Marriage Contract, - * He had anal intercourse with a foreign woman but they have repented. Is itpermissible for them to get married?

We had anal intercourse, but we repented and regretted. We love each
other very much we cannot separate. We want to marry and live a happy
life. Is it permissible for us to get married?
We follow the ibadhi madhab, and it prohibits marriage between a man
and a woman who committed adultry even if they repent. The evidence
for this is that Umar ibn al-khattab separated a man who married a
woman during her 'iddah and said: "they shall never be togeather",
another evidence narrated by Ali, A'esha, and albaraa ben azeb, that
"if a man and awoman who committed adultry got married, their
relationship remains adultry forever". Trust cannot be there between
two who tested each other before marriage. What is your opinion?.
-
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
You should understand that looking for the right opinion on practical
fiqhi matters is something good, and it indicates that a person is
seeking the truth that Allaah has enjoined. Even better than this is
that a Muslim should look for the correct belief that will save him
from the misguided sects which the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) spoke of. He said that there would be seventy-two
sects, "all of which will be in the Fire" meaning that they are
misguided and deserve this warning of Hell.
If you both regret what you did and have repented sincerely, then it
is permissible for you to get married, and there is no reason why you
should not do so.
As for what you say about 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab preventing the one who
married a woman during her 'iddah from ever marrying her, it seems –
if this is a sound report – that this was a punishment (ta'zeer) to
the one who committed a sin, and it was not a confirmation of a shar'i
ruling that this is haraam.
What you have quoted from some of the Sahaabah, that they ruled that a
couple who committed zina and then get married would remain adulterers
forever, may be understood as applying to those who did not repent.
Ibn Hazm (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
It was narrated from Ibn Mas'ood that he said concerning the one who
marries a woman after committing zina with her: They are still
adulterers. Then he narrated that Saalim ibn 'Abd-Allaah ibn 'Umar was
asked about a man who committed zina with a woman then married her. He
said: Ibn Mas'ood was asked about that and he said:"And He it is Who
accepts repentance from His slaves" [al-Shoora 42:25].
Ibn Hazm said:
The two opinions (of Ibn Mas'ood) are in harmony, because he only
allowed marrying that woman after repentance. End quote.
Al-Muhalla(9/63)
And Allaah knows best.

General, - *AS'SALAMU ALAIKUM (WR, WB)* - Friday - - Feb- 16 - -2018 - Jamathul Awwal- - 29 - -1439 - * JUMMA MUBARAK ! * -:-

Speciality of jumma day, Dought & clear, - * Why is Friday singled
out for great importance?
-
I want to know why Friday Prayer is important and Different then other ?.
-
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, chose Friday to be the best of
days before Him, and He singled it out for major events and great
qualities, which are the reason why Muslims are obliged to venerate
this day and take it as one of their Eids or festivals in which Allah
has prescribed rituals that He has not prescribed for other days.
On our website we have previously quoted a great deal of evidence to
support this view, which you can see in the answers to the following
questions: 9211, 12309and 13692
Secondly:
Moreover, Jumu'ah prayer has a particular virtue and great qualities
through the barakah (blessing) of this great day.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Jumu'ah prayer is singled out from among all the other obligatory
prayers for having particular characteristics that are not found in
other prayers, including the fact that it is offered in congregation,
has a minimum number of worshippers required in order for it to be
valid, the iqaamah is a condition of its being valid, one must not be
travelling in order for it to be obligatory, and the recitation is
done out loud.
There is an emphasis on its imortance the like of which is not
mentioned for other prayers except 'Asr prayer. In the fourSunansit is
narrated in the hadeeth of Abu'l-Ja'd ad-Dumari – who was a Companion
– that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon
him) said: "Whoever misses three Jumu'ahs out of heedlessness, Allah
will place a seal on his heart."
End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad, 1/384-385.
The Prophet's Sunnah also singles out Jumu'ah prayer by encouraging
believers to do ghusl for it and to wear perfume (for men only). It is
also strongly encouraged to come early for the prayer and there is a
great deal of reward for walking to the prayer. Concerning these
special characteristics, Sa'eed ibn Mansoor narrated from Na'eem ibn
'Abdullah al-Mujammir that 'Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased
with him) issued instructions that the mosque of Madinah be perfumed
with incense every Friday at midday, as was narrated by Ibn al-Qayyim
inZaad al-Ma'aad, 1/370.
Thirdly:
The main reason for venerating Friday prayer is because of the divine
decree that singled out this prayer and this day for special virtues.
This is one of the manifestations of Allah's Lordship (ruboobiyyah),
as He alone singles out for veneration whatever He Wills of His
creation and whatever times and places He chooses. He is the One Who
does whatever He wills for reasons that He, may He be glorified,
knows.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the only One Who has the
power to create and to choose from among His creation. Allah, may He
be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):"And your Lord
creates whatsoever He wills and chooses" [al-Qasas 28:68]. If you
ponder this creation, you will realize that this choosing and singling
out are proof of His Lordship and Oneness, and of the perfection of
His wisdom, knowledge and might; that He is Allah, besides Whom there
is no other god, and He has no partner who can create as He creates,
or choose as He chooses, or control as He controls. This choice,
control and singling out, the effects of which are evident in this
world, are among the greatest signs of His Lordship and the greatest
testimony to His Oneness, the perfection of His attributes and the
truthfulness of His Messengers.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad, 1/40-43
Al-'Allaamah Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) also stated
that this singling out and choice are indicative of the inherent
virtue of the thing chosen, for which Allah blessed this time. By His
knowledge and wisdom, Allah may grant to a certain place, time or
person that which qualifies it to be chosen by Allah and favoured
above others.
He (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
This concept may not be understood by the one who regards all
individuals, deeds, times and places as equal, and claims that there
is nothing inherent that makes one thing better than another, and that
precedence is given to some things over others for no reason. This
view is invalid for more than forty reasons that I have listed
elsewhere. It is sufficient, in order to understand the falseness of
this view and how corrupt it is, to note that Allah, may He be
glorified and exalted, refuted this false view when He said
(interpretation of the meaning):
"And when there comes to them a sign (from Allah) they say: 'We shall
not believe until we receive the like of that which the Messengers of
Allah had received.' Allah knows best with whom to place His Message"
[al-An'aam 6:124].
"Allah knows best with whom to place His Message" means: not everyone
is qualified or fit to convey His Message; rather the Message has
those who are suited to conveying it and it cannot befit any but these
people; Allah knows better than you who these people are. If all
individuals were equal -- as these people claim -- there could have
been no argument against them in this verse.
Similarly, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Thus We have tried some of them with others, that they might say: 'Is
it these (poor believers) that Allah has favoured from amongst us?'
Does not Allah know best those who are grateful?"
[al-An'aam 6:53].
What is meant is: Allah knows best who will give thanks for His
blessings, so He singles them out for His bounty from among those who
will not be grateful to Him. Not everyone is fit to thank Him or to
receive His blessings and be singled out for this honour. Those
individuals and places and so on that Allah chooses have some inherent
qualities that are not found in other people and places, and it is for
that reason that Allah chose them, gave them precedence because of
those virtues and selected them. This is His creation and His
choice."And your Lord creates whatsoever He wills and chooses"
[al-Qasas 28:68]. Allah does not choose anything and give it
precedence except for a reason that led to it being singled out and
given precedence. Yes, He is the One Who created this reason, as He is
the One Who created it then chose it after creating it.
End quote fromZaad al-Ma'aad, 1/53-54
To sum up, all the characteristics of this great prayer are by the
grace of Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, to His slaves. He
chose it by His decree and singled it out for His bounty and
blessings, thus it attained this great importance in this world and in
the Hereafter.
And Allah knows best.
* Virtues of Surah al-Jumu'ah
-
Could you please tell me the importance of Surah al-Jumu'ah and is it
preferred to be read on the day of Jumu'ah like reading Surah al-Kahf
on the day of Jumu'ah.
-
Praise be to Allah.
There is no particular saheeh (authentic) text which speaks of the
virtues of Surah al-Jumu'ah, rather it was narrated that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite it in the
first rak'ah (unit) of the Jumu'ah prayer. It was narrated from Ibn
'Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) used to recite al-Jumu'ah and
al-Munafiqoon in the Jumu'ah prayer. Narrated by Muslim (879).
It says in al-Saheeh wa'l-Saqeem min Fadail al-Quran al-Kareem by Amal
Sa'di (p.81): There is no saheeh report from the Messenger of Allah
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) about the virtues of Surah
al-Jumu'ah. There are da'eef (weak) and mawdoo' (fabricated) reports
about its virtues, such as, "The one who recites Surah al-Jumu'ah will
be given hasanat (good) in reward equal to the number of those who
come to Jumu'ah and those who do not in the Muslim regions" – narrated
by al-Tha'labi in al-Kashf wa'l-Bayan (9/305), via Abu 'Asmah ibn Abi
Maryam, the well known fabricator and liar. Hence al-Manawi said in
al-Fath al-Samawi: it is mawdoo'. End quote.
But Surah al-Jumu'ah is one of the mufassal surahs (those in the
latter part of the Quran) which the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allah be upon him) said he was favoured with above all other Books and
Prophets. It was narrated from Wathilah ibn al-Asqa' that the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "I have been favoured
with al-Mufassal."
Narrated by Ahmad (4/107); classed as saheeh by al-Albani in Bidayat
al-Sool, p.59. He said: The reviewers of al-Musnad under the
supervision of al-Shaykh Shu'ayb al-Arnaoot said that its isnad (chain
of transmission) is hasan (good).
And Allah knows best.

Marriage Contract, - * Should she agree to be a second wife or be patient?

I am a divorced woman in the 40's. I am from a good family and of a
decent status in life. I have learnt from my previous experiment a
difficult lesson, because it was not a choice based on Islam and
morals, it was based on appearances.
A man proposed to me recently. I think he is moral and religious and
known as righteous, but he is married and his wife is a family friend
of my family. As for social status, he is from a simpler background
than ours. I fear how the society will see this marriage. I also fear
his wife's look to me. All this in the stage of proposal and asking my
brother for my hand, how about if this marriage takes place! I am from
Egypt, and you know how the Egyptian society sees the second wife.
When I pray istikharah I feel comfortable and I feel like telling my
brother to accept. But I become strained when I think of the society
and people wondering why I had to accept who is of simpler social
status than me, and how could I take a man from his wife and children.
He did not propose to me due to greed, it is just his wish to help
Muslim women in difficulties especially if known of being religious.
He is also advising others to do the same thing in order to protect
Muslim women's chastity, and then the whole society's virtuousness. My
brother also witnesses this. He could have easily proposed to who is
younger and more beautiful than me if he wanted.
Will I be sinful if I decline his proposal? What is your opinion
sheikh? Shall I refuse and be patient, so that someone else may
propose to me by the grace of Allah?.
-
Praise be to Allaah.
Undoubtedly the way in which many Muslim societies (including Egyptian
society) view plural marriage is as a betrayal of the first wife, or
as something for which the husband or second wife are to be blamed.
Undoubtedly this is a mistaken view that is contrary to the law of
Allaah, which permits a man to marry up to four wives. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"…then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four …"
[al-Nisa'4:3]
The Muslim cannot object to the rulings of Allaah, or think that there
is any injustice, transgression or error in the rulings of Allaah.
Hence we do not agree with you when you say: "How can I take the
husband from his wife and children?"
You are not taking this husband away; rather he has come and proposed
to you of his own free will.
Moreover he is going to bear the burden of two families and two
households at the same time; he is not going to leave his first wife
and children for your sake, so how can that be taking him away?
As for the opinion of the first wife, this is part of the human nature
which is inherent in most women (jealousy), and she wants to keep her
husband for herself and not share him with anyone. The Mothers of the
Believers (may Allaah be pleased with them) who were the best women of
this ummah, had some problems because of jealousy, but the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forgave them and did not
hold it against them.
You can remedy that with a little wisdom and good attitude. But it is
also essential to put up with some of that which may come from her
because this is the nature of women.
The husband must also be wise in his dealing with such attitudes so
that he will not make the disputes and conflicts worse.
With regard to our advice to you, whether to accept this husband or
wait in the hope that Allaah might provide you with someone else:
The answer is that if you hope that there may come someone who is
better than him, then there is no reason why you should not refuse
him, but if you are afraid – as you are older – and because of your
situation that there will not be anyone else who is better than him,
or even like him, then we think – and Allaah knows best – that you
should agree to this marriage.
For a woman to agree to be a second wife and to put up with some
problems from the first wife or the society around her, is much easier
than staying without a husband.
We ask Allaah to make good easy for you wherever it is.
And Allaah knows best.

Comedy

"மன்னர் ஏன் புலவரை நையப் புடைக்கிறார்?"
:
" கொற்றவா,
:
புறமுதுகிட்டு ஓடிவர கற்றவான்னு பாட்டு எழுதி வந்துட்டாராம்!"