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One day of the many days. There was a man traveling on a trip with his Wife and Kids. And on the way he met someone standing in the roadway. So he asked him: Who are you? He said: I am the money.
So the man asked his wife and kids: Should we ask him to ride with us?
They said together: Yes of course because with the money it can help us if we wanted to do anything and if we wanted to get anything we desired. So they took the Money to ride with them.
And the vehicle continued its way until the man met someone else on the road. So the Father asked: Who are you? He said: I am the high position and power.
So the father asked his wife and kids: Should we ask him to ride with us?
So they all answered together in one voice: Yes of course because with the high position and power we have the ability to do anything we want and own anything we desired. So they took the high position and power with them. And the vehicle continued to finish its trip.
And likewise he met in the same manner many people which give the pleasures and desires of this life, until... They met one person on the way... The Father asks him Who are you? He said: I am Deen-e-Islam (Religion Islam).
So the father, wife, and kids said all together in one voice: No, no this isn't the time, we desire the pleasures of this life and world (Dunya), and the Deen will prevent us and ban us from these things and it will take control over us, and we will be worn-out from being loyal to it and its learning. And the Halal (Lawful) and the Haram (Forbidden), and this thing prayer and that thing Hijab, and this fasting , and and and and and etc, It will be a burden upon us!
But what is certain is that we will definitely return for you to pick you up but only after we enjoy this life and everything in it.
So sadly they left him behind and the vehicle continued its trip.
And out of no where something appeared in the middle of the road. It was a check point in the road and it had a sign saying, STOP!
And they found a man gesturing for the father to get out of the vehicle.
So the man said to the father: The trip has ended as far as you are concerned! And it is upon you to get out and come with me.
The father was shocked with fear and didn't say a word.
So the man said to him: I am searching for the Deen-e-Islam. Is he with you?
He answered: No I left him not too far back. So if you can let me go back, I can get him for you. You do not have the ability to go back, your trip has ended and there is no going back now. returning is impossible said the man.
But I have, money, high position and power, My Wife, My Kids, and and and and and and on.
The man said to him: They will not benefit you nor will they protect you in front of Allah (SWT). Not one bit!
And you will leave all of this, and not one of them will help you except for the Deen-e-Islam you know? The one which you left back in the road. So the father asked: And who are you exactly?
I AM DEATH
The one which you were needless of and didn't take into account in your trip!
The father looked at his vehicle and found his wife taking control of it and continuing the trip with all of its passengers but him. And none of them stayed with him, and none of them helped him in any way.
Prophet of Islam, Muhammad (pbuh)said: The worse of people is the one who trades his next world for enjoyment of this world, and worse than him is the one who trades his next world for enjoyment of someone else (in this world).
Allah (SWT), the Majestic said: "Say: If your fathers and your sons and your brethren and your mates and your kinsfolk and property which you have acquired, and the slackness of trade which you fear and dwellings which you like, are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger and striving in His way, then wait till Allah brings about His command: and Allah does not guide the transgressing people." Noble Qur'an (9:24)
Allah (SWT), the Majesticsaid: "Every soul shall taste of death, and you shall only be paid fully your reward on the resurrection day; then whoever is removed far away from the fire and is made to enter the garden he indeed has attained the object; and the life of this world is nothing but a provision of vanities." Noble Qur'an (3:185)
Allah (SWT), the Majestic said: "And leave those who have taken their religion for a play and an idle sport, and whom this world's life has deceived, and remind (them) thereby lest a soul should be given up to destruction for what it has earned:" Noble Qur'an (6:70)

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Fathwa, - {Misconceptions about Muslim Women}, - Misconceptions about marital rights in Islam

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I have been reading about the marital rights in Islam and I am confused. Please answer my question as its taking me away from religion and bringing evil thoughts about Islam. I understand man has more rights over his wife but if someone is given power there should be severe punishment if he abuses that power but it seems that if women makes a mistake her punishment is much severe than when the man abuses his power for instance if she refuses an intercourse without any valid reason which from what I read are being sick, menses and mandatory fast. But it doesn’t take into consideration her emotional circumstances.
The Prophet,said: "When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he went to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning." ]Al-Bukhaari[
Where the husband beats his wife the matter is not so serious. Many women have come to the family of Muhammad, complaining about their husbands. Those )husbands( are not the best among you. ]Abu Daawood[
The Prophet,recommended Faatimah Bint Qays not to marry Abu Jaham because he beat women )as for Abu Jaham, his stick never leaves his shoulder(.
In both cases being violent to wife is not liked but not considered a major sin but refusing intercourse is a major sin. I have also read if wife refuses to obey the husband or have intercourse, man can stop paying the maintenance but if the husband doesn't fulfil his obligations like maintenance or kind treatment wife still has to obey him and cannot refuse intercourse with him.
Similarly woman who asks for divorce without a valid reason is kind of cursed.
“Any woman who asked for a divorce for no reason, the fragrance of Paradise is forbidden to her.” ]Narrated by At-Tirmithi[
I haven’t read anything which is as strict as the above regarding man. Isn’t harm caused by man divorcing wife without a reason the same as woman asking for divorce without a reason.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
First of all, you have to know that this religion is sent down by Allaah, the Most-Wise, the All-Knower. He is the One Who knows what is beneficial for His Slaves in this world and in the Hereafter. The Words of Allaah are the Truth and All that Allaah has Legislated is just. Allaah Says )which means(: }And the Word of your Lord has been fulfilled in truth and in justice.{]Quran 6:115[, i.e. true in information and just in rulings, free from all kinds of lies or injustice. The belief of a Muslim requires that he submits himself to Allaah's Decree. The Muslim's belief that Allaah is Perfect in his Names and Attributes, and that he is the All-Knower, the All-Wise, the All-Aware, and belief in His other Names and Attributes, all this requires from him to firmly believe that Allaah does not legislate except that which is beneficial for His Slaves, and that He does not wrong anyone in His Rulings. It is He Who forbade injustice on Him and made it forbidden among the people. A Muslim may not know the wisdom and the secrets of legislation, so it is not permissible for him to condition his belief on perceiving the wisdom, to an extent that if he knows the wisdom, he believes and if he does not know it, he does not believe. Therefore, you should be careful, and your slogan should be the Saying of Allaah ]when speaking about the believers[ )which means(: }And they say, ''We hear and we obey. ]We seek[ Your forgiveness, our Lord, and to You is the ]final[ destination."{]Quran 2:285[. This is just an introductive answer to your misconceptions before we proceed to answer your questions.
As regards your questions, the answer would be as follows:
1( It is not correct to say that the punishment for the woman in most cases is more severe than that of a man. It is related that the man is cursed and there are severe warnings against him in relation to some of his conducts with his wife. For instance the Prophetsaid: "Allaah cursed the husband who has sex with his wife in her anus." ]Abu Daawood[ The Prophetfurther said: "Whoever has sex with a woman in menstruation, or has sex with his wife in her anus, or had been to see a magician, he had indeed disbelieved in what was revealed upon the Prophet Muhammad the Prophet." ]At-Tirmithi[ In another narration the Prophetsaid: "When a husband has two wives and does not act justly between them, he will come on the Day of Judgment with a side of his body hanging down )as a form of punishment(." ]Abu Daawood[
2( It is not possible to be certain that the punishment of a disobedient woman is less than that of a husband who hits his wife without any religious reason. Allaah Says )which means(: }…But if they obey you ]once more[, seek no means against them. Indeed, Allaah is ever Exalted and Grand.{]Quran 4:34[. ImaamIbn Katheersaid in relation to the interpretation of the above verse:'This is a threat to the husbands if they are unjust to their wives without any valid religious reason, as it is Allaah Who is their ]wives[ guardian and He will avenge those who are unjust to them.' Even if we assume that the punishment of a disobedient woman or the woman who refuses to share the bed with her husband is more severe than the punishment of a man hitting his wife, the harm that results from a woman who refuses to share the bed with her husband is greater than the harm which results from him hitting her, as the husband may resort to adultery because of his wife refusing him to enjoy her, and other harms could result due to her refusal. Moreover, the Prophetclarified the issue of men hitting their wives that it is not a simple matter as he said:"The men who beat their wives are not the best of you.",so how could it be deduced that this is an easy matter, rather this is a severe threat.
3( It is true that Islam legislated that a husband has the right of not spending on his wife if she is disobedient to him, but it is not correct to say that the wife has no right if the husband does not fulfil her rights, as in such a case Islam has given the right for the woman to take the matter to the court in order to remove the harm off her.
4( It is known that in general women are controlled by their emotion, that is why Islam did not put divorce in her hand and prohibited her to ask for divorce without a sound religious reason so that she will not resort to divorce for trivial reasons. It is for this reason that the stance against her is more firm than in relation to the husband. Finally, it should be noted that Islam legislated divorce as the last solution to clarify that it is disliked to resort to it as a means of solving the problems. The Prophetsaid: "Divorce is the most hated lawful act to Allaah."]Abu Daawood[ Although some scholarsconsidered the chain of narrators of this Prophetic narration as weak, yet its meaning is correct.
Allaah Knows best.

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Fathwa, - {Misconceptions about Muslim Women}, - The status of the barren women in Islam

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I have read that in Islam best women are those who are loving and can have lot of children. I can understand the loving side but women don’t have any control on how many children they can have. Why the women who can have children considered superior to women who cannot have children even though this is not under their control? Prophet )peace be upon him( stopped one of his companions marrying a woman who could not have children and I have also read that Hazarat Umar divorced two of his wives because they were barren. Why are women punished for something which is not under their control? Why are they denied of love and care how will they be able get married? It seems that women who cannot have children are sort of outcast as I have read some scholars consider it Mukroh to marry a woman who cannot have children. Why this restriction only applies to women and not men? Men can be infertile too.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, you should know that superiority in Islam is based on righteousness. Allaah Says )what means(: }Indeed, the most noble of you in the sight of Allaah is the mostrighteous of you.{]Quran 49:13[. The characteristic of being a fertile woman, by itself, does not prove her superiority, and being barren does not prove her inferiority. Therefore, she should not be blamed for this reason since it is not her choice as she was born as such. As for the prophetic narrations that encourage marrying a fertile woman, then this is in order to achieve some religious benefits, like having many children and the like. The Prophetsaid:"Marry the loving and prolific women, as I will outnumber the nations by you ]by your abundant number[."]Ahmad[ Such narrations do not necessarily mean that a woman who is not prolific is not virtuous.
However, we do not know any religious evidence that prohibits marrying a barren person, be it a man or a woman; rather, the religious texts that encourage marriage are general. In addition to this, being chaste is an additional benefit in marriage, and probably, every man and woman seek to achieve chastity.
As for the narration reported by ImaamAhmadMa'qil Ibn Yasaarnarrated that a man came to the Prophetand said:“I have found a woman of honourable lineage and beauty, but she does not give birth to children. Should I marry her? Hesaid: “No”. He ]the man[ later returned again, and heprohibited him. The man returned for the third time, and he )the Prophet( said: “Marry women who are loving and very prolific, for I shall outnumber the nations )on the Day of Resurrection( by you ]by your abundant number[."This narration advocates what is better, and highlights the benefit of multiplying the progeny, as we mentioned above.
'Umarmarried a barren woman from Bani Makhzoom and then hedivorced her and said:"I do not sleep with women only for enjoyment; if they do not give birth, I do not need them."
'Umarpracticed a permissible right to divorce, just like a woman has the right to ask for divorce if her husband is barren, because both of them need to be blessed with children. The ruling here applies to both the husband and the wife.Allaah Knows best.

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Fathwa, - {Misconceptions about Muslim Women}, - Don't judge Islam by yourhusband's injustice

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salamalaykoum...I am confused ..i am a revert to islam but honestly i feel i have done a terrible mistake . There are so many issues wrong w/ my marriage and my husband says its Shariah and Allah will punish me , if i say different. We are married 6yrs now we have 2 children together i live in usa he lives in uk..we have not seen eachother in almost 3yrs. he does not maintain me or our kids. He works in uk and says he makes only enough for him and says hadiths says Allah doesnt give a person more than they can handle.Im tired , i do everything for our kids , they have seen their father one time and dont know him. he says we are married but yet i dont have a document showing we are , then i read on your site other questions about how if a husband divorces his wife , she is not entitiled to any maintance from him nor shelter ..thats absurd...how can you say in islam that as women if we divorce we no longer have rights ..after having children w/ our husbands we are left to either 2 things , either leave our kids w/ our exhusbands or we take our kids w/ us and we suffer cuz we can not work nor maintain them , becuz our so called exhusbands dont have to maintain us or give us any maintance , then we should go out and work like men ...i think the maintaince in western society takes care of the women and gives her more rights than in islam ..im sorry to say and may Allah forgive me but in isalm this is wrong ...how can a woman survive after divorcing if she has nothing or nobody to help her , that means if she has kids she must leave them w/someone while she works to maintain and take care of her kids ....i think islam is wrong in this , how can a women are not protected in islam , they are neglected ...protected as long as they are married but if husband is abusive and she divorces him then she gets nothing ,but children to raise on her own , cuz of course we wont give up our kids to be raised by a man who is abusive...so wrong & sad..christianity gives the woman rights
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Islam is the religion that came to ensure happiness for people in this world and in the Hereafter with its comprehensive and balanced legislations. Allaah Says )what means(: }This day I have perfected for you your religion and completed My favor upon you and have approved for you Islam as religion.{]Quran 5:3[ Hence, every person who embraces Islam and understands it very well should be happy with this bounty and not feel sorry about it.
The )wrong( conclusions that you made are due to the following two matters:
1- Being wronged by your husband who falsely attributes his injustice to Islam.
2- Your wrong understanding to some religious rulings.
However, before talking about these two matters, we would like to draw your attention to the fact that in Islam the marriage contract has conditions that must be fulfilled so that the marriage will be valid; you may read these conditions in Fatwa 83629. The most important of these conditions are the consent )and presence( of the woman’s guardian and the presence of two witnesses: this is so, so that the marriage will be authenticated and the rights of the wife and children will be protected.
It should also be mentioned that the husband is obliged to have good marital relationship with his wife and it is not permissible for him to be absent from her more than six months except with her consent; this has already been discussed in Fataawa 85711and 88304.
As regards the conduct of your husband, he is wrong in many aspects. For instance, a husband is obliged to spend on his wife and children according to reasonable grounds and we have already clarified this in Fatwa 85012, and we also clarified in it that a wife is not required to spend on herself )and children( even if she is working and that if she spends without the intention of doing that as an act of charity, she is permitted to ask her husband to reimburse her for whatever she had spent.
With regard to the statement that a divorcee is not entitled to expenditures and accommodation, then this is not completely true. For example, a husband is obliged to spend on a divorced wife who is divorced a revocable divorce as long as she is in her waiting period, and he is also obliged to spend on a divorced wife who is divorced an irrevocable divorce if she is pregnant until her waiting period is over ]i.e. until she gives birth[. Afterwards, it is her guardian who is obliged to spend on her if she has no money as is the case before she gets married; for more benefit in this regard, please refer to Fatwa 88233. Also, you may refer to Fatwa 83934for the rights of a divorced woman on her husband.
However, if we presume that a woman has no one to spend on her, then in this case it is the Muslim community who is obliged to spend on her. If the Islamic ruling is applied in a Muslim country, then it is the treasury that will spend on such woman. As regards the children, it is their father who is obliged to spend on them in any case as long as they are young and needy and not able to earn their living.
Concerning what you attributed to some non-Muslim societies that they give the woman more right than in Islam and that Islam neglects the woman, then this is very wrong and it is an injustice to Islam. Is it not enough an injustice in Christianity that a woman is not permitted to separate from her husband and be divorced from him unless she commits adultery? For more benefit on the status of woman in Islam and how Islam preserved her rights, please refer to Fataawa 81237and 81205.
It seems, dear sister, that you want to judge Islam by some wrong behaviors of Muslims or by some misconceptions that are presented to you, and there is no doubt that this is not permissible. Therefore, we advise you to be steadfast on you belief and supplicate Allaah to make a way out for you to get out of hardship and enable you to take your right from your husband who wronged you and who wronged Islam to which he affiliates himself.
Finally, it should be noted that you have the right to take your husband to the court so that you get your rights from him and the rights of your children. So, we advise you to take the matter to the authorities who are responsible for the issues of Muslims so that they would repel the injustice of your husband from you.
Furthermore, you are obliged to repent to Allaah from such grave statements by saying that you were wrong by embracing Islam because such a statement may lead to apostasy and whoever apostates from Islam he only harms himself and he loses his religion and his worldly life. Allaah Says )what means(: }And whoever of you reverts from his religion ]to disbelief[ and dies while he is a disbeliever - for those, their deeds have become worthless in this world and the hereafter, and those are the companions of the Fire, they will abide therein eternally.{]Quran 2:217[

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