Fathwa, - Committing sins due to not getting married

Share ::-

Question
Assalamu alaikum, I'm a 21 year old male. I obsess over marriage. It is on my mind all the time. It has been on my mind for years. I cannot get it out of my head. Those brothers that don't worry about it too much, I don't know how they do it. I think the problem stems from years of being isolated. My family is with a Muslim group that is not on the Sunnah and is away from the community. For years I wasted my time there, and I had no idea what was going on in the community. The only families my parents know are ones with little kids or with girls that I would never even consider. My obsession with marriage has caused me great hardship. It has taken me to many sins. I used to look at pornography and masturbate a lot, I still do it on occasion. And Allah has blessed me. I have gone to Hajj and I have even proposed to a great girl. I got my parents to allow me to do this and we went to their family. But this marriage will not happen for at least a year, if it is to happen at all. If I do not marry her, I am back to square one. I’m back to my isolated state. I have obsessed over marriage so much that I proposed to her even though I know for the next few years I will not be financially ready. I just know that I can’t stay like this. I hate being this way. I am very rude to my parents because of this. I commit many sins because of this. I just don’t know what to do. I fell this is my only path, and if this does not work out, I don’t know what to do. I fell like I am very unthankful to Allah, even though he has given me so much. What should I do? Jazakallah khair. Wassalamu alaikum.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Marriage is an instinctive matter and having the charge to marry is very natural. We entrust you to try your best to calm yourself and dispel your worries. This would certainly help you think better and find the ways to overpass all obstacles.
Know that being kind with your parents, in all circumstances, is obligatory upon you. You are not allowed to mistreat them even if they fail to carry out their duties towards you, how would the case when they do not neglect their duties?
Moreover, being kind to them is a form of worship that could be a reason for you to achieve what you hope for. So, you have to do your best to be gentle with them.
Know that the less the expenditure of a marriage is, the more blessed it is. Therefore, try your best to convince your parents and the parents of the girl as well, to facilitate the matters of your marriage and to complete it with the minimum expenses possible. If it happens then praise Allaah, otherwise, you have to fear Allaah, be patient, avoid sins and follow the means that help you maintaining your chastity such as observing fast, increasing good deeds, attending Islamic gatherings and companying pious people who remind you whenever you forget and support you whenever you remember Allaah. Moreover, you must avoid being with bad people.
Finally, we inform you that according to the majority of Muslim scholarsa father is not obliged to financially support the marriage of his son. Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - Some girls committing suicide because of stalking

Share ::-

Question
Assalamualaikum, I am from Bangladesh. The number of suicide of girls )victims of stalking( has been increasing in my country.Young boys find it very amusing to tease girls and it has become their habit. They use unseemly and vulgar words towards girls whoever want. I know islam has certain rulings concerning the modest dress of a woman and also the control of gaze of men and women but in a situation like this, what should be the punishment of the stalker according to shariah and what Quran and Hadith say about this and what we )muslims( should do ?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Molesting girls and teasing them in the streets is an act of dissolute and wicked people, and such people must be deterred and punished for such an act. In the past, this act was an act of hypocrites; Allaah Says )what means(: }O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to bring down over themselves ]part[ of their outer garments. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be abused.{]Quran 33:59[.Qataadahsaid )about the cause of the descent of this verse(: “When slave girls )who did not use to cover their faces( used to pass by, the hypocrites would pester them and annoy them, so Allaah forbade the free women from resembling the slave girls so that they would not be molested like them.”
Therefore, whoever is able to prevent those people from continuing their injustice and he does not do so, then he is sinful and vulnerable to danger.Abu Bakrsaid: “I heard the Prophetsaying: “If people saw an unjust man and did not try to stop his injustice, they would be soon gripped by Allaah’s punishment.” ]Abu Daawood and At-Tirmithi[
On the other hand, the girls should be advised to do what would make them avoid any harm from the ignorant people, among which is to observe the Hijaab and stay away from the places of temptation and they should not go out except for a necessity and the like. For more benefit on Hijaab, please refer to Fatwa 83033.
Finally, we warn the Muslims from escaping problems by resorting to suicide, which is a grave major sin, because if one commits suicide, he/she would suffer misery in this life and the Hereafter. Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - The solution to unemployment

Share ::-

Question
There is a family whose members have not managed to find work. Please advise.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
These people should:
1. Exert all efforts to find an )Islamically( lawful job.
2. Depend on Allaah the Almighty and put their trust in Him.
3. Ask Allaah the Almighty to help them find a job.
4. Abstain from doing evil acts, as they deprive a person from livelihood.
The Prophet,said that sins deprive a person from livelihood, that Du‘aa’ )supplication( changes fate, and that kind treatment to kinfolks increases one’s lifespan.]Ahmad and Al-Haakim )Saheeh: Authentic([
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M