Dought & clear, - He does not pray and they are afraid that he is working as a pimp

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I found out that my sister’s husband earns his money through haram activities. He brings women from their country where to the gulf countries to work as prostitutes. He also commits adultery with them, he confessed to my other sister’s husband. I told my father but he did not believe and said that he is a good man and said also that my other sister’s husband is jealous of him and this is why he is lying about him. But I believe my other brother in law, because my first brother in law is always out, especially at night. My sister told me something; she doubts that he is betraying her. He lies to her and she believes him. She is pregnant now, and has a daughter. I did not tell my sister what I heard about her husband, I want to know my duty towards my sister. For two years since she got marries to him, she suffers from psychological diseases. He does not pray, nor does he fear Allah, and Allah knows best.
Please tell me what should I do in this situation? Should I disclose his matter and tell my sister or shall I keep it a secret? I always ask Allah to guide him.
What worries me the most is my fear. I fear he gets a dangerous disease and passes it unto my sister. I fear her children will be negatively affected.
Praise be to Allaah.
What we advise you to do with regard to this problem is three things: make sure of what your sister’s husband is actually doing, advise him if it is proven that what he is doing is evil deeds, and strive to have the marriage annulled if he persists in doing it, whether it is committing adultery or not praying.
With regard to the first issue:
It is known that the basic principle concerning a Muslim is that he is innocent, and it is not permissible to accuse him of something that is not true, otherwise the one who is making the accusation is guilty of sin.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who annoy believing men and women undeservedly, they bear (on themselves) the crime of slander and plain sin”
[al-Ahzaab 33:58].
It is essential to establish the truth of anything you hear before basing any decision or ruling on it. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! If a Faasiq (liar — evil person) comes to you with any news, verify it, lest you should harm people in ignorance, and afterwards you become regretful for what you have done”
[al-Hujuraat 49:6].
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This is another etiquette which should be adopted and followed by those who have understanding, which is that if an evil person tells them something, they should verify his report and not just accept it willy-nilly, because there is grave danger in that and the possibility of falling into sin. If his report is treated in the same manner as the report of an honest person of good character and is acted upon, then it results in unlawful loss of life or wealth because of that report, it will be a cause of regret. Rather if news comes from an evil person, it must be checked and verified. If evidence and circumstances indicate that it is true, then it may be acted upon and believed, but if it indicates that it is false, then it should be disbelieved and not acted upon. This indicates that the news of an honest person is acceptable and the news of a liar is to be rejected, and the news of an evildoer is to be examined further, as we have said.
Tafseer al-Sa’di(p. 799).
The basic principle is not to accuse people, and that people are to be presumed innocent. The lie may come from one who claims that the person admitted it to him, and this is not far fetched. If it is proven that the one who brought the news is telling the truth, and that this is what is really happening, then we move on to:
The second issue:
Which is advising and exhorting.
It was narrated from Tameem al-Daari that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Religion is sincerity.” We said: To whom? He said: “To Allaah, to His Book, to His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.” Narrated by Muslim (55).
It was narrated that Jareer ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: I gave my oath of allegiance to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), pledging to establish regular prayer, pay zakaah and be sincere towards every Muslim.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (501) and Muslim (56).
That is based on the condition that the advice be given in the best manner to correct faults.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Invite (mankind, O Muhammad صلىالله عليه وسلم) to the way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with wisdom (i.e. with the Divine Revelation and the Qur’aan) and fair preaching, and argue with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided”
[al-Nahl 16:125].
The best thing you can advise him to do is to pray. It is essential for him to understand that not praying is kufr that puts one beyond the pale of Islam, and that if he dies when he is not praying then he will have died a death of Jaahiliyyah, and will have died as an apostate. Then after that he should be advised to give up the haraam actions such as immoral and evil deeds with those female servants, and pimping them to others. Bringing in female servants in the first place, even if the aim is for work only, involves many reprehensible matters. We have discussed previously the issue of female servants and the ruling on bringing them in from their countries and the haraam things into which people fall when female servants work in their homes. This may be read in the answer to question no. 26282.
If what has been said about him is proven to be true, and he does not respond to advice and he persists in not praying and in doing evil deeds, then what you must do is:
The third issue:
Which is: separating him and his wife by annulling the marriage contract, because the one who does not pray is an apostate, and his marriage contract with a Muslim woman is to be annulled. Moreover it is not permissible for a chaste woman to remain married to an immoral adulterer. His not praying dictates that the marriage contract should be annulled; as for his committing immoral actions, it does not dictate that the marriage contract be annulled, but her acceptance of his actions makes her a partner with him in them. Such a person cannot be trusted with a daughter or a wife, and there is no guarantee that he will not transmit deadly diseases to her.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Not praying is kufr which puts one beyond the pale of Islam. If he has a wife, then his marriage to her is annulled, meat slaughtered by him is not permissible, his fasting and charity will not be accepted, and it is not permissible for him to go to Makkah and enter the Haram; if he dies it is not permissible for him to be washed or shrouded, or the funeral prayer to be offered for him, or for him to be buried with the Muslims. Rather he should be taken out into the desert, and a ditch dug for him, and he should be buried into it. If a person’s relative dies and he knows that he did not pray, it is not permissible for him to deceive the people by bringing him to them for them to offer the funeral prayer for him, because offering the funeral prayer for a kaafir is haraam, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And never (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) pray (funeral prayer) for any of them (hypocrites) who dies, nor stand at his grave. Certainly they disbelieved in Allaah and His Messenger, and died while they were Faasiqoon (rebellious, — disobedient to Allaah and His Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم)”
[al-Tawbah 9:84]
“It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allaah’s forgiveness for the Mushrikoon, even though they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire (because they died in a state of disbelief)”
[al-Tawbah 9:113]
Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen(12/question no. 26)
See also the answers to questions no. 10094, 2182and 5208
But we reiterate and remind you not to rush to say such things about him or to tell your sister and ruin her life and break up her family without legitimate proof. Our concern about the sacred limits if Allaah being transgressed should be greater than our fear of disease being transmitted or our being offended by marital betrayal. She should strive to make du’aa’ for him and ask that he be guided, and that your sister set her affairs straight, and ask Allaah to protect her and her off spring from his evil and from the evil of all evildoers.
And Allaah knows best.










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Dought & clear, - Committed Adultery and Uncertain Who Child Should beAttributed to

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I ask Allah for forgiveness and I repent to him, for I have committed the worst and greatest of major sins, namely zina (adultery) when I was married. I got pregnant with a daughter who is now 6 years old, and is named after my husband. I cannot tell my husband of the awful thing that I did, because I am afraid for my family and my son from him. I have repented to Allah sincerely, and I have put on hijab and I pray regularly. I have asked for forgiveness and pardon from Allah for this crime that I committed. Will Allah forgive me? What should I do in order to make my repentance complete? I hope that you can advise me. Should I tell my husband so that Allah will forgive me?
Praise be to Allah.
We ask Allah to forgive you and pardon you, for zina is a major sin and a serious crime, especially on the part of one whom Allah has blessed with marriage, but she was ungrateful for the blessing of Allah, betrayed her husband, transgressed his honour and contaminated his bed. Hence the punishment for this married woman is to be stoned to death, as a punishment from Allah, and Allah is Almighty and Most Wise.
But by His Mercy, He shows kindness to His slaves, gives them respite and invites them to repent, and He accepts repentance and gives reward for it. How merciful, great and kind He is, may He be glorified and exalted.
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who invoke not any other ilah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such persons as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse ___and whoever does this shall receive the punishment.
The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace;
Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
[al-Furqan 25:68-70]
So continue repenting and turning to Him, beseeching Allah to accept it from you, and Allah accepts the repentance of those who repent.
One of the signs that Allah has accepted repentance is that He conceals His slave and does not expose him, and He extends his life span so that he will draw close to Him and make his peace with Him. We praise Allah for having helped you to pray regularly and wear hijab, and to obey Him and repent. We hope that Allah, the Most Generous and Most Merciful, has forgiven you, and we ask Him to do that.
If Allah has concealed you, then do not break the concealment that He has bestowed upon you, and do not tell your husband or anyone else anything about what happened. Your repentance is regret and righteousness and doing good deeds.
As for the child, he is to be named after your husband, and that is not cancelled out unless he rejects the child by means of li’an (an Islamic procedure in which a man denies a child being his), because the basic principle is that the child belongs to the marital bed, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said.
The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked: There is a married woman who committed zina when she was still married. She got pregnant as a result and gave birth to a child, either male or female. With whom should that child stay? Should he stay with her husband based on the hadeeth “The child is for the (owner of the) bed and the fornicator gets nothing” or not? If he stays with his mother’s husband, should he adopt him and regard him as one of his own children with regard to all rights, or will he just be under his care only? But if he is attributed to the adulterer, should he regard him as one of his real children or keep him with him even though he is still illegitimate?
They replied: If a married woman commits zina and becomes pregnant, then the child belongs to the (owner of the) bed (i.e. the husband), because of the saheeh hadeeth (authentic report). If the owner of the bed wants to deny the child by engaging in li’an then he may do that before the shar’i (Islamic) judge, and in that case the child does not belong to anyone according to the consensus of the Muslims. But adoption is not permissible and the adopted child does not truly become the child of the one who adopted him. And Allah is the source of strength.
And Allah knows best.







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For children, - Encouragement Stories: Encouraging Lesson from a Frog Tale

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A group of frogs were hopping contentedly through the woods, going about their froggy business, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All of the other frogs gathered around the pit to see what could be done to help their companions. When they saw how deep the pit was, the rest of the dismayed group agreed that it was hopeless and told the two frogs in the pit that they should prepare themselves for their fate, because they were as good as dead.
Unwilling to accept this terrible fate, the two frogs began to jump with all of their might.
Some of the frogs shouted into the pit that it was hopeless and that the two frogs would not be in that situation if they had been more careful, more obedient to the froggy rules, and more responsible. The other frogs continued sorrowfully shouting that they should save their energy and give up, since they were already as good as dead.
The two frogs continued jumping as hard as they could and after several hours of desperate effort were quite weary.
Finally, one of the frogs took heed to the calls of his fellows. Spent and disheartened, he quietly resolved himself to his fate, lay down at the bottom of the pit and died as the others looked on in helpless grief. The other frog continued to jump with every ounce of energy he had, although his body was wracked with pain and he was completely exhausted.
His companions began a new, yelling for him to accept his fate, stop the pain and just die. The weary frog jumped harder and harder and - wonder of wonders! Finally leapt so high that he sprang from the pit. Amazed, the other frogs celebrated his miraculous freedom and then gathering around him asked, "Why did you continue jumping when we told you it was impossible?" Reading their lips, the astonished frog explained to them that he was deaf and that when he saw their gestures and shouting, he thought they were cheering him on. What he had perceived as encouragement inspiredhim to try harder and to succeed against all odds.
This simple Frog story contains a powerful lesson. Your encouraging or positive words can lift someone up and help him or her make it through the day. Your destructive or negative words can cause deep wounds; they may be the weapons that destroy someone's desire to continue trying - or even their life. Your destructive, careless word can diminish someone in the eyes of others, destroy their influence and have a lasting impact on the way others respond to them.
Allah (SWT) says in the Holy Qur'an: "Have We not made for him two eyes, And a tongue and two lips?" (Surat Al-Balad, 90:8-9).
It is narrated that the Holy Prophet Mohammad (saw)has said: "Affliction caused by the tongue is worse than (that caused by) the strike of the blade of a sword."
Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path because a word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.
The power of words:
Words can be weapons. Words can wound, humiliate and inflict pain far greater than physical violence. Words can be used to inflame passions, to arouse anger, to declare war and to destroy. But just as potent as they are as weapons, Words can also heal wounds and make peace. They can be soothing to those in grief, they can offer hope to those in despair. Indeed, well-chosen words have a power and a beauty that can project well beyond one lifetime. Think of the great works of literature that still enrich our lives today, centuries after they were written.
It is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another. It has been narrated that the Holy Prophet Mohammad (saw) was asked: "O Messenger of Allah, which of the Muslims is best?" and he relied, "He who the Muslims are safe from his tongue and his hand."








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