Personal, - The Inherent Differences Between Man and Woman - II

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Here is a set of features with which men and women have been characterized:
From among the rulings assigned to men, a mention may be made of the following:
• Men are in charge of the household in general and of preserving, caring and safeguarding virtue, holding back vice and protecting those under their guardianship from evil. They are also in charge of the household in terms of earning a living and spending upon it. In confirmation of this, Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Men are in charge of women by ]right of[ what Allaah has given one over the other and what they spend ]for maintenance[ from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in ]the husband's[ absence what Allaah would have them guard.{]Quran 4:34[
Consider the effect of that responsibility in the word "under" in the Grand Quran as stated by Allaah The Almighty in Soorat At-Tahreem:}Allaah presents an example of those who disbelieved: the wife of Noah and the wife of Lot. They were under two of Our righteous servants.{]Quran 66:10[
"Under" in this context tells us that they had no authority over their husbands; rather, it was their husbands who had authority over them. The woman is, therefore, not to be regarded as equal to or above the man in this regard.
• Prophethood and the delivering of Allaah’s message are the domain of men and not women. In confirmation of this, Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And We sent not before you ]as messengers[ except men to whom We revealed from among the people of cities.{]Quran 12:109[
According to scholars of Tafseer )Quranic exegesis(, Allaah The Almighty has never sent as a prophet a woman, an angel, a jinn, or a Bedouin.
• As for public guardianship and the jobs done under it like the judiciary, public administration, and so on, and all other forms of guardianship like that in marriage, are also the domain of men.
• Men are specifically assigned, to the exclusion of women, many acts of worship such as the obligatory duty of Jihaad, Jumu‘ah )Friday prayer in the mosque( prayer, congregational prayers )in the mosque(, pronouncement of the Athaan and Iqaamah )calls to prayer(, and so on. Divorce also is made in the hand of the man and not the woman, and the custody of the children are given to the man and not the woman.
• The man's share of inheritance, blood-money and his witness is twice that of the woman.
These and other rulings assigned exclusively to men explain the meaning of what is mentioned by Allaah The Almighty at the end of the Noble Verse of Divorce in which He Says )what means(:}But the men have a degree over them ]in responsibility and authority[. And Allaah is Exalted in Might and Wise.{]Quran 2:228[
On the other hand, there are many rulings that Allaah The Almighty assigned to women in acts of worship, social interaction, marriage and its ramifications, judgments, and so on. They are well-known in the Quran and Sunnah as well as in the writings of jurists. Many books, in the past as well as the present, have been dedicated to this purpose in particular.
Some of these pertain to her Hijaab and guarding her virtue.
That Allaah The Almighty has assigned to each sex a set of rulings has three implications:
First, to have faith in and acknowledge the physical, mental and Sharee‘ah-determined distinction between men and women. Each should be satisfied with what has been decreed by Allaah The Almighty for him/her. Perfect justice lies in these distinctions, and through observing them, order is achieved in the life of human society.
Second, it is impermissible for a male or a female Muslim to hope for what was assigned by Allaah The Almighty to the other. To do so would be to be displeased with the decree of Allaah The Almighty and dissatisfied with His command and ordinance. Rather, let each slave ask Allaah The Almighty out of His bounty for that is from Sharee‘ah-recommended politeness and which removes envy, disciplines the believing soul and habituates it to be pleased with what is decreed by Allaah The Almighty.
Allaah The Almighty forbade wishing for what is assigned to others in His statement )which means(:}And do not wish for that by which Allaah has made some of you exceed others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned. And ask Allaah of His bounty. Indeed Allaah is ever, of all things, Knowing.{]Quran 4:32[
The occasion on which this verse was revealed is what is narrated on the authority of Mujaahid, may Allaah have mercy upon him, that Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, said, “O Messenger of Allaah, will men take part in Jihaad and we ]women[ not do so? Why should we have only half their inheritance?” On that Allaah The Almighty revealed )what means(:}And do not wish for that by which Allaah has made some of you exceed others.{]Quran 4:32[ ]At-Tabari, Ahmad, Al-Haakim and others[
According to At-Tabari, may Allaah have mercy upon him, “Allaah The Almighty means here, 'Desire not that with which Allaah has favored some of you over others'. It is mentioned that it was revealed in connection with some women who wished to be in the same position of men and have what they have, but Allaah The Almighty forbade His slaves to have such false wishes and commanded them to ask Him for His Bounty, as such wishes always draw envy and transgression with no just cause.”
Third, if mere wishing is forbidden as stated by the Quran, then what about those who actually deny the Sharee‘ah-determined distinctions, call for their cancellation, and claim equality, to which they invite in the name of equality between man and woman?
Undoubtedly, this is an atheistic theory for it contradicts the universal norm of Allaah The Almighty that decreed these physical and moral distinctions between men and women and seeks to disregard Islam with its Sharee‘ah-related texts which determine, in many rulings, the differences between the male and the female.









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Dought & clear, - Marriage after a haraam relationship in which there was no zina

A man and a woman repented from an unlawful sexual relationship, but
they continued to kiss and embrace, but without a sexual relationship,
then they got married after that. Is this marriage permissible?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
A relationship between a man and a woman outside of marriage, which is
what is called an unlawful relationship, is haraam, regardless of the
level of this relationship and whether it goes as far as an intimate
relationship or zina (sexual relationship), which is the most
reprehensible and abhorrent type of sins and one of the gravest of
major sins that poses the greatest danger to the individual's
religious commitment and faith, or it is less than that, such as
looking, touching or kissing. All of that is haraam and these are
types of zina in the general sense, and are things that lead to the
greater immoral action.
See the answers to questions no. 27259, 23349and 9465.
Secondly:
If marriage takes place after a haraam relationship between a man and
woman, then one of the following scenarios must apply:
1.
Either that marriage comes after an illegitimate sexual relationship,
in which case the marriage is not valid except on the condition that
both the man and woman repent from zina and it be established that the
woman is not pregnant as a result of the haraam relationship, because
Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):"The
adulterer/fornicator marries not but an adulteress/fornicatress or a
Mushrikah; and the adulteress/fornicatress, none marries her except an
adulterer/fornicater or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who
agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female
polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is
either an adulterer/fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or
idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation
with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an
adulterer/fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah
(female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden
to the believers (of Islâmic Monotheism)" [al-Noor 24:3].
For more information please see the answer to questions no. 85335and 11195.
2.
That marriage comes after a haraam relationship, but the relationship
did not go as far as zina, such as kissing, touching and other haraam
actions that are less serious than zina. In this case the marriage is
valid, because it cannot be said of those who fell into this haraam
relationship that they committed zina.
And Allah knows best.

Dought & clear, - Family Wants Abortion Because Pregnancy Dueto Zina

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I have a sister and she’s pregnant before marriage.
My family is aware of the fact that abortion isn’t allowed unless the mother’s life is in danger,but the situation is really hard.
The boy who got her pregnant isn't going to be there for her. His family does not want to do anything with this child. His brother made my mother cry; my mum suggested they get married but in return he replied "if in this dunya I can go without people knowing my brother is a father before marriage, and no one speaks of this and we have our respect then that's fine by me. I can go to hell, whatever. But if in this life I live well and my family, then we don't care" My parents are struggling financially with our family as it is, and if my sister keeps this baby it'll be a struggle to them. I can see how much this is tearing them apart inside.
They do not know what to do; they advised her to have an abortion although they feel as if they don't know what to do. They spoke to a local imam and he told them the ruling on abortion. My sister wants to keep the child. Only hoping that the boy will return to her.
Now, even though my parents are being very considerate toward her, she treats them like rubbish.
I don't know what to do.
She plans to be on the list of homeless and have the child. But she wants to move out without my mother and father being aware of it.
Please tell me what to do.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Your sister, you and your family should have paid attention to what your sister committed of sin, and should have instructed her to repent sincerely to Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, so as to cleanse herself of the taint of disobedience and zina (fornication) into which she has fallen with this evil young man or anyone else. And you should have cut off all the means that lead to this sin, and made her wear hijab, and prevented her from being alone with men or mixing with them, or doing anything else that leads to this evil action. So strive to keep him away from her and keep her away from him by all possible means.
Then after that, you have to think about this child and the future of your sister. All of this is the consequences of disobedience and sin; the sinner has to bear this burden and shame in this world, so how about the punishment that is with Allah?
One of the wise men said: If you get tired of doing righteous deeds, the tiredness will disappear but the righteous deeds will remain. But if you enjoy committing sin, the pleasure will disappear but the sin will remain!
Secondly:
What your sister is trying to do of protecting the foetus is what she has to do and what you all have to do, not only in the hope that this evildoer will come back to her, because it does not seem that he wants to repent or that he wants to marry her in a legitimate, shar‘i (legal) way after fulfilling his desires with her in a haraam (unlawful) way. Rather you have to protect the foetus lest you try to deal with one crime by means of another and you harm a soul that has not done anything wrong, because the sin is on those who committed zina in the first place, then wanted to harm this soul, either by killing it or by neglecting it and leaving it in the street or putting it in an orphanage, as some people do. Allah knows best about what would happen to it, but it is most likely that it would be brought up in a kaafir (non-Muslim) orphanage or it would be raised by a kaafir family, whether Jewish or Christian or of some other religion, and it would follow them in their Judaism or Christianity or whatever religion they follow. This is the worst and most abhorrent crime against this soul, and it is worse than killing it, Allah forbid.
See also the answers to questions no. 13331and 117.
With regard to this person saying that he is prepared to go to Hell and he does not care about that, these are words that cannot be spoken by someone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, and who fears the meeting with his Lord. Allah will take care of him. Let the wise man look and learn a lesson, how people are deceived by this world and its people and how they dare to throw themselves into the Fire of Hell, and they do not care. May Allah the Most Generous keep us safe by His grace and bounty.
In such circumstances the parents should continue showing kindness and taking care of your sister, whilst calling her to repent and mend her ways, and they should try to prevent her leaving the house or running away from home, lest that make matters worse.
We ask Allah to bestow His kindness upon you and set your affairs straight.
And Allah knows best.









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