Da'eef (weak) hadeeths, Dought & clear, - * The hadeeth, “If you criticize people they will criticize you”

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Please tell us about the level of soundness of the hadeeth which is narrated from Abu’l-Darda’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “If you criticize people they will criticize you, and if you leave them alone they will leave you alone” and where we can find it. I was told that it is in Saheeh al-Bukhaari but I cannot find it.
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Praise be to Allaah.
The hadeeth of Abu’l-Darda’ mentioned here is not inSaheeh al-Bukhaari.
There are several versions of it, such as: “If you keep away from people they will keep away from you, and if you flee from them they will catch up with you, and if you leave them alone they will not leave you alone.” He said: What should I do? He said: “Give up your honour (i.e., do not retaliate if it is impuged), until the Day of your utmost need (the Day of Resurrection, when you can settle the score).” This is different from the version mentioned in the question.
This was narrated by Ibn ‘Asaakir inTaareekh Dimashq(47/178, 179) via Faraj ibn Faddaalah from Luqmaan ibn ‘Aamir from Abu’l-Darda’.
Its isnaad is da’eef because Faraj ibn Faddaalah is da’eef (weak) and the narration of Luqmaan ibn ‘Aamir from Abu’l-Darda’ is munqati’ (interrupted).
See:Tahdheeb al-Tahdheeb(8/456) andal-Taqreeb(2/107).
Moreover there was some confusion about the isnaad because the same words with the same isnaad were narrated from Abu’l-Darda’, stopping with him, and it was narrated as being from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
It was narrated by Ibn ‘Asaakir inTareekh Dimashq(47/178).
Then Ibn ‘Asaakir narrated it (47/179) via Anas ibn ‘Iyaad from Yahya ibn Sa’eed who said: Abu’l-Darda’ said … a mawqoof report (i.e., it stops with Abu’l-Darda’ and does not go back to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)).
And its isnaad is munqati’ (interrupted). Ibn al-Madeeni said of Yahya ibn Sa’eed al-Ansaari: I do not know whether he heard it from any Sahaabah other than Anas.
Al-Tahdheebby Ibn Asaakir (11/223).
It was also narrated from the hadeeth of Abu Umaamah (may Allaah be pleased with him).
And it was narrated by al-Tabaraani inal-Mu’jam al-Kabeer(8/126) no. 7575 and by Abu ‘Amr al-Daani inal-Sunan al-Waaridah fi’l-Fitan(219) and by Ibn ‘Asaakir inTareekh Dimashq(24/17).
Its isnaad is da’eef; it includes Baqiyah ibn al-Waleed who is mudallis, and Sadaqah ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Sameen, who is da’eef.
See:Majma’ al-Zawaa’idby al-Haythami (7/285).
It was also narrated by al-Daani and Ibn ‘Asaakir with the wording: “If you speak to them they will speak to you.” Ibn al-Atheer said: i.e., if you say something to them they will say something to you. And in another narration it says; “if you criticize them they will criticize you.”
Al-Nihaayah(5/92).
But this report was proven to be the words of Abu Muslim al-Khawlaani, who said: The people were like leaves of a tree with no thorn among them, but today they are thorns with no leaves. If you revile them they will revile you and if you criticize them they will criticize you, and if you leave them alone they will leave you alone.”
Narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah inal-Musannaf(7/206); Ibn Abi ‘Aasim inal-Zuhd(1/367); Abu Nu’aym inal-Hilyah(2/123) and Ibn ‘Asaakir inTareekh Dimashq(27/228).

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

ஜெயலலிதா மறைவு: மத்திய அரசு ஒருநாள் துக்கம் அனுசரிப்பு Updated: December 6, 2016 08:46 IST ராஜாஜி அரங்கத்தில் ஜெயலலிதா உடலுக்கு பொதுமக்கள் அஞ்சலி. | படம்: ம.பிரபு தமிழகத் தலைவர் ஜெயலலிதாவின் மறைவையொட்டி, மத்திய அரசு இன்று (செவ்வாய்க்கிழமை) ஒருநாள் தேச அளவில் துக்கம் அனுசரிப்பதாக அறிவித்துள்ளது. உடல்நலக் குறைவு காரணமாக கடந்த 75 நாட்களாக அப்போலோ மருத்துவமனையில்சிகிச்சை பெற்று வந்த ஜெயலலிதாவின் உயிர் திங்கட்கிழமை இரவு 11.30 மணிக்கு பிரிந்தது. அவரது உடலுக்கு பொதுமக்கள், தலைவர்கள் என பல தரப்பினரும் அஞ்சலி செலுத்தி வருகின்றன. இந்நிலையில், மத்திய அரசு இன்று ஒருநாள் துக்கம் அனுசரிப்பதாக அறிவித்துள்ளது.அதன்படி, இன்று ஒருநாள் தேசியக் கொடி அரைக்கம்பத்தில்பறக்கவிடப்படுகிறது. அரசு நிகழ்ச்சிகள் எதுவும் நடக்காது.

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தமிழகத் தலைவர் ஜெயலலிதாவின் மறைவையொட்டி, மத்திய அரசு இன்று (செவ்வாய்க்கிழமை) ஒருநாள் தேச அளவில் துக்கம் அனுசரிப்பதாக அறிவித்துள்ளது.
உடல்நலக் குறைவு காரணமாக கடந்த 75 நாட்களாக அப்போலோ மருத்துவமனையில்சிகிச்சை பெற்று வந்த ஜெயலலிதாவின் உயிர் திங்கட்கிழமை இரவு 11.30 மணிக்கு பிரிந்தது. அவரது உடலுக்கு பொதுமக்கள், தலைவர்கள் என பல தரப்பினரும் அஞ்சலி செலுத்தி வருகின்றன.
இந்நிலையில், மத்திய அரசு இன்று ஒருநாள் துக்கம் அனுசரிப்பதாக அறிவித்துள்ளது.அதன்படி, இன்று ஒருநாள் தேசியக் கொடி அரைக்கம்பத்தில்பறக்கவிடப்படுகிறது. அரசு நிகழ்ச்சிகள் எதுவும் நடக்காது.

Engagment, Dought & clear, - * She refused his proposal and he is in love with her – what should he do?

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A young woman refused my proposal of marriage for no reason, but I still want to marry her. I prayed istikhaarah a number of times but I felt certain in my heart that she would come back to me, but she did not. What should I do?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
So long as you have prayed istikhaarah and asked Allaah for guidance, and it has not been made easy for you to marry this girl, then you should realize that this is what is best for you and for her right now. It may be that marrying her would lead to bad consequences, which Allaah has averted from you; and it may be that marrying someone else may be better for you. Allaah grants provision to whom He wills and decrees, and He knows best what is in the best interests of His slave and will bring him happiness. All the slave has to do is entrust his affairs to Him and accept His choice, and believe in His will and decree and hope for that which is with Him, for He is more merciful towards him than he is to himself, may He be glorified and exalted.
Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: A person may hope for some matter of trade or position of authority, until he is close to attaining it, then Allaah looks at him and says to His angels: ‘Divert it from him, for if he attains it I will send him to Hell.’ So Allaah diverts it from him and he keeps regarding that as something bad, saying ‘So and so beat me to it, So and so outwitted me,’ when in fact it is a blessing from Allaah. Quoted by Ibn Rajab inJaami’ al-‘Uloom wa’l-Hukam(2/470).
As for your feelings that this girl will be yours, this is possible; it may happen or it may not. You do not know what is best for you, so you should not feel attached to anything. Rather you should ask Allaah to make good easy for you wherever it is, and to divert evil from you wherever it is. Hasten to look for a wife who is of good character or religiously committed, and do not delay marriage in the hope of attaining this possibility, for that is the way of those who are weak in faith and do not put their trust fully in Allaah; one of them may set his heart on something and never be able to forget it, whilst claiming that he has prayed istikhaarah and asked Allaah for guidance, and that he accepts His decree, where in fact he will only be pleased with his whims and desires and what his heart longs for.
To conclude, you should do the following:
1- Ask Allaah to make it easy for you to marry a righteous woman who will help you in this world and in the Hereafter.
2- Strive to look for this righteous woman.
3- Forget about this girl, and stop thinking about her altogether, and believe that goodness is in whatever Allaah decrees for you.
4- Do not feel upset because you were rejected for no reason; there may be reasons known only to her, that you know nothing about.
We ask Allaah to help us and you to do what which He loves and is pleased with.
And Allaah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

Engagment, Dought & clear, - * Should she agree to marry a man who lives in a kaafir country?

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I am a 23 year old woman. Many people from the country in which I live have proposed marriage to me, but they were not suitable. Now I have received a proposal from a man who is from my country but he has nationality of a European country and he lives in Sweden. But the young man is religiously committed and of good character, and his family is respectable. He wants a wife who will help him with da’wah. What do you advise me to do? Should I accept or refuse?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If the one who has proposed marriage is religiously committed and of good character, and his living in Sweden is permissible according to sharee’ah, or he wants to live in your country, then pray to Allaah for guidance (istikhaarah) and accept his proposal, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1804) from Abu Hurayrah; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.
If this young man is living there in order to call people to Allaah and he wants a wife who will help him in that, then this is the best of deeds. This is the mission of the Prophets (peace be upon them). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And who is better in speech than he who [says: ‘My Lord is Allaah (believes in His Oneness),’ and then stands firm (acts upon His Order), and] invites (men) to Allaah’s (Islamic Monotheism), and does righteous deeds, and says: ‘I am one of the Muslims’”
[Fussilat 41:33]
We ask Allaah to help you to do all that is good.
And Allaah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI