Family Issues, - In Praise of the Home-Maker

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It's an icy cold winter's morning sitting in the comforts of my home and enjoying a hot cuppa coffee. Suddenly feelings of inner contentment and serenity engulf me. It dawns on me - far too many women feel unimportant, unrecognised and apologetic for being full-time housewives. I prefer the term 'homemaker' - an infinitely better description of a tremendously important role. And so, as an occasion arises with its heavy demands on women, let us reflect upon the vital art of homemaking.
How special you feel in a home that is always open with a warm welcome. The kind of old-fashioned home with enough love to spare for outsiders, which beckons you to sit down and relax. In it you'll find a wise blend of order and flexibility.
A mother who doesn't fuss if her children and friends run in and out... who is never too busy to sit down for a chat with a friend, a confused teenager or lonely widow. Not that she isn't busy or creative. She probably is, but she recognizes one of the advantages of being Queen of the Home; of having flexitime, which allows her to set aside plans in order to help someone in need, or to rush into the garden to share a small wonder with a child.
Lifestyles and options are changing. Many women need, or prefer to work. But full-time home making is a career option, which allows you to make of it what you will. It requires many skills ranging from communication and management to cookery and economics. She'll find time to listen to her family, to friends young and old, rendering invaluable emotional "first-aid."
A good homemaker knows the home is the heart of society - a place where family and friends can be nurtured. In swiftly changing times it can be provide a sense of security and continuity where children soak up happy experiences and memories that will affect their whole lives.
If you're a bride, anticipate your career as a homemaker with joy. If you're a mature woman who has spent years learning the art of home-making, never be apologetic about being 'only a housewife.' Glow with pride at having chosen such a vital role.
I have come to value this 'way of life' through the will and grace of ALLAH TA'ALA by blessing me with a stay-at-home mother who showered me with guidance, compassion, generosity and love. And I in turn will do the same to my kids.
May ALLAH TA'ALA give us all women the faith of Aasiyah (Radhiyallahu Anha), purity of Maryam (Radhiyallahu Anha), love of Khadija (Radhiyallahu Anha), affection and knowledge of Aa'ishah (Radhiyallahu Anha), and the favour of being with them in Jannah. Aameen.

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Family Issues, - A Lost Sunnah , How the Prophet (SAW) Behaved in his Home

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Since childhood we men see our mothers and sisters working in the kitchen , doing the daily routine household chores of our home.
After we grow up , we behave in the same way and like the “King who enters in his house” (and does nothing) , we start commanding thing and start getting it done by the wife or the servant.
We only remember the ayat from the Qur’an “wherein men are allowed to have 4 wives…” but easily forget how the Prophet(sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)behaved when he was in his home.
So what did Prophet(sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)do when he would spend time in his home. ?
Order everyone to clean the house ??NO
Lie down on the bed and leave as it is ??NO
Order nicest dishes to be prepared ??NO
Eat and Sleep ??NO
So what did Prophet do when he would spend time in his home. ?
The Apostle of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) occupied himself at his home like a common man.
As Aishah (ra) relates, he used to clean his clothes, milk the sheep and himself do his odd jobs. She also says that he would mend his clothes, repair his shoes and do similar other works.
When asked how the Prophet(sallallahu alayhi wa sallam)occupied himself at home, she replied, “He used to keep himself busy in household chores and went out when the time for prayer came.”
In another report related on her authority, she is reported to have said, “The Prophet of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) used to repair his shoes, mend his clothes and occupied himself at home even as any of you occupy yourself.”
Aishah (ra) relates, “Allahs Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) was very softhearted, the most kind of all. He smiled much.”
Anas (ra) says that “he had not seen a man who was more clement and nice to his household members than the Apostle of Allah.”
It is related on the authority of Aishah (ra) that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “The best of you is one who is most nice to his wife and children and I am the nicest among you.”

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Dought & clear, - (Knowledge ), - Is it waajib(obligatory) for non-Arabs to learn Arabic?

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Is it compulsory to learn arabic language for the non-speaker of the language of the moslems ? And is it Wajib, Mustahab or something else ?
Praise be to Allaah.
We put the following question to Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Jibreen:
Is it obligatory for non-Arabs to learn Arabic?
He, may Allaah preserve him, replied as follows:
They have to learn as much as they need for Islamic purposes, how to pronounce the words and what they mean, such as the Takbeer, al-Faatihah and al-Tasbeehaat – those that are obligatory in the prayer and for other duties.

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Dought & clear, - (Knowledge ), - Women and teaching

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What are the fields which it is permissible for a woman to learn? Is it permissible for her to work as a lawyer and take on cases representing others as much as she is able to?
Praise be to Allaah.
Women may learn about their religion and whatever will be of use to them in their lives as wives and mothers. Then if a woman is able and circumstances are suitable, she may learn other things too. There is no reason why she should not learn the profession of teaching, whether she teaches in women’s schools or in her own home.
A woman may also learn medicine and nursing, especially in the field of women’s diseases (gynaecology), so that she can be a women’s doctor or a women’s nurse, and women will not be forced to go to male doctors.
It is permissible for a woman to represent another person in a case, hence it is permissible for her to be a lawyer, because lawyers represent defendants. However, the field of law nowadays has taken a wrong turning. Moreover, the lawyer needs to mix with the defendants and attend court, etc., and women are not allowed to do any of these things. So it is not appropriate for women to become lawyers so long as things remain as they are.

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