Women site, - How Advisable is Marriage Between Relatives?

Marriage is a means of establishing new relationships, and expanding
the sphere of connections within the community. However, marriage
between relatives does not contribute to establishing new
relationships as is the case in marriage to non-relatives. So, it is
better for a Muslim woman to marry a non-relative if there is a
potential husband who possesses the specifications that pleases her
and her guardians.
In many cases, to marry a non-relative is necessary if there are no
relatives available, who have the characteristics of the Muslim
husband that are stipulated by Islam, with respect to piety, a good
reputation, and a healthy body, soul and mind; or if there is such a
man but the woman or her guardians did not accept him. Getting married
to non-relatives provides the woman with a wider field of establishing
connections, as a result of exposure to an environment and community
other than the one she was brought up with.
Moreover, marriage between relatives might lead to weak offspring due
to the accumulation of negative hereditary characteristics. It may be
this factor which prompted 'Umar bin Al-Khattaab, may Allaah be
pleased with him, to advise the Muslims saying, "Marry from
non-relatives lest your )offspring( would be weak."
Of course, this does not mean that marriage to relatives is prohibited
or unfavorable, if the suitable conditions are met. Rather, this draws
our attention to the danger of preventing marriage to non-relatives,
as is prevalent in certain Muslim communities.

Dought & clear, - Belief in al-Qadaa’ wa’l-Qadar (Divine will and decree).

What is the status of sabr (patience) in Islam? What should the Muslim
bear with patience?
Praise be to Allaah.
Belief inal-Qadaa' wa'l-Qadar(Divine will and decree) is one of the
pillars of faith. The Muslim's faith is not complete unless he knows
that whatever befalls him could not have missed him, and whatever
misses him could not have befallen him. Everything is subject to the
will and decree of Allaah, as Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Verily, We have created all things with Qadar (Divine Preordainments
of all things before their creation as written in the Book of
DecreesAl Lawh Al Mahfooz).[al-Qamar 54:49]
The position of patience in relation to faith is like that of the head
in relation to the body. Patience is a noble attribute with good
consequences. Those who are patient will have an unlimited reward, as
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full,
without reckoning"[al-Zumar 39:10]
All the disasters and tribulations that happen on earth, or happen to
the individual, or to his wealth or family, etc., were known to Allaah
before they happened, He has written them inal-Lawh al-Mahfooz(the
Preserved Tablet) as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed
in the Book of Decrees (Al Lawh Al Mahfooz) before We bring it into
existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaah"[al-Hadeed 57:22]
No matter what disasters befall a person, it is good for him, whether
he knows that or not, because Allaah does not decree anything but it
is good, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Say: 'Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allaah has ordained
for us. He is our Mawlaa (Lord, Helper and Protector).' And in Allaah
let the believers put their trust"[al-Tawbah 9:51]
Every disaster that happens, happens by Allaah's leave. If He had not
willed it, it would not have happened, but Allaah permitted it to
happen and decreed it, and so it happened. Allaah says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"No calamity befalls, but by the Leave [i.e. Decision and Qadar
(Divine Preordainments)] of Allaah, and whosoever believes in Allaah,
He guides his heart [to the true Faith with certainty, i.e. what has
befallen him was already written for him by Allaah from the Qadar
(Divine Preordainments)]. And Allaah is the All-Knower of
everything"[al-Taghaabun 64:11]
Once a person knows that all calamities happen by the will and decree
of Allaah, then he has to believe and submit and be patient. The
reward for patience is Paradise, as Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"And their recompense shall be Paradise, and silken garments, because
they were patient"[al-Insaan 76:12]
The call to Allaah (da'wah) is a great mission, and the one who
undertakes it is exposed to a great deal of harm and calamities. Hence
Allaah enjoined patience upon His Messenger and other Prophets:
"Therefore be patient (O Muhammad) as did the Messengers of strong
will"[al-Ahqaaf 46:35 – interpretation of the meaning]
Allaah has guided the believers, if some matter worries them or some
calamity befalls them to seek help with patience and prayer, so that
Allaah will relieve their distress and give them a way out:
"O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salaah (the prayer).
Truly, Allaah is with As-Saabiroon (the patient)"
[al-Baqarah 2:153 – interpretation of the meaning]
The believer must bear with patience that which Allaah has decreed,
and be patient in obeying Allaah, and be patient in keeping away from
sin. Whoever is patient, Allaah will give him an immeasurable reward
on the Day of Resurrection, as Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full,
without reckoning"[al-Zumar 39:10]
The believer in particular is rewarded in both good times and bad. The
Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "How
wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good,
and that is for no one except the believer. If something good happens
to him, he gives thanks, and that is good for him, and if something
bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for
him."(Narrated by Muslim, no. 2999)
Allaah has taught us what we should say when calamity strikes, and has
stated that those who are patient will have an honourable position
with their Lord. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"… but give glad tidings to As Saabiroon (the patient).
Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: 'Truly, to Allaah we belong
and truly, to Him we shall return'"[al-Baqarah 2:155-156]

Dought & clear, - Is it permissible to say “circumstances willed” or “circumstances dictated”?.

I read in some stories, literary works and journalistic articles the
phrase "circumstances willed" or "circumstances dictated", or "fate
decreed". What is the ruling on these phrases?
Praise be to Allaah.
These are inappropriate phrases, because circumstances and fate do not
have a will.
The great scholar Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allaah preserve him)
was asked about these phrases, and said:
" 'Fate willed' or 'circumstances willed/dictated' are reprehensible
phrases, because the Arabic word for circumstances,zuroof, is the
plural ofzarf, which is another word for time – and time does not have
a will. Similarly, fate does not have a will either.
The One Who does have a will is Allaah. If a person says 'the decree
of Allaah dictated such and such', there is nothing wrong with that.
But it is not correct to attribute will to decrees, because the will
does not belong to the description, it belongs to the One Who is
described."Majmoo' Fataawa wa Rasaa'il Muhammad ibn 'Uthaymeen,
3/131-132

Dought & clear, - Is man’s fate pre-destined or does he have freedom of will?.

Is our fate completely pre-destined? Some say we have a choice of
which path to choose but what you will find at the end of the path has
been chosen for you by Allah. I have also read that qadar was perhaps
created by Jahm b. Safwan, not Allah.
Where can I find the information in the Quran and if there is a set
destiny how much of it is chosen by God? Is there really a set day on
which I will have birth and another for earthly death, for whom I will
marry?
What if I did meet the man I am supposed to marry but I somehow choose
the wrong path (so I may believe) only to realize I did wrong. Will he
come in my path again or have I altered my destiny so that my
punishment may be that I can not have this person in my life?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Belief in al-qadar (the divine will and decree) is one of the pillars
of faith, because the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said, when he answered Jibreel's question about faith: "(It
means) believing in Allaah, His angels, His Books, His Messengers and
the Last Day, and to believe in al-qadar (the divine decree) both good
and bad."
What is meant by al-qadar is that Allaah has decreed all things from
eternity and knows that they will happen at times that are known to
Him, and in specific ways, and that He has written that and willed it,
and they happen according to what He has decreed. [al-Qada'
wa'l-Qadarby Dr 'Abd al-Rahmaan al-Mahmoud, p. 39].
Belief in al-qadar is based on four things:
1 - Knowledge, i.e., that Allaah knows what His creation will do, by
virtue of His eternal knowledge.
2 - Writing, i.e., that Allaah has written the destiny of all
creatures in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz.
3 - Will, i.e., that what Allaah wills happens and what He does not
will does not happen. There is no movement in the heavens or on earth
but it happens by His will.
4 - Creation and formation, i.e., that Allaah is the Creator of all
things, including the actions of His slaves. They do their actions in
a real sense, and He is the Creator of them and of their actions.
Whoever believes in these four believes in al-qadar.
The Qur'aan affirms these things in numerous verses, such as the
verses in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none
knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in
the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in
the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in
a Clear Record"
[al-An'aam 6:59]
"No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed
in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lawh Al-Mahfooz) before We bring it into
existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaah"
[al-Hadeed 57:22]
"And you cannot will unless (it be) that Allaah willsthe Lord of the
'Aalameen (mankind, jinn and all that exists)"
[al-Takweer 81:29]
"Verily, We have created all things with Qadar (Divine Preordainments
of all things before their creation as written in the Book of
DecreesAl-Lawh Al-Mahfooz)"
[al-Qamar 54:49]
Muslim (2653) narrated that 'Abd-Allaah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'Aas said: I
heard the Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) say: "Allaah wrote down the decrees of creation fifty thousand
years before He created the heavens and the earth." He said: "And His
Throne was upon the water."
Hence it should be clear to you that the view that al-qadar was
invented by al-Jahm ibn Safwaan is a view that has no sound basis.
Al-qadar was not created, rather creation comes under the heading of
belief in al-qadar. Al-Jahm went to extremes in affirming the divine
will and decree, and claimed that people are compelled to do what they
do and have no choice. This is a false view.
The belief of Ahl al-Sunnah wa'l-Jamaa'ah is that a person has freedom
of will, and hence he will be rewarded or punished. But his will is
subject to the will of Allaah, and nothing can take place in the
universe that is not willed by Allaah.
What some people say, that we have the choice to follow whatever path
we want but at the end of this path you will find what Allaah has
decreed for you, is a correct view. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Verily, We showed him the way, whether he be grateful or ungrateful"
[al-Insaan 76:3]
"And shown him the two ways (good and evil)?"
[al-Balad 90:10]
"And say: "The truth is from your Lord." Then whosoever wills, let him
believe; and whosoever wills, let him disbelieve"
[al-Kahf 18:29]
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said,
explaining the view of Ahl al-Sunnah with regard to man's deeds:
People act in a real sense, and Allaah is the Creator of their
actions. A person may be a believer or a kaafir, righteous or immoral,
he may pray and fast. People have control over their actions, and they
have their own will, and Allaah is the Creator of their control and
will, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"To whomsoever among you who wills to walk straight.
And you cannot will unless (it be) that Allaah willsthe Lord of the
'Aalameen (mankind, jinn and all that exists)"
[al-Takweer 81:28-29]
al-Waasitiyyah ma'a Sharh Harraas, p. 65.
Marriage is one of the things that Allaah has decreed. The person whom
you will marry is known to Allaah: He knows who he is, when he was
born, where and when he will die, how he will be towards you, and
other details. All of that is known to Allaah and He has written it in
al-Lawh al-Mahfooz (the Book of Decrees), and it will inevitably come
to pass as Allaah has decreed.
If Allaah has decreed that you will marry one person, but you choose
someone else, then no matter how long it takes, you will marry that
person. But your marriage to someone else is also decreed, because
there is nothing that is not decreed by Allaah. It may be decreed for
a woman to marry So and so the son of So and so, and he comes to
propose marriage but she refuses him, and marries someone else, then
he (the second man) dies or divorces her, then she accepts the first
one. All of that is decreed, and it is decreed for her to marry So and
so the son of So and so after initially refusing him and after some
experience or trials etc.
It may be decreed for a woman that a righteous man will propose
marriage to her, but she will refuse him and he will never come back
to her, and she will marry and live with someone else who is more or
less righteous, according what Allaah has decreed.
Because man does not know what is decreed for him, what he must do is
to adhere to sharee'ah and abide by its commands and prohibitions, and
to seek the help of Allaah and pray to Him for guidance (istikhaarah)
concerning all his affairs, whilst implementing the means, one of the
most important of which is consulting sincere people who have relevant
experience.
If a righteous man proposes marriage to a woman, she should pray to
Allaah for guidance (istikhaarah) and agree to marry him. If things
then go smoothly, this is an indication that what is good for her is
to marry him.
In conclusion, man should study the sharee'ah of Allaah and follow the
commands of Allaah even if he feels reluctant, and avoid what Allaah
has forbidden even if he is attached to it. All goodness is to be
found in obeying sharee'ah. Allaah says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"Jihaad(holy fighting in Allaah's Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims)
though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is
good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah
knows but you do not know"
[al-Baqarah 2:216]
He should not look at al-qadar as an excuse to ignore commands and do
forbidden things, rather he should look at it in a way that will make
him content with whatever painful experiences happen to him.
And Allaah knows best.

Dought & clear, - Why Allaah creates mentally disabled people.

Why has Allah created mentally Disabled people
Praise be to Allaah.
One of the basic principles of Islam is to believe in the wisdom of
the Lord in what He creates and commands, and in what He wills and
decrees, in the sense that He does not create anything in vain and He
does not decree anything in which there is not some benefit for His
slaves. So everything that exists is His will and decree. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Allaah is the Creator of all things"[al-Ra'd 13:16]
His perfect wisdom decrees that He creates opposites, so He has
created angels and devils, night and day, purity and impurity, good
and ugly, and He has created good and evil. He created His slaves with
differences in their bodies and minds, and in their strengths. He has
made some rich and some poor, some healthy and some sickly, some wise
and some foolish. By His wisdom, He tests them, and He tests some by
means of others, to show who will be grateful and who will be
ungrateful. Allaah says (interpretation of the meanings):
"Verily, We have created man from Nutfah (drops) of mixed semen
(sexual discharge of man and woman), in order to try him, so We made
him hearer and seer.
Verily, We showed him the way, whether he be grateful or
ungrateful"[al-Insaan 76:2]
"Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is
best in deed"
[al-Mulk 67:2]
When the sound believer sees disabled people, he recognizes the
blessing that Allaah has bestowed upon him, so he gives thanks for His
blessing, and He asks Him for good health. He knows that Allaah is
Able to do all things.
People are incapable of comprehending Allaah's wisdom. He cannot be
questioned as to what He does , while they will be questioned.
Glorified and exalted be He. Whatever you understand of His wisdom,
believe in it, and whatever you cannot understand, say, "Allaah knows
best and is most wise, and we know nothing except that which You have
taught us, and He is the All-Knowing, Most Wise."

For children, - Big Ship that Landed on an Island: Life of this World and Hereafter in Islam

There was once a big ship that landed on an Island. The Captain said
to the people: "Dear passengers, we will anchor here for you to gather
provision and admire the nature and we shall move on with our journey
in a few hours time".
All passengers got off and roamed around the island in groups.
Some 'Wise' gentlemen and ladies walked peacefully, collected some
souvenirs and food for the journey and returned quickly to the ship.
Since they were the first ones back, they got the best and comfortable
places on the ship.
The second group of 'Forgetful' people walked, played and enjoyed
their time. They admired the island and explored its nature. But soon
they remembered the ship, so they ran back, without any food and
souvenirs. Coming on board, they were tired, but alas the best seats
were taken, so they had to do with the less comfortable ones.
The third group of ' Greedyand Lustful' people got amazed by the
wonders of this island and they began to collect its plants and
precious stones. After a while, having heard the call of their
captain, they started to head back to the ship, carrying plants,
stones and jewelry of all colors and value. However, the heaviness of
the treasure they eagerly wanted to bring back slowed their return,
and by the time they reached the shore, the boat had already left.
And finally, some 'Aimless and Narrow-Minded' people, convinced
themselves that the island was all there is and the ship was just
something they had imagined. They thus explored the island and built
for themselves houses. The boat, of course left them to perish on the
island and to be forgotten by everyone.
Similarly, on our journey to Allah (SWT), The Creator, we have landed
on this island, called the World (Dunya).
Some 'Wise' gentlemen and ladies will walk around and collect good
deeds, love and knowledge of Allah (SWT) and quickly return to The
Creator. They of course will be handed paradise, the best of it!
The second group of 'Forgetful' people will get distracted by the
world (Dunya) until their last moment. They will then repent at the
last minute. Perhaps they will make it and get the lowest levels of
paradise (Jannah).
The third group of 'Greedy and Lustful' people will be amazed by the
world, and get attracted by its temporary and fake beauty. They will
indulge in desire and food and be illusion by it. Perhaps, a call will
bring them back to realization, but alas, the attraction will be too
much to leave behind and they will miss the ship of salvation.
And finally, some 'Aimless and Narrow-Minded' people will just ignore
the journey to Allah (SWT) and pretend that this world is all there
is. They will take their houses as their homes and their desires as
god. Indeed history as seen many people as such, but no one remembers
them. They have been left in hell.
So, my friend... The ship is waiting, please jump on board! Your
Creator Allah (SWT) is calling you: Oh man! Surely you must strive to
your Lord, a hard striving, until you meet Him. Noble Qur'an (84:6)
Imam Ali Naqi (as)said: The world is a market in which one group makes
profit and another group incurs loss.
Imam Mohammad Bagher (as) said: The one that sincerity of truth and
faith took place in his heart, will turn his face from decorations and
ornaments of the world.
Moral of the Story: Those who spend their lives devoted blindly to
worldly goods will realize that they consumed all their lives chasing
illusions. They will realize their ridiculous situation after they
die. Only then will the ultimate purpose of life, to be a sincere
servant of Allah (SWT), be clear to them.

For children, - No Escape From Death: A Real Life Story of Prophet Solomon / Sulaiman (as)

Almighty Allah (SWT) made Prophet Solomon / Sulaiman (as)King of a
vast kingdom, which included His entire creation. The Jinn and men
obeyed his will and even the birds adhered to his commands, to the
extent of using their wings to provide shelter for him. He was also
given many other powers such as being able to talk to animals and
control the wind so that it could carry him wherever he wished to go.
Prophet Solomon (as) was blessed with an extraordinary power of
perception and intelligence.
It is narrated that one day, a man entered the court of Prophet
Solomon (as), looked around at all the people and went out again. When
the court adjourned, one of the people present approached Prophet
Sulaiman (as) and asked him whether he knew this strange man.
"The person you saw was the angel of death (Izrael)" replied Prophet
Solomon (as). The man was taken aback and looked worried.
"Why was he staring at me as though he wanted to take my soul?" he asked.
"What do you want me to do?" enquired Prophet Sulaiman (as).
"O Solomon!" exclaimed the man. "You have power over the wind. Command
it to transport me to the land of Hind (India)."
As the man was a believer, Prophet Solomon (as) agreed and granted his wish.
A few days later, Prophet Solomon (as) saw the angel of death again.
He asked him why he had been staring at the man so intently on that
particular day.
"O Solomon!" replied the angel of death. "Allah (SWT) commanded me to
take the soul of that man on the soil of Hind. When I saw him sitting
in your court, I could not understand how I could carry out Allah's
order. Nevertheless, as it was a divine command, I left for Hind and
fortunately found the man there. I took his soul as Allah (SWT) had
commanded."
There is nothing more certain than death. It is a reality, which
nobody can escape from. Allah (SWT), the Almighty says: "Wherever you
may be, death shall overtake you, even if you were in fortified
towers". Noble Qur'an (4:78)
Imam Ali (as)said: Any breath that a man breathes is a step towards death.
Imam Ali (as) said: You are the game that death hunts. If you stand
still it will seize (catch) you. If you ran (flee) away it will
overtake you.

Sex in Islam, - How to Lower Our Gazes

"If I were not a Muslim, I would have contracted AIDS," proclaimed my friend.
"The ayats in Sura Nur about lowering our gazes doesn't affect me
anymore," expressed another youth, talking about the intense
temptations felt by today's young. Difficulty in lowering the gaze by
both the young and old is readily perceived on the street, weddings,
parties and even in the mosques.
What has gone wrong? How can Muslims, called by Allah, our Creator the
model community, the custodians of Truth and the upholders of morality
behave this way? Why are we adopting the attitudes and routes of the
kuffar? How can we rectify ourselves? What follows is a series of
practical, though graphic advises which can work for us and set us
free from Satan's stronghold, Insha`Allah.
Prophet Muhamad (pbuh), by way of warning and as a reminder
said,"There is nothing left after I go more dangerous to men than the
temptations of women."Being optimistic, a ray of hope was also wisely
provided during the prophet's Last Sermon:"If the Ummah holds on to
the Qur`an and Sunnah, it will never go astray."
When Allah created humans with all our desires and urges, he also
revealed to us sufficient and complete guidance to properly channel
these desires, both in the midst of Dar-ul-Kufr or Dar-ul-Islam. All
we need to do is seek it, contemplate on it and pursue it."This day I
have perfected your deen for you, completed my favors upon you and
chosen Islam as your deen."(Maida 3)
We should realize that the fact the great sahabas were human beings
also. Biologically there were no different from us. They had desires
and temptations but yet, they controlled themselves in the best of
ways. We can do the same, Insha`Allah. To possess sensual passions is
human, to control them is Muslim.
When confronted with an alluring situation like passing by a
non-mahram on the street, office or school, Satan is constantly
tempting us to glare at her/him with evil thoughts. Satan is probably
excitingly saying, with a big smile, 'yes, yes, yes,' when we steer
into the bait he is setting. During these situations, immediately and
consciously realize that when we give a second or following glances,
we are obeying Satan."O you who believe, follow not the footsteps of
the devil "(24:21). By immediately averting our gazes and disobeying
Satan, we are giving him a one-two punch in the face and leaving him
frustrated and accursed.
Satan rebelled and was expelled by Allah, so let's all rebel against
Satan and expel him from our hearts. Satan intends to fight a war
against Muslims, so let's gather our forces behind the Qur`an and the
Sunnah and defeat him. Remember that even if no human eye is watching
us, the Ever-Watchful Allah is constantly monitoring the innermost
regions of our hearts. Our eyes, limbs, tongue and private parts will
be witnesses on the Judgment Day and not an atom's worth of deed will
remain unexamined.
Our minds are conditioned to associate thoughts of stealing clothes
from a store to being in handcuffs and hauled into a police van.
Likewise we should condition our minds to bring the verses of Surah
Nur in front of our eyes during any tempting situations and imagine
that Allah is speaking to us directly"Say to the believing, men that
they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty .O you believers!
Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain
success"(24:30-31) If the Qur`an contained only these two ayats, it
would be enough to convince me that it is the book of Allah.
With practice, these associations and the remembrance of Allah during
tempting situations will prevent us from getting stuck by devilish
arrows. Successfully controlling our gazes also deadens our avoidance
of sinful situations. An Islamic idiom says,"Anything that leads to
haram is haram in itself."To do a pious deed is a reward; to avoid a
sin is a reward too.
One of the biggest culprits in this class is movies. In the name of
entertainment, to please our peers and children and an excuse to do
something together as a family, we astonishingly allow un-Islamic
pictures and dialogues in front of our eyes and ears. Can we ever
imagine (aozubillah) any sahaba renting the latest hit from
Blockbuster Videos, or listening to music with alluring lyrics at high
volume?
Likewise we watch news on TV and stare at the anchor women, adorned in
heavy make-up, scanty clothing and seductive smile. Prophet Muhammad
(pbuh), was once approached by a woman with a proposal for marriage.
He took a single glance at her face and turned his face away. Jabir
bin Abdullah reported: "I asked Allah's messenger about the sudden
glance on the face of a non-mahram. He commanded me that I should turn
away my eyes." (Muslim) Thus, we are not supposed to stare at faces of
non-mahrams, be they are our fellow students, our elders, saleswomen
or someone on TV.
Pious ladies of the prophet's household were ordered to observe purdah
(separation) in front of a blind sahabah. Asking the curious questions
as to why cover/separate when the blind sahabah could not see them,
the prophet (pbuh) wisely answered, "But you could see him."
In our wedding ceremonies and parties and even in many Islamic
fundraising dinners, there is heavy free-mixing between brothers and
sisters. Often the chairs of males and females are arranged facing
each other, knowing that about 90 percent of our sisters do no wear
hijab. It is often noticeable to see males and females peeking glances
at each other from the opposite ends of the hall. A big curtain is not
my intention, but a big iman and befitting Islamic manners is.
"A woman who applies perfumes and goes to a gathering is like an
adulteress"the Prophet Muhammad said. Compare this with our sisters
who clad themselves with expensive perfume, one kilogram of makeup,
and then come to mixed gatherings. Will this not attract the attention
of males? Let's be real. We have lowered our moral guards so low that
a humble word of truth often seems so awfully strange.
Let us contemplate the above humble advices and constantly make the
supplication,"O Allah help us control our sensual desires until we get
married, and even after we marry, let our desires be only towards our
spouses."
At the time of this article's writing, Sabeel Ahmed was is at the
final stage of his medical programme in Ross University, New York. He
is the Co-chairman of the Da'wa Committee and Board of Director at the
Muslim Community Center Masjid (the largest mosque in the Illinois
state). He is also a member of the Islamic Circle of North America
(ICNA) where he is actively involved in the 'toll free da'wa hotline'
1-800-662-islam, having first hand experience in handling calls by
non-Muslims. He was a student of Shaykh Ahmed Deedat and his main
field of interest is in comparative religion.

Sex in Islam, - Intimate Relations

soc.religion.islam
Subject: Re: Sexual Relations Between Husband & Wife
Question:
XXXX wrote: : Hello: : As a recently married Muslim, I was hoping
someone could refer me to : sources which can guide me as to what is
permissible in Islam between a : man and his wife. I once heard of an
Islamic book called "Perfumed : Garden"? Is there such a publication?
Or could someone suggest other : sources. In particular, I needed to
know what the five schools of thought : advised on oral sex or
fellatio. Please email or post responses. Thank you.
Answer:
alssalaamu 3alaykum
May Allah bless you and your wife with his blessing and unite you in
harmony and happiness.
The book you mentioned (The Perfumed Garden) was written in Tunisia in
the 16th century A.D. by Cheikh 'Omar bin Sidi en-Nefzawi. It is a
sort of marriage manual written in a rather provocative and lewd
style. Even the author himself acknowledges its lascivious nature by
ending it with these words: "I have indeed committed a sin by writing
this book. Forgive me O Thou to whom we call not in vain. O Allah, do
not confound me for this on the Day of Judgment. And you, O Reader, I
beg you to say 'Amen'." The book is an interesting historical and
cultural oddity; but it is not to be recommended as an educational
manual for married couples.
The principles of conjugal love in Islam are few and uncomplicated.
1. Sexual relations are for the pleasure of both the husband and the
wife and for the procreation of children. Sexual intercourse is not
limited to vaginal penetration but includes other forms of sexual
caressing, such as kissing and fondling of various kinds.
2. Nothing should be done that is offensive or harmful to either
person. Each has a duty to be sexually available to the other, but
neither has the right to disgust or injure the other.
3. With a few exceptions, the couple can engage in any activities that
they like, in any manner and in any position. Allah rewards such
activities as surely as he punishes sinful activities. The Qur'an
says, "Women are your fields. Go then into your fields as you please."
(2:223)
4. It is forbidden to have vaginal intercourse while a woman is
menstruating (Qur'an 2:222). According to the Sunnah of the Prophet
(God's grace and peace be upon him), a man and his menstruating wife
can however give one another pleasure so long as the woman's genitals
are avoided.
5. There are ahadith that forbid anal intercourse and scholars
generally agree that it is not permissible. However, in his tafsir
(commentary) Tabaari (3d century A.H.) while forbidding sodomy, says
that earlier authorities were divided on the question.
6. The Qur'an and the Sunnah are generally silent as to the various
forms that sexual relations may take. Most authorities consider that
it is up to the husband and wife in love and mutual respect to decide
how to physically express their sexual desires.
7. What goes on in bedroom, is a private matter and should not be
discussed or revealed to other persons unless there is some necessity,
such as health or safety. Abu Hurairah narrates that the Prophet
(pbuh) said this about people who reveal and discuss openly their
sexual practices: "Do you know what those who do this are like? Those
who do this are like a male and female devil who meet each other on
the road and satisfy their desire while the people look on."
Therefore, in Islam the husband and the wife choose their sexual
activities according to the sure teaching of the Qur'an, in the light
of the Sunnah as we are able to understand and appreciate it, in
mutual respect for one another and knowing that the only witness to
the expression of their desires will be Allah the Exalted, who will
judge them according to their deeds and their heartfelt intentions.
The question of the lawfulness of oral-genital contact is difficult
because there are many opinions. For some, it is forbidden. For
others, tolerated. For some it is lawful. Some consider it to be
lawful as long as the couple use such contacts as foreplay and
conclude their love-making with vaginal intercourse.
I believe that this is a matter to be decided by the husband and wife
together after seeking the guidance of Allah, who alone knows best.
Peace to all who seek God's face.

Sex in Islam, - An Islamic Perspective on Sexuality

Muslim Women's League -
In Islam, sexuality is considered part of our identity as human
beings. In His creation of humankind, God distinguished us from other
animals by giving us reason and will such that we can control behavior
that, in other species, is governed solely by instinct. So, although
sexual relations ultimately can result in the reproduction and
survival of the human race, an instinctual concept, our capacity for
self-control allows us to regulate this behavior. Also, the mere fact
that human beings are the only creatures who engage in sexual
relations once they are beyond the physical capacity for reproduction,
sets us apart from all other species which engage in sex for the sole
purpose of reproduction.
Marriage
For Muslims, based on an understanding of Qur'an and hadith, sexual
relations are confined to marriage between a wife and husband. Within
this context, the role of a healthy sexual relationship is extremely
important. Having and raising children are encouraged among Muslims.
Once a child is born, the parents are expected to care for, nurture
and prepare the child for adulthood, with a goal of imparting Islam so
that the indivdual is equipped with knowledge and willingness to
accept and practice Islam and thus become a productive member of
society.
Beyond childbearing, sexual relations assume a prominent role in the
overall well-being of the marriage. In reading hadith, one is
impressed with the Prophet's ability to discuss all issues including
those dealing with human sexuality. The topics range from questions
about menstruation to orgasm. He apparently was not embarassed by such
inquiries, but strove to adequately guide and inform the Muslims who
asked. Both Qur'an and hadith allude to the nature of sexual relations
as a means of attaining mutual satisfaction, closeness and compassion
between a wife and husband. "Permitted to you on the night of the
Fasts is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and you
are their garments."(2:187) Also, Muslims are advised to avoid sexual
intercourse during menses so as not to cause discomfort to the woman
(2:222).
The goal of marriage is to create tenderness between two individuals
and satisfy the very basic human need for companionship. "And among
His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among
yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has
put love and mercy between you; in this are signs for those who
think."(30:21) The hadith which address this issue are numerous. The
Prophet himself, while not divulging all aspects of his own sexual
life, was known for his nature as a loving husband who was sensitive
and physically demonstrative. In several hadith, he speaks about the
importance of foreplay and speaking in loving terms during sexual
relations. Again, the concept of mutual satisfaction is elucidated in
a hadith which advises husbands to engage in acts that enable a woman
to achieve orgasm first. (see Ihya ulum-id-din (Revival of Religious
Learning) by Imam Ghazzali, chapter on Marriage). Sexual
dissatisfaction is considered legitimate grounds for divorce on the
part of either wife or husband.
Sex Outside of Marriage
Naturally, attraction between individuals is necessary to initiate a
relationship that leads to marriage. But sexual relations can
obviously take place between any couple, consenting or not. Because of
the far-reaching ramifications of sexual relations outside of
marriage, Muslims are prohibited by God from such behavior. And
because the process that leads to physical attraction and ultimately
intimacy is part of human nature, Muslims are advised to behave in a
way and avoid circumstances that could potentially result in extra- or
pre-marital sex. Modesty in dress and behavior between women and men
figures prominently as a means of exhibiting self-control. Similarly,
unmarried couples are admonished against spending time alone in
isolated places where they would be more likely to act on their
feelings and thus be less inhibited.
Some of the negative results of sex outside of marriage include the
potential for unwanted pregnancies, transmission of sexually
transmitted diseases, disruption of the family and marriage (in cases
of adultery), and emotional and psychological difficulties resulting
from the lack of commitment associated with most relationships outside
of marriage. As in other religions, extra- and pre-marital sex are
considered major sins. Muslims believe that God does not simply forbid
or allow behavior whimsically, but does so with our best interest at
heart, guiding us away from potentially destructive behavior and
towards behavior that allows us to achieve our most fulfilling
potentials as human beings. For a similar reason, Muslims give up the
consumption of alcohol because of faith in God's wisdom that the
negative effects outweigh the positive for individuals and society at
large. "Whoever submits his whole self to God, and is a doer of good,
has grasped indeed the most trustworthy handhold..."{(31:22)
Contraception
Although Muslims are encouraged to have children, contraception is not
prohibited. The method used during the time of the Prophet was coitus
interruptus (known as 'azl) about which several hadith exist. His
basic response when asked if such a practice was lawful was that
individuals can do as they will, but if God intends for a child to be
born, she/he will be born. Some interpreted this to mean that
preventing pregnancy is not recommended because child-bearing is
preferred; yet the act is not specifically prohibited. Also, other
hadith stipulate that 'azl could not be practiced without the wife's
consent as it might interfere with her sexual satisfaction or desire
to bear children.
By analogy, the methods that exist today as contraceptives are lawful
for Muslims to use at their discretion. Basically, it is our position
that any method that does not involve pregnancy termination is
permissible. Imam al-Ghazzali (see previous reference) lists a number
of legitimate reasons for practicing contraception, including
financial difficulty, emotional or psychological hardship of having
many children, and even the preservation of beauty and health.
It should be clear from this discussion, that since sexual relations
should be confined to marriage, contraception is so limited. It is not
considered a means of easing the difficulties associated with sexual
relations outside of marriage.
Abortion
Abortion is viewed in the same context as having relevance only
regarding pregnancies occurring in marriage, again, not as a response
to conception as a result of extra- or pre-marital relationships.
Early Muslim jurists considered abortion lawful for a variety of
reasons until 40 -120 days after conception (first trimester). This
was based on interpretation of Qur'an (22:4 and 23:12-14) and hadith
that implied that ensoulment or 'life' did not exist until after that
time (see Sex and Society in Islam, B.F. Musallam, Cambridge
University Press, 1983). Contemporary thinkers, considering available
technology that allows visualization of the embryonic heartbeat at
four weeks of gestation, are of the position that life begins much
earlier than previously thought, and therefore to terminate would be
to take a life illegally.
The majority of Muslims today believe that abortion is allowed only if
the mother's life is significantly endangered by the pregnancy. Some
also feel that the presence of certain congenital anomalies
(particularly those that are lethal) make abortion lawful. Also, some
scholars consider abortion appropriate in pregnancies resulting from
rape or incest.
Homosexuality
Human beings are capable of many forms of sexual expression,
orientation and identification. The existence of such a variety again
is not found in any other species and thus further demonstrates our
uniqueness among God's creations. The potential for behavior, such as
homosexuality, does not mean that its practice is lawful in the eyes
of God. Therefore, individuals are expected to control themselves and
not act on their desires if such action is contrary to the guidelines
of Islam. Homosexuality, like other forms of sexual relations outside
of heterosexual marriage, is thus prohibited. In any discussion of
prohibited acts follows the question of what happens if they
nevertheless occur. The Qur'an and hadith are explicit regarding
severe punishment by the State if a person is convicted of such a
crime. However, in order for conviction to take place, the individuals
must confess or be accused by at least four eyewitnesses of the act of
actual intercourse. Obviously, the likelihood of these criteria being
met is small which means that most couples who engage in unlawful acts
will not be punished by the State. They will then deal with the
consequences of their behavior in this life and will be accountable to
God on the Day of Judgement. How He ultimately judges is known only by
Him.
Sex Education
Clearly, from the above discussion, Islam is explicit about many
aspects of human sexuality. Also, based on the numerous hadith showing
the Prophet's willingness to discuss these matters openly, it should
be obvious that education about matters related to sex is acceptable.
Muslims may disagree about the age at which sex education begins; some
don't discuss the subject at all. Explaining anatomy and the changes
one's body experiences during puberty are essential for enabling young
people to grow up with a healthy self-image. Also, in an age where
sexual activity in many countries begins at an early age, Muslim
adolescents must be informed to better enable them to deal with peer
pressure. Sex education can be taught in a way that informs young
people about sexuality in scientific and moral terms. In countries
with very diverse populations, such as the United States, the main
limitation in developing sex education curricula, particularly in
public schools, is the inability to select a universally acceptable
moral position. Therefore, young people are given facts and
information, and advised that if they choose to engage in sexual
relationships, they should take measures to prevent pregnancy and
sexually transmitted diseases. The moral and religious aspects of
sexuality can be incorporated either in schools of a particular
religious denomination or in adjunctive coursework offered by
religious institutions. Regardless of the challenges of each society,
young people must be adequately informed. Also, in some Muslim
communities, individuals are encouraged to marry at young ages. They
need to be educated regarding sexuality prior to the marriage such
that they know what to expect and can consider their options for birth
control prior to consummating the marriage.
Female Genital Mutilation
The practice of clitoridectomy preceded the introduction of Islam in
Arabia and in different parts of Africa. This results in severe sexual
debilitation of women who cannot possibly achieve sexual fulfillment
which is their right as Muslims. Therefore, this practice is totally
unIslamic because it is in direct violation of both Qur'an and hadith
which clearly stress the importance of sexual satisfaction for both
the husband and wife.

Fathwa, - I'm sorry, But I don't shake hands!!

Question:
I'm sorry, But I don't shake hands!!
Answer:
I'm sorry, But I don't shake hands!!
Not Just Friends: Protect Your Relationships from Infidelity And Heal
the Trauma of Betrayal
"I'm sorry, but I don't shake hands with members of the opposite sex."
This line can be heard coming from Muslims working in office settings
everywhere.
Islamic standards of modesty warn against even casual physical contact
between unmarried men and women. This, of course, can cause
uncomfortable situations in places of business where it is customary
to shake hands with colleagues. But Muslims have long known that even
casual, seemingly innocuous contact as well as casual behavior between
the sexes can lead a person astray into either marital infidelity or
inappropriate pre-marital relationships.
Until recently, it seemed that it was only Muslims that felt this way.
But in her book, Not Just Friends: Protect Your Relationships From
Infidelity and Heal the Trauma of Betrayal, Shirley Glass gives
credence to time-honored Muslim traditions on the issue of
inter-gender office relations.
Glass' main thesis is, for all intents and purposes, Islamic in
character. She asserts that unguarded, casual office relationships
between men and women often lead down a slippery slope towards
extra-marital affairs. And according to Glass, this phenomenon does
not apply solely to the spouse with a wandering eye; even strong,
nurturing marriages can be rocked by office romances.
Glass, who has studied martial infidelity over the last 25 years of
her career as a psychotherapist, found that 25 percent of women and 44
percent of men have strayed from their marriages. And although the
clich� of the office romance has been around for quite some time,
Glass says that the typical lustful physical relationships that often
develop are but one aspect of illicit office behavior. For Glass, it
is the more personal friendships that develop in the office
environment that pose a greater threat to marital stability.
Speaking recently to Connie Chung on CNN, Glass noted, "The crisis is
that men and women are working with people that they respect, people
that they have intellectual interests with, people that they share
excitement over projects, frustration over deadlines. And so the
relationship begins as a platonic friendship that's very deep and
rich. And what happens is that, over time, they begin to share more
and more of their personal lives together."
This type of intimate sharing of personal thoughts and feelings is,
Glass asserts, more detrimental to marriage because, unlike casual
sexual encounters, these interactions create strong bonds between the
people. And once this level of personal intimacy grows, the dreaded
sexual affair is just on the horizon.
For Glass, the answer to this problem is to establish what she calls
"walls and windows" by which married couples agree to keep emotional
distance from people outside the marriage while keeping open channels
within the marriage.
The resemblance to Islamic standards of modesty is uncanny, although
Glass does fail to call for the true Islamic solution, which erects
clear boundaries between the permissible and impermissible.
Glass is just one of several authors to recently take a more
conservative track regarding marriage and relationships. And in many
instances, themes that have elements of solid Islamic common sense are
finding favor over the more liberal trends that have predominated in
popular culture.

Fathwa, - In love with non-Muslim married woman�

Question:
I am in love with a non-Muslim married girl. I guess its one sided
from me. I just care about her. Is it ok for me to wish and pray for
her to get together in other life? I wish and pray for her all the
time. I guess only Allah knows how much I love her. Can I wish to be
with her in real life after death? If I do good things and Allah
Blesses me with (heaven) can I ask for her in Heaven to be with me?
Answer:
Assalamu alaykum
In the name of Allah, the Inspirer of Truth.
Dear brother, let us put a few things into perspective.
For one, you should not have let this love develop. It is not
permissible for Muslim men to have casual social relationships with
members of the opposite sex. It is normally through such interactions
that unlawful relationships and sentiments are fostered and then
difficult to overcome. Islam puts a stop to these from the beginning.
The other problem is that she is already married. Hence, marriage to
her does not even seem an option for you. It is bad enough to be in
such an infatuation with a non-married girl but it is far more serious
when this kind of attachment is with a married woman.
You must stop seeing her at once, either by changing or dropping out
completely of the class, if this is taking place at school; or
transferring to another office or finding another job, if this is at
work. All types of contact: telephone, email, etc. must cease
immediately, even if it be without explanation, since unnecessarily
prolonging it can only be detrimental. If you continue to be in close
proximity to her, then this will be extremely difficult to end.
Pray to Allah to deliver you from such a dangerous infatuation in
which you torture yourself unnecessarily. Du'as work wonders. You must
also sincerely pray to Allah for forgiveness for allowing such an
infatuation to develop.
Actively look to get married with a pious Muslim woman. This way you
will be able to fulfill the natural craving and desire of your soul
and replace this woman with a woman you are married to.
Insha Allah, if you are able to follow through with these steps, then
God-willing, you can overcome this problem.
Please do not see this as an insurmountable problem, something that
you have to take with you to the grave, even if it currently seems
like it. Remember, this can only continue if you fuel it by
communication, thoughts, and proximity to her.
The Prophet Muhammad (upon him be blessings and peace) said, "The
hearts are in the fingers of the Merciful One, He turns them as He
wishes." [Muslim and Ahmad]
Hence, nothing is difficult upon Allah. He is in control of all
things. But we must pray for His assistance.
And He knows best.

Fathwa, - Challenges facing Islamic marriage

Question
What are the challenges Islam is facing on marriage?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
The enemies of Islam are keen on spoiling the true image of Islam by
raising some misconceptions about marriage in Islam, they raise for
instance the following issues:
1(Polygamy, which is that a man is permitted to marry up to four wives
and this is legislated by the text of the Quran, provided that one is
able to be just between them. Allaah Says )which means(: }…then marry
those that please you of ]other[ women, two or three or four. But if
you fear that you will not be just, then ]marry only[ one….{]Quran
4:3[.
2(Allaah stated that it is the husband who isin charge of his wife
]and he is her protector as he spends on her and provides for her from
his wealth[ becausethe family could not be set up except if there is
someone who is running the affairs of the family, and Allaah put this
task in the hands of the husband as He Knows that he is more
appropriate to fulfil this task; it is He Who created all the creation
and He Knows what benefits them. Allaah Says )which means(: }Men are
in charge of women by ]right of[ what Allah has given one over the
other and what they spend ]for maintenance[ from their wealth.{]Quran:
4:34[.
3(In principle a woman should remain in her house and she should not
mix with men in their work as this causes the loss of the family and
children.
4(A woman should not go out of her home or travel except with her
husband's permission.
They also raise misconceptions on other issues which Allaah or His
Prophetlegislated. In sum, they want to change the Law of Allaah and
His Prophet. Some of them claim that following one's desires is better
for this contemporary era but in reality they do not realize that what
is good for mankind at all times and all places is what Allaah and His
Messengerchose for them. If the matter is left to them, they would
probably choose what would destroy them and spoil their life; and
reality testifies to this. Allaah Says )which means(: }…and it may be
that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a
thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know.{]Quran
2:216[.
Allaah Knows best.

Stories of Prophets, - Prophet Ismail (PBUH)

Advent of Prophet Isma'il and Desertion by his Father
The Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) was the eldest son of Prophet
Ibrahim(peace he upon him) by his second wifeHajira. As he had no
off-spring from his first wifeSarah, he entered into matrimonial
allegiance with Hajira, a devoted lady. He did so with the consent of
his first wife. The Prophet Ibrahim (peace he upon him) prayed to his
Lord to bless him with a son. TheProphet Isma'il(peace he upon him)
was born to him in response to his prayers. The Holy Quran makes
mention of it in these words:
"Ibrahim said: My Lord! Grant me of the doers of good deeds. So We
gave him the good news of a boy possessing forbearance." ( Surah 37:
Verses 100-101)
Shortly after his birth, in obedience to a Divine behest, he was left
by his father Ibrahim (peace be upon him) along with his mother at the
place where stands Ka'bah. It was abarren and waterless placewith no
trace of life in any form. The great Patriarch, Ibrahim (peace be upon
him) left them to their fate with a heavy heart and prayed:
"O' Lord! I have made some of my off-spring settle in this barren
valley near the Sacred House so that they may keep up prayer." ( Surah
14: Verse 37)
The scene of departing Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) from his
family was highly pathetic. It is narrated on the authority of Ibn
'Abbàs that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) said:
"The Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) brought with him his wife
Hajira and his son Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) whom she
suckled. They placed the child close by the spot where Ka'bah now
stands. In those days Mecca wasuninhabited and without water. The
Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) placed beside them a bag full of
dates and a skin full of water.
When Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) returned, the mother of
Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) ran after him and said: Ibrahim!
Where are you going? Why have you left me in the wilderness where none
is to take pity on us. Nothing is available here to eat and drink. She
repeated this several times but Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him)
did not hearken to her voice.
Then she asked him. Have God Commanded you to do so? He replied in
affirmative. She said: Then God will cause no harm to me. Thereupon
she returned back. When Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) got out of
sight, he faced towards Ka'bah and prayed: O' Lord! Grant that the
hearts of some men may be affected with kindness towards them and
bestow upon them all sorts offruitso that they may bethankful.
After this the mother of Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) began to
suckle her child and to drink water out of the skin until it was
emptied. Soon after her son felt thirsty. She could not bear to see
him in such plight. Hajira ranseven times from the hill of Safa to
Marwainquest of water. As she was about to commence the eighth trip,
her attention was drawn to the crying child who in the agony of thirst
was kicking the ground.
Lo! the water gushed forth miraculously from the earth in the form of
fountain to save Prophet: Isma'il (peace be upon him) from the
tortures of thirst. Then she drank the water and suckled her child.
May God bless the mother of Prophet Isma'il! Had she left theZam Zamas
it was or had she not filled her skin with water, theZam Zamwould
always have remained an overflowing mountain. (Bukhari)"
Trial of Sincerity
The origin of the custom of true believers running betweenSafa and
Marwa at the time of Hajjis deep connected with Hajira, the mother
ofProphet Isma'il(peace be upon him). Similarly therite of
sacrificealso owes its origin to the Prophet Ibrahim(peace be upon
him) and his obedient son.
He had received aDivine Commandtosacrifice his beloved son. Both of
them stood the test with credit. The Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon
him) decided to fulfill the vision on one hand whereas the Prophet
Isma'il (peace be upon him) was ready with alacrity to lay down his
life to win the favor and pleasure of Allah.
While they were proceeding towardsMinafor theperformance of the solemn
duty, Satan tried to dissuade them from their firm resolve but to no
effect. The Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) passed the sharp knife
over the throat of his son but an angel turned theknife upside downand
aheavenly message forbadethe act.
The Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) was desired to sacrifice in
lieu of his son, aram. So heslaughtered a well-fed rampresented by
Allah. When the Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) grew up, he
married a girl of the tribe but soon divorced her at the request of
his father to whom she proved to be discourteous. After this he
married a daughter of the Jurhum Chief.
Re-construction of the House of Allah
Ka'bahis theveritable heart of Islamtowards which all the prayers of
the Muslims flow to vivify their souls. It was built by the Prophet
Adam(peace be upon him), the father of the human race. When it was
damaged by flood, it was reconstructed on the same foundations by the
Prophet Ibrahim(peace he upon him) with the help of his sonProphet
Isma'il(peace be upon him), the ancestors of the Arabs.
The Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) directed his son to bring a
good stone to mark the corner of foundation. He brought one of which
theangel Gabrielgave him information. It was the sacredBlack stone -
"Hajar al-Aswad". When the Prophet Ibrahim and Isma'il (peace be upon
them) raised the foundations of the House of Allah they prayed:
"Our Lord! Accept from us; surely You are the Hearing, the Knowing.
Our Lord! Make us both submissive to You and raise from our off-spring
a nation submitting to You and show us ways of devotion and turn to us
mercifully. You are the oft-Returning to mercy, the Most Merciful." (
Surah 1: Verses 127-128)
"Our Lord! And raise up in them an Apostle from among them who shall
recite to them Your communications and teach them the Book and the
Wisdom and purify them. Surely You are the Mighty, the Wise." ( Surah
2: Verse 129).
Makkah is Habituated
The Prophet Isma'il (peace be upon him) and his mother settled down in
the vicinity of the Ka'bah. His progeny multiplied and ramified into
numerous tribes. One of these is known as theQuraishfrom which
theIshmaelite Arabssprang up. The Holy Prophet(peace be upon him)
belonged to this family. They habituated the city of Makkah which
became thecenter of Islam.

Stories of Prophets, - Prophet Isa (Jesus) (PBUH)

Background
The Israelites had settled in the blessed land, Palestine. They ruled
for a long time. They had a vast kingdom. Allah, the Almighty chose
many prophets from among them. They followed the Holy Book, theTorah.
The Prophet Dawood (PBUH)and his sonProphet Sulaiman(peace be upon
him) won great popularity as kings and commanded high respect. Their
followers believed in God and led noble lives. As the time passed by,
they began topay less attention to the teachingsof God. Theyforgot the
Divinefavors. They madealterations in the Holy Bookaccording to their
own tastes. Most of the Israelites adopted indecent ways of life and
committed major sins.
At that time there existed a powerful kingdom in the world. It was
called the kingdom ofRomans. They were polytheists and pagans. They
did not worship one God and prayed to many idols made of stones. The
Roman society was divided into two factions. The ruling class was very
strong and arrogant whereas the ordinary people lived in misery. They
were ill-treated as slaves. The female sex enjoyed no privilege in
that era. Palestine, the blessed land was ruled by Herod, a cruel
king. The people disliked him. They were scared stiff of him. They
could not utter a word of complaint against him lest they should be
put to sword.
Birth of Prophet Isa (PBUH)
Allah, the Beneficent,showed His favorsand wanted to guide the
depraved humanity to the right oath. He desired to make the people
believe in Allah through miracles.Maryam (Mary)was a beautiful maiden.
She was virtuous, abstemious and chaste. She used to pray to Allah
(SWT) frequently. She grew up in the house of Prophet Zakariyya (peace
be upon him) and learnt a good deal about Allah and His religion.
One night Maryam was engaged inglorifying the Almighty, Allah.
Suddenly she saw a handsome looking young man. She got embarrassed and
her face turned pale. She felt jittery and had goose pimples on her
skin. Soon after she got tranquility of mind. She heard a voice from
the invisible world:
"I am an angel of Allah. He has sent me to inform you that you are
going to have a baby."
Maryam was much perplexed. As she was a virgin, it was quite
impossible for her to give birth to baby without entering into
matrimonial allegiance with an opposite sex.
Once again the Angel remarked: It is the Will of Allah, the Almighty
that you should give birth to a fatherless baby. It is easy for Him to
do what He pleases. He has His own reasons. I, however, convey you the
good news. Soon after the Angel vanished. Maryam became wet with
perspiration. She apprehended that her name would be sullied if she
gave birth to a baby before marriage.
After some days Maryam became pregnant. Many people began to level
false accusations against her. They calumniated her for developing
contraband relations with a man. The whole population of the town
derided Maryam. She was feeling terribly ashamed on hearing the
baseless charges of slanders. She had a firm faith in Allah. She was
sure that Allah would help her in washing away a blot on her fair
reputation. She prayed to her Lord frequently to save her honor. The
people passed taunting remarks about her every now and then.
When she wasreduced to straitsby the mischievous persons, she decided
to leave Nazareth and settle in another town. She went to a locality
calledBethlehem, seventy-one miles away from her native town.
She resided near a manger under a palm-tree. Soon after her arrival
there,Prophet Isa (Jesus Christ) (PBUH)was born. Maryam washed,
cleansed and dressed him. He lookedvery beautiful and attractive. Some
of the people got wind of that incident and visited Maryam who gave
birth to afatherless baby.
They also made fun of her and began to ask questions. As Maryam had
beendirected by Allahnot to utter a single word for three days from
the moment she gave birth to a baby. She complied with the orders and
refrained from talking. When the people pressed her hard to reply to
their questions, the baby began to utter some words to clarify the
position of his pious mother. The listeners were much surprised. They
were full of excitement.
Isa (Jesus Christ) claimed to be the Prophet of Allah. He advised the
people to follow the right path and do noble acts. When the people got
a convincing proof regarding the truthfulness and chastity of Maryam,
they were much impressed and amazed.
The birth of Prophet Isa (Peace Be Upon Him) became a talk of the
town.Herod, the king, got wind of that miracle. He became worried lest
people should obey the directions of the newly born Prophet and
neglect his orders. He issued terrible orders to kill all those babies
who art under the age of two years. The parents became much upset
because they thought that they would be deprived of their affectionate
children after the implementation of those orders. Allah guided Maryam
tomigrate to Egyptto seek protection for her baby. She carried out the
orders and reached Egypt after a troublesome journey.
They stayed away from home for twelve years. The Prophet Isa (PBUH)
grew up gradually andAllah gave him a good deal of wisdom and
knowledge. In the meantime Herod passed away and the people took a
sigh of relief. Maryam felt a great pleasure. She picked up her
belongings and proceeded towards the blessed land again. She, along
with her baby reached there after a long journey.
Miracles of Prophet Isa
The Prophet Isa (PBUH) was handsome and dignified. When he had
attained the age of thirty years, he began topreach the religion of
Allah. Most of the people were not convinced and thus he was exposed
to ridicules. The Prophet Isa (PBUH) entreated Allah to grant him
amiraculous power to impress the people. Allah gave him that power. He
showed many miracles whichwon the heartsof the people. Gradually they
became his followers and began to believe in him and his message.
*.One day Prophet Isa (PBUH) was preaching to a large gathering.
Heexhorted the people to believe in Allahand follow His religion. Most
of them turned a deaf ear to his instructions. The Prophet Isa (PBUH)
tried toconvince them with a miracle. He took some wet clay in his
hand and made the statue of a bird with it. He blew his breath on the
clay. It became a real bird with wings, eyes and legs by Allah's
power. It flew up chirping in the sky. The people looked at the bird
but could hardly believe their eyes. They were wonder struck at the
sight of this miracle. They were so impressed that they began to take
the oath of allegiance to Prophet Isa (peace be upon him).
*.The Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) kept on preaching and many
people began to believe in true religion. One day a man came limping
towards him. He had suffered fromleprosy. He was looking terrible due
to lumps on his face. His fingers were crooked and he had lost some
toes. The people were scared of him. They detested him but the heart
of Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) was bleeding for the wretched man.
The diseased man said in the weak tone: Cure me, cure me. I am
disgusted with my life. The Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) knelt
andsupplicated for his recovery. He patted at his shoulders. He
recovered and his face became clear. All the lumps vanished in the
twinkling of an eye. The crowd was much amazed at the sight of this
miracle. Every one was much impressed. The people began tofollow the
teachingsof the Prophet Isa (peace be upon him).
*.One day the Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) was going through the
street which was narrow and winding. He came across a man who wasblind
and dumb. The Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) decided to show mercy to
him because he was kind-hearted. He put his hand on the shoulder of
the man. The blind man opened his eyes andAllah restored his eye
sight. Moreover he was endowed with the power of talking. He expressed
a deep sense of gratitude for the kindness shown by the Prophet Isa
(peace be upon him). This miracle impressed the spectators and they
began to follow the teachings of Allah.
*.A man, Lazaruspassed awayand his sisters, Mary and Martha fell into
melancholy and extinction. They were making preparations to perform
burial ceremonies. The mourners flocked at the residence of the
deceased. Suddenly the Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) appeared on the
scene. He knelt down andstarted to pray to Almighty Allah.
After a short time Lazarus was revived by the grace of Allah. He got
up and began to talk. Every one jumped out or joy. They began to
acknowledge the supreme power of their Lord. The Prophet Isa (peace be
upon him) came to remind the people of the teachings of the other
Prophets. He advised the people tobelieve in Allahandpray to Himonly.
He asked themnot to indulgein back-biting,oppression, sinfulness and
impiety. He directed his followers to donoble deeds. He taught them to
be loving and tolerant. He also had his own revelations. The Prophet
Isa (peace be upon him) hadtwelve discipleswho assisted him in
preaching. They helped him inspreading the religion of Allahduring the
life of Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) and afterwards.
Crucifiction of Prophet Isa (Jesus) (PBUH)
The preaching work by Prophet Isa (peace be upon him)lasted for three
years. A considerable number of people began to follow him. They
adopted good ways of life. TheRomans and the Jewswere much worried
because of the prevailing influence of Prophet Isa (peace be upon him)
and his disciples. They feared lest they should rise in revolt against
them. They decided Isa, the Prophetto be crucified.
Allah Almighty loved his Prophet. He wanted to save him. On the other
hand the Romans made a heavy big cross of wood to put their plan into
practice. There was a large gathering and the soldiers were standing
all around where Isa, the Prophet was supposed to be crucified. Even
those people who were against the teachings of Prophet Isa (peace be
upon him) were feeling queasy inside. They did not agree with the idea
of crucifying him.
Allah (SWT) ordered someone whobore resemblance to Prophet Isa(peace
be upon him) totake the place of the Propheton the cross. In fact the
man who wasanalogous to Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) was
crucifiedand his own life was saved in this manner.
Most of the teachings of Prophet Isa (peace be upon him) are still in
the Gospel but some of the things written in the Bible arenot in
original form. They were changed and some additions as well as
subtractions have been made in his teachings.

Stories of Prophets, - Prophet Idris (PBUH)

As a result of the efforts of the Prophet Sheth (peace be upon him)
some people began to believe in Allah. As the time passed they began
to worship the statue of their prophet. They became polytheists,
irreligious and faithless. They adopted indecent ways of life. Under
such circumstances Allah sent the Prophet Idris (peace be upon him)
for thereformation and guidanceof those who had gone astray. The Holy
Quran makes mention of him in the following Verse:
"Commemorate Idris in the Book, verily he was a man of truth and a
Prophet and We raised him to a lofty station." ( Surah 19: Verse 56)
Preaching and Opposition
The Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) preachedmonotheism. He directed
his people toabandon idol-worship. He emphasized them not to be
captivated by the love of wealth and property. He advised them
toabstain from drinking wineand other intoxicants. Only a few men paid
heed to his teachings but majority of the people opposed him bitterly.
The Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) did not lose heart and continued
preaching with unshakeable constancy. He is appreciated for his firm
faith and forbearance in the following Verses of the Holy Quran:
"All (Isma'il, Dhul-Kifl and Idris) were men of constancy and
patience. We admitted them into Our mercy, for they were of the
righteous ones." ( Surah 21: Verse 85-86)
Migration to Egypt
In spite of untiring efforts the Prophet Idris (peace be upon him)
could not attain considerable success and felt disgusted with the
indifferent attitude of the public. He was directed to migrate to
Egypt and settle on the bank of the river Nile. He preached
thereligion of Allahamong various tribes and admonished them to be
good and civilized. Consequently he brought about a remarkable change
in themoral and social lifeof the people.
Some Sayings of the Prophet Idris
His lectures were full of admonition and good advice. Some of his
sayings are given below:
1. Do not feel jealous of the prosperity of others.
2. He who has unlimited desires, is deprived of the wealth of contentment.
3. One should be sincere in acts of devotion.
4. It is an act of grave sin to take false oaths.
5. Patience is a key to victory.
6. He who controls his passions, is fortunate. Only a good act will be
a living intercessor before Allah on the Day of Judgment.
7. One who is desirous of attaining perfection in knowledge, should
have no concern with immoral acts.
The Learned Prophet
The Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) was born one hundred years after
the death of Prophet Adam (peace be upon him). He was the first man
who learnt to write. It is said that thirty portions of Allah's sacred
scriptures were revealed to him. He was the inventor of the science of
astronomy and arithmetic.
Death Event
The Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) was taken alive to Heavens at
the age of 365 years. Ibn Jarir relates in Rauzatul Ahbab that the
Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) was the special friend of one of the
angels of heaven. The angel took him up into the heavens and when they
arrived in the fourth heaven, they met the Angel of Death. The angel
questioned the Angel of Death how many years there were remaining of
the life of the Prophet Idris (peace be upon him). The Angel of Death
said: Where is Idris because I have been commanded to end his life.
The Prophet Idris (peace be upon him) then remained in the fourth
heaven and he died in the wings of his angel friend who had taken him
from earth. Mutwaslah was one of his distinguished son who made his
mark.

Women site, - A Day in the Life of a Muslim Woman - I

Normal and everyday activities become acts of worship if they are done
for the sake of pleasing Allaah. The regular and consistent deeds are
the best among these deeds. `Aa`ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her,
said that Allaah's Messenger, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said:"The
deeds most loved by Allaah are those done regularly, even if they are
small."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[ This means that we do not need to do
anything spectacular in our day to obtain rewards from Allaah, but we
should establish some type of routine that incorporates not only the
prayer but also reciting the Quran, Du'aa` )supplication(, Thikr
)mention of Allaah(, and other good deeds. This will increase the
serenity, patience, and enthusiasm of the believer.
Early morning
This article is the first in a series aimed at bringing the spiritual
side in the everyday life of a married Muslim woman:
Wake at night to perform Tahajjud.The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa
sallam, said:"The best )most rewarding prayer after the obligatory
prayer is Tahajjud, night prayer."]Ahmad and Muslim[ It is best to do
this toward the last third of the night as the Prophet, sallallaahu
`alayhi wa sallam, said:"Allaah descends every night in the last third
of the night ]in a way that befits His majesty[ and says: Is there
anyone invoking Me that I may respond to his invocation? Is there
anyone asking of Me so that I may grant him his request? Is there
anyone asking My Forgiveness, so that I may forgive him?"]Al-Bukhaari
and Muslim[ It is even better if the husband and wife perform the
Tahajjud together as the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam,
said:"When a man wakes his wife up at night and they perform two
Rak'ah together, they are written down among the men and women who
remember Allaah."]Abu Daawood[ After this prayer, one can return to
bed until the Fajr prayer.
Upon awakening in the morning, say this Du`aa`:"Al-Hamdu Lillaah,
praise be to Allaah who brought me to life after giving me death, and
to Him is the resurrection."]Al-Bukhaari[ One should also greet the
other members of the household who are awake. The Prophet, sallallaahu
`alayhi wa sallam, said:"O my son )to Anas(, when you enter to where
your family is, say Salaam. It is a blessing on you and on the people
of your house."]At-Tirmithi[
When getting dressed, say this Du`aa`:"AI-Hamdu Lillaah, praise be to
Allaah, who clothed me with this, and who provided me with it, without
any power or might of mine."]Abu Daawood[
Make Wudu or Ghusl )except for menstruating or postnatal women(:
Du`aa` when entering the bathroom:"In the name of Allaah, O Allaah, I
seek refuge in You from the male and female devils."]Abu Daawood[
Be sure to use the left hand in the bathroom:"`Aa`ishah, may Allaah be
pleased with her, said that the right hand was used by Allaah's
Messenger for his ablution and for taking food, and his left hand was
used in the toilet and the like."]Abu Daawood[
Say "Bismillaah" and make Wudu )ablution(. It is also encouraged to
use the Miswak or toothbrush, although it is not an obligatory aspect
of Wudu. The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said:"If I had not
found it difficult for my followers, I would have ordered them to
clean their teeth with Miswak for every prayer."]Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim[
Du`aa` after finishing Wudu:"I testify that there is no god but
Allaah, Alone, having no partner; and I testify that Muhammad,
sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, is His servant and Messenger, O Allaah,
make me of those who continually repent and purify
themselves."]At-Tirmithi[
Du`aa` when leaving the bathroom,")I ask for( Your forgiveness."]Abu Daawood[
Perform Fajr Prayer: 2 Rak'ah of Sunnah and the two obligatory Rak'ah
)except for menstruating or post-natal women(. It is important to
remember that the prayer should be completed soon after the time has
begun. The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, was asked which deed
was loved most by Allaah, The Exalted. He, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam, said:"The prayer which is performed at its time."]Al-Bukhaari[
Even if a woman is busy with another task, she should interrupt this
and perform her Prayer .
A woman should try to develop Khushoo` )sincere submission( in prayer
since this will be the first thing that she will be accountable for on
Judgment Day. The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said:"When
you stand up for your Prayer , make it as if it was your last Prayer ;
do not say a word for which you will have to make an excuse the coming
day; and build no hope on what is in the hands of men."]Ahmad[
It is often asked if women need to make the Athaan and Iqaamah if they
are leading the Prayer or praying by them selves. This is not required
for women, although they may do it if they wish. In terms of the
manner of performing the prayer, a woman's prayer is no different from
that of a man's.
Recite the Quran.Early morning is often a good time to recite the
Quran, especially if the children are still sleeping and the house is
quiet. This allows one to fully concentrate and obtain the most
benefit. The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said:")The
recital of( the Quran at dawn is always witnessed - the angels of the
night and the angels of the day witness it."]At-Tirmithi[ If one's
spouse is available, this would be the ideal time to strengthen the
marriage by reciting the Quran together and praising Allaah for His
blessings. The issue of women touching the Quran during menstruation
is often debated. Most scholars say that a woman should not touch the
Quran during this time. However, even if she does not, she may still
recite from memory or listen to tapes if she fears she may forget the
Quran. This should be an incentive to memorize larger portions of the
Quran, which can also be done during this early morning time.
Work on a project that will benefit the Muslim community in some
way.Before the children awake and after reciting the Quran, it would
be a good time to put energy into some project of interest to which
one is committed. This may include such things as acquiring more
Islamic knowledge by reciting or listening to tapes, writing articles,
preparing for circles, developing some type of program )such as a
Children's circle, Muslim scouting program, etc.(, keeping in touch
with other sisters through e-mail, social service projects, etc. There
are many opportunities for sisters to benefit themselves )through
Allaah's rewards( and the community.
Mid and late morning
Prepare a healthy breakfast for the family. It is important to
remember that the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, used to eat
a very healthy food such as dates, cucumbers, bread, meat, milk, etc….
Much of the unhealthy food that we have now was obviously not
available at the time of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam.
It is best to avoid processed foods and to use items that are the most
natural. Allaah Knows what is best for His Creation and He has
provided us with all that we need. We should take care of our
children's physical needs in the best manner possible. Cleanliness is
also an important element of the Islamic faith and should be observed
in all matters, especially in food preparation and eating.
Du`aa` when beginning the meal."O Allaah! Bless whatever You provided
for us and save us from the punishment of the Hellfire.
Bismillaah."The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, told a boy who
was attending a meal with him:"... Mention the name of Allaah, and eat
with your right hand and eat of the food that is nearer to
you."]Al-Bukhaari[ Spend some time in conversation during the meal
since this was encouraged by the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa
sallam.
Duaa after finishing the meal"Praise be to Allaah, who gave us to eat
and to drink and made us Muslims."]Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi[ It is
important to remember not to overeat due to the unhealthiness of this
behavior for physical and spiritual reasons. The Messenger of Allaah,
sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said:"The son of Adam fills no vessel
more displeasing to Allaah than his stomach. A few morsels should be
enough for him to preserve his strength. If he must fill it, then he
should allow a thin his food, a third for his food, a third for his
drink and leave a third empty for easy breathing."]At-Tirmithi[
Overeating can lead to laziness and lethargy, and make acts of worship
seem laborious, making it more likely that one will delay or avoid
them.
Spend quality time with the children.Older children may need to be
sent off to school, while younger children will continue to require
the attention of their mother. Raising children is the most important
and most honorable role for a woman. It is essential to include
quality time with the children in a busy daily schedule. This should
be given priority over household chores and other activities, although
it should not interfere with obligatory acts of worship. Quality time
may include such things as reading books about Islam, teaching Arabic,
reciting the Quran together, playing games, going to the park, and
much more. The emphasis should be on the children's spiritual,
intellectual, emotional and physical development. Doing this early in
the day also makes it more likely that children will be content to
play with themselves later on, freeing time for other activities.
Perform Ad-Dhuhaa prayer:Abu Hurayrah said:"My friend )the Prophet(
advised me to observe three things, not to abandon them till I die; to
fast three days a month, to perform two Rak'ah of Dhuhaa )forenoon(
Prayer , and to perform Witr before sleeping."]Bukhaari and Muslim[
This is one of the forgotten Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi
wa sallam, that needs to be revived. Two or more Rak'ah should be
prayed some time after the sun rises until a few moments before noon.
The preferred time is when it is extremely hot, which usually occurs
around the hour before noon. A mother has a wonderful opportunity to
renew this Sunnah by teaching her children from a very young age. Have
a peaceful and blessed morning!