Fathwa, - Her brother-in-law controls her husband's life

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Salaam. I have an issue I need advice on. My brother in law is fully controlling my husbands life. He is making him stay away from home and sending him 80 miles away from home to work. He is not getting paid and is being told each Tim he will get paid. But 3 months has passed by and yet no payment. Therefore he cannot support me and is leaving me home alone I have no family where I live either. He wants to have his own business and study for his life. But his brother is stopping him as he wants him to work for him only. Recently his brother has told him to move to another city and isn't giving him an option. Not that long ago I was in hospital and I had miss carried a baby I needed my husband for emotional support yet his brother would not leave him to stay with me and forced him to go away to work. I am left for many nights per week alone while he stays away from home. When he wants to stay with me he gets shouted at. Has my husbands brother islamically got this power over him and is it allowed for any of his brothers to tell him what to do? Also is there any authentic evidence for any answers. Jazakhallahkhair.
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His Slave and Messenger.
If what you have mentioned is true, then that brother has wronged your husband and his attitude is unfair and oppressive. Allaah, The Exalted, created Man and honored mankind with reason, distinguishing Man from all other creatures. He blessed Man with )the faculties of( hearing, sight, heart, mind and understanding in order to choose what benefits him in the worldly life and the Hereafter. Allaah, The Exalted, says )what means(: }And We have certainly honored the children of Adam and carried them on the land and sea and provided for them of the good things and preferred them over much of what We have created, with ]definite[ preference.{]Quran 17:70[Al-Qurtubireported thatAt-Tabarisaid, “The correct opinion is that the preference was in blessing Man with the mind, which is the decisive factor in deeming a person competent for religious assignments. The faculty which distinguishes man from all other animals is his mind, by means of which Man knows his Lord, understands His words, relishes His blessings, and believes in His Messengers...” Allaah, The Exalted, says )what means(: }And Allaah has extracted you from the wombs of your mothers not knowing a thing, and He made for you hearing and vision and intellect that perhaps you would be grateful.{]Quran 16:78[
In principle, all people are free, as‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaabsaid, “Since when do you enslave the people when their mothers bore them as free men?” Therefore, it is impermissible for your brother-in-law to humiliate and control his brother in such a manner, and it is impermissible for your husband to accept such treatment.
You should advise your husband to work and cooperate with his brother – if he wishes - without incurring such hardship upon himself. You can also ask someone to advise your brother-in-law and ask him to fear Allaah and treat his brother justly and give him the salary he deserves in order for him to provide for himself and his family.
Moreover, your brother-in-law should not assign work to your husband in such an unreasonable way, not allowing his brother to have time to take care of himself and his family. The Prophetmade a bond of brotherhood betweenSalmaanandAbu Ad-Dardaa'...Salmaansaid toAbu Ad-Dardaa’‘Your Lord has a right on you, your soul has a right on you, and your family has a right on you; so, you should give to everyone his due right.Abu Ad-Dardaa'came to the Prophetand reported the whole story. The Prophetsaid:‘Salmaan has spoken the truth.’” ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[

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Hajj & Umrah, - Mistakes inSa‘y)Walking between As-Safa and Al-Marwah(

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·Raising one's hands as one does in prayer upon ascendingAs-SafaorAl-Marwah.
TheSunnah)tradition(, however, is to raise them as the one who supplicates Allaah The Almighty does, praise Allaah, exalt Him and supplicate while facing the direction of theKa‘bah.
·Jogging or walking fast between the two mountains ofAs-SafaandAl-Marwahin every round.
This is a mistake, because theSunnahis to do so between the two green signs and then walk normally in the rest of the round.
·Women jogging or walking fast between the two green signs.
This is against theSunnah, because this is an action specific to men.
·Reciting the verse in which Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}Indeed, As-Safa and Al-Marwah are among the symbols of Allaah.{]Quran 2:158[ in every round whenever he comes to As-SafaorAl-Marwah.
TheSunnah, however, is to do so at the beginning ofSa'ywhen the pilgrim approachesAs-Safamountain, as proven to be done by the Prophet,.
·Some pilgrims think that the round ofSa'ystarts withAs-Safamountain and also ends with it. In other words, the pilgrim startsSa'yfromAs-Safamountain toAl-Marwahand then returns toAs-Safaagain to complete one round. The correct, however, is that makingSa'ystarting fromAs-Safaup toAl-Marwahis deemed a complete round; and doing so fromAl-MarwahtoAs-Safais deemed another round.
·Specifying a certain supplication for each round. It was not narrated that the Prophet,, said a certain supplication in each round.
Some people voluntarily makeSa'ybetweenAs-SafaandAl-Marwahwhile they are not pilgrims. TheSunnah, however, states that it is recommended to perform voluntary acts for Tawaafonly.

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Hajj & Umrah, - Inauthentic Hadeethsrelated to Hajj

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Hajjis one of the pillars of Islam and one of its great foundations. There are many authenticHadeeths )narrations( indicating the virtue as well as the relevant rulings ofHajj. Some of theseHadeeths are mentioned in our article titled "The Virtues ofHajjand‘Umrah". In this article, we try to collect theHajj-relatedHadeeths that are ranked as inauthentic by the scholars in order not to be falsely attributed to the Prophet,.
*."Indeed, Allaah The Almighty admits into Paradise three persons for a single Hajj: the deceased, the one who performs Hajj on his behalf and the executor of that."]Al-Bayhaqi[
ThisHadeeth'sIsnaad)chain of narrators( is ranked asDha‘eef)weak( by Al-Bayhaqi. TheHadeethis also judged asDha‘eefby Al-Haafith Al-‘Iraaqi.
*."The Angels shake hands with pilgrims who are riding and embrace those who are walking."]Al-Bayhaqi[
ThisHadeeth'sIsnaadis ranked asDha‘eefby Al-Bayhaqi. It is also ranked as Dha‘eef by Al-MunaawiinFaydh Al-Qadeer. Al-Albaaniranked it asMawdhoo‘)fabricated(.
*."A Ghazwah )battle( for one who has performed Hajj is better than forty Hajjs."]Sa‘eed ibn Mansoor[
InDha‘eef At-Targheeb wat- Tarheeb, Al-Albaaniranked it asDha‘eef.
*."Iblees )Satan( has rebellious devils to whom he says, 'Your task is to mislead those who perform Hajj and Jihaad.'"]At-Tabaraani[
ThisHadeethis ranked asDha‘eefby Al-HaythamiinMajma‘ Az-Zawaa’id.
*."For Hajj to be perfect, one should assume Ihraam from the place )country( where his family lives."]Al-Bayhaqi[
InAt-Talkhees, Al-Haafithranked one of its narrators asDha‘eef. Similar judgments are given by both Al-Bayhaqi and Ath-Thahabi. Some of the scholars, however, judged theHadeethas authentic and attributed it to ‘Ali.
*."Performing Hajj and ‘Umrah frequently prevents poverty."]Ad-Daylami[ The author ofKanz Al-‘Ummaalattributed theHadeethto Al-Mahaamili. Al-Albaanijudged it asMawdhoo‘inAl-Jaami‘ As-Sagheer.
*."Those who perform Hajj and ‘Umrah are the guests of Allaah, He gives them what they ask for, answers their supplication and compensates them for what they spend, a thousand thousand dirhams for each dirham."]Al-Bayhaqi inShu‘ab Al-Imaan[
Al-Albaanijudged it asDha‘eef in Dha‘eef At-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb.
The authentic narration of thisHadeethis:"Those who perform Hajj and ‘Umrah are the guests of Allaah. If they supplicate Him, He answers )their supplication(, and if they ask for His forgiveness, He forgives them."]An-Nasaa’i, Ibn Maajah, Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan[ InSaheeh At-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb, Al-Albaaniranked it asSaheeh)authentic( Hadeeth.
*."Perform Hajj for it washes out sins as water washes out filth."
InMajma‘ Az-Zawaa’id, Al-Haythamisaid, "The Hadeeth is narrated by At-Tabaraani in Al-Awsat. It has a Dha‘eef Isnaad."
*."Perform Hajj before you are unable to. The Bedouins will stay at places where the valleys of water stop and none can reach Hajj."]Al-Bayhaqi[
It is judged asDha‘eefby Ibn Al-Jawzi inAl-‘Ilal Al-Mutanaahiyah,Munkar)rejected( by Ath-Thahabi inMizaan Al-I‘tidaalandBaatil)false( by Al-AlbaaniinAs-Silsilah Adh-Dha‘eefah.
*."Hajj is Jihaad and ‘Umrah is a voluntary )act(."]Ibn Maajah[
TheHadeethis ranked asDha‘eefby Al-Haafith inAt-Talkhees, Al-‘Ayni inSharh Al-Bukhaariand Ash-Shawkaani inNayl Al-Awtaar.
*."Hajjis theJihaadof every weak person." ]Ibn Maajah[
TheHadeethis ranked asMursalby Al-Bukhaarithis was transmitted by Al-Munaawi on the authority of At-Tirmithi. It is narrated by Ash-Shawkaani inAl-Fawaa’id Al-Majmoo‘ah. Al-‘Aynistated that it isMursal Hadeeth. It is also narrated by the author ofAl-Asraar Al-Marfoo‘ah. It is ranked asDha‘eefby Al-Arnaa’oot inTahqeeq Al-Musnadand Hasan by Al-Albaani.
*.")The position of( ‘Umrah to Hajj is like that of the head to the body and that of the Zakaah to fasting."]Ad-Daylami inMusnad Al-Firdaws[
InDha‘eef Al-Jaami‘,Al-Albaaniranked it as a very weakHadeeth.
*."Hajj takes precedence over marriage."]Ad-Daylami[
InFaydh Al-Qadeer, Al-Munaawisaid,"The Isnaad includes Ghiyaath ibn Ibraaheem and he is a Matrook )rejected( narrator as Ath-Thahabisaid. It also includes Maysarah ibn ‘Abd Rabbih and he is a famous Kaththaab )liar(."
InDha‘eef Al-Jaami‘, Al-Albaaniranked it as aMawdhoo‘ Hadeeth.
*."Hajj and ‘Umrah are two obligations and there is no harm to start with anyone of them."]Ad-Daaraqutni[
It is ranked as aDha‘eef Hadeethby Ibn Al-Jawzi and Ibn Taymiyyah. Al-Haafith ibn Hajarsaid,"The Isnaad of this Hadeeth is Dha‘eef."A similar judgment is given by Al-‘AyniinSharh Al-Bukhaari.
*."There is no male or female servant of Allaah who refrains from giving a charity for the pleasure of Allaah but he will spend manifold for the displeasure of Allaah; there is no servant who abandons Hajj )the obligatory Hajj( due to a worldly pleasure but he will see destruction before getting that worldly pleasure; there is no servant who abandons providing for his )Muslim( brother's need )whether it is fulfilled or not( but he will be put to trial by helping a person whom for helping he will be deemed guilty, not rewarded."]Ad-Daylami inAl-Firdaws[
TheHadeethis ranked by Al-AlbaaniasDha‘eefinDha‘eef At-Targheeb wat-Tarheeband Munkar inAs-Silsilah Adh-Dha‘eefah.
*."There are six )deeds(, a person who does one of them will come on the Day of Judgment and with him will be a covenant, and each one of them )the deeds(will say that he used to do me: prayer, Zakaah, Hajj, fasting, fulfilling the trust and maintaining kinship ties."
InMajma‘ Az-Zawaa’id, Al-Haythamisaid,"It is narrated by At-Tabaraani in Al-Kabeer. Its Isnaad includes Yoonus ibn Abi Hathmah and I do not know anyone who mentioned him )i.e. he is unknown(."
*."The two ‘Umrahs expiate the sins in-between; the reward of the valid and accepted Hajj is Paradise; whenever the pilgrim says "Glory be to Allaah""There is no deity worthy of worship but Allaah" or "Allaah is The Greatest" but the glad tidings are given to him."]Al-Bayhaqi inShu‘ab Al-Imaan[
TheHadeeth's Isnaadis ranked asDha‘eefby Al-Munaawi. InDha‘eef Al-Jaami‘,Al-Albaanijudged theHadeethasDha‘eef.
The authentic narration of thisHadeethis:"The reward for the valid and accepted Hajj is Paradise, and the two ‘Umrahs expiate the sins in-between."]Ahmad[ This narration is ranked asSaheehby Al-Arnaa’oot.
Another authentic narration of theHadeeth:"The two ‘Umrahs expiate the sins in-between, and the reward for the valid and accepted Hajj is Paradise."]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
*."‘Umrah before Hajj is forbidden."]Abu Daawood[
ThisHadeeth'sIsnaadis ranked asDha‘eefby Al-Khattaabi.
This is a group ofHadeethsrelevant toHajj. It is not proved that they were said by the Prophet,. Therefore, we wanted to alert to that, and Allaah The Almighty is the One

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Hajj & Umrah, - Mistakes inspending the night at Mina

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1.Some pilgrims neglect asking about the boundaries of Mina and might unintentionally stay outside them.
2.Some pilgrims take the matter lightly and stay outside the boundaries of Mina through sheer negligence.
3.Some pilgrims combine the prayers at Mina. This contradicts the Sunnah )tradition( because the Prophetperformed each prayer at its due time; he shortened but did not combine the

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