicinal and culinary
substance in India, China, Greece and other countries. It has beenused
as a salve for everything from headachesto colds to infections and
healing wounds. To some, however, the strong flavour of garlic is not
very appealing; in fact repelling.Therefore, although garlic is a
widely available spice, it is not very popular in some households.
Garlic does not make significant nutritional contribution to the diet
because the quantities added to recipes are small. But even these nano
amounts make a big difference to one's health.
The biological benefits and the distinct odour of garlic are
attributed to the many sulphur containing compounds; one of which is
Alliin. This compound is converted to Allicin when garlic is crushed.
Allicin is, perhaps, the principal bioactive compound present even in
processed garlic.
Limited evidence supports an association between garlic consumption
and a reduced risk of colon, prostate, oesophageal, larynx, oral,
ovary and other cancers. This is due to diallylsulde, a potent
bioactive component. Besides, the plant can also accumulate selenium,
a trace element known to possess anti-cancer properties, from the
soil.
Curtailing cardiac diseases
One inexpensive way of curtailing cardiovascular diseases is to use
generousamounts of garlic in cooking. Garlic consumption inhibits the
progression of cardiovascular diseases. It can bring about small
reductions in blood pressure. Some studies have shown it to modestly
lower cholesterol levels, which is also a protection against cardiac
diseases. Animal experiments have associated garlic ingestion with
reduction in triglyceride and LDL cholesterol, both of which
contribute to atherosclerosis and heart diseases. Garlic, like
aspirin,can reduce the tendency ofblood to coagulate and form clots.
Many human studies on garlic have shown it has the ability to dissolve
blood clots. Pharmaceutical supplements are often used by patients
with cardiac and vascular diseases.
Garlic can reduce homocysteine levels in blood. This toxic compound
damages the cells that line the blood vessels, induces blood clots,
loss of cognition and causes death of nerve cells.People with dementia
and Alzheimer's disease have elevated blood homocysteine levels.
Damage to nerve cells in Alzheimer's disease is also due to elevated
oxidative stress induced by free radicals. By scavenging freeradicals,
garlic offers protection from neuronal death, dementia and Alzheimer's
disease.
Garlic is also called 'Russianpenicillin'. Fresh — but not stored or
cooked garlic — is an antimicrobial agent against a variety of
micro-organisms, including H. Pylori, implicated in gastriccancers.
Topical applicationof garlic is effective in treating ringworm. Many
studies have shown that garlic has antifungal and antiviral effects.
Adverse effects
Are there any adverse effects associated with taking garlic? In some,
it can cause mild stomach discomfort, especially when taken on an
empty stomach. Add garlic to meals or sprinkle it on pasta, soups or
even sambhar and chutneys. Swallow a clove of crushedgarlic with
water. The common side effect is "Garlicky Breath".
Since garlic is also a blood thinner, people who take aspirin should
be careful when including garlic regularly in their diets.
Alsodiscontinue garlic at least aweek before any surgery.
How much? One clove of medium-sized garlic daily provides health
boosting effects. Numerous over-the-counter supplements are available
as are enteric-coated tablets. Those who don't like the strong flavour
can try deodorised capsules. It is indeed the cornerstone of good
health.

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''Advise'':-:-

At some point in our lives, we are all given moments where we have to
take a stand; a mawqif. It's usually a test which is personal to each
of us. But on a larger scale, it's also an opportunity from Allah
allowing us to earn His Pleasure, attain higher ranks and pretty much
'prove' ourselves to Him.
Sometimes, we're forced tomake hard decisions. We'reforced to forsake
what we love in order to uphold a greater principle, we have to fight
against our heart and soul in order to do what is right at that moment
of time as opposed to what simply pleases us.
Sometimes, our actions directly affect others because in pleasing
Allah we end up displeasing people, but what choice does the believing
man or woman have? We don't live for the sake of our ownnafs; rather
we live for Allah and higher principles, and when it comes to these
testing moments in life, we must choose what is right, even if it
means that we will lose what is very dear to our hearts or lose our
freedoms.
These are the mawaqif in our lives, and every single person has to
face them at some point. But it's a Promise from Allah that once we
take the right stand, He will take it upon Himself to lead the way and
rectify our affairs. Evenif we cannot see the light at the end of the
tunnel, we must trust that the end result will be for the believer who
chose His Lord over himself.

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Islam -Believe in Allah, Because He Believes in You

I believe in Allah because He believes in me… and He believes in you
too. Believe in His plan for you, have faith in Him, trust His
guidance to you, because He has faith in you, and trusts you.
Some people might challenge this assertion that Allah believes in us
and trusts us. To me, that's surprising. Allah created nothing in
vain. Everything He does has a purpose. His creation of humanity was
done with intent.
Why were we created? Many Muslims will automatically respond, "To
worship Allah." That's true, but why does Allah want tobe worshiped?
Furthermore, why did He create everything else – thestars, planets,
forests, seas, mountains, animals?…
Without presuming to know Allah's intentions, and returning to the
realm of the human for a moment, I will make a simple observation. As
a writer, one of the reasons Iwrite is because the act of putting my
thoughts and feelings on paper satisfies something deep within me.I've
been writing creatively since I was a child, and to me it's not a
hobby but a calling. I'm a writer, therefore I write; and I am a
writer because I write.
The same is true for a painter or any other artist. Iimagine if you
asked a painter why he paints, you might get many different answers:
*. "It makes me happy"
*. "It's my passion."
*. "To express my ideas."
*. "To make money."
*. "I don't know, I just do."
The bottom line is that it's the painter's nature to paint; it's her
calling, her function. She is a painter, therefore she paints; or
shepaints, therefore she is a painter. Same difference.
Allah is Al-Khaaliq, The Creator. That is one of His names, one of His
attributes. He expresses this attribute by creating. You are a part of
that expression, and so am I. So is a blue whale, Mount Kilimanjaro,
the Grand Canyon, a dolphin, a mouseand an amoebum. Everything that
Allah created is amazing in its function and awesomely complex in its
design. Everything that He created is beautiful and
purposeful.Including you and me.
To create is an act of love. It is an act of faith. The Creator loves
you and believes in you. Believe in Him, believe in yourself, believe
in humanity, and believe in the unique path that Allah has chosen for
you.