Kind Treatment of Spouses, - Dought & clear, - " Her husband hits her and makes her bleed; should she call the police to protect her?

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I have a husband who sometimes is very violent towards me and sometimes really hurt me and made me bleed, am i allowed to call police when he get violent with me?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The husband has to treat his wife kindly, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“and live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of good”
[al-Nisa’ 4:19].
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “I enjoin good treatment of women.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3331) and Muslim (1468).
And he said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.”
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Maajah (1977); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.
It is not permissible for him to hit his wife in a way that causes her to bleed or hurts her. This is sinful aggression and enmity, because the basic principle is that the Muslim’s blood, honour, wealth and skin are sacred and protected, and it is not permissible to strike him except in cases where the Lawgiver has allowed striking that is not severe and does not cause harm, if there is the fear of wilful defiance (nushooz) on the part of the wife, and exhorting and shunning have not been to any avail.
Al-Bukhaari narrated from Abu Bakrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) addressed the people and said: “Do you know what day this is?” They said: Allah and His messenger know best. He said: “Is it not the Day of Sacrifice?” We said: Yes indeed, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “What land is this? Is it not the sacred land?” We said: Yes indeed, O Messenger of Allah. He said: “Your blood, your wealth, your honour and your skin are sacred to you, as sacred as this day of yours, in this month of yours, in this land of yours. Have I not conveyed (the message)? We said: Yes. He said: “O Allah, bear witness.”
Secondly:
If the husband continues to beat his wife in the manner mentioned, it is permissible for her to ask for a divorce so as to relieve herself of the harm this is befalling her, and it is permissible for her to tell the police so that they can protect her against her husband's aggression by making him promise not to beat her and threatening him with imprisonment if he does that. But because the laws in the country where you are living may dictate punishments that are not permissible, such as forbidding the husband to enter his house or come near it, or ruling that the house belongs to the wife, or detaining the husband for a period that is not appropriate to his offence, we do not suggest that you should tell the police at first. Rather you should refer your case to an Islamic organisation such as al-Muntada al-Islami in London. Perhaps Allah will bring about reconciliation at their hands and your referring to them may bring about some good solution, or they may offer you some beneficial advice on how to deal with the police and the likely consequences of that.
If the husband continues like this and you do not want a divorce, then there is nothing wrong with telling the police whilst avoiding any unjust punishment. If it so happens that a verdict is issued in your favour that is not correct, such as barring him from entering the house, it is not permissible for you to act upon this verdict because the ruling of a judge – even if he is Muslim – does not make permissible something that is haraam, and does not make forbidden something that is halaal.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to guide your husband and set his affairs straight, and to guide you in your affairs.
And Allah knows best.

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Manners of Greeting with Salaam, Dought & clear, - * Ruling on shaking hands with the opposite sex

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Is it allowable for a muslim woman to greet a muslim man by shaking hands?
Praise be to Allaah.
For a man to shake hands with a non-mahram woman (one to whom he is not related) is haraam and is not permitted at all. Among the evidence for this is the hadeeth of Ma’qal ibn Yassaar (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” (Reported by al-Tabaraani; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami’, 5045).
There is no doubt that for a man to touch a non-mahram woman is one of the causes offitnah(turmoil, temptation), provocation of desire and committing haraam deeds. No one should say that their intention is sound or their heart is clean, because the one who was the purest of heart and the most chaste of all, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched a non-mahram woman, even when acceptingbay’ah(oath of allegiance) from women. He did not hold their hands when accepting theirbay’ah, as he did with men; theirbay’ahwas by words only, as was reported by his wife ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her). She said that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would test the believing women who emigrated to him with the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):“O Prophet! When believeing women come to you to give you the bay’ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse, that they will not kill their children, that they will not utter slander, intentionally forging falsehood (i.e., by making illegal children belong to their husbands), and that thye will not disobey you in any ma’ruf (Islamic monotheism and all that which Islam ordains), then accept their bay’ah and ask Allaah to forgive them. Verily Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Mumtahinah 60:12]‘Aa’ishah said: “So whoever of the believing women agreed to these conditions, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would say to her: ‘I have accepted yourbay’ahby words.’ By Allaah, his hand never touched the hand of any woman when accepting theirbay’ah; he accepted theirbay’ahby saying ‘I have accepted yourbay’ahon this basis.’”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4512; according to another report: he accepted theirbay’ahby words… the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman except a woman he owned . Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6674).
Some Muslims feel too embarrassed to refuse when a woman offers her hand to them. In addition to mixing with women, some of them claim that they are forced to shake hands with fellow-students and teachers in schools and universities, or with colleagues in the workplace, or in business meetings and so on, but this is not an acceptable excuse. The Muslim should overcome his own feelings and the promptings of the Shaytaan, and be strong in his faith, because Allaah is not ashamed of the truth. The Muslim could apologize politely and explain that the reason he does not want to shake hands is not to offend or hurt anybody’s feelings, but it is because he is following the teachings of his religion. In most cases this will earn him respect from others. There is no harm done if they find it strange at first, and it may even be a practical opportunity for da’wah. And Allaah knows best.Donate

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Manners of Greeting with Salaam, Dought & clear, - * Is it correct to end a letter with the phrase “wa’l-salaam”?

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Brothers end their letters to me with "wassalaam", instead of say "assalaamualaikum"
can you please tell me if this is correct and the references and their authenticity
You can also put the question on the web page if you so
wish, I need a direct reply since I may not be able to find the answer on the web page. Jazzakallaah.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with ending a letter with the phrase “wa’l-salaam,” and it is not a condition that the phrase should be used in full, because when a written abbreviation is used, what the writer means is the complete expression. So when a person says “wa’l-salaam,” what he or she means is “wa’l-salaamu ‘alaykum.” But if the person sending the letter writes “wa’l-salaamu ‘alayka” or “wa’l-salaamu ‘alaykum” at the end, this is better. Umar ibn al-Khattaab ended his letter to the qaadi Shurayh with the words “wa’l-salaamu ‘alayka” [Sunan al-Nisaa’i, 5304] and ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ended his letter to one of his workers in the same way [Muwatta’ Malik, Kitaab al-jihaad].
Ibn Katheer reported in al-Bidaayah wa’l-Nihaayah from Ibn ‘Asaakir that Ziyaad ibn Abi Sufyaan sent Sa’eed ibn al-‘Aas gifts, money and a letter proposing marriage to his daughter. When the gifts, money and letter arrived, [Sa’eed] read the letter, shared out the gifts among the people sitting with him, then wrote a nice, polite letter back to him in which he said: “In the name of Allaah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. Allaah says: ‘Nay! Verily man does transgress all bounds (in disbelief and evil deeds, etc.), because he considers himself self-sufficient.’[al-‘Alaq 96:6-7 – interpretation of the meaning]. Wa’l-salaam.”
However, the person sending the letter should greet the addressee with the complete phrase (“Al-salaamu alaykum”) at the beginning of the letter, as has been the habit of the Muslims from the time of the Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) until the present. And Allaah knows best.

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