Dought & clear, - A woman who committed adultery and is contemplating suicide

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A married woman commits adultery, then she repented but the guilt of the act is haunting her. She is now thinking about suicide. What should be done and what is your advice?
Praise be to Allaah.
Ibn Mas'ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The believer sees his sin as a mountain beneath which he is sitting and which he fears may fall down upon him. The rebellious person sees his sin as a fly which passes in front of his nose and he swats it away…" (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6308)
This woman's overwhelming sense of the burden of her sin is a sign of faith. We offer her the following advice:
She should examine her divorce from her first husband to make sure that it is sound according to sharee'ah (Islamic law), whether it took the form of talaaq (male-instigated divorce) or khul' (female-instigated divorce).
She should make sure that her marriage contract to the second man is also sound, because a marriage between two people guilty of adultery is not valid unless they have repented (see questions # 33); if the contract is found not to be valid, it must be repeated.
If this woman is sincere in her repentance towards Allaah, regrets what she did and is determined never to do it again, Allaah will forgive all her sins, no matter how great they were, so she should not despair of the mercy of Allaah, for no one despairs of Allaah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve, and who despairs of the mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?
She should hasten to do many good deeds, to expiate for her sin, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): "And perform al-salaat (the prayer) at the two ends of the day and in some hours of the night. Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds…" [Hud 11:114]
She should resume a pure Islamic life, based on purity and chastity. Suicide is not a solution at all, as it is one of the most grievous of major sins, and will only increase the punishment of the one who does it. The Prophet SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever throws himself down from a high mountain and kills himself will be throwing himself down from a mountain in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever takes poison and kills himself will be taking poison in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. Whoever kills himself with a weapon (literally, iron) will be holding it in his hand and stabbing himself in the stomach in the Fire of Hell for all eternity. (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5778)
We ask Allaah to help this woman to repent sincerely, to forgive her sins and to include her in His Mercy, for He is the All-hearing Who answers prayers.









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Dought & clear, - She claims that her husband rapedher daughter and left; is she divorced automatically?

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A muslim woman married a muslim man when her youngest daughter was a few months old. he played the role of father.it has been discovered, after he returned to his country of birth for a visit.that he infact sexually molested the little girl and possibly rape.he denies it..but the medical reports confirm this.after weeks of therapy, the child confirmed that it was him that "played" with her..she still thinks it was a cool thing that happened.he has since not returned also sd the authorities are looking for him....QUESTION DOES THIS NULLIFY THE MARRIAGE AUTOMATICALLY? QUESTION: IF NOT -HOW CAN THE MOTHER NULLIFY THIS MARRIAGE.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Undoubtedly what the husband did to this small child – if it is proven – is a serous crime, for which he deserves to be stoned to death. Perhaps such incidents indicate how far such scum are from the laws of Allaah. Hence the Muslim should be careful with regard to marriage, and he should be caution and be careful about letting female relatives of the wife be alone with people who are weak in faith, even if they are small.
Secondly:
It is well known that it is not permissible for a man to married at the same time to two sisters, and it is nor permissible for him to marry his wife’s mother – after doing the marriage contract with her – or her daughter – after consummating the marriage with the mother. So if the husband commits zina with the wife’s sister, mother or daughter, does his wife become haraam for him and must he divorce her? And if he was not married to her, is it permissible for him to marry her? These are issues concerning which the scholars differed, and there are three opinions:
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The view of the majority is that his wife does not become haraam for him. This is the view of Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him), ‘Urwah, Sa’eed ibn al-Musayyab and al-Zuhri, and it is the view of the majority of scholars. Some of them narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas said that his wife becomes haraam for him, but this is da’eef (weak); the correct view is that which we have mentioned above.
Their evidence is that marriage in sharee’ah applies only to the woman with whom the marriage contract is done, not just to intercourse. Moreover, there is no dowry, ‘iddah or inheritance in the case of zina. Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: The scholars of different regions who issue fatwas are unanimously agreed that it is not haraam for the zaani to marry the woman with whom he committed zina, so it is more permissible for him to marry her mother or daughter.
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Ibraaheem al-Nakha’i, al-Sha’bi, Abu Haneefah and his companions, Ahmad and Ishaaq said, and it was also narrated from Maalik, that if he commits zina with a woman, her mother and daughter become haraam for him.
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The view of the Hanafis – which is also the view of al-Shaafa’i – is that touching with desire for a permissible reason comes under the same ruling as intercourse, because it is intimacy. But if it is done for a haraam reason, it has no effect, like zina. They said: His wife become haraam for him if he merely touches her mother or looks at her private part.
Ibraaheem al-Nakha’i said: They used to say: If a man looks at a woman and at that which is not permissible for him, or touches her with desire, then they both become haraam to him.
Al-Musannaf(3/303).
The most correct view is the view of the majority, that his doing haraam actions with his wife’s mother, daughter or sister does not make his wife haraam for him, whether he is married or after the marriage has ended. Hence it is known that if a husband molests his wife’s daughter and even it is proven that he raped her, this reprehensible act does not mean that his wife becomes haraam for him.
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) narrated (5/1963) that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: If a man commits zina with his wife’s sister, his wife does not become haraam for him.
Al-Bayhaqi narrated – in a report classed as saheeh by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (7/168) – that Ibn ‘Abbaas said concerning a man who committed zina with his wife’s mother: He has transgressed two sacred limits, but the wife does not become haraam for him.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Question: If a man commits zina with a woman, do his ascendants and descendents become haraam for her, and do her ascendants and descendents become haraam for him?
Answer: They do not become haraam, because that is not included in the verse (interpretation of the meaning):“Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: … your wives’ mothers, your stepdaughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have gone in — but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them (to marry their daughters), — the wives of your sons” [al-Nisa’ 4:23]. The zaaniyah (woman who commits zina) is not included in this, so if a person commits zina with a woman, we do not say that this woman is one of his wives, and we do not say that this woman with whom he committed zina is one of “your wives’ mothers” and thus it remains permissible (to marry her), because she is included in the verse (interpretation of the meaning):“All others are lawful…” [al-Nisa’ 4:24].
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’(5/179).
Thirdly:
You can ask for the marriage to be annulled by the sharee’ah judge (qaadi) for two legitimate reasons, the first of which is his evildoing and immorality by committing this revolting crime – if it is proven; the second is his being away from the home. Both of these reasons make it permissible for you to seek an annulment of the marriage from the sharee’ah judge and to demand your rights in full. This is called al-talaaq li’l-darar (divorce on the grounds of harm). Imam Maalik and Imam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on them) said concerning it: The harm which justifies seeking a separation of the couple includes everything that harms the wife or involves mistreatment of her, physically, mentally or psychologically. That varies from one woman to another, and according to circumstances and customs. Examples of harm for which a wife may ask for divorce include hitting her for no legitimate reason, forcing her to do something haraam or not to do something obligatory, and evil deeds, immorality and misconduct on his part.
And Allaah knows best.









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For children, - Encouragement Stories: Confidence Building Story: Fathers Eyes

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A teenager lived alone with his father, and the two of them had a very special relationship. The father believed in encouragement. Even though the son was always on the bench, his father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game.
This young man was the smallest of the class when he entered high school.
His father continued to encourage him but also made it very clear that he did not have to play football if he didn't want to.
But the young man loved football and decided to hang in there. He was determined to try his best at every practice, and perhaps he would get to play when he became a senior.
All through high school he never missed a practice or a game, but remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful father was always in the stands, always with words of encouragement for him. When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the football team as a "walk-on."
Everyone was sure he could never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on the roster because he always puts his heart and soul to every practice, and at the same time, provided the other members with the spirit and hustle they badly needed. The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he rushed to the nearest phone and called his father.
His father shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college games. This persistent young athlete never missed practice during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game.
It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto the practice field shortly before the big play off game, the coach met him with a telegram. The young man read the telegram and he became deathly silent.
Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, "My father died this morning. Is it all right if I miss practice today?"
The coach put his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week off, son. And don't even plan to come back to the game on Saturday." Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well.
In the third quarter, when the team was ten points behind, a silent young man quietly slipped into the empty locker room and put on his football gear. As he ran onto the sidelines, the coach and his players were astounded to see their faithful team-mate back so soon.
"Coach, please let me play. I have just got to play today," said the young man.
The coach pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst player in this close playoff game. But the young man persisted, and finally feeling sorry for young man, the coach gave in. "All right," he said. "You can go in." Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the stands could not believe their eyes. This little unknown, who had never played before, was doing everything right. The opposing team could not stop him. He ran, he passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph.
The score was soon tied. In the closing seconds of the game, this young man intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning touchdown. The fans broke loose. His team-mates hoisted him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you have never heard!
Finally, after the stands had emptied and the team had showered and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was sitting quietly in the corner all alone. The coach came to him and said, "Young man, I can't believe it. You were fantastic! Tell me what got into you? How did you do it?"
Young man looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well, you knew my dad died, but did you know that my dad was blind?" The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came to all my games, but today was the first time he could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"
Remember:
*."Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try."
*."Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."
*."Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."







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