New Delhi, June 18, 2012 ''A.P.J. Abdul Kalam (former President of India - opts out of Presidential race''

In a rebuff to Trinamool Congress chief Mamata Banerjee and BJP,
former President A P J Abdul Kalam on Monday announced that he would
not contest the Presidential poll against UPA nominee Pranab
Mukherjee.
Issuing a formal announcement, he said he had taken the decision after
considering "the totality of this matter and the present political
situation".
Mr. Kalam, who was propped up by Trinamool as a nominee for the
Presidential poll to be held on July 19, said, "though I have never
aspired to serve another term or shown interest in contesting the
elections", Mamata Banerjee and other political parties "wanted me" to
be the candidate.
"Many, many citizens have also expressed the same wish. It only
reflects their love and affection for me and the aspiration of the
people. I am really overwhelmed by this support," his statement said.
"This being their wish, I respect it. I want to thank them for the
trust they have in me," he said, adding, "I have considered the
totality of this matter and the present political situation, and
decided not to contest the Presidential election 2012."
After Ms. Banerjee pushed his candidature, breaking ranks with UPA
over the issue, the BJP also tried hard to persuade him to contest as
Opposition's common candidate againstMr. Mukherjee.
BJP leader L K Advani calledhim thrice and sent his close aide
Sudheendra Kulkarni twice to convince him. However, he made clear to
Mr. Advani that his "conscience" is not permitting him to contest,
sources said.
The former President has been insisting that he could consider
entering thefray only if there was surety about his victory.
Several opposition leaders talked to Mr. Kalam over phone yesterday to
know about his plans.
BJP was more in favour of fielding Kalam than former Lok Sabha Speaker
P A Sangma, who is AIADMK Chief J Jayalalithaa and BJD head Naveen
Patnaik's choice.
Even JD(U), which wants a consensus for Mr. Mukherjee, may support Mr.
Kalam as he shares a good equation with Bihar Chief Minister Nitish
Kumar.

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My spouse wants a seperation after 14 years

Q- We have been married for 14 yrs. My spouse is a convert. Recently
he left for a trip and came back a changed person. We have four
children and he says that there are no feeling of love, compassion or
attraction left for me.
He is a very kind and gentle person but has changed into a moody,
negative person who has given up on our relationship. I have prayedand
prayed and asked Allah to forgive me for my sins. Does anyone know
anything about nazar or black magic. Does this sound like it?
Thanks
-ruby
One answered :Salamu'alaikum sister,
I am sorry for what you are facing. I'd like to mention that there are
different possibilities:
1. He has seen something, heard something, or somebody has told him
something that made him behave so.
2. He was frustrated with something that happened with him, and
couldn't control his anger. Shaitaanmade use of this and made him
speak ill to you.
3. Someone who is jealousof your relationship looked at you with an
evil eye (what you call Nazar)
4. Someone who is jealousof you did magic on your husband.
I mentioned magic last, because it is always considered last. And
before you make any conclusion, beware, it need not necessarily be
magic. As of now, considerthat it is either of the first two. This is
so that the Shaitaan does not lead you astray. You may not know and do
wrong, if you do not do this.
Now, what has to be done?
First, speak to him politelyand ask him the reason and look at his
behavior. Does he give any valid reason or just ignores it and goes
away/shouts andmoves away? If he gives a reason, you'll have your
answer, insha Allah. Otherwise, it could be an evil eye. Allah's
Messenger Sallallahu 'Alaihi wasallam said (in one of the Saheeh
Ahadeeth) that the evil eye is true . It is possible. Hence, recite
the followingDu'a to him:
اعيذك بكلمات الله التامات من كل شيطانٍ و هآمة ومن كل عينٍ لآمَة
"'U'eezuka bi Kalimaatillahit Taammaati min Kulli Shaitaanin wa
Haammah. Wa min Kulli 'Aynin Laammah"
(I seek refuge for you with Allaah's perfect words from every Shaytaan
(devil) and poisonous creature and every evil eye)
(From Bukhari)
And ask min to read the same du'a, with a little change: instead of
U'eezuka (اعيذك) he should say A'oozu (اعوذ).
And there are other ways in the Qur'aan and the Sunnah (I'll mention
aboutthis below insha Allah).
If it is none of this, then there is a "possibility" thatit be
"magic". But know that magic and black magic are different. If it is
magic, then possibly it is something like that mentioned in Surah al
Baqarah, Aayah 102:
They followed what the Shayatin (devils) gave out (falsely of the
magic)in the lifetime of Sulaiman (Solomon). Sulaiman did not
disbelieve, but the Shayatin (devils) disbelieved, teaching men magic
and such things that came down at Babylon to the two angels, Harut and
Marut, but neither of these two (angels) taught anyone (such things)
till they had said, "We are only for trial, so disbelieve not (by
learning this magic from us)." And from these (angels) people learn
that by which they cause separation between man and his wife, but they
could not thus harm anyone except by Allah's Leave. And they learn
that which harms them and profits them not. And indeed they knew that
the buyers of it (magic) would have no share in the Hereafter. And how
bad indeed was that for which they sold their ownselves, if they but
knew.
Keep reciting Surah al Baqarah, because according to Saheeh Ahadeeth,
Shaitaan runs from a home where Surah al Baqarah is recited.
If you are not able to conclude on this, then make sure that you do
notdirectly conclude it to be magic. Instead, have it confirmed from a
Scholar from the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamaa'ah, who specializes in this or
has knowledge about this.

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I never liked him butwas forced to marry him; is it OK if I divorce him?

Q : Problem is that I have been married for one year.My husband is my
mother's cousin from father side; meaning my uncle but still they got
me married to him. I was engaged to him in childhood against my
parent's will but then my mother agree later on.
I was little when I moved to Europe and then little by little I
started understanding life. I kept telling my parents that I don't
want to get married to my fiance for 4 years; asI didn't like him from
the start.
My father was on my side but my mother wasn't as she wanted me to get
married to my fiance. After4 years, I came to UK where my uncle was
already present. I told my uncle and my parents as well that if I
don't want toget married then why they are forcing me to marry him.
But, no one listened to me even I shouted and cried but to no avail.
Even I told my fiance as well that I don't want to get married to him;
he was in Pakistan and I was in UK. I told him that several years ago.
Everyone was forcing me so much that I had to say"yes". We got married
but after marriage, we used tofight a lot. I spent 1 monthin Pakistan
then I returnedto UK.
After spending 3 months in UK, I realized that I can'tspend my whole
life with him. In future when we have kids, they will suffer too.
That's why I went to Pakistan after 3 months sothat I can get him to
cometo UK asap so that I can break this marriage once he is here
(U.K). But, they refused him visa:(.
After returning to Pakistan, and I didn't wantto have any intimate
relations with him. When he used to touch me, I wanted to push him but
I fear Allah a lot. What do I do? I am tired of fights and have
decided to leave him as he is irresponsible. He loves me but he is two
faced person.
I have grown to hate him a lot after just 3 months ofmarriage. Not
that, I liked him before marriage either but I thought to fulfill my
mother's wish. I wanted to make this marriage work from my heart but
he is very negative, self-centered and thinks lowly of others.
Please help me; is it OK if I divorce and leave him. I can't live with
him under any circumstances otherwise I will die. Pleaseanswer me in
detail as it isvery important issue in mylife.
wasalam and allah hafiz,
shabnam.
A: You should divorce him. Forced marriage is prohibited in Islam. A
forced marriage is considered to be void. Although you consented inthe
end, you were clearly pressured into it. You are not a commodity or a
slave, and no one has the right to make these important life choices
for you without your consent.
Since you have no childrenand you have only been married a short time,
it should be easy to separateyourself from him and obtain a divorce.
By the way, he is not your"uncle" Islamically. You might call him
uncle as a matter of tradition, but in fact he is not a true uncle by
lineage and is not a mahrem. So your marriagewas not illegal on that
count. However, if your marriage was forced then it is invalid. And
Allah knows best.

* We divorced in anger two years ago,can we remarry now?

Salaam brothers/sisters.
I was married to my ex wife from 2008 to 2010. We then got divorced;
we have two children together.
We both never remarried and we have both been thinking about giving it
another go. We still feel the same about each otherand we have two
kids together and we wanted to give it another go for the sake of them
too.
The divorce was done in anger and was said 3 times in one sentence. I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.
What must we both do now in order to remarry again? I am really
stressedand just want my family back. Please help.
Thank you.
W/salaam,
~
One responded :
YOU NEED TO DO ONE MORE NIKAH LIKE THE 1ST ONE -BCOZ YOU DID 3 TALAQ
IN ONE SITTING AND THEN YOU WERE MISGUIDED BY SOME DEVAITED UN
AUTHORISED IGNORANT SELF APPOINTED PERSON WHO FOLLOWS SOME SECT[ALL
SECTS ARE ILLEGAL]BCOZ THEY ARE MADE ON SOME ONE WHIMSAND FANCIES [A
BLIND FOLLOWING WITHOUT EVIDENCE] AND DUE TO THAT HIS VERSION IS
ILLEGAL AND HIS PRACTICE ILLEGAL AND HIS AUTHORITY NUL AND VOID..[I
then went to a divorce specialist who authorized the divorce with two
witnesses and signed divorce paper.]
Then on a single occasion, in a burst of temper, he utters the word
"divorce" three times in a row, "talaq, talaq, talaq!" Such incidents,
which took place in the Prophet's lifetime, still take place even
today. Now the question arises as to how the would-be divorcer should
be treated. Should his three utterances of talaq be treated as only
one, and should he then be asked to extend his decision over a
three-month period? Or should his three utterances of talaq on a
single occasion be equated with the three utterances of talaq made
separately over a three-month period? There is a Hadith recorded by
Imam Abu Dawud and several other traditionists which can give us
guidance in this matter: Rukana ibn Abu Yazid said"talaq" to his wife
three times on a single occasion. Then he was extremely sad at the
step he had taken. The Prophet asked him exactlyhow he had divorced
her. He replied that he had said"talaq" to her three times in a row.
The Prophet thenobserved, "All three count as only one. If you want,
you may revoke it." Fath al-Bari, 9/275
PL NOTE STRONGLY THE 3 TALAQS IN ONE SITTING IS HARAAM AND EVEN IF
PERSON GIVES TALAQ 50 TIMES OR 100 TIMES ALSO IN ONE BREATH IT IS
EQUALTO ONE TALAQ[DIVORCE]
PL SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO THE WORLD THAT ISLAMDOES NOT RECOGNISE
DEVIATED SCHOLARS EXCEPT THE HOLY PROPHETSALAHAUALAHAIWASLALAM- O
Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them for their
waiting-period, *1 and compute the waiting period accurately, *2 and
hold Allah, your Lord, in awe. Do not turn them out of their homes
(during the waiting period) â nor should they go away (from their
homes) *3â unless they have committed a manifestly evil deed. *4 Such
are the bounds set by Allah; and he who transgresses the bounds set by
Allah commits a wrong against himself. You do not know: maybe Allah
will cause something to happen to pave the way (for reconciliation).
*5"If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the
expiry of their waiting-period".
The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other
Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be
Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related
that
The Holy Prophet was infomed that a person hadpronounced three
divorceson his wife in One sitting. HE STOOD UP IN NAGER AND SAID-:'
`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present
among you?"Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased withthem, reported: I
divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of
Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him).
'Umar bin Al-Khattab (mayAllah be pleased with him)asked Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's
Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin
'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she
is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is
again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so
desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before
touching her (without having an intercourse withher), for that is the
period of waiting ('Iddah) which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has
commanded for the divorce of women-
RE MARRIAGE EXAMPLE-
There is a common misconception that a man can say Talaq, Talaq, Talaq
to his wife in a row and it will lead to Talaq. This is totally an
unIslamic practice.

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