Depression is a Loaded Gun

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Depression is a Loaded Gun
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"I cannot keep doing the things I always have done. I can’t let depression define me, I can’t fight it, I can’t pretend it away. I have choose to do something else."

Invalid Marriages, - * They committed zina then they got married, and they are asking whether the marriage is valid

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Two people got married in accordance with sharee’ah and as enjoined by Allaah, but before marriage they used to get together and be intimate with one another like man and wife. What is the ruling on their marriage; is it valid or invalid? What is the expiation for what they used to do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Zina (fornication, adultery) is a serious crime and a major sin which takes away the quality of faith from a person, and exposes him to punishment and humiliation unless he repents. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra’ 17:32]
and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No adulterer is a believer at the time when he is committing adultery” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (2475) and Muslim (57).
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man commits zina, faith comes out of him and hovers over him like a cloud, then when he stops, faith returns to him.” Narrated by Abu Dawood (4960) and al-Tirmidhi (2625); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) has told us of the punishment that those who commit zina will receive in their graves before the Hour begins, and that they will be punished with fire. Narrated by al-Bukhaari (1320).
Because of the abhorrent nature of this crime, Allaah has decreed that the punishment for it should be stoning to death if the person is married and flogging if he was not married.
The one who is faced with any such thing should hasten to repent to Allaah and do a lot of good deeds, in the hope that Allaah will forgive him. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ___ and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Furqaan 25:68-70]
“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his death)”
[Ta-Ha 20:82]
They must also conceal themselves with the concealment of Allaah, and not tell anyone about that, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Avoid these filthy things that Allaah has forbidden. Whoever has done any of them, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted.” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inal-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 663.
Secondly:
It is not permissible for a man or woman who has committed zina to get married until after he or she has repented, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer — fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)”
[al-Noor 24:3]
If they had both repented to Allaah before getting married, and they regretted the haraam things that they had done, then their marriage is valid. But if they did the marriage contract before they repented, then the marriage is not valid and they have to repent to Allaah and regret what they have done, and resolve not to do such a thing again, then they should make a new marriage contract.
And Allaah knows best.

How 2 manage yourself, - The reason you are very sensitive to criticism

Extreme sensitivity to criticism
Are you extremely sensitive to criticism?
Do you feel really bad whenever someone criticizes you?
Extreme sensitivity to criticism is certainly a problem that could
make your life intolerable. After all if every single critical comment
can change your mood and make you feel downfor a day or two then you
will always be feeling down as long as you are meeting people.
Whileextreme sensitively to criticismis an annoying problem still it
can be dealt with in a very short period of time if you understood few
key concepts about emotional sensitivity. In this article i will tell
you how to get rid of your sensitivity to criticism.
Understanding extreme sensitivity to criticism
In my previous article dealing with criticismi said that criticism
only hurts when it touches an already existing wound.
We become extremely sensitive to criticism when we already have a
certain wound that we remember whenever someone criticizes us.
For example if you are too concerned because you are not successfulor
even because you consider yourself a failure then most likely you will
be extremely sensitive to any critical comment that questions your
competence.
Depending on the number of the wounds you have you might be able to
tolerate criticism in certain areas while being extremely sensitive to
it in other areas.
If you get high grades each year but have no friendsthen you will
tolerate criticism when it comes to questioning your intelligence or
dedication but as soon as someone criticizes your social skills you
will feel really bad.
Dealing with extreme sensitivity to criticism
There is only one way to get rid of your extreme sensitivity to
criticism which is to heal your wounds completely.
Stop running from your fearsand write down the wounds that are making
you sensitive to criticism. As soon as you sort them out write an
ambitious plan that helps you heal all of those woundsone by one.
If you started working on your plan with some dedication you will
discover that your extreme sensitivity to criticism is becoming lower.
As you progress through the plan this sensitivity will keep going
lower and lower until it will disappear completely.
Our Article is not a complicated medical website nor a boring online
encyclopedia but rather a place where you will find simple, to the
point and effective information that is backed by psychology and
presented in a simple way that you can understand and apply.

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