Da'eef (weak) hadeeths, Dought & clear, - * Fabricated Report On Virtue of Pregnancy, Giving Birth and Breastfeeding

I recently came across some ahadeeth (narrations) that I had never
heard before. The subjects which they are talking about are very
important to me, so I would I appreciate it if you could kindly tell
me their status (if they are authentic). The ahadeeth are listed
below, Jazak Allah khair for your help:
1. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said;
"Homemaking (Allah-willing) raises the station of a woman to the level
of those who make Jihad " (Kanz)
2. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said:
"The birds in flight, the fish in the rivers, the angels in heaven and
the animals in the jungles seek repentance for the woman who is
obedient and submits to her husband."
3. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said: "O
women, the pious among you will enter Paradise before pious men. When
the husbands will enter Paradise, these women will be presented to
their husbands after being bathed and perfumed. These women will be on
red and yellow coloured conveyances accompanied by children (as
beautiful) as scattered pearls."
4. Addressing Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her), the nurse of
his son Ibrahim (may Allah be pleased with him), the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, "Does it not please any one
of you that if she conceives by her husband and he is satisfied with
her that she receives the reward of fasting and vigil for Allah's
sake. And none of the dwellers of Heaven or Earth know about the
coolness of her eyes (a unique repose) she will get for the labor
pains she suffered. When she delivers, not a mouthful of milk flows
from her and not an instance of the child's suck, but that she
receives for every suck and mouthful, the reward of a good deed. If
she is kept awake by her child during the night she receives the
reward of freeing seventy slaves for the sake of Allah." The Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) then said: "O Salamah do
you know which women are being referred to? Those who despite piety
and enjoying a respectable position, obey their husbands and do not
belittle them."
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Praise be to Allah.
This hadeeth was narrated by Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him):
Salamah – the nurse of Ibraheem, the son of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) – said: O Messenger of Allah, you give
glad tidings of all good to the men and you do not give glad tidings
to women. He said: "Have your friends put you up to asking this?" She
said: Yes, they told me (to ask). He said: "Doesn't it please one of
you that if she is pregnant from her husband and he was pleased with
her, she will have a reward like that of one who fasts and prays qiyam
(night prayers) for the sake of Allah. When her labour starts, neither
the people of heaven nor the people of earth know what is hidden for
her of delight, and when she gives birth, not one drop of her milk
comes out and (her infant) does not suck once, but for each drop and
each suck she will have one hasanah (good deed), and if he keeps her
awake at night she will have a reward like that of freeing seventy
slaves for the sake of Allah? O Salamah, do you know who I mean by
this? It is the chaste and righteous women who are obedient to their
husbands, those who are not ungrateful for kind treatment."
Narrated by al-Tabarani in al-Mu'jam al-Awsat (7/20); Abu Na'eem in
Mu'jam al-Sahabah (no. 7049); Ibn 'Asakir in Tareekh Dimashq (43/347);
Ibn al-Jawzi in al-Mawdoo'at (2/274) and others, via Hisham ibn
'Ammar; Abu 'Ammar ibn Nusayr told me, from 'Amr ibn Sa'eed
al-Khawlani, from Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him).
Then al-Tabarani said: This hadeeth was not narrated from the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) except via this isnad
(chain of transmission) in which Hisham ibn 'Ammar is the only one who
narrated it. End quote.
This is a fabricated and false hadeeth. Ibn Hibban ruled it to be
fabricated (mawdoo') in al-Majrooheen (2/34), as did Ibn al-Jawzi in
al-Mawdoo'aat (Bab Thawab al-Mar'ah idha hamalat wa wada'at, 2/273).
Al-Shaykh al-Albani (may Allah have mercy on him) said concerning it:
A fabricated hadeeth with clear signs of being fabricated. The problem
with the hadeeth is al-Khawlani. Al-Dhahabi said: He narrated
fabricated reports. Then he quoted this hadeeth. It was narrated by
Ibn al-Jawzi in al-Mawdoo'at (2/274) from the report of al-Tabarani in
al-Awsat, and he said: Ibn Hibban said: 'Amr ibn Sa'eed who narrated
this fabricated hadeeth from Anas (may Allah be pleased with him): he
should not be quoted except by way of giving an example of a
fabricated hadeeth. Al-Suyooti agreed with him in al-La-ali' (2/175).
It was quoted via al-Khawlani by Ibn Mandah in al-Ma'rifah (2/329/2)
and also by al-Hasan ibn Sufyan in his Musnad, and also in al-Fayd.
End quote.
Al-Silsilah al-Da'eefah (no. 2055).
Anyone who wants to study the Prophet's (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) hadeeth concerning the virtue of a woman obeying her
husband and looking after him should refer to the book by al-Imam
al-Mundhiri entitled al-Targheeb wa'l-Tarheeb. In part three (p.31) he
has a chapter entitled Targheeb al-Zawj fi'l-Wafa' bi Haqq Zawjatihi
wa Husn 'Ashratiha, wa'l-Mar'ah bi Haqq Zawjiha wa Ta'atihi wa
Tarheebuha min Isqatihi wa Mukhalafatihi (Encouraging the husband to
fulfil his wife's rights and treat her kindly, and (encouraging) the
wife to fulfil her husband's rights and obey him, and warning her
against neglecting his rights and disobeying him).
In this chapter he compiled all the haadeeths that have to do with
this topic, most of which are saheeh (authentic), but some of them are
da'eef (weak). The one who wants to read only the reports which the
scholars classed as saheeh may read the book called Saheeh al-Targheeb
wa'l-Tarheeb by al-Shaykh al-Albani (2/193), and read the same chapter
from which the da'eef haadeeths have been excluded.
And Allah knows best.

Da'eef (weak) hadeeths, Dought & clear, - * Fabricated Report On Virtue of Pregnancy, Giving Birth and Breastfeeding

Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * Her fiancé does not pray and deals with riba. Should she go ahead with the wedding?

I have become engaged to a young man who is of good character as far
as I know, and he told me that he never misses prayers. But after we
got engaged I found out that he does miss some prayers and fasts, and
that he puts his money in a bank with riba (interest). But he tells me
that he chose me to help him get rid of his bad deeds and sins,
because he saw that I am religiously committed and I dress properly.
Now I am wondering how I can help him with his religious commitment,
and whether there will be any sin on me if I marry this person because
I know that the one who does not pray is a kaafir. I thought of
leaving him but the most hated of permissible things in the sight of
Allaah is divorce. Now I have been engaged for a year and I have not
been able to change anything in him, and I cannot leave him, and I do
not think that I can live with anyone else. His is a good person but I
do not know what to do. Please help me, may Allaah reward you with
good.
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Praise be to Allaah.
The one who does not pray at all is a kaafir as you mention, whether
he does not pray because he denies that prayer is obligatory or
because he is lazy. This is according to the more correct of the two
scholarly opinions. Some of the scholars even said that one who delays
an obligatory prayer until its time is over is a kaafir.
It says inFataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa'imah(6/30) concerning the case of a
woman who delays the prayers until their time is over and encourages
her grown-up and small daughters to do likewise:
"If her situation is as described, then she is an apostate who is
corrupting her daughters and the daughters of her husband. She should
be asked to repent, and if she repents and reforms, then praise be to
Allaah. But if she persists in that, then her case should be referred
to the ruler to separate her from her husband, and the hadd punishment
should be carried out on her, namely execution, because of the hadeeth
of Ibn 'Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said that the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever
changes his religion, kill him." This is if she delays the prayers
until their time is over, such as delaying 'Asr until the sun goes
down, or delaying Fajr until the sun rises, because delaying them
until the time is over with no legitimate shar'i excuse comes under
the same ruling as not praying."
Based on this, it is not permissible for you to marry this young man
no matter how nice his character. What good character can be left
after abandoning prayer and dealing in riba?!
So long as he has not repented from that and the signs of
righteousness have not appeared in him, then you should reject his
proposal of marriage. If the marriage contract has already been done
then you should tell him that the contract is not valid because he
does not pray and it is not permissible for a Muslim woman to marry a
kaafir. But if he repents and prays regularly on time, then you must
make a new marriage contract with him, because the first contract was
not valid.
Do not be deceived by his words and promises. If he does not keep his
word during the engagement period, then do not expect him to keep his
word after that.
Your saying that you cannot leave him is a trick of the Shaytaan.
Rather you can do that, by putting your trust in Allaah and seeking
what is with Him, and because of your fear of falling into that which
is haraam. It is not right for a kaafir to be the husband of a Muslim
woman under any circumstances.
It seems from your question that the marriage contract has been done,
because you say that the most hated of permissible things in the sight
of Allaah is divorce, but at the end of your question you mention
engagement. If the marriage contract has not yet been done, then we
would remind you that the fiancé is a non-mahram for his fiancée and
it is not permissible for him to be alone with her or to see any part
of her, or for her to speak to him in an alluring voice or to speak to
him needlessly. All that is permissible at the time of engagement is
for him to see of her that which will encourage him to marry her,
without being alone with her.
The best advice we can give you is to fear Allaah in private and in
public, and to pray to Allaah to bless you with a good and righteous
husband.
And Allaah knows best.

Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * How can a man know if a woman will be a loving and fertile wife before marriage?

It says in the hadeeth: "Marry women who are loving and fertile…" but
how can a man know if a woman is loving and fertile before marriage?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
It was narrated that Ma'qil ibn Yasaar said: A man came to the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and
said: "O Messenger of Allaah, I have found a woman who is from a good
family and is beautiful, but she does not bear children; should I
marry her?" He told him not to. Then he came to him a second time and
said something similar and he told him not to marry her. Then he came
to him a third time and said something similar and he (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Marry the one who is loving
and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers."
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2050; al-Nasaa'i, 3227; classed as saheeh by
Shaykh al-Albaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) inAdaab al-Zafaaf, p.
132.
There are two ways of knowing whether a woman will be fertile:
1 – By looking at her mother and sisters
2 – If she has been married before; that will be known from her
previous marriage.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeem Abaadi said in'Awn al-Ma'bood(6/33): Marry the
one who is loving, means, the one who loves her husband; and the one
who is fertile, is the one who bears a lot of children.
It may be understood from this that if the one who is fertile is not
loving, it is not recommended to marry her, and if the one who is
loving is not fertile, then the purpose of marriage, which is to
increase the numbers of the ummah by bearing many children, will not
be achieved. These two qualities may be known in the case of virgins
from their relatives, because relatives are usually similar,
physically and in attitude, to one another.
And Allaah knows best.