For children, - Encouragement Stories: Confidence Building Story: Fathers Eyes

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A teenager lived alone with his father, and the two of them had a very special relationship. The father believed in encouragement. Even though the son was always on the bench, his father was always in the stands cheering. He never missed a game.
This young man was the smallest of the class when he entered high school.
His father continued to encourage him but also made it very clear that he did not have to play football if he didn't want to.
But the young man loved football and decided to hang in there. He was determined to try his best at every practice, and perhaps he would get to play when he became a senior.
All through high school he never missed a practice or a game, but remained a bench warmer all four years. His faithful father was always in the stands, always with words of encouragement for him. When the young man went to college, he decided to try out for the football team as a "walk-on."
Everyone was sure he could never make the cut, but he did. The coach admitted that he kept him on the roster because he always puts his heart and soul to every practice, and at the same time, provided the other members with the spirit and hustle they badly needed. The news that he had survived the cut thrilled him so much that he rushed to the nearest phone and called his father.
His father shared his excitement and was sent season tickets for all the college games. This persistent young athlete never missed practice during his four years at college, but he never got to play in the game.
It was the end of his senior football season, and as he trotted onto the practice field shortly before the big play off game, the coach met him with a telegram. The young man read the telegram and he became deathly silent.
Swallowing hard, he mumbled to the coach, "My father died this morning. Is it all right if I miss practice today?"
The coach put his arm gently around his shoulder and said, "Take the rest of the week off, son. And don't even plan to come back to the game on Saturday." Saturday arrived, and the game was not going well.
In the third quarter, when the team was ten points behind, a silent young man quietly slipped into the empty locker room and put on his football gear. As he ran onto the sidelines, the coach and his players were astounded to see their faithful team-mate back so soon.
"Coach, please let me play. I have just got to play today," said the young man.
The coach pretended not to hear him. There was no way he wanted his worst player in this close playoff game. But the young man persisted, and finally feeling sorry for young man, the coach gave in. "All right," he said. "You can go in." Before long, the coach, the players and everyone in the stands could not believe their eyes. This little unknown, who had never played before, was doing everything right. The opposing team could not stop him. He ran, he passed, blocked and tackled like a star. His team began to triumph.
The score was soon tied. In the closing seconds of the game, this young man intercepted a pass and ran all the way for the winning touchdown. The fans broke loose. His team-mates hoisted him onto their shoulders. Such cheering you have never heard!
Finally, after the stands had emptied and the team had showered and left the locker room, the coach noticed that the young man was sitting quietly in the corner all alone. The coach came to him and said, "Young man, I can't believe it. You were fantastic! Tell me what got into you? How did you do it?"
Young man looked at the coach, with tears in his eyes, and said, "Well, you knew my dad died, but did you know that my dad was blind?" The young man swallowed hard and forced a smile, "Dad came to all my games, but today was the first time he could see me play, and I wanted to show him I could do it!"
Remember:
*."Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try."
*."Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."
*."Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."







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Fathwa, - Waiting period of the woman in Khul’

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Assalam Alay Kum! I urgently require clarification on the issue of duration of Iddah after Khul. I have read and heard that it is 3 months in case of Talaaq.I have come across this hadith Please comment on it and tell me if it should be ignored?OR it can be followed. Hadith was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the wife of Thaabit ibn Qays ended her marriage to her husband by means of khula’ at the time of the Prophet )P.B.U.H(. The Prophet )P.B.U.H( commanded her to observe an ‘iddah of one menstrual cycle. )Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1185; Abu Dawood, 2229. Also narrated by al-Nasaa’i )3497( from the hadeeth of al-Rabee’ bint ‘Afra’. JAZAK ALLAH KHAIR
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His slave and Messenger.
The scholarsdiffered in opinion about the issue of the waiting period of a woman inKhul')asking for divorce in return for compensation(. Some of them act according to the narration which you referred to in the question, that a woman inKhul'should observe a waiting period of the duration of one menstruation; this is the view ofIbn Taymiyyah. However, there is a controversy about the chain of narrators of the above narration; some scholarsclassified it as authentic and others classified it as weak. On the other hand, the majority of the scholarsare of a different view; their evidence is the saying of Allaah )which means(:}Divorced women shall remain in waiting ]i.e. do not remarry[ for three menstrual periods.{]Quran 2:228[
The waiting period differs according to the state of the divorced woman. The waiting period of some of women are calculated by months, and for some others they are calculated by three menses, and so forth. Allaah Knows best.










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Fathwa, - Her husband refuses to divorce her without taking compensation

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my husband is refusing to give me talaak just to punish me. he has agreed for the court divorce though. we have not been living together for the past 8 months n hes staying with another woman who he had an affair with, thus the reason for our separation. now he wants money from me n threatens that unless i give me half of my weath, he wont give me a talaak. beleive me, ive approached many isl organisation, granting a khula is not an easy process. it sounds easy, but wen a woman ask for a khula, the ulamas have a field day. im so frustrated i dont know where to turn to. ive submitted all doc n answered all question but still i feel because im a woman, i have to be patient n wait. my ex has been summoned n did not appear. the muslim council tell me they will keep calling him. n this may take months if not years. im at my wits ends. pls advise
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All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
You did not clarify to us whether that woman became his second wife or he is still in illegal relationship with her. If she is his wife, it is not permissible for you to ask for divorce just because of this reason as he is Islamically permitted to marry a second wife. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 88007and 83644.
However, if he lives with her illegally, ]i.e. without marrying her[ then he should be advised that it is forbidden for him to continue this relationship with this woman, as this advise may lead him to repent and cut the relationship with her, and then the reasons of dispute between you and him will be over.
Nonetheless, if he insists on this illegal and illicit relationship, you are permitted to ask him to divorce you and it is not permissible for him to keep you hanging )neither divorced nor married( just in order to harm you as this is an injustice. Allaah Says )what means(: }…and do not keep them, intending harm, to transgress ]against them[. And whoever does that has certainly wronged himself.{]Quran 2:231[. He is obliged either to keep you in kindness or divorce you in kindness.
We advise you to continue contacting the Islamic council in your country, and you may seek the help of some of your relatives, or some trustworthy people to urge the people who are running the council to try to remove the harm off you ]by getting you a divorce from your husband[. Nevertheless, you should be patient and earnestly supplicate Allaah to make a way out to your difficulty.
As regardsKhul')to ask for divorce in return for compensation(, the scholarsstated that if it is the wife who is disobedient, then it is permissible for her husband to take compensation from her even if it is more than the dowry provided she agrees to it, and if this does not cause harm to her. However, if it is the husband who is disobedient, and the wife gives him money out of fear to be harmed by him or due to him being unjust to her or due to him harming her, then it is not permissible for him to take compensation and if he had taken from her something on this basis, he should give it back to her.
Anyway, if your husband insists on the money and you are not greatly harmed by giving it to him, then it might be good for you to give it to him in order to obtain divorce from him and the harm will be removed off you if it cannot be removed except by divorce.
Of course, all the above is based on the fact that your husband did not initiate divorce to you, because if he uttered divorce to you, then it is valid even if the procedures of the court are not yet finished.Allaah Knows best.











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