For children, - Parents Sacrifice for Children: A Mother's Sacrifice (Very Touching Story)

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My mom only had one eye. I hated her... she was such an embarrassment. My mom ran a small shop at a flea market. She collected little weeds and such to sell... anything for the money we needed she was such an embarrassment. There was this one day during elementary school.
I remember that it was field day, and my mom came. I was so embarrassed.
How could she do this to me? I threw her a hateful look and ran out. The next day at school..."Your mom only has one eye?!" and they taunted me.
I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "Mom, why don't you have the other eye?! You're only going to make me a laughingstock. Why don't you just die?" My mom did not respond. I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time.
Maybe it was because my mom hadn't punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.
That night...I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, and then turned away. Because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, because I hated my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty.
Then I studied really hard. I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. Then, I got married. I bought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too. Now I'm living happily as a successful man. I like it here because it's a place that doesn't remind me of my mom. This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, when someone unexpected came to see me "What?! Who's this?!" ...It was my mother...Still with her one eye. It felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. My little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye.
And I asked her, "Who are you? I don't know you!!!" as if I tried to make that real. I screamed at her "How dare you come to my house and scare my daughter! GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!" And to this, my mother quietly answered, "oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared. Thank good ness... she doesn't recognize me. I was quite relieved. I told myself that I wasn't going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life.
Then a wave of relief came upon me...one day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. I lied to my wife saying that I was going on a business trip. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity there, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. But I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.
She wrote:
My son...
I think my life has been long enough now. And... I won't visit Seoul anymore... but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much. And I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school.... For you... I'm sorry that I only have one eye, and I was an embarrassment for you. You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mother, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... so I gave you mine...I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did. The couple times that you were angry with me. I thought to myself, 'it's because he loves me.' I miss the times when you were still young around me.
I miss you so much. I love you. You mean the world to me.
My world shattered!!!
Then I cried for the person who lived for me... MY MOTHER

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * What is the ruling if the length of the menstrual period is increased because of taking the contraceptive pill?

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If a woman takes the contraceptive pill and her monthly period changes from five days to ten days, is it permissible for her to stop praying during the additional days?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Yes, the monthly period may alter and change from five days to eight or ten or seven, and there is nothing wrong with that. If the period changes like this, the woman should not pray or fast. The period may also change and become shorter; it may be seven days then the bleeding stops in five days. Or it may be seven days but then continue until ten days. So she should not pray when there is bleeding, up to fifteen days. If it reaches fifteen days, the majority of scholars say that it becomes istihaadah (irregular, non-menstrual bleeding) after that, so she should go back to reckoning her usual period, such as six or seven days, and the rest is istihaadah, She should pray and fast at that time, doing wudoo’ for each prayer, washing herself with water and using a piece of cloth or pad. She should continue doing that until her regular cycle resumes. End quote.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him)
Fataawa Noor ‘ala al-Darb, 2/666

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * The person who is suffering from urinary incontinence does not have to wash himself before the time for prayer ends

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There is a person who is suffering from urinary incontinence. He did wudoo’ after the time for prayer began, then he wanted to repeat his wudoo’, but the time for the next prayer had not begun. Does he have to wash his private parts (istinja’) when he wants to renew his wudoo’?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If the person who is continually breaking his wudoo’– such as one who is suffering urinary incontinence – renews his wudoo’ before the time for prayer is over, he does not have to wash his private parts when renewing it, because he has wudoo’ according to the ruling.
But if the time for one prayer ends, then he has to wash his private parts and do wudoo’ again, then pray as much as he wants of obligatory and naafil prayers (during the time for the next prayer), because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to Faatimah bint Abi Hubaysh [who was suffering from prolonged vaginal bleeding], “Wash the blood from yourself then pray, then do wudoo’ for each prayer until that time [i.e., the usual time of menstruation] comes.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 226; Muslim, 333.
If we assume that he has done wudoo’, then nothing comes out of him until the time for the next prayer begins, then he does not have to do wudoo’ again, and his first wudoo’ is still valid.
The words of the fuqaha’ – that he should do wudoo’ at the time of each prayer – apply in cases where something has come out of him.
Al-Bahooti said inal-Rawd al-Murabba’(p. 57): “The woman who is suffering from istihaadah [non-menstrual vaginal bleeding], and others like her such as those who are suffering from urinary incontinence, continual emission of madhiy (prostatic fluid) or wind, a wound that bleeds continuously, or a continual nosebleed, should do wudoo when the time for each prayer begins if something has come out, and they should pray so long as the time for prayer lasts, both obligatory and naafil prayers. If nothing has come out then they do not need to do wudoo’.
And Allaah knows best.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * She is not sure whether she became pure before Fajr; should she pray and fast?

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On the last day of my monthly period, I saw some yellowish discharge about two hours before the adhaan of Fajr, then I went to sleep and I did not see whether that discharge stopped before Fajr or not. In the morning I noticed that the discharge had stopped, then I waited for a little while, then the adhaan for Zuhr had been given, and after that I did ghusl. Do I have to make up the prayers that I missed or should I offer Zuhr prayer only? Do I have to make up the fast of that day after Ramadan?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If a woman gets her menses, then the basic principle is that this menses remains until she is certain that it has ended, and it is not permissible for her to fast or pray when she is not sure as to whether her menses has ended or not.
We have discussed that in the answer to question number 106452.
‘Aa’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) used to tell women to take their time and not to be hasty until they were certain that they had become pure. She used to say: Do not be hasty until you see the white discharge, meaning purity from menses.
Based on that, you do not have to make up Fajr prayer; as for Zuhr prayer you have to offer it because the time for it came when you were pure from menses.
As for the fast, the fast of that day is not valid -- if you fasted it -- because you were menstruating at the beginning of the day, and you have to make it up after the end of Ramadan.
And Allah knows best.

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