For children, - No Overpowering

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Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
Once upon a time, there was a king who ruled a prosperous country. One day, he went for a trip to some distant areas of his country. When he was back to his palace, he complained that his feet were very painful, because it was the first time that he went for such a long trip, and the road that he went through was very rough and stony. He then ordered his people to cover every road of the entire country with leather.
Definitely, this would need thousands of cows' skin, and would cost a huge amount of money.
Then one of his wise servants dared himself to tell the king, "Why do you have to spend that unnecessary amount of money? Why don't you just cut a little piece of leather to cover your feet?"
The king was surprised, but he later agreed to his suggestion, to make a "shoe" for himself.
There is actually a valuable lesson of life in this story: to make this world a happy place to live, you better change yourself - your heart; and not the world.

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Women in Ramadaan, - Dought & clear, - * Some drops come out of her and she is pregnant. Should she stop praying?

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Some coffee-coloured drops came out of my wife and she does not get her period sometimes. Should she fast and pray etc. knowing that she is one and half months pregnant?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Many of the scholars are of the view that a pregnant woman cannot menstruate. This is the view of two imams: Abu Haneefah and Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on them).
See:al-Mughni, 1/443.
This view was also favoured by the scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas.
Others are of the view that a pregnant woman may menstruate. This is the view of Imam Maalik and Imam al-Shaafa’i (may Allaah have mercy on them).
See:al-Majmoo’(2/411-414)
This view was favoured by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem and Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on them).
This is so long as the blood meets the description of menstrual blood and comes at the normal time of menses.
This has been explained in the answer to question no. 23400.
Whatever the case, these drops that have come out from your wife are not menses, because they do not meet the description of menstrual blood and are not occurring at the time of menses.
So your wife is pure (taahir) and she may pray, fast and do all that women who are taahir do.

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Women in Ramadaan, - Dought & clear, - * Some drops come out of her and she is pregnant. Should she stop praying?

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Some coffee-coloured drops came out of my wife and she does not get her period sometimes. Should she fast and pray etc. knowing that she is one and half months pregnant?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Many of the scholars are of the view that a pregnant woman cannot menstruate. This is the view of two imams: Abu Haneefah and Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on them).
See:al-Mughni, 1/443.
This view was also favoured by the scholars of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas.
Others are of the view that a pregnant woman may menstruate. This is the view of Imam Maalik and Imam al-Shaafa’i (may Allaah have mercy on them).
See:al-Majmoo’(2/411-414)
This view was favoured by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem and Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on them).
This is so long as the blood meets the description of menstrual blood and comes at the normal time of menses.
This has been explained in the answer to question no. 23400.
Whatever the case, these drops that have come out from your wife are not menses, because they do not meet the description of menstrual blood and are not occurring at the time of menses.
So your wife is pure (taahir) and she may pray, fast and do all that women who are taahir do.

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Women in Ramadaan, - Dought & clear, - * Can a woman who is experiencing non-menstrual vaginal bleeding (istihaadah) fast?

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Can a woman who is experiencing non-menstrual vaginal bleeding (istihaadah) fast?.
Praise be to Allaah.
During the time when the woman who is experiencing istihaadah believes that the blood is menstrual blood, then she is menstruating and the rulings on menses apply to her. When the menses ends, then she is taahir (pure) and she should do ghusl, fast and pray and her husband may have intercourse with her, even if she is still bleeding.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah said: Faatimah bint Abi Hubaysh came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I am a woman who experiences istihaadah and I do not become pure. Should I give up praying?” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No. That is just a vein, and it is not menses. When your menses comes, then stop praying, and when it ends, then wash the blood from yourself and pray.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 226; Muslim, 333.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, explaining the phrase “that is just a vein”:
This indicates that if the blood which is flowing is blood from a vein – which includes bleeding that results from surgery – then that is not regarded as menses, so the things that become haraam in the case of menses are not haraam in this case, and a woman has to pray and to fast if that happens during the day in Ramadaan. End quote.
Majmoo’ Fataawa Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 11/question no. 226.
It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that one of the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) observed i’tikaaf with him, and she was experiencing istihaadah and could see the blood. Sometimes she would place a basin beneath her to catch the blood. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 303.
And Allaah knows best.

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