Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives, Dought & clear, - * Her co-wife threatens her, is hostile towards her and does not greet her with salaam

What to do when you are married to the same brother and the first wife
threatens you and curses at you and will only give salaams when around
other people to save face but doesn't speak when no one else is
around. Ive been married for 9years to him her longer.
Praise be to Allaah.
She has to bear it with patience as much as possible, and not repay
evil with evil. She should respond to her co-wife's provocations by
keeping silent and keeping calm. If she can write her a letter
expressing her views, this is good. Then after that she will not be
responsible for what she (her co-wife) does, because she will have
done what she is obliged to do.
Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh
Adhere to the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):
"and when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back
with mild words of gentleness"[al-Furqaan 25:63]
"Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the
faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse
those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there
was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend"[Fussilat
41:34]
Know that there is no better way of dealing with her than fearing
Allaah concerning her when disobeys Allaah with regard to you..
And Allaah is the Guide to the straight path.

Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives, Dought & clear, - * There is no hadeeth which says thata wife’s permission is required before taking another wife

Is there a hadith that relates to a husband needing the permission of
present wife to marry 2nd wife?
Praise be to Allaah.
There is no hadeeth which states that, and it is not conditional for
the husband to have his wife's permission to take another wife. But it
is in everyone's interests for him to try to get her consent, because
this will help to reduce problems in the marriage.
Shaykh Sa'd al-Humayd

Imp of Islamic Months, - * Rabi al-Awwal

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Rabi al-Awwal is the third month of Islamic Lunar Calendar and comes after Safar al-Muzaffar. Azadari (mourning)remains continue till the 8th of this month. The month of Rabi al-Awwal (the First Spring Season) of Islamic Lunar Calendar is well known in the entire Muslim world as Shahr al-Mawhid (the Month of Birth) of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). The precise date of his birth is disputed among the historians, but Ayatullah Ruhullah Musawi al-Khomeini (ra), the founder of the Islamic revolution had declared the week between 9th and 17th Rabi al-Awwal as "Usboo al-Wahda" meaning "the week of unity amongst Muslims." Muslims all over the world are urged to get together and celebrate (Eid-E-Milad un Nabi) the birth of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) for the whole week. Sunnis and Shias are two arms (Bazoo) of the Islam. Ayatullah Ruhullah Musawi al-Khomeini (ra)
Rabi al-Awwal is an exceptional month in the Islamic Calendar and it held great significance in the life of beloved Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). As we all know Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was born in this month. He began his journey of Hijrahduring this month and built the first Mosque of Islam, Masjid Quba in this month. The first Jummah was established in this month.
Hence Rabi al-Awwal is the month of birth celebration of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). The birth of the best of Allah's (SWT) creation and the last to be sent with the divine message for the guidance of humanity on a whole is, without doubt, a day to take as one of thanks and reverence to Allah (SWT). Unlike the ways followers of other faiths commemorate the births of their guiding prophet, Muslim celebration of Eid-E-Milad un Nabi is one in which we gather to discuss the bounty and favour which Allah (SWT) has blessed us with by guiding us to the path of Islam and the teachings of the final Messenger of Allah (pbuh). We indulge in Fikr (thought) and Dhikr (remembrance) and what it means to be a follower of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).
Eid-E-Milad un Nabi is celebrated by Muslims with great devotion and reverence throughout the world. But often it has been seen that devotees do not reflect on the message of the person whom they so venerate. It just becomes a tradition rather than occasion for deep reflection. Muslims also refer to the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) as Mohsin-e-Insaniat i.e. the benefactor of humanity but hardly care to know in what respect he became benefactor? So, we can call him a liberator of humanity only if we follow his teachings in our personal lives.
Balaghal-ula bi-kamaali-hi (He attained exaltation by his perfection)
Kashafad-duja bi-jamaali-hi (He dispelled darkness by his beauty)
Hasunat jamee'u khisaali-hi (Beauteous are all his qualities)
Sallu alai-hi wa aalihi (Benediction be on him and on his family)

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- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M. MD, IRI (Managing Director, Islamic Research Institution)

Da'eef (weak) hadeeths, Dought & clear, - * Accumulate Voluntary Fasts and Make Them up in Sha‘ban?

How sound is the following hadeeth (narration): "The Messenger of
Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to fast three
days every month, and sometimes he would delay that until a year's
fasts accumulated and he would fast Sha'ban?"
Praise be to Allah
This hadeeth was narrated from the Mother of the Believers, 'Aishah
(may Allah be pleased with her) who said:
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used
to fast three days every month, and sometimes he would delay that
until a year's fasts accumulated and sometimes he would delay it until
he fasted Sha'ban.
This was narrated by at-Tabarani in al-Mu'jam al-Awsat, 2/320. He
said: Ahmad told us: 'Ali ibn Harb al-Jandeesaboori told me: Sulayman
ibn Abi Hawthah told us: 'Amr ibn Abi Qays told us: from Muhammad ibn
'Abd ar-Rahman ibn Abi Layla, from his brother 'Eesa, from his father
'Abd ar-Rahman, from 'Aishah (may Allah be pleased with her) who said.
Then he quoted it, then he said: This hadeeth was not narrated from
'Abd ar-Rahman ibn Abi Layla except via this isnad (chain of
narrators), and 'Amr is the only one who narrated it. End quote.
This is a da'eef (weak) isnad because of Muhammad ibn 'Abd ar-Rahman
ibn Abi Layla – the famous faqeeh (jurist) – of whom Imam Ahmad said:
He had a poor memory and his narration of hadeeth was inconsistent.
Shu'bah said: I have never seen anyone with a poorer memory than Ibn
Abi Layla. 'Ali ibn al-Madeeni said: He had a poor memory and his
hadeeth is weak. Hence the scholars classed this hadeeth of his as
da'eef.
Al-Haythami (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Its isnad includes Muhammad ibn Abi Layla and there are some
reservations concerning him. End quote.
Majma' az-Zawaid, 3/195
Al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Ibn Abi Layla is da'eef. The hadeeth of the door and the one that
follows it are indicative of the weakness of what he narrated. End
quote.
Fath al-Bari, 4/252
Ash-Shawkani (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Its isnad includes Ibn Abi Layla, who is da'eef. End quote.
Nayl al-Awtar, 4/332
The scholars differed concerning the reason why the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) fasted most of Sha'ban and there are
many opinions, including the one mentioned above, but the evidence for
it is not sound. Perhaps the first one who narrated it was Ibn Battal
in his commentary on Saheeh al-Bukhari (4/115). He also mentioned
other opinions that were narrated by al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah
have mercy on him) and added to them, then he said:
More appropriate than this is what is mentioned in a hadeeth that is
sounder than what has been mentioned above. It was narrated by
an-Nasai and Abu Dawood, and classed as saheeh (authentic) by Ibn
Khuzaymah, from Usamah ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him) who
said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, I have not seen you fasting in any
month more than you do in Sha'ban. He said: "That is a month that
people are heedless of, between Rajab and Ramadan, but it is a month
in which deeds are taken up to the Lord of the Worlds, and I like my
deeds to be taken up when I am fasting."
End quote from Fath al-Bari, 4/215
And Allah knows best.